Benefits of Forgiving Others

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Mufti Menk

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Delivered at The Excellency in Colombo, Sri Lanka as part of the Building Bridges Series Nov 2016.

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Todo bien la mina shavon yo Raji Bismillah

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Mina de la Mia.

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being a woman

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smilla rahmanir rahim al hamdu Lillahi Rabbil alameen wa salatu salam O Allah Shafi Gambia you will mousseline, Nabina Muhammad, Allah Allah He was happy here.

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We commence by praising Allah subhanho wa Taala by sending blessings and salutations upon Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, his entire household all his companions May Allah subhanho wa Taala his blessings be upon them all. And may Allah subhanahu wa taala bless every single one of us, I mean,

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my brothers and sisters in Islam,

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it is indeed a beautiful evening. And we have just been blessed with a considerable amount of rain. And you and I know that rain is generally considered the mercy of Allah subhanho wa Taala. It can also be considered the punishment of Allah subhanho wa Taala. When it is excessive, when it is too much, and this is why, when the rain is falling, we should ask Allah subhanho wa Taala to make it the rain of His mercy. And we should seek from the mercy of Allah for indeed it is a time of the acceptance of law. It is a time of acceptance of the supplications so whenever you see rain, and I think in this country, it's quite often you need to make your dress you need to ask Allah what you

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want what you want from Allah. And don't be petty when you ask Allah, one of the best things you can ask Allah is Guess what? forgiveness and the evidence of it is my beloved brothers and sisters when it comes to one of the biggest, or most auspicious nights of the entire year. And guess which night that is? Can someone tell me?

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Can someone say

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anyone? Laila Sami knows himself? Laila to cuddle? No, I did not agree with him. I didn't teach him the answer. He actually knew Mashallah.

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Laila to cuddle. Allah says in the Quran, Laila to Cody

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and Fisher, that Night of Decree is better than 1000

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months, more than 80 years 84 odd years one night. So what you need to know is on that night people were really wondering what should we do? It's a powerful night for you and I it's just a few hours, but in the eyes of Allah it is more valuable, more powerful than 1000 months. So what should you do on that night? Well, we are fortunate that the Sahaba were inquisitive or the Allahu anhu. The companions were inquisitive, starting with the wife of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, the pure and the mother of the believers are Isha Allah and her she says, oh, messenger, peace be upon him.

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If I were to witness the Night of Decree known as laylat will cut the way the tech deal is written. What is it that I should do? What is it that I should say? So the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam now you know if we asked today's scholars sometimes in some parts of the world, that you know what should I do? They will give you a whole list of things to do make you tired, they will tell you read this 1000 times read that 500 times go and read the entire Koran cover to cover read this read that or sometimes read one verse 5000 times and they will give you things that are extremely difficult I tell you, if what they have taught you comes from Carl Allahu Allah rasuluh it is

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relevant It is okay if it comes from Allah, his Kalam, His Word or the teachings of the messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, and the earliest of generations in that particular case, we will take it with its value. If not, we can discount it I tell you, this is the most powerful night and the Prophet sallallahu Sallam is being asked by his beloved wife,

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Mina robiola Juana What should I say? What should I do? What did he say? Hadith Sahih

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al Bukhari

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he says, say Allahu inaka fu to him, Bulava farfan li O Allah, you are most forgiving. You love to forgive. So forgive me Subhana Allah Subhana Allah as simple as that. So if you want to know what is the best supplication that you can make, seeking the forgiveness of Allah subhanho wa Taala indeed without a doubt,

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Oh ALLAH forgive me. I tell you, if you have the forgiveness of Allah, you have the love of Allah. If you have the forgiveness of Allah and you are seeking it, it shows you a link to with Allah. It shows you are bothered about Allah you are concerned about your relationship with him. You believe in him? Why would I ask for forgiveness from Allah? If I did not believe in him? Why would I ask for forgiveness? If I was not concerned about the hereafter seeking forgiveness goes to show you have a worry about the hereafter. So it shows that you are a Mormon and you have a man you have believed in you to seek forgiveness after your sin is actually a sign that you're a true believer either

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subotica Hashanah to Kawasaki or to Phantom Omen when your good deed makes you happy and your bad deed makes you sad. It is a sign that you are a true believer Subhana Allah it is a sign that you are a true believer.

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So your link with Allah subhanho wa Taala is strengthened when you seek forgiveness and Allah subhanho wa Taala will never ever reject that

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Toba.

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He will never reject your repentance for as long as you are genuine for as long as you are sincere. You know people come to you and they say Please forgive me. You say Okay, no problem. They do the same thing the next day. Please forgive me. Okay, no problem. They do it the third day, please forgive me. Hey, who are you playing with here? This is now three times and you say okay, this is the last time they come the fourth day Please forgive me my brother. You want me to keep forgiving you? What is it? How can you keep on doing this but I tell you what Allah subhanho wa Taala My beloved brothers and sisters, I promise you.

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If you are sincere and genuine, you promise not to repeat a sin. And somehow later on that sin is repeated due to your human nature, your weakness due to shape ons, plot or plan. Don't lose hope. Go back to Allah seek forgiveness again and promise him again that you are not going to do that. And Allah will forgive you again and again and again and again. And the million times stop falling into the trap of the devil by thinking that Allah will not forgive me because Allah says it clearly in a verse that is considered the verse was the most amount of hope in the Quran. Allah says boulia arriba de la Vina

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fusi him upon otomi rock metal

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by Jeremy, Omaha mozzarella,

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you are the messenger Go and tell the people the following. Whenever Allah says, it means Allah is telling his messenger, he's giving him the message to deliver. So it's part of the message. Allah is telling him You are the messenger. So deliver the following tell them something, oh my worshipers who have transgressed against me or who have transgressed against themselves in reality? Why does Allah say husafell Allah and fusi him, they have gone beyond the limits against themselves, because when you sin, it does not affect a lot.

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When you sin, it affects you. That's what happens. You are foolish because you are the one who did something bad.

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It does not affect Allah, it affects you. So Allah says, Go and tell those people who have transgressed against themselves, never lose hope in my mercy, never lose hope in the mercy of Allah for Indeed, Allah will forgive all your sins, he is most forgiving, Most Merciful. So the first trap of the devil is he makes you think you know what, I've committed the sin one too many times, and therefore it's over. No for me, I'm gone. I'm down. Never think that way. Remember this. Today we are speaking about forgiveness and the blessings that come about by the forgiveness of Allah subhanho wa Taala.

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What happens as a result of seeking forgiveness, and forgiving, and when we say forgiving here tonight, we actually want to concentrate on us forgiving others forgiving one another. And the fruits of it. What happens? I started off by mentioning Allah because obviously, we all need the mercy of Allah.

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We all need it. Put up your hand if you are perfect never sinned in your life. Put up your hand.

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I don't see even your baby finger going up. Subhana Allah. I don't see even your baby finger going up. Why? Because

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it's impossible for any one of us to claim that we've never sinned. We've never transgressed. We've never done something wrong. We've never done something unacceptable. Every one of us here without a single exception. There's been a time in our lives when we've done something and we know this is wrong or This is unacceptable. We know it. Imagine if Allah did not forgive what would happen. Imagine if forgiveness was not adore SubhanAllah. Imagine if we were taught not to forgive each other?

