Mufti Menk – Building Bridges Through Adversity – Hong Kong

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The speakers discuss the importance of interaction and sharing among people to fulfill one's goals. They stress the need to interact with others in a way that helps the individual achieve their desired goals. The importance of finding a good partner, avoiding toxic behavior, and building a strong faith and deduction system for children is emphasized. The speakers also emphasize the importance of finding a partner who is the best fit for the situation and avoiding distraction and interactions with people. The segment ends with a recap of the day and week.

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			As-salāmu ʿalaykum wa-rahmatullāhi wa-barakātuh.
		
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			Bismillāhi wa-l-ḥamdu lillāhi wa-s-salātu
		
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			wa-s-salāmu ʿalá Abdullāhi wa-rasūlihi Muḥammad
		
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			wa-alá ālihi wa-sahbihi ajma'īn.
		
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			When Allah Almighty created us, He made everyone
		
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			of us unique.
		
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			We've said that before and we're repeating it
		
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			now.
		
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			And one of the reasons He made us
		
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			unique, one of the many reasons is because
		
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			He wants us to earn a reward by
		
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			interacting with others in a way that we
		
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			would require adjustment in order to get on
		
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			with those who are closest to us in
		
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			relation and in proximity.
		
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			So that means if you have a brother,
		
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			same mother, same father, and you are in
		
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			the same home, you've grown up, and you've
		
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			actually become slightly older, there will be differences
		
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			between you and your brother come what may.
		
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			Part of your reward is to get on
		
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			with the person who is related to you,
		
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			this brother of yours, to adjust in a
		
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			way that you would fulfill each other's rights.
		
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			That's part of the plan of Allah.
		
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			No two people are the same, even if
		
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			you're twins.
		
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			This is part of the plan of Allah.
		
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			And that's why He emphasizes so many times
		
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			in the Qur'an, and it is emphasized
		
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			in the sunnah of the Prophet Muhammad, peace
		
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			be upon him, to fulfill and to go
		
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			out of your way to extend to a
		
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			relative and fulfill his or her rights or
		
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			their rights.
		
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			Those who are related to you.
		
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			Allah, if He wanted, He could have made
		
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			us almost identical, but we're not.
		
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			He wants to reward you.
		
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			He wants you to learn, navigate.
		
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			Do you know what it does for you?
		
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			It gains you closeness to Allah.
		
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			You endured some of the hardship you might
		
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			have faced from that particular person.
		
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			Obviously there's a level, there's a line beyond
		
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			which you may not want to live together
		
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			or you may want to step back a
		
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			little bit.
		
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			But we're talking of the norm.
		
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			Most of us, you earn closeness to Allah,
		
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			you develop yourself as a human.
		
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			If you refuse to interact with a difficult
		
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			person, you're not going to develop.
		
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			Learn to interact with tough people.
		
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			Learn to interact with those who are abrupt.
		
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			Learn to understand the way people might be
		
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			for whatever reason that may be or for
		
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			no reason.
		
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			But if you are able to navigate through
		
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			the relationships with people who are difficult, you
		
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			are a developed person.
		
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			You are a very mature person.
		
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			You are a master.
		
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			You are a person who Allah has blessed
		
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			with the ability to get on with those
		
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			whom others don't get on with.
		
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			People, when they are born, they are born
		
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			upon fitrah.
		
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			It's the nature.
		
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			It's natural.
		
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			It's something that if they were left alone,
		
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			they would have grown up with certain ideas
		
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			and beliefs and norms that would have been
		
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			purer than if they interacted like we all
		
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			do.
		
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			You are very closely influenced by those who
		
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			were around you when you were young.
		
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			Very closely.
		
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			That's part of the plan of Allah.
		
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			مَا مِن مَوْلُودٍ إِلَّا وَيُولَدُ عَلَى الْفِطْرَةِ The
		
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			hadith of the Prophet ﷺ states that there
		
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			is no one who's born except that they're
		
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			born upon nature, natural.
		
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			Something that is very, very natural.
		
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			Allah Almighty allows that person to grow based
		
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			on whoever is close to them.
		
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			If you lost your parents and you were
		
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			brought up by a caregiver, you will speak
		
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			the caregiver's language.
		
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			You will learn their habits.
		
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			Whatever they tell you, you will believe.
		
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			It's programming that is much more sophisticated than
		
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			that of a computer.
		
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			If your people around you as you grew
		
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			up kept on telling you, this is a
		
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			good thing, you will believe that's a good
		
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			thing.
		
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			Even if it is absurd like what we
		
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			see on earth today.
		
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			Some absurd things.
		
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			People believe this is normal, this is natural.
		
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			Why?
		
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			Because that's what you were told from the
		
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			point of you being young.
		
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			People are not prepared to accept values and
		
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			morals that are common logic and they are
		
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			perhaps Islamic or to do with faith and
		
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			religion simply because when they were young and
		
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			they grew up, they were bombarded day in
		
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			day out that this is total nonsense whereas
		
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			it was not nonsense, it was the right
		
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			thing.
		
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			And that's why we have a clash today
		
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			on the globe where people say, this is
		
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			absolutely normal, it's natural but it's not, it's
		
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			unnatural.
		
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			And then there is an argument between East
		
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			and West in most cases, what is actually
		
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			natural and what is not.
		
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			I've seen people marrying trees.
		
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			A tree, can you imagine?
		
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			Now if you're marrying a tree and you're
		
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			going to look after children, they will all
		
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			want to marry trees.
		
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			And then when you and I go to
		
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			them and tell them, you know what, marrying
		
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			a tree is actually something absurd, they'll tell
		
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			you, you are the one who's mad.
		
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			It's happening on earth today.
		
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			Yes, I'm glad you're laughing.
		
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			May Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala bless us.
		
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			It's laughable, but then when you laugh in
		
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			the next 20 years, they will jail you
		
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			for it.
		
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			Yes, they will jail you for it.
		
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			So remember, this is Allah's plan.
		
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			Allah Almighty wants the upbringing to be pure
		
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			and good.
		
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			That's why I say, do not yell at
		
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			your kids.
		
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			I know it's tough.
		
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			All mothers who have more than a kid
		
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			or two will say, come on Sheikh, you're
		
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			telling a...
		
