Mufti Menk – Don’t Abuse Forgiveness

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The speaker discusses how forgiveness can be a strength and not a weakness, as many people may be forgiven twice or once, depending on their circumstances. They stress that forgiveness is not a weakness and that forgiveness is actually a strength. The speaker also warns that forgiveness is not a weakness and that a successful relationship should be based on forgiveness.

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			When you forgive your spouse, you have helped
		
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			yourself build a powerful relation. You learn to
		
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			love one another.
		
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			And when you have been forgiven by a
		
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			spouse,
		
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			do not abuse it.
		
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			They are not gafururur Rahim. They are not
		
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			most forgiving, most merciful. They might be able
		
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			to forgive you once if you are lucky
		
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			twice. In a lot of cases it does
		
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			not extend to a third time.
		
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			They are human beings
		
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			but still we are taught to forgive as
		
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			many times as we can.
		
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			But when we have been forgiven
		
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			don't look at it as a weakness. It's
		
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			not a weakness.
		
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			Many people think you know what? Where's she
		
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			going to go? No way.
		
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			I'm giving her the life.
		
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			I'm giving her everything. Wallahi,
		
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			Allah will catch you.
		
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			Allah will catch you.
		
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			People think I can do what I want.
		
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			This woman here, I'm married to her. Where
		
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			is she going to go? She's got 5
		
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			children with me
		
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			and I've lived with her for how many
		
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			years. She can't do anything. She's got no
		
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			one to go to. Her brothers and sisters
		
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			are married. Her father and mother passed away
		
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			and so on. Now, it's okay what I
		
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			do to her. Be careful.
		
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			She might forgive you. You don't know that
		
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			that forgiveness is not a weakness. It's actually
		
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			a strength.
		
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			The more she forgives you the happier a
		
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			life between her and Allah she will lead.
		
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			And guess what?
		
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			The fact that she has forgiven
		
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			you does not necessarily
		
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			mean
		
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			that Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala is pleased with
		
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			you.
		
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			It doesn't mean Allah is happy. He's watching.
		
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			He knows The record is taken. He can
		
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			see.
		
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			So therefore,
		
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			please Allah, Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala, by trying your
		
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			best not to repeat the sin.