Lecture Concept Of Love In Islam Mu
Channel: Mohammed Faqih
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You know, I thought that because of the nature or the title of the topic of tonight's topic, the ladies section will
outnumber the men.
either equal or outnumber the sisters. So this is a very good sign. But I would like to start from where I left off last week.
Well, I did the opposite. We kind of mentioned remember when we said the story?
What did we talk about?
We talked about what anyone remembers.
It's quite interesting as I was preparing for this class, for this particular topic, you know,
I came across
sickness that kind of reminded me of where we were last week. What did we talk about last year?
What did we talk about last year? Think about it before you say.
Yes, the title of the title is
we talked about what
Yes, it was. So we had some disagreements. And we mentioned that one of the main or one of the principles of disagreement is what we have to uphold with
just the river, we said justice, upholding justice.
We talked about upholding justice. And I mentioned the story of how a woman ran into a man that did not
that who killed his brother? And then he said to her?
I don't like
I don't like I don't want
take with you. You're not liking me? Is that going to cause you to grow me?
or treat me adjust? I'm going to say no.
Justice comes before emotion
so upset, no justice company for that. Right. So one second, and
then the last second in the life cycle.
The man said to him, I don't really care much for your love. Only women care about love. And it's kind of we got a few giggles. And we got few. I got a few strange looks from this side. This side. I got a few smiles. And
that's what, that's what the man said.
So is it true that only women care about love?
Is it true? Now, the majority of men think that love is a secondary issue for them. And if you were to ask any man
Well, most men in this universe, what do you think about love and what does love?
Metal say it's a second it's not even on their mind. Some of them may even think that it's trivial and stupid. Right?
But what actually we are denying
is a natural need that
all human beings have is one of the basic natural needs of a human being please get the latter one
Every person cares, everybody has a need for love.
And if you study the different models, I've talked about the psychological needs of the basic human needs, all agree they might differ on the issue of do people have the need for control. There are differences. Some models include control some other models, they say, No, there's no need for control, specifically, there is a need for significance. And that's what makes people crave on what control. But when it comes to the issue of love, to love, and to be loved, and to know, to offer, and to receive
almost every module that I came across, whether it if it summarizes the basic human need for three nations or for women, but it's a 600, up to 14, they all agree to love being one of the basic human needs of both men and women. Now, the difference between men and women, is illustrated really by a female therapist.
by the name of Barbara vlj, PhD in psychology, she says, when it comes to love,
we work imagine love being inside a house, when it comes to love for men love house, love has a room, there is a there's a particular room for love. And that's right, that that
we're in love space, there's a room, there's a lot of room. And that's it. And then there's another room for almost every every rule, every lead has its own area.
When it comes to women, every room
is a room for love. So the whole house is a lovely house, by default.
That doesn't mean that.
So men have this ability, in most cases, to separate
compartmentalize, basically keep love in one area, or control.
Maybe that has something to do with.
men nor women can really control their emotions in their hearts, you can moderate your emotions, you can
slow down, but you can not really choose. When it comes to love hearts, hearts, emotions are the most common. And that's why the promise of a lover 87 you say Oh, he
had nine nine when he had lived was the parcel of it used to be just unfair.
When it comes to giving each her right, but when it comes to love, or something that no one can control,
because there are many factors involved. So we used to say allows us to be female and make
a female comic.
Or this is the best I can do when it comes to this is this is as just as I can get it when it comes to that image hi Can you control, meaning delivering the rights financially, otherwise, all of this, but when it comes to love, who cares about your daughter who he loves? He is attached to emotionally the most. He said, Oh Lord, like hold me responsible or accountable for achieving control, which you own and you control can I control not under control?
Ask Who do you love the most?
And is the process of interaction.
there's an interesting statement, that kind of documentation today by Rawls, and he says, and we have the philosophy especially, we want the holiness. He said love and justice
are the principles that bring order for most people. love and justice,
love and fairness.
And he says that you must have one.
At least he must have one of the two. He says well I will try them as little happiness without needing to have this terminal behind me.
He said, if people start treating each other with love, and they embrace love, and there is a group of people, there will be no need for justice.
However, if they fail to exercise well, right, then they must work.
