Mufti Menk – Dealing with Difficulty #26 Time Management

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The speaker advises managing distractions and free time in one's busy lives to avoid stress and anxiety. They suggest using the Quran to manage time and advise against wasting time and distractions. The speaker emphasizes the benefits of praise of Allah for transformation and offers advice on how to deal with addiction to games and online activities. They also suggest listening to the 5-day prayers and rehearsing "verbal" and "immaterial." The speaker provides tips for dealing with this difficulty and mentions that God blesses them with time management.

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			My brothers and sisters,
		
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			wasting time
		
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			has become a difficulty.
		
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			How to deal with it? We find ourselves
		
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			without much time. We're always busy. We always
		
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			have something. We don't have the time for
		
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			the right things. Well, the distractions
		
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			are so many. So if you want to
		
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			deal with the difficulty, you need to look
		
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			at the course and you need to see
		
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			why it has happened.
		
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			Why did the difficulty come about here? We're
		
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			talking of time management,
		
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			people who
		
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			don't have time
		
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			because they're wasting it. So the Prophet Muhammad,
		
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			peace be upon him, tells us.
		
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			There are 2
		
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			gifts of Allah that many people take for
		
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			granted.
		
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			The first one is your health.
		
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			So when you lose your health, you realize,
		
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			oh, I should have done this and should
		
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			have done that when I was healthy.
		
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			The second one is
		
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			your free time, your spare time
		
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			or your time in general.
		
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			Al Farah
		
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			refers to the free time. But your time
		
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			where
		
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			when you're occupied truly, then you realize, oh
		
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			gosh, when I was free, I should have
		
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			done this and should have done that.
		
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			So Allah Almighty draws our attention to those
		
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			2 gifts. So free time is a gift
		
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			of Allah.
		
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			Are you just going to spend it on
		
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			the distractions of this world or do something
		
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			meaningful?
		
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			Number 1.
		
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			To deal with this difficulty, don't compromise your
		
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			5 daily prayers. You'll find Allah will help
		
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			you manage the time.
		
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			I'm going to give you a few tips.
		
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			The first one is your 5 daily prayers.
		
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			If you get up in the morning and
		
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			you really make sure you wash yourself and
		
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			pray to Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala salatul Fajr,
		
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			Allah will bless your day with lots of
		
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			means blessings.
		
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			So there are unique blessings. One of them
		
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			is time management.
		
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			You have fajr, dhor, asr, maghrib, and isha.
		
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			You know the prayers right through the day.
		
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			You pray those prayers
		
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			and you make sure that you enjoy them,
		
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			even if it is only the bare minimum.
		
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			The fact that you've done that, Allah will
		
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			bless your day with regards to many things,
		
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			one of them is time management.
		
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			Similarly,
		
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			start your day with a portion of recitation
		
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			of the Quran.
		
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			Tip number 2. So if you've read a
		
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			portion of the Quran, even if it is
		
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			2 minutes, again,
		
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			the Quran Quran is a unique
		
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			gift of Allah, the Word of Allah
		
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			If you think you don't have time to
		
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			read the Quran, let me tell you one
		
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			of the miracles of the Quran that you
		
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			may not have realized
		
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			is
		
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			that
		
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			when you sit to read the Quran,
		
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			it makes
		
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			the time for you in a miraculous way.
		
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			Try it out. It's amazing.
		
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			That means if you think you don't have
		
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			the time and you stop what ever you're
		
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			doing and you spend a moment with the
		
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			Quran, you will have the time.
		
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			You won't realize that, you know what? Wow.
		
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			I thought I didn't have the time. Where
		
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			did this time come from?
		
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			Because Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala is the one
		
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			who gives blessings.
		
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			Allah is the one you spent time with
		
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			Allah. Allah says we won't let you down.
		
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			You can never have wasted
		
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			a time that you've spent with Allah
		
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			in prayer. The 5 daily prayers, the recitation
		
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			of the Quran.
		
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			So those two things will help you manage
		
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			your time. The problem with us is
		
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			the distractions of today are many. The biggest
		
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			of these distractions is social media. Unfortunately, we've
		
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			talked about it quite a bit, but that's
		
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			because it dominates our lives. Let's face it.
		
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			So with us on our phones and our
		
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			devices,
		
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			we actually lose track of time to the
		
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			degree that an hour passes, 2 hours pass,
		
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			and we're still there. And people come and
		
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			go, and we're still there. And people come
		
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			back and go back and we're still there.
		
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			And what happened to your prayer? You lost
		
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			track of it. That's why you don't have
		
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			the time management. Put an alarm on your
		
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			phone. Let it cut off and switch off.
		
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			Switch the phone off, switch on your connection
		
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			with Allah. But if you switch on your
		
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			phone, do not disconnect with Allah.
		
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			The Quran,
		
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			you do something good on your phone. And
		
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			the third tip is
		
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			the remembrance of Allah.
		
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			Keep your tongue moistened
		
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			with the remembrance of Allah. What is the
		
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			remembrance of Allah? Well, it's a very broad
		
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			words,
		
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			Meaning these are very broad words, broad sentence.
		
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			The remembrance
		
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			of Allah.
		
