Maiduguri Men’s lecture – delivered at the birthplace of Boko Haram
Mufti Menk – Being Responsible
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The importance of remaining silent during prayer is discussed, as it is crucial for Islam to shaping behavior. The speaker emphasizes the need to develop a relationship with Allah and to be mindful of one's words. They stress the importance of education and cutting bad habits, with advice given on finding a partner and balancing sex. The speaker also discusses the difficulty and expense of marriage, as well as the importance of finding balance between sex and sex before moving to Nigeria.
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Salam aleikum wa rahmatullah wa barakato.
Bismillahi Rahmani Raheem Alhamdulillah wa Salatu was Salam ala rasulillah Allah Allah, he was Javier Germain, my brothers we praise Allah subhanho wa Taala on all conditions. We send blessings salutations upon Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, his household, his companions will ask Allah to bless them and to bless every one of us. I mean, my brothers, I am very happy to be here in this beautiful city of Maiduguri in Borno State in Nigeria.
My brothers and hamdulillah we thank Allah we are meaning we believe in Allah. We are in the house of Allah. It is important for us to remain silent for the sake of Allah. It is not my house, not your house. You need to remain silent in order to please Allah subhanho wa Taala. We want to listen to a good message that is coming from Kala Kala rasuluh. So if you want to listen, you need to keep quiet. In the Quran, Allah says either.
If you if you want the Russia and the mercy of Allah, the Baraka, the blessings of Allah through His mercy, then you need to remain silent when the words of Allah are recited. You need to listen carefully and attentively and that is when you will be able to achieve the mercy of Allah without that we are not going to achieve the mercy of Allah subhanho wa Taala. So my beloved brothers, my beloved sons who are here, I would like to remind you of the first and most important reminder, that reminder is Duk Walla, he the consciousness of Allah, who see kumana see a welcome to Allah. I am advising yourselves and myself to develop a relationship with Allah, develop and improve your
relationship with Allah subhanho wa Taala develop and improve your relationship with Allah that is the first thing it is called taqwa Allah He. So if you have Taqwa Allah He you will be able to save yourself from the punishment of Hellfire in the era.
It is important for us to worship Allah alone.
So, we are done.
Done.
We're okay.
It is important for us to get can we push the volume up here. So now
it is important for us to worship Allah alone. We worship Allah alone, we want to please Allah, we read Salah for the sake of Allah, I want to tell you something. And I must say this.
You know, my beloved brothers, my children.
The excitement that we have, the excitement that we have,
should be more for Salah.
When we fulfill our Salah for the sake of Allah, the time of Salah, we should be more excited than this. When we are getting closer to Allah to read the Quran, the word of Allah, we must be more excited than this. Allah is not going to ask you about whether or not you met a certain person in your life. But Allah is going to ask you whether or not you were truthful to Allah. Whether or not you fulfilled your Salah whether or not you did your duty unto Allah, that is what Allah is going to ask you. He's not going to ask you Did you meet that person or that person in your life, even if you did not meet anyone in your life? Allah subhanho wa Taala if you developed a relationship with him,
you are successful. And if you met all the important people on earth, but you have no relationship with Allah, then you have last. So we ask Allah to help us to become excited when it comes to the masjid when it comes to the house of Allah when it comes to Salah when it comes to the Quran. When it comes to the Quran Allah let is the true excitement full before he met he fabbi Danica
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Say it is the mercy and the virtue of Allah, that they should be excited regarding and about. That's what should excite them. It is better than everything that they can amass. If you want to bring lots of money, you want to bring lots of power, popularity, whatever else is gathered. It is not as good as the mercy of Allah, the virtue of Allah when Allah guides your heart, it is definitely a sign of the mercy of Allah subhanho wa Taala May Allah blessings be on you, my beloved brothers.