They must, they must resort for any inaction, hail of all justice. So there is an interesting link between justice and love. That's what happened in the story of Roma. When he said to them, yes, I may not love me, but I still have what justice I'll be just I'll be fair, I'm not going to. However,
the ultimate model for believers for society or community is to have love. So, what is the concept of love,
shall try to make the spirit very shortly to open the floor for discussion.
Well, when it comes to we mentioned this word that The L Word or the L O V E word, usually people immediately think of the aromatic aspect of the physical aspect. That's because we have limited, right, the concept of love to just
to meet this area, but love is actually very comprehensive, the beauty of the scenario presented it's recognized
to be a human need. And not only that, but love is essential, this is an essential quality, you must love the facts of this cause they say people by default, by default, people love this love. And they say it is love that is the driving force or the motive behind every action or pattern of behavior, some kind of Love Actually, in some of his writings basically comes to inclusion, that is love that makes people behave and act in the fashion they do.
the level of money, the level of wealth, the level of status, the level of control the level,
the level of others, there are all kinds of levels, but loves involves, you know, people for example, they go and turn living life
either to do much work for money, so, right for
comfort, having a comfortable place to live
the level of luxury,
right, the level of status or the level of recognition for people to be recognized this level of something, even if
that is the level of somebody the level,
the level of safety,
right, the level of service.
And I watched
one of his qualities is that he loves
his love, especially. And it's given to a special group of people.
of course, love is an emotional reaction that involves showing care, and empathy.
For the one who's on.
It's an emotional process is actually in the heart. It comes from the heart, and it reflects in the behavior. And there are all kinds of behavioral signs of love. We're not going to get into that. But someone like for example, in the pilot has a book robot and that would be on love.
The different types of love the signs of love the symptoms of love,
the side effects of love.
The downside and the downside of love. someone like
him have a lot of great scarring.
He has a beautiful book written on love. It's called golden hammer.
He even talks about his own personal experience when it comes to the issue of love. Right, and many other scholars wrote on this issue of love. Now,
love is very important in order for someone to make it to gentlemen, in order for you to have happiness in this life. You have to have
This need to fulfill, you have to offer love, and you have to receive love.
And in order for you to attain happiness in the Hereafter, you must have a look.
And he was offered love
and sacrifice for what you love. And you must receive love. Otherwise you have no chance of happiness or success in this life
is a given can't
emphasize that actually
confirmed by the steepness of the
What does it? Do we have too many times the natural law, the natural law,
and the one that is, which is
involuntary. And then there's the voluntary, oh, there's involuntary and voluntary.
The first one is really, you know, normally speaking, it's based on lust and desire.
and the second one, the voluntary one is really based on benefits,
benefits and in the profits and the game that you get. So the first one is based on
on lust for desire. The second one is based on benefits and games.
when it comes to the believers, do believers should believers have love? Yes, of course, we know that there are different forms of love, different types of love, different expressions of love, based on the relationship. So, of course, we have ultimately a lot of ultimate goal. I said before I say that I go back and remind you that
there was a interesting article, in my research I came across written by a
relationship therapist, psychologists.
And they talk about different levels of different degrees. And they say the first one is
what you get out of the other person loving the things that the other person does. Great. So for example, I have a brother, he's right. And if
you ask me, why am I
right? I'm going to show you as
I say, because much more. He takes beautiful pictures of me and he was on the website.
So I love what, you know, basically giving you that that recognition that he gives you.
I love his kindness,
and love and support.
I love his excellent work and his efficiency.
what do I
What do I love his services and will be fulfilled? For me?
It seems like I'm alone.
Not really, it is a form of fraud. That's not really a normal type of loan.
What I say?
No, there's one more thing.
There are other things that I would do. And now I'm going to talk about a second level, she says there's a second level of law.
Well, I love
how he thinks of me. And what he you know, his perception of me. The fact that he thinks I'm funny. You think that way.
The fact that he thinks I'm funny, and you know, the fact that he in what he loves about me, I know what he loves about me and his obsession with with reading my pictures and doing my lectures. So that's what I know.