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			even fathers sometimes.
		
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			Avoid it to the best of your ability.
		
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			Ensure you use respectful words.
		
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			That one you have to do.
		
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			If you raised your voice a bit, maybe
		
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			you might be excused to a degree.
		
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			But, if you have really tortured your own
		
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			child, that will come out and play out
		
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			20 years later and you will suffer the
		
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			consequences of that because of what you did
		
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			earlier and you don't even realize.
		
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			We have people who have tortured their children.
		
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			People who have molested their own kids.
		
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			Treated them badly.
		
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			Exposed them to things they were not supposed
		
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			to be exposed to at a young age.
		
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			And then they grow older and they are
		
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			suffering and struggling because of something that happened.
		
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			So, if we want to talk about relatives
		
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			and community and the storm and everything, you
		
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			got to start off right at the beginning.
		
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			To say, build.
		
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			Yesterday in my speech, I said something very
		
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			interesting that Allah teaches us to have a
		
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			mechanism in place before the storm.
		
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			تَعَرَّفْ إِلَى اللَّهِ فِي الْرَخَاءِ يَعْرِفْكَ فِي الشِّدَّةِ
		
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			Get acquainted with Allah during days of ease.
		
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			And then watch what happens when the storm
		
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			comes.
		
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			Allah will get acquainted with you.
		
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			Didn't we say that yesterday?
		
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			Today, I'm telling you, if you want community
		
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			and you want family and you want those
		
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			around you, I'm going to show you why
		
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			you definitely need them in a moment.
		
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			But, it starts off from the very beginning.
		
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			When you are choosing a spouse, choose a
		
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			good person.
		
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			You know the hadith says, فَذْفَرْ بِذَاتِ الدِّينِ
		
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			Be victorious or be a winner by choosing
		
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			someone who has deen.
		
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			You know what that means?
		
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			That means you must develop your own deen
		
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			within yourself to begin with.
		
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			What's the point of looking for someone with
		
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			deen?
		
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			You don't have deen.
		
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			Deen meaning your faith, your closeness to Allah,
		
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			your religion.
		
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			When you're getting married, you see looks.
		
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			Looks, very important.
		
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			You got to see someone, there has to
		
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			be a spark, a little bit of a
		
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			spark, so that you know what?
		
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			Wow, I'm attracted, mashallah.
		
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			There has to be a little bit.
		
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			But that's not everything because Allah has created
		
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			us in a way that there is nobody
		
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			who has everything.
		
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			Not one on earth, no one.
		
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			If you're very good looking, you might not
		
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			be so intelligent.
		
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			And if you're good looking and intelligent, you
		
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			might not be so religious.
		
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			And if you're religious and good looking and
		
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			intelligent, guess what?
		
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			You might have another issue with your temper.
		
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			Your character might not be that grand.
		
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			So something, somehow you're going to have to
		
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			compromise.
		
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			Allah says, don't compromise religion.
		
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			Everything else, you can always make it happen.
		
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			Sometimes you see someone stunning and they say,
		
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			wow!
		
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			And then they'll tell you, but that's not
		
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			wife material.
		
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			Have you heard that happening?
		
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			Why?
		
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			Because I can't imagine this person being the
		
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			mother of my kids.
		
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			Oh, if you're thinking that way, I'm impressed.
		
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			Oh, I'm impressed.
		
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			That's the right way of thinking.
		
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			However, what are you doing?
		
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			That initial marriage and the choice of marriage,
		
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			if you were a sharp, intelligent, wise person,
		
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			you would think about it deeper than just
		
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			the looks.
		
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			And you would say, I'm going to be
		
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			living with this person for the next 50
		
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			years, for example.
		
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			And inshallah, if Allah blesses us with children,
		
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			I'd like to see my kids like this.
		
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			Like this.
		
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			And this is both ways.
		
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			I'm not talking about men or women alone.
		
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			Both.
		
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			So when that happens, you're building the child
		
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			before the child is even born.
		
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			Because you've already put in place mechanisms to
		
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			ensure that if something does happen here, I'm
		
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			okay.
		
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			I've got someone at home who's going to
		
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			look after and appreciate, appreciate your family, appreciate
		
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			your children, praise them, build them, show them
		
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			respect, show them what you would like them
		
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			to be.
		
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			That's why we say, if you're not praying
		
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			and you've got kids, oh, what will happen
		
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			to those kids?
		
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			I know there are instances where kids are
		
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			praying and the parents are not.
		
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			But that's because of some other factor.
		
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			Maybe their friends, maybe the school they went
		
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			to, maybe some videos they might have watched
		
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			that were good.
		
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			But generally, if the parents are not interested
		
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			in something, in most cases, the kids are
		
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			not bothered.
		
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			They don't even know.
		
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			May Allah strengthen us.
		
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			Once you have that, and you're ready to
		
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			build your own family, do you know what?
		
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			You realize you cannot live on earth alone.
		
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			You can't.
		
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			People say, I just want to go, stay
		
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			on my own.
		
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			Okay.
		
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			I'll give you a small, silly example.
		
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			Say, I fell down right now.
		
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			Every one of you will be bothered about
		
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			this.
		
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			Hey, quickly take him to the hospital.
		
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			Someone will rush.
		
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			These guys at the front, they don't even
		
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			know me properly.
		
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			They would jump and they would come and...
		
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			Why?
		
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			Because you are my community.
		
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			You are my people.
		
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			We are together.
		
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			You are bothered.
		
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			If you had to raise a million for
		
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			something really, really desperate, I think we would
		
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			raise two million.
		
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			You can't do it alone.
		
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			On earth, you can never do it alone.
		
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			You think you can.
		
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			You think you want to be on your
		
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			own.
		
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			Do you know there is a blessing to
		
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			interact with extended family that is beyond the
		
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			toughness of the situation, but only if you
		
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			understand.
		
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			Again, I must say, I'm not talking about
		
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			toxic relations.
		
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			Because there is always a line beyond which
		
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			you can't let me, you can't force me
		
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			to interact when someone is so toxic.
		
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			It's affecting my brain.
		
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			But what we are telling you is, try
		
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			your best to adjust to people.
		
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			They have adjusted to you too.
		
