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Motivational Evening – London, 19 February 2020

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Salam aleikum wa rahmatullah wa barakato.

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smilla rahmanir rahim al hamdu Lillah wa Salatu was Salam ala rasulillah Allah Allah, he was happy here.

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We praise Allah subhanho wa Taala we send blessings and salutations upon Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, his household, his companions, we ask Allah Subhana Allah to Allah to bless them, to bless every one of us to grant us every form of goodness to open our doors of goodness in this world and the next me, my beloved brothers and sisters, welcome to this beautiful motivational evening. I'm really, really super excited. And I want to thank every one of you. Because we were not supposed to be here this evening. But allow wanted us to come here. So when the Thursday night happened to be sold out, a man channel decides to add a Wednesday night so hon Allah And here you are much I don't

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know if you're aware of that, are you?

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I'd like this session to be interactive. It's not a hard and fast lecture. It is just a motivational evening.

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So every motivational evening has a little topic, a theme, we move by, in order to be motivated. And that motivation is obviously drawn from the Quran and the Sunnah of Rasulullah, sallAllahu, alayhi wasallam, but presented in a way that really and truly highlights issues that we go through in our lives. So the first question I have, and I'd like you to answer if you don't, I'm going to pick on people to answer the question. So if I don't hear someone, say an answer, I, and you got to save loudly from wherever you are, right? You can say it loudly. Not one person, but everyone who knows the answer can say it, okay? You can say together, it's fine. So, if you have a child, it's a

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blessing of Allah, you and I know that particular child, do you not love the child? Do you not love the child that is your own more than the children of others? True or false?

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Mashallah, not that you hate the children of others, but this is your child, your responsibility, right? You are responsible, and you know that I'm only going to give this child the best would you allow harm to come in the direction of your child?

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No, those of you who are silent, I don't know what the answer was.

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You wouldn't allow you would not allow harm to come in the direction of your child, let alone be harmed, not even in the direction you see a lion from a distance Well, I come from Africa so it's more possible where I come from right? You see a lion in a distance you will take your child and more than that yourself and run away right? You go before the lion comes or you jump into your vehicle or you get into safety. It's common logic. Now if your child wanted something

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that you firmly believe is damaging for the child. Can you give me an example your child desperately wants something a one year old? Six months old, two years old, the child wants something that you know is really dangerous or is not something that the child is safe with? Give me an example

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a knife someone says a knife another example

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mobile Oh Mashallah. I think mobiles many of us who have children may Allah bless you with more children. We say the mobile is bad. It's very bad to give the mobile to the child but when your child is the first thing you do take the mobile and give them give the middle one right? Unfortunately hypocrisy there right. Now Allah forgive me to begin with, okay. May Allah forgive all of us. But yes, a mobile phone. You wouldn't give them not because of the contents, but because they might break your phone. Right? I think that's where it comes from. They might throw it and that s 20 would actually crack some kind of law. By the way, there is an S 20. When I said s 20. Last year,

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people were laughing at me. Guess what? Actually, I think Samsung must have heard our talk because they skipped everything and went straight to 20. Do you know that Subhana Allah, my brothers and sisters, you wouldn't give the child a knife. Six months old crying for a knife. The knife might be luminous colors and the child is crying for it and crying and screaming and yelling. Are you going to give the knife

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Are you going to give the knife

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Not at all. I hope you don't have these sophisticated minds. Those of you who are quiet thinking of the foldable knives, and the ones that have a little safety measure, we're talking of basic simple knives. You know, we're not those fancy people who have all those fancy knives, right? Knife you're not going to give what if the child screams and yells and cries when you give the knife? What if it continues screaming into the night? Will you give the knife? You give something else? Why you will give something else that is not dangerous, but it may pacify the child. Do you agree with what I am saying? Okay, you're going to try and divert the child. And you know, this is not good. You can cry

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how much you want. And Dad, you hate me. You don't like me? You're not giving me what I want. And you say, say what you want. Do what you want. I know better than you. I'm not going to give it to you. I'm not going to give it to you. You can cry, you can scream. I know what you don't know. So Pamela, it's dangerous. You may hurt yourself. You may because sometimes a child might take the knife and not hurt themselves. But it's all a game of chance. And you and I know we don't play games of chance when it comes to things like those agree. So my brothers, my sisters, you think that your child will be hurt, you believe that the child may be hurt. So what the child is screaming for

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crying for desperately once you don't give the child because you know that this is something that's not going to happen. Make your tantrum Say what you want. And Subhanallah you may give like I said something else in order to divert the attention of the child

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who knows better you?

