Mufti Menk – Dealing With a Marriage Proposal
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The speaker discusses the difficulty of proving oneself on behalf of others and suggests setting a date to get married to someone who is independent. They also mention the importance of praying for Allah's actions and letting them know if they fail. The speaker also talks about wanting to try everything possible, including getting a visit from the person on behalf of others.
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May Allah make it easy. I know Muslims
who've left Islam who were born Muslims
a few of them
and that's a
cheap excuse.
You know, ignorance, like I say, lack of
faith, lack of iman, that's what happens.
I would like to think set yourself
a date
Beyond which
you can get married to him without his
folks. It's easier this way
if he is independent from them The problem
comes when he depends on them for his
living. Then I don't have a solution.
It's difficult.
But if he's independent, he can be kind
to them, be nice to them, he can
get it done without them, and he can
let them know, listen, I'm doing this, and
they can kick him out, they can do
whatever, and but you just be nice and
kind. I know that it's so difficult to
say, well, for how long should I just
be nice and kind to them? Sometimes it
takes a few years, but imagine it takes
3 years out of another 30, 40 years
of marriage, 50 years of marriage. 3 years
was worth the sacrifice.
But the 3 years when you're going through
it seems very very long.
We pray that Allah make it easy for
you and you know what if I had
it my way I would actually I wouldn't
mind calling on those folks
and proposing on your behalf.
I wouldn't mind. I don't mind.
I can get it done. We
inshallah. Later on, I get the details and
inshallah, we
can at least pay them a visit or
give them a phone call and let them
know, listen, this is who I am. And
I'm speaking on behalf of so and so.
And, inshallah, we wanna try and get this
done, and let then let's see what they
say.
Masha'Allah. We pray that Allah soften their hearts.
And that's another thing you you you also
need to always do, just pray, oh Allah
soften their hearts, soften their hearts. And then
there's one last thing I wanna say, if
we're gonna try all our trials,
if we're gonna try all our trials and
we fail in everything, you need to firmly
believe that Allah knows it was not good
for you.