Mohammad Qutub – Faith without Manners in Islam
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The speakers discuss the lack of understanding of the title of "med strict" and the ongoing racism and hate towards Muslims. They also touch on manners and character, including the importance of good manners and character for one's success and success in prayer. The speakers emphasize the need for strong character and personal development in Islam, as well as avoiding false accusations and shaming. They also touch on cultural disconnects and the importance of faith and deen in marriage. The segment ends with a brief advertisement for a book on Islam and a calendar venum in the area.
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A lot of Morahan Hamdu lillahi rabbil aalameen of the Salah to attend with the sleeve and so you didn't know what you may or may never have you been a bit fast in the low on early he was off because we are in a moment to be on the 711 with Lisa Panatela on melanoma on them tonight and documented on him. Hakeem, obviously it sounds to us silly me that I'm listening but hopefully I praise the Lord Almighty and I said prayers and blessings upon Prophet Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, reasonable family righteous companions and all those that follow the right guidance and from the day of judgment. I mean,
Salam aleikum wa rahmatullah wa barakato. The brothers and sisters, it's nice to be with you again.
We ask Allah subhanaw taala to bless this gathering to make it sincere in sha Allah, to increase us in knowledge, faith, and implementation of everything that he has taught us subhanho wa taala.
Today,
I want to talk to you about a very important topic.
Whether the title betrays that or not,
you will be the judge of that. But this is a topic that has become very dear to my heart, even though I started talking about it, maybe 15 years ago,
but I've been developing it more and more And subhanAllah it seems that
a lot of it is still applies today, because it's still happening, because it's still going on because there's still some misunderstanding the title of it is faith without manners. Or you could also say faith without us luck,
and the other parts and the opposite phenomenon, which is manners or a fluff But without faith without EMA.
And
one might be more obvious than the other, but either way, we need to speak about both in the context of the Quranic verses and the Hadith of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam to really have a better understanding of it, and so, that we may also contribute to providing some kind of a solution to this problem to this phenomenon.
There is no question and it should be
something that a Muslim knows with absolute certainty, that then
religion, religiosity, Islam, faith goes hand in hand with something called manners, ethics values, etiquette and Aflac
you cannot you simply cannot separate the two you cannot make them two separate islands It makes absolutely no sense.
And necessarily, if you do, then there is going to be a problem with one or the other.
They go hand in hand
they must be united they must be
they must converge and go towards the same target. Otherwise you have major problems and SubhanAllah.
This lack of understanding or anyone that thinks otherwise, if anyone does think that they do not go hand in hand, then they have issues in their understanding of Dean or o'clock.
The two contradictory diametrically opposite phenomena are
having Iman but without a philosophy or the opposite which is having a clockwork without a man
who's very strange, but they exist both a result Subhanallah of a problem possibly in understanding, possibly an understanding the deen itself or the issue of US law.
So you will find Subhanallah and this is what I'm going to discuss in this part and I will discuss the opposite phenomenon in the next talk in sha Allah
what you will find
that to say and you know, any anywhere I've talked about this matter, people immediately identify with it everyone has experienced it. Everyone as
been exposed to it in some way but found it remarkably strange, right?
How can you be a practicing Muslim but you have
Have a major issue with your athletic if we see it we see plenty of people who seem to be religious outwardly in the open in the apparent but then you look at the map and the dean sorry there flatten the manners and you think Wait a second there's a there's a disconnect here what's going on listen the same person you will find someone again with the apparent what could be some of the apparent
display of religiosity may be a beard, okay, some may even consider, you know, shortening the felled let's say the hijab, the niqab all of this stuff
and then you may find Subhanallah that with the same people you will find harsh disposition
and manner manners a hard part and not a soft one
and you may find some of the sins that their Islam should prevent them from doing such as lying and stealing and cheating and all of that selfishness you name it
get any of you give me an example don't tell me the whole story or the guy's name or her name or whatever. But just tell me what is it that was the bad character that you noticed on someone you would have expected differently from
what did you experience
harsh words okay against Muslims. Okay.
Okay different opinion with right okay. Irishness with their detractors or people who have different opinions Okay.
Anything else? Personal Experience
okay
okay, okay.
What else have you had a practicing Muslim cheat with you? Yes.
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Yeah, racism. Racism is a big, big problem brother
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this Yeah, of course.
Yeah, that's unfortunate.
