Breeze of Mercy Aug. 9, 2017

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We begin by thanking and praising the law,

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the most deserving of our thanks and praise.

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And we beseech him to shower Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam

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with compliments and salutations, and his Peace and mercy and blessings. And upon his family and his companions, and all of those who follow His perfect tradition until the end of time.

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We ask a lot of teachers that which benefits us and to allow us to benefit from that which he has taught us and to increase us in beneficial knowledge.

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Likewise, we seek refuge in Allah we asked him to protect us from information that does not benefit that does not bring us closer to him where his pleasure, we asked him to protect us from a heart that does not tremble at his remembrance, from I that does not shed tears

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from a neffs that does not find satisfaction.

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And we affirm that nothing is possible except for lummix. It's so and he's the one capable of making the most difficult achievable. As to what follows We concluded the chapter last week of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam his dealings with people of special needs people with different types of physical challenges or ailments or disabilities. And now we are moving to the next chapter, which is very close and similar, but a bit more broad and general. And that is to actually use a lot more It was 11 miles have been Masai be all about how the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam dealt with different people in different individuals who suffered losses, or endured different types of

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calamities or challenges.

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And first of all, before we actually get into some of these narrations,

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it's important to understand that this is the son of Allah and His creation. The pattern of a lot in his creation is that people will be tested in different ways. And on different levels. Some may be tested in their health,

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some may be tested in their wealth, some may be tested with a loss of some type, whether it be a loss of a loved one or a family member,

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or a loss of some type of

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opportunity, if you will. But the idea is that there will be tests there will be challenges, and that is the nature of this dunya. That's what differentiates dunya from Athena. That's what differentiates this life from the hereafter. When a person is admitted into agenda in the Hereafter, may Allah make us amongst them,

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then there are no more challenges there are no more difficulties. But this temporary life is one of challenges. And every human being will be tested. It is not possible that any human being will live this life without going through some form of a test or another.

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It's not possible.

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It's only that the tests vary, and differ from person to person, and from situation to another.

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And the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam explained in a hadith in authentic hadith. Why is it exactly that Allah carries out these tests the Prophet sallallahu Sallam said and ebihara total the Allahu anhu Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, when you read the law who will be here when you submit?

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Well, honey Island area it's in a Hadeeth recording Bahati

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that the Prophet sallallahu Sallam said whoever Allah wishes and Wills good for he will test him in some way. take something from this person.

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You know how many badji

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or himolla he comments on this? And he says usually men who've been modeling Elmo sad face it a little mad and more sad here, Xena. Well, here's an even more sad face Rory, where she did Timo SeolA TV Sora highly for either sabado sub Canada, Nika. surburban, Lima, Allah the whole la junta Baraka with Allah be human and

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he says a loud mic test someone by taking away some of their health so they may have an ailing

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Thus taking away some of their wealth. So they experienced some level of decrease in their

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belongings, or perhaps in their, you know, with some experience that will take away from some of their happiness perhaps. And the idea is, what will be the reaction of this person. So if this individual is patient, and endures and seeks reward from Allah, meaning, so they don't react to the opposite of that, meaning they don't

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react with displeasure in the decree of Allah, or they don't react with being unhappy with what Allah subhanaw taala has decided, then that experience will actually be a means of elevating that person. And that's the highest, that's the goodness that is meant by in this narration, I remember one time, I

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came to class of one of my teachers. And

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when I sat down, he was talking about something, and I'm not sure what it was. But at that perfect time, he mentioned something which was wonderful. And he said, You know, there's some individuals that don't have an enormous amount of voluntary, good deeds. they fulfill their obligatory deeds. But you know what, this might not be the guy that's so generous.

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In charity, this might be the girl that's not standing up all night and the M would lay in praying and making sure this isn't someone who might be fasting, so often voluntary fasts, meaning they're not your ideal, amazing, superb worship, or, if you will, is the average person that does their obligatory deeds. But Allah has love for this individual in the law wants to raise their rank. And they're not doing all of the voluntary deeds that would elevate their rank. So Allah gives them a test, some challenge that's within their ability to endure. And when they respond to this challenge with patience, and with perseverance and seeking reward from Allah, then they meet a lot in the

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hereafter and they have a huge wealth of good deeds and they don't know where it came from. And they will say, Oh Allah, I am not like these people around me that are NBR or truthful people or martyrs or people who give so much blood up or people that did so much extra fasting and praying, or will this come from? And it will be said this is from your Sabo. This is the reward of your patience. That's why in salt satellite, Allah says that the angels greet some of the believers when they are to enter Jenna, and the angels say to them Salaam when it can be mouse abelton for near Morocco, but dar Salam aleikum, you are safe now. Safety and tranquility and peace be from Allah with you. Now

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that you are going to enter Gen Y because of your patience, because of your sub veneer and Morocco but down this abode, this home that you're going to enter into, it can't get better than that.

