Mufti Menk – Be Kind, Allah Choose That Test For You

00:00:00 --> 00:00:02

			The other day I spoke about mothers. Some
		

00:00:02 --> 00:00:03

			of you might have heard the talk. It
		

00:00:03 --> 00:00:05

			was a Friday talk in Cape Town.
		

00:00:05 --> 00:00:07

			You won't believe it, I got some hate
		

00:00:07 --> 00:00:10

			mail, man, from people saying: How on earth
		

00:00:10 --> 00:00:13

			would you ever, ever say what you said?
		

00:00:13 --> 00:00:14

			I said: I'm so happy and proud that
		

00:00:14 --> 00:00:17

			I did, because normally I've spoken so many
		

00:00:17 --> 00:00:19

			times on children and so on. I've spoken
		

00:00:19 --> 00:00:21

			2 or 3 times on mothers. What's the
		

00:00:21 --> 00:00:24

			big deal? If anything, I probably didn't do
		

00:00:24 --> 00:00:26

			justice to it, just because I said you
		

00:00:26 --> 00:00:27

			must respect them and be kind to them
		

00:00:27 --> 00:00:29

			no matter what. What do you mean no
		

00:00:29 --> 00:00:31

			matter what? I did make an exception. Go
		

00:00:31 --> 00:00:32

			and listen to the talk.
		

00:00:32 --> 00:00:34

			Don't complain me. The reason I'm raising it
		

00:00:34 --> 00:00:36

			here again tonight is because
		

00:00:36 --> 00:00:38

			we have to talk about things. Just because
		

00:00:38 --> 00:00:40

			it didn't fit in your example doesn't mean
		

00:00:40 --> 00:00:41

			that I was wrong.
		

00:00:42 --> 00:00:44

			Perhaps your unique situation
		

00:00:44 --> 00:00:46

			may warrant something drastic,
		

00:00:46 --> 00:00:48

			but that's not the norm, is it?
		

00:00:50 --> 00:00:51

			So if I say something, if I say,
		

00:00:51 --> 00:00:53

			guys you've got to be kind to your
		

00:00:53 --> 00:00:54

			parents and look after them. Did I say
		

00:00:54 --> 00:00:55

			something wrong?
		

00:00:55 --> 00:00:57

			Not at all. But if your parent is
		

00:00:57 --> 00:01:00

			is an exception where they've been abusive and
		

00:01:00 --> 00:01:02

			really toxic and so bad and you've had
		

00:01:02 --> 00:01:04

			to go away from them to protect your
		

00:01:04 --> 00:01:06

			sanity and you, that's a different thing. That's
		

00:01:06 --> 00:01:09

			an exception. I'm not gonna be speaking, generalizing
		

00:01:09 --> 00:01:10

			regarding exceptions,
		

00:01:11 --> 00:01:14

			I'm gonna generalize regarding the norm, what's happening.
		

00:01:14 --> 00:01:16

			So if I were to tell you that
		

00:01:16 --> 00:01:17

			you got to be kind to this person
		

00:01:17 --> 00:01:19

			and that person, and I did say you
		

00:01:19 --> 00:01:20

			don't have to obey.
		

00:01:21 --> 00:01:23

			Were they telling you to do something wrong?
		

00:01:23 --> 00:01:23

			Or
		

00:01:24 --> 00:01:26

			if they're being nasty, you can address the
		

00:01:26 --> 00:01:26

			matter.
		

00:01:26 --> 00:01:28

			But just be kind. Remember that's your mother,
		

00:01:28 --> 00:01:30

			that's your father, come what may. They could
		

00:01:30 --> 00:01:32

			be the horriblest people on earth, but it
		

00:01:32 --> 00:01:34

			doesn't give you the right
		

00:01:34 --> 00:01:36

			to become nasty with them. You can step
		

00:01:36 --> 00:01:38

			back, you can tell them, you can you
		

00:01:38 --> 00:01:40

			can put your foot down, you can do
		

00:01:40 --> 00:01:42

			whatever you have to,
		

00:01:43 --> 00:01:45

			but the only thing is go easy, be
		

00:01:45 --> 00:01:46

			kind,
		

00:01:46 --> 00:01:49

			be kind. Allah chose that test for you.