Yeah, of course, of course. I experienced this personally, by the way, I experienced it personally, unfortunately. But, but racism is a much bigger issue. This is not what I'm dealing with here. But you're right. Racism is a is a disease that plagues the Ummah until now and actually plagues the world after only the OMA to be fair.
Anything else?
Anyone steal money from you cheat you out of money?
Practicing Muslim?
Never return? Yeah, that's
what does it
do not.
Okay. Okay. That might be a little bit
easier to solve the issue with with parking or maybe hygiene or cleanliness. But the thing that I'm talking about the phenomenon I'm describing is one where
that person's manners does not reflect what the religion teaches. And ultimately, they become a liability for the religion rather than the opposite, especially for Muslims, who are maybe not very practicing or weak of Eman or they have their misconceptions that this becomes this person becomes their prime example. This is
Is the Islam you're calling for? This is the o'clock this is the manners, right? So this is something Subhanallah is very dangerous and it's very prevalent and
it needs to be corrected. Ultimately, our guide, our role model is the prophet Alayhi Salatu was Salam. And we know that he, by the acknowledgement of his Lord himself,
was of the best character. When Allah subhanaw taala set by the hour to be laminar shaytaan regimes
are in Naka, Allah Allah Julio, Karina, Halim and indeed you are on the best character.
This is the Prophet alayhi salatu, salam, this if this person keeps referring to the prophet the Prophet SAW Selim said this, the Prophet SAW Selim did this. Yes. Where is your character compared to the character of the Prophet Alayhi Salatu was Salam. He was of the best character. This acknowledgement comes from the All Knowing Allah subhanaw taala
comes from the closest people to him.
The closest people usually
have a different opinion of you.
You're the way people perceive you outside mashallah, look at the brother. He's so kind. He's so nice. He's so generous. He's this and that. Yeah, because you see him once a week, twice a week, once a month. But your family that you see
you much better if your family acknowledge you. That's a different story, as in the case of the Prophet SAW Salem when Aisha Radi Allahu Allah says that his character was the Quran He embodied the Quran and his character alayhi salatu salam, right.
From the closest he is the enemies for God's sake. His enemies, acknowledged his character and trusted him because he was known as the honest and the trustworthy.
Furthermore, he said the halogen salatu salam, in terms of elucidating the reason for which he came, he said, In NAMA, who actually will tell me when McAdory Mala clap, I was sent to perfect good manners.
He said in Nana, and anytime you hear someone speaking about this hadith and Arabic dosa in nama adulto has, meaning this word that's being used. He's saying it's almost as if he's saying the only reason I've been sent is to perfect good manners, good character. In other words, to eternium Academy o'clock, they go hand in hand, they cannot be divorced from one another.
Unless there is a major problem. And
the Prophet Alayhi Salatu was Salam
is knowing this, while his main message
is to teach people about to hate
the Oneness of Allah worship Allah alone, do not associate partners with Allah. But he says something like this in the authentic hadith that I haven't been sent to perfect good manners and good character. By the way.
Why do you think Muhammad SAW Salah was the scene of the Prophet because he's the best character because he had the best heart
as in the famous narration of inadmissible that only Allah one, that Allah subhanaw taala surveyed the heart of his slave servants and he found the best heart to be that 100 So he sent him as a messenger. And then the best after him were the sahaba. So they became the Sahaba of the Allah homage mine.
People acknowledges good character even before he was he became a Sunni allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam
and then hand my brothers and sisters, in fact, the Prophet alayhi salatu salam,
negated Iman.
negated Amen. Or someone
who
does not have good character in his in one particular aspect.
The Prophet alayhi salatu salam told the Sahaba Juan de wala Hila you min wala he is not a believer Allahu wala he is not Allah he'll human he said what is
splice Walla Walla Walla Walla, Walla Walla, Yeoman,
Abba, Liliana Sula, who, who is this person who does not believe?
said Allah de la jolla Manjaro? Who the ICA who? The one
whose neighbor,
the one whose neighbor is not safe from his wrongdoing.
Yeah.
This is not he didn't say that it was bad character. This is one aspect of that character. He might be great with his neighbor, but he's a liar or the other way around. This one aspect the province of syllabuses. Wallahi Lakeman
he has a problem with his Eman
if his own neighbor is not safe from his wrongdoing,
luck era, a different understanding.
