Mohammad Elshinawy – Prophet Musa (as) in Madyan
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The history and importance of Islam is highlighted, including its use of god and men showing ties with families. The importance of clear terms and privacy in marriage is emphasized, along with the need for men to keep ties with families and show their faces. A woman talks about her desire to have sex with men and refuses to go to a church, leading to a discussion about her recent trip to China and her desire for sex. She describes her experience as a woman doing nothing but sexual things and being uncomfortable doing so, leading to a discussion about her desire for sex.
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Aquila, Metatron, whatever Akula well as of now we begin in the Name of Allah, the Most Merciful that was still reverse. All Praise and glory belongs to Allah, Lord of the Worlds. Indeed Allah is deserving of the best effects and the most beautiful phrases and we testify that no one is worthy of our worship, and our devotion with Allah alone, without any partners, and it's a prophet muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was a servant and His messenger and the truth is the words the words of ALLAH, the great Glorious Quran and the wisdom guidance and sunnah of our Prophet Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam,
and the most dangerous matters, the newly added matters into this religion that is already perfected and complete. And every single newly invented matter in this religion
is a leading industry that only needs to defy or male laws that protect us and our families from an ending in the fire alarm me
after welcoming back to the beautiful faces to the house of Allah subhanho wa Taala so I'm I haven't seen for quite some time.
We were making it customary, I guess, to speak on Friday nights about what story do you remember
the story of Prophet Musa let's have something like that right?
And who's going to shock me and make my night and tell me what part of the story we left off at? I mean, it was a month ago and I don't blame you if you don't remember. But I would love it if you did. Who remembers the last thing happened in the store anyway.
When sisters you want to rescue the brothers and sisters remember
there's like a lovely on his chase out of Egypt funny Salam
Yes, he fled the country, he fled Egypt.
He fled Egypt. And he said also be a ideally so Acerbi perhaps my Lord will guide me a straight away.
Move on
to a
nother phase in the life of masala salatu salam.
And at some point, this is the only
marriage story in the whole Quran. So there's much to learn for those that want to get married. And those that are married, and many other lessons as well. But maybe I'll only cling to the marriage lessons in sha Allah subhanaw taala and continue to story Musashi set up in that light this evening.
Even though we've established the fourth corridor is a total package, you can take from it. Manners you can take from our belief system, the same story, the same verse, there is so much in it. And that's of the miraculous nature of the Quran that it carries the potential for so many meanings in such a short phrase, something that no human being in reality could ever do.
And tomorrow night, by the way, we're going to be in a new series Saturday nights from now on shall last Thursday when I visit your very cold city. We're going to start a series called solid revisited why we pray all the virtues of violent make solid and why we must be making smaller and while he wants to be making solar correctly, and the dangers of leaving solar will begin that tomorrow night we in the last lecture. So Musa alayhis salam arrives at a city called Madea Allah Subhana Allah says in the very next verse where we left off, while I'm Navara Amma, Dianna Wajid Ali, he all met him in a NASA spoon. And then when he arrived at the water, meaning the wealth of material and he
found there, a group of people watering, meaning watering their flock giving water to their sheep, right animals that they heard.
Well, what does that mean? Do li Hema in Marathi you needed to do that? And he found off to the side away from these men? Were two women that were keeping their sheep away keeping their animals away special effects movie you know, keeping the animals only
Carla Malhotra book uma he said what's your story? What's your circumstances? What's going on? Let's let's we had to use little. We're gonna share one caveat. They said we will not allow our animals to drink until the shepherds leaf. We're not going to mix with them and, and our father is an elderly man for Sakala Huma, so Musa Salam granted them water he wanted for them. He did a task for them in their place through Matawan Lena and then he went off
to the
shade the shade of a tree. And he said, I'll be near the mountains into ilium. And Hayden fell Pierre Oh ALLAH iron, I'm in a dire need of whatever good you can send you send my way you send it down to. So these two verses, first of all,
Musa Alex arrives, he arrived scared he saw he's on the run. He's a fugitive in the eyes of
the people of Egypt.
And he does not know if he's safe yet or not. And he's hungry and he's thirsty. And he left Egypt visiting the cathedral like a mobile says with nothing but his shoes. And by the time he arrives at Meridian, a long distance away from Egypt. And this lands still existence. Today, the million people live there.
He even his shoe strap a drip. Right? So he arrives the world. And you can imagine a person who would be ecstatic to find the world and he's ready to drink. But what happens he finds these two women off to the side, not participating in the race for the water in the world. So he says to them what's going on? They said we're not going to mix with them. And we're going to wait till they finish. And our father is an elderly man meaning and we wouldn't even be out here. We're not far farther being incapable of being out here
what do we learn from this area? A number of things. But of what we learn is that the Muslim woman has been honored by Allah subhanho wa taala. To not have to leave the house. Right? And not to go out unless there is a need for her to go out. Right. And we wouldn't be out here unless our father was an elderly man. But at the same time, this tells us that it's permissible when there is a need for Muslim woman to go out right or wrong.
But when she does go out, she's not gonna go out without the proper hijab, right? And she's not going to forsake her modesty when she goes out. She's not going to go mixing with them and look at how all of those are mentioned in one day.
These are with the automatic call the three levels of hijab
the big concept of hijab
the first level of hijab is what the first level of veiling is, the Muslim is the home for the Muslim woman, right? Allah azza wa jal says, we're following a feeble ut COULDNA, one at a mirage in the Talmud and JD at the Buddha. He says, The wives of the Prophet you're not like any other women. All right, here are the role models. So remain in your homes and do not come out make a display of yourselves the way the women in the previous slide at times is to do.