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How many mistakes do you make? How many mistakes do your children make?

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Would you not like to be forgiven for what you've done? You committed a sin against yourself

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against the command of a law against your spouse, against your children, against your parents, against your in laws, against your relatives, against members of your community against some Muslim against a non Muslim.

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It doesn't mean that the people are not Muslim. So it's okay I can commit sins against them. It's fine, that is warped, you will be punished because you have usurped the right of a human being Subhan Allah also a creature of the same maker who made you they are owed rights, your honesty when the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam entered the marketplace. He put his hand into some pile of dates that they was looking very nice. The dates were looking absolutely amazing, impressive dates. When he put his hand in, he found it wet and the bad dates were inside. So he looked. He says Madhava Sahiba. Miami. What is this owner of this food? What is all this man Hashanah? felice,

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Amina, whoever cheats us is not from amongst us. May Allah subhanho wa Taala. Grant us an understanding. So it's important for us to know that the non Muslims as well when they purchase from you, they should be given the deal that is absolutely honest, clear deal. That which is the best possible deal. Take a look at how Islam spread

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in a lot of parts of the globe. Through businessmen who are honest, they were honest, that's all their dealings. The same applies if you committed a sin against a non Muslim. Don't think that you can get away with it. You won't. You need to go and seek forgiveness from that man. This is I stole $5 from you. I'm very sorry. I seek your forgiveness. And here is the return of the $5.

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Wow.

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They will probably be surprised. I don't think Muslims would be stealing. I hope

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Not?

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May Allah subhanho wa Taala make things easy for us. So, would you like it? If nobody forgave you? Would you like it?

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Each one of you, myself included, Think for a moment, what you've done wrong and against whom you've done it. Sometimes it's a bad word. It's a swear word. It's backbiting. It is something evil. Maybe someone might have stolen some, someone might have actually committed huge sins, major sins, perhaps it could have happened.

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You could have hurt someone, you could have falsely accused them. You could have slammed it whatever else there is, so many sins are committed.

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What if there was no forgiveness? Nobody forgive you? What if they did not forgive you? And this is no way

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when we leave things, and I've heard some people say this, listen, I don't want to forgive. We will meet on the Day of Judgment. Have you heard that? We will meet on the day of piano, I will meet you on the Day of Judgment. Have you heard that? Yes, there are people who do it with passion, not realizing that's actually the wrong thing to say, while you're alive.

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While you're alive, keep trying.

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Why? Because when you get to the Day of Judgment, you know, you don't know which way the case is going to go. Trust me. You have no clue what may have happened in actual fact, sometimes you are so confident that the right was yours. Yet when you get to the court of Allah subhanho wa Taala you find out otherwise, and then what?

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But there is something even worse than that.

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I know I'm right. I know you are wrong. And I still tell you, I will meet you on the Day of Judgment. I don't want to forgive you. Okay, we now arrive on the Day of Judgment. You are standing I'm standing happily thinking you know what, today I'm going to fix you You stole my money. You are dead meat. today. It's over. You are going to burn you are going to pay for it. Imagine I know I was right. There was no doubt I was right. So when I get there, guess what? The judgment commences in my favor. Mashallah. I was right. So I want I'm proud, I'm happy What happened? I want that man was wrong. A good thing next to my name, a bad thing next to his name. Now what? Why did I say that?

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Don't tell people I will meet you on the Day of Judgment. Try and sort it out. Why did I say? Look, I've arrived on the Day of Judgment. I want it. It was mine.

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That was one case that you had with one man. Now come all the other cases that you have another three and a half 1000 cases that you have. When Allah looks at you, he will look at you with the eye of justice.

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And you cannot enter Paradise through the eye of justice.

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You can only enter Paradise through the eyes of mercy. Remember that?

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Because your Salah there was no concentration in it so we are at the court case we lost out on all our Salah why Allah says look, that was not acceptable. You tried and you did as hard as you could but you know what you used to say Allahu Akbar. And you used to think about your business. Think about a woman think about some sin you want to commit, think about the food that you want to eat as you go out here. And you know, there is brilliant food at Dynamo for example. So you want to go there and at the same time you are busy thinking about a we ordered the food for quarter past eight, this Imam here is taking too long. Allah says what type of acceptance do you want from me for that

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deed of yours? What happens? Your Salah is gone. Your good deeds are lost a lot deals with you justly. It's fair. Allah says Look, look at this deep Didn't you think like this? You say Yes, I did. Well, that Salah is out what if that happens, but when you have forgiven someone else in the world, Allah looks at you with the eye of mercy. You know what he can say to you? He can say hello.

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Is the recompense of goodness anything besides goodness, you forgive him. Today I forgive you enter Paradise.

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So don't think I will see you on the Day of Judgment. You might win one case. That's not the only case you're going to be fighting on that day. Yo Mata t cologne FC.

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FC on that day, every soul shall come defending itself. Each one wants to defend himself or Allah this or law that we will be fighting the cases one after the other. Imagine when some people have one court case. They are

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drained, they are drained. It affects their health. It affects their lives. It affects their wealth, it affects their relations, it affects everything. Imagine you have three and a half 1000 court cases one after the other, and that is a very moderate figure.

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So deal with people in a way that you would like a lot to deal with you remember that Kamata Dino today know how you treat others so you shall be treated. My brother, you did something very bad, you did something totally unacceptable. It is very difficult for me to forgive but you know what, I'm going to forgive you because I want the mercy of Allah. You don't even need to explain to them why you have forgiven them. But you know, that Allah subhanho wa Taala is watching you.

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Allah says, while mo savasana in

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amenas, mill Omu Mo, whoever bears patience, whoever restrains himself and forgives, then that is the best of affairs, that's the best thing you could do. A lie is telling you it is the best thing you could do to restrain yourself to protect yourself to bear patience and to forgive.

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It's amazing. Are you ready to listen to Allah and Allah subhanho wa Taala favors you with something else. When you hold something. It actually has a weight. Not in kilograms, but something worse than kilograms. Stress grams, if I can call it that. That's what it is. It has a weight.

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You did wrong to me, I held it against you. I didn't forgive you. So there's a weight here. Someone else did something another way someone else did something another way, my shoulders are tight. Everything is not you know, there are so many knots for example, on my shoulders, wherever else my back is being broken, everything is tight. The muscles are tight, everything is SubhanAllah. When I walk, I feel this burden. My mind, I frown more than I smile, because that's it. I have something against everyone.

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Save yourself. It is proven by research that the happiest of people are those who forgive others.

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It is proven by research that the happiest of people are those who forgive others. So do you want to be happy, will learn to forgive? What type of things should you forgive? Forgive as much as you can? You may not forget. That is something interesting. When we were young we used to hear a statement forgive and forget forgiven. Forget, when we grew older, we realize that you know what you can forgive, but not necessarily forget.

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Because 40 years from now, 50 years from now, I can sit and remember you know that brother did this to me. I forgave him. I still remembered it. I didn't forget it. I know it. Another thing is it's important not to sometimes forget so that you're not bitten from the same direction more than once. The Hadith says la Minami la mala attain a true believer is not bitten from the same hole by the same reptile twice.

