Mufti Menk – Avoiding Intimacy Without Reason

Basically,

what ignites the desires? Because I go out.

I work and mingle with women. A lot

of women around wearing tight clothes, yoga pants

and whatever. And no matter how much I

try to lower my gaze, I'm exposed to

a lot of temptations. The prophet said, go

home. We're

temptations.

The prophet said, go home. When you go

home and you satisfy your sexual desire with

your lawful spouse, then they all become the

same. You know, after you finish eating, what

did you just eat?

Well, I ate cheese and bread. I ate

cereal, but, alhamdulillah, I'm full. Now they're serving

rib eye steak. While I'm full, I can't

eat anymore. Why? Because you're full. So likewise,

once you enjoy your * relation with your

spouse, even if there is a woman in

the *, you're not interested

because

the shahua is not ignited. Quenched. Exactly. It

is quenched. It is not about sexual discharge.

It is not about hit or run. I

just gotta get it done. No. It's about

the love, the compassion,

cases,

hugs, cuddling,

saying sweet words. They call it foreplay, by

the way. This foreplay. If we learned from

you how to use how to use these

words. So the basic idea is to fulfill

each other's design, not to care only about

fulfilling your own.