Okay, so she comes out when there's a need. And of course, a sister raising the society may think I'm trying to say what the enemies of Islam are saying, right? That the need means that unless she's dying, right, and she's hemorrhaging and bleeding, she's not allowed to leave the house. No, the needs are ready. She has a need to come to the masjid she may have a need to go to the doctor she may have a need to go out shopping, she may have a need to go out and work because her husband's not working or she's not married or fathers aren't making enough her father's an elderly man like the women in this verse, right?
They need to keep ties with their families these are all legitimate needs. But not everything is in need though right? Like window shopping is not any right or wrong you guys are window shopping is right on you just walking around the mall already have the knee yet that you're not going to be buying anything. This is not a need. You know the highs and the lows.
Nurses and Sunnah of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was asked a messenger of Allah, what are the best places on earth? And what are the worst places on earth? He said, I do not know. Until Gibreel brings me the answer. That's why no one should ever be embarrassed. See, I don't know. The Messenger of Allah is all sudden said I don't know that energy. So Jupiter AlHassan came to the revelation from Allah and he said, Where is the man that asked this question. And the man came forward he said you reality said and told me the best place on Earth are what? The Masjid houses of Allah and the worst places on this planet. As to a Buddha, its marketplaces due to the prevalent
evil that exists in the market. So person shouldn't be hanging around in a marketplace or in a mall, right? Unless there's a need. So this is the first level of hijab very quickly, right? The level of the house.
The second level of hijab, the most common usage of hijab is that when there is an A she can leave the house right? But she leaves with the proper attire. She leaves veiled not showing any of her adornments and the woman herself. She's in her adornments, right? So she covers her entire body, see for her face and hands according some of the amount, right? We're not gonna get into that debate on HF here, but the point is the AGM in the physical hijab, as the prophets of Allah Allah is neither normal second Muslim and elsewhere.
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do not forbid the female slaves of Allah meaning that women from the houses of Allah Amina masajid. And let them come out Unperfumed meaning when they come out to him for need, like being in the masjid, learning their religion worshiping Allah, right.
He said, Let them come out Unperfumed with the proper hijab, she's not calling her attention by revealing her body, nor does she have a sense on her right that she's going to be calling the attention of men. So the second degree of a jab is when you do leave the home, you leave the home for a need with the proper hmm. And then when you leave with the proper hijab, there's a third degree of hijab now. And that's the hijab of attitude, the shell of how you conduct yourself. That's called higher. That's called modesty. And modesty is for men and women alike. It is the most signature characteristic of our religion. And it is beautiful in both genders, and it is more
beautiful in the woman.
As the prophets of Allah Allah has ever inadequately did the follow up, or follow call Islamic higher. Indeed, every religion has a, quote, a character trait, something that's easily noticeable in all of its members. And the signature trait of the Muslims is higher is shame and is modesty. Right? Also, this verse contains proof that it's permissible to talk to a woman, a non Muslim woman when there's a need. Musa alayhis salam said, what? What's going on? What's your circumstance, right. And this also shows by the way, the virtue of Musa De Soto setup, that of all the people, he is the most needy, and he's not even from the town and he was the one that was more noble than them
all. And he said to the woman, how can I help you? Right? But some people think have this very limited understanding of being religious stuff. Well, I don't speak to women whatsoever what if she has a need on stuff from I don't speak to him was whatever she's in trouble dude, like, be a man, you know, man up, this is a woman. Right? If there is any is allowed to speak to her and speak to her within the parameters? Of course, what is appropriate and what is permissible, what is necessary? Nothing more.
Nothing more than that. And that's a separate long subject. I don't want to get into with the child law rules when turned into a class. Okay. So he gave them water. Right?
He grabbed them water, and then he stepped off. He didn't say by the way, my name is Ibrahim. My name is Musa. Right. And you know,
if you need anything, I'm just gonna be over there here, right? I don't know anybody in this town. What's your name? Right.
He did not even ask them for payment. Forget socializing. He didn't even ask them for payment, even though he needed it.
And this is the ideal state that when you do something for the sake of Allah, it's very important to listen, when you do something for the sake of Allah. Ideally, you don't accept you definitely don't request payment for it. That's the ideal state. But as the prophets of Allah, Allah Islam said, when wealth comes to you from Allah, without it being in exchange for your dignity lady Shafi nefs, the Hadith says then except, but he didn't ask for it. That is as he grabbed them water from Matala in a V and then he turned away to what to the sheep. And he said that I'll be my Lord in Neelima and delta in a human hybrid filthy, I am in dire need of whatever good you can send down to. And from
his wisdom, he said, Oh Allah, I'm in dire need of whatever good you can send out to me. When you make dua, especially for worldly matters. He had a worldly need right now. He was hungry and scared and needs new shoes. You ask Allah for the height, you ask Allah for the good, because you don't know what the good is. Don't say Oh Allah, I'm begging you give me this job. You don't know what this job is good for you. Oh Allah give me this wife. I need to marry this man. You don't know that could be the person to drag you down. Right? We said today in the hot word that everything that comes your way is relative could be for you and could be against you except Iman. So when you ask
for something worldly not to be man, not religious. You ask Allah for the height, anything in your life. And the prophets of Allah Allah said love and hatred are very beautiful long the Rockies to make it.