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Which means this man did something very bad. This man did a business deal with me he stole my money and he went away. I forgave him but I'm not going to do business with him now. Nothing wrong with that. You are sharp, you are wise actually. Or if I do business with him now I'm going to make sure that I have some collateral that I'm holding so that if he tries his trick again, at least I will not suffer the loss. Yes, you are sharp. But if he comes to you, Brother, did you hear shake speaking forgive forget Mashallah, you know, it's okay. You say, Okay, I forgiven and I forgot it. The next day he comes brother, can I borrow loan again? You know, can I please can you give me some

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money? You know, can you lend me some money?

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Then what happens? You say yes, that give it to him? While he's shaking your head, you won't know whether it is a yes or no? Well as Anahata Allah forgive us.

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So you don't need to forget something after you forgiven him. That's not necessarily an Islamic teaching.

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Yes, if it is minor things and so on, forgive, forget. But major things remember them. Do not remember them in a way that you want to keep reminding people you know, you did this and I forgive you, you know that you did this and I forgave you don't forget, you. And 20 years later, you did this and I forgive you. No, we are not remembering things in order to remind people we are remembering things in order for us to be reassured. And for us to learn a lesson from it. I learned a lesson. This man did something really bad. This woman did something bad. I forgave him but the back of my mind is there. But I tell you something.

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Who are the people who are most deserving of

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Your forgiveness. That's a question.

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I told you when you forgive people, you are helping yourself, not them.

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Did you hear that? When you forgive people, you are helping yourself, not them. I forgave this man. I don't want to deal with him anymore. salaam aleikum wa Alaykum wa sallam, that's where it stops Alhamdulillah that's the minimum.

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But I forgiven him, it's okay I don't I walk. I'm a happy man. I concentrate on life. Someone owes you 20,000 US dollars. Okay, that's a big figure. Very big figure.

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You tried for one year you tried for two years, you tried for three years, you started becoming sick and ill and you have hope in your heart that you are going to get it back one day. And his financial condition is becoming worse and worse. You might want to there are two things you can do. If you are wealthy, you can write it off. That's all it's gone. And Allah will provide you more because Allah sees that you made some life easy for a person who is struggling, I will make life easy for you and I will make your hereafter easy for you to manifest our Muslim in kobata min COVID dunya. Allah

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and in another nation with dunya on Oprah, whoever alleviates the struggle of whoever overlooks or helps in the struggle of a fellow believer, Allah subhanho wa Taala says, I will help that person on the day of judgment and in one narration, I will alleviate the suffering of that person in this world and the next. So you want to alleviate your own suffering carry on. Allah will provide more for you in

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Zaku

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Allah is the owner of sustenance, Allah is

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Allah is the one who provides he will provide for you Don't worry. So one thing is to forgive but sometimes you need the money you are not in a position to actually forgive but you don't have to make it your main aim in life where you're walking, everyone you talk to the topic is someone owes you 20,000 everyone you go to you talking about the same thing, you don't have to do that. You are stressing yourself.

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You try, you employ whatever methods you have to in terms of legal methods and you want your wealth back and so on. But you need to understand, listen, help yourself by not making it your main aim in life work on something else. While you are concentrating on this thing. You are losing so many business opportunities, your mind is struggling you It affects you It affects everyone around you. When you have held grudges and you have not forgiven people. It starts affecting your relationship with your family members because you are upset. You come home your child is saying Daddy, Daddy or mommy say keep quiet. Sit down. Hey, they are supposed to be talking to you. You're someone did

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something wrong to you. Now you are doing something wrong to your children. As a result, you don't realize it's affected your character. So do your character a favor by forgiving them. Do your children a favor by forgiving them you will smile at home once again instead of frowning. May Allah subhanho wa Taala help us. So you forgive. There is so much of benefit. But who is the person who is most deserving? Or the people who are most deserving of your forgiveness?

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Who do you think they are?

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Who do you think they are?

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Your family members and those who are the closest in relation to you. They are the ones who deserve your forgiveness first.

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They were placed close to you.

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To test you. That's all. Allah chose them as your relatives.

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Today, your husband does one mistake. The marriage is over. Forget about everything else. Your car has a small demo. The car is gone. It's not a write off. That's not what you do. You send it to the panel beaters you repair the car you bring it back to the old faithful, you know your wife made one mistake. What happened? Divorce? What was the reason I there are 20,000 other girls running behind me.

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That's not the right way of doing things. They are probably running behind your money the minute the rupee drops, they also drop

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possible.

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May Allah forgive us.

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You need to work on the relationships you have someone commits a mistake. Forgive them. Today's advice to married people is when the spouse makes a mistake.

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Leave him go away. Divorce file for divorce. What happened? Oh, something minor something major. So what

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but as a believing female

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Believing mail when your spouse has done something wrong, you need to sit and seek Allah's forgiveness to begin with both of you.

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ask Allah for forgiveness when he forgives you and your slate is clean, you will be able to think properly.

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When you yourself have committed so many things, and you're not with a clean slate between you and Allah subhanho wa Taala How do you expect to think in the correct manner? Can you the answer is no, you cannot.

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So if you seek Allah's forgiveness to start off with before you even retaliate and respond,

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you will be guided by Allah.

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Calm down, it's a very big matter, come down

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and then see what they are saying, if they show a speck of remorse, you need to extend your hand, the hand of mercy. Yes, it is no remorse whatsoever. You might want to deal with it differently.

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But if there is a speck of remorse, who from amongst us, does not make mistakes.

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If that was the case, every one of us without exception would be divorced.

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May Allah subhanho wa Taala help us to save your marriage. Help your children by forgiving your spouse.

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One narration speaks about those who work for us, the people who work for us the helping hands. There is a narration in alpha m which speaks about forgiving them so many times in one day. How many times should I forgive them 70 times in the whole day. 70 times a day, those who work for me than my spouse 700 times a day.

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May Allah subhanho wa Taala help us.

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If those who work for you deserve that you forgive them so many times a day overlook. What about those whom you live with? Remember, your spouse will never be able to be exactly like you 100% thinking like you liking the things you like disliking the things you dislike, that won't happen. We are not robots, we are human beings with real hearts.

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So you need to appreciate one another and the diversity in one another. by forgiving by overlooking by discussing by communicating, that's how you will lead a beautiful life, you will never be able to lead a beautiful life if you hold things.

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And one day, you take out the book.

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Every day in the evening you write for wife, things that you are writing how much money you're making, and you keep the book, private.

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The book is hidden.

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Every night you're writing. Don't look at this book.

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One day when something happens, the suit that she was making, preparing for you perhaps over boiled, and it missed the stove and there was a smell that gave you a headache. That's it. Now you take out the book. Look, I've been writing all the things you've been doing. I want to show you what you've done. One to my brother, that's your spouse, what did you need to write everything from the back for? Let go?

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Let go of it.

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Subhan Allah, Allah will let go of you on the Day of Judgment. If you were caught doing the wrong thing, it's very, very possible that Allah will do that for you.

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But with your own spouse, someone whom you took into your relationship, the most intimate relationship that they could be With the name of Allah, you took that person and you hold every droplet of what they did against them. You have a sickness of doubt against your husband, against your wife, every small call every small movement, every movement of the eye every time they leave the house. That's it. He's committing sin, she's committing sin. If that's your attitude, trust me, you will never be able to lead a life it's not going to happen.

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That's not what you do.

