Mufti Menk – Avoiding Intimacy Without Reason

30 August 2024

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The speaker discusses the concept of "comes" and how women are temptationary and unable to enjoy sex without their spouse's consent. They explain that this behavior is called foreplay and is not about sexual discharge. The speaker emphasizes the importance of fulfilling each other's designs rather than caring about their own sexatisfaction.

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			Basically,

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			what ignites the desires? Because I go out.

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			I work and mingle with women. A lot

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			of women around wearing tight clothes, yoga pants

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			and whatever. And no matter how much I

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			try to lower my gaze, I'm exposed to

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			a lot of temptations. The prophet said, go

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			home. We're

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			temptations.

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			The prophet said, go home. When you go

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			home and you satisfy your sexual desire with

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			your lawful spouse, then they all become the

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			same. You know, after you finish eating, what

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			did you just eat?

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			Well, I ate cheese and bread. I ate

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			cereal, but, alhamdulillah, I'm full. Now they're serving

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			rib eye steak. While I'm full, I can't

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			eat anymore. Why? Because you're full. So likewise,

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			once you enjoy your * relation with your

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			spouse, even if there is a woman in

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			the *, you're not interested

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			because

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			the shahua is not ignited. Quenched. Exactly. It

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			is quenched. It is not about sexual discharge.

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			It is not about hit or run. I

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			just gotta get it done. No. It's about

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			the love, the compassion,

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			cases,

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			hugs, cuddling,

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			saying sweet words. They call it foreplay, by

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			the way. This foreplay. If we learned from

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			you how to use how to use these

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			words. So the basic idea is to fulfill

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			each other's design, not to care only about

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			fulfilling your own.