Mufti Menk – Ask Them, What Did You Gain

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I tell people on the day of Eid,

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you know, Ramadan is a month. Right? What

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do we do in Ramadan?

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We fast and we give charity and we

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do taraweeh. So many things.

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Ramadan is a month where we do ibada,

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but I tell you, shaitan on the day

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of Eid,

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what does he make us do?

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You have a party. What party is there?

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Whatever we did not do in Ramadan, we

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do it all on the day of Eid.

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You meet with your girlfriend, your boyfriend.

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You'd go and say, 1 month I didn't

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touch you. Come. Come. Come. Astaghfirullah.

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It's a reality.

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It's as though you want to do Kaaba

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for the sins. Kaaba is only for farab,

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not for sins.

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Allah kept you away. The day of Eid

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is not a whistle being blown to say,

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okay. It's over. You can start doing what

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you want once again. No.

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The same Allah in Ramadan is the same

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Allah outside of Ramadan.

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So

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learn to be a person who understands the

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gift of Allah and why is Allah telling

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you to discipline yourself so that you lead

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a happy life.

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Ask those who have lost themselves in intoxicants,

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those who lost themselves in the clubs and

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the pubs, those who have lost themselves in

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sin. Ask them,

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what did you gain? They'll tell you nothing.

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I'm depressed. I'm sad. I cannot sleep. I

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cannot eat properly. I have no friends. I

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lost my family. I lost my wife and

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children or my husband and children. I lost

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my siblings and everyone and I'm living a

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lonely life. I'm depressed and suicidal.

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Sometimes, do you know why?

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Because

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you forgot Allah.

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The only thing you need therapy is just

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come back to Allah slowly but surely. Discipline.

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Be hard on yourself. The beauty the beauty

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you will have is amazing.