You see, we we, we need to
and honestly especially in the last few years, maybe the last five years or the last decade.
I'm trying to focus on this as much as possible because the gap between what Islam teaches us and the reality is quite big,
especially when it comes to the issue of luck.
Therefore, it needs a real focus. In another narration, the seminary should lie at full Jana, he will not enter paradise if his neighbor is not saved from his wrongdoing.
Furthermore, the prophet Alayhi Salatu was Salam
established and confirmed Islam the Islam of someone who does display good character in a certain particular aspect, the Hadith, the famous Hadith where the Prophet SAW Selim said Al Muslim, when Solomon was the Munna, meaning Lisa and he wired, the Muslim is the one
whom
the Muslims will be safe from his tongue in his hand,
meaning Muslims will be saved from
anything wrong, that he would say.
Or that he would not harm them
by speech, or by hitting them or beating them or something like that. This is the Muslim as the Prophet alayhi salatu wa sallam said,
in another authentic hadith,
he said, Men will mean a man and send him full open.
How often do we hear this hadith?
Walking out or come to complete?
The most perfect on mu in Eman
are the best of you in character.
And the best of you or the best of you to their families.
You want to perfect your email, you're looking to perfect your email and your faith. Look at your character. Where is it? Is it where it needs to be?
Are you treating people the way you should as a proper practicing Muslim?
The most salient aspect
that a lot of these examples may Allah make not make us of those
who have ignored the issue of character and have completely put all of their eggs in the basket of things that are maybe related to rituals and worship, like you said, praying five times a day which is an amazing act of worship, to be able to pray five times in the masjid
and possibly other
issues of religiosity that seem to have to do with the apparent right. The issue of worship is one the other one is that which has to do with the apparent possibly the beard, the hijab, even though all of these things are manifestations of Eman, we we understand that but it's an aspect which is apparent to people as opposed to what is hidden. Right in our hearts of image. The Prophet SAW Selim is connecting the two in a beautiful way. Iman and akhlaq they go hand
in hand, so the most salient aspect that those types of people have now neglected and forgotten
is that one of the closest ways in the shortcuts to Allah and His pleasure
is good character.
So they've put all their eggs into the basket of rituals, prayer, worship, Masjid PM, they can Quran and all of these great things. But character doesn't seem to be on the radar.
You can see it in the way they deal with people the way they talk. Right? So
the prophets are seldom said in the famous Hadith, which very interestingly, is the first Hadith
I will hand with will tell you
the first Hadith and we'll Hadith will tell you
and teach to you and this is why it is called Al Hadith al Musa al salaam, Walia that this hadith, the chain is the chain of narration is that of the first it is the first Hadith to be taught.
The first Hadith you will be taught is what is it about Iman, is it about Jana? Does
anyone know the Hadith Hadith Rousselle celebrate a Walia no
rush Ramune Your humble humble rushman
hammelmann fill out a shampoo Memphis summer su the first Have you ever when they say Islam is a religion of of hardness and the Wrath of Allah Subhana Allah the first Hadith Ottawa Hey Moon Yahuwah Rama
the winds will show mercy of Rahim the ones who show mercy to others will be shown mercy by
Rama, Allah. The red arrow have
no mercy to those
and they found in the heaven will ship mercy to you first Hadith
or that hadith Al Hussein said Will a William
Hannah Chiara again, the connection, brothers and sisters,
show mercy to those on earth and Allah will show mercy to those examples.
Who have bad character.
You love diversity of Allah, this is what you're seeking, and you weren't and they are possibly working very hard for it.
mercy to those on earth Allah will show mercy to you.
And the other Hadith the Prophet alayhi salatu salam said, Whoever does not thank Allah for sorry, whoever does not thank people does not thank Allah.
How many of these types we're talking about?
of gratitude?
Not because I'm looking for gratitude when I did that favor to him
or her. But
in terms of character, you would expect
that they would show gratitude.
Right?
A very important characteristic, and a very important characteristic the Prophet sallallahu wasallam displayed
gratitude. These things you know, all shapes these things we're talking about, you know, let's talk about bigger things. No, these are the things these are the things you cannot you cannot fix these things. There is an issue. The Prophet I thought that I was telling you this. Well, I'm just calling this the rescuer Allah. If you don't think people you haven't thanked Allah you want to thank Allah thank people at least
deal with the horizontal relationships before the vertical relationship. The one who is above us, ALLAH SubhanA wa Taala
picks things on earth
Subhanak era
many times this issue of gratitude, it's like this hadith, maybe they haven't heard of before.
