Mohammad Elshinawy – Best of Stories – Study of Surat Yusuf 05
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Hola hamdu lillah wa salatu salam ala Rasulillah Allah Allah He was a heavy drain we begin the name of Allah All Praise and Glory be to Allah and Maine's finest peace and blessings be upon His messenger Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam and his family in his companions, and all those who tried his path.
We welcome everyone back to another episode of the rest of stories. We continue with the next scene in the story of use of Alehissalaam when they approach their father, to try to launch their plot against their brother use of Allah he said, in the very, in the very first verse, Allah subhanho wa Taala says, and this is the 11th verse of the surah Paulo yeah BANA they said Oh, our dear father, ma la que la tatman Allah use of why is it that you do not trust us with use of
we're in LA who la now see Hone, and we are certainly sincere counselors or sincere towards him.
And so,
you know, just the way they start
a suspicious and because challenging an allegation, this is an important lesson for everyone that doesn't know this, you should know this, that challenging and out an allegation before that allegation is made many times serves to legitimize or substantiate the allegation.
So were a child for example, to swear or, or just yell out out of nowhere, that No, I didn't eat the chocolate in the cupboard. Before anyone ever asked him where did the chocolate go, or anyone ever accused him of stealing the chocolate in the cupboard?
This would grow draw great suspicion around that child if we were in a masjid. And someone asks a large crowd of people who stole my shoes, and one person out of nowhere gets up and says, I didn't steal them. It's like, whoa, who said you steal them. So when someone denies an allegation before the allegation is squarely pointed at them.
This obviously is very telling sometimes.
Not all the time, because sometimes you may think that a person is accusing you, and just trying to be cordial about it. So they're like blanket accusing or blanket asking.
But lots of times people because of their guilt, they are hasty in denying the applicant allegation before anyone is even suspecting them. And as a result, they draw suspicion on themselves, like their brothers of use of here. And so
it betrays them, it betrays their cover up betrays their cover story. Children do this all the time. And parents know this, and they know this more than their kids realize that they know this parents
know, in the look in their kid's eyes, they know in the, in the words their kid chooses to say and when they say them, that they're not being honest.
And then kids don't find out their parents are, you know, overlooking this or, you know,
they're on to them until those kids become parents, or teenagers or whatnot. But adults, adults as well, a prudent adult should make use of this of this, like, alarm or this caution sign of a person denying an allegation. You know, you want to be treacherous. So you start talking about honesty, right? You want to be you know, deviant and so you start talking about, you know, guidance.
So, that is certainly a lesson. Then they said, Why don't you trust us with use of
we're in hola hola. Nasi Hoon and we are people that extend and I'll see how to him now see, one means we exhibit Naziha now see how many people think is advice and I'll see how it's not advice. Sometimes we use it as advice and it's fine to use it as advice. But
you know Naziha is really about Goodwill when the Prophet SAW Selim says do not see how this deen is about not see her it's about having like a clear heart and having goodwill towards others. That's what it's you know about, you know, a honey that's been cleared of all you know, extraneous elements like twigs and the wax and everything they say now slide to Lhasa that I said the honey has undergone and I'll see her.
You know, when you finish doing patchwork on clothes, like you sew up the ripped areas, you say? No sorry to help. Even the sewing needle itself is called them in so high in Arabic because it's what fixes things. Right? And so now see how it's really not. It's about you wanting to fix someone, right? It's you wanting well for someone. And so it's really about the place where advice comes from that's the connection between Nancy Hi goodwill and advice and
And the reason I say that is because if you feel this is proven also here by this verse, right? He's saying, we have goodwill towards our brother, why are you questioning our goodwill towards our brother? How can you doubt us? That's obviously them exposing themselves in any case.
So when you extend that to advice, we can take a lesson from here that the word no See how it's not really about advice. It's about where advice comes from. And if the advice comes from the right place, it'll come out in the right way. If advice comes from the right place, it'll come out the right way. If you're just trying to shame someone, it'll show in the way you're speaking to them. And if you actually are trying to get past someone's defenses to try to actually get them to benefit from the advice, it'll come out a certain way, you'll treat them the way you would like to be treated, you'd approach them the way you want to be approached. And so remember that and I'll see
how is about a state that you're in towards another person. That's why they said, Wayne Allah, Who, then I'll see you soon. And subhanAllah you know, the saying, saying to someone where we are sincere towards you,
is a red flag. Especially when it's out of the blue, like we said, it's exactly what shaytaan said to our father, as a mother. He said him and his wife However, Allah has set up, he said to him, listen to me eat from this tree. It's an awesome tree. We're in need I call Matt. I mean, I'm also here and I am sincere. And also, you know, I'm really sincere towards the both of you. It's an important understanding of the reality of anesthesia. I still have goodwill towards people and we take it or have what we cite as evidence for that. Is this verse that they're saying? Why don't you trust us when we have no Seehofer use of obviously it's not talking about advice, right,
instructional advice, speaking about how they feel towards him.
