Mufti Menk – Dealing with Difficulty #27 Loss Of Wealth & Life

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The loss of a loved one is a natural journey for everyone, and the importance of remaining true to Allah's teachings is emphasized. It is important to be patient and offer support to maintain a connection with Allah. It is also important to be mindful of the loss and offer help to maintain a connection. It is important to work hard and protect from loss.

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			One of the things that Allah Almighty has
		
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			definitely told us he's going to test us
		
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			with
		
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			is the loss of certain things.
		
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			In one of the episodes, we read the
		
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			verse of Surah Baqarah where Allah Almighty says,
		
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			indeed we will test all of you.
		
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			With some of and then there is a
		
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			list of things. The first thing he mentions
		
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			is which
		
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			is fear. Then he says,
		
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			which is hunger. Then he says
		
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			loss of wealth
		
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			and life.
		
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			Loss of wealth
		
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			of your own wealth, obviously, we will test
		
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			you with days when you suffer a loss.
		
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			Well, lives, lives
		
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			of those around you,
		
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			those whom you love, those whom you're connected
		
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			with. With samarat,
		
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			loss of
		
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			produce. So Allah Almighty
		
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			informs us that there will be a time
		
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			when you lose things
		
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			And we will test you with that loss.
		
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			Many times we're not prepared to lose things
		
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			and we never thought about it. I've said
		
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			again in a previous episode that
		
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			it's not normal to become obsessed with the
		
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			idea of
		
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			I may lose this, I may lose that.
		
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			I may this might lose, this might go
		
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			wrong, that might go wrong. We've spoken about
		
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			all of that difficulty and how to deal
		
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			with it.
		
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			So
		
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			we prepare for the day by connecting with
		
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			Allah. Allah will not let us down.
		
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			However,
		
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			if you've lost something,
		
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			the good news is
		
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			if you bear patience
		
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			and you take it in your stride
		
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			and you say
		
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			with conviction,
		
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			indeed we all belong to Allah and we
		
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			will all return to Allah.
		
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			O Allah,
		
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			grant me
		
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			help in this problem of mine, this loss
		
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			of mine. Oh Allah,
		
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			comfort me, grant me goodness
		
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			as a result of this loss that I've
		
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			suffered.
		
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			Oh Allah,
		
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			give me a reward because of what you've
		
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			taken away from me. Grant me better than
		
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			what you took away from me.
		
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			Do you know what
		
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			Allah Almighty will indeed grant you better than
		
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			what he took away from you?
		
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			Go out there and see
		
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			those who have lost things in their lives
		
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			and taken it in their stride turned to
		
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			Allah,
		
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			not given up and kept going.
		
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			So if you're going to give up and
		
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			you're going to just close shop and you're
		
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			going to just, you
		
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			know, get into a shell and not talk
		
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			anymore because you lost once,
		
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			be it the life of a loved one,
		
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			be it loss in business,
		
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			Be it loss in your health.
		
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			If you want to be a person who
		
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			closes
		
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			everything,
		
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			you'll be closed.
		
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			You will suffer the consequences of that, and
		
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			you don't understand the plan of Allah
		
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			in the Quran and the sunnah. What he
		
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			says,
		
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			he says that he will test you. So
		
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			good news.
		
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			Give good news to those who bear sabr.
		
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			What is the sabr? The sabr is that
		
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			I don't question my Maker.
		
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			I bear what it was
		
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			by connecting to Allah, relating to Allah, understanding
		
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			that it could have been worse
		
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			and understanding that a day will come when
		
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			I will see the compensation
		
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			of the fact that I
		
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			bought his loss with sabr, with patience. I
		
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			will see the compensation of it. You lost
		
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			a loved one, you're going to be reunited
		
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			with them very
		
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			soon. That's a comfort. That's a consolation. I'm
		
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			a believer.
		
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			As a believer, I know if I've lost
		
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			someone, I'm going to be reunited with them
		
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			by the help of Allah
		
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			in a short span of time.
		
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			So as much as it's so painful, it's
		
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			not easy.
		
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			I may never be able
		
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			to understand
		
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			the loss of a person
		
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			who's lost a child or a spouse they
		
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			were close to or a parent if I
		
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			haven't been through it myself.
		
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			So if you have lost a loved one,
		
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			people may never understand your feelings, but Allah
		
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			knows and Allah Almighty
		
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			puts you in that condition, he wants you
		
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			to bear patience, he wants you to turn
		
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			to him, to praise him, to have hope,
		
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			he wants you to look forward to the
		
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			day you're going to be reunited with that
		
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			loved one, He wants you to continue your
		
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			life. He doesn't want you to pause and
		
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			stop it there.
		
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			You must keep going. That's the secret.
		
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			So
		
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			a period of mourning. Yes, indeed, we're sad.
		
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			And every time we think of it, there
		
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			will be a little hollow within us. And
		
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			that's because we are human.
		