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Or Allah?

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Allah knows the future. We were just guessing it when it came to our children. Allah knows everything. Yeah, Allah mama Karna Amaya kuno Mamma mia Khun either kanak a fire Khun Allah knows that which was that which is that which will be that which will not be if it were to be how it would have been? Allah knows it. So Allah subhanho wa Taala tells us order only as ajibola Google Code, call out to me and I will respond to you. Did he say call out to me, and I will give you exactly what you want. You could have asked for a knife.

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You asked for something so dangerous, you want to marry this guy. And this is the example of the age because I promise you every single day, I receive emails from males and females saying, I want to marry this guy and my parents and my siblings and my this and it's not possible, and it doesn't. And I think of this knife with a little baby, would you give the baby the knife Subhan Allah, and people say, but he's such a nice guy, he's not a knife.

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He'll slice your heart and you won't even know Subhanallah they've done it, it has happened. And the other way around to you might slice his heart or if it's a guy talking, she may slice your heart and you won't even know. So you can scream you can yell Allah says you're not getting it. And you know, what? Is it a sign of love or hate when you don't give your child a knife Tell me

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extreme love, right? Extremely extreme love. It allows total unconditional love for you. That makes him not give you things as a positive response for your job when you desperately want this job. And Allah says, I know the future. I know the future to the degree that what is never ever going to happen. And it was not written to happen. If it were to happen, how it would have played out I already know it so I love you so much because of your your calling to me. You're crying to me, and I'm never ever going to give you this particular thing one day in the hereafter. If you want me to play your video, I will play it for you.

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You know what that means? If you get to the hereafter and if your mind still has in it, something of this nature, Allah says, you'll get it.

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What does that mean? You know, Allah says about Jenna, you get whatever you want. Okay? There's one catch. You can only think about what you want. Once you get into Jenna, with our small minds here right now. We won't know what

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is available in general. What I mean is, in this world, whatever we have, and whatever we like is all from the earth. It's going to remain here. It does not qualify.

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To come into Jana

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it does not qualify to come into Jenna because it is from the earth. That's why the Hadith says when you get to Jenna fi hub gentleman's paradise, by the way for those who may not be knowing the Arabic term, fie harmala I know not Walla

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Walla Hopper, Allah can be Basha in paradise. There is that which no eyes have ever seen, no ears have ever heard of, or heard and no, it has not crossed the heart or the minds of anyone it hasn't. So I'm going to really be amazed and amused and impressed by what is in general in paradise.

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Give you an example.

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And I've given this example in the past. What car do you like?

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Ferrari what car do you like?

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Aston Martin? What car do you like?

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Mercedes? I have one downstairs. Somebody lent me one. Mashallah.

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By the way, it's not a bad car. May Allah Subhana Allah grant us goodness, however, do you have an Aston Martin? You know, do you have a? You don't? do you have? You don't? Okay? Would you like one in general?

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Would you like one in general? Okay, would you like one in general? Would you like one in general? All three of you have asked for something that's not going to be in general. There are no Aston Martin's No, Mercedes. Trust me. It's not there. If you've seen it here. It's not there. Do you know why? Which Mercedes? Do you like? Like, I want to show you and prove to you something which Mercedes do like?

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Okay, did you hear that, guys? It's a model that I don't even know about. Say it again.

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Okay, TG t. Okay. So panela Mercedes GT. Wow. See my brother. I tell you something.

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In 10 years, when he sees that car he likes now he won't want it himself. Yeah, in the dunya. Forget about the Acura. You follow what I'm saying?