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So that is the wisdom behind these different challenges and tests and difficulties. And nsmb nomadic cattle, the Allahu anhu another sort of law who sort of lahardee or cinema been able montages i mean by that we're in the law either, Bomani, potato famine, all the effort of una de la woman Sahaba, who saw this is a hadith narrated in attend a meeting in urban magic. And the scholar said it is sound, the prophets alaris and him sit on the authority of NSF idiomatic that the weight and the value of reward is proportional to the weight and the challenge of the test from Allah. And if Allah loves a group of people, he will give them a test.

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So whoever is content, whoever has that elbow, whoever is content with what Allah has decided, then they will have, they will have the pleasure of Allah upon them.

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And whoever is reacting with arrogance and rejection and displeasure, then they will have the displeasure of a law upon them. And if a person has a BA from Allah, then there is nothing more valuable than they can that they can have.

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Play let's talk about the prophet SAW Selim his dealings with these individuals that he came across since we said everybody goes through these experiences. So now let us now that we understand from our perspective, how about when we come to deal with others because again, this class and this gathering is all about dealings. So how did the prophet SAW Selim deal with others when he came across them in this situation? First of all, kind of saw the longer it was cinema, Drew Alamo, Saba, ala celebrity, etc. sabi zonula. Who isn't he? Well, Obama Baca the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam would make

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it would make prayer and supplication and he

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He would remind and call upon a person who is going through a difficulty, it would remind them to have patience. And he would remind them to seek reward from Allah. And he will feel sad with their sadness, which is basically empathy. And empathy is one of the highest levels and forms of emotional intelligence, that you're able to put yourself in the shoes of the, the other person, you might not be experiencing what they're experiencing, but you try really hard to feel what they might be feeling and you won't be able to feel exactly what they're feeling, but you can try to get even a fraction of that. And when you go through that emotional process and try to put yourself in their

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shoes, then you have an understanding and then you'll actually be able to connect with them emotionally and in a way that will be supportive.

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Won't Bella Becca, and even sometimes he would be sharing with them in their moments of sadness, to the extent that he would cry when they would be crying.

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You know, and we're not talking about fake crying, we're talking about actually putting yourself in another person's shoes and trying so hard to imagine what they would be feeling. So you end up eventually crying when they're crying, because their challenge or their difficulty is so moving. And that's how the process of them connected with people. It wasn't a shallow or superficial

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but it was a meaningful one. So let's look at this narration and Osama Tiffany's a general the alohar and open

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receiver to Nabi sallallahu alayhi wa sallam he in an in in Lebanon Lee Kobe Botha Tina

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for auto select la he took seymore la la tn for karma woman her Mater who said Roberto Jebel will be able to curb was AWS arbitrary john

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photofiltre Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam wasabi NFS who are

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known for fall but

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for Colorado and you're all sort of La has a four color howdy here my twin Jen Holla Holla houfy OBE by ID in your hammer la hoomin eBay the hero Hannah,

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this is narrated in

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Al Bukhari, and Muslim so the highest level of authenticity. sample is eight says that someone sent a message with the daughter of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam saying to inform the Messenger of Allah that our son, a young boy had passed away.

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So they are asking him to come and visit them.

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So the Prophet sent responded to that message with a message and he said, yo creo Salaam, he said, give them my greetings of Salah, give them my greetings of Assalamualaikum. And he was saying, say to them in Manila Hema Earth, to Allah belongs what he has taken.

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What to whom,

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and to Allah belongs what he gave.

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were called Luna in the whole big rainbow sama. And every single creation of Allah and everything that Allah decides, has a particular decree and appointed time. Meaning the implication of that is when Allah decides that a person will pass will die, that is something appointed and decided by Allah felt elsmere wealth. So she should be patient. And she should seek reward from Allah speaking about the mother who sent this message. So when this message received, reached the family, they responded with

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insisting that the Messenger of Allah come and visit them.

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Duke see more. And then he later Tiana, she took an oath she swore by Allah, I swear you must come and visit us, which is really intense. And the Prophet informed us and another Hadith, that if somebody asks you, and they ask you by swearing taking a lesson aim, as long as it's not something sinful or wrong, then you should fulfill that don't reject them.

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But again, it shouldn't be something taken lightly. Unfortunately, in a lot of our cultures, we get so used to using that, pulling that card if you will, with something that is trivial or not necessary. So there needs to be some gravity to the matter when we take an oath With the name of Allah. So the Prophet responded, so he got up and not only did he get up, but he gathered a lot of noble people from

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His circle of companions were either more either the German side of them or by them or other gentlemen, and others. These are very noble and respectable and knowledgeable companions, meaning he gathered a group of really honorable people to go and visit meaning this is an important visit an important matter. So he went and he visited this family. And so they brought the body of this child to the Prophet. So the longer it was him he had just passed, just recently, a few moments before. And the Prophet began choking on his own breaths. And he began to cry, and his eyes shed tears. So his companion said, who was one of those?