I may not be able to continue for a long time, although I am supposed to be speaking to you for half an hour, up to seven o'clock, but I will cut it short seeing that there is a lot of disturbance and a lot of people are still talking at the back which is disturbing me too. So I want to let you know that Allah subhanho wa Taala has asked us to develop a relationship with Him. And in order to do that, you need to develop a relationship with Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam.
He is the chosen from Allah as the best of creation, the most noble of all prophets of Allah. Wa crucially, I want you to try your best to lead a life that is as close as possible to that of Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, many of us, many of us, we burn bridges, we destroy relationships, we create havoc, we become unruly, because we don't follow the Sunnah of Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wasallam. Like I said, this is the house of Allah. If you know the value of the house of Allah, you will not make noise in the house of Allah, it's the house of Allah. If you know the value of the house of Allah, you will not make noise. It's the house of Allah subhanho wa Taala.
So, it is extremely important for us to know that Allah subhanho wa Taala
has blessed us he has given us so much of mercy. So much of virtue, Allah subhanho wa Taala has granted us high morals and values. Learn to use your mouth in the correct way when you speak. Speak with kindness. Don't be selfish. Those of you who came very early today and you set in the masjid Mashallah you have a place, but there are others who came later on. And perhaps they don't want to believe that they did not make it into the masjid. Don't worry, Allah will give you al Baraka, Allah will give you a Baraka, the power is in the message, not in the person, there is no power in me, there is no mighty me the power is in the message that Allah has delivered that message you will get
it you will get the message of Allah and His or soon. Look, the door of the house of Allah has been damaged as a result of Whoo. It is the house of Allah, how can we do that? I told the Imam, they are going to break this door. I told him 10 minutes ago, before they broke it, then they broke it. I knew they were going to break it because I saw the pressure. If we understand whose house it is, we will never do this. So I want you to realize the value of the house of Allah Bay to law, it's the house of Allah. It's not your house or mine. Would you do that to your own house? No. So we don't need to do that to the house of Allah. Let's behave ourselves. You want to understand where you are.
You want mercy, understand where you are, whose house it is, who is Allah? If we had to go to the house of a governor, or the house of a need, or the house of a businessman or your own Father's house, you would not want someone to damage it. Why do we damage the house of Allah? May Allah forgive us? May Allah forgive us? May Allah forgive what we have done.
So my beloved brothers, we need to seek the forgiveness of Allah and we need to turn to Allah develop your character, be calm, be calm, because the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam whom we claim to love, he told us to become he told us not to be hasty not to be selfish, but we are so selfish, Subhan Allah, we don't want to listen at times. And it is the word of Allah. We don't want to listen at times and it is the word of Allah.
sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam. May Allah bless us all. May Allah grant us goodness, may Allah open our doors. May Allah subhanahu wa taala keep us in his houses. And may Allah subhanho wa Taala grant us a man,
my beloved brothers and sisters, I want to let you know that we are going to be judged by Allah on the Day of Judgment. Maliki omit the Owner of the Day of Judgment is who?
Allah, He will judge you and I, those things which we did.
That nobody knows. Allah knows.
Our bad habits. Allah knows our sins. Allah knows the hatred in the heart. Allah knows the jealousy in the heart. Allah knows everything we do Allah knows. So remember,
when you change, change for the sake of Allah, we need to change our ways and habits. When I was coming to Maiduguri
many people told me so many things.
But I refuse to listen to them.
I decided I'm going to go
and I will share the message of a lion is a soul and I will plead with you to change your life so that people can realize that it is the best place inshallah but if you if you don't change your ways, when people come they will say no, no, no Watch out. These people are dangerous. Are you dangerous?
Masha Allah, so let us behave ourselves. We are loving people. We are kind, let's develop our relationships. let's develop our relationships
with one another respect and dignity, cut your bad habits. I want to ask you a question. How many of you are prepared to cut your bad habits? Put up your hand
Mashallah, Mashallah we are prepared to cut our bad habits now. I want you to sit and think what is your bad habit? You know, one, you know it already right? To you know it, three, you know it for you know it, cut it, cut it.