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In 10 years, when we are when I was young, I used to look at these uncle's driving these b m W's. And I'm thinking wow, one day. And I used to say, we'll get it in genda. Don't worry, my little brother. Don't worry, gentlemen. I just need your Salah tele, we do all the prayer properly. That pm will be waiting for you in general, now that I've grown up and learned Haha, that was such a cheap shot. So Panama, I promise you it's not going to be in paradise. I don't even want that car that I saw that time right now and I'm on Earth. I still haven't even gone beyond that. I don't want it anymore. Imagine how many of you want the Galaxy S 20. All of us right? If we were distributing free

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galaxies, Subhana Allah, we would all want it next year, you won't want it you're gonna want the Galaxy S 30 or 21 whichever one they choose, right next year, you don't want it. So that goes to show you my brothers and sisters. This world is just a deception. Like Allah says, it is a deception, it will keep moving, and it will con you. And when you get too engrossed in materialism, you don't even know what's good for you. So Pamela,

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you know, people normally, and they do say this, honestly, I've come across it. They mean it from the bottom of their hearts. They say, if I go to Paradise, and the spouse I'm going to have there is the spouse I have here. I don't even want to go to Paradise.

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The people who say this, I've heard it with my own ears.

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So had a lot but I tell them listen, listen, listen, let's first get to paradise. Allah says, when you are there, whatever you want, when you are there, you will get it. We won't let you down. People say my cat will it be in general? You know, to be honest with you people get attached to their cats. The simple reason a cat doesn't backbite a cat doesn't sue him. A cat doesn't deceive you a cat does a cat is quite a faithful, you know, animal Subhanallah and Mashallah, it's quite distressing sometimes. You know, you have a few laughs with it. You see it in amazingly does certain things and it gives you that company, there is that attachment, you spend a lot of money on it. By the way, I'm

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not encouraging or discouraging the issue of cats, but I'm just saying

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when you get attached to it, and then suddenly it dies. What law he you won't believe something I have an email sometime back. I think it was about one and a half two years ago, where there was a young girl or in a teenage asking, Can I do journalism for my cat La ilaha illAllah she wants to do journalism for her cat which means, you know, this is my cat I'm so attached to what will happen to it. Can I Can we not have prayers for the captain? So what are you talking about? Will I have at least will I have my cat in gentlemen, I've got a problem. If I say no, you know, she might come back with one of those verses to say, well, in general, you get what you want, right?

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And if I say yes, and I know the cat's not going to be there, then we've got a big problem. So what do I say I say my sister, get to Jenna. And then talk to Allah. I promise you when you get to Jenna.

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I don't want

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Say you're not going to think of your cat, but I want to tell you, you will be so occupied with what there is that the Hadith says, When a person enters paradise, they will stand just looking at what is theirs for 500 years. For 500 years, you're just going to stand in the

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imagine 500 years, I don't even know how that's gonna be. So Allah Subhana 500 years you standing and just looking at this way you're gonna think of your cat La ilaha illa Allah, Allah grant us ease. When you get there, you'll see other things, and I don't want to burst your bubble. But when you get there, and you ask Allah when you are there, you might see this handsome start, you will probably a guy who's super handsome, you know, wow. And someone says, and then the guy opens his mouth, and turns out, that's your husband.

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Now what now what Subhanallah he looks how the best looking ever according to your imagination. And as you're thinking of how perhaps it would have been better if he was slightly shorter. You know, it just goes down, you know, keeps, and then you think now a little bit taller, up and so on Subhana Allah, and this is Jenna, Allah says, You know what, you did what I wanted in the world, I will do what you want in the hereafter forever and ever, you are going to have eternal bliss. But in this world, I will not give you things that I know are detrimental and harmful for you. I won't. You want some things, you want a job, I know, if you had the job, you would have done this. And that would

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have happened and they would have been an embarrassment. And you would have been this and that. And either you would be hurt so badly or embarrass so badly, or something negative would have happened that you would never be able to shoulder sunglasses. I'm not giving you the job.