He begins by saying Allahumma beraten McKelvey with ROTC Khalil Hulk, oh Allah I ask you by your knowledge of the Unseen only you know what tomorrow brings on? What are the logical health and by your ability over the creation only you are in control of things on a hilly mount a little higher the higher only give me life so long as you know that life is good for me I don't even know maybe dying today is better than nine tomorrow. Maybe tomorrow I go straight
whatever funny that I didn't and warfare to hire only and put me to death when you know that death is better for me. So when you ask Allah you always ask Allah for like
the verses continue and see for jet who issued their Huma attempts. She Aleister here in all that in the NBA Roca.
DHCC Okajima myself a tele, one of the to, Allah says, comes to him walking upon modest. She said, Indeed my father is inviting you, to repay you for the water You granted us.
For LM magia are solving puzzles are the latter half the Jyoti real problem of volley mean? So when he went Musala cinema went with her, to her father, and he told him the story of the events of frown running from Egypt and all this, he told him Letsa don't fear you are safe from the oppressive people, many, many benefits in the Messiah, I'm just going to linger on a few of them. Obviously, the evil of Frauen was wide and no, right? To the degree that
this man said to him no more you see, I mean, this is not this land here. You're you're beyond his jurisdiction. We know what he does. He has no control here that Joe terminal calm and volume each
one of us so he made the door I send or Allah whatever good you send to me, I'm in need of it. And then she says so one of them came to him. The immediacy of the response of dua, when a person uses do it correctly, and we spoke about in the last session last month, so I'm not going to linger on it again. When a person uses do I correctly it's constantly calling upon Allah, Allah azza wa jal does for him more than he ever expects. So he asked, Oh, Allah send me whatever good. And he got immediately with that, what's about to happen? And he said, he's about to get more than new shoes. He wants to get shoes and food and water and a wife and a new job everything. Yes, with this drop.
So one of them comes to him. Tim she Alistair here working upon modesty. So the way she walked was modest. All right, there is another pillar another way you can recite these I did say one of them in the wording of the Act Napoleon are brilliant in this manner, they can be recited to carry multiple meanings once again, one of them came to him working upon modesty. So the way she was working was modest, or it can be recited for jets who who may attend mushy so one of them came to him walking combo. i Let's stay here in the pilot upon modesty, she said me the way she's talking is modest.
So this is in the order of the words they're in entail that she was walking modestly. And even the way she was speaking was modest.
It was important authentically that I'm on top of the law and said, she came walking upon modesty. She came with her face covered like this, he said all the love on meaning she had her face covered in front of Musa his setup. And this is of the many, many proofs that have existed in Islam as a part of Islam. I'm not saying it's an obligation. This is the big between that remember what niqab is a part of our religion, and a part of higher part of modesty, because the scholars of Islam all agree that this is a virtue, a woman covering her face, this is most to have, this is recommended. And some will go farther and say it is even obligatory. But they all agree that at least Mr. Had Why
am I establishing this? Because there are people out there unfortunately, religious people out there that got polluted with politics and other stuff
that came about nowadays and they say things like in the pub is not from Islam. niqab is actually haram, how the world is? How did you get that photo? He said, because it's not from the Muslim religion. So it was added to Islam and it's from the custom of the Jews. So if you add something from to Islam, that's called an innovation and that's how I see Mashallah. 2014, right, Allah, guide us in them and protect our hearts.
But the point is, this is a part of Islam, and the wives of the Prophet SAW Selim used to wear the niqab. And it's a virtue by scholarly agreement. And whether it's obligatory or not, is the only valid area of debate. That's the point. But it's a part of modesty. And this is why we said that modesty exists for men and women. And it's even more beautiful in women.
Of the proofs of this idea here. She came walking upon modesty. What does that mean? She came walking in a manner that was modest us covered up the entire day.
And of course, the hijab is supposed to conceal the beauty of a woman and the apex of beauties were in her face, right.
So she had her face covered on corpses. And then how did she speak modestly? The eye says it clearly. Orleans in the abbey the room, she said, My father invites you to come over for dinner right? My father invites you, to repay you for the water that You granted us. Understood. The difference between my father invites you
And between, come, you're invited for dinner.
And also what we learned from this is something very, very subtle, but very, very important.
So one of them came to him upon modesty, she said,
My father invites you to give your grantee reward for what you did. What's your name? What's the name of this girl?
Nobody knows.
And honestly, it shouldn't, isn't to be discussed. Allah subhanho wa Taala spoke about her, you through her quality, meaning that's the most important part you need to know about.
See, the Quran teaches us by what it mentions to us. And the Quran teaches us by what it doesn't mention to us, you see, because some people, and this is something unfortunately, we inherited
from the traditions of other nations, that they sit there and they debate. What was her name? And was she the older one or the younger one you find this in the books as well. The tree Adam Allison ate from was an apple tree or a cherry tree. This is what the Prophet SAW Selim used to seek protection Allah from you say, Oh Allah protect me from knowledge that doesn't benefit. Right? If there was benefit in knowing her name, it would have been there. And if there was benefit in knowing in the Companions would have asked the Prophet and what was their name, but they understood best. Allah teaches us through what he mentioned. And when he's silent about Subhan, Allah Allah, so her
most important quality is not her name, it's not going to benefit us in any way. What's going to benefit us is this beautiful quality that she had of higher
remember this quality of higher because it's going to qualify her or her sister the evidence clear honestly on it, to be worthy to marry a prophet. And I'll explain why when I get there sha Allah we want to jump the gun I have to build the suspense are also a bad storyteller, you know.