The Prophet sallallahu sallam said in Minella you Drake will be firstly Holyoake ie there are Jettas saw a mill car In another Hadith that has been forgotten.
Maybe they didn't even know it.
He said the remote men
Through good character will reach the level of the fasting one and the one who prays in the middle of the night pm. A saw him will quiet a silent part and hear me is the one who does it regularly.
Someone who regularly pass and regularly does pm this other person who does none of that
they reach their level through good
rewire the brains
rewired, the circuits of the Muslim mind, are thinking about this
maybe you think you're you're you're focusing too much on character. What about Iman? We'll get there. That's the next session. This session.
The Prophet alayhi salatu salam said, another famous and authentic hadith, he said, Shall I not tell you
of those who are most beloved to me?
And closest to me,
on the Day of Judgment,
everyone was quite, he said it twice or three times.
He said, They said yes, or Mr. Avila, he said the best of you in character.
Why am I mentioning this, this is not a hotspot about good character. This is the connection between a man and character.
The best of you, the bill most beloved to the professor said let the closest to the profit on the Day of Judgment.
This is all the reward.
Good character.
In a famous Hadith
which some scholars authenticated, but many others classified as weak. And it seems to Allahu Allah that it is closer to being weak than being authentic. However, it is, as some scholars have authenticated it and as it is very popular, and as the meaning in general is sound, if interpreted properly, I will mention it. And this was narrated by Imam Muhammad Ali Muhammad may have
the authority of NSmen Malik for the Allah on that he said that we were sitting with the Prophet Alayhi Salatu was Salam. And then the Prophet Isla Salam said, that
a man will appear now and he is of the people of paradise. Law, glad tidings of heretics. And I'm sure most if not all of you have heard this hadith, but maybe some of the details
you may have forgotten.
So one of the men of the Ansara appeared
and people here tell him who he
was coming down from his beard from the to do
and he had his sandals in his left hand. The next day the Prophet SAW Selim said the same thing.
A man will appear now who is of the people agenda and it was the same man
so the third day the prophets of salaam said the same
was the same guy who appeared
and in the same fashion, okay, doing will do with the sandal in his left.
At this point,
Abdullah ibn Nila house followed him
and he said to him,
I had an argument with my father
and I swore that I will not enter upon him three times.
So if you approve, and you can just allow me to stay with you. until this is done.
I'd be grateful
man approved
and assess that Abdullah narrates that he was with him for those three nights.
He did not see him get up for any pm
glad tidings of paradise, no clear what's going on.
So
Allah says, However, I did not hear him say anything bad about anyone.
After the three nights were over, and I was about to despise, and looked down upon his deeds, because he didn't see anything special.
Then he went to him and he said,
Oh,
they have servants of Allah.
I have, there was no problem between me and my father.
But I heard the messenger SallAllahu Sallam say about you three times, that they will appear before you a man from the people of Paradise, and you are the one who came three times consecutively. So I wanted to stay with you to see what is it? What are the deeds that you are performing to deserve this so that I can do the same? He's doing it with a good intention, he wants to do the same. He said, I didn't see you do much.
So what is it, what brought you to this level, the prophets of salaam described you said to him Wallahi, this is it, this is what I do, you know, nothing more, nothing less.
So as I left, he called me, he called him back. And he said, What you saw is, you know, this is my normal,
this is my normal, these are my normal works or deeds, except that I do not find in myself or in my heart, anything towards any Muslim,
of cheating of Hassan or anything like that.
So he is content with what Allah has given him, he does not practice hassad with those who have been given, maybe more good that he has a man with a clean and a pure heart.
Abdullah says, This is what it is, this is what
got you to that level. And he said, and this is what we are not able to do.