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And you want another one and the third one and then you say, Allah hates me, don't you sound like the little baby who doesn't have the knife. And then they say, my father hates me. My mother hates me. And you and I know, the mums and dads actually love their kids. It was out of love that I didn't give this to you. And I still won't call me what you want. Say what you want, scream and yell all night, cry all night. I will not give it to you. Because I love you more than you ever imagined. SubhanAllah You follow what I'm saying?

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So I am telling you this because Allah closes doors out of his mercy. And I want to tell you, every one of us seated here today, everyone, Think for a moment where you are in life right now. Whether it's your job, whether it's your family, whether it's anything else, think about things in your life, where you are who you are, do you know, it is only because Allah closed certain doors, that you are where you are, I swear to you, and had he opened those doors for you, you would not been where you are today.

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Subhana Allah, you would never have been where you are today. I know of a person who was about to go through a divorce. And they were really desperately fighting for that marriage and almost ready to compromise what was humanly not correct to compromise in order to make that marriage work. And you know what it ended in a divorce. and thereafter, the person Two years later, got married to someone else and comes back and says, Do you know what? This is like living paradise? And I am like, there was a day when you didn't even want to move? Do you know why? It's your comfort zone?

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That's why Allah says I'm going to give you guidelines, you follow them? Do what you have to according to the guidelines, and take that leap of faith. Take it, go for it. Take it the leap of faith. What is it? There are uncertain waters ahead. But guess what, because of the circumstances and according to what Allah told me, and given me, this is the best way forward, I'm going to go and I'm going to trust in Allah such that I know he loves me more than I even love myself.

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And I won't give me what he knows is not good for me. That's why when Allah closes the doors, I'm sure you've heard me say, say Alhamdulillah twice.

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If something happens according to what you want, yes.

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You thank Allah and hamdulillah if it doesn't say Alhamdulillah two times twice. And of late I've been practicing this and I promise you it's such a lovely feeling. So beautiful. You know, you get to the counter and they give you bad news. This flight has been canceled. I said oh Mashallah, that's really good news.

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This man is mad.

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I'm not mad if my lord don't want me on that plane. Why should I get upset? Come on, change the way you look at things, get excited about it some annaleigh someone bumps into the car, what's gonna happen? Well, that's six hours of delay, I guess with miles and miles of delay like what we just witnessed on the a 406 right now. Right? There was an accident. By the way, do you know that? The back turn round about not even from here, but I know.

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So Subhanallah I can tell you, once that happens, just see and hamdulillah walk out of the car, no need to get angry. No need to start raising your voice. It's your test. I was watching the angels are writing you're going to get up and start swearing, screaming yelling, who are you? You're just to worship Allah. Allah designed that day in that moment before you were born. So Pamela, you came out and you failed it get excited to say Masha, Allah, Allah. Well, you knew this day was gonna come, I didn't. But it came. Now I'm going to show you that I'm excited about what just happened.

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Obviously, I'm reading it in a way to make us think that's it.

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But human nature would be such that you would come out obviously, you have a pain in your heart because you see your vehicle and it looks all mashed up and whatever. Don't worry, don't worry. I'm just telling you, you know, sometimes how many of us have been in an accident? And then the whole car is upgraded? Wow. Wow. You follow what I'm saying? The whole cars upgraded. See, more of the men are saying the women haven't really bashed their cars. Mashallah. So my brothers and sisters, Allah will close your doors, he knows what's good for you. Not only in marriage, not only in your jobs, but so many other things. You want to buy a house, you want to do something, there is a relationship

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there is whatever it may be, you want to desperately see someone get somewhere do something. If Allah doesn't want it, it's not going to happen. But does that mean we should just sit back and not even try? The answer is no, you must try. When I look at these brothers, I think of Jenna. Do you know why I was asking them about what they want in general? Or what if they would like their favorite cars in general? And Subhanallah? All three of them said yes. My brother may do I forget your face. So Pamela, and then I reprogram my mind to remember it

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for something else. So Pamela, now, don't worry. I'm just joking. Okay, brother.

