Mufti Menk – Embracing Islam – The Challenges And Blessings
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The speaker discusses the importance of letting parents know when children are expected to declare the requested legal status. They also mention the need for parents to practice Islam and be kind to their children. The speaker emphasizes the importance of not being too specific when it comes to Islam and offers advice on how to be kind to their children.
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My sister, may Allah bless you, and this
is why I say it's so good to
have you here this evening. You're part of
our family,
and that doesn't mean that your
biological family are not your family.
They are part of your family. I tell
you, it's not easy to let people know.
Normally, what I like to do, someone wants
to declare the shahada, I say, does your
family know? They say no. Would you like
us to tell them? Would you like no.
Not yet and so on. But sometimes it's
good to bring them along.
We've contacted certain parents and told them, do
you know what? Your child wants to your
child is going to be declaring the shahada,
and we want you to participate
in this beautiful event.
And and you know, sometimes you get a
shock
Are you crazy? No, please come and attend.
We need you here So it depends, but
some people are, like you say, very religious,
they wouldn't believe. I tell you
there's not just one
answer. People need to know your scenario. You
know it better than anyone else. Pray to
Allah to guide them and to make it
easy for you to let them know. Number
2,
be upon the best of Islamic teachings
be kind to them smile with them be
happy with them try and serve them be
there for them
and one day Allah will give you the
opportunity to let them know that do you
know what for the last 5 years ever
since I've improved as a person
I've actually been a Muslim
I know of people who've broken it slowly
and said
I've got friends who are Muslims so I'm
just thinking of seeing what it's like to
fast this year but they're Muslims and that's
the way they told their folks I'm not
saying it's an ideal way, but different people
have different situations. We have to acknowledge
I'm not in your shoes, so I wouldn't
be able to just say sister let's go
now, let me what's what's her number, what's
your mom's number, let me phone her and
tell her, I can't do that, that's so
insensitive,
but I need to ask you, and I
need to let you know, and so on.
So
it's difficult, but Insha'Allah Allah will give you
a good opportunity,
and Allah Almighty will bless you my sister
because
if you are kind and you are good
and they notice the good change and you
discipline yourself which happens as you practice islam
you will realize that or they will realize
this person's changed and then you get an
opportunity to let them know it's islam
I know a brother
who had a coach who coached him
and told him
that
in his sport
he said
you should sleep at this time, you're not
allowed to drink, you're not allowed to this,
you're not allowed to do that, you should
pray, you shouldn't have more than one girlfriend,
okay, the guy was a non Muslim by
the way, right?
So so he says and you should do
this you should be focused
and this person achieved
so much
and he was so excited one day that
he tells his coach do you know what
I'm super happy
I'm so happy with what you've done to
me and for me
the coach says can I tell you what
I've actually done
without saying anything
I just made you practice
Islamic code of conduct
and eating, and drinking, and whatever, I said
are you sure? I said whatever you did
is Islam, the only thing that's remaining is
just for you to declare the faith, learn
a few of the basics, and that's it.
The brother became a Muslim, he's a friend
of mine
and subhanAllah he says you know what it's
the discipline that brought me in because I
realized that in this way
we can achieve
leadership
every single one has the qualities of leadership
because you have such good habits such beautiful
character
such concern for everyone. People think that we're
only concerned about Muslims. In actual fact, we're
concerned about Muslims and non Muslims, and we're
supposed to be in the case of some
who might not be
they need to be corrected that in actual
fact you're supposed to be concerned for everyone
obviously charity begins at home so So if
I'm to be charitable, I will start off
with my family, my circle, and so on,
the ummah, and then I will go out
to others as well. I'm more than I
must, and sometimes it's a necessity.
If people are drowning you can't just say
no leave them. These are not Muslims. Not
at all You're supposed to save them come
what may it's a life the Quran speaks
about it
so may Allah make it easy for you
my sister keep going when you get the
opportunity you can slowly release it perhaps what
I've also found if they are very aggressive
get yourself financially independent by the help of
Allah.
If you're if you're independent or if you're
a little bit distant or not totally reliant
on them, it becomes
to
the tapping
would actually make them realize within 6 months
to a year that you know what that's
my child
I don't care they can be Muslim or
whatever they are but they're my child The
tapping beautiful tapping but sometimes initially the reaction
is hostile because they they don't know any
better. I know of some people
scholars
grievers
whose parents have accepted Islam years later years
later
and they were super excited because initially when
they had accepted Islam the same parents were
dead against them but some years later they
said wow declare their shahada the joy
makes you forget all the struggles of how
many ever years it was
may Allah make it easy, inshallah, we pray
for you, like I say it's a pity
I don't have
a switch to just switch on and off
and there's your answer because everyone comes from
a different situation. May Allah bless you.