So he comes to her license for damages. So Musa alayhis salam comes to him
he's says he narrates human puzzles, the stories and it's sort of a loss of the soul of this chapter that we're relating to you very to do so the puzzles the stories this is out there this is the reason why it's called Total puzzles. When he tells them the causes the man says to him let the half don't fear that jump to * coma falling in your seat safe
pilots issue that Huma you're ever
in a higher or minister general tell away you I mean,
one of the two, Allah says one of the two daughters she says Oh my father hire him.
Indeed the best person you can hire is the strong and the trustworthy. And this is your jam packed of lessons I don't know how many would be able to mention but one of the two said not mentioned which one once again oh my father these are of her manners. Right because they were while the other one said of the man of the rights of your parents and let you send me he visit me while attempt she Amanda holiday she is popular.
And something he learned from the Prophet SAW Selim himself, your parents, you don't call them by their name. She said Oh, my father, and you don't walk in front of them. Unless there's a need like someone's about to beat up your dad so you jump in front and you mashallah you know what you don't walk in front of them that a reason, there's a reason you in an open door for your dad, that's awesome. For your mom, that's great. But you don't walk in front of them as if you're the leader. And then the follow it doesn't work that to what attention is up level Norther you sit in front before them. You wait till they sit and they pick their seat, then you sit. And this just shows you
that they also have understood from the province of Salem that parents are royalty, you don't walk in front of the king unless you're the one rolling the carpet in front of him. Right? Right. Or you're the guy with the gun the other secret service check if anyone's got assassinated our King, right and you don't sit before the king. Everyone arrives and we're standing there and the king sits and he fixes his pretty dress and then he sits down right? Royalty in Islam parents are that their royalty? There's no way they are to be treated. Yeah, MIT Oh, my father did hire him. Why you do an awesome job. Why would he hire that a woman and intelligent woman understands that her worth and I
have to mention this as we live in the West understands that her worth is not in her making a living. You see people outside and on TV. They tell the woman you're not any less than the man Why don't you put you know the work clothes on you go out and you earn a living?
And these uh, yeah, I have a right to work. You guys ever heard that women have the right to work? Sure women do have the right to work. Don't get me wrong. A woman has the right to earn a living and feed herself to feed her family especially if she must. But who in the world considered work a right? That get past you? I have the right. Do you know that every single man if he had the opportunity to stop working, he go home to one leg on the other and say you know I'm on
Vacation permanently. He only works because he has to. He has to feed his wife and his kids. What do you mean, I have a right to work.
And they said that to you and kept repeating it to us. So you think that it was a privilege to work, and you let go of a job that the man couldn't do? Raising the generation of tomorrow, men who'd failed trying. So they could raise your kids, for you with the television or through the babysitter or otherwise, who's gonna turn on the television, by the way, right? And they can have tomorrow's generations. And you're like, yeah, man, I make as much money as my husband. I'm just as, right. The wise woman understands that Allah protected her from this. And if she has the opportunity to relieve herself of a double job, because being a mother is a full time job. Right? If she has the ability to
relieve herself, she should be happy about that. And not feel disadvantaged because of that.
So she found the opposite. Oh, my father hired him. I mean, he could do it instead of us. That's awesome. That's great. I have enough in my life.
Yeah, but Oh, my father higher. Why, in a fire minister, Jonathan Cohen told me because the best person you can hire
is someone who is strong and someone who's trustworthy.
It was said that her father said and how do you know he's strong and he's trustworthy.
She said, As for his strength, this is recorded as love and if not best, as well, I believe it's right. That asked for his strength. When he was right there. Well.
He lifted a boulder rock he moved out of the way that 10 men couldn't lift and you know the strength of Musa listen. And we spoke about this last month, he struck a man one time the man dropped it
unintentionally and it was an accident. He removed the rock, the 10 men couldn't move. And as for his trustworthiness, when we were bringing him to you, when we're directing into our house,
he said to us, or he said to me, walk behind me.
And if I make a wrong turn, throw a rock in the other direction. So I know which way to go. The meaning of his trustworthiness is that he was not secure about himself, wanted to make sure he would lower his gaze, we did not want to walk behind her. So it wouldn't be tempted to keep looking up. So I'm gonna walk in front of you, and you direct me where to go from behind. So I knew that he was trusted with no one was around. And still he insisted to be, you know, letting them know the law and he says about this incident, something very beautiful, is offer. So Nassim Taleb, he says the people with the greatest philosophy, you know, philosophy versus intuition. You know, you can tell
something, and it's not really clear, but you can just detect subtle things. This is called Philosophy, you know, even a non Muslim can have in the dunya level. You know, when someone is really good at business real good businessman. You give him an offense. It's not I'm not interested, see why it's perfect. I've seen that a million times. Let me explain it, I can't explain it that's gonna fail. That venture is gonna fail. He had has intuition he he has a knack for it. You know, he's seen the in and outs of business, he can see a poor investment from a mile away, right? But that's just underneath the serasa of the believer as the relevancy to the ferocity of the
disbelievers like the example of the sun to a candle. World of Difference this person sees with the eyes of iman Allah grants a bit of his life to be able to see things as they are to see the important things not just how to make a few bucks here and there. So Mr. Owen says the people with the greatest philosopher ever were three he says a walker stood there
when he insisted that I want to be the Khalifa after right? I'll leave it that the Muslims in the shoot on the said their own one is the Khalifa after me. He said the matter was too dangerous. He saw in his I don't want to explain it but he knew that he had to pick him up. He didn't leave it up for grabs. So he just took the advice. Some of us have an iPhone, an iPhone, or an alpha few others. Is it almost Cliff after has to be and everyone's had normalises rough and tough and he's gonna beat us up and no. And he said, No, he's gonna be good trustee. And he was, he says and
the leader of Egypt, who saw Yusuf Ali salaam being sold as a slave and he said, I study and found out that
perhaps you will benefit us or we can adopt him as our son have benefited them. He brought their their country out of famine, right? You somebody sit down, and then he led them to Allah in the hereafter as a prophet. He sure did benefit them. He says, he says number three is and that young girl who said oh my father hire him. He is strong and he is trustworthy. How did she figure it out from a few subtle moves Musa alayhis salam did
From her sharp with the Yeah, but this digit. So what did the father do? The father said Come marry my daughter.