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			Your way of talking is not the best
		
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			way.
		
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			My way of talking is not the best
		
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			way.
		
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			Look in to yourself and change yourself.
		
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			Ask yourself, how can I develop the way
		
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			I speak?
		
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			How can people do dirty, nasty things online,
		
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			offline, in certain circles, and Wallahi, if you
		
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			were to look at them, you would never
		
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			believe such a pious looking person could actually
		
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			do that.
		
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			Right?
		
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			There are two types of sins.
		
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			You can categorize sins in many ways, but
		
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			one of the ways of categorizing it, two
		
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			types.
		
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			One is the sins involved between you and
		
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			Allah, and the other is the sins involved
		
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			between you and another creation or creature of
		
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			Allah, mostly human beings.
		
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			If someone's committed a sin between them and
		
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			Allah, Allah can forgive them and will forgive
		
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			them.
		
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			Just by you saying, oh Allah forgive me,
		
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			I'm sincerely asking you, I was wrong and
		
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			strengthen me, I don't want to do this,
		
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			really, it was a...
		
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			What are those sins?
		
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			Say for example, a person drank alcohol.
		
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			Say for example, a person committed adultery.
		
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			Say for example, a person might have overslept
		
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			their prayers or something of that.
		
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			What happened?
		
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			Wrong things happened between you and Allah, and
		
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			you sought forgiveness.
		
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			Allah wipes it out in one flash.
		
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			One flash.
		
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			Don't ever doubt the forgiveness of Allah.
		
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			It's a sin between you and Allah.
		
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			It is there, we agree, it's wrong, I'm
		
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			human, I'm weak, I am not a perfect
		
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			soul, but my Lord will forgive me.
		
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			Yes He will.
		
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			Yes He will.
		
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			For as long as you are determined and
		
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			you are trying and you are sincere and
		
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			you are genuine and so on.
		
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			But the other type of sin is worse.
		
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			Why?
		
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			Because Allah wants you to interact.
		
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			Community will only be able to grow when
		
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			each individual within the community cares for the
		
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			other.
		
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			And you know what?
		
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			You as an individual will only be able
		
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			to grow if you're within a community that
		
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			cares that particular way.
		
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			Subhanallah.
		
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			You might say, nah, I'm alone, I earn
		
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			my money, I'm fine, I've got my online
		
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			business, I'm doing whatever.
		
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			I don't need people.
		
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			You know what?
		
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			You need people to buy from you as
		
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			well.
		
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			You're so good with your customers and clients
		
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			just because you want them to buy five
		
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			bucks from your shop.
		
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			Hi!
		
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			Hello!
		
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			How are you?
		
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			Walking, please!
		
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			Would you like tea or coffee?
		
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			If you told that to your own family
		
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			member, wallahi, you would have had a better
		
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			life.
		
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			I remember meeting, and I don't mean to
		
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			be weird or anything, but it's a fact.
		
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			I remember meeting a sister who was an
		
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			air hostess on a certain airline.
		
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			And she came to me and told me,
		
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			I need to talk to you if you
		
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			don't mind.
		
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			And I said, nah, it's okay.
		
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			She says, Muslim and mashallah, a lovely person.
		
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			May Allah bless them all and grant them
		
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			goodness.
		
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			She says, I've got a problem.
		
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			And her problem was within her marriage because
		
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			of journeys.
		
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			And I said, you know, I don't mean
		
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			to be weird.
		
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			But the way you were smiling at everyone
		
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			and trying to serve them, have you ever
		
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			tried that at home?
		
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			She felt offended.
		
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			She was offended.
		
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			I said, I don't mean, think about what
		
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			I'm saying.
		
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			Because faces changed instantly, you know?
		
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			And I said, well, if you're paid to
		
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			smile here, right?
		
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			You're paid.
		
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			Ask him to pay you.
		
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			Probably help.
		
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			And then I said, no, no, you know
		
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			what?
		
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			On a more serious note, all I mean
		
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			is if the problem is it's the interaction.
		
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			That's not on the level it is.
		
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			What happens to us a lot of the
		
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			times, you work, you're tired, you come back
		
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			home and you don't realize you have to
		
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			put an effort in the relationship.
		
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			You have to come back and you have
		
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			to smile and you have to say good
		
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			things as an act of worship more than
		
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			anything else.
		
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			You have to.
		
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			A lot of the men are guilty.
		
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			You come home, you throw your feet up.
		
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			You're on your phone.
		
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			You want to eat.
		
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			And then what happens?
		
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			You've ignored your spouse and your kids.
		
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			They don't even know you exist.
		
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			They just see you and they're going to
		
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			be worried about not making a noise while
		
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			you're there.
		
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			Let them cry.
		
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			Enjoy it.
		
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			The other day, there was a child on
		
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			the aircraft crying, crying her lungs out, a
		
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			little baby.
		
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			And I went up to the parents who
		
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			were trying their best, shaking the child.
		
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			You know, you shake your child.
		
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			Shaking too much.
		
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			I think maybe the child was crying because
		
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			of being shaken up.
		
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			And so I told the parents, I said,
		
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			don't worry.
		
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			Let the child scream her head off.
		
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			It's okay.
		
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			Let the child do because that's what children
		
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			do.
		
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			But what you're doing as adults, adults are
		
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			not supposed to be doing this.
		
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			No one's going to say there was a
		
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			particular person screaming and yelling because it's a
		
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			child.
		
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			The most they might say, especially when they
		
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			don't have kids of their own, they'll say,
		
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			I had a bad flight.
		
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			There was a child making a noise, right?
		
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			That's the most.
		
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			But a lot of the people who have
		
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			their own children, they won't even remember what
		
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			happened.
		
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			So I was sitting right near them and
		
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			I said, it doesn't bother me.
		
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			This is music to my ears.
		
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			I have had 10 of those.
		
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			How's that?
		
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			And they were so relieved.
		
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			Oh, wow.
		
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			And then the miracle happened.
		
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			I said, can I try taking the baby?
		
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			Guess what happened?
		
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			Yes, you guessed it.
		
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			I took the little baby and she was
		
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			quiet.
		
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			And then I said my statement that always
		
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			makes me pat myself on the back.
		
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			You know what?
		