And this is one of the reasons that some scholars may have
declared that the hadith is weak based on the
the text itself, and the meaning. Because he's saying that we cannot and it almost implies, like the Sahaba had has said, or they were cheating or something else. But it seems to Allah Allah, it can be interpreted in a way that does not, that is not literal, that the Sahaba cannot do that. But he's trying to say that this is something very great. This is not something to be looked down upon, that you can do this. And when he says and this is what we are not able to do, he's probably saying that out of modesty, that maybe we are not able to do it to the level you're doing it to get the glad tidings of paradise even though we know and if the Sahaba the glad tidings of paradise, right? Such
as or how many
the 10 The famous 10 Or is it restricted to those that Oh, many more, many more, but in other Hadith, okay. So
they had been given the glad tidings of paradise as well but Abdullah is is giving that thing importance, the purity of the heart, right. A HELOC.
a HELOC a pure heart? Not much in terms of deeds. Here's the glad tidings of paradise Yes.
Haha,
give them there's that's another Hadith. It's another Hadith that
a man was very forgiving. Another man was.
He used to
give money to others used to lend the money and then when they would not be able to pay it. We just forgive them and say, hopefully Allah will forgive us.
And Allah forgive them. Absolutely. And this is, this is part of a flock was part of good character right? To inclemency thus, my brothers and sisters, Islam, romance, every virtue
justice,
compassion, women see honesty,
transparency respect, they will rename it, okay?
And Islam prohibits every vise
greed, animosity, lying, cheating ill speech,
dealing, spying, you name it
everything I mentioned until now
is on an individual level, not on the level of the OMA or the world. We're just talking now on an individual level person's individual character.
If you look at it on a macro scale
the world started going berserk.
When a clock was removed from every discipline,
from science,
politics, war, economics, you name it, take away a slug and madness and you have the chaos that we have today.
Start putting a slot back into all of that this is when the world will start to reform
this is one of the very important contributions that Muslims need to make. Now not on an individual micro level on a macro level
where's the clock now? Is there a clock in economics in pure unbridled capitalism it's all about how much money you can make and how many people you can make poor
there is no compassion there it's all growth in politics interest interest nothing else walls
once you try to start to reinstall more I will tell you this is not politics go and work for a charity
Islam no that's not the way Islam works in Islam, please, different disciplines as well.
We will do them by and it will be through good character and morality. We will reintroduce morality into these things where it was completely removed
take the example brothers and sisters of the pillars of Islam.
Is there anything more important in terms of rituals than the pillars of Islam?
Five Pillars the shahada we know
okay, then we have those rituals those pillars fall out the cat the owl and hadj
what does that have to do with character
in the connection
Okay, can you give me some kind of proof
of Quran or sunnah I agree with you 100%.
Yes
Okay.
Simply doing those rituals introduces discipline
Okay, okay. Okay. So it's teaching you discipline overall and that discipline will help with character Okay, that's a general answer.
So Allah, Allah subhanaw taala says neurobiol Quran
in a solid state and her annual fashion he will Moon got
a lot
more bids or prevents the person doing it problem, Bashar in morality and won't come wrongdoing. meter is a general term for all wrongdoing and that can include
on ha prevent you have that type of wrongdoing. If you are truly praying five times a day, how do you still cheat?
How do you still lie?
lying by the way is not always by telling an outright lie.
being dishonest
could be because you're hiding something that will make a very big difference in the story you're telling.
You're not being honest.
You're not being transparent.
Allah prevents a person from such wrongdoing.
And this is why
callers if they've seen when they talked about this idea, they mentioned that a man came to the Prophet SAW Salem and he said to him, that a certain person prays Thea, they pray at night and piano.
And then in the morning, he steals.
The Prophet said similar to
what he says or in another narration, what you're saying, is going to prevent him in other words, his prayers will prevent him and should rent him if he's doing it properly. And this is the text of the Quran insalata turned her on in fascia ie, the fascia he will move. This is Salah.
What about Zika
look as easy. That's the textbook example of
a ritual that teaches us
amnesty and generosity, compassion,
right, dealing with the poor and the needy,
helping society raising the status of the downtrodden.
Those who are unfortunate, that's an easy example from that aspect. Another aspect is that when you give charity, you should be doing it only
for Allah subhanaw taala should not be doing it out of ostentation, in order that others
may praise you or compliment you.
What about fasting
we are relatively easy one as well.
What's the connection? How can we connect? Again look at the work all of this is in the spirit of connecting Iman, the dean and o'clock. So here are the pillars of Islam the rituals that some people are doing in the most amazing fashion but then character doesn't follow suit.
What about freedom?
What did the prophets of salaam say?
He said whoever does not abandon
will assume the saying of falsehood and working like implementing that.
For whoever does not
abandon all speech and acting upon it.