He said the next day moving on now in the region, okay, okay, I'm gonna tell you,
I wish to marry you to one of these two daughters of mine, Allah and Giuliani femenina a judge on the condition that you worked for me for eight years, when that meant Dashawn femininity, and if you complete 10 years, that's from you, that's up to you. I'm not going to obligate you to do it.
When I redo it, I show colic and I don't wish to make things difficult for you, meaning they're going to be eight years and it's not going to be crazy work. I'm not gonna turn you into a slave. I'm not going to overburden you
said that you do need insha Allah Who Mina Salah Hain and then he tells Musa Listen, you're gonna find me in sha Allah by Allah's permission, one of the righteous
mislead Read the last day and then I'll explain. So Musa alayhis salam says, rarely can be in your vein, That's between me and you meaningful off, that's the deal between me and you. It says, A Yemen as an alien probably, like Fela? Or do I normally, whichever of the two terms I fulfill, there is nothing to be held against, meaning if I do eight, fine. And if I do 10, that's fine as well. But it's up to me, at least eight and I may do 10.
Well, Allahu Allah men who are killed, and Allah is a witness over what we say.
I'm just gonna pull out a few quick lessons from yours. And we close it shall I know, maybe a little long today.
He says to him, I wish to marry you to one of my two daughters. You know, in our cultures that humiliate
How can I go to a guy and tell him marry my daughter, he needs to come to me and beg me for my daughter's house. But the wise men looks for his daughter, or husband.
You know why? Because even if your daughter's a good girl, and even if your husband's a good guy, even if your son's a good guy, even if they're religious, right? They still need your guidance on marriage. Because marriage is something that automatically makes you bias. You have interests in it, right? So even if you're religious, and you had a good upbringing, this is all true. And everybody assumes this about their kids, by the way, but let's say it it actually is to your kids are good kids. Still, they're going to see things when it comes to marriage, it's going to be clouded in their judgment. So it's better that you nominate people we're not talking about forced marriages
guys, just in case someone hears me and thinks I mean that. Or this is gonna get uploaded to YouTube when someone's gonna say how much and that was pro forced marriages, forced marriages haram in Islam, okay.
But you go and nominate versus Hey, pick from this one. How about this one? How about this one? That's from the wisdom of a man that she picks? Yes. She picks from people that are qualified.
Before she goes in picks someone with a bias judgment or he goes and picks a girl with a bias judgment, you go looking for them. So that whoever they pick is within a circle of qualifications, they're all qualified, pick whoever you want.
And by the way, Iran, Qatar with the mind that this is what he took his daughter Hafsa. Anyone any offers over
and above? So listen, I can't.
And humans are our friends and our friends that I can. And then the prophets of Allah, Allah who send them married puffs. And then okay, so they've told the Varoma you know, you probably held it against them, you probably had some bad feelings in your heart when I didn't get back to you regarding your daughter. But the Messenger of Allah had mentioned her.
And so I couldn't write I would have, but I couldn't the Messenger of Allah mentioned that he was interested. And at the same time, we're going to share zero Sorella I'm not going to tell you the secret of the Messenger of Allah salsa. So get mad at me no problem, but I'm not going to step on Mr. Salams interests, nor am I going to disclose his secrets. So the points above his wisdom here, the same thing, he looks for his daughter.
By the way, that doesn't mean also that a woman isn't allowed to look for herself. Because Khadija Levana is the one that picked the Prophet SAW, sent and sent someone to him to inquire if he was interested in marriage, right within the parameters within the guidelines. And it's like it will tell you hey, there's a hidden sack. The woman came and offered herself to the Prophet SAW Selim, and he didn't denounce her act, right? He didn't say what you're doing is wrong. And this is against hierarchies against modesty. He didn't say that. That's why also when I say modesty, you need to understand it in Islamic context, not just the shame that we define what shame is no, no, no. But
he's also simply wasn't interested in marrying this woman. So mindfulness or homiletics you know, Mr. Zola marry meets with her so we Junya.
He said go find something a wedding gift. Right? Even have an iron rings. I don't have any of these not even an iron rings, not even an iron ring. He said what do you memorize?
In the Quran, he said I memorized this he said I'm married to her on or in exchange for what you know of the Quran me that you teach her the planet, you know, that will be the mommy.
So once again, it's not haram for assisted to look for herself either
I wish to marry you to one of my two daughters obviously doesn't mean go pick either one, or I marry you, you don't know what you want to find out on the wedding night. That's how long by the way the scholars agree this is not the right.