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When a person comes and says, Look what I've been writing all along, why did you write it for me?

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It goes to show that your intention from the beginning was dirty. It was very dirty.

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May Allah subhanho wa Taala guidance. When you forgive your spouse you have helped yourself build a powerful relation. You learn to love one another.

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And when you have been forgiven by a spouse do not abuse it.

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They are not afforded Rahim they are not most forgiving, Most Merciful they might be able to forgive you once. If you are lucky twice. In a lot of cases it does not extend to a third

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They are human beings.

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But still we are taught to forgive as many times as we can. But when we have been forgiven, don't look at it as a weakness. It's not a weakness. Many people think, you know what, Where's she going to go? No way, and giving her life and giving her everything well, ah, he alone will catch you,

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alone will catch you.

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People think I can do what I want this woman here, I'm married to her where she going to go, she's got five children with me. And I've lived with her for how many years she can't do anything. She's got no one to go to her brothers and sisters are married her father and mother passed away and so on. Now, it's okay what I do to her, be careful.

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She might forgive you. You don't know that, that forgiveness is not a weakness, it's actually a strength. The more she forgives you the happy life between her and Allah, she will lead. And guess what? The fact that she has forgiven you does not necessarily mean

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that Allah subhanho wa Taala is pleased with you.

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It doesn't mean Ally's happy he's watching. He knows the record is taken, he can see. So therefore, please, Allah subhanho wa Taala by trying your best not to repeat the sentence. But I've really encouraged you to say the people who deserve your forgiveness the most are your family members,

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your wife, your husband,

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your children, your brothers, your sisters, your parents, your parents in law as well. They are also closely related to you forgive them, excuse them.

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And when we say forgive, we don't mean don't do something about it.

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Because sometimes your mother oppresses your wife. And it's happening in many homes. I used to think it's declining, but in actual fact, it's increasing.

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How dare we have a daughter in law in the house, and we really think she is just a maid without a salary. She must wake up at this time, we must give her an instruction, we will never praise what she does. And we must keep on treating her like she's just a maid and a slave. Do you really think Allah created the female in order to just get up and serve the mother in law? Or the father in law? Do you really think that was the reason of creation of the female? Do you not think she has a far greater purpose than something as low as that

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she's doing it for you as a favor. Appreciate it. I challenge all the mothers in law and fathers in law to appreciate what their daughters in law or sons in law, do for them. Show that appreciation, talk about it. Use your time to say it will be a witness for you on the Day of Judgment. They do a lot. So what they are tired, they will they may not get up when you want them to get up. Because they are tired, they are ill they may be sick, they may have children to look after you don't even know and you're holding it holding and you expect to be forgiven.

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You expect to be forgiven. How

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be kind with your words, my beloved brothers and sisters.

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And we have the opposite problem as well. And that is

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when these young people get married. And after that they divorce their parents.

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No matter how many times you utter the words of Allah to your mother or your father, it will not divorce them because those words don't work with them. They are irrelevant. When it comes to your parents.

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You still have to be kind to them. It's a test from Allah. It's a test from Allah. Allah gave you parents specifically. And he commanded you and instructed you to be kind to them, even if they are not Muslim. Be kind to them. Kindness, notice we did not say obedience because obedience is only within the instruction of Allah. If they ask you to do something, and it does not negate what Allah has said, you will do it for them. But if they ever asked you to do something against the command of Allah, you will not do it for them.

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So this is amazing. It's unique. My brothers and sisters, a relationship from Allah. You were born into those arms into those laps.

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You need to show some kindness in that direction. But the point I was raising was, it does not mean you forgive someone so you don't do something about it. You have to do something about it as well. So if there is oppression coming from one party to another, stop it somehow forgive them, but deal with it. say Look, my beloved mother

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I love you. We have forgiven your shortcomings.

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But I wouldn't like this to repeat itself again, you have to speak. I know of men who think it is virtuous to be silent and to watch your mother bulldoze through the whole house and destroy every religion and break every rule of Islam. But no, that's my mother. I cannot talk Says who? Says who? Which verse of the Quran says do not swear your meaning do not stop someone who is swearing, which most of the Quran says you must allow your parents to oppress everyone and anyone under your guardianship, your wife is under your guardianship. Be careful, deal with it kindly, you have been asked to be kind, kind. So speak to your mother with a smile with kindness, she might explode, she

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might get angry and upset. You keep smiling because that's your duty. But keep saying what you have to because you have to say you are the guardian of your spouse. You have to say it whether you like it or not, whether she likes it or not, whether he likes it or not, whether anyone likes it or not. You have to see when it's your duty to say it.

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May Allah subhanho wa Taala grant us happiness in our homes. Too many people are suffering in silence. And when that happens, we create hypocrisy in society and communities. We don't have an understanding we don't have a transparent relationship because too much grudge is in the heart. And then people start cursing into as soon as you see the rain instead of saying Oh ALLAH forgive me or destroy her like

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I heard that a lot except when it starts raining. So I'm waiting for the rain.

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To do what to make it to add to destroy someone. Why? For what make a beautiful to Allah forgive me. Once Allah forgives you, He will take care of you. He will look after me Allah subhanho wa Taala Have mercy on us.

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Do you know that when you forgive people,

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it develops your piety and closeness to Allah and Allah loves it so much. Listen to the verses Surah Al Imran verse number 133. And the next verse was

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illa violante mirabai Kuma Jun 18.

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To 130.

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In one car, we mean

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laughing while laughing

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well, ah who you

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see me. Allah says, race towards the mercy of Allah race towards the forgiveness of Allah subhanho wa Taala race towards the forgiveness of your maker and race towards a paradise that has been prepared.

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paradise that is so broad, broader than the Earth and the skies, broader than anything. Race towards that paradise that has been prepared for the 13 for those who are conscious of Allah for those who are fearful of Allah in a beautiful way. For those who love Allah enough to keep them away from displeasing Allah. When you love someone, you don't want to make them unhappy. So taqwa is to love Allah so much, that you stay away from sin. And you create a barrier between you and the displeasure of Allah or the punishment of Allah. So normally when we say DACA people say, the fear of Allah, it's a you it's a word we use but

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a true believer who has that piety is actually fearful of displeasing Allah, out of the love of Allah. I love Allah so much. I don't want to displease him. That is the proper taqwa.

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So Allah says race towards this paradise that is prepared for Turkey who

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was number 134 of surah. Allah Emraan describes them with tequila and Medina Yun Fei Hoon those who spend those who spend during days of ease as well as during days of difficulty. Not only those who spend when they have, even when they don't have they still spend. Remember, spending is not only monetary.

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You can spend so many things in the course of Allah you can give him time and at the same time you can spend from your character what's the point of giving money, but you have bad character bad behavior, you brag you hurt people, Allah says

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On

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sadati bout

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to say a good word and to forgive people is better than a charity that is followed by bad words.

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Did you hear what Allah says?

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To say a good word.

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And to forgive people is better than a charity better than all the money you have better than everything you want to give. If it is followed by a bad word I gave and I bragged about it. People have this habit they give you but they make sure they get in return more than they gave you.

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You have to be careful. Even a person like me sometimes you know you get offered freebies, freebies, meaning people are there, they offer you things, yes, if you know the brother or whoever it is your family member, a close friend of yours, someone and acquaintance, you have to know them, you've got to know them. It is Islamic to accept and give gifts. But you don't know someone they giving you a gift, the best thing for you to do, don't take it. I tell you why you will pay for it. More than you know.

