Mufti Menk – Assist each other in the home

			Prophet Muhammad Rasul Allah
		

			helped in the home. Yes, indeed, with what he helped with the cooking and the cleaning not every
day, but a lot of the time. So if you take a careful study of that time, there was nothing hard and
fast as to who must cook, it became a cultural matter later. And yes, indeed, there are people who
would fulfill the roles, people say, Well, you know, you got to bring the food, I'll bring the food,
but you got to help me cook it, you know, you can ask your spouse, and it's a bonus.
		

			You know, the happiest homes are the homes where the spouses know their roles, but assist each other
a little bit in your role, I'll do that. I'll go out of work all day. So I'm going to be really,
really tired and so on, I'll expect you to do a little bit while you're at home. By the way, may
Allah subhanho wa taala, grant us ease. And sometimes if both are away, maybe we might be able to
collectively afford something that perhaps would help us eat, maybe someone who can cook for us,
then we can pay them or perhaps food that is already prepared by a third party and we can pay an
abbot whatever it may be, learn to understand each other. When I go back and look at the the Sierra
		

			and the little that I read just to prepare for this particular talk, I can tell you that the
prophets are seldom assisted in health, when it came to the milking of the goats. That means that
the milking and bringing the milk and whatever else today we have milk and bread when it came to
assisting in cooking and so on, they would cook to this day, you know, there are a lot of people who
are good chefs who are males. In fact, some of the best chefs on Earth are males. But we make it
taboo simply because we're culturally contaminated in a lot of cases. And we consider it a religious
matter, just because it suits us. It's very difficult to come out of that. I'm not at all trying to
		

			change your situation in your own home. But I am saying, My Beloved brothers, try and help a little
bit more. Try and clean up. Don't make a big mess intentionally. Make sure try and help clean up I
can speak about myself, I've started helping from a while, a little bit here and there. It makes
such a big difference. And you can it's so easy. It will take a few minutes if we both tried to do
this together. But if you just left it on one, it's a big mission Subhanallah either way, and my
beloved sisters support your spouses make life easy for them, try and help them in whatever they're
doing. Look at Hadith, Allahu Allah, she sent the prophets of salaam before Nobu to do the business
		

			he did the business he brought in the money, even though she was the one who outlaid that the
capital, even even though the money ultimately belonged to her. But he was earning a handsome
profit.
		

			Everything was done beautifully. So if one does this, the other one can do that. And we can both
help each other fulfill our roles. So my brothers, my sisters, we've mentioned a lot of points. And
I've actually said quite a few facts, quite a few things I want to end off
		

			with a beautiful reminder that you all probably know it's a hadith where the prophets of salaam says
Hi, Eurocom Eurocom Laila Ali, the best from amongst you of those who are best to their wives. He
didn't stop there. He says what and I highly recommend Ali and I am the best to his wife
		

			and actually means to his family. I'm the best family here wife, children to start with and then
your broader family.
		

			So why did he say that I am the best because that means anything he did or said we need to learn
from anything he did or said. We need to learn from another quick point that's come to my mind the
expression on your face needs to be positive. Both husband and wife don't come into the home and
have a face that gives an impression that you are so sad and upset and yet you're not making an
effort to smile if smiling on the face of a strange brother is actually an A bad for the brothers
and the sisters for the sisters if it's in the bad for a stranger, what about your spouse? It is a
far greater act of worship far greater. So make an effort come home say good words. Don't get angry.
		

			If not getting angry is a great act of worship then don't get angry starting at home. Do you know
getting angry is actually haram to get angry in this way with the with people for no reason. That's
prohibited law. That means don't get angry. That is the advice of the processor and He repeated it
so many times. Lotta blah, blah, Taka, according to narration, the Sahaba says are the Allahu Anhu
on that hot corner later who Socrata we wish that we could have said Oh, I hope that now he it's
enough. I hope he can keep quiet on that one, you know, meaning we've got the point. But no, he
repeated it again and again because people get angry with your spouse. start screaming and yelling
		

			Stop it, cut it. Start understanding who you are. You're a part of the OMA of the Prophet Muhammad.
		

			All sudden, you're supposed to follow his example in his footsteps. You're supposed to be
		

			an amazing human being you're supposed to try to be one. So cut out the screaming, the yelling, the
shouting the abusive language, the lies, the falsehood, the cheating, the deceiving. They trusted
him completely Salalah Salah
		

			and it was a beautiful, amazing relationship. So here goes, Are you part of the making effort to
follow, make an effort to learn, make an effort to change your lives, husbands and wives. It's about
time we did something about what we know. You expand your knowledge whatever I said today, I'm sure
you know, but one thing that we are lacking is when it comes to have you changed your life. What are
you doing? Did you change Subhan? Allah? May Allah Almighty grant us Oh goodness, may Allah subhanho
wa Taala protect all of us and make us from the best of
		

			you know the best of people. May Allah Almighty help us improve ourselves. May Allah help us fulfill
the rights of our spouses with respect with dignity. May Allah make us focus on the Archaea and
agenda rather than focusing on petty material things of this world. This world does not equate even
the weight of the wing of a fly in the eyes of Allah. So what are you stressed about?