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			Because you're stressed, the child feels the stress.
		
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			Because I'm calm, the child knows there's calmness
		
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			here.
		
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			Come on.
		
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			I'm standing in front of you literally screaming,
		
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			but you didn't realize I was screaming, did
		
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			you?
		
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			Do you know why?
		
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			There's a reason.
		
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			Think about it.
		
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			But nonetheless, Allah's created us in a way
		
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			that He wants you to earn a reward
		
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			by interacting.
		
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			I will interact with you no matter how
		
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			tough you are.
		
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			Up to a line.
		
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			When I say up to a line, it's
		
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			like an indemnity saying, you know what?
		
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			Beyond this point, no ways.
		
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			If someone's making you crazy, someone's abused you,
		
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			they've stolen from you, they've hurt you, they've
		
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			harmed you.
		
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			You give them a chance, two chances, the
		
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			third time you kick them off.
		
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			It's okay.
		
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			It's out.
		
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			I don't need this anymore in my life.
		
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			You have a capacity as well, but push
		
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			your capacity.
		
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			Push it.
		
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			You know, when divorce happens, we always say
		
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			it should be the last resort, right?
		
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			Not the first.
		
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			Oh, I had a problem.
		
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			This guy came home and he didn't look.
		
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			I want to go home.
		
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			Relax.
		
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			Chill.
		
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			Chill.
		
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			It happens to everyone.
		
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			Almost everyone.
		
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			Navigate through it.
		
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			Talk about it.
		
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			Communication is important.
		
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			The tough questions.
		
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			He might come up with a reverse argument
		
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			and highlight something that you need to change.
		
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			Perhaps.
		
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			And you highlight.
		
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			Give and take.
		
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			The point is sacrifice for those whom you
		
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			live with.
		
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			Sacrifice for them.
		
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			Sacrifice for your community.
		
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			Make the time.
		
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			Go.
		
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			Attend.
		
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			Participate.
		
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			Because alone, you can't do it.
		
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			You have to for whatever it is, you
		
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			have to always interact with people.
		
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			That's why Allah says in the Quran, وَلَا
		
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			تَنسَوْا الْفَضْلَ بَيْنَكُمْ Don't ever forget to be
		
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			kind, good, virtuous towards one another.
		
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			You alone, you can't make it.
		
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			Imagine I go to the school.
		
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			I want to look for a place for
		
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			my kids.
		
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			When I go there, I'm going to have
		
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			to be on best behavior.
		
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			Guess what?
		
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			If I've been volunteering for the community, they
		
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			will look at me and say, Oh, mashallah
		
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			my brother.
		
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			How are you?
		
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			What would you like?
		
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			I need a place.
		
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			Ah, there's no place.
		
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			But don't worry, we're going to make a
		
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			plan.
		
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			What happened?
		
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			It was the community.
		
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			It was the interaction.
		
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			That's what happened.
		
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			I've had no relation whatsoever.
		
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			They won't even make a plan.
		
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			I come in with an attitude like I
		
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			deserve things.
		
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			They will tell me, even if they have
		
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			a place, sorry my brother, there's no place
		
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			here.
		
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			Meaning for you.
		
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			Right?
		
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			So, you have to use your mind.
		
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			Allah wants you to interact.
		
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			You're going to need a doctor in life.
		
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			You have to have some relations.
		
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			You're going to need, if you were in
		
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			a house, living all alone happily, one day
		
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			something happens, there's a fire.
		
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			Do you want your neighbors to say, fire
		
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			next door.
		
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			In the morning I'm sure we'll see it
		
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			all burnt down.
		
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			Let's go to bed.
		
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			Is that a believer?
		
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			No.
		
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			If you had a small relationship with, what
		
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			the Prophet s.a.w. says, when you're
		
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			cooking something, when you're making a stew, perhaps
		
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			you might want to consider the neighbors and
		
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			put a little bit more in terms of
		
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			the water content.
		
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			Water content.
		
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			And send them something.
		
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			Why?
		
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			It's to build a community.
		
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			To build a relation.
		
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			So much so that the hadith says, Jibreel
		
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			s.a.w. kept on coming and telling
		
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			the Prophet Muhammad peace be upon him about
		
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			the rights of neighbors.
		
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			Neighbors not even related to you.
		
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			Why?
		
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			Until a point where the Prophet peace be
		
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			upon him says, I thought that he would
		
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			one day come and say that if you
		
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			were to pass away, these people share your
		
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			inheritance including your neighbors.
		
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			But he didn't say that.
		
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			But I thought he would.
		
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			That's how much he kept on advising me
		
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			and telling me.
		
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			Why?
		
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			Have you ever thought about why is your
		
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			neighbor so important in Islam?
		
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			In fact, the hadith says, those who harm
		
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			their neighbors have no place in paradise.
		
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			That's a hadith.
		
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			Those who harm their neighbors have no place
		
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			in paradise.
		
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			That's a hadith.
		
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			Why?
		
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			Allah wants you to go out of your
		
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			way.
		
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			He knows you're going to have a tough
		
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			neighbor.
		
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			He knows you're going to.
		
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			And by the way, when you're moving into
		
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			a neighborhood, it's your duty as a Muslim
		
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			to ensure that it's a good neighborhood.
		
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			Before you purchase a home, take a quick
		
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			look at the neighborhood.
		
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			How is it?
		
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			Will I fit into this neighborhood?
		
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			How's my neighbors?
		
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			How are the people?
		
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			You don't want to go into a neighborhood
		
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			and you're the only guy who's I was
		
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			about to say straight, but yeah, you can
		
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			say that.
		
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			May Allah grant us steadfastness on the straight
		
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			path.
		
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			Ameen.
		
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			They may be non-Muslims, no problem.
		
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			They may be people who are different from
		
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			you, different race, no problem.
		
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			All of that is good enough.
		
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			For as long as they're not toxic people
		
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			who have no morals, no values, no standards,
		
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			and they're going to keep harming you.
		
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			In that case, even if the deal is
		
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			so beautiful, I don't want to shift into
		
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			this neighborhood.
		
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			You're going to have to build a community.
		
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			Why?
		
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			When the storm comes, my brothers and sisters,
		
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			community is key.
		