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A lot of people today have this business policy I give you and I keep reminding you for the next 10 years, you know I gave you this thing here. My brother take it back please and I will give you double of it go stop reminding me what you did for me.

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So Allah says when you have bad words like those, it's not needed, it's better for you to just forgive people. Forgiveness is better Subhana Allah.

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So Allah subhanho wa Taala says, run towards the paradise which is prepared for those who are keen, who are they, they are the ones who spend during good days and during difficult days.

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And those who suppress their anger. Those who suppress their anger, when you want to really vent when you get so upset, and you just come down Allahumma salli ala nabina Muhammad, wa ala nabina Muhammad Anwar Baraka Salim stouffville last

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Allah What did I just do? I come down the sooner is to drink a bit of water or Oh Billahi min ash shaytani r rajim. If you are standing, sit down, you're sitting perhaps lie down a bit, so Han Allah. So Allah says, My Paradise is prepared for those who can suppress their anger, control your temper, you have paradise. Why? Because I will control my tempo when it comes to you. That's what it is.

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You wanted to you could you almost exploded. But you come down, you control yourself. You forgave. On the day when Allah will be so angry with those who have disbelieved.

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He will forgive you, he will look at you with the eyes of mercy. Because you used to look at the others with the eye of mercy. Because when you could

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vent your frustrations and your anger, you didn't you actually held back

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Subhana Allah so genma is prepared for who for those who get angry, but suppress it

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as soon as they can.

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Those who suppress their anger, they don't allow it to get to a point where it affects another person and getting angry to become angry is human nature. But as soon as it starts building in me, I start suppressing it. I think of Allah, I might read the Quran, I might make Hulu, I might start a bit of Salah, whatever calms you down, the sooner says like I said, I'll do Billahi min ash shaytani r rajim. Have a sip of water Subhan Allah.

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And the final part of that verse. Allah says,

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will Lahaina and in us we have prepared paradise for those who forgive other people.

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Did you hear that? Those are the most Akin. They are the ones who are conscious of me. Who are they? They are the ones who forgive others. You forgive others I have a paradise waiting for you. So panela these are powerful versus going check Surah Baqarah In fact, Allah

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Subhana Allah, amazing verses of the Quran.

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Allah has prepared gentlemen. And then Allah subhanho wa Taala says,

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well, ah who you will see me at the end of that verse. Allah loves those who do good. The mufa Syrian say it goes to show that these deeds are actually done and considered good deeds by Allah. And when you forgive someone, Allah writes you name among those who has done good deeds, because Allah says Allah.

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Allah loves those who spend. Allah loves those who

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control the temple. And Allah loves those who forgive others. And Allah calls them.

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And Allah says, I love them. Imagine.

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So what did you earn by forgiving someone by forgiving people, you earned the love of Allah. You forgave.

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Allah says he loves you mazing imagine for Allah to say I love those who forgive others. I love them. So you say, Oh Allah, it was so difficult for me to forgive this man. But

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I want you to love me.

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So I've swallowed my pride.

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And I forgiven him.

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So panela sometimes, and a lot of people say, I think that there is a contradiction. When we want to forgive people, and we want to protect ourselves from their harm in future. You forgive them, you don't hold anything against them, but you can minimize your relationship with them. You can, forgiveness does not mean you've got to go back, and you are with them every day. 24 seven, and you deal with them again, and I can forgive you, my brother, but I don't want to do any more dealings with you. I will still smile at you, Salam alikoum. How are you? When you phoned me, you want a bit of money, my brother, I will not be able to honor that. I won't be able to do that for you. I'm

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sorry. I would not like to do business with you. But my brother, I forgive you, and I love you and so on. But if you forgiven me, why don't you want to do business with me? Because I don't want to arrive at a situation whereby you seek forgiveness again.

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I'm doing you a favor by not dealing with you. So there's nothing wrong. Don't think that Islam has said that you forgive someone, it means you have to go back into their lives. And you have to go back to what the relationship was before. No, you might be foolish to do that. Sometimes. Sometimes you can, yes. Sometimes you can do that. Sometimes No.

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I'm just qualifying it to explain to you that there is no contradiction. May Allah subhanho wa Taala help us.

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In Sahih Muslim there is a narration of Abu hurayrah the Allahu anhu wherein he says something very powerful. He says the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, nobody's wealth has ever depleted because of a charity they've given which means when people give a charity, actually their money increases. Nobody's wealth has ever decreased because they gave charity. So when you have wealth, and you want it to increase, one of the ways is to be charitable, to give a portion of it away, so that it will actually multiply. That is the first part of the narration. Then he says that Allah subhanho wa Taala has never increased his slave in anything besides

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Allah.

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Allah has never increased his slave in anything besides honor and dignity, when he has forgiven another.

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So if you want to honor you want dignity you want respect, Allah will give it to you, when you forgive people who it is very difficult to forgive.

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How many of us are

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would be happy if we had respect, if we were honorable people considered noble, you want to be considered noble, one of the best ways is learn to forgive people.

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And the third part of the narration

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the Prophet sallallahu Sallam says, and never has a person humbled himself for the sake of Allah, except as a result, Allah has raised his status and elevated

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so if you want to become higher, humble yourself for the sake of Allah

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Subhana Allah, what a beautiful and powerful nation. May Allah subhanho wa Taala make it easy for us. Now one might say, you know you are talking to us about forgiving, and the benefits of forgiving and telling us so many things, but it's hard in real life. It's hard. It's difficult. How can I this man did this to me, that that woman did this to me, my wife did this. My this person did that. And so on.

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Well, ah he, I tell you for this reason, Allah subhanho wa Taala has sent us the example of Rasulullah Sahaba. He forgave so many times sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, he forgave people who

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we would not be able to forgive easily.

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In fact, if they were throwing stones at him

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Subhan Allah, he was bleeding, the most blessing droplets of blood to be created were being spilt.

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The angels come to him. They tell him that if you instruct us we can destroy these people.

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What does he say? Allah Murphy liko me for him number one is to forgive them. But two is to make to have for their forgiveness because you are worried what Allah will do to them?

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Are you following?

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One is for me to say brother, I forgive you.

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But he is most beloved to Allah so he knows that perhaps Allah will punish them. So instead of saying, Oh Allah, I forgive them. He says, Oh Allah, please forgive them. They don't know what they're doing. So

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imagine your enemy does something against you, nevermind your enemy, your beloved wife, your loving husband, he did something and you say, Well, I forgive him. Subhan Allah, Allah forgive her. That is more powerful than even saying, I forgive you. It's one step further.

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So you want to know what the prophet sallallaahu Selim did to his enemies? Well, here it is, he could have crushed them. And this is why they are powerful verses where Allah subhanho wa Taala explains. So often, Misha Allah says,

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to be run, out of food.