Then the next verse goes on to say that they said out of sin whom I never then send him with us tomorrow, why not attack when a lab when in law who will have half your bone
to not attack means to eat meaning a picnic, right? They're gonna go eat out in you know, in an open space somewhere, recreate one, lab and play. We're in Hola, hola half alone, and we will certainly be competent guardians for him will be his guardians. And so this
this is something that you must realize came off to us or I call by the his salaam as another red flag. Like,
he's not just they're not just asking him, why do you not trust us with use of in general? Now they're
taking it a step further and saying, now trust us, like we are challenging you to, you know, prove to us that you trust us.
And so they're guilting him here.
And they're saying, we're gonna take them out, we're gonna be so nice. We're gonna play we're gonna go by Sam knows, knows they don't like him. They don't,
you know, enjoy playing with him. They don't this is when you find sudden niceness. From someone who's so nasty to you. It is permissible to be cautious. It is permissible to be, you know, a bit weary about that. That's not wrong because having bad assumptions of people is haram is unlawful in Islam when it's baseless, right, when you entertain thoughts that shaitan casts into your mind without enough substantiation. But yeah, hold on a second no so much. And so he would be wrong to not be suspicious, like to not follow his gut on this.
And also, some scholars said, notice that they piled on the list. You don't trust us, we're going to and we're going to be eating and we're going to be playing they said like they could have just said you know, can use have come on a picnic with us. The fact that they came off so forcefully
was also telling of their weak position. Even just the word playing like you could have just said we're going on a picnic to eat. Forget the whole trust issue picnic, but why do you have to list out the things you're going to do during your day? Some scholar said maybe it is because they felt what you felt that you know this is not good enough for me to actually believe you want to go feed him somewhere.
And and that is something that
we should be aware of, even in like in the in the intellectual realm, when we're providing justifications for Islam even don't pile on all your evidence is at once because when you pile on all evidences,
some evidence is stronger than others. And so you reaching for so many evidences could actually weaken your argument someone all they can remember is your weak evidence. They'll forget the strong evidence. And so piling on evidence is a sign of weakness sometimes, like you, you look desperate you'll ever hear something to prove. They actually had something to prove and they knew that they will look suspicious and so they were saying this, let them come. He can eat
It's as if they're saying, not eat, how about play, he can play as well, like they're just looking for something.
And of the lessons in this verse actually, the scholars mentioned this verses of the proofs that it's not haram to play. I mean, sometimes people may
say this is a given, but it's not necessarily a given. Because being Muslim means submitting your life to God. That means every moment of your 24 hours belongs to God. And so a Muslim technically needs to look for permission from God to do what they want with their life, right, like exceptions to the rule. Right? Am I allowed to do a little bit for me? And the beauty of our deen is that Allah encourages you to do quite a bit for yourself, so that you can continue finding the stamina to fulfill your primary role, which is the worship of Him, right, serving Him and serving Him through serving his creation, all of the dried the wide meaning of worship. But the idea is that racing and
playing and recreating and rejuvenating yourself, this is
something that is necessary. The Islam recognizes our humaneness and makes us the best human beings by not being idealistic and asking of us, what should be asked of angels, not humans, right? And so if someone says Allah said, I only created the human there and the jinn to worship Me, to serve me, we're going to say yes, and even the prophets allowed their children to play and even the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam at times, returning from serving Allah on the battlefield, raised with his wife, Aisha, about the Allah to Allah Anna. And this is extremely important. You know, I leave Nebuta that and others but the most famous narration is from Ali Radi Allahu Anhu.
He said that,
you know, I, I give my children a chance to like, you know, r&r, right rest and relaxation. Because these hearts, if they're like, overwhelmed, they become blind, like, they just I don't like they rebel, you just you have to, you know, balance.
The fact that you are not created for play, absolutely, I should never, like compromise the primary objective, but you are allowed to play so that you can better serve, of course, hello, play the reason for what you created Hallel play and not at the sake of everything else. I mean, if you think about
just to point this out, because we're talking about the ruling on playing games, or racing or sports or whatnot, the difference between you playing games I'm not saying when it's hot, I don't when it's hot, but you need to recognize there is a huge difference in a far greater likelihood for haram. In you being a
spectator of sports, as opposed to being a participant, you know, a competitor in sports. I mean, playing soccer, for example, is an awesome thing. You know, the health of their body the the the distressing, the all of these things, right? The camaraderie, the Brotherhood, all that combined is awesome. But what happens think of like the the extreme radical fanatic loyalties to sports teams, like even in the Muslim world, like you think of the soccer teams and how they waste people's time, waste people's wealth, right? They rip apart the seams of unity based on you know,
the sports club versus that sports club is it rips apart the seams of unity in this OMA So, playing necessary.
But that is very different from spectating and spectating. Even when it's going to be highlighted we need to be vigilant of the great haram it could lead to or the wasted opportunities at the very least it usually leads to so yeah whole by the incident response. What does he say in response kata in Nila Zuni and deadhead will be he will have one yet Kula who want to man hold off, you don't. He says, It saddens me that you should take him.