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			You know, in different countries, different things have
		
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			happened.
		
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			I don't want to go into details of
		
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			the disasters.
		
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			Some man-made, some natural.
		
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			Can I tell you what?
		
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			The mosques have played a big role in
		
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			bringing the people together, in serving Muslims and
		
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			non-Muslims.
		
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			In Kenya, when there were riots recently, people
		
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			were saying that the masjid in the central
		
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			part of Nairobi opened the doors for the
		
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			people, generally, whoever you are.
		
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			One example out of a million.
		
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			What happened?
		
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			That's community, man.
		
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			Looked after us.
		
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			One day floods came in one area, and
		
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			this has happened more than one time.
		
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			What happened?
		
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			Everyone stood up for each other.
		
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			We looked out for each other.
		
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			We ran.
		
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			We went from one place to another with
		
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			little boats, trying to save people we don't
		
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			even know.
		
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			Imagine you had no relation or a bad
		
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			relation.
		
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			They would say, dying.
		
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			May Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala protect us.
		
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			They would want to drown you even without
		
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			there being a flood.
		
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			Astaghfirullah.
		
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			I hope that's not the case.
		
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			But nonetheless, all this requires a sacrifice.
		
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			Without adjustment, it's not going to happen.
		
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			Today we're seated here.
		
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			I'm sure there's some VIPs sitting somewhere in
		
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			the middle.
		
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			We're all VIPs in a way, but not
		
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			everyone can be sitting in the front.
		
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			If you're sitting second row, be happy.
		
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			If you're sitting somewhere in the middle, be
		
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			happy.
		
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			I know I'm an important guy, but alhamdulillah
		
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			I'm part of the ummah and I'm going
		
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			to sit.
		
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			That is taught to us in the masjid.
		
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			What happens in the masjid?
		
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			Straighten your rows.
		
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			So you can't look at all those with
		
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			money?
		
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			Come to the front.
		
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			No, it doesn't happen.
		
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			You can have a person wherever they're from,
		
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			however they are, whoever they are.
		
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			You have a right to stand right in
		
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			the front.
		
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			I remember a guy who accepted Islam in
		
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			the masjid, in my presence, and I told
		
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			him, it's time for prayer, let's pray.
		
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			And he says, okay, should I just go
		
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			to the back?
		
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			I said, no, no.
		
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			You stand right in the front, right behind
		
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			this imam, slightly to the left, because immediately
		
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			behind him there needs to be someone who
		
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			knows what to do in case something happens
		
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			to him.
		
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			That's a hadith.
		
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			That the people behind the imam, immediately behind
		
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			the imam, should be people of knowledge or
		
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			people who know what to do in case
		
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			something happens to that imam.
		
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			And it's happened in various mosques.
		
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			Not so often, but it happens.
		
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			Where the imam, something happens to him and
		
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			the person from behind needs to take over.
		
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			How do you take over?
		
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			A lot of people don't even know.
		
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			So then why are you standing right behind
		
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			there?
		
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			Nonetheless, everyone else you can stand, and he
		
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			was shocked.
		
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			He says, I just became a Muslim and
		
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			I'm standing in front, right in the first,
		
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			and I'm looking at all these born Muslims
		
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			behind me.
		
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			You know what?
		
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			That's Allah telling you, you are a member
		
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			of the ummah.
		
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			Equal.
		
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			That's what it is.
		
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			Everything becomes irrelevant.
		
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			When you go for Hajj Umrah, irrelevant.
		
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			When you die, irrelevant.
		
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			The people with money are not going to
		
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			be resurrected in a VIP line.
		
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			No chance.
		
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			The VIPs are only the ones who are
		
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			closer to Allah.
		
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			That's his day.
		
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			Maliki yawm al-din Allahu Akbar.
		
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			The owner of the day of judgment is
		
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			Allah.
		
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			He will decide, hey, you guys come into
		
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			the shade here.
		
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			You guys, come into the shade here.
		
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			What's happening?
		
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			These are the people who were worried about
		
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			the shade of that day.
		
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			So they found out, how can I get
		
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			the shade of the day of judgment?
		
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			Well, there are so many categories of people
		
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			who will achieve that.
		
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			If you wanted to be one of them,
		
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			alhamdulillah.
		
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			But the point is, if you were one
		
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			on your own, nothing would happen.
		
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			Be fair.
		
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			Be just.
		
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			Treat people with proper respect.
		
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			You build a community.
		
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			You build your family.
		
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			And learn to communicate even the tough matters.
		
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			Talk about them.
		
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			Speak.
		
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			Someone doesn't like what you're saying.
		
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			No problem.
		
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			Say it in a respectful way.
		
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			We need to solve this problem.
		
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			Talk again.
		
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			Speak again.
		
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			In our families, there are people who suffer
		
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			silently.
		
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			Can I tell you what's going on?
		
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			Reality of the globe.
		
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			The minute there is more than a 40
		
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			year gap between people, you have a generational
		
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			change.
		
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			The brain is slightly different in its way
		
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			of processing things.
		
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			So if I'm 50, anyone who's below the
		
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			age of 10, I might not understand their
		
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			way of thinking.
		
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			In some cases.
		
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			In a lot of cases.
		
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			So in the home, because I'm a disciplined
		
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			person, sometimes my kids, I'm saying me, but
		
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			I'm just giving an example, right?
		
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			Sometimes my kids might fear addressing certain matters
		
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			in my presence.
		
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			It happens to a lot of people.
		
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			Because why?
		
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			Out of awe.
		
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			Out of respect.
		
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			Out of whatever it might be.
		
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			I need to go out of my way
		
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			to have a relationship such that they don't
		
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			fear to address anything in the way they
		
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			want.
		
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			And I need to stand up, rise to
		
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			the occasion and tackle it.
		
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			You know why?
		
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			I have to build a family which will
		
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			become part of the community which is going
		
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			to be a part of the ummah where
		
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			the Prophet Muhammad, peace be upon him, says,
		
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			المؤمنون كالجسد الواحد إذا اشتكى منه عضو تدعى
		
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			له سائر الجسد بالسهر والحمى.
		
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			The مؤمنون, the ummah, the believers are like
		
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			one body.
		
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			Are like a body.
		
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			One body.
		