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In

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the last part of the verse is what I want to raise Allah says at the beginning, if you are to declare the goodness you do,

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or if you are to hide it,

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when you do good, you declared it or you hit it, Allah knows it. But Allah says that for ensuing when you forgive someone who did bad to you,

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then you need to know Subhana Allah

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that Allah is

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Allah is most forgiving. When you forgive someone you need to know Allah is even more forgiving than you are, he will forgive you as a result of you forgiving others. So one of the ways of attaining forgiveness for your own sins is to forgive others. I forgive this one, forgive that person forgive that one. Allah says I want you to know, Allah is more forgiving than you. Allah is our food. Our food actually means one who constantly forgives. But he is a deal, a deal meaning he is all able, why does Allah join the two qualities here, because Allah is telling you, I am able to punish you, I am able to destroy you. I am able to delete you, I am able to do what I want with you. But I have

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chosen to forgive you out of my mercy.

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Sometimes when people do bad to us, we don't really have many choices. We become angry, we become hurt, we become hard. The choices are very few. It affects our health, it affects everything. It affects our relationships, like I said earlier. So we say Oh Allah, I forgive this person forgive them. Mashallah, as soon as you forgive people, a mountain

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will fall will crumble from your back. straightaway, you feel so good. I felt good. I'm no longer worried. I no longer have this burden on my shoulders. So Allah says, You forget you did not have many options. We have every option there is in the book, but we will still forgive. That's the joining between our food and Paddy now Do you see it?

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This is why Allah says when you forgive others, don't worry. We can fix you up also for what you've done. But we won't we will forgive you. So the lysing Amazing, amazing how Allah actually instills within our hearts and minds hope. Allahu Akbar, may Allah have mercy on every one of us. And this is why Allah says

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what does

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he

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say?

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The recompense of an evil deed

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is something similar to it. Someone did bad to you, you have the right to do back bad to them, whatever they did to you, you have the right to do it to them, someone slapped you, you actually have the right to slap them back.

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But Allah says, knew, Allah subhanho wa Taala goes one step beyond. And Allah says, Whoever forgives and makes amends, his or her reward is with Allah. He might not see the reward in the world. We will show them if we want some of the reward in the world either through better health, the improvement of the quality of your life by you forgiving others.

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Your Life has improved the quality

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Have it improve you forget, but sometimes it might not. It may not Allah Don't worry, we've kept in store for you something great. Allah says we will forgive you Subhana Allah. So the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam in pif, he made a dua for them. And then Quraysh when the Prophet sallallahu Sallam came to them with a whole army, when the listen very carefully because this is absolutely important for you to understand Islam, and how Allah subhanho wa Taala His mercy comes before everything else, and how the Prophet Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam says,

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to

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me, Mama Karim, Allah Allah, I was sent in order to complete, good character.

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Beautiful conduct. In the verse, Allah says, orma.

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Me, we have not sent you for any purpose, besides being a source of mercy for Allah, Allah mean the whole worlds, the worlds

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we have sent you as a mercy for them. So what did he do? He marched on to Mecca for the victory of Mecca with an army that Quraysh would never be able to face. And this was the superpower of the time.

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And then he had them all and he could do what ever he wanted to them. He could do it.

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He did not choose to execute them. He did not say right, let's separate the Muslims from the non Muslims. And let's kill all these non Muslims and even the Muslims who don't belong to my little small group, kill them off, like what people are doing today in the name of Islam, claiming that they are the rulers of the Muslims across the globe. They are doing precisely the opposite of what Muhammad Sallallahu Sallam did. He looked at Quraysh who were the enemies who have killed the Muslims, who have you saved their land who committed atrocity after atrocity, who did the worst of crimes worse than anyone can think of the What did they do to Billa? Live? Nah, man, what did they

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do to Somalia? And what did they do to? What did they do to the companions? What did they do to all of them? Everything was fresh in the minds and the hearts of the muslimeen. But the Prophet sallallahu Sallam says Yama shockwaves

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are people of grace. What do you think I'm going to do to you today? You know, the crimes you've committed, you know how bad you were, you know what you've done? They were not Muslim.

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These were

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worse than the Jews and Christians. They were mostly SubhanAllah. of Makkah. Why I say worse is because they perpetrated heinous crimes against the Muslims.

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They were looking, they were memory, they were hoping they were worried. They did not know what to expect. And the Prophet sallallahu Sallam says to them, the famous statement, I tell you today, what my brother Yusuf Joseph, may peace be upon him, told his brothers is horrible. For until to

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go today, you are free, no retribution against you today go

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Subhana Allah, and we have people who read this.

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And they still commit atrocities in the name of the same man who did this. And they still think that that's Islam. And they still think that they are the leaders of the Muslims across the globe, and they still threaten and want to kill anyone who says that what they are doing is wrong.

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Is that Islam? Which profit Are you following?

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Which example Are you following? Here was a man who had a huge army and those who killed his own relatives were in front of him, and he decided to forgive all of them.

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Do you think he did that on his own? It was the instruction of Allah.

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It is inspired by Allah, it is revealed by Allah. He is the Messenger of Allah, in order to teach us how to live in order to teach us that when you have an enemy, your aim should not be to kill him, but rather to teach him and to guide him and to ask Allah for his guidance. So that at least if you were to be used to guide him, perhaps you would achieve a lot.

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This is the forgiveness. I have to cite for you something very powerful. The Battle of cable took place

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and they had surrounded

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the Jewish people.

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And this was a

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The time of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam and there was a day when the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam.

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It's a long duration, I'm only going to mention a part of it. When he says, Where is Ali? Vitali? Probably Allah one. Where is it? It's a long duration. Very interesting, perhaps On another occasion, but the point for today's topic is he gives olive oil the Allahu anhu the flag and the leadership and he says, orally you can go in,

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what are you going for? What was

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going for? He was going it was a war zone. What was it a war zone, he was facing the enemy.

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These are not some life people who are just you know, like the army, heavily armed people.

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And the

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one who is given the parting advice of Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam on that occasion, the last words, just before he went over

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the fort, they broke through into the fort. So as he was going, he says will lie. Or Allah.

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Allah, Allah He, I swear by Allah who is talking Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, I swear by Allah.

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Allah who

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didn't come in hamari nam? I promise you that if Allah uses you to guide a single one, single person, it is better for you than the most expensive of materialistic items in terms of conveyance that you have, and that was the red camel at the time.

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Imagine a warzone? Can there be anything more clear than that? Did the prophets of Allah services go there? wipe them out? Kill them, destroy them? Take them all out? And do whatever you want with them and make movies about it? Did you say that?

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No, this brutality, where did it come from?

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chair is the messenger of peace be upon him clearly telling Ali in a war zone. He's going to face people who are heavily armed. He's saying oh Ali, I swear by Allah, your primary aim. Subhana Allah is to understand if one person is guided through you, it is better for you than anything else.

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This is why my brothers and sisters, the people we interact with, the people we are being asked to forgive, are nowhere near in enmity.

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Those people who we are talking about.

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We are talking of your mother, your father, your wife, your husband, your children, your community members, your family members, those you interact with your business partners, others and so on and so forth. These are the people forgive, learn to forgive.

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They will be guided through your clemency May Allah subhanho wa Taala help us. So if you were to forgive, your heart is at ease. You will be able to remedy your heart from two types of diseases. One is the physical sickness, you know, when you hold too much, you develop knots, your blood becomes thick, the cholesterol levels become high based on your stress levels, not necessarily what you eat.

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Why are you so stressed? this one did that that when they forgive them, stress levels drop, but you don't know how to forgive?

