Mufti Menk – As A Father, Which Side Would You Choose

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Speaker 2 describes a situation where a man named Muhammad sallahu alayhi wa was approached by a woman in his house and he threatened to remove her from his name. The woman eventually left and the man eventually asked for permission to go back in. The man eventually asked for permission to participate in a moment of joy and the woman eventually asked for permission to do so. The woman eventually asked for permission to do so and the man eventually asked for permission to do so.

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			There was an incident in the life
of Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa
		
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			sallam wherein him and Aisha Radi
Allahu anha. They were talking in
		
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			the house in Madina, Munawwara and
I shall the Allahu Anhu was
		
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			speaking quite loudly it seemed
like they were quarreling and Abu
		
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			Bakr Siddiq Radi Allahu Anhu
happened to be passing the home.
		
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			So he enters the house after
seeking permission, and he
		
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			immediately began to admonish his
daughter How dare you speak like
		
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			this to Muhammad? sallallahu
alayhi wasallam How dare you raise
		
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			your voice in this quarreling sort
of attitude. And the Prophet
		
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			sallallahu alayhi wa sallam came
between the two of them, and he
		
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			defended his wife, and he said, Do
not speak to her in this way. And
		
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			Abu Bakr Siddiq Ravi Allahu Anhu
looked at the two of them and went
		
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			away. Obviously, he was asked in a
nice way, without making mention
		
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			of those words, you know, to leave
basically he left and a little
		
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			while later he passed the house
once again and he heard her
		
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			laughing in happiness. So he
knocked again on the door and he
		
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			asked for permission to go back in
Abu Bakr Siddiq, probably Allahu
		
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			Allah and he was given permission.
And he said the famous statement
		
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			he said, allow me to participate
in your joyous moment, just like I
		
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			was made to participate in the
moment of cuddling a few moments
		
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			back. Amazing. And from this, we
learned something interesting that
		
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			the fathers of those who gave
their daughters in marriage to
		
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			others actually trained their own
daughters as to how to speak to
		
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			their own husbands today. The
difficulty is neither does the
		
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			husband know how to speak to his
wife, nor does the wife know how
		
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			to speak to the husband. And at
the same time if the parents get
		
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			involved, they do not look at who
is right or wrong. They just look
		
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			at who is related to them. May
Allah subhanahu wa taala make us
		
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			from those who are better than
what we actually are