Cut it for the sake of Allah. If Allah in his house has not soften your heart, when is your heart going to be soft?
If you are doing drugs,
cut it for the sake of Allah.
And you will save so much money so Allah and you will enjoy the fruits of
everything around you. SubhanAllah
if you are
lazy laziness is a bad habit. Right?
If you are lazy, got it. get up in the morning, clean yourself, wear good clothes, go out, do something and work. We are sometimes so lazy as the oma and we don't realize that it's not helping us to be lazy. We need to have good company as well. Sometimes our friends they're not good people. They take us away from Salah they take us to adultery and Zina. Why should we do that? If that is your bad habit, cut it today.
Another very bad habit is the phone that you use. Sometimes we send dirty messages, we receive dirty clips, dirty messages, will we cut that?
Will we cut it and deleted?
inshallah we will cut and delete whatever is dirty and immoral from our own phones. It's technology I want to be close to Allah How can I be close to Allah when my phone which is in my pocket with me all the time has so much of debt in it. Imagine you die and someone picks up your phone and they say oh biLlahi Look at this. A stone Viola what an embarrassment. What about Allah you're not embarrassed of Allah. He's watching you He knows cut the bad relationships. If you have a bad relationship which is immoral and unacceptable. Cut it for the sake of Allah. Do you want tell Baraka?
If you please Allah, He will give you a Baraka.
If you please Allah He will give you a Baraka. If you are hard on yourself, but soft on others, Allah will give
Baraka Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. He was very lenient, he was very soft natured. He was very calm. He was very relaxed. One day a man came into the masjid, and he decided to urinate in one corner, he decided to urinate in one corner. Imagine if a man comes in to the masjid and urinate Now, what will happen?
Allahu Akbar.
But you want to follow the Prophet you need to become Look at him and tell yourself he needs help. He needs what he needs help, I will help him. Let me go to him try and educate him when he is ignorant. He does not know what is the machine, he thinks is just another place. I can go to one corner and relieve myself but he doesn't know the value of the machine. When we came in moments ago, there was excitement right? People were rushing, the door has been damaged right? What did I say? I just said my brother's if you know the house of Allah, you will become we are now come.
We are now come Mashallah. Why? Because we talk nicely to each other. We remind each other in a beautiful way. I don't need to beat you up. You don't need to beat me up. I don't need to harm you attack you just because you need to learn something new. So a man came and urinated the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam decided that he will teach that men but the companions were very angry with him. They wanted to beat him up.
And the Prophet salallahu Salam says let us move. Don't stop him. Leave him alone.
Leave him alone.
When he finished his business, the Prophet sallallahu Sallam told them go to collect a bucket of water while they were gone. He spoke to them. He spoke to this man. He says you know this is the house of Allah. It is for Likud remembrance of Allah. It is for prayer. It is for recitation of the Quran. It is for good deeds, it is not for what you have just done.
The man looked at the Prophet sallallahu Sallam and he was so happy that today someone has explained to me. He says, Oh Allah have mercy on me and Mohammed salatu salam ala and don't have mercy on anyone else. That's what he said. Allah Mohammed, Mohammed and voila, takahama Hannah hadden.
Now the prophets of Salaam needed to teach him something else. You say, Wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait. the mercy of Allah is not only for you and me. It's for everyone. Everyone the mercy of Allah is for all so you cannot make small what Allah has already made big. So that was another lesson that we live in. the mercy of Allah is for everyone. My beloved brothers, my beloved sisters, those who may view this later on, let's learn to spread love for the sake of Allah. Learn to do something with your life. Learn never to lose hope and don't give up. Don't give up you don't have a job you need to try, try again. Try again and again, try every day one day you will get that job
inshallah.
You need also to educate yourself in Islam, we believe that whatever we have here is by the grace of Allah. You can hear me today because of this microphone. Right? And the speakers that are there.
The electricity is here. The lights are here you can see me today.
