Mufti Menk – Dealing with Difficulty #18 Haters & Jealousy

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The importance of being aware of one's anger and jealousy is discussed, as it can negatively impact one's chances of entering parliament. The speakers stress the need to deal with haters and hater behavior in a spirit of peace and prosperity, as it is linked to a message of peace and prosperity. The speakers also emphasize the importance of protecting oneself from hateful behavior, warning oneself about potential scams, and connecting with Allah through prayer and consulting his commands. It is suggested that online hate and jealousy can negatively impact one's chances of entering parliament.

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			Dealing with the difficulty of haters and jealousy
		
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			is not easy.
		
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			Nowadays, we're living in an age of social
		
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			media and technology, where haters make their hate
		
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			apparent.
		
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			At times,
		
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			hiding behind
		
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			anonymity,
		
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			and sometimes causing problems for us by saying
		
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			things and doing things that are derogatory,
		
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			belittling, sometimes that cause damage to us.
		
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			So remember one thing, I want to speak
		
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			on both sides of the coin. If you're
		
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			a person
		
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			who has hatred in your heart or you're
		
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			jealous of people, you need to remember it
		
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			ruins your chances of entry into paradise
		
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			in a proper way. And it also ruins
		
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			your good deeds if you have any. The
		
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			hadith says,
		
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			That jealousy eats away the good deeds in
		
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			the same way that
		
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			fire would eat a dry log.
		
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			So we need to remember if we want
		
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			to save ourselves,
		
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			be jealous of others.
		
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			Don't be jealous of others. Allah has provided
		
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			Allah gave them whatever you're jealous
		
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			of. Be it their position, be it their
		
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			knowledge, be it their wealth or their looks
		
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			or whatever else it may be their intellect.
		
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			Allah has given them all of this. It's
		
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			not them and it's not someone else. It's
		
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			your Lord. The one who made you is
		
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			the one who decides who is going to
		
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			get what. So if Allah has given them,
		
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			you are jealous of something that the Lord
		
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			has chosen.
		
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			In a nutshell, you're becoming a person who
		
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			has a problem with Allah.
		
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			That's why Allah says, it will eat away
		
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			your good deeds. So on this side of
		
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			coin, if you're a person who is jealous
		
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			or who has hatred,
		
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			then remember to deal with it to remedy
		
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			your heart.
		
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			Because
		
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			it's difficulty dealing with haters. But it's even
		
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			more difficult when you are a hater and
		
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			you don't even realize the damage of it.
		
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			So learn to spread peace, to spread goodness.
		
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			If you disagree with someone, do so in
		
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			a beautiful manner because you're a human. You've
		
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			been blessed with a brain and a capacity.
		
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			A capacity to be able to teach
		
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			and to be able to discuss and even
		
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			present positive arguments.
		
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			If you think that a certain issue requires
		
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			for you to raise your voice, you may
		
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			do so, but do so in a dignified
		
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			manner always.
		
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			It shouldn't be condescending and it shouldn't be
		
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			filled with hate.
		
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			When you spew that hate, especially against your
		
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			brothers and sisters,
		
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			It really it shows who you are and
		
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			what your own level is. More than what
		
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			it shows about the other person.
		
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			Now, we speak of the other side of
		
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			the coin.
		
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			If you are a victim of haters,
		
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			you need to ask yourself,
		
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			where are they attacking me or how is
		
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			it affecting
		
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			me? Many times they would be attacking on
		
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			social media in today's day and age.
		
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			Sometimes around the workplace, sometimes
		
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			at home, sometimes in the neighborhood, sometimes at
		
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			school or college,
		
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			sometimes maybe on public transport or in the
		
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			public, they show you their hate.
		
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			You need to realize, firstly, we protect ourselves.
		
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			Read your
		
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			your verses of protection
		
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			everyday.
		
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			The last 2 Suras of the Quran have
		
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			in them
		
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			powerful words. An example is in Surat Al
		
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			Falak,
		
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			Oh Allah protect me from the evil of
		
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			the hater or the the jealous person when
		
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			he is jealous. And jealousy and hatred are
		
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			quite connected
		
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			because a person who's jealous of you wouldn't
		
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			really like you. And similarly, a person who
		
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			hates you could end up becoming jealous
		
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			of what you have. So although they are
		
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			not exactly the same thing, they are somehow
		
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			intertwined and interconnected.
		
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			My brothers and sisters, reading these surahs and
		
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			some of the supplications
		
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			that the prophet Muhammad, peace be upon him,
		
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			has taught us on a daily basis will
		
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			protect you from the evil effects of the
		
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			hater.
		