That marriage contract is a contract. It's more sensitive than even a sales contract. So there has to be clear terms, gets the I marry you to my daughter and he has three daughters. And he didn't tell you which one he's married. This is the contract invalid. Right? It's a fifth point, you can put it on the slide. If you don't understand it. We'll talk about it later. But just to clarify the word. Also, he said I'm married to one of my two daughters. In exchange for you working for me, it's yours.
That doesn't mean that this in Islam is the dowry you know, the Muhammad Islam. We call the dowry in English and dowry is a horrible translation. And there's no word for modern English. We say dowry. Dowry is wrong. You know why dowry is wrong? Because dowry is what that is seems like it's saying, but I want to clarify, that we'll read is an English word, and English has its own meanings to it right? In the English culture in Europe and America, the likes, their wedding gift used to be called the dowry. But the problem with the dowry is what? That it's given to the father of the girl. In Islam, this is not the case. In Islam, the MA The Saga of the woman is given to the woman. That's
her money that no one has the right it doesn't have to be money. Usually it's one has monetary value, right? But the point is, that's hers, no one has the right to touch it, she has the right to stipulate, and she has the right to keep that. So when he says I'm marrying you to my daughter, that you work for me for eight years, it doesn't mean this is the wedding gift. I'm giving you my daughter, so you can work for me by bike. But if you think about it, he's giving him more than the loader. I'm giving you food and drink and everything else, meaning you agreed to work for me? How are we were going to understand it to agree with our Shediac. Right? And what you get, that's
something separate, you give the wedding gift and I'm like I'm gonna permit for you to marry. And
I don't know if I'm gonna have time for this. And this is also shows you it's permissible to marry for reasons other than Dean.
So long as DNA is your number one reason, then you're in conformity with this. Because the problem is often Emily said a woman is married for four reasons. Her religion, her wealth, her beauty and her status. So pick the woman of beauty, a pile of stuff. So pick the woman of the this doesn't mean the woman of beauty is to be ignored, doesn't mean you shouldn't look for a woman that you find beautiful. Or a woman for example, it has well, or a woman that has status, it means Don't you dare pick those qualities over Dean. But if a woman has Dean and she has Dean and beauty, then you pick the one within and beauty on this good.
Okay, moving on.
So he said I want to very it's one of my $2 in exchange for you working for me for eight years. And if you finish 10, that's even better, but I'm not going to hold it against you.
And this is the issue of ease in marriage as well as part of our Sharia. Making marriage easy. We make marriage so complicated, so complicated. And this is very on Islam, very on Islam
needs to warn the people on the number and tell them don't raise the MA The wedding gift that you stipulate My daughter has to receive this amount of money. He says the image never to boo. Because this is a reason a catalyst for hatred. You know, when the guy has to spend 20,000 on the wedding hall and 40,000 50,000 Mom, I met one brother and Brooklyn right to pay 90,000 as a wedding gift to his you know, fiance tells us they were gonna let him marry her.
You know that fathers that do this, by the way, among many, many things that go wrong. I just want to tell you how, what you're doing. You're putting a price on your daughter. Okay? And you're a fool for putting a price a price on your daughter. Because no one else no matter what price you put, you're still selling her short because our daughters are not worth money. Right and wrong. As Malcolm X or him Allah says these are our women we die for our women see the price of our women is our blood isn't it? In Islam that's the price of our women right or wrong?
So when you put the price regardless of what the price is, you still sold her short.
And are you saying that your daughter is better than the daughter of the Messenger of Allah and Allah Allah is in us I think student me they would assign a student generally one of the four they inherit the alumni with all the other one came to the Prophet sallallahu ala isms and yet also even even like consummating the marriage execute finalize the marriage between me and who would only marry vault if you don't have the promises. And he said well
You have
to give us the wedding gift, but you have to give a wedding gift. So what are you going to do? He said he handed me. Where's your hook me a shield?
He said I have. He said give it to her as simple things are being made. Oh, very, very tonight. Okay, very tonight. You guys agree anyway, right. And that's another very important lesson press pause on the Hollywood story, I'm going to marry you to one of my two daughters. That means that the father understand that his daughters would accept it. Because the acceptance of the girl and the permission of the girl is one of the conditions for the validity of the marriage contract. There's no forced marriage to Islam, right? He understand that his daughters would accept it. And this is natural in some cultures.
Or else it wouldn't be valid to begin with. I leave it because the messenger what we're consuming the Americas, where's your shield, the shield is here. So he gives it to them on the line and they're married. That was their gift. Because the point of the line is what a sign of commitment. It's something that's valuable to me, within my capacity, I'm giving it up to show a sign of seriousness and worth to this woman. That's what the month is all about. In reality, so far to mow the lawn Herma was a shield,
a shield for war that she's never going to use, but it was a sign of commitment and value and worth from Alibaba. And then she used to give it to the loved one to use it in the bedroom and she would get the reward for it from Allah Subhanallah with that.