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This might have been, you know, the first time he sees the Prophet reacting that way with those kinds of emotions. Perhaps that is why he reacted in the way he did. But he was inquisitive, he said, O Messenger of Allah Maha What is this? You know, it's as if, you know, he was surprised to see the Messenger of Allah reacting in this way. So the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, How is he urashima tune?

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Jia Holla Holla houfy Hello everybody. The Prophet said this is a manifestation of the mercy of Allah that He has placed in the hearts of his servants.

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These tears that are shed, this is the result of having mercy.

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So to be callous or to be hard, or to be cold in such situations, meaning that means there is a lack of mercy in that person's heart, meaning they need to get a nice dosage of mercy.

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So the Prophet said, in Mar, A Lago minutely by de Abrahamic, he said definitely Allah shows mercy and deals with mercy with those servants of his that show mercy to others. If you want a lot to give you from his mercy then you need to show mercy to others, other individuals and other creation of a law that you come across

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so the Prophet said in Medina, Hema, and by the way, this is a prophetic supplication to make and to say to someone when they have a family member or a loved one that has passed. We say to them in the Lila Hema have one of whom Erica makuuchi in in the hub in Ecuador. For spill water Cebu we're in LA we're in La Jolla Rajon we are taught to say to the person that to Allah belongs what he has taken, and to Allah belongs what he has given. So if Allah gave you a life,

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or gave life to someone in your family or someone close to you, and that's him giving it came from him, when a Houma has, and if he takes that soul back, then he is only taking that which He Himself gave, and he is the one who gave it therefore he is the one who can take it when he sees fit.

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So it's to console the person that this soul has returned back to its creator. What could you do in the in the hoobie methodology, and everything that Allah decides, has been carefully and perfectly measured,

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timings, events, it's all been measured, determined and recorded by Allah to us, it's a calamity. to us. It's something that happened suddenly, we weren't expecting this to happen now. Or we didn't know that it would happen now or when Yes, because our knowledge is linear. But a laws knowledge is not linear. A law knows what will happen before it happens. And allows knowledge is so vast that he knows what could have happened, even if it didn't happen, how it would have been.

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But we don't have that kind of knowledge. That's the difference between their lm between the knowledge of Allah and the end of the creation, or collusion and the homie arkadelphia spirit.

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So be patient, be patient and

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count if desorb literally means to count something literally means to expect and to hope, reward from Allah doesn't expect and look forward to that reward from Allah. Well in narela he was in La Jolla, Roger on and all of us in all of us we belong to Allah and to Allah We will return

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when you own something, you can take it whenever you want because it's your property.

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Did we create ourselves a lot asks and soul at the poor? Am Holy Roman lady she in am whom Allah Allah. Allah asks a question that he doesn't answer because the answer is so obvious. Allah says, were they created from nothing, or did they create themselves?

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neither of the two, there's only another option possible, which is that Oh Allah, you are the one that created us. So if he's the one that created us and He is the one that we are a property of, and since we are a property of a lot, we don't own our lives that he can take back his property when he wants.

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It's very simple. Just like if you had something you owned, you would take back possession of it, when you solve it. And Allah is the most wise he doesn't do anything without wisdom.

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What kind of you are a limo home key theater Saba. Not only did the Prophet verbally remind and instruct and

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call them to be patient, but he explained and showed them how to express patients how to express sobor let's see this real life story this is an amazing narration and nsmb American Idol the alohar and hope on

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this hadith is so full of wisdom It's unbelievable. Merlin never you sort of longer and he was cinema be more attentive Kia in the forbidden Allah Sabine Lucha

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for call a tequila who was very

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cold at La currently for inoculum to see be mostly betting while I'm Terry fou.

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de la lucha in the hoonah Vu Salalah alayhi wa sallam.

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In another narration for a mandala behold you don't know who Rasulullah sallallahu wasallam a cappella out of two Who

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was he was a Muslim in the narration of Muslim for me at the moment he mentioned the to Colombian Lady asaba had Mr. nocellara salaam, Haji lendman Who am I hava for at Baba nebia Sorry, I said I'm fed MTG two in the hall but what but we're being for toilet Eliska for color in Mr. Subaru in the soda metal oola is a very funny read in Bukhari and Muslim and a cinematic narrates he says the prophets are longer It was a lamb passed by a woman who was crying in a very loud manner. As she stood over the grave of her son, young boy slubby still a young boy who had just passed away. And he had clearly just been buried, and she's standing over the grave she can't bear to leave the side of

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that grave and she is crying tabookey She is crying very loud.