This is the second kind of love. The first one is loving what you get out of the person. The second love that she says the second level is loving what the person loves about you. Remember that famous lyrics. I love the way
I wait, I love the way you love me or the way you perceive me. So she says that same level is also a sufficient level of reality. The person is in love with themselves.
You're in love with your own desires or whatever it is fulfilled. The second one you are in love with yourself with with what the other person perceives, which is you again,
so it's selfish.
She says there is a third level of love.
There's a third level
And that is exactly that she gets conducted a mobile tablet where the person loves and enjoys what they do for the other person.
The motherly love is of that type mothers enjoy. Because at the end they do things. And then when the child comes and eat, and enjoys, whether you know that they feel they feel loved, they feel they feel fulfilled. So they enjoy your services, you're enjoying the opportunity that the person is giving you, for you to express your love.
As she says, this is a noble type of love.
Amazing, praiseworthy, however, is deficient. It is not enough, because remember what we said, as human beings, we have the need to love and to be loved.
And she says this could be in in many cases, it is it's a one way Look
where the person, you know, gives gifts. And we don't live in a perfect world where people notice all this after market where people follow the prophetic teachings, programs. If someone does a favor, someone does a favor for you. For the sake of making something free, right? For caching, you should reward them for it to the best of your ability. And if you can't, for some reason, reward them for it, then make
it until you feel that you have made enough drive to reward them for what they get.
Don't always be a recipient.
There are some people who are either passive or medically democracy they don't get, they just take very seat. And the more people give them, the more they crave, the more they want.
Unfortunately, the world is filled of this therapy, sometimes we don't even give until we have the need to give or until we are reminded, rarely would people keep the initiative. So she says because we live in this kind of role. Right? And it's not a perfect role. What happens is people get drained, and they run out of love. We keep giving me keep giving, giving until you're finally tired, we're not getting anything back. Right? So that account for the other person runs out.
And that's why many people, even those who are sincere and they give love them miserable, because he's not giving love.
So she says people must go to the fourth level, they must experience that fourth level. In order for people to achieve unconditional love, they must experience and they must transcend to that level.
Otherwise, you're gonna be miserable. And what is that? No, she said, the level of God,
the love of God.
And when I read that, when I get to that point, I dropped that.
We have psychologists and researchers who are coming up with this. And I say the prophets of Allah and he told us this morning
that what you should start with is the love of the one that drives you into this life.
The love of God, where you receive all the love that you need, all the significance that you need. All the recognition that you need, comes from the one that you love the most, and the one that matters to you the most.
So your heart is attached to most of
your emotions get can only be fulfilled
by the robot, nothing else can really take that place.
That shows how big of a heart we have. We have a big heart, only the moment.
And if you have a sincere desire to receive and give love, the only level a robot can do. Everything else is deficient, deficient. That's conditional, and it's not worth it.
So she must experience because what happens when people have the level of a law or the love of God, when people have that they start doing things for the sake of doing that they love
so they don't expect anything from people. So there is no disappointment. Do you know what the number one cause of love failing and decreasing even in relationships is what?
expectations and disappointment disappointed people become disappointed with each other. They have all these rosy you know expectations and they think I was perfect love is perfect. I'm going to love this person. They gonna love me on the same level that I'm gonna love it. No, that's not true. It doesn't happen.
And when you're ready to give love someone, may I be ready to receive love. It's just you know,
we're human beings.
Right, but we also have that I was there
love is unconditional. In fact, the last time you love a love,
you love the love.
And if you are working to have the level to have that in the corner, and only those who, because when.
Right? But guess which comes first
must have a dialectic. Normally we focus on how do I know
what about focusing on how to see the
last kind of it says
have to delete it. But software kill me hoping to
give you the exact reverse
sewer and water. Verse 54.
Or you believe whosoever turns away from his religion, from his faith, for some acting that will be for me, and
then he would bring people
home he loves and he loves, which comes first. We had como una he loves them. And they love her.
country, they are humble, we have humility with the believers, because some of the believers, they see, when they see the believers, they see the love of the believers for a lot of love a lot of the believers and recognize that love within the believers, which is something that they have. So basically, they see themselves within that believer, and that's why they see that that's the thing that a lot of us Miss. When you see a believer, some of us share the same standards or the same, the same values and the same principles as you do. You should recognize those principles that you carry, that you care about, that you are committed to. And thus, you will humble yourself before you love
them. You just love the believers, you love the Muslims. Why? Because you recognize the same values and the same principles that you stand for, that you are committed to within the
philosophy that says that the love of the believers who are most proud of God that is authentic, it's true. And it's stronger than any other load, when they feel ashamed to talk badly.