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			Any good word is the remembrance of Allah.
		
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			The 5 daily prayers are a remembrance of
		
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			Allah. Recitation of the Quran is a remembrance
		
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			of Allah. But generally when we say Dhikr
		
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			and we've already spoken about those 2 things,
		
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			then it's referring to words of praise of
		
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			Allah.
		
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			Subhanallah.
		
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			Praise be to Allah. Alhamdulillah.
		
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			Praise be to Allah.
		
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			La ilaha illallah. None worthy of worship besides
		
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			Allah. Allahu Akbar Allah is the greatest,
		
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			and so on. Glory be to Allah. Praise
		
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			be to Allah. There is none worthy of
		
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			worship besides Allah. And there is no might
		
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			besides that of Allah,
		
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			and no power besides that of Allah.
		
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			Allah is the greatest.
		
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			So when you moisten your tongue, even subhanallah,
		
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			subhanallah, subhanallah, and you repeat these words,
		
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			these words are blessed.
		
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			Allah blesses you with so much that
		
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			what you see, what you do, what you
		
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			say,
		
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			everything
		
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			is actually
		
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			transformed
		
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			into a beautiful,
		
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			beautiful
		
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			act of worship.
		
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			SubhanAllah,
		
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			you become conscious of so many other things
		
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			and automatically
		
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			Allah will help you stay away from that
		
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			which is displeasing to him. Imagine a person
		
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			who is conscious about their prayer,
		
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			started the morning with the Quran,
		
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			remembers Allah. Do you really think that they're
		
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			going to fall straight into major sin?
		
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			I'd like to think if they were genuine
		
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			about all of this, then this would not
		
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			actually happen. Because
		
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			Allah will not allow the 2 to come
		
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			together
		
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			in the heart of a true believer,
		
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			something which is
		
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			stark contrast.
		
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			Allah blesses you with time management.
		
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			You're able to manage your time.
		
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			The daily prayers,
		
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			the recitation of the Quran,
		
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			the remembrance of Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala
		
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			and not wasting your time with the distractions.
		
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			Identify the distractions.
		
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			Some people sit late at night and they
		
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			don't realize their friends
		
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			or whatever they're busy with sitting late at
		
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			night, even games.
		
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			People play
		
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			games.
		
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			And the addiction to games, as far as
		
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			a few studies that I've read, is similar
		
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			to the addiction to *.
		
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			You can read it. I've read so much.
		
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			I'm convinced by it, and I do believe
		
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			that
		
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			that requires help.
		
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			You need someone who's an expert at dealing
		
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			with behavioral addictions to help you come out
		
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			of it.
		
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			Because to be honest with you, people are
		
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			addicted to games in in an even bigger
		
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			way than they would be addicted to *
		
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			because they see nothing wrong with it. Yes.
		
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			The one might be
		
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			outside the values and morals of a believer.
		
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			This one here you might argue is in
		
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			the values and morals. But
		
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			the fact that you're addicted is what would
		
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			actually make you a cabbage.
		
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			It would make you a cabbage because
		
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			you lose everyone
		
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			and everything
		
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			around you over time and you blame them
		
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			for it.
		
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			You don't know you're an addict. That's what
		
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			it is. You need help. You must reach
		
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			out for help. So gaming has become a
		
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			problem. You lose track of time. Today we're
		
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			talking about time management.
		
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			You set aside a time. I'm going to
		
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			play a game if I really have to,
		
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			Alhamdulillah,
		
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			if it's not Haram like the other stuff,
		
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			but it needs to be within a limit.
		
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			I need to go to bed early in
		
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			order to get up early, in order to
		
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			have a blessed day ahead.
		
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			But no, you're up all night. And what
		
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			you're going to do all day? Sleepy.
		
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			You're going to be upset. You're going to
		
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			be emotional. You're going to get cross.
		
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			You're gonna start yelling and shouting at the
		
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			people who you live with. You're gonna be
		
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			on edge all the time. Be it children,
		
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			be it spouse, be it parents, whoever it
		
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			may be, Be it those you work with
		
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			or work for and so on or those
		
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			who work for you. And you're not a
		
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			nice person
		
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			because
		
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			your time management.
		
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			Similarly, your health is affected because of the
		
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			time and so many other things
		
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			that you would not realize
		
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			are actually damaged because you haven't managed your
		
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			time. So Allah tells you be disciplined, fulfill
		
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			your prayers, do whatever you have to sleep
		
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			on time. That's another tip. Sleep on time.
		
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			Push yourself to sleep on time. Initially, it
		
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			won't be easy. You'll toss and turn because
		
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			you're not used to going to bed early.
		
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			Go to bed early. It's a sunnah, and
		
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			a sunnah will bring about so much of
		
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			goodness. You'll get up early as well, but
		
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			push yourself to go to bed early. Come
		
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			what may and see how Allah blesses you.
		
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			So these are some of the ways of
		
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			dealing with this difficulty of time management.
		
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			May Allah Almighty grant us
		
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			blessed days in his obedience. When we have
		
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			fun, let it be limited to a specific
		
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			time that is not going to come in
		
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			the way of us and duties and obligations
		
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			we have. And may Allah Almighty grant us
		
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			all goodness.