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seek Allah's forgiveness, and then you will be able to forgive people as well. Now Allah subhanho wa Taala guidance, it is the path to paradise like I've just explained similarly, it increases love and the bond of brotherhood. And it results in the growth of community. When you forgive one another. I tell you why. You did something bad to me. I held it. I held it. It's a seed in my heart. My relationship with you is seven. It goes beyond this. It becomes so big that it goes into my children. My children don't speak to your children, but we are cousins.

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And their children are told in advance that listen, that uncle, we don't talk to them. You know why? They did his great grandfather cheated our great grandfather. For 200 rupees. My brother, the children will say listen, dad, your problems are yours. Our generation don't need that problem.

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Why did it seep in because you didn't forgive? You should have just forgive perhaps your daughter would have married their son possible.

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Allah subhanho wa Taala make it easy. Allah subhanho wa Taala guide us and make our lives in Sharla such that when people see the way we live, they see the beauty of Islam. We are happy people you want to be happy. Well you need to learn to let go. You need to learn to forgive. You need to learn to embrace

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Allah tells us about Casa de la mano in the Quran, when we ask

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Allah to him buena de

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la, la

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sua to know Allah tells Abu Bakr Siddiq

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and obviously this is a verse of the Quran revealed to Muhammad Sallallahu Sallam but the mufa serien are unanimous that this was referring to a specific incident. So Allah says, embrace and forgive. Don't you want the love to forgive you? Well, Allah is most forgiving, Most Merciful. Look at how Allah was

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embracing forgive. Don't you want to forgive you? Wouldn't you love that Allah forgive you? Well forgive. What happened? Someone accused his daughter of immorality, adultery or sin, immoral, whatever. You can think of stuff Illa who was the daughter? She was the purest of the women I shadowed

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the wife of Muhammad Sallallahu Sallam the daughter of Abu Bakr Siddiq, a relative of his who was a poor man whom he used to spend money on, began to spread the rumor. He says, Well, I am not going to spend on this man again. Allah says hey, wouldn't you like forgiveness? He made a mistake. What a huge mistake. Imagine someone spreading in the world you've committed adultery, someone accusing you of having an affair. And Allah is telling you forgive them. Forgive them.

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That's not easy. You have spread such a big rumor about me so big, it's not easy to forgive you. But Allah says a little fatherly mean come You people are virtuous or abubaker. You are a virtuous person. Allah gave you well, Allah gave you so much. Allah gave you virtue. Those who have virtue and whom Allah has given, they should not make this type of a promise that they are not going to spend on their relatives. That man is a Mahajan. He made hegira that man is a person who is poor. He is a relative of yours. Forgive him. Don't you love that Allah forgives you forgive him immediately, without even thinking twice. Abu Bakr Siddiq Roby Allahu anhu says, I have forgiven him.

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It's done,

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forgiven him and started spending on him once again, and actually compensated for his oath.

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How many of us would be prepared to do that? That is why we will not Sahaba

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That is why we will not companions of the Prophet sallallahu sallam, but we can still be companions of his in the hereafter. If we try our best to follow these examples.

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Abu Bakr radi Allahu anhu Do you know what he was known as?

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lumen Masha Allah, the bad and be the best person to treat the earth after the prophets of Allah was Abu Bakr Siddiq will be alone. What a great many people are jealous of him. They tried to take his status away. It's normal. When you make a lot of money. What do people say? drugs, drugs, right? When you make a lot of money, what do people say?

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tax scams, tax scams, they look at you they cannot stomach the fact that Allah has blessed you say that happens to have a capacity for the Allah. Allah bless him the most so people come and say he wasn't even a companion. It wasn't him who was in the cave. Relax. Those are sour grapes. You're just jealous. That's it? Nothing else. He was the best so was among

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the Hadith says when Rama used to walk shaman used to be in another galley altogether. He had no guts to actually come on the same path as Rama and this is why some people cannot see eye to eye with

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up to today. They say he was a Batman Batman why they are perhaps Shanthi mela forgive us. They are following a different galley altogether.

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You cannot

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have a powerful man virtue. As strong as he was. He forgave people.

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He forgave people, Ababa Casa de la No, I'm telling you something. When Allah has a verse recorded in the Quran, it is a serious matter. It is for me and you to learn unless

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what was the accusation? adultery against who someone better than you and I the purist

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I want you to pause for a moment.

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Tonight when you go back think about it or whenever you remember what we've said Think about it. Someone who has accused you of having an affair.

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Are you ready to forgive them?

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The Quran tells you wouldn't you love Allah to forgive you?

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Forgive them, forgive them.

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For law, it's tough.

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But I asked you to look into your heart, and to find that little spot where

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you ended up forgiving them.

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And allow will forgive you on the Day of Judgment, he knows

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that you did something that was almost impossible had it not been for the powerful encouragement of Allah subhanho wa Taala. It is very powerful. When people accuse you of having stolen, I became rich, because I stole, like I said earlier became rich because you did something wrong. So forgive them, excuse them. When you become angry and upset, you might need to use some of your money for the hospital.

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But when you forgive them and excuse them, guess what? You will be making more and more money.

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Subhan Allah and Allah says, No, to be a leikam say,

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I'm not going to be affected by you having become obsessed, perhaps you will die through this anger of yours. May Allah subhanho wa Taala not make us from among those who become jealous of one another, learn to release.

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So this is how community grows. Because when you forgive when you've done the society a favor, you've done your family a favor by not allowing it to get to the next generation. You sorted it out in your life. I solved the problem, forgive them we carried on. I'm showing your societies you know of problems that have happened, where it follows down to the next generation and the following year. two generations three generations up they were brothers sorted out while your brothers because your children are cousins, and their children will be second cousins and their children will be third cousins by that time too late.

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You give your progeny a favor by forgiving your brother. That's what you did.

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Now Allah help us understand.

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Imagine inshallah, through Baqarah, verse number 217. Allah subhanho wa Taala speaks about a question they used to ask, they asked Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam? Yes aluna camella

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feeco

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they asked what should we spend?

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What is it that we should spend it? Now the vs kulula? Say Allah, what is the meaning of Allah for that which is excess? That which is more your loose change, you spend it, but for your information in the Arabic language allow for also includes forgiving, why because you forgive someone? What did it cost you to forgive them? Nothing. It was just you had to put your pride aside and forgive them. So Allah says you want to spend spend that you need to know how virtuous it is. And there are so many other verses that we could actually cite. I've given you the example of Muhammad Sallallahu Sallam on two occasions. But there were many other examples. I give you the example of use of Allah.

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He said, imagine his brothers planned to kill him. Then they plan they said, Okay, that's very bad, but with a plan to banish him, they threw him into the well left for the dead. What happened? years later, they were shocked to see what Allah did with him.

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Years later, they were shocked to see what Allah did with him.

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And they had no clue who they were talking to. He was the man he was in power at the time. And his brothers come and they are complaining You know, this happened to someone that happened to another brother and this is what happened in our father is now blind and whatnot and so many other complaints. And he just asked him one question.

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Carla hell alim.

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To be Yousuf our fee.

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To

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look at how beautifully it's worded, he says to his brothers without them knowing who he was.

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Do you know what you didn't do? Joseph and his brother, when you were ignorance? They were shocked because nobody knew.