And those who believe
level must have had the most.
They have the strongest level that you can ever imagine. Because they get the sweetness of bad luck. And they understand that if you express a few spreads the loss of habitat and then you experience what do you get the taste in the mouth?
That's when you get the taste. So the
and here's a psychologist Do you
three qualities, Whosoever has three qualities, will find what indeed find the sweetness of faith of the mind. And by the way, a man has sweetness, it has a sweet taste. Very pleasant, very sweet. taste.
Some people have bitter taste for
their taste for it.
Because they have not made it to they did not find that connection.
When we pray and we don't
get the taste for salt, and we don't find a piece of salt. That's because we have not connected with so.
Oh, it's a lot of visits for sure. And I know this could be overwhelming for some people. It might be very disappointing, very depressing, and very sad. But this is the reality. And we have to struggle to find this connection. When the brother asked him said What is the connection? I said what I've been? I've been trying to answer this question, but I found it in a statement by one of the scholars and I believe it was
a lot of for sure. I said that connection is understanding that for sure. As well as social philosophy per se for sure. And this
is what concentration focus No. That is the result of a show
that is assigned for sure. That is the effect of pushup but that's not for sure. For sure. And it really means humility, humility, to humble yourself and feel a lot of humility you you realize who you are standing before a lot of the irony of who you are. You see how significant that was and how insignificant you are that humbles you that it brings fear it brings humility. So you're standing for some kind of battle with humility.
that makes you watch every movement
and every statement and reflect and think. Right, and then you find the connection. And then he came to me after reading this is exactly what I found the connection.
And of course, this is our goal is to keep that connection alive for so long, which means a struggle, you have to struggle with it, you might be able to accomplish any 1% 10% 20% 25% 30%, you have to struggle so much and often struggle, one of the one of the greatest scholars actually said, I have to struggle 20 years, 20 years, until I was finally able to obtain for sure full time show where there was no distraction. From the moment he says
he's totally in a different world.
It's a great level, the 20 years of commitment
20 years of struggle
with his with his visual. But once you find that election, then everything is easy. Once you find the missing piece, it's like this, you know, it's like a manual, you tried to put together a desk a call.
And then there's something missing, there's a missing link, and you don't know where to find it. And we go back to the manual. And then you finally find that piece of like, Okay, this is it. Now we can construct whatever it is that you're trying to put together.
Likewise, just what I said, I know I kind of jumped to the issue for sure, when I set it up for sure applies to the level of of licensure. When you find that connection, and what will bring global money in life, then you will experience the sweetness of faith where you will enjoy it anything that you do for the sake of luck, and anything that happens to you. Anything that happens,
then you'll be able to say for
long when a committee meeting will be in Toronto will be you'll be in the
then you'll be able to really understand what was going through
what was being tortured, but the love of the sweetness of that love. And that connection that he felt when he followed the prompts and realize it was much greater than the treatment that he would get from his master or from the people. And it even became us much stronger than the bitterness of the Punisher and the torture. So at one point even that torture became sweet.
And he didn't mind that
the loss of habitat, let's go and say the level of love needs to happen here.
was a child,
he was when I have the credit.
This is this this. This is what we're talking about.
He says loving experience love true love, unconditional love, unconditional right and give everything that you have for yourself.
Do not take anything for yourself.
Wherever you take for yourself
must be for the sake of the one that you love.
So, you give yourself what he gives you.
And you footprint yourself from what he forgives you
and you know move beyond that which he has given me.
And when you experience this, I tell you be able to experience we will be able to experience for sure, we will be able to experience
when it comes to giving for the sake of the law, we will be able to enjoy your evening we will be able to to do good things for others we would be able to relate to people in a better fashion and so in nothing can get you nothing, nothing.