There is no need for Allah that He abstained from who didn't drink
there you go.
If you're not going to abstain from bile character
and same for speech, then there's no need for you to leave your food and drink
didn't
another easy one.
I would say Salah was the hardest one. A similar vein, like slow
one guys, you're tired today.
It's later I told you you should have done it earlier.
It's the heater adage.
Allah Subhana Allah talks about hedge and he says whoever sets out to do the they have the obligatory hand. Right. Bella Rafa well as Asuka
there is no sexual relations nor argumentation, nor wrongdoing nor argumentation.
Big problem if you're in the edge and you're spending your whole time fighting with people and arguing.
Believe me, I've seen people in Antarctica in the last 10 days and they're just going at each other.
Useless. This is not the time to argue about your shape or his shape and what he said about this shape and all this stuff. This is the last 10 days. This is not the time for it.
panela in the huddle, in the huddle I witnessed this
hedge the man had Joe Philomela first well and we have so say
the when the puzzle Selim talked about the reward of doing hedge that x expats all sins and that you will be like you the day you were born that it cleanses you completely This is fu also do not practice Rafat and fiscal
connection between these rituals and character is most feared
by brothers and sisters Honestly
these types of people
Allah guide us and them
while not make us some of those
they're killing the Dow. They're destroying the Dow.
People with beards are destroying the Dow and sisters with hijab and niqab are destroying the Dow, you're shaking but this is the Sunnah, that we have the beard and all of this. Yes, it's the Sunnah, but there has to be inline with the character.
Otherwise you're giving the worst example of what Islam is.
Believe me they are not going to pick up Buhari Quran. They're gonna serve say Brother salads also stole money from me. And you are telling me come to and you know, convert to your religion.
It's that simple.
And it's a reality. We're not talking about fairy tales.
Some people without exaggeration,
some brothers their Islam does not go beyond their beards. And
if you cut the beard,
there's no Islam left. Because the Islam is here.
There Islam is right here literally. Right? This is his Islam. The fact that he has this long beard, everything else.
Remove the beard sauce. What's left? Same with the sisters.
Her Islam is right here that they come.
You remove it. And that's if Islam went with it because your home Islam is right there in what she's wearing. As if this is everything.
Imagine a burger complaining about his wife who treats them like crap.
And as the chef is learning more about the situation, and then he asks him if she had general Yes.
Here's the top. Yes. You know what the chef tells him? Go ahead and kiss her on the head.
Why? Because she's wearing the tub. Allah. Allah says she has reached is a well Willie of Allah. No.
But her character stinks. And he probably rather be with someone without hijab, because of the way she treats him. This is the understanding. This is a sheikh
telling him what to do. And Hamdulillah He is a practicing brother, otherwise he would say it's called me this Islam.
If he was weak in faith, or we can practice,
Brother, brother I know.
A while ago Subhanallah he wasn't that practicing.
With time Alhamdulillah we started practicing more and more law.
Then he wanted to get married. Great.
So we found him a good sister. They got to know each other Alhamdulillah Oh, they got married. Great. He's a practicing sister.
He wears hijab.
But he complained. He complained of her alot,
complained of her a lot.
And
he hadn't been practicing that long.
And if it wasn't for Allah who kept him firm, he would have wanted straight as well. You know what he used to tell me? Tell me my brother has nothing to do with Islam.
They're Muslims. They're not practicing.
He said My brother has nothing to do with Islam. And he married a girl who has nothing to do with Islam. And in wish I had a wife like his, the way he treats and the way she respects
imagine
when I tell you people
Brothers with beards and sisters hijab or niqab are destroying the Dawa. It is because when we find such a stark and repulsive disconnect in
theming, ostensible religiosity and the act of luck
someone else
got dealing with Muslims financially. Why every time is that to the Muslim something or other cheated amount of his money for splitting, cheating out of his money, be like that leader obvious but you know, slowly, slowly, you know, you push them out, I think there's a famous I don't know, if it's an Indian saying, you know, you you put the frog in the pot, and you, you put a slow heat, don't fire it up immediately slow heat with time the frog will jump out of the pot. So this is what you do. You keep pushing, you know, you keep turning the heat up. And eventually you kick him out, he was a partner is no longer a partner, you cheated you out of your money.
But gradually, you know.