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			But what will help fill that hollow is
		
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			the connection with Allah, the reassurances
		
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			that the almighty has given us, the one
		
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			who gave us this person in the first
		
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			place. The same applies to your business, everything
		
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			burnt down. Go and ask those who have
		
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			had their businesses burnt down.
		
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			If they got up, picked up the pieces,
		
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			worked very hard again with lots of hope,
		
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			they made more than double or at times,
		
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			10 times more than what they ever
		
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			had before.
		
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			And that's almost all cases that I've
		
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			asked and come across
		
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			over time. I've always seen that. But the
		
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			condition is that you need to get up.
		
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			You look at the positives.
		
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			Thank Allah for the fact that it could
		
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			have been worse and it wasn't as bad
		
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			as it could have been. Keep going and
		
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			don't give up. If you give up, you've
		
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			given up. Allah doesn't give up. But if
		
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			you haven't given up, you go with the
		
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			help of Allah all the way to the
		
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			end.
		
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			So whatever you've lost,
		
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			it's normal. It's human. You're not the first
		
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			person it's happened to, and you will not
		
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			be the last person it's going to happen
		
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			to.
		
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			Allah promises it in the Quran.
		
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			It has happened, it will happen, and it
		
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			shall happen to everyone
		
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			at some point.
		
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			A little bit of a difference where the
		
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			fluctuation of the exact loss. But look,
		
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			in some families, they haven't yet lost
		
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			those close to them. It has to come.
		
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			It's going to start somewhere. You're going to
		
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			lose a parent or whoever. It's okay. When
		
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			that day comes,
		
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			Allah will give us the strength
		
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			to proceed as difficult as it as
		
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			tough as it may be.
		
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			Allah will help us to proceed and progress.
		
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			And that is the help of Allah
		
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			He alone can help us.
		
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			The words I am saying are words of
		
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			encouragement based on Allah
		
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			and his Rasool, his Messenger, may peace be
		
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			upon him.
		
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			When things go wrong,
		
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			always understand in the eyes of Allah
		
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			Allah knows that this is a situation that
		
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			came in your life to gain closeness to
		
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			him. Don't let that
		
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			distance you from Allah. The minute you close
		
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			yourself and you
		
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			don't want to talk,
		
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			for you, it's so overwhelming that I can't
		
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			believe this. It's not true. It can't be.
		
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			K. Initially, as a human, it might hit
		
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			you in that way, but quickly come out
		
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			of it and realize that you know what
		
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			it is.
		
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			It's okay. Allah is great. I'll struggle. But
		
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			with the help of Allah, it's going to
		
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			be fine.
		
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			I'm going to cope, I'm going to manage,
		
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			and let me keep going in my life.
		
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			Let me do something meaningful for this deceased
		
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			person, like praying for them, like perhaps a
		
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			charity on their behalf, like a well, maybe
		
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			like, for example,
		
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			maybe a little masjid or whatever, if I
		
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			can.
		
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			But the best thing is just to offer
		
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			dua. Oh Allah, forgive him or her, have
		
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			mercy on him or her and grant him
		
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			or her paradise.
		
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			That's the dua,
		
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			very powerful. Keep repeating that and that's a
		
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			great gift you will give the one who's
		
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			passed away.
		
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			But if it is something,
		
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			then again,
		
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			don't worry. You may go through
		
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			tough days,
		
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			but with the help of Allah, you'll come
		
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			out of that.
		
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			You will come out of it. Give it
		
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			some time, but work hard.
		
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			Like I said, and I'm repeating this, If
		
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			you give up, you
		
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			have closed the door.
		
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			Allah does not close the door. You keep
		
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			working, keep going. It might not be this
		
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			avenue, but there is an open door there.
		
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			You keep going, and Allah has opened your
		
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			path
		
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			to something that is amazing.
		
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			If your negativity
		
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			or loss brings you closer to Allah,
		
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			it was
		
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			not a punishment.
		
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			It was a blessing.
		
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			And if your negativity
		
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			or should I say if your positivity
		
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			and growth
		
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			distances you from Allah, that's not a gift.
		
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			That could just be a punishment. Who knows?
		
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			Allah says it in the Quran that at
		
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			times when we want to punish people, we
		
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			give them things so that they forget us.
		
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			That's what the Quran says.
		
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			And when Allah wants to bring you closer
		
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			to him at times, he takes things away
		
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			from you so that you come closer to
		
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			him. Let there never be a time where
		
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			you've had both those losses. You lost someone,
		
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			you lost your health, your wealth, your your
		
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			loved one. And on top of that, you
		
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			lost your connection with Allah. That's the biggest
		
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			loss. May Allah protect us from that type
		
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			of a loss. May Allah help us all
		
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			in our difficulties,
		
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			and may Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala make it
		
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			easy for us all.