So simplifying, marriage is very smart. Okay, I wish to marry you to one of my two daughters exchange that you work for him for eight years. And if you do 10 That's up to you. When are you gonna show colleague I don't wish to make things difficult for you said that you do need insha Allah from Minnesota, hey, you're going to find me if Allah permits, if Allah wills, one of the righteous, and a righteous person always does he understand that his righteousness is dependent on the will of Allah. He didn't say don't worry, I'm a good person, you're gonna find out I'm going to keep true to my deal with you. In sha Allah, I'm going to be a good person with this deal. And then something
else to learn from this i In sha Allah, I'm going to be a good person. We're talking about business here. I'm not talking about praying and fasting and Zakah we're talking about a business deal. true righteousness of the ways to recognize it is to see how a person deals with others. You know, very beautiful narration. But Omaha, Omaha narrative, I'm very happy that a man came to
Bob wanted to see if he's credible, but I'm gonna tell them listen, I don't know you. Well, I don't that doesn't harm me from the humility of Ramadi will say, I don't know you would. That doesn't mean you're a bad guy just because someone doesn't know who you are. So filter Muslim and Yadi for go find me someone who knows you someone to vouch for you that you're credible. So he went and brought a guy so I was interrogating the second guy and telling him you know him.
He says yes, RF.
Allah Allah Allah Cacho. Chalifoux with Hala our project, our fragile perhaps here, his neighbor, you can you see him going in and out when you see it goes in his house. You see what time it comes in and out or does he go clubbing at night? You know what he does? You're his neighbor. He said, No, I'm not his neighbor.
I meant America. Medina, he said, maybe you dealt with him, you know, in money. You had business dealings with him. Right? To see how honest he was. He said, No, I never did business with him. I like I thought America Yeah, no, Laird. He said, maybe you traveled with him for 90 days at a time. He said No, I've never traveled with him.
Or Ada, Phil Masjid Euclid or Salah said maybe you saw him in the messages, you know, he prays and he takes very long time praying. He said yes. He said you don't know.
He said get out and go away. You don't know this man.
You see someone being devoted between him and Allah does not necessarily mean He's righteous automatically of the clear is wasted to know that he deals with Allah on all levels. Not when he has time he comes in Lincoln's his heart and the message you know, when there's some personal interest involved when there's money at stake when there's Hmm there's difficult that someone's insulting you or someone's with me day and night, I can't put on a show forever. He's traveling with me. He leaves my neighbor, we're dealing business. That's how you test someone's righteousness.
On the stand that is I'm going to hold true to this deal Oh Musa and in sha Allah, you're going to see that I'm a righteous person. By the way I deal with people.
So Musa Instagrams is delicate Vainio Aveda, That's between me and you, meaning deal set, a Yemen or Jelenia probably fell out with one ally whichever of the two of the terms I fulfill.
There is nothing to be held against me. Well Allah Allah ma Hulu Akela. I'm in a pool working and Allah is a witness over what we say.
First of all, Musala has landed the 10 years, not the eight years.
And that's because he was of the Mercy Nene. Remember, we said that of the definitions
have a son is to do with his more than the obligations. I don't know if we discussed it or not. But there's no time for that definition of accent that you do more than once. Why are you?
Sorry? Didn't you be clarity a Jewish man came to him and said to him, which of the two terms the Musa fulfill the age of the 10 years? He said, I will not answer you until I
consult
Hubble a lot of the leading scholar of the Arabs, so they went to they went to Naga, their loved one with a companion of the Prophet sauce. I didn't say didn't you better relate to him the question of this Jewish man.
Even our best was the one who said he fulfilled the most complete and most perfect of those two terms, meaning 10 years. He said, Because when the messenger of Allah speaks, it's the truth, meaning I heard this and the Messenger of Allah was not up for debate. I was it was 10 years. That's one thing. You know, when a person gets married, he's a nice guy, and he's great with his in laws until he gets married. Right? And then it's just like, the righteous person, that truly righteous person deals with Allah subhanho wa taala. Irrespective of circumstances, even if peoples are treating him differently, he doesn't treat people differently. He deals with Allah. Right? I'm not
saying this man is treating him any differently. I'm saying what happens to us after we get married, he still fulfilled the 10 years. And once again is of the signs of ease when it comes to marriage, he did more than he had to do. That's also why
when we say the monitor should be easy meal fathers don't make it difficult on our on a qualified, you know, groom, a qualified bachelor. At the same time, the Bachelor is supposed to do what he can, if it's in his capacity, he should give as much as he can. There is no cap to what Mahara is, when I said 90,000, I'm saying they made it a burden on the guy to pay the 90,000. But if the guy's a millionaire, there's nothing wrong with him giving millions as the money, right, but don't make it a burden on him. And once again, if it's not a burden him he should try his best to show worth and to that family.
So he fulfilled the 10 years. And he works as a shepherd. And this is as the profit or loss and I've said them in the V and he loved one and there is no profit except that he worked as a shepherd. Because of this, what this instills in a human being have qualities and he's gonna go back and that was one of the messengers of Allah to free the people who've been swayed from the tyranny of
but I just want to mention one last marriage lesson here.
That he said, Well Allahu Allah mana Pulu Akita, whichever of the two terms I do it it says, we're at the eye and our children are the two terms I do, then there's no harm against me, it's up to me completely. And Allah is a witness over what I say. The verse before it said what that he was told in sha Allah I'll be righteous. And the second one he said and once again, Allah sees what we do. Notice how similar these words are.
So the father in law was very similar to the son in law.