So he stopped dealing with Muslims, and he has no issue dealing with be a Christian or a Jew. They're they're more honest, financially, deals with them. Now, when it comes to money.
What do you say?
Allah was done? Of course,
we know that the enemies of Islam will always look for any excuse, we know that. Okay.
And these will be prime examples for them. Definitely. The problem is when this type of person becomes that example,
becomes the fuel for the fire, that the enemies of Islam want to light to
burn the religion with.
Don't be that person.
On that note
the prophets are seldom said
where it was said to him, O Messenger of Allah,
that there is this certain sister
and she prays at night, she does the clear, and she fasts during the day. And she does things and she gives charity and Allah
but
he,
like flagellates her neighbors with their tongue she has a sharp tongue.
insults them. The prophets of salaam said there is no good in her. She is of the pupil of the fire. Ma
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he says she is of the people of the fire.
They said and also he praised the obligatory prayers for the five daily prayers
gives middle charity I think much nothing like the other one. She has no one the Prophet SAW Selim said she is of the people
give this hadith presented to those types.
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that I'm Ron the third Surah
verse 133
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and hastened to forgiveness from your Lord and a garden as wide as the heavens and earth prepared for the righteous.
prepared for the righteous paradise prepare for the righteous Who are they to spend
Because of Allah during ease and hardship,
and who restrain anger,
and who pardon the people, and Allah loves the doers of good.
These aspects and this is all seem to revolve around.
Then he mentioned, those who when they commit an immorality or wrong themselves, remember Allah and seek forgiveness for their sins, who can forgive sins except ALLAH, who do not persist in what they have done while they know. And animal. In mentioned, those aspects that have to do with character even before religiosity, sins, things of the sort.
getting in the way of Allah, restraining anger, hardening the people even see this soft heart, brothers and sisters
gift,
it's a gift.
Not saying it's impossible to achieve, unless you have it in your genes, you know, in your DNA, but it's definitely a gift.
You will find a lot of people
seemingly practicing, maybe overall their character is not so bad. But
they don't have the softest hearts you can tell
restrain their anger and who pardon the people and Allah loves the doers of good.
Before I conclude,
I want to direct your attention to an oft quoted and misunderstood this, surely by some of the youth,
I've had them come to me several times with this.
The famous Hadith of the Prophet sallallahu Sallam
where he said
that a woman is married,
or her beauty, her wealth or status. And for her the right. Then he said, go for the one with the very good.
So
on many occasions when I was advising
a brother, usually a brother,
about marriage said, make sure you look at her character, her salah, and so on and so forth. He says shift, and he says the first
where's the misunderstanding?
Is there a disconnect between the clock? No.
There shouldn't be. Is there a disconnect in reality? Yes. Does Hadith of the Prophet sallallahu Sallam
also indicate that in an indirect way? Yes, very interestingly,
if we understand it and interpret it this way, the Prophet SAW Selim said, If someone comes to you for marriage, to King, your girl's hand in marriage, and you are pleased with his deen and his Holyoke
bury the loss.
The famous Hadith,
of course, didn't have to go hand in hand, but it's quite interesting that the potato salad mentioned both.
If you are pleased with his Dean, and his call up,
and we see that disconnected,
you may be pleased with his Dean, but not with his Hello. He mentioned both.
So where's the misunderstanding? So when when we say make sure she has good luck, and this Make this your priority? And he says, But what about Dean? Dean is number one, as the Hadith says
in the other Hadith, but in the Hadith I mentioned where the Prophet SAW Selim said go for the one with bead. So the way they're understanding it is even if a HELOC is not so much the profit is telling me go further, one would need more knowledge.
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did Hajj maybe all of these things that he's looking for that?
Maybe only looking for that? The hadith says go for the one with deed
Say No my dear the prophets of Salah was telling you if the factors are beauty and service and worth
been and he's, he's mentioning them as picking one out of them. You're choosing one as the major component choose the deed rather than beauty rather than wealth and rather than status is not telling you choose the one with deed even if she has bad hook. What kind of misunderstanding is this?
But it's it's a serious one. I've had several brothers come to me with this knowledgeable brothers. They're not ignorant.
This this confusion, hopefully that didn't go for the one with them. Even if it was not so good. No, no, no, no, be careful. Or just as the province of Salem is saying marry your girl to the one who's Holyoke and Dean you are pleased with of the guys the other. It goes vice versa.
