Mufti Menk – Dealing With a Marriage Proposal

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The speaker discusses the difficulty of proving oneself on behalf of others and suggests setting a date to get married to someone who is independent. They also mention the importance of praying for Allah's actions and letting them know if they fail. The speaker also talks about wanting to try everything possible, including getting a visit from the person on behalf of others.

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			May Allah make it easy. I know Muslims
		
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			who've left Islam who were born Muslims
		
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			a few of them
		
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			and that's a
		
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			cheap excuse.
		
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			You know, ignorance, like I say, lack of
		
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			faith, lack of iman, that's what happens.
		
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			I would like to think set yourself
		
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			a date
		
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			Beyond which
		
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			you can get married to him without his
		
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			folks. It's easier this way
		
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			if he is independent from them The problem
		
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			comes when he depends on them for his
		
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			living. Then I don't have a solution.
		
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			It's difficult.
		
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			But if he's independent, he can be kind
		
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			to them, be nice to them, he can
		
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			get it done without them, and he can
		
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			let them know, listen, I'm doing this, and
		
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			they can kick him out, they can do
		
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			whatever, and but you just be nice and
		
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			kind. I know that it's so difficult to
		
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			say, well, for how long should I just
		
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			be nice and kind to them? Sometimes it
		
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			takes a few years, but imagine it takes
		
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			3 years out of another 30, 40 years
		
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			of marriage, 50 years of marriage. 3 years
		
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			was worth the sacrifice.
		
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			But the 3 years when you're going through
		
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			it seems very very long.
		
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			We pray that Allah make it easy for
		
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			you and you know what if I had
		
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			it my way I would actually I wouldn't
		
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			mind calling on those folks
		
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			and proposing on your behalf.
		
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			I wouldn't mind. I don't mind.
		
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			I can get it done. We
		
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			inshallah. Later on, I get the details and
		
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			inshallah, we
		
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			can at least pay them a visit or
		
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			give them a phone call and let them
		
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			know, listen, this is who I am. And
		
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			I'm speaking on behalf of so and so.
		
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			And, inshallah, we wanna try and get this
		
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			done, and let then let's see what they
		
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			say.
		
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			Masha'Allah. We pray that Allah soften their hearts.
		
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			And that's another thing you you you also
		
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			need to always do, just pray, oh Allah
		
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			soften their hearts, soften their hearts. And then
		
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			there's one last thing I wanna say, if
		
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			we're gonna try all our trials,
		
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			if we're gonna try all our trials and
		
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			we fail in everything, you need to firmly
		
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			believe that Allah knows it was not good
		
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			for you.