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So the Prophet passed by her when he saw her in this condition understood what the situation is. He came to her and he said to her,

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it tequila her will speedy. He told her be mindful of Allah. And

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Express patience.

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Show patience, exercise.

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for coilette. So she responded in a carny Get away from me.

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Oh, she's talking to she's talking to her Sorolla.

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She said Get away from me for in the column to see bumo CBT, you have not been tested with my test. You don't know what I'm going through. When I'm telling you who you have no idea what I'm going through.

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These are very common words. When someone is going through like a really difficult situation. And you want to try and help them express patience. they very often they'll respond this way. Man, you have no idea what I'm going through. You've never been through something like this. Who are you to tell me to be patient? Let's see what you would do if you are going through my situation. Right? Very common. Maybe some of us have said this to someone when they advised us perhaps emotions are very high. There's anger, there's sadness, there's anxiety, maybe some depression loss. It's a difficult time. So where did the profits alarm to send them do?

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Probably if it was one of us, we would say hey, relax, calm down. I'm only trying to help you out here. I'm just trying to remind you, It's for your own good. Or maybe we would get on the defensive. No, I've been through more difficult things. Remember when I had such and such and such and such.

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Many of us would react that way. What are the props I sent him do? He went away?

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He did. We don't even have any mention Allah. Allah for one, hold the book. None of that. All we have in the narration is fast forward. Someone came to the woman and said Hey, did you know that was the Messenger of Allah that was talking to you.

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He didn't even respond to her statement.

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So here, there is a really big wisdom. Did she react in an appropriate way? No, she didn't, even if it wasn't the Messenger of Allah, even if it was just any average person that was giving her this advice, it's not appropriate for her or anyone to react that way. You know, when you're being advised, when you're being advised, the appropriate thing is to accept that good advice, and not respond with, you know, that kind of verbiage. But, being that it's also the Messenger of Allah, someone that deserves more respect from her, it made it even, you know, more inappropriate for her to react that way. So when someone came to her in the narration of Bahati, it said that somebody

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came to her a man came to her and said, that was the Messenger of Allah talking to you. So she said, My Aleph to who I didn't know that was the Messenger of Allah, she was so caught up with her grief, and her emotion at that time, probably, she didn't even look at who it was talking to her. You know, and that happens sometimes, when a person is so engrossed in their,

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in their emotions.

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In a narration of Muslim, there is an extra phrase that is added there, which is that

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the narrator describes for me through the remote, it's like when someone told her that, hey, you were talking to the Messenger of Allah, she almost It was like she was gonna pass out like she was gonna die right there from embarrassment and disbelief that Oh, man, how could I have regret? How could I have reacted that way? When the Messenger of Allah was giving me good advice? So she went to the house of the Messenger of Allah and there was no one there outside of his door. So she

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spoke directly to the Messenger of Allah. And she said, LEM, Erica, she said, I didn't know that was you.

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I was talking to me earlier. So the Prophet responded to her and he said, very simply, in few words, that carry so much wisdom in NEMA sorbitol, in the southern metal, Allah. He said to her, Well, real patience.

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True patience is exemplified at the earliest moments of when the calamity strikes.

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To Be patient is to be patient at that time.

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Once a lot of time has passed Time, time, you know, heals, as they say, or at least it reduces some of the emotion might not go away completely. But things calm down with time. So yeah, definitely. It's easier for a person to be patient after the calamity by a while, several hours, days, weeks, months, etc. But at that moment, when the calamity strikes, that's when you're expected to

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show patience. And that's the time when most people lose patience. That's when it's mostly but that's sober.

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If you wait till much later, when everything calms down, and then you say, Oh, I'm having sober. Yeah, thank you.

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Everybody can have sober at that time, right? Most people.

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But right at the beginning of the calamity, that's when you find difficulty. That's really what football is. That's what true patience is. Bottle hobby. The amount of Bobby himolla he said Marina and the sobre la mejor la Hisashi boo hoo. Maracana in the mufa gtil masaba befinner. Female Delica for inner Who? Me Yes, Lu. What is Erica Kayla Colucci in Yep, they're also here on familia kebab, lol masaba farinata aka Puritan sama. So, in our hobby, he said that what's meant by this Hadeeth what is when a prophet said inadmissible, that definitely truly the patient's what he meant is the patience that is praiseworthy that you mentioned that person and you say, Man, that person is a

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person of patience. It becomes descriptive of that person. Why when they were able to have that patience and demo Fallujah, Atilla masaba, when that calamity caught them by surprise at that moment, if they can be patient at that moment, that's a patient person. But once a lot of time has passed, and then a person shows patience, then that's easy for most people. That's why they said everything starts small and then grows and becomes bigger, except almost liba. They said except a calamity. It starts big, and then it gets smaller over time.