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So the point I was raising is you know, when you get to paradise, when you see what is on offer in Paradise, then you start saying what you want and what you don't want. Now you're there, you're qualified, you know what shaytan does? He makes us worry about what there is going to be in paradise to the degree that we lose that paradise. This is a powerful point. Did you hear what I say? I'm so worried about what I'm going to get in general, that I don't even get to gender. Because I start arguing and fighting. What am I going to get in paradise? If I'm going to get this? That's unfair? If they're going to get this? It's unfair. People ask me about the whole trust me I don't know much.

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I haven't seen a single one besides my own. Mashallah.

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By the way, you know, when you're married, you have to always always call your spouse the whole Mashallah, in actual fact, they are in terms of the dunya. And they do very, very well. Remember, I said your spouse, if you're married, your spouse, I didn't say if you're a husband, your wife, if you're married, your spouse,

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may Allah grant us happiness in our marriages. That was quite a softer mean, you know what that means?

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That means many people are not married here. If you're not married, please put up your hand.

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I was right. Mashallah. Put your hands down? Well, I want to teach you something. If someone says May Allah grant us happy marriages, just say me loudly. Because if that is given to you, the first thing that's going to happen is the doors of marriage are going to open

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to see so just say I mean, may Allah grant us happiness in our marriages.

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See, all the unmarried people think I mean, I taught you something right.

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My brothers and sisters, it's a fact it's effect Why haven't seen and people say but it's unfair. It's not go to the Akira meet with Allah, talk to him and tell him what you have. Don't tell me. Right? Don't tell me. I don't own paradise. Get to the hereafter meet with Allah and ask him. Like I told you, if you get to Allah and you remember that there was a day in the world I wanted x and I didn't get x and I got y instead of a Zed you can ask Allah Oh Allah had I gotten Zed. Please show me what would have happened in that life of mine. And Allah will show it to you because you know what he will give you whatever you want. You want to see that?

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But unconditioned that you remember this, when you meet with Allah, when you get to the Hereafter, you follow what I'm saying.

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So my brothers and sisters, that is the message I had for you tonight to say, when Allah subhanho wa Taala closes the door, it is definitely a door that is closed out of the mercy of Allah, on condition that you are trying to be a good person. You know,

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Allah subhanho wa Taala His mercy is such that if he knows that your life is going to make a turn

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towards something you're not going to manage,

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what's the best thing he should do for you?

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If your life is going to take a turn

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towards something, you just won't be able to shoulder?

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What is the best thing he could do for you?

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Someone says stop it. What else?

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Thank you make you pass away. If you passed away,

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it is a blessing of Allah, if he saved you from something really huge. If he saved you from something really huge. You know, you have to pass away. All of us want paradise. But who wants to die right now? The answer is Nobody. Nobody. So how are you going to get to paradise? Allah says, I'll take you without asking you do you want to go? Because if I were to ask you do you want to go? Even the oldest of the lot will say no.

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Give me good health and still stay. May Allah grant us all good health. So Allah says, I have dictate determined the lifespan, people lose little children. And you wonder what's so merciful about that? Allah knows something that you don't know what if the child grew up to become the source of your misery, the source of your depression, the source of that which was so difficult to burden, Allah says, I love you so much, I'm going to take this child away at the age of two, so that through the summer and the patience that you bear, you will get paradise and the child will be in paradise waiting for you and you will both enter genital windows. Isn't that a bonus? We will feel the pain

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in this world. But it was something that was a mercy of Allah. If you want you can say to Allah one day, Oh Allah, you took my child away at the age of two. If you had given that child life, show me what that life would have been like, if you remember that question. And you're asking it in Ghana, Allah says, we can show it to you.

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We can show it to you

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Subhana Allah. And then you will be surprised you say, Oh Allah you are the wise, you are the most loving, you are the most current, you are the most generous. You are the one that created the one who knows everything. And I really, really thank you for what you did.

