Mufti Menk – Dealing with Difficulty #18 Haters & Jealousy
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The importance of being aware of one's anger and jealousy is discussed, as it can negatively impact one's chances of entering parliament. The speakers stress the need to deal with haters and hater behavior in a spirit of peace and prosperity, as it is linked to a message of peace and prosperity. The speakers also emphasize the importance of protecting oneself from hateful behavior, warning oneself about potential scams, and connecting with Allah through prayer and consulting his commands. It is suggested that online hate and jealousy can negatively impact one's chances of entering parliament.
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Dealing with the difficulty of haters and jealousy
is not easy.
Nowadays, we're living in an age of social
media and technology, where haters make their hate
apparent.
At times,
hiding behind
anonymity,
and sometimes causing problems for us by saying
things and doing things that are derogatory,
belittling, sometimes that cause damage to us.
So remember one thing, I want to speak
on both sides of the coin. If you're
a person
who has hatred in your heart or you're
jealous of people, you need to remember it
ruins your chances of entry into paradise
in a proper way. And it also ruins
your good deeds if you have any. The
hadith says,
That jealousy eats away the good deeds in
the same way that
fire would eat a dry log.
So we need to remember if we want
to save ourselves,
be jealous of others.
Don't be jealous of others. Allah has provided
Allah gave them whatever you're jealous
of. Be it their position, be it their
knowledge, be it their wealth or their looks
or whatever else it may be their intellect.
Allah has given them all of this. It's
not them and it's not someone else. It's
your Lord. The one who made you is
the one who decides who is going to
get what. So if Allah has given them,
you are jealous of something that the Lord
has chosen.
In a nutshell, you're becoming a person who
has a problem with Allah.
That's why Allah says, it will eat away
your good deeds. So on this side of
coin, if you're a person who is jealous
or who has hatred,
then remember to deal with it to remedy
your heart.
Because
it's difficulty dealing with haters. But it's even
more difficult when you are a hater and
you don't even realize the damage of it.
So learn to spread peace, to spread goodness.
If you disagree with someone, do so in
a beautiful manner because you're a human. You've
been blessed with a brain and a capacity.
A capacity to be able to teach
and to be able to discuss and even
present positive arguments.
If you think that a certain issue requires
for you to raise your voice, you may
do so, but do so in a dignified
manner always.
It shouldn't be condescending and it shouldn't be
filled with hate.
When you spew that hate, especially against your
brothers and sisters,
It really it shows who you are and
what your own level is. More than what
it shows about the other person.
Now, we speak of the other side of
the coin.
If you are a victim of haters,
you need to ask yourself,
where are they attacking me or how is
it affecting
me? Many times they would be attacking on
social media in today's day and age.
Sometimes around the workplace, sometimes
at home, sometimes in the neighborhood, sometimes at
school or college,
sometimes maybe on public transport or in the
public, they show you their hate.
You need to realize, firstly, we protect ourselves.
Read your
your verses of protection
everyday.
The last 2 Suras of the Quran have
in them
powerful words. An example is in Surat Al
Falak,
Oh Allah protect me from the evil of
the hater or the the jealous person when
he is jealous. And jealousy and hatred are
quite connected
because a person who's jealous of you wouldn't
really like you. And similarly, a person who
hates you could end up becoming jealous
of what you have. So although they are
not exactly the same thing, they are somehow
intertwined and interconnected.
My brothers and sisters, reading these surahs and
some of the supplications
that the prophet Muhammad, peace be upon him,
has taught us on a daily basis will
protect you from the evil effects of the
hater.
We may not be able to stop the
hater or stop the jealous person. That's why
the Quran says
from
the evil
of the jealous person when he is jealous.
So
we need to read that and be convinced
that they cannot harm you. They will never
be able to affect you negatively. Don't let
it bother you, make you scared.
Don't let it make you suffer anxiety.
You need to learn to understand we're on
earth. On earth, there are all sorts of
people. There are good people, there are bad
people. Perhaps the majority may be good people,
but unfortunately,
even good people can have
a straight or 2 or a quality or
2 that is not good. So it's normal
to have a good person, and 1 or
2 things about them may not be that
good. But predominantly
they're lovely people. Masha'Allah. I have weaknesses and
so do you. It doesn't make me a
bad person. I need to work on these
weaknesses and keep trying. But I should try
not to affect others because I fear the
day I'm going to go back to Allah
Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala.
Haters will not be able to harm you.
In fact,
Allah will cause your success as a direct
result of their hatred if you bear patience.
In Surat Yusuf, the brothers became jealous of
their own brother. They began to hate him.
They planned his downfall.
As a result of that jealousy, that hatred,
they planned his downfall. They did something to
him. But Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala had a
plan such that the same thing they did
was going to result in him long term
being elevated
way above them. This is why if someone
speaks about you online,
look at who they are. Sometimes they are
not worth responding to. Many people use a
path of becoming famous by attacking those
online who might have a little bit of
popularity.
As you grow up the ladder of your
wealth, your fame,
you've got nothing. In fact, there is a
couplet in the Arabic language that says, the
worst person is the one who spends a
day without anyone being jealous of him or
her, because he's got nothing.
So the minute you have something, expect it.
The haters are there. And subhanAllah, it's not
easy to distinguish
at times between a hater and the one
who sincerely wants to advise you and correct
you. But there are a few red flags
you look for.
If someone has swiped at you in public,
remember that's a red flag, perhaps they're haters
and they don't mean well. If someone meant
well, like if we mean well for someone,
we would then
go to them in a dignified manner in
privacy and let them know how we feel.
If it is a matter that we feel
is important for people to know, we would
give them a chance. We would actually try
hard with them and we may want to
highlight to the people to protect general people
from the harm of the particular thing that
may be done.
However,
if it is something between them and Allah,
then don't go out exposing them and belittling
them because that's not a good thing. If
someone has done it to you, remember
Allah is your Lord. They're not your Lord.
You need to connect with Allah
a lot of prayer. Look, the prophet
was told
And indeed we know that
your chest is being tightened by what they're
saying, which means it's affecting you. You know,
the tightening of the chest could mean so
many things.
It's definitely
a sadness. In another verse, Allah says,
indeed, we know whatever they're saying is making
you sad.
But Allah says,
declare the praise of your Lord.
Or you could say,
powerful supplication, declaring the praise of Allah and
declaring the glory of Allah and declaring that
he is the one who has all the
might and the power.
Nobody can harm you besides Allah. There are
so many other supplications that you need to
learn regarding
this type of
hate and the type of
jealousy that people may have, how to protect
yourself from it. So Allah Almighty says whatever
they've said, don't worry.
Declare the praise of your Lord and be
from among the prostrators.
Pray, pray
more. Be in prostration.
Prolong your prostration
and you will find comfort in it
and worship Allah right to the end until
the day of your death.
Connect with Allah. It should be such a
solid connection
that no matter what people say or do,
it will have the smallest
impact upon you, if any at all.
May Allah Almighty protect all of us and
grant us ease.