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I remember I was with one of my teachers, when a young brother in the community here, his

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father had passed away

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He was still relatively young. And so I remember we went, it was here in Mission Viejo, and we went and we visited, and I was with one of the Imams, and he taught me something so beautiful. And he really, you know, connected with that young brother on a personal level. And he told him this experience that you have right now. It's like, you know, when there is a ball right in front of your face, a small ball, right in front of your face, it looks really big. But if we keep moving it away, in a way, in a way, in a way, in a way eventually becomes so tiny, like a dot, and then eventually, you won't see it anymore. That pain and that emptiness that a person feels when someone close to

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them dies.

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And not really, I noticed that that moment, it helped that person, because it was still a young person. This kind of visualized his experience. And I saw him feeling better. And hearing that metaphor, maybe I didn't verbalize it in the same way. But what you get the idea that this feels really big right now. And it's only something that will take time to

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become easier upon your chest.

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So he explained this is how to have patience, how do you have somebody somebody wants to ask, I want to be a person of patience, well, hold yourself down, control your response at the moment when you are tested.

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And by the way, sober is like a muscle. Some of our teachers would say, it's just like a muscle, it needs to be worked out.

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So with each calamity that you face, each time you're able to control yourself and express support and patience, your sub muscle, your muscle to be patient will get stronger and stronger and stronger. But each time you

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blow up and you react in a way that is inappropriate, you are weakening that muscle, and then it will be harder. As time goes on, as each experience goes on. That will become a pattern of behavior, to not control your anger, to not control your speech, it'll become a part of that person's behavior. So it could be something so tough, something so small, and they just lose their temper over it. They can't have patience.

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Why? Because it's become a pattern of behavior. But if you try with each pinch with each pain with each calamity, with each disaster, you hold yourself down, then that will become easier for you. No

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language tool in multiple things, he used it with an alien with hidden with Saba the prophets in them and El Moby alumier in our movie, the halloumi. And as you mentioned about sub sub book. So, the brother is mentioning and narration that to that, to have trouble to acquire silver means you have to do a sub bar meaning you have to keep

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expressing patience, time and again, time and again. The Prophet said that knowledge is acquired through too long even the word has fit but it has linguistic or phonetic, sorry, weight to it. Because you have to keep struggling in that learning process to learn. You have to keep struggling to be patient so that you can become a person of patience to become a person of patience. May Allah make us people have trouble people have patience. Well, can you be you know, little masabi agility mostly but he also urbanity zabi Allah. The Prophet also expressed, just like in the previous chapter a few weeks ago, the Prophet would mention the great reward and the value of expressing

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The Hadith narrated in society and I met, and the scholar said it'll so here it is authentic. The Prophet sallallahu Sallam on the authority of productivity as he would sit down in a head up like we're doing right now sit down in a gathering with a group of the companions. And there was one gentleman in that group who used to always bring with him his young toddler son, young age, and he would play and come from behind his father's back, and jump in his lap, and sit there and he was a beautiful child.

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And so the Prophet would see this man with his young boy being so playful, and enjoying jumping over the back of his father. And the Prophet was happy to see such a beautiful sight. So the Prophet asked the man, he told him to hit boo.

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You know, he wanted to hear the man express his love, he told him, Do you love this child of yours? So the man said, O Messenger of Allah, may Allah love you, as much as I love this child

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meeting is just out of this world, the love that I have for this son of mine.

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Shortly thereafter, that boy died.

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And demand became so sad at the loss of this son that he loved so much young boy,

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didn't even get to spend many years to enjoy the company of his beloved son. And he, that man couldn't come back to that gathering with the Messenger of Allah, because just sitting in that position, would remind him of that experience. And sadness would overtake him. So he was absent. So the Prophet of Allah hadn't seen him for so long. So after some time, the Messenger of Allah, he, he missed that guy. He said, Hey, where's that guy with the beautiful little boy used to always be here? And was such a joy to have him around? Where did he go? So they informed the messenger of law, they said, Oh, you know, his son, died. And he became, you know, overcome with grief. He can't even

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come and be reminded

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of how he used to sit here with his son. And so the Messenger of Allah went to go meet him for an idea who the Prophet of Allah met this man.

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And he asked him about his son. And so the man confirmed the news that, you know, my son passed away. So the Prophet gave him that Xia, Zoho what we said earlier, to remind the person that to Allah belongs what he has given unto Allah belongs what he takes, and we are all going to return back to Allah. This is as Zia and making, making supplication and prayer.

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And after he did that, after he did that, he asked them and he told him, you know, full on also and so he said, which one is more beloved to you?