All of this. All of this is by the grace of Allah.
Allah subhanho wa Taala empowered certain people to learn, what did they learn? They learned science, they learnt geography, they learned mathematics, they learned physics, they learned biology, they developed things and they learned technology and they develop the technology in a way that today you have your phones you are sitting and recording. You want to take home the remembrance of this day. But remember one thing if you are a person who says education is haram, how are we going to get electricity and the microphone and the phone.
So if you really think that if you really believe that education is haram, then the very clothes that you are wearing, they would not be on you the soap you are using the bath you are having the water that you are doing.
Knowing the cause you are driving the technology that you have, it wouldn't be there. So Allah says,
Well, I mean,
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from among the people there are those who say, Oh Allah, give us goodness in this world and give us goodness in the hereafter as well and save us from the painful punishment of the Fire. Those are the ones who Allah says they will get a portion of what they have earned. If you would like a good living and a life you need to strike the balance between the knowledge of religion and the knowledge of this world. bring the two together in a way that you can. You can praise Allah, you can worship Allah with ease and comfort. We have air conditioning in this Masjid. We have fans in the masjid, how it is made easy for us to worship Allah. If there were no fans and air conditioning, I don't
think you would be able to sit for more than a few minutes and I would not be able to stand for more than a few minutes. So thank Allah for this beautiful advancement. We are using it not to go far from Allah but to come nearer to Allah.
You will use your technology your phone, I gave you the example because everyone has a phone in his hand. And I'm telling you, you use your phone to get close to Allah not to get far from Allah, everything you do on your phone, ask yourself, Am I doing it in order to get close to Allah or in order to get far from Allah? Am I doing it to get close to shavonne or to get close to Allah if you are getting closer to shavon deleted, if you are getting closer to Allah use it more.
And I want to tell you another very important factor I met a few youngsters here asking them questions. Number one, they are looking for good jobs, am I right?
How can you find a job when you are lazy? Who wants to employ a lazy man? If If you yourself had a business, you would not employ your own self? Why? Because you are lazy SubhanAllah. So develop the character, honesty and hard working, that is when you will be successful. Where did I get that from? Look Musa alayhis salam when he went to Medina and
what happened? Those girls, those girls that he met, while he was helping them quench the thirst of their flock of sheep. He worked with them. They saw their father, according to one nation, it was a valley Sam. They told their father in a fire, amen is that Joe? Tell
me, oh, Father, give him a job. The best of those whom you can give a job to are those who are honest, and hardworking, those who are strong or weak, hardworking and a mean means honest. We all want honest and hardworking people. So I asked you, my beloved brothers, to be honest and hardworking, to be honest and
hardworking, to be honest and
hardworking, if you work hard you will achieve. After that. I asked a young man, what else is there? He told me, Chef.
It is very hard to get married.
Is that true?
Allahu Akbar. Allahu Akbar. Did you hear what happened? Those who have daughters here? Did you hear what the sons are saying? It is very hard to get married. I am telling you from the house of Allah from the member of the House of Allah. Please make it easy for your sons and daughters to get married.
Make it easy. If you make it difficult, Allah will catch you. If you make it difficult, you have made Xena easy. You have made adultery easy, but halaal you made it difficult. How can we operate with that? Make halaal easy. Don't make it difficult. The math does not need to be too high. You do not have to have a big function. My beloved daughters don't ask for a wedding when you are only showing your photos on Instagram and on Facebook. But you have wasted so much of money that the man is already sweating before he's even living with you.
My beloved daughter's simple wedding it will achieve the Baraka What did we say?
We want to Baraka, right? You want to Baraka have an easy marriage, I am telling you it's a problem in the world today. muslimeen are struggling. Young boys and girls are committing adultery and fornication because of the difficulties they are to do things in a halal way. Why are we doing that? We need to solve that matter. Don't compare your marriage with someone else's. If they had a big show, marriage is not a show. Some people can afford it. Some people cannot afford it. Do not put financial strain on someone who doesn't have so much. Why do you have a big wedding, but your marriage is small. You know the difference between a wedding and a marriage? A wedding is the
function and the marriage is the life after that.
