Mufti Menk – How Can I Be Consistent In Islamic Lifestyle

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The speaker discusses the importance of avoiding guilt and the need for good company in Islam. They also mention the importance of good behavior and technology in driving learning. The speaker emphasizes the need for good personal and professional relationships and encourages individuals to use technology to learn.

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			First question, how can we make ourselves,
		
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			consistent,
		
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			to follow Islamic teaching in our daily life?
		
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			I mean, it's so hard to,
		
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			be consistent. After coming to this event, I
		
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			will pray 5 times a day, Sayuri, from
		
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			sins. But after a couple of weeks or
		
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			months, it it it wears those things will
		
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			fall apart. And second, quick one,
		
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			do you have any tips on how to
		
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			overcome the feel of being guilty for your
		
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			action in the past? You mentioned past is
		
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			the past, but sometimes it bothers your head.
		
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			Thank you very much.
		
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			Miss Milayar Ramarahim, guilt is something that is
		
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			good when it comes to the bad that
		
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			you've done. But
		
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			the fact that you feel the guilt must
		
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			not make you doubt the fact that you
		
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			are forgiven by Allah. You are embarrassed. Say,
		
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			for example,
		
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			the embarrassment of cheating on someone or the
		
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			embarrassment of doing something bad, and then the
		
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			person says, don't worry. It's over. It's okay.
		
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			But every time you see them, you're like,
		
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			gosh, I shouldn't have done that. You know?
		
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			Gosh, I shouldn't have done that. That that
		
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			guilty feeling is not because you are doubting
		
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			the forgiveness,
		
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			but because you are embarrassed, I shouldn't have.
		
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			When you know the status of your maker
		
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			and how big he is and how
		
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			how great he is, you feel embarrassed of
		
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			how as little as I am, I was
		
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			transgressing against the one who created entire creation.
		
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			You know, there is something called the James
		
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			Webb Telescope.
		
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			Have you heard of it? You go and
		
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			Google it today. James Webb Telescope. I promise
		
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			you. Check. It's a telescope that that is
		
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			that is bringing us images from outer space.
		
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			Do you know there are so many millions
		
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			and millions of planets which they never ever
		
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			knew existed? And galaxies
		
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			that they didn't know existed, now they are
		
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			suddenly seeing
		
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			all of this. It's just
		
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			mind boggling. And Allah mentions it in the
		
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			Quran. And Allah tells us about Jannah. And
		
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			Allah tells us how the earth is so
		
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			insignificant
		
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			as per the rest of his creation. And
		
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			Allah says it, lakalpus samawati walarbi aqbarumil kalpin
		
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			nas walakinnaqtharann
		
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			nasilah. The creation of the skies and the
		
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			earth is far
		
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			bigger than the creation of man, but man
		
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			doesn't know, many men don't know, and so
		
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			on. So, that feeling of guilt, it will
		
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			come, don't worry. For as long as it
		
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			is not a feeling of guilt which makes
		
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			you doubt the mercy of Allah, it's a
		
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			good thing. But if it makes you doubt
		
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			the mercy of Allah, then you have a
		
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			problem with recognizing who Allah is. That's the
		
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			second part of what you asked. The first
		
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			part of it, my brother, when we decide
		
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			I'm going to pray, I'm going to do
		
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			the bright thing, I'm going to do whatever
		
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			I have to, I'm going to be the
		
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			kindest and most amazing human being possible.
		
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			One of the most powerful gifts you can
		
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			have is good company.
		
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			Your companions, your friends, you need to either
		
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			encourage them, either you need to encourage your
		
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			friends, look, we're going to do this together.
		
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			So prayer time, we all pray.
		
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			When you have to go to eat, you
		
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			make sure there is no meaning you don't
		
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			consume anything that is not allowed, etcetera. When
		
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			you have to do something, you make sure
		
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			you do the right thing. When there is
		
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			something wrong because you are in good company,
		
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			you don't even look. I remember
		
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			one of the youngsters was telling me that,
		
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			You know when I'm with good people,
		
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			even if there is *,
		
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			we don't even look because we are with
		
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			each other talking so and so. But when
		
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			you're alone, you are like,
		
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			you know, looking all the way. And then
		
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			you justify because the hadith says, you know,
		
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			the first nadra is not is not against
		
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			you. The guy says,
		
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			say, what are you doing? Look down. He
		
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			says, but it's still my first. Come on.
		
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			Some may Allah forgive us. So, good company
		
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			is a really good thing. Consistency. Secondly,
		
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			when you have a connection with some masjid
		
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			near you, or some scholar, or some
		
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			in your community, and you you or even
		
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			online.
		
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			Get used to a habit of listening every
		
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			so often to some speech. I give you
		
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			one last example.
		
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			Jumu'ah
		
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			is
		
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			Friday.
		
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			Jumu'ah comes from jama'ah. Jama'ah means to gather.
		
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			So, the importance of gathering in Islam is
		
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			so much that you are taught you must
		
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			go for jumu'a. Idhanudi al salati minyawil jumuati
		
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			fasaw illadikrilla.
		
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			Whenever you are called
		
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			for
		
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			prayer on a Friday, you rush towards
		
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			the remembrance of Allah, the reminder, the speech.
		
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			Zikrilah. Here, he's referring to
		
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			that ju'ah, the the the khutbah and the
		
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			salah. You go for it, right? Why?
		
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			Once a week, you need to listen to
		
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			a powerful short message to remind you, Hey,
		
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			remember what we agreed. Right?
		
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			So, every week once, minimum, listen to a
		
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			good talk that will remind you again, No,
		
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			no, no. Improve your
		
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			situation. Until a day comes when insha'Allah you
		
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			will automatically be cured of all of that.
		
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			It's like cough mixture. You cannot have the
		
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			whole bottle one time. Doctor will say, have
		
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			one spoon every day
		
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			at the same time. So, you have a
		
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			spoon, coffee's less. Have a spoon, coffee's less.
		
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			Another spoon, by the time few days are
		
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			up, when your course is over, the cough
		
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			is gone. What happened? You had little, but
		
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			if you drink the whole bottle,
		
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			you will cough more
		
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			after a while. That's why when you swing
		
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			and you have no coping mechanism,
		
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			people say they shahada and they come into
		
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			Islam. If there is no follow-up with such
		
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			beautiful brothers and sisters, they begin to dillydally.
		
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			I always say, Islam is knowledge based. The
		
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			more you know, the more you will love
		
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			it. When you don't know much, you start
		
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			to doubt it, you don't know because you
		
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			don't have the answers.
		
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			But the answers are there. Keep on asking
		
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			until you receive a satisfactory response. So, good
		
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			company as well as listening and attending maybe
		
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			online classes. Like I say, you might be
		
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			a businessman or whoever else, you might not
		
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			have the time to go, especially in Jakarta
		
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			where the traffic is so much, you may
		
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			not be able to go here. Use technology.
		
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			Use technology. Before I came here, they already
		
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			told me, Machit,
		
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			big masala.
		
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			So, I learned a little bit of bahasa.
		
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			I said, when I go there, I will
		
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			just, you know, flex a bit of my
		
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			bahasa.
		
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			Allah bless you guys. Barakah love