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I know of a person who lost some children, some children in a major accident. He told me himself a few years down the line that I wish I'd lost all my kids. And I said, but why he said, Look at those who have survived. They are leading a terrible life. They're causing depression and tension. My head is exploding with all these worries and look at them and embarrassment. And I'm like, Don't say that my brother.

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But now I know what he was meaning. Although I don't agree with the statement, because no one should say that. No matter how far away your children are, from what you perceive to be the right path. Don't lose hope in them. Don't. It only requires one flick. And they can be back to something beyond your imagination, one flick, how many of us have had bad habits, embarrassing things we've done in our lives? And guess what, if people had given up on us, we wouldn't even be here. We wouldn't even be able to do good. My brothers and sisters, let's do good. Let's help each other. And let's understand, don't become upset with Allah because things are happening around the world that you

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don't know. When Coronavirus came about what I did on the pulpit on a Friday is to pray for all the victims no matter who they were Muslim or non Muslim, no matter what nationality they were from the pulpit on a Friday, I said the prayer for all of them. And I said Oh Allah, Grant and cure and not only that save us all and humanity at large. You know why? It is something that has affected humankind. Now comes an argument. Was it the punishment or not? I don't care. That is irrelevant for us right now what we've got to do, improve ourselves and pray for everyone and try and make sure that at this time of difficulty and hardship, you reach out to the people it's not a time to argue

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about what it was you can see what it's doing in front of your eyes. You may be the next victim and it may be May Allah subhanho wa Taala not let that happen. It's not a time to argue a person is drowning, struggling and you say brother, I'm not saving you

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It's a punishment, it's a punishment. Who are you? Subhan Allah? What punishment is that? Who are you to decide what Allah chose? It might be a means of that person's entry into Jannah Subhana Allah. May Allah grant us goodness, may Allah open our doors with us, we are too worried about whether another person has been punished or not. But what about our own lives? We losing focus? Yeah, are you?

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Are you who believe be concerned about yourselves, those who are astray will not affect you. If you are rightly guided another verse, Allah says, Yeah, I Latina man. Oh,

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god dammit, Nevada, what

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are you who believe, be conscious of your maker, and each one of you should look into what you have prepared to hand in tomorrow to your makeup? What did you prepare? You've written a book of your own deeds? Have you written it? Well, did you write some nice things in the book every single day Subhana Allah Subhana Allah.

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In a few moments in sha Allah and when to ask all of you.

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I'm going to ask all of you if you have any motivational

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story short, within a minute or two, to share with us from your life, something that moved you or something that motivated you that you believe might benefit us, it will be very interesting to hear. So start thinking of what you want to say, inshallah. And the last thing I'm going to say here, is, when we get to paradise, why is it that whatever was on earth doesn't qualify to be there?

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In terms of materialistic items, let me clarify material things because everything that you found on Earth was from this earth.

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What are you made from? What am I made from? dust? clay, sand, where is that? It's on the earth? h2o, the water mixed with this? It's from the earth. I'm wearing clothing where is this from? The cotton grew on the earth, the cows on the earth? I drive a car where is the steel and the metal from, from the the, from the mines, they happen to be within the mountains or in other places it was mined on the earth. We have not yet seen anything from outside this earth, not yet nothing.

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So hon Allah.

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They see the Blackstone in Morocco is from genital for those. That's what they say. And talking about the stuff we use in our lives and everything we benefit from here. Subhan Allah, do you have anything from anywhere? Besides this earth? Do you anyone?

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Yes.

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I can't hear you, your wife, your wife.

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You've just given you a secret away, man.

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He must be really scared of his wife. No, my brother, it's really encouraging what you said is true. Some of some of our wives and inshallah we should all be husbands and wives like that, where

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it's all about sacrifice, you know, marriage, you have to work on, you have to sacrifice it's all about, the more you sacrifice, the more your spouse as they grow older, melts when he or she thinks of you. When you think of sacrifice, you know, I think of my own family. And I think of how they sacrifice, I'm only able to stand here because of the sacrifice of my family members. If they were hard with me, I promise you, I wouldn't even be here. But because they're lenient, they understand. They know because they let it happen. They still pray for you. They cheer you on, against all odds and it's a struggle. It's not easy, neither for me nor for them. That's the reason why we really,

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really get along well because you know what it's given take, when you become selfish in marriage, that marriage cracks, it becomes really difficult ask those who are successful in anything without the spouse being a backbone, that success won't come. It won't come so easily.