Some people the waiting is very big. But the marriage doesn't even last.
Some people Allah bless them. If Allah gave you the wealth, you can have a big wedding and a big marriage Mashallah happy marriage.
But sometimes, you know what, my beloved brothers, my sisters, my eldest, my parents who are here, those who have children, I promise you if you really want the blessing of Allah subhanho wa Taala, you will make it easy for your children to marry.
Because we have two problems, two main problems number one, the expense Am I right? Very expensive. Number two,
can I tell you
sometimes the parents refuse because of where the person comes from.
You are from the state I am from the state you are from the south I am from the east and this one is from the west that one is from the north and this one is from heaven and that one is from Mars and this one is from
we are part of the oma of Mohammed sallallahu alayhi wasallam we have all seen a shadow Allah
Mohammed Allah
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they know it
Mashallah,
it's the first time in my life I'm saying this, and the whole must've nosey.
Do we have is if someone comes to you with character and conduct and their level of being is good, they are eating Salah. They are close to Allah, let them get married. If you don't let them get married, they will be great corruption, chaos and
chaos and
Allah bless you.
To goodness give you spouses who will be the coolness of your eyes, give you children who will be the coolness of your eyes. Remember you are going to be parents, may Allah make you parents who will be role models to their children. My beloved parents who are here who have children, learn to have mercy on your children, they are not yours they are Alas, they belong to Allah. Allah allows you to have them for a few years. If he wants he can take them away today, tomorrow any day some they lose their children when they are little. But remember, they were all Alas, that is why when someone passes away, we say in LA
in La villaggio Subhana Allah what does that mean we belong to Allah and unto Allah We shall return unto Allah We shall return. So who do you belong to Allah? Who does your child belong to Allah? Who does your husband belong to Allah? Who does your wife belong to Allah, if Allah wants he can take them away while they are with you treat them nicely with respect they are Allah.
If Allah if I give you something and I tell you brother look after this for a while, I'm going to take it away. Because you love me you respect me You are going to look after it very nicely, right? Because you know, I don't want to get upset. What about Allah, He gave you your children, he says look after them for a few years, then I will take them away. Sometimes I might take you away before I take them away. So that is a gift of Allah use it nicely or treated fairly with goodness, help that gift of Allah through your life. So that when you meet Allah, Allah will ask you What did you do to the gift I gave you?
You have to say I made it easy for her to get married. I chose a very good guy. He was Fulani but it's okay.
We I gave he was a very good man.
I gave and then she was very happy Subhan Allah, you have passed your tests with your gift of Allah. But you go to Allah say, Oh Allah. I said no, she wanted to marry someone from some way I said no. So Allah will ask you what was the reason? I also created that person. I'm the creator of that one and you and all of them. I created them. Why did you say no? If you if you say because the boy was on drugs, he was an addict. He was a bad he was lazy. He was deceptive. He was abusive. He was absolutely disrespectful. Then you have no blame you are right. You are allowed to say no if someone is bad, but if there is no reason you just say I didn't like him because you know, you know you know
what Subhan Allah? May Allah help us to make it easy for us. I plead with you we have a problem in many countries where marriage has become so difficult and so expensive and parents are refusing for nothing no reason they just don't like it finished why I don't like that family. I don't like this person etc. Why
if you have a valid reason Yes. If not, you need to know. Yeah, I
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People I have created you from one male and female, why did Allah say that to remind you, you are related. You are all from one big tribe known as human beings.
You are all from one big family known as the family of Adam. You know what Allah calls you and I in the Quran? Yeah, Benny. Allahu Akbar. Allah says, oh, children of Adam. Allah didn't say yeah, Allah Nigeria. No, it's not.