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US have you actually know that there was a brother of ours called us and you're actually asking us Do you know what you did when you were ignorant? So he is finding an excuse for them. So have Allah He is finding an excuse for his brothers by saying Don't worry you when you were ignorant now, we hope you are no longer ignorance.

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Imagine someone saw you. And then later on you tell him Do you know what you said when you were ignorant?

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Well trust that person in today's world, you might say what are you calling me ignorant? I'll fix you up.

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May Allah subhanho wa Taala guide

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But amazingly, they looked at him and they immediately knew that Oh, there is something about this man, because nobody knew about use of just us nobody else. So they looked at him and this is in akella and usofa, is it possible that you are used to?

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Can it be that you are that user?

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So he looks at them immediately he says, an

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amazing, we have so much to learn from that sentence. He says, I am useless. This is my brother. And guess what? Allah has given us so much. Wow. If it was me, or maybe if it was one of you, in that

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place, opposition on that occasion.

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I am used to

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Now watch what I'm going to do to you.

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Am I right?

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That's what a lot of us will do. May Allah forgive us?

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But he says, he's not even talking about what they did. He's not worried. Because what law what people have done to you does not disturb what Allah will provide for you.

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allies, the provider, they can do what they want. The Hadith says what law he,

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Allah,

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Allah,

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Allah, Allah, you need to know that if the entire nation gets together to harm you, they will not be able to harm you except with what Allah has decided for you. Nothing can happen. People are worried Hey, this happened in America that happened. You know what?

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Well, Allah knows, nothing will happen unless Allah willed it. That's why it happened.

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So why did Allah win it? Well, I don't know. I'm just a slave of Allah. I'm just a worshipper of Allah. I just have a short mission on earth to do the best I can to worship Allah subhanho wa Taala, as best as I can, without associating partners with him, trying to follow the footsteps of the messenger he sent without innovating anything and then when I die and meet Allah, and when I meet a lot, I want him to actually see me

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when I have a face that is radiating by His mercy.

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Do you want to show your face to Allah? well prepare for the day. By doing what seek forgiveness, Oh Allah, I love you. When I see you, I don't want to be blackened. I don't want to be a person who's disgraced. When I see you or Allah when you see me on the Day of Judgment,

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I want to be in a good shape. Forgive me.

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So Yusuf Alayhi Salam says, I am used to this is my brother Allah has favored us, but man, Allahu Allah. Allah has favored us with so much of favor. And then you know what he says, in whom I speak. For in Allah Allah you will be seen in the same two words that were used in the verse of forgiving people. The same two words that were used in the verse of forgiving people, taqwa and a son, where Allah says, This man is now saying to his brothers, whoever has taqwa whoever is conscious of Allah, and whoever is patient restrains himself. Allah will never ever

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throw away or waste the reward of those who do good. Remember the word doing good was used when Allah says, you forgiven someone, you've done good, you're from amongst the good doers.

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And Allah says, You restrain yourself, you're from amongst them attacking, you're conscious of Allah. So these are the same words or three words, in fact, have been used in the verse where Allah speaks about forgiving. So what happened? These people had consciousness of Allah, they were patient for 40 years or more.

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And Allah says they were good doers. and thereafter, Allah subhanho wa Taala says something very amazing.

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He tells us the words of use of La salatu salam.

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Allah subhanho wa Taala says the brothers said

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de la de la

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la Molina what you?

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Me, Indeed Allah has

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favored you above us. Allah has preferred

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You, us are Sarah calavo Elena, we tried to block you to stop you, we didn't want you to have a relationship with your father. As a result, you had a relationship with Allah.

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Imagine preventing someone from their father, from their mother.

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From their brothers and sisters, it happens normally after a divorce, where one party prevents the child from the other party for whatever the reason is.

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And after years on end, things resolve themselves the story of use of a Salaam, they said, we prevented you from our father Subhan Allah, they are saying now, la caja tharaka la Elena, as a result of your patience as a result of your suffer as a result of your God consciousness. Allah has preferred you over us. And you know what? We were wrong. We're in Ghana.

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Allah does not say they asked for forgiveness. They only admitted this. We were wrong in canola coffee. He was so noble this man he did not wait for them to say please forgive us. Please, please forgive us. We were wrong, please, please and so on. They would have said please 100 times 1000 times they would have said it forever and ever because this was the man he was the leader the ruler, he was providing food for them. So by the law, and you know what? He just says lazur three ballet Coolio.

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Hola como como Rafi mean, and he changed the topic.

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He says no retribution against you today Allah will forgive you he is on camera. I mean, he is most forgiving, Most Merciful. Allah will forgive you know retribution upon you today. Now take my shirt and go to the Father. Topic changed. The topic became the shirt.

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He quickly sorted the matter out between his brothers. It did not take him five seconds. With us for 40 years, we still haven't forgiven our brothers, our sisters.

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If Allah mentioned this in the Quran, I promise you when you can forgive your brothers and sisters, Allah will mention you with the angels. I promise you.

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So Han Allah.

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It's something big, it requires a big heart so starts broadening your heart, your chest expanding Subhanallah

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you need to have a broad chest you need to have a great heart you need to develop these qualities.

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Subhana Allah May Allah subhanho wa Taala help us forgive one another? My brothers, my sisters, there is a lot that I still have to say. Normally, I don't come with notes when I am delivering a talk of this nature. But today I decided to write down verses and Ahadi on a piece of paper. And I've only covered half of them. And I realize from one hour I've spoken for one and a half hours. But Alhamdulillah I think this air conditioning unit is so cold that I didn't even feel I was in Colombo.

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May Allah subhanho wa Taala Forgive me, and May Allah forgive us all if I have heard and if I have wronged any one of you knowingly or unknowingly I seek forgiveness because remember,

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to seek forgiveness

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is absolutely important.

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Don't be too proud to say I'm sorry to people.

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No matter who you are, in some cultures, a parent or grandparent or a mother in law, father in law, or an elderly person, the older person will never ever ever say I'm sorry. Forgive me. In some cultures, they simply will not they somehow believe they have a stamp on their backs saying Jana that's if I do what I want Jen will lie those who are mobile sharina will gentlemen the story is over, they already gone. The names are written your name is not from amongst this. So don't no matter who you are and what relation you have your son you can go to him, your daughter, you can go to him. Please forgive me if I have wronged you. Sometimes you might want to say and we don't know

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sometimes what these people hold against us. You know what? If I've done something knowingly or unknowingly Forgive me, let me know what I've done.

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You will be surprised. They will also take the book out of the little dressing table and start reading for you pages every night Come to me bedtime I'll read for you 10 a day. May Allah subhanahu Allah forgive us. May Allah subhanahu wa taala help us so I want to end by saying as much as we are taught to forgive people. We are also taught to seek forgiveness, seek forgiveness. Don't think that when we

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Talk about forgiving others, it makes us in a position of goodness. And that we have never done something wrong against others. We have done so much wrong against people. Learn to identify them and seek forgiveness even from your maid who works for you in your home or someone who works for you in your business. Go to them and say I'm sorry for what I've done to you. And I promise you, I promise you, it will clean your heart and elevate your status in the eyes of Allah subhanho wa Taala May Allah subhanahu wa Jalla bless us all akula kolyada Allahu wa salam o barik ala nabina Muhammad wa Salam alaykum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh