Mohammad Elshinawy – Facing Depression As a Muslim

Mohammad Elshinawy
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The speakers discuss the importance of understanding the meaning behind depression and the challenges of existence. They also discuss the importance of positive and negative views of one's life and how negative views can lead to behavior patterns. The speakers emphasize the need for balance between consumption and productivity, finding a filter and reference point, and teaching and finding a purpose for individuals. They also touch on the history of Islam and the importance of language in explaining one's actions and community support. The segment ends with a brief advertisement for a podcast and a call to action for viewers.

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			In today's world, there's not a lot of
		
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			things that perpetuate happiness and that we see
		
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			on the news or we see anywhere in
		
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			society, and it's mostly, you know, perpetuates depression.
		
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			So to touch on that topic, we have
		
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			Sheikh Ashinaoui here that will explain to us
		
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			how we can cope with that Islamically and
		
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			how we can work with it in our
		
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			day to day lives. Assalamu Alaikum Wa Rahmatullahi.
		
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			Alaykum Salam.
		
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			So Sheikh, can you share your insights on
		
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			how spirituality
		
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			within Islamic teachings,
		
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			intersects with mental health specifically in understanding depression?
		
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			Bismillah. We begin the name of Allah. All
		
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			praise and glory be to Allah. And may
		
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			His finest peace and blessings be upon His
		
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			messenger, Muhammad,
		
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			and his family and his companions and all
		
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			those who adhere to his guidance.
		
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			There's really so much here because
		
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			Islam did not bring to the world a
		
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			proposition
		
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			of
		
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			just put up with it.
		
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			Life's horrible,
		
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			that the path
		
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			to paradise,
		
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			is all about, you know, torture and
		
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			and doom and gloom. No, the Quran is
		
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			very clear.
		
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			And Surataha, Allah Azzawajal says, We did not
		
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			send this Quran down upon you to be
		
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			miserable. In fact, the very opposite. The end
		
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			of Surataha says,
		
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			whomever turns away from my guidance,
		
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			then they will have a narrow constricted life.
		
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			What that means and what that looks like
		
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			and how lack of religiosity can give you
		
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			a constricted life, we could be getting ahead
		
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			of ourselves. We can talk about that in
		
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			a second if you like, but the idea
		
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			is
		
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			without this deen, you are bound to a
		
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			constricted life means this deen came to liberate
		
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			you from a light of constriction, a light
		
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			of
		
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			depression, a life of suppression
		
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			and that's extremely important.
		
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			Elsewhere in the Quran, Allah Azzawajal says, whomever
		
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			of
		
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			you works righteous deeds, be they a male
		
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			or a female, while they are a believer,
		
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			once again, belief and religion,
		
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			then we will surely give him or her
		
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			a goodly life and then we will reward
		
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			them the ultimate reward. So goodly life is
		
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			something
		
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			before
		
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			on route to the ultimate reward. So Islam
		
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			came to give us the best of both
		
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			worlds. I came across some of your lectures.
		
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			It was actually about this topic, and you
		
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			touched upon some societal factors that contribute to
		
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			the rise in the depression. And can you
		
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			just elaborate on what some of those societal
		
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			factors are
		
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			and how do they relate to the challenge
		
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			of depression?
		
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			Yeah. This is an issue of worldviews, and
		
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			worldviews
		
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			are underserved.
		
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			What is your worldview? It makes a huge
		
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			difference.
		
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			You know, like religion in general, I keep
		
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			saying religion, religion is seen as some coincidental
		
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			factor nowadays like personality type. I happen to
		
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			coincidentally be the spiritual type or not.
		
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			As opposed to, here's the counter, the alternative
		
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			that I am
		
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			As opposed to, here's the counter, the alternative
		
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			that I am suggesting for everyone to reconsider,
		
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			that anything and everything is dependent on your
		
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			creed
		
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			because your creed is actually the lens through
		
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			which you understand life, understand the world.
		
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			So let's put that into a little bit
		
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			less of abstract
		
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			terms. Why are people suffering? It's because they
		
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			see the world as the buy all end
		
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			all. If this world is the buy all
		
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			end all, this world stinks.
		
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			Right?
		
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			Like, that means every moment lost in suffering,
		
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			I can never retrieve. There's no higher purpose.
		
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			There's no wisdom.
		
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			I I can't sort of channel that into
		
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			any sort of positivity, into any sort of
		
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			optimism.
		
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			Like, if this world is the by all
		
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			end all, that means I'm
		
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			inevitably on a decline, inevitably on a, like
		
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			a
		
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			a decrease.
		
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			My time is shrinking. My health is shrinking.
		
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			My beauty is fading.
		
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			Right? Everything is on its way down because
		
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			life is dwindling. Like, what are you? But
		
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			but a number of days, every time another
		
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			day is over, a part of you is
		
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			gone forever. That's a horrible thing to think
		
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			about.
		
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			Sadly, people live that way when it's not
		
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			even true.
		
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			You know, there's
		
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			like an emerging field, and I'm sort of
		
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			act like I know more than I actually
		
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			do. There's an emerging trend or a sort
		
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			of field in in psychological research
		
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			called existential
		
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			psychotherapy.
		
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			So it seeks to offer a therapeutic solution
		
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			for people's psychology, psychotherapy,
		
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			based on the notion of existential beliefs. Like,
		
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			how do I understand existence?
		
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			Right? And
		
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			many people don't understand existence. They don't know.
		
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			They're at odds. They have this inner conflict
		
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			with the givens of existence. And so how
		
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			can I make sense of something? How can
		
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			I cope with something that I can't comprehend?
		
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			I'm disoriented.
		
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			Like, being oriented, world view,
		
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			is so important. Like, imagine yourself,
		
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			like, you wake up 1 morning in a
		
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			forest.
		
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			The first
		
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			thing that you're gonna want to resolve and
		
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			you won't be able to shake off is
		
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			this disorientation. Like what the, how did I,
		
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			where to from here? Like, you won't even
		
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			care about food and drink. Think about the
		
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			the importance of orientation.
		
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			Even food and drink which are our most
		
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			seen to be our most fundamental
		
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			needs, physical needs,
		
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			are gonna be seen as like a luxury.
		
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			I don't care about food, what food, and
		
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			drink. I gotta figure out how I got
		
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			here. I gotta figure out why I'm here.
		
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			I gotta figure out how to get out
		
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			of this jungle. Right? So the givens of
		
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			existence are huge.
		
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			And the Quran came to liberate us from
		
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			being in the dark. When Allah Azzawajal says,
		
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			These are insights from your Lord, these revelations
		
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			we give you, that means without them, you
		
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			got the blinders on. You have no lenses.
		
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			Like, you have nothing.
		
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			And so
		
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			and, you know,
		
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			of all the givens, the most important of
		
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			those givens, the most important
		
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			orientation is orientation on purpose. Right?
		
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			Not just orientation like what's right and what's
		
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			wrong, how should I behave. Before that, what's
		
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			the point of it all? Because if you
		
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			don't have the point, you can never actually
		
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			assess anything else. Right? Like,
		
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			this was a good move or this was
		
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			a bad move in the basketball game. How?
		
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			Because basketball has a purpose. These and these
		
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			guys are supposed to, like, put the ball
		
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			in that hoop and otherwise stealing is unethical.
		
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			Right? Like, unless you figure out the purpose,
		
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			the name of the game, you can never
		
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			size up sort of the practice, the behavior,
		
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			the protocols.
		
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			And so forget ethical morality for no. Just
		
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			purpose.
		
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			You know? There was a humongous doctor Zohair
		
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			Ab Rahman has a study
		
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			that he references in the beginning,
		
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			of his paper on the importance of spirituality
		
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			in Islam. I forget the exact title now,
		
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			but it can be Googled at Yaqeen Institute.
		
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			And he mentioned this is an enormous study
		
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			by tens of thousands of people, you know,
		
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			like
		
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			dozens of countries, so 140,000 people,
		
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			were studied across cultures, cross cross civilizations,
		
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			across socioeconomic class. It's a very interesting finding
		
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			on the power of purpose
		
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			and the the importance of you seeing life
		
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			as meaningful worldview. Right?
		
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			They basically gauged
		
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			and found that the people in wealthier countries
		
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			report higher happiness, and they mean, like, materialistic
		
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			happiness. Like, I have more access.
		
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			A nicer restaurant, nicer vacation, nicer ride, whatever
		
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			it's gonna be.
		
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			Right?
		
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			But in that sense, higher but at the
		
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			same time, they report
		
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			higher depression rates and sort of higher propensity
		
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			likelihood for suicide. So it's like how does
		
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			that even work? That's the whole idea, that
		
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			even more so than comfort, even more so
		
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			than pleasure, you need purpose
		
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			because they found that the countries that had
		
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			the highest mental health crises, the highest suicidal
		
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			ideations and trends and stuff were not the
		
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			countries that were poorer, like less comfort. They
		
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			were the countries that reported
		
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			less
		
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			of seeing life as meaningful,
		
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			seeing life as purposeful. So that's the number
		
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			one way to get, like, anchored
		
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			and escape the the hysteria of what does
		
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			my existence mean. Let me be a broken
		
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			record here and bring it back to worldview
		
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			since I'm saying it's underserved, so I'm gonna
		
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			serve it today as best I can. Like,
		
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			the problem of evil.
		
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			Life is seen entirely as evil. Why?
		
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			That's a huge problem. You're not seeing the
		
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			world through the lens
		
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			that Allah guided you to, the correct lens,
		
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			seeing the world as entirely a reflection of
		
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			His names and His attributes, if you would
		
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			see His your life with the world as
		
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			a reflection of His names and His attributes,
		
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			it would be primarily
		
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			reflecting compassion,
		
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			primarily
		
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			reflecting mercy,
		
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			primarily reflecting justice, primarily reflecting
		
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			reflecting wisdom. Right? So for instance, think of
		
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			the atrocities in genocide
		
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			that, you know, should be on our mind
		
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			and all of the oppression nowadays in in
		
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			so many different parts of the world, not
		
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			just Palestine. There's there's Sudan and Turkmenistan
		
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			and even the poverty of 1 third of
		
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			this planet and so on and so forth,
		
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			while the rich get richer and the poor
		
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			get poor.
		
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			If I my worldview is Allah is matchless
		
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			in his mercy
		
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			and flawless in his justice and perfect in
		
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			his wisdom, Then I see that tyrant and
		
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			I say,
		
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			that
		
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			tyrant
		
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			is a reflection of God's wisdom,
		
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			Not that we accept tyranny or like tyranny
		
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			or supposed to be okay with or silent
		
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			about tyranny,
		
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			but God is amazing.
		
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			He gives tyrants sometimes
		
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			a grace period.
		
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			Right?
		
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			Just enough rope to choke themselves with.
		
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			And in the process,
		
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			he chooses
		
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			those he wishes to honor with the highest
		
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			rank of martyrdom. Right?
		
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			And then he pulls the rope back and
		
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			snatches them in a way that only the
		
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			almighty can. It's a completely different perspective. Right?
		
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			But that is the perspective of the believer.
		
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			You know,
		
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			even the idea of I'm short changed.
		
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			You know, in psychology they call it a
		
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			deficit mindset. You have this cognitive lens that's
		
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			just negative. Why did it become so negative?
		
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			Because you have not gotten into the attitude
		
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			of being positive, which the Quran accustoms you
		
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			to. You know, when Allah Azzawajal says,
		
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			the human being is ever a denier, that
		
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			means not all. That means with the default,
		
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			the predominant,
		
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			you know, posture of the human being is
		
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			that I'm always sort of denying God's favors,
		
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			which alerts you to the fact that, oh,
		
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			wait a minute. Like, am I part of
		
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			the majority? Because the majority is like this.
		
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			So, like, how do I make myself an
		
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			exception? Like, is there?
		
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			And so al Hassan al Basri when he
		
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			read this ayah, the human being ordinarily, usually,
		
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			is ever a denier of his Lord. He
		
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			gives a beautiful explanation. He says, You uddun
		
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			masaiba walaia uddunniam.
		
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			All he does is count his misfortunes.
		
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			Like a spoiled, entitled, bratty, right,
		
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			counts as misfortunes and never counts as favors.
		
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			And so
		
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			and then you even think of the framework.
		
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			The Quran doesn't just give you a reminder
		
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			on every single page of God's favors that
		
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			you take for granted. That's resetting your lens,
		
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			right? But even the practices of Islam. You
		
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			know, they say the attitude of gratitude.
		
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			We say that salah is gratitude.
		
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			We've given you so much.
		
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			So now pray to your Lord. Right?
		
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			If you're not going to be stopping
		
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			for gratitude 5 times a day, you're never
		
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			gonna develop the attitude of gratitude. You're gonna
		
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			probably just put some annual placeholder called Thanksgiving,
		
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			and then it's not gonna work. And that's
		
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			why we all shop after Thanksgiving on Black
		
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			Friday and Tech Tuesday or Cyber Monday or
		
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			whatever else we call it in the, you
		
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			know, the consumer,
		
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			riddled world.
		
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			So
		
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			that's the idea. The idea is, like, worldview,
		
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			purpose, seeing reflection of Allah's jed, and then
		
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			seeing yourself also. What an awesome master. What
		
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			a miserable slave. Like, I need to fix
		
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			this up and it's for my own good.
		
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			God doesn't get anything out of this. I
		
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			get out of it. So it
		
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			improves. And even this notion of, like, I'm
		
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			being punished perpetually and I need to be
		
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			punished. No. You don't. Allah can forgive you
		
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			without punishing you. Sometimes we have even, like,
		
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			a a negative self image, not just the
		
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			image of the world and what I'm getting,
		
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			but even, like, I don't deserve to get.
		
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			That's another problem that makes people feel very
		
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			unfulfilled and emotionally depressed,
		
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			and that's a problem. Like, what Allah needs
		
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			to punish you? No. Allah benefits from punishing
		
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			you? No.
		
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			Allah can't forgive you for free? Yes, he
		
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			can.
		
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			Even in Sahih Muslim, the Hadith of Al
		
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			Abba is a very beautiful Hadith.
		
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			Al Abba radiAllahu an, the prophet alaihi salatu
		
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			wa sallam
		
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			visited him
		
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			or a man,
		
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			I don't recall, but it's his life Muslim,
		
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			highly authentic hadith,
		
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			and
		
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			he saw that he was sick and very
		
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			sick, and he had a hunch sallallahu alaihi
		
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			wa sallam that maybe this was like self
		
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			inflicted or something.
		
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			And so he
		
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			said to him, did you make a particular
		
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			dua supplication to God about a little something?
		
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			He said, yes.
		
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			I would make du'a to Allah and say,
		
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			oh, Allah, whatever.
		
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			You're going to punish me within the hereafter?
		
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			He's saying, I know I deserve it. Alright.
		
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			Give it to me in this world. Like,
		
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			I don't want any punishment in the hereafter
		
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			because the hereafter, the stakes are much higher.
		
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			And so the prophet, alayhi, sata, wasalam, said
		
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			to him,
		
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			like, you cannot bear it in this world
		
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			or the next. Like, why ask God to
		
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			punish you? He said to him, why didn't
		
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			you just say,
		
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			Oh, Allah, give us the good of this
		
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			life and give us the next good of
		
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			the next life,
		
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			and protect us from the torment of the
		
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			fire. There's actually another, and I'll stop here,
		
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			though, but,
		
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			interesting incident
		
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			about,
		
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			Simnun, a scholar whose name is Simnun.
		
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			And he said,
		
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			oh Allah,
		
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			I love you so much so punish me
		
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			now and you will see how much I
		
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			love you. Like, I I'll accept anything from
		
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			you.
		
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			So
		
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			Allah did something very simple. Like, he he
		
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			basically
		
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			caused them to have bladder stones essentially. Like,
		
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			he couldn't urinate.
		
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			And so he went to the scholars and
		
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			consulted them. Like, I'm gonna die here. What
		
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			am I gonna immediately, he went complaining.
		
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			And
		
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			one of them gave him excellent advice. He
		
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			said go to the little kids in the
		
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			Quran circles.
		
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			Because, you know, children are sinless,
		
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			plus they're studying Quran so, like, there's a
		
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			compounded virtue there. And so he used to
		
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			go around to the circles and say, udlu'liam
		
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			mikum sumnoon kathab. Make dua for your uncle,
		
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			sumnoon the liar. I claimed I'd be able
		
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			to. You're not gonna be able to. So,
		
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			like, don't ask him for it. Don't expect
		
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			it. Don't think it's needed. That's a worldview.
		
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			Right, that Allah
		
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			loves to forgive.
		
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			So
		
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			how do you suggest that someone can
		
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			balance the pursuit of happiness with positivity
		
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			while acknowledging, you know, and accepting sadness, grief,
		
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			stuff like that of this world, you know,
		
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			because
		
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			it will happen. You will become sad. You
		
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			will grieve somebody, but how do can you
		
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			balance happiness with that as well?
		
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			You know, it is reported that one of
		
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			the Salaf, one of the early Muslims,
		
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			a righteous woman,
		
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			she was seen smiling after she cut her
		
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			finger.
		
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			She cut her finger like that.
		
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			Or she may have cut it off entirely.
		
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			And they said to her, how can you
		
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			sort of, like, manage the pain?
		
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			So it is reported that she said,
		
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			that the sweetness of the reward
		
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			caused me to forget. It's sedated for me.
		
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			Like, sedatives?
		
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			It's sedated for me the bitterness
		
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			of it being cut. The prophet SallAllahu Alaihi
		
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			Wasallam said, There is no Muslim that goes
		
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			through nasab, which is fatigue, walah wasab, nor
		
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			sickness,
		
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			walaham, nor any anxiety concerns about the future,
		
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			walahazan, nor any sadness or grief, meaning about
		
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			the past,
		
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			except that Allah
		
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			cleanses them of their
		
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			misdeeds by that,
		
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			even the prick of the thorn. You stub
		
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			your toe, you bang your finger, sort of
		
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			you chip your nail, whatever it's gonna be
		
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			except that Allah will expiate of your sins
		
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			with it. The hadith ends by saying
		
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			and,
		
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			like, afflictions,
		
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			you know, will continue
		
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			adhering to the servant, like they're inseparable from
		
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			you, until you walk on this earth
		
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			without a sin to atoll.
		
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			You could be sinless the way angels are
		
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			sinless,
		
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			simply by the things that you didn't even
		
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			initiate getting forgiven for. Allah sent them your
		
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			way to make sure you get rid of
		
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			them. And that's not reward, that's just forgiveness.
		
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			Then if you anticipate the reward
		
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			because you need to be having intentions to
		
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			be rewarded,
		
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			then there's reward. So you're actually getting all
		
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			of this
		
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			potentially within a single incident.
		
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			So is there other instances like like this?
		
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			Like because I I I already knew something
		
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			like that where it's like if you're injured
		
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			or something like that you you have your
		
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			sins forgiven but is there any type of
		
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			other instance where
		
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			maybe it's not being injured or maybe it's
		
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			not grieving that you can also gain reward
		
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			without even knowing or being forgiven without even
		
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			knowing?
		
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			Yeah. Absolutely. I mean,
		
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			the
		
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			scholars like Ibn Qayyam Rahimahullah,
		
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			he counts,
		
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			and don't test me on this,
		
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			11 stations of forgiveness, like different ways Allah
		
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			ensures your forgiveness in this world and then
		
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			different ways Allah ensures your forgiveness
		
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			when you're beneath the earth in your grave
		
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			and then different ways you could be given
		
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			a pass of forgiveness in the next world.
		
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			Like 11th day, like,
		
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			the odds are stacked in our favor in
		
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			incredible ways. I'll accept someone bent on self
		
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			to
		
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			that makes you depressed and something like that.
		
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			Is is that correct? So
		
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			virtue is always found between 2 extremes. Right?
		
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			Like, shaitan, the devil is always confusing humanity.
		
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			And, you know, like, bravery is in the
		
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			middle of being a coward and being, like,
		
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			just reckless, like, senselessly,
		
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			like, bold. Right? Everything.
		
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			Generosity is sort of the perfect golden middle
		
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			sweet spot between being stingy and being wasteful
		
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			with wealth and so on and so forth.
		
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			Likewise, when it comes when it comes to
		
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			the understanding of this issue, Islam teaches us
		
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			the middle path. The middle path, as we
		
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			already said, is that without this deen, without
		
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			correct authentic religion, without a true meaningful relationship
		
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			with Allah, your creator,
		
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			you're going to be in shambles for sure.
		
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			So in that sense, your greatest asset
		
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			towards mental, psychological,
		
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			behavior, all the health,
		
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			your greatest asset is your deen, is your
		
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			religious commitment.
		
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			However,
		
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			that doesn't mean that if you're going through
		
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			some sort of struggle, be it physical like
		
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			a health issue or emotional like a depression
		
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			sometimes,
		
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			it necessarily means there's an absence in your
		
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			faith. Right? So some people go to one
		
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			extreme and say religion has nothing to do
		
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			with it. Right? It's like my chemical imbalance
		
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			or whatever whatever whatever. Right? And the other
		
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			extreme is going to be
		
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			that it's all about your faith and only
		
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			about your faith and that's not true because
		
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			who had the faith of the prophets?
		
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			Who had the faith of Ya'qub alayhis salam?
		
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			Ya'qub alayhis salam, when he lost his son
		
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			Yusuf for decades over decades,
		
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			he wept so much he lost his eyes,
		
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			He lost his eyesight.
		
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			And so are we gonna say it was
		
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			the weakness of Ya'qub's faith that he spent
		
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			decades in sadness? No. This is sort of
		
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			parental instinct and prophetic compassion came together in
		
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			Yaqub alayhi wasalam and so it made this
		
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			pain exceptionally difficult. The prophet sallallahu alaihi wa
		
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			sallam, when the smallest cues
		
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			in society,
		
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			whether it was the necklace of his daughter
		
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			that she inherited from her mom or whether
		
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			it was a friend
		
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			or a sister of that mom, anything that
		
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			reminded him of Khadija radiAllahu Anha would stir
		
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			stir that pain in him again, SallAllahu Alaihi
		
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			Wasallam.
		
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			When,
		
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			you know,
		
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			the one who
		
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			assassinated
		
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			and
		
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			mutilated his uncle Hamzah ibn Abdul Muttalib became
		
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			Muslim years later, it was difficult on him
		
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			salallahu alaihi wa sallam. I forgive you. I'll
		
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			not hold it against you, but
		
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			like, can you help me forget? Right?
		
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			And that is why out of consideration for
		
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			the feelings of the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam
		
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			that they don't die, they don't evaporate. He
		
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			is human Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam. He is not
		
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			Allah Azhajal himself, right, who as if it
		
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			never, I love you the same as before
		
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			and even more. He's human and
		
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			the pain, the sadness, some of it was
		
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			still there.
		
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			Washi, the assassin,
		
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			became Muslim
		
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			and would always try to maximize his time
		
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			outside of Medina. Any battle campaign, any sort
		
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			of expedition, he would be the 1st to
		
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			enlist
		
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			out of love and consideration for the prophet,
		
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			salaam, and the prior wound, the emotional wound,
		
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			because it was still there. That's the idea.
		
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			And so
		
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			keep in mind that your faith can be
		
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			so strong that Allah destines on you an
		
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			emotional wound to be lasting for years because
		
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			you know, to the degree of your religious
		
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			commitment is the degree of your trial. Right?
		
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			Allah
		
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			does not see someone
		
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			walking towards him on the path, on the
		
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			straight path, and then trip them up. No.
		
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			He'll only give you a strong enough test
		
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			when you're at a level
		
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			that you can handle the test. And so
		
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			the stronger your religious commitment, the hadith says,
		
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			the stronger your test will be. And there's
		
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			no reason for us to conceptually limit that
		
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			to a financial test or like a physical
		
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			test, like some sort of health
		
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			condition. It can be an emotional one as
		
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			well like it was with Yaqub alayhi salaam.
		
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			And also, let me add one more thing.
		
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			Forgive me. The prophet salaam actually
		
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			prescribed
		
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			a chemical
		
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			remedy
		
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			for an emotional wound. So, like, why am
		
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			I wording it this way? The notion of
		
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			antidepressants
		
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			as
		
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			like a a crutch, a temporary fix to
		
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			work you through, you know, the sort of
		
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			the you being inundated with too much right
		
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			now. Yes. Sadness can come from an chemical
		
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			imbalance.
		
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			He indirectly
		
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			legitimized that idea because he said to the
		
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			people in the Haythra Aisha, al Bukhari al
		
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			Muslim, alaykum bitalbina. I prescribe for you talbina.
		
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			Talbina is basically like
		
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			like oatmeal, oatmeal with honey. Just like you
		
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			you boil some barley or oats or something
		
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			like this. Right? Porridge.
		
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			It's carbs.
		
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			Carbs have sugar. Right? Sugar
		
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			gives you dopamine rushes. Right? It's pleasurable. Right?
		
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			It's the happy hormone.
		
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			So he says, you know, I prescribe for
		
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			you
		
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			because it it brings the heart together, it
		
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			collects the heart,
		
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			and does away with some of the sadness.
		
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			So it's something edible.
		
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			I'm not saying that everyone is, like, should
		
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			be taking everything, and I'm not saying that
		
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			some physicians,
		
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			don't overprescribe,
		
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			and I'm not saying you have to rush
		
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			this route. But notice that he's not saying
		
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			if you're sad,
		
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			go back to God. He's saying try
		
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			including this as part of the holistic remedy,
		
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			and Allah knows best. Allah knows best.
		
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			So
		
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			as we see that what's happening today on
		
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			the news and everything like that with Palestine,
		
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			how can Muslims of today deal with the
		
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			despair caused by what's happening there
		
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			to our brothers and sisters, and what can
		
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			we do to stay strong for
		
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			them?
		
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			That is also a balancing act because
		
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			to move past the pain, like to ignore
		
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			it and just move on with life, is
		
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			criminal.
		
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			It really is criminal.
		
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			But
		
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			unintentionally unintentionally,
		
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			you can be as ineffective
		
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			as unhelpful
		
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			if you are
		
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			too consumed
		
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			with the bad news.
		
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			Right?
		
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			Like when the Prophet sallallahu alaihi wa sallam
		
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			came back to the family of Ja'far, ibn
		
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			Abi Talib, his cousin,
		
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			who was brutally killed at Mutta,
		
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			he gave them time to grieve and then
		
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			he went up to them and said,
		
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			don't cry over Ja'far anymore. He gave them
		
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			a few days until they don't cry anymore,
		
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			Right? Meaning let's let's move
		
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			with it. Not past it, but move with
		
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			it. We're gonna have to sort of restore
		
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			our functionality,
		
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			restore our productivity,
		
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			make sure more Muslims don't have to go
		
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			through this. That's the whole idea. Right?
		
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			And so you will be equally ineffective
		
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			if you're so consumed with the bad news
		
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			that you're emotionally paralyzed
		
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			as the person that is so checked out
		
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			of the news
		
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			that they're
		
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			irrelevant,
		
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			right?
		
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			And so that balancing act is a balancing
		
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			act of consumption.
		
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			You're consuming less. It's not the first thing
		
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			you just look at the morning, last thing
		
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			you look at at night, and all this
		
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			other stuff. No. You should be as involved,
		
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			as privy
		
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			as you can be productive.
		
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			Right?
		
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			And I, subhanallah, I remember as a child
		
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			because, you know, this Ummah has been going
		
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			through a period of weakness for
		
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			for a while.
		
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			And I remember as a child seeing, you
		
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			know, Palestine, seeing Gaza. This is the 5th
		
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			war on Gaza. People a lot of people
		
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			are just waking up now, which is amazing
		
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			and wonderful, but this is the 5th war
		
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			on Gaza in the last 20 years. And
		
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			then before that, there's Iraq and Afghanistan or
		
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			like in parallel some of these wars. And
		
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			then before that was Bosnia. Right?
		
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			So
		
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			I remember as a child,
		
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			we had cable TV and Al Jazeera network
		
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			and it replaced the same horrific image at
		
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			the head of every hour. Like the news
		
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			cycle was hourly because it's a satellite channel.
		
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			And so
		
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			I just realized, oh my god. How many
		
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			times have I seen this?
		
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			This, like, traumatic sight, truly traumatic sight.
		
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			And so you the amount you consume
		
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			needs a filter.
		
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			Okay? Everyone's gotta figure out their own valve,
		
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			their own balance, their own threshold.
		
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			You know? Some of the greatest activists have
		
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			communicated in the last 6, 7 months their
		
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			regret
		
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			about being so consumed thinking it's doing the
		
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			right thing when it was actually slowing me
		
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			down from doing far better things for the
		
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			cause itself, not for, like, something else,
		
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			not moving on to bigger and better things.
		
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			No.
		
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			And
		
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			at the same time, so slowing some of
		
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			this down,
		
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			like being privy to what your valve, you
		
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			know, should be adjusted to, but also bringing
		
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			in bringing in the Qur'anic world view. You
		
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			need doses of
		
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			the filter, the lens, the reference point.
		
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			The problem of evil is not something you
		
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			have to deal with on your own. And
		
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			it's not something also that
		
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			is supposed to be easy to deal with.
		
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			Where do I get that reassurance from? From
		
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			the Quran.
		
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			The angel said, oh, God, you're gonna put
		
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			on Earth those that are gonna spill blood
		
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			on Earth? He said, I know what you
		
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			don't know.
		
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			Musa alayhi sallam comes, so atarkaf, we read,
		
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			Why are you doing this? Why are you
		
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			puncturing the ship? Why are you killing that
		
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			kid? Why do you sort of not take
		
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			payment from that? Those people were so stingy
		
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			with us. They were horrible.
		
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			And so how even the prophets even the
		
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			prophets.
		
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			Right? So how do you give yourself
		
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			stamina?
		
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			It is by seeing this as well. You
		
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			know, subhanAllah, with the story of Musa, alayhis
		
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			salaam, in particular,
		
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			some of the scholars point out that Allah
		
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			gave him
		
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			scenarios
		
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			of the age old problem of evil that
		
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			should have been easiest for him. These are
		
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			not 3 random examples. He said, why'd you
		
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			puncture the ship? You're gonna kill them all.
		
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			Even though he knew he wasn't supposed to
		
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			object, but he just his sense of justice
		
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			got him to speak up, and he didn't
		
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			notice
		
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			that he also was thrown in a basket
		
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			and was supposed to drown. He didn't.
		
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			See the one to 1 there. Right? And
		
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			then it goes on and kills the kid,
		
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			but, actually, it was more than there was
		
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			more to the story that was behind the
		
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			scenes, right, in the grander scheme of things.
		
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			And he couldn't help it. He spoke up.
		
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			He objected. He protested. It's to Al Khadir.
		
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			How could you do that? And he didn't
		
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			remember that he too was accused of killing
		
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			someone but there was more to the story.
		
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			Right? And then the third one is how
		
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			can you not accept payment after restoring that
		
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			wall for the orphans, the 2 orphans,
		
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			and he did not notice that he himself,
		
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			when he went to Madyan and he was
		
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			desperate, he gave water to 2 women and
		
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			didn't accept payment.
		
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			So, yeah, this is like you think of
		
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			Allah is showing you that even if you
		
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			were a prophet
		
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			and had personal parallels to the story, you
		
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			will not see it so just understand that
		
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			this is your test. Understand you don't have
		
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			to figure it out because you're not really
		
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			trusting Allah also if you figure it out.
		
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			Oh, it's making sense to me. Okay. No.
		
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			Trusting means I'm going in blind.
		
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			I'm not allowed to have the exam answers
		
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			in the middle of the exam.
		
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			That's or else where is the wisdom in
		
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			that? So there's a wisdom on why evil
		
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			exists
		
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			and that wisdom
		
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			must be kept from us,
		
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			at least the details,
		
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			even if we've been given,
		
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			due to our impatience, some general wisdoms of
		
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			why evil's gotta exist. Right? And so that
		
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			all of that helps you sustain
		
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			where you need to be, the balance of
		
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			compassion and sort of commitment to the cause.
		
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			And at the same time,
		
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			stay productive. Stay productive, you know, not despair.
		
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			Abu Razeen and I'll end here. Abu Razeen
		
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			radiAllahu anhu he narrates that the Prophet Sallallahu
		
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			Alaihi Wasallam said,
		
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			Allah laughs from
		
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			the
		
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			despairing of His servants while His change, him
		
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			bringing about change, meaning for the better, is
		
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			so close at hand. So he said, yeah,
		
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			Rasool Allah, our Lord laughs.
		
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			He said yes.
		
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			So he got it. He got the message.
		
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			And we're not supposed to pry into, like,
		
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			what the laughing is about. It's about why
		
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			we're being told he laughs. So he left
		
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			the part you can't understand because God is
		
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			beyond our imagination. He transcends
		
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			and he got the whole idea of
		
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			why are you telling me he laughs so
		
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			that I become optimistic.
		
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			I don't despair. And so he said in
		
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			conclusion,
		
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			yes, he laughs. So Aburazin responded, we will
		
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			never lose hope in a Lord that laughs.
		
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			How do you believe communities, including
		
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			I mean, religious communities, of course, can better
		
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			support individuals, you know, that are navigating through
		
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			that depression? How can we teach people that
		
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			it's not about,
		
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			you know, paying attention to what the societal
		
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			factors are and whatnot like that? And how
		
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			can we teach them what you told me?
		
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			How it's like you just you have
		
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			to find a purpose. How how can we
		
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			teach them that? But in a in a
		
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			way that they will understand us, you know.
		
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			Because some some of the young people now
		
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			are are gonna be, like, yeah. Okay. I
		
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			have to find a purpose, but how how
		
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			do I do that?
		
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			Step 1, you to commit shit needs to
		
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			start a podcast.
		
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			Step 2, I mean, there's nothing more powerful
		
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			than walking the talk, right? You know, that
		
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			whole idea of actions speak louder than words,
		
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			or as someone sort of put a spin
		
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			on it, they said, I can't hear you.
		
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			Your actions are too loud.
		
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			And so modeling like, I know a brother
		
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			from the US army
		
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			who became Muslim
		
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			because the the Afghani man, this was in
		
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			the war in Afghanistan,
		
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			on the ground over there who, most likely
		
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			against his will, was forced into being
		
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			was forced into being like
		
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			a guide for the terrain, a terrain guide
		
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			and a translator to the locals. Right?
		
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			This US army soldier contacts me
		
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			to tell me to send a box of
		
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			Quran translations to his girlfriend
		
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			in some state here in the US to
		
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			give it out to all his friends and
		
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			neighbors because, like, he's becoming Muslim. And I
		
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			was like, what in the world? You went
		
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			over there to do it. Like, someone explained
		
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			this to me. He said just watching this
		
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			guy,
		
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			the tranquility he has, the inner peace he
		
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			enjoys.
		
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			And I'm just like, why are you so
		
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			calm? We're here to kill you people, destroy
		
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			your country. We've invaded your nation. He said,
		
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			I'm only responsible for what's in my hands.
		
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			I'm not responsible for what he didn't give
		
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			me control over.
		
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			He said, watching him pray and seeing his
		
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			serenity, and it just I knew he had
		
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			something different. And so showing people. So number
		
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			1, talking about it. I wasn't fully joking
		
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			about the podcast issue, but, like, talking about
		
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			this. Right? People notice what they're missing.
		
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			They actually can notice it far more than
		
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			you may think. We take things for granted
		
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			as Muslims a lot of times. Right? So
		
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			talking about it, conveying, conveying, conveying.
		
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			And then modeling it for people is and
		
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			then also for the fellow Muslims, it's not
		
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			like we're talking to to non Muslims. The
		
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			Muslims benefit from this all the time. And
		
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			also the social component is important.
		
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			Being a misfit in society, being a scattered
		
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			1% talking to the Muslims,
		
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			the age of materialism also will never fulfill
		
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			the spirit, and
		
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			so we have to be there for each
		
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			other now more than ever. We don't know,
		
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			as, you know, our teachers say, when someone
		
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			walks through the door what they're going through,
		
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			it's probably something they're going through that's bringing
		
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			them through the door to begin with. Right?
		
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			Because people come back to God when they're
		
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			when they're stuck or when they recognize just
		
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			how stuck they are. And when Allah
		
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			says, Allah is the one who supported you
		
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			with His
		
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			victory
		
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			and with the believers. That's profound
		
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			because Allah's victory is always enough.
		
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			So why single out the believers as if,
		
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			like, no, they're not completing each other. He's
		
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			saying that of the ways he gave you
		
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			victory that he singles out just for your
		
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			attention is through the believers.
		
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			Not that, you know, the believers aren't replaceable,
		
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			but about this is what I chose to
		
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			be the mechanism through which I make the
		
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			the moral fortitude and the emotional stability
		
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			of the believers
		
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			for each other. They are each other's dua.
		
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			They are the acceptance of each other's prayers.
		
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			They are each other's rocks.
		
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			May we be that and help anchor the
		
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			Muslims and non Muslims that are looking for
		
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			for it. And
		
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			forgive us, for the times we fall short.
		
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