And the girl her most obvious quality was what
huh? Hire and have the most obvious qualities and Musala cinemas also hired
in order to have the greatest proofs of that one of my favorite the only Hadith about Musa let's
leave it at that they love on the Deaf seat of the area you live in a man who likes Hakuna Colombina either Musa Mahan O'Connor in the LA Hua Ji are believers don't be like those who annoyed Musashi cetera. And then Allah acquitted him
of what they said. And he is one that has high repute, high esteem in the sight of Allah. What does this enemy
mean to believers? Don't be annoying to your prophet the way the others were annoying to Musa alayhis salam, how were they anointed Musa alayhis salam, the Prophet SAW Selim explained to us and he said, bend over saw it
used to be Seamus, this became prevalent amongst them. And when they were shameless, they used to accuse Musa alayhis salam because he was not like them. He had shaved he had higher so they would be naked, for example, in front of one another. And he would refuse to take his clothes off in front of anyone. And he always had his skin covered. So they said Musa alayhis salam is no better than us. He just covers his skin because he has a skin disease. They annoy Musa Musa so Allah subhanho wa Taala acquitted him of the acquisition how one time when Musa listen this is the words of the Prophet Musa Islam want to have in project to be in a street not who've been destroyed but often private and pay
it he put his clothes down on a rock and he wanted to the stream began to be so Allah subhana wa that was over all things capable and sister thing be in it is he commanded the rock to get up and run away with his clothes. So it's right away. So Musa alayhis salam runs out of the stream the river and he's chasing the rocks and that will be hudgell Filby Hajah
My clothes, rock a rock, come back here with my clothes.
And he continues to run after the rock and he passes by a melon a group from Begusarai. So they see Mussolini salams body. And they notice they recognize that he had no skin disease. Rather he had the most perfect body of anyone
among them so Allah acquitted him of their accusation, and the Musa listen to the tape continues, he grabbed his balls and put it on. And he threw the rock of beating, he said, some of our Selim and even until today, if you were to see that rock, you will see two or three or four or five marks on that rock from the striking of Musa alayhis. Salam.
The point he was known for his head, and his wife or his wife, sister, but the same family, the qualities are going to be there. We're known for their higher and the father and Lockwood is Justin Alonso in sha Allah, I'm gonna be righteous and Musa alayhis salam said, and Allah is over what I say a witness. What lesson do I want to pull out of here very important lesson regarding being married or getting married.
That no matter how hard you look, and how good you investigate, and how sure you think you are, the spouse that you get
is the spouse that you deserve
your qualities, you will find them in your spouse,
you know why a spouse is is it's one of the things that Allah provides for you. And he provides for you on the basis of your relationship with him. But you know, it's not even like any other kind of his, there's something very strange about marriage.
That, you know, when it comes to like risk as in money, Allah subhanaw taala could give some of those that he loves money and give some of those and he loves poverty. You know why? Because some people are better off with money, they're thankful. And some people are better off with poverty, they're patient, and the other way around, ruin them. So he gives them a different kind of risk you get to me,
because it suits them. But marriage is not like that.
Marriage is you're about to live behind four walls with an individual. So that individual is going to leave a stamp on you, it's gonna rub off on you. So ALLAH SubhanA wa, tada puts you with someone that has your same religious commitment, because they're not going to affect you. They're going to affect your deen, for sure. You understand. And that's why they set up the early Muslims, the UCC, if you want to ally, you have to be fountain.
You gotta deserve it. You can try all you want, investigate and research and praise the fight and all that. But at the end of the day, ALLAH turns hearts this way. And that's why and if you want to fault him, you want a wife like that you need to be early on the Allah Vaughn. Don't think you're gonna live a life however you like. And you just gonna get a righteous wife. And the end doesn't work that way.
To the degree of your commitment to Allah, Allah will give you a spouse so that you can continue that give it until you meet them
in good or an evil.
He was of high and he was given a woman of higher, he put his trust in Allah, his father in law, the family he made was of those that put their trust in Allah subhanaw taala. Of course, you know, I know what's gonna happen. Now, most of the people here, unfortunately, and this is the epidemic and all the masajid are not the youth and they're already married. So saying, Okay, fellas, you know, but what if I'm more religious now than I wasn't like, that's very, there's a trigger set on plays on many people. No, no, no, we see the rule even applies after marriage.
The rule applies after marriage, when you improve yourself, Allah will improve your spouse for you. So stop blaming your spouse that you're not religious enough, and they're slowing you down. Many brothers that I heard from dealing with, and
they have this excuse, and we all have excuses to hide money, excuses, and not the man up to our obligations. And filet mignon, from Allah used to say, in the last Illa de ILF, as you do that, if you hold on to them, if you hold the hold up, that you are not it, indeed, I disobey Allah at times, and I find the effect of that in my writing animal and in my wife, meaning my car breaks down when I disobey Allah and my wife breaks down and this will be Allah, she gives me a hard time.
Of course, his few sins, it was easy for him to notice what's for us our sins, there's so much noise, it's hard to notice why our wife is treating us like that, and why my husband is so cold hearted and harsh, right? But understand, this is something Allah Subhana Allah does, you can notice it, you will see your flaws in your spouse and your spouse's flaws in you, and your positive qualities in your spouse and vice versa. So when you climb with yourself, your spouse will find with you and this is the case nine times out of 10, if not more.
This is the standard and the rule and there are small exceptions to it. So Musala incident gets married to a woman most befitting to be married to a prophet and a messenger of Allah and Allah sent this woman his way and his family his way so that he could continue developing into one of the greatest human beings ever. Right continue on that road.
And then he leaves Egypt and the next verses that we're not going to get into that's our appointment next month if we're alive and healthy May Allah unite us and you will find the best of affairs are there any questions I know I was just machine gunning a little bit this evening