Mufti Menk – Can You Choose NOT To Be Intimate

A lot of the times nowadays you have

many feminists who talk and it's open. They

say, I don't need to be intimate. What's

the issue? Well, in the eyes of Allah,

there is an issue that this whole issue

of you getting married is in order to

be able to do certain things in a

halal way. If you are going to block

that, you're defying the entire purpose of the

whole marriage. Why did you get married in

the first place? So you would be held

liable in the eyes of Allah. Similarly, if

it was the opposite way around, women would

cry foul to say, listen, this guy is

not satisfying me. We've had hundreds of cases

come to our he's not satisfying me. This

guy is like this. He's like that. He's

gay or whatever they say. End of the

day, we have to tell him, hey, listen,

you need to fulfill the rights. Why is

it that when it's the other way around,

we think it's okay. He needs to fulfill

my rights, but I don't need to fulfill

his rights. What do you mean? It goes

2 ways. Habibi, it goes 2 ways. And

this is such a topic. People don't talk

about it. If there is any woman out

there who thinks that I just have a

choice completely in Islam, then unfortunately the Islam

you're following is not the same Islam that

came with the Prophet