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That you would have that son with you alive? He would be with you right now. And you would enjoy him for the rest of your life. You would enjoy having him around with you for the rest of your life.

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That's one option. Or the other option

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is that you come tomorrow, tomorrow meaning

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here after you come tomorrow, and any of the doors of Jenna any of the gates of Jenna and Jenna has how many gates?

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it'll come inshallah. But the point is that Jenna has the seven gates so the Prophet of Allah sallallahu Sallam told him

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You go to any one of these gates, and you find this son of yours has gotten there before you and he opens any of these gates to gender that you choose.

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You will open the gate to Jenna for you. So you enter into gender from that gate with your son. Which reminds me of if Dario who like He'll open the gate for you reminds me of the verse and so a lot

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Allah says, and those that have Amen. Whatever at home, the Ria to whom Be a man, and then their offspring, their progeny, follows them. And they have amen as well. They have belief and conviction in Allah, Allah, how can I be him the realtor whom we will reunite them with their progeny? They will catch up to them. In general, how can I be him the realtor home? Mama Elena homina, Emily him in shape.

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So that's really a beautiful

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reminder. So the man said, belly sp onida by bilgin, I choose that my son gets to the gate of gender before me and opens it for me, that's the one I'll choose between these two options. So the Messenger of Allah said, then that's for you.

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Then that's for you, you will have that. So, another companion overheard this conversation,

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overheard this conversation? And he said, O Messenger of Allah. Is that only for him specifically? Or is that for all of us.

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And he is this reward that you that's a big deal. This child will open the gate, meaning you're going to Jenna.

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So the Prophet said to Belle, the coolie comb, rather, it's for all of you. It's not only specific to him. So this is really

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glad tidings

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for those parents that had to experience the loss of their children.

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And that's something that you know, if you're not a parent, you can't

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You can't, you can, you can, you can only try to imagine that, but only the parents will know what that experience would feel like.

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It's something undescribable.

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So because it is so intense, and it's difficult to be patient in an event like that. But if that parent is patient, seeking the reward from Allah, then that child that they lost will be the child that opens the gate of Jenna for them.

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Which is a huge, huge reward. Play in another Hadith, and Abby Jolla water. Aloha. That'll sort of La his little lahardee with cinema on Yeah, Pura la huzzah Allah Mali Abdel momineen in de la onida, Dr. Sophia hoomin, le dunia Masha Saba, who in the agenda of Julio narrates at the Messenger of Allah said, Allah says, that if my servant my believing woman, my believing servant,

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if I have taken his beloved and Habib,

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scholars, they said, Can we let our

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work kulu wakulla manushi boo insan meaning someone loved to the person doesn't only have to be a child, child or brother or relative or someone beloved to that person. A lot takes the life of that person from you.

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Allah says if they are patient,

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and they dress up and they seek and expect their award for their patients from Allah, they will have no other award except the agenda.

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In another Hadith, in Allah Allah your body at the moment either the Habibi Sophie mineral LD for sobre la la Amara behind me so I've been doing agenda. Allah does not allow Allah will not be pleased with any reward except agenda for the one that lost their loved one in this dunya but they responded to that calamity with patience and with expecting reward from Allah. There is another amazing Hadith specifically related to a mother who loses her child the prophet SAW Selim also mentioned this hadith and why the manager but in an interview, Salama Paul will leave you in fcbd in in a sock, Palais de la a Jew Roma who be salary Hillel genetti. The server to the office I sent him

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says the child that is a

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when a mother has a miscarriage Is there a term for that?

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infant is a term for the English term for that. I can't think of it right now. stillborn voters.

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Okay, so the Prophet sallallahu Sallam said that,

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that if the mother has patience and expects reward from Allah, with a miscarriage, the stillborn then that child will pull her into Jenna with

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their umbilical cord, meaning they will stay connected with that mother until they pull her into Jenna.

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So, I mean, that's a really difficult experience. And I remember I was teaching a class one time in

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I think it was in Ottawa. And we were talking about this topic of we were mentioning some ahaadeeth some narrations with prophesize lm and there was a mother who came and she had a she had been someone who suffered a miscarriage

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very intense emotion. But she hadn't heard these ahaadeeth and these two before nobody mentioned them to her, she didn't come across them. And and she was explaining how hearing these narrations really brought her joy and filled an emptiness in her that that she had for many years. So the prophets I said I made these statements and these promises and he mentioned how Allah makes these promises to motivate person to give them hope and give them something to look forward to for greater than what it is that they missed out on.

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If they have sohbat if they have supported our patients and expecting

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reward from Allah will you be you know their home and then masala took a funeral hapa

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Let's mention one other thing before.

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Surely, who was one of the early pious predecessors he said something really wise. He said in Nila Osamu will mostly Bertie Meadow La La Aruba, Mr. Watt.