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			If a single organ is in pain or
		
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			hurt or injured, the entire body not only
		
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			feels the pain but has a fever and
		
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			suffers insomnia, cannot sleep.
		
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			What has happened?
		
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			You are struggling.
		
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			I'm in pain.
		
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			You have an issue.
		
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			I am bothered in a positive way.
		
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			I will never cheer on a negativity that
		
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			has been inflicted upon someone.
		
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			No chance.
		
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			No chance.
		
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			I will never cheer it on.
		
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			I will try to resolve them.
		
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			No matter who you are.
		
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			You have an issue.
		
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			It is my issue.
		
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			Let's help you.
		
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			If I cannot help you, I will pray
		
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			for you.
		
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			That's the least you can do.
		
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			Never ever say that I can't do anything
		
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			because that's never the case.
		
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			You can pray.
		
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			And can I tell you how Allah pushes
		
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			you to pray for others whom you know
		
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			and whom you don't know by telling you
		
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			when you pray for them, it's a prayer
		
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			for you and it's even more for you.
		
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			If I say may Allah grant you good
		
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			health my beloved mother and I tell you
		
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			that the angels are saying and grant him
		
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			good health too.
		
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			Allahu Akbar.
		
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			Allahu Akbar.
		
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			Why?
		
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			Because Allah wants you to do that.
		
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			Pray for each other.
		
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			If you are supposed to pray for each
		
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			other and the reward is so big, so
		
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			big that the angels make dua for you
		
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			then surely Allah wants you to do that
		
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			on a daily basis and for you to
		
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			be encouraged to pray for someone.
		
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			You have to have a good feeling towards
		
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			them.
		
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			Imagine seeing a person who you really don't
		
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			like.
		
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			Are you going to say oh Allah bless
		
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			them, grant them ease, grant them goodness.
		
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			Wallahi I do that.
		
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			I've built myself slowly but I'm not a
		
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			perfect so I'm very imperfect.
		
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			I have so many weaknesses.
		
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			If you were to know them, I would
		
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			not be able to stand here.
		
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			But I will tell you, try to work
		
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			on yourself.
		
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			Even if you hate me, I pray for
		
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			you.
		
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			May Allah bless you, grant you ease, grant
		
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			you clarity of thinking, give you paradise and
		
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			grant you the best of both worlds.
		
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			Do you know why I say it for
		
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			you?
		
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			I say it for you because I want
		
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			it for myself.
		
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			That's the reason I'm a little bit of
		
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			a businessman there, right?
		
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			Yes.
		
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			Are you struggling with health?
		
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			Go and visit those who are struggling.
		
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			You won't be struggling anymore.
		
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			Community.
		
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			Look at how we're talking about the storm.
		
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			But from an angle where family and community
		
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			has to be a part of it.
		
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			Allah tells you, Why?
		
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			Allah does not have mercy upon those who
		
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			don't have mercy on people.
		
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			Why?
		
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			Why?
		
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			Because Allah wants you to be merciful.
		
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			So what is being merciful?
		
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			Being merciful is when someone is totally unreasonable,
		
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			you at least do not harm them from
		
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			your side.
		
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			Because if someone is unreasonable and you're also
		
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			unreasonable, it's one-one.
		
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			Two unreasonable people, there they are in the
		
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			corner.
		
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			Yes, but if one is unreasonable and the
		
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			other one is not, the other one is
		
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			getting a reward and there is hope that
		
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			the problem will be resolved.
		
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			Are you a resolver of matters or a
		
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			creator of problems or are you a person
		
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			who doesn't mind leaving the status quo knowing
		
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			that it needs to be resolved?
		
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			I tell brothers and sisters who don't talk
		
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			to each other over money, over whatever it
		
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			might be, over their wives and whatever else.
		
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			I said, you know what?
		
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			Solve the problem before it gets into the
		
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			next generation.
		
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			Because what's going on now, cousins who are
		
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			lovely people on both sides don't talk to
		
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			each other and they call each other names
		
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			and they warn the world from the other
		
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			brother's children when the problem was not resolved
		
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			in that one generation.
		
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			That's why don't do that.
		
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			You're a believer.
		
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			For the sake of Allah, as difficult as
		
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			it may be, bring up the discussions, talk
		
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			about it again and again and again.
		
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			And sometimes you might need to compromise certain
		
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			things.
		
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			When I say certain things, I mean little
		
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			items.
		
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			I have a habit.
		
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			If something has happened with someone, I'll say,
		
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			I'm sorry.
		
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			You know why I'm sorry?
		
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			I'm sorry because that word I'm sorry might
		
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			solve the whole problem.
		
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			Might not have been my fault somewhere in
		
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			the back of my brain, but I don't
		
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			care whose fault it was.
		
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			Am I going to solve the problem?
		
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			I'm sorry.
		
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			But if that person is trampling again and
		
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			again, guess what I've done?
		
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			In very few cases in my life, I've
		
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			just taken such steps back that I really
		
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			wouldn't like to see that person again.
		
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			I've got a few like those and I'm
		
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			sure we all do.
		
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			I wouldn't like.
		
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			Why?
		
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			It's not a matter of hate.
		
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			I don't hate them, but it's a matter
		
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			of I don't want the pain of what
		
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			they may do in my presence or behind.
		
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			I don't even want to know.
		
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			Thank you so much.
		
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			And you know what I say?
		
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			May Allah bless them, grant them goodness, and
		
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			whatever.
		
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			There are so many haters online.
		
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			I'm sure you've seen some of them.
		
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			I'm talking to you about my own haters.
		
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			And the reason is because the minute a
		
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			person has a little bit of a following,
		
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			you always have a few people saying, they
		
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			don't even know you.
		
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			They don't even know you.
		
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			We're sitting in the hall.
		
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			We're breathing the same air.
		
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			They haven't even breathed the same air from
		
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			five kilometers.
		
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			They don't have a clue.
		
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			And they have a fat lot to say.
		
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			You know what?
		
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			I love them all.
		
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			All of them.
		
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			Without exception.
		
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			All of them.
		
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			And you know what?
		
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			May Allah give them goodness and paradise and
		
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			grant them comfort and ease because if they
		
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			have comfort and ease, at least they will
		
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			stop hating.
		