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			We may not be able to stop the
		
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			hater or stop the jealous person. That's why
		
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			the Quran says
		
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			from
		
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			the evil
		
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			of the jealous person when he is jealous.
		
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			So
		
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			we need to read that and be convinced
		
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			that they cannot harm you. They will never
		
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			be able to affect you negatively. Don't let
		
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			it bother you, make you scared.
		
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			Don't let it make you suffer anxiety.
		
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			You need to learn to understand we're on
		
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			earth. On earth, there are all sorts of
		
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			people. There are good people, there are bad
		
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			people. Perhaps the majority may be good people,
		
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			but unfortunately,
		
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			even good people can have
		
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			a straight or 2 or a quality or
		
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			2 that is not good. So it's normal
		
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			to have a good person, and 1 or
		
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			2 things about them may not be that
		
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			good. But predominantly
		
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			they're lovely people. Masha'Allah. I have weaknesses and
		
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			so do you. It doesn't make me a
		
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			bad person. I need to work on these
		
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			weaknesses and keep trying. But I should try
		
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			not to affect others because I fear the
		
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			day I'm going to go back to Allah
		
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			Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala.
		
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			Haters will not be able to harm you.
		
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			In fact,
		
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			Allah will cause your success as a direct
		
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			result of their hatred if you bear patience.
		
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			In Surat Yusuf, the brothers became jealous of
		
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			their own brother. They began to hate him.
		
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			They planned his downfall.
		
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			As a result of that jealousy, that hatred,
		
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			they planned his downfall. They did something to
		
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			him. But Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala had a
		
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			plan such that the same thing they did
		
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			was going to result in him long term
		
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			being elevated
		
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			way above them. This is why if someone
		
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			speaks about you online,
		
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			look at who they are. Sometimes they are
		
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			not worth responding to. Many people use a
		
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			path of becoming famous by attacking those
		
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			online who might have a little bit of
		
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			popularity.
		
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			As you grow up the ladder of your
		
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			wealth, your fame,
		
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			you've got nothing. In fact, there is a
		
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			couplet in the Arabic language that says, the
		
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			worst person is the one who spends a
		
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			day without anyone being jealous of him or
		
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			her, because he's got nothing.
		
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			So the minute you have something, expect it.
		
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			The haters are there. And subhanAllah, it's not
		
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			easy to distinguish
		
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			at times between a hater and the one
		
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			who sincerely wants to advise you and correct
		
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			you. But there are a few red flags
		
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			you look for.
		
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			If someone has swiped at you in public,
		
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			remember that's a red flag, perhaps they're haters
		
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			and they don't mean well. If someone meant
		
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			well, like if we mean well for someone,
		
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			we would then
		
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			go to them in a dignified manner in
		
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			privacy and let them know how we feel.
		
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			If it is a matter that we feel
		
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			is important for people to know, we would
		
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			give them a chance. We would actually try
		
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			hard with them and we may want to
		
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			highlight to the people to protect general people
		
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			from the harm of the particular thing that
		
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			may be done.
		
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			However,
		
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			if it is something between them and Allah,
		
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			then don't go out exposing them and belittling
		
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			them because that's not a good thing. If
		
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			someone has done it to you, remember
		
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			Allah is your Lord. They're not your Lord.
		
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			You need to connect with Allah
		
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			a lot of prayer. Look, the prophet
		
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			was told
		
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			And indeed we know that
		
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			your chest is being tightened by what they're
		
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			saying, which means it's affecting you. You know,
		
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			the tightening of the chest could mean so
		
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			many things.
		
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			It's definitely
		
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			a sadness. In another verse, Allah says,
		
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			indeed, we know whatever they're saying is making
		
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			you sad.
		
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			But Allah says,
		
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			declare the praise of your Lord.
		
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			Or you could say,
		
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			powerful supplication, declaring the praise of Allah and
		
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			declaring the glory of Allah and declaring that
		
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			he is the one who has all the
		
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			might and the power.
		
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			Nobody can harm you besides Allah. There are
		
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			so many other supplications that you need to
		
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			learn regarding
		
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			this type of
		
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			hate and the type of
		
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			jealousy that people may have, how to protect
		
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			yourself from it. So Allah Almighty says whatever
		
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			they've said, don't worry.
		
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			Declare the praise of your Lord and be
		
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			from among the prostrators.
		
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			Pray, pray
		
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			more. Be in prostration.
		
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			Prolong your prostration
		
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			and you will find comfort in it
		
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			and worship Allah right to the end until
		
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			the day of your death.
		
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			Connect with Allah. It should be such a
		
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			solid connection
		
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			that no matter what people say or do,
		
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			it will have the smallest
		
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			impact upon you, if any at all.
		
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			May Allah Almighty protect all of us and
		
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			grant us ease.