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The scholar surely he said, You know, when I am afflicted with a calamity, I think and praise Allah for it four times.

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Four times Why? He said the first one is lm takanawa mimma. He.

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He said, Islam Tokunaga mimma he said I do hemd I say Alhamdulillah I think and praise Allah expressed gratitude to Allah, that it wasn't more severe than what it was.

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So he has some difficulty.

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So he thinks, well, how could it have been worse? Oh, man, it could have been this in this and hamdulillah it wasn't that.

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So that's the first one hamdulillah he says, What am I do who is Orissa Konya? sobre, la ha, he says, then number two, I think about having patience, and to be patient in the face of this calamity. So I think and praise Allah, that he allowed me to be patient.

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How many people go through this experience and they don't express patience. So I am able to be patient and hamdulillah What am I do who it was for carnelian is still Raja edema. Allah joovy me so up. And I think Allah that He has granted me to feel that he's given me the ability and the success to review and ponder and go back and,

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you know, try again,

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and seek reward again from Allah. What am I doing? Islamia, Allah haffi Dini, and this is the most critical, he says, and the fourth one I do hemd I think and praise Allah, that he didn't make this calamity in my faith.

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You know, how people say I had a crisis of faith.

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For some people honestly express that, like, Look, I just, I don't believe anymore. There's a misconception or there's confusion or there's doubt about Allah, or his messenger or His revelation. That's a crisis. That's of the most severe because that affects a person's relationship with their Creator. So he says, If hamdulillah wasn't of that kind, it's something in my health or my wealth, that's fine, that comes and goes on my connection with Allah, that's too valuable. So what hamdulillah it didn't happen in that?

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Will you be you know, to whom and then a Messiah to consider the prophets I send them also just like he expressed to people who endured calamities, that this was a means of them getting big reward and getting gender. He also expressed to them that this was a means of purifying

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them from their poor choices and shuttle de la hora and her zoji nebia sama where it was cinema pilots para la la la Hollywood cinema mean mostly button to Cebu la massima a laka for Allah who Bihar and who had to show Katie

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at the show Katie you Shakira. This is a hadith narrated in Bukhari and Muslim

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issue the wife of the prophet SAW Selim said, the Messenger of Allah says, There is no calamity or difficulty or challenge that befalls a Muslim woman who submits to Allah except that Allah through that difficulty, expats and removes from their record some of their sins or some of their poor choices, even if it's a thorn that pokes them,

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even if it's a thorn that pokes them, that's why the Messenger of Allah sallallahu artists have taught us that if there is anything that bothers you, or pinches you say, Bismillah

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then say Bismillah why so you will get reward for that? And Allah Subhana Allah will purify you, of some of your sense, even authority that pricks you, that is a means of being purified. So it's, it's really a different mindset. You know, when somebody goes through a difficulty, and they start thinking, there's, there's, you know, different mindsets that that can be very common mindset is why me?

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I don't deserve this.

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This should have happened to someone else, not me.

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I do good things. This is what you do for me, God,

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I do good things and this is what you do to me.

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etc, or there is a sense of entitlement.

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I deserve I am entitled to more luxury and more comfort. This is not appropriate for me. I'm too high and mighty, to be tested. This is a mindset. Now, many people may not verbalize it this blatantly as I have. Some people do.

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May Allah protect us. But a lot of times this is what people are thinking.

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But there's when you read these ideas that this difficulty is like a cleansing is a totally different mindset is a different attitude. So then that same exact experience, you could totally flip it around and say hamdulillah I am being cleansed. I'm being washed.

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I'm being purified.

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I'm going through a

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cleansing process.

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Imagine someone's in bed and they're like really ill. Fever pain. And you come and tell them good news. That person what good news man.

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What good, good is only pain right now. No, the prophet said ABCD good news. What's the good news? He said,

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Oh Mother of an Ella. model by the Muslim, the Muslim. The believer when they have an illness, you he will love will be hapa that illness is a means of Allah, removing from that person from their record their poor choices, their mistakes, their sins, their bad deeds. And the Prophet give her a metaphor. And this metaphor is so amazing. So she would have felt so valuable. He said, just like fire is used to purify gold and silver from impurities.

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You know, when they mined gold and silver out of the ground? It doesn't look shiny. and nice. I mean it has a glimmer. Yeah. But it doesn't look the way it looks on jewelry and rings. Because it's there's pollutants, there's dirt and there's other minerals. There's copper. There's all these things mixed mixed in. So what did they do when they want to get you? Good? Pure gold. 24 karat shining. What do they do? They put it in the fire. He

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melted down, that will separate the gold and the silver from the other impurities. And then you get that pure, valuable gold. So it says if he's telling her, you are golden, you are so valuable, like the most valuable thing that people that's your value right now. That's how you are as a believer,

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as a as a human being who submits to Allah who worships Allah who lives with dignity and piety. You're like golden man. But you know what, we make some mistakes. So we get some of these impurities. So just like they got to put the gold in the fire to separate that a lot puts you through the heat of an illness.