You will remove yourself from depression you rid yourself from anxiety you remove yourself from you know paranoia, from any kind of fear you will get rid of all of them. Because your heart Your whole is given to us
in the sense that the ultimate goal of believers should be empty
Apart from any other than the last city apart with the logo, and everything that you would be through that.
So basically watch with your partner from the love of anything.
Right? No, by the way, help is a very precious thing. You know, people hesitate sometimes to say I love you for someone, that's because they keep
getting emotional. Because when you love someone, you are in a very weak or vulnerable state. Because it because by the way, if you have to give it a seat, so when you say I love you to someone, you're expecting something back from them,
by default, and guess what nobody can guarantee, the only one that has a guarantee is almost
the only one that is trustworthy, the only one that you should trust will be the emotion, loan, who should invest emotionally.
we all do it, we all feel that we all have an emotional investment here and there. But guess what, we always get disappointed, and we fail. And
we go again, because we haven't discovered this, the only one who you can trust with your emotion and give your
trust the last time. So give everything empty apart from the love of anything.
And any love should be
able to accomplish this, despite the promises when I have a
wealth of money that
will have plenty that
will have a millionaire.
Before we get into lust for the second woman, what was the one thing that the fetus might certainly dislike it will be rejected for the sake of what are called in, when they give a gift for the sake of a woman I know that if they would vote and keep something back, they do it for the sake of a loved one is sacred Hellenistic identity that then he has accomplished here. That is the ultimate level of agreement. If you can do that, if you can control and if you can, if you reach that level of emotional commitment, then you have fulfilled your ego. And once you fulfill in that era,
your it's totally different. a different experience.
the other traffic will have on the other important most the second most important relationship is the love of the prophecy,
which we'll talk about the show in and when we
say, a couple of months ago, we've talked about the love of the office a lot.
And then there's the level of one another. And I will close with
with that after I go over the means to birth and to receive the loan. How do you if you want to if you want to have some liquidity? If you're you know the reason we don't, we don't
We don't know what's coming.
And we haven't taken the time to know
You know how sometimes we have people here, even children, even even our children, if they go through this, they might like someone who doesn't like them. So they could do that. If you get to know me who like me,
we say this
many people they don't like something because it's unknown
because they don't have enough information. But if you get to know it, if you spend some time to look
at one of these is maybe
four we have nothing, we don't have go
if we don't know our data enough, and less power that it deserves your ultimate and your front conditional and all of your love.
Because everything that you have is from cancer. So there are many there are ways that we can actually get to know a bit to the last time the first one is really the message.
How do most people connect emotionally? How do they or as they say?
how most people hook up
in their life learners. How do they hook up?
or vaccine What? How do how do boys and girls get each other's attention? What do they send each other
love notes. Love those little love.
informing the other person that they care about.
or an email or a letter letter message, a message allows you to send us a love message.
That rarely we pay attention to, or we even care enough to read and reflect upon.
And that's how
you would love someone, if you receive another rose from gravity, just ignore it. And really, you're not, because you don't know how
many people by the way, on the day of judgment, we will discover, many people will come with a judgment and they will have regret or remorse and we will have a lot of pain, it's going to be really painful, because you're going to realize how much love there was beforehand, in the muscles almost to them. And they will realize how unfortunate they weren't by paying attention to take the time to read that note that was coming from sad.
A loss of data service. So the scholars say that one of the one of the means to earn the most value is reading and reflecting upon the current one, for example, you find that
there's a happy ending approximately loving yourself, expressing their love, they found they love the love for us, that it is allowed and chosen for this great role of being with this process of alarmism. So they thought they got to the point first, they came to the consumer where it said, yeah,
we need law.
Who has to respond to this?
This is between them and
it's between them.
Right? The Prophet
So let's have access to the system.
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equal to two hit
that follow me.
Follow the person whom Allah said to God,
then almost half of you,
your fifth cola.
Forgive yourself, because unfortunately, our notice that we have, but we still
and we find it, you know,
how, how shameful. How visible? How bad is this dossier
the Ukraine, how could you give it to a suppressive person subtle? How could you ever claim that you will have a law while you are offended, and it makes sense you're offending racist? He says this is this is ridiculous. This is ridiculous. And then he says, if your loved one was offended, if it was true, you wouldn't obey him it was handled that for a person who love someone is obedient to them. When you love someone you care
you know your love so you don't offend them. You don't do anything.