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So and hamdulillah at least we heard something thank you so much for that my brother. Mashallah, you that smile is better than mine.

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So my brothers and sisters, it's true whatever we have, it's it's not from anywhere besides the earth. We still have to get to the other side, to know what's on offer. In fact,

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quick examples come to my mind. I've given it in the past. I want to say it because I find it very intriguing. Okay?

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When you and I were in the wombs of our mothers, what we enjoyed there,

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everything we enjoyed there became totally irrelevant and redundant. The moment we crossed into the real world.

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Imagine in the wombs of your mothers, and I always like to give this example of twins. Imagine you were twins talking to each other. Hey, what's up, buddy? And the guys find you swimming? Well, he says, Yeah, man, look at the world. It's mine. It's not a world by the way. It's just the womb of your mother. But it looks so big because you're so tiny as you grow older and becomes a little bit, you know? Wow, it's getting a bit stuffy here. SubhanAllah. Maybe stuffy is the wrong word. But it's cramped here. It's becoming a little bit too tight. I can't know what's going to happen. I can't move anymore.

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But you enjoyed the food and drink there, didn't you?

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Would you want any of it now, by the way? Anyone?

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serious question.

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You must be thinking yeah, we're about to eat stop talking about it. But you loved it. You grew on it you added you at what about the agenda? When you get there? You will people talk about you don't that burger from that place. He said, You know what? Come on, we're about to eat. Stop talking about the junior here. Because your agenda you've crossed, everything becomes irrelevant. Totally. People. If you were to talk at that time, you would have told your buddy, listen, guy, you know, the atheist would have said it's the end of everything.

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It's the end. That's it. Goodbye, my buddy. That's it. shake your hand. And guess what? The membrane between you at that time and this world was just a thin little membrane, the belly of your mother, and boom, you came out and boom, he came out and a buddy. You made it here? What's going on? What's happening, man? We never dreamed this thing existed. It always existed. Now you have a chance from this side to look at your mother. Ah, that's mom. Oh, those are the sounds I heard. Ah, this is another sound I've heard. Now, things are put into perspective. You never would have imagined in the wildest of your dreams, what was just a little membrane or curtain away from where you were, but you

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came into the real life. Can any one of you remember the day you were born, let alone the days that you were in the wombs of your mother's nobody, not one. So when you get into the hereafter there is it's very similar to childbirth, very similar. childbirth, labor takes in some cases, five minutes, in some cases, five hours in some cases, five days,

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labor.

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And then the child is born. I saw a soccer at the end of your life is exactly the same. In some cases, five seconds, in some cases, five minutes. In some cases, guess what, five days and you end the pangs of death going into the hereafter. And you know what, when you cross it's just a crossing.

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What happened? You left everything behind. This time you left your body, you left everything. It's all behind what went through the soul gone to a hereafter? What is the hereafter? When you go in?

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Is this what it is just like when you came into the world and you were so overwhelmed, you started crying so manella and then when you get into the hereafter and you see all of this Subhan Allah, may Allah subhanho wa Taala help us into Gen metal for those who may make it easy for us, the day he takes us away, may take us away when he knows it's right for us. May He always do what is best for us is to keep on praying for what you think is best for you. You have to do that. You have to keep praying for what you think is best for you. And you have to try and keep trying to the best of your abilities to achieve what you believe is best for you. But if it doesn't come and if it is blocked,

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and if it is stopped and if you're now losing this capacity of carrying on, don't worry, inshallah, you should believe firmly that Allah has kept it away for a very, very good reason that I may not know, just go back and think of that little baby with the knife. And remember, you know, perhaps, like I said, none of us would give that knife to the child. Although that would be a sign of love. May Allah make it easier colloquially. hada was Allah Allah