Dean and her look, if she has Dean but doesn't look like she has good manners.
say be careful.
Need to go hand in hand?
If you ask me if it's a percentage, you know, if someone says
is 80% been and 30% Follow. Okay, and the other one other one is a 60%. Dean but 50% Follow? I'll say go for that one.
Because
if she has some of the basics of the deed, you know, a lot of people improve, especially after marriage, they become even more religious. The Aflac sometimes it seems to be more difficult to change. I'm not saying it's impossible.
No, no, no, I'm an advocate of the Dean being a factor in changing our love.
But sometimes it seems to be difficult.
So you know if the decision is between this one, and she has the whole Quran memorized, and this one has, you know, a quarter of the Quran memorized, but she's just much more, you know, easygoing and nice to be around and a softer heart. believe we all go for this one.
What good is it?
What good is it to have, let's say, a half of the Quran. Her character stinks.
You know, it's it's laughable and it's almost like a howl as it exists.
And by the way, this is exactly what the Hadith of the prophets of Salaam is saying. When I just quoted to you, they asked him the same question. There is this lady.
More Dean? What harms people not very beautiful look, probably the result of searches in fire. The other half plus the hill Sunday in basic they are not telling you to go and marry someone who is not religious right? But they're asking about the sweetness the character, soft heart doesn't harm anyone. He says she's of the people of paradise. What I'm saying with regards to the issue of marriage is the same as the answer. The Prophet SAW Selim here
so
this is the issue of faith, or deen or Iman, without errors.
And next time in sha Allah I will deal with the opposite. An equally dangerous phenomenon which is manners But without faith, another
very confusing phenomenon
that we see especially in our time in sha Allah SallAllahu wasallam about a calendar venum Hamid
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Depending on
your Salah, depending on what
you're asking, is there such a thing in Islam?
That question is important, but not in the way people are interpreting it today.
The way people interpret background today is Oh, the shift from the same city as ours. No, then no Subhanallah forget, forget country, same city, you know?
Or, or maybe even same neighborhood. And Allah, what does this have to do with marriage? So if you're talking about background, meaning, looking at the family, and how good the family is a good reputation of the family, that's understandable. Okay, if that's what you mean by background, if you're talking about racially, this is what a lot of them are talking about. A lot of them are talking about racial backgrounds. Hey, where are those people are from? Okay. I am not saying
that. I'm not encouraging people to just go and marry someone who, with whom they share almost nothing in common. No. In fact, I'm, I'm a big advocate of trying to increase that which is common, for there to be a healthy relationship.
The reason I say that is just based on experience, and what we've seen.
People today are not like people yesterday.
I am not like my grandfather, and you are not like your grandmother is simply not the case. They were a different generation. They made marriage work, young, old, different, same doesn't matter. They made it work. Okay, because they were fully committed. Nowadays, the girl comes crying back to her parents, oh, you know, he did this, you know, some small thing that wouldn't even be considered an issue in the past, or the guy makes a huge issue out of something really small that had to do the cooking or something else, and maybe divorce will follow, you know, stupid stuff like that, you know, it exists? It exists no joke, right? That's why I'm saying
more there is in common.
Inshallah makes sense, the less there is possibility of differences, obviously, people will have different opinions on this, but this is mine. Okay.
But otherwise,
if a person does come along, who is religious, you are pleased with their religiosity, with their o'clock, with their family background, it's a good family, they have a good reputation. Maybe it's a family of, you know, people who are known to be religious and highly respectable, who cares if there for the year are there?
If you know they want each other, and they can make it worse, making it a room a hard and fast rule? No, he has to be from Calcutta or I don't know, where's, you know, somewhere in Nigeria, or, you know, Asia or
Cuban Jaya, or something else. And people are like that, you will not believe there are countless questions of people, you know, beaming Chase helped me. They my parents don't want me to marry because he's from another city.
So this is not what we're talking about that when you say, you know, but good, backward or spirit understandable? If not, I mean, it's a it's almost
like a
logical rule that it's a good family in sha Allah, and this person is known to be religious that
this will be a successful marriage in sha Allah. But it's not always the case. It's not always the case. So you will have a case where the family is not very religious, but this person is
and vice versa. I was very religious, but this particular child is known to be a little bit different. Most cases as well, right, it's not not one rule that applies to all this by case basis.
Anything else
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