So must have says that the formality of tradition. So even if you make a mistake, and you still have Oh, I
would love love for writing for a fabulous, forgiving, and he's merciful. We're almost
sacred obey along this lesson. If you really want
to know if you turn away for either
a model I'd love to love those who terminate those projects. Much love the cache, those who reject
Because if you're truly serious if you're serious about the moment
you know, it's it's a local topic. I don't want to take that person. So come on, I was telling you this isn't a member that had he was just sharing recently.
With a group of people that have been automatically used to who had a weakness, they used to be alcoholic and used to drink
and get drunk. And he would be brought
and punished permanently.
Don't you take
issue with me, we wish that he would be much of what we say we're not talking about this, then we're talking about, you know, just
publicly, that's a punishment for someone who gets in trouble. So he was brought several times multiple times. So one of those I have a Kirsten.
is involved in this man. How often do they pray? Doesn't he have a machine? He's a repeat offender to the profitable well, honey, listen, He's a legend. But that's an article for him that
he said, No, he loves the wind.
Yes, he has this weakness. We have said, but deep in his heart, he has a love for mine is my subject. Maybe one day this love will be one day this mother will say don't curse what he loves.
If you love a lot,
yet, the local law will help you overcome those weaknesses and those shortcomings
through the second and the third and the fourth,
up to 10 ways of earning the home of loving which you talk about in the future. But real quick, the second way to do that with some awesome Power of Habit loves, if you love a lot, you will not get enough of the things that a lot of loves. So you're not going to only stick to the mandatory acts. But we will go beyond that we will start to do voluntary things, you will start to face him.
Because you have that love and passion for loss of character, you will start giving charity you'll start giving, you'll start smiling more because that is a charity.
And then the third one is will constantly remember was found with the highs and lows, so you can't get enough of them. So you constantly Not to mention that you mentioned, by the way, if you see a gallery,
and you don't get the urge to mention a lot of stuff and people with whom you're talking about or want to speak about. If you don't get excited about a lot of speaking level one, even if you're speaking to non Muslims, if you don't, then there is a missing link, your love is weak.
If you are the type that gets excited to talk about the last time
in any gathering, and you love to bring the
data, then you have some love,
if you always wish you the most.
So remembering about the character, and a mistake, I just want to conclude with with a very important, Heidi.
And the reason I'm bringing this up in the show is because I said love is a is one of the essential or one of the critical conditions to make the agenda you will not have to Agenda unless you have love. Where do I find that in the Hadith of the Prophet?
The Prophet said what law he
and the Prophet doesn't have to swear but he did it spread worldwide.
But you should not have to believe
Do you believe until you truly believe what I mean?
And you will not believe in one another. Why? Because
none of you will be a true believer.
what he does for himself. And the only time you can love for someone what you love for yourself is that you love them.
Right there is no way that if I say something nice you know, nice house a nice there's a promotion of any any fortune. You I will not wish that except for someone that I love. Right?
If you love someone you see something that you might
think of your loved ones Oh, you know, sisters go shopping. So when she sees something on the midsection, she picks up her husband, she sees something on the children's he or she thinks of the brothers some of the brothers Mashallah, right. It's really quite amazing. They see something much about him he starts basically seeing his wife in that dress or his why because he loves
you think of the one that you love the most. So the problem
He says that he will be a true believer that he loves for himself for his brother. It's not until she loves it, she loves herself.
The day you start seeing things and you say, Oh my
the day you start saying
this will help
the day you start caring to the extent where you would love for them what you love for yourself, that is a sign of you have a true belief. So the practice that you will not
love until you believe in you will not be true believers you cannot truly believe until you love one another. But then he tells us something you
have to Should I tell you about something that if you were to do you will start loving one another, you know,
your emotional connection with each other and you won't really care about each other. I should say that
spread piece that really a piece of
you as Billy's not using your own ration your own culture. Do you know actually set up a script is really a piece of peaceable suit, you will start loving one another that you love one another that you will you will attain full true belief and faith if you do that. You have an easy task. That's the worst.
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