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And you Be patient you remember a lot you'll come out of that illness like a

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valuable pure mineral

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And Jabir ibn Abdullah Hill de la hora and when I was sort of like his salon where it was said, I'm a model of beer I'm adding a model of beer I'm not in what le he will whom you are as a woman for Paula Abhishek who, Mr.

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Abhishek Radha Mr. La answer a few require sobre la, sir, for in Nemo or either como regenda.

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jabiru narrates that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam passed by the companion amount of acid and his father he acid.

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And they were of the early people to accept Islam in Mecca.

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And his mother.

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His mother was sumiya.

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So they were father, mother and son.

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And they were being tortured. Now in the early stages in Mecca, the people that accepted Islam with the prophet SAW Selim, they were not.

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They were not welcomed warmly. But they were punished. So amongst those that were punished with these early believers, and Molyneux Asad and his father, Yasser, and his mother, sumiya, tortured physically really bad. I mean, they tied them in certain ways. And they, it was really something hard to imagine.

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persecution, religious persecution.

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So the profits of the law, it was passed by them, and they were left in that situation. And he couldn't physically do anything to help them.

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You know, they were being guarded.

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The prophet SAW Selim couldn't do anything, they had no one to protect them. In those days, it was a tribal society. If you come from a big powerful family, your tribe will protect you. But if you're weak, if you're poor, you're oppressed, and you're wrong, you're picked on and you're persecuted.

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So that was their situation. But they did not want to renounce their faith. So the Prophet said sablon they said,

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patience, patience, oh family, of yes it for in mo are either kumal agenda, your appointment is in genda.

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Meaning, this is really bad, it's really painful. But the only thing to come next, after this experience of yours is gender.

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That's what's going to happen next.

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So the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam would mention to them about Jenna about paradise and the rewards of Paradise to give them hope, and allow them to endure and have strength through this calamity. And not all challenges and calamities are short, some of them are short and some of them lasts a very long time. That's one of the wisdoms behind a lot telling us the story of a YouTube Nebula YouTube or YouTube is one of the prophets and the messengers who came before Mohammed Salah Salah. And he was someone who was tested with a very serious illness and everyone left him he had no one by his side.

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He was abandoned. So not only I mean, it's bad enough that the guy is sick, or they his loss was sent him the Messenger of Allah. Are you on top of being sick, he is now abandoned and everyone's staying, staying away from him. Don't go near him stay away from him, isolated, excommunicated. So physical pain and emotional societal

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pain as well. And some of the some of the historians say that lasted 18 years.

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Well you but if neither of bajo and Nima Sania Babu, or hammer wash me,

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Allah says remember a YouTube when he called out to his Lord, that I have been missiny I have been touched by a bull by harm evil illness, and you are the Most Merciful

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like a chef and I'ma be human. But Allah says we have lifted that illness from him. But did it happen overnight? No, it didn't happen overnight, it took a long time.

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So patience is something that is expected at the moment calamity strikes. And it is something that is expected throughout the course of the challenge, and the difficulty. And for those of us that come across people that are going through those kinds of experiences, let us emulate these character traits of the prophets that allow her to send them empathy.

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Feel what they are feeling, try, force yourself to feel the pain that they are feeling, cry with them, visit them, don't ignore them, console them, make up for them, pray for them, give them hope, give them glad tidings reminded them, of what is waiting for them, should they have patience and be supportive? You know, it's a lot easier for a person to be patient when they have people around them helping them. But you just leave someone out alone and you say yeah, go Be patient.

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help them be supportive. The Prophet sallallahu Sallam is teaching us through His actions and through his words, to be supportive with those that go through difficulties. May Allah subhanho wa Taala make us people have patience. May Allah subhanaw taala make us people have empathy. Allah subhanaw taala make us people of kindness and mercy. May Allah fill our hearts and our actions and our words, with mercy and with kindness and with empathy towards others. May Allah make us of those who are pillars, and who are supportive and help our brothers and our sisters, our loved ones, our neighbors, who go through different challenges and difficulties. May Allah subhanaw taala make us of

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those whose words sooth and bring comfort to those that are enduring pain and difficulty. May Allah subhana wa Tada, adorn us and beautify us with the character of our beloved messengers of aloha to send them May Allah unite us with him in the highest levels of Jenna, Allah make us of those who listen and follow the best of what they hear us little Darwin and hamdulillah Hara alameen wa sallahu wa Sallim wa barik ala nabina Muhammad Allah Allah He was your Salah.