It's not there. Allah didn't say this or that. Allah says, Oh Children of Adam or people I created you from one male and female. Don't forget that. Don't forget that I created you from one male and female and I caused from them for you to grow into peoples and tribes in order that you recognize one another. He didn't say so that you can discriminate amongst each other so that you can discriminate. Can I tell you today? What is discrimination? Do you want to know if you need help? I can teach you it's very easy to know. Okay. Ask yourself with Allah in mind, ask yourself, do I think that my tribe is better than another tribe? If the answer is yes, you have a problem. You have
a problem.
Do I lie will lie and nearly all of us have the problem. I'm not lying to you. Even the good people they have the problem why? We are taught sometimes. As we hear you know that try Be careful there are thieves that try Be careful they are very hot tempered. That try Be careful. You know what they they are not honest people etc. Voila, he in every tribe there is good there is bad. In every people there is good, there is bad. When you are going to Nigeria, people will say what's your for Nigeria, how the majority of the people are lovely people when you are going to move to Korea, they will tell you to not go why I am here. I want to come back again. And again.
There are good people here there are lovely people, people who want to hear the heck they want to hear goodness, they want to hear the balance between dunya and akhira. They want to be balanced people they want to be people who are growing they don't want to be left out. So inshallah we want to come again and again and again, by the way.
But my beloved brothers, I want to end off by telling you something very important. Like I said, you asked yourself the question.
Do I think my tribe is better than the other one? If the answer is yes, you need help. You need to solve your problem. Clear your heart remember, I have a tribe maybe yes, they have a tribe maybe yes, we have good and bad in ours they have good and bad in this we are equal in the eyes of Allah.
A nurse who Sahaja castanon his mission, people are equal like the teeth of a comb Subhana Allah. So the last thing I wanted to tell you
today I'm standing here in front of you in the house of Allah
If
this day
has not changed you
while we are in large numbers in the house of Allah with so much excitement, if your heart is not soft, for the remembrance of Allah and for Allah and for the team
then it was a waste of time. It was a waste of time.
Allah reminds us through various voices, various messages, it will come to you by radio program, television program, internet program, maybe social media program, a message on WhatsApp, maybe a lesson in the masjid, maybe a talk like this one. Allah sends you messages in hundreds of different ways. In order for you and I to change for the sake of Allah.
If you have messages, one after the other and you did not change, a day will come when Allah may decide to destroy you.
It can happen to anyone to you or to myself.
We know the Prophet Noah, may peace be upon him. Do
you know what Allah said to him? He says, in need to
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overlock I called my people day and night, night and day, but whenever I call them, they went further away from you Subhana Allah. So Allah tells me honey Salam at one stage. Oh, no, no, it's you know, you told them many times, stop telling them stop telling them
why you stopped telling them now they won't believe.
We wrote for them a certain number of chances. They had all those chances, and now the chances are over
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Allah says Oh no. Nobody is going to believe except those who have already believed. So do you want to be from those whom the reminders are finished? Now for you the quota if Allah says you will get 10,000 reminders before we destroy you, you already have 9999 Are you going to change there is one more left.
So let's change our bad ways and habits. Do we promise do we promise that we will change our batteries and habits?
Do we promise we will change our batteries and habits?
inshallah I will see you on another occasion in this beautiful city of Maiduguri inshallah, in a bigger place by the will of Allah I want to thank those who made this possible. I want to really thank those who made this possible and I plead with you as I leave Please don't be excited. Remember excitement is for Allah excitement is when you read to recap of Salah there is supposed to be more excitement than everything Salah confiture How many of you read to Suna rakatan factory
mafia.
Tomorrow morning, we will get up for silicon fortune we will read solid
because that is how we will achieve the pleasure of Allah that is better than the whole world and what we have. So I want to thank one and all for making this possible. And I really pray that Allah subhanho wa Taala gather us all in gentlemen, a dose
of cola cola masala Allahu wa salam ala nabina Muhammad wa salam aleikum wa rahmatullah