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			Yeah?
		
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			A lot of the times people hate on
		
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			others because their lives are in a big
		
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			quandary.
		
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			They are in a big mess.
		
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			They don't have the happiness you have.
		
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			So they start pointing at you.
		
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			They don't have a spouse like yours.
		
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			They don't have children like yours.
		
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			So it goes back to community.
		
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			Don't boast.
		
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			Don't show off.
		
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			That's a hadith as well.
		
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			The one who boasts and shows off, what
		
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			is it?
		
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			It's not an Islamic thing at all.
		
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			Do you know why?
		
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			Because the weak heart might look at it
		
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			and become jealous.
		
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			Jealousy is a trait.
		
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			It happens.
		
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			You want to show off LV.
		
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			But you didn't tell them this LV is
		
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			actually a fake one.
		
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			I just paid five bucks for it.
		
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			You didn't.
		
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			Looks like LV.
		
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			What's LV?
		
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			Yeah?
		
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			May Allah protect us.
		
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			And then they are jealous over something fake.
		
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			How's that one?
		
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			Sometimes there's no LV.
		
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			You get a little app that can put
		
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			the LV on without you having the LV.
		
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			How's that one?
		
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			And then everyone says, oh wow, did you
		
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			see what she's got?
		
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			And she's flashing it.
		
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			I mean, relax.
		
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			You are intentionally or unintentionally, probably foolishly, creating
		
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			and generating hate in a community that doesn't
		
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			need it.
		
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			Leave it.
		
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			It's okay.
		
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			I'm not saying don't have nice things.
		
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			If people know to say, mashallah, this guy
		
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			he's got a Rolex, bro.
		
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			Alhamdulillah.
		
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			As long as you didn't do Brother, do
		
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			you know what the time is?
		
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			May Allah grant us ease.
		
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			I saw a clip with some guy who
		
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			was trying to show off his Rolex and
		
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			he's saying he wants to point there and
		
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			he's pointing like this.
		
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			Did you see the clip?
		
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			He wants to show the guys the watch.
		
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			Is it that way there?
		
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			And he's showing the watch.
		
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			Astaghfirullah.
		
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			If that's the case, you're showing off.
		
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			But if they notice you've got a nice
		
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			thing and mashallah, you can afford it.
		
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			It's not haram to have it.
		
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			I don't want to mince my words.
		
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			It is permissible to have the latest and
		
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			can afford it.
		
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			You've paid your zakat and your charities, but
		
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			do not become oblivious of your connection with
		
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			Allah.
		
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			It's better to chill.
		
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			It's better to calm down.
		
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			It's better because do you know what?
		
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			In a world where people are struggling financially
		
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			and trust me as much as everyone's level
		
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			has gone up, life has become expensive.
		
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			So when life is expensive, we're busy eating
		
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			every day out showing the people that you
		
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			know what?
		
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			Look at what I'm eating.
		
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			Look at what I'm...
		
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			and they are struggling to put a plate
		
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			of food on their tables.
		
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			What's going to happen?
		
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			You're not building community.
		
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			You're creating a storm.
		
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			You're not solving the problem.
		
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			There's no point in doing anything unless you're
		
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			a food vlogger as they call them.
		
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			And I don't even want to comment about
		
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			what my opinion is about food vloggers because
		
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			you know what?
		
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			May Allah grant them good health.
		
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			I'm a salad man.
		
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			I think the people who are close to
		
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			me, they know that, right?
		
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			We survive on salads these days.
		
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			But nonetheless, look at how Allah has beautifully
		
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			kept reward in all the difficult things because
		
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			if it's needed, you must be a part.
		
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			Don't just withdraw.
		
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			It's okay.
		
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			I will sacrifice.
		
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			I will get up in the morning and
		
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			I know it's a tough day but that's
		
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			life.
		
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			In life, you have to sacrifice.
		
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			You know what?
		
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			The people I live with are not so
		
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			easy.
		
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			For as long as I can manage, I'm
		
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			going to make a change and it's going
		
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			to take me two years.
		
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			I'm going to try.
		
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			I must repeat for the umpteenth time that
		
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			there is a point beyond which you as
		
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			a human, you might want to step back.
		
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			You know what?
		
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			I tried this for five years.
		
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			I really can't.
		
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			It's bothering my mind, my health.
		
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			It's affecting me.
		
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			It's really destroying me.
		
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			I can't step away.
		
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			No problem.
		
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			You're a human.
		
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			Allah will not punish you because you tried
		
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			and you couldn't manage.
		
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			But Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala expects you
		
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			to try your best.
		
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			Even at a workspace, you're going into a
		
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			new workplace and you're going to have to
		
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			be introduced to people.
		
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			Some may like you.
		
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			Some may not.
		
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			Prove yourself.
		
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			But if you're a person who's a know
		
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			-it-all, that's it.
		
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			Argue with everyone, debate.
		
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			Chill.
		
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			Stop arguing.
		
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			A lot of us, because we're intelligent, we're
		
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			very argumentative.
		
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			We come across, we want to have a
		
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			say in everything, even if someone's talking about
		
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			oxygen.
		
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			We say, no, no, no, it's not how
		
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			you say it, it's how I say it.
		
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			It happens.
		
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			You know what?
		
00:36:41 --> 00:36:43
			Let them win the debate.
		
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			It's nothing.
		
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			When I was young, I used to argue
		
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			quite a bit.
		
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			I stopped it.
		
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			And I started distinguishing, is this a very
		
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			important topic?
		
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			No.
		
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			Then just smile at the guys.
		
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			And I know what you're saying is absolute
		
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			rubbish.
		
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			It's okay.
		
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			Makes you happy, makes you happy.
		
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			It doesn't really change the price of eggs
		
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			in Hong Kong, right?
		
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			It's okay.
		
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			It's fine.
		
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			But when there is something of importance, you
		
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			might want to have a beautiful, lovely, respectful
		
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			say.
		
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			And say, perhaps consider the fact that this
		
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			might be correct.
		
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			What did I do?
		
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			I didn't even push my opinion.
		
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			I just told you to think about it.
		
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			A lot of people do that.
		
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			They're intelligent.
		
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			They know how to talk.
		
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			They want to tell you, brother, the color
		
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			you're wearing is wrong.
		
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			Bright red, for example.
		
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			And you say, my brother, have you considered
		
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			wearing blue?
		
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			I think you'd look stunning in it.
		
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			I think you'd look more handsome.
		
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			No, I didn't.
		
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			What did you do?
		
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			You told him, don't wear this color.
		
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			But in a nice way.
		
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			Think about how you want to talk.
		
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			Why do we say this?
		
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			Community.
		
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			You're going to need this person one day.
		
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			You know, recently, I'm so sorry to word
		
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			it the way I'm going to word it,
		
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			but it's facts.
		
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			Expats who were looked at as people who
		
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			are low were the ones who came up
		
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			to help everyone.
		
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			As a result of which, respect for the
		
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			expats went up because people realized, hey, hey,
		
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			these guys are in our vicinity.
		
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			Something happens to our building, guess who's going
		
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			to help?
		
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			The toughest and roughest people.
		
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			And guess who they are?
		
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			They are the people who came from everywhere
		
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			else.
		
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			Here.
		
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			Did it need a problem and a storm
		
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			for you to realize that you've got to
		
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			be good and kind to the people?
		
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			Don't take for granted.
		
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			The simple greeting of someone where it's applicable
		
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			whenever you can.
		
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			Or at least a decent expression on the
		
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			face.
		
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			You know, there is...
		
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			many of us live in high-rise buildings
		
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			or buildings, right?
		
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			In countries like these.
		
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			I guarantee you, you don't know more than
		
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			2 people out of the 200 that are
		
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			living in your block.
		
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			Am I right or wrong?
		
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			Yes.
		
00:39:01 --> 00:39:01
			Why?
		
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			Because you haven't thought about it.
		
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			You haven't thought about it.
		
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			I'm not saying God have you a way
		
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			to know them, they might not want to
		
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			know you.
		
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			But at least make a small change.
		
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			If you've come across someone, interacted, at least
		
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			smile and give them a nod.
		
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			That's the least!
		
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			The least you can do.
		
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			Smile and...
		
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			That's what they do here, right?
		
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			Smile and give them a small nod.
		
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			What happened?
		
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			I don't speak your language, you don't speak
		
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			mine and I live in this building.
		
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			Guess what?
		
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			Don't worry, I'm a part of it.
		
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			MashaAllah, Tabarakallah.
		
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			If you're not going to do that and
		
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			you're going to frown and you're going to,
		
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			you know, have this...
		
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			Whenever there's an opportunity of interaction given to
		
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			you by Allah, you refuse.
		
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			What did you do?
		
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			You didn't think deep enough to build society,
		
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			community.
		
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			Anyway, today I spoke about your families.
		
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			Sacrificing for them, working on your children, working
		
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			on yourself, developing yourself, be hard on yourself
		
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			to become a better person.
		
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			Ask yourself, am I hurting people?
		
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			Do I say things, do things online, offline,
		
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			wherever it may be that would destroy community,
		
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			family, society?
		
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			Please don't.
		
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			Don't backbite about others.
		
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			If you want to talk about your mother
		
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			-in-law behind her back, only say good
		
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			things.
		
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			Can I tell you?
		
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			There is a religious reason for it, but
		
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			there is a social reason too.
		
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			The social reason is, news goes around.
		
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			Screenshots go around.
		
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			And you know what?
		
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			You will come crashing.
		
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			Look at the sisters laughing, they know what
		
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			I'm talking about.
		
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			That is the building of societies.
		
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			You want to say something about me behind
		
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			my back?
		
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			Say very good things or keep quiet.
		
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			In front of me, you can tell me,
		
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			hey, my brother, you know what?
		
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			You have X, Y, and Z that I
		
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			think you need to deal with.
		
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			A guy like me, I take it.
		
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			I say, thank you so much.
		
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			The other day, someone wrote a post about
		
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			me.
		
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			I went in the comments and said, thank
		
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			you so much.
		
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			Thank you so much.
		
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			Thank you so much.
		
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			That's it.
		
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			Consider what they're saying.
		
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			They might be right.
		
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			They might be wrong.
		
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			We're not perfect.
		
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			Even I'm standing here in front, I'm not
		
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			perfect.
		
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			I really would be very happy if anyone
		
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			sent me an email to correct a thing
		
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			or two.
		
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			I would be excited.
		
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			Why?
		
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			The only way you and I are going
		
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			to develop is when you are corrected.
		
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			And when you are thankful to be corrected.
		
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			And not everyone is going to correct you
		
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			in a way that you like.
		
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			Some of them might be abrupt.
		
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			Some of them might be distasteful.
		
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			But if they've corrected you and they are
		
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			right, change yourself and you won't regret having
		
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			changed.
		
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			No matter how it came to you, it
		
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			becomes irrelevant.
		
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			I've developed as a result of people telling
		
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			me, don't do this and do that, and
		
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			you did this and you did that.
		
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			That's how we grew.
		
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			If you're not prepared to be corrected, you
		
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			will never be a decent member of your
		
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			own family.
		
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			And of your own community and society.
		
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			May Allah Almighty grant us all peace, goodness,
		
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			success, and may we be a community that
		
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			really sticks for one another.
		
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			May we be able to reach out to
		
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			one another in whatever way we can.
		
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			When a storm happens, don't ever look at
		
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			others and say, why is that person not
		
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			doing this?
		
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			And why is this person not doing that?
		
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			You look at what am I doing and
		
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			if you know what you are doing is
		
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			to your capacity.
		
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			The others are not entitled to determine what
		
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			your capacity is.
		
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			You know your capacity and where you could
		
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			go to if you want to encourage others,
		
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			encourage them positively.
		
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			But if you are negatively going to bash
		
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			others for not doing what you think they
		
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			should have done, you're going to be destroying
		
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			society, community further and create more storms out
		
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			of one storm.
		
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			Rather than that, learn to be a person
		
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			who thinks before they do things and think
		
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			very deep and don't think with your emotions.
		
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			Try your best to be a reasonable person.
		
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			May Allah bless us all.
		
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			I conclude by saying this.
		
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			May Allah's peace, mercy and blessings be upon
		
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			the Prophet Muhammad.