He just i He's very protective of use of Ali's Salam. And he knows that they're jealous of this. But he just
the fear of them winning this argument perhaps caused him to say it again.
It caused him to say it again. I don't want you to take him and then he said, It saddens me that he that I be separated from him even like for a few hours. Then he says something even more, you know, interesting, and I fear that the wolf eats him like how unlikely is that that a wolf is going to eat someone at a picnic. But that's how protective and loving he was that his his mind drifts to those places out of just sheer compassion and love and affection for use of racism.
And you know, a lesson here they've not sure Rahim a whole lot points out about being good to your parents, which is just really nice. He says
him saying it saddens me. If you're a good child, it's supposed to be enough. Because being dutiful to your parents does not just mean obeying their orders. It means avoiding their sadness, even if they didn't order you to do X, Y and Z. There's a big difference, right? When he says, It saddens me, that should be the end of the story.
The same way, if your parents order you to go clean your room, just I don't know, the typical right parenting example, go clean your room.
It is enough enough that you go clean your room. But you know that you need to go clean your room, but also not give your parents that look, that hurts their heart as you're walking off to clean your room. And that's part of it right? Or another scenario. And even if your parent tells you no, you go ahead and do X, Y and Z, right? He's telling you because for you, but they know that they don't, you know, like this very much. The sensitive child, the dutiful child that's prioritizing the feelings of the parents will not do it unless they have to that which their parents permitted. They will not do it unless they have to. Sometimes you have to.
But they will not. And so that's just a good point about the fact that he said it saddens me, I should have been enough. And then he said, I fear that the wolf will eat him. That
unlikely event of a wolf eating one of 10 or one of 11 people, or one of 12 people in a picnic
was so unrealistic, that the brothers saw that it's perfect thing to act on, you know, he's haunted by this, you know, imagine a, you know, imagine it's a fear, or this unlikely it's not imaginative, right? It's unlikely.
And so
they said it's perfect opportunity. We're going to use that as our story. Once we do it, we're going to do so there's a great lesson here. The lesson is trying not to volunteer information to people that they can later weapon that weaponize against you.
That's very common.
You know, sometimes newlyweds, they make a very big mistake and that like when they're all in that, you know, lovey dovey phase in the beginning, when they're there, they're being very utopian and unrealistic. What did they do? In the spirit of transparency in the spirit of honesty, these naive newlyweds, they share the most shameful
moments of their past, which is haram. By the way, Allah loves to conceal and so when he conceals you, you're not supposed to expose yourself even if someone were to ask, you're not supposed to say it. By the way, this is just a rule of thumb. There may be exceptions, but that is a rule of thumb you're not allowed to not even just can you lie, you're not allowed to expose yourself after Allah is concealed you. So you'd be obligated to lie, because Allah wants you to protect your dignity. And because people don't forget the way Allah azza wa jal forgives and forgets not in absent minded sense but forgets, as in berries, tucks away, your your past. And so newlyweds sometimes in the
spirit of you know, like, just trust and you know, and all that stuff, they open up to every aspect of their past, no matter how shameful to their partner.
And then they regret it soon enough, they realize that people are not like Allah, people don't just, you know, forget things. And many people will condemn you for your past, in a moment's notice, if they feel like the opportunity calls for it, or the need calls for it. And so they'll bring up your past in the again, and so don't give people the sword by which they will attack you. That's extremely important.
And so but yeah, for ballet Salam did when he said this in a moment of, you know, emotive expression, and he wished he could have retracted those statements because even the prophets have statements in their lives, they wish they could retract. And that is what is so amazing about the Quran that every single word of the Quran never needed to be retracted. It was said spontaneously engaging there questions of the audience, Muslim and non Muslim said to friend and foe, you know, addressing newly emerging events, and it never needed to be retracted for quality control. Even the prophets, right, were human. But the Quran is so special. You know, even the verses by the way of
nessa the verses that are abrogated, like their verses still there, but the ruling no longer applies. Even those are deliberate. They're not like, oh, that verse could go no, there's still a use for it being there, though it is not to be acted upon. There's great wisdom so nessa to abrogation, you know of them for examples for Allah to showcase Subhana wa taala. The willingness of the believer to submit, like Allah,
legislating on Ibraheem Alehissalaam to slaughter his son, and then repealing that rule, canceling that rule once the willing
NISS was shown that is a great wisdom, right? Or at times Allah putting an initial duty on us and then repealing it, to reward us for our willingness or to show us his clemency, that he reduced the load but kept the reward at the original initial
mark this, these are all of the benefits. So even the verses that would be repealed in application are still deliberate. The Quran not a letter of it needs to be retracted. But the prophets even the prophets wanted to attract some of their words.
Finally, about this verse
Jacoba, he sat down was very wise in saying at the end of this, like, I don't want to separate from you. So if, and I'm afraid, and the wolf might eat him while you are unaware. All right, while you are unaware, he did not deepen the resentment of his kids towards use of by saying that you would ever do this deliberately. He kind of covered it up by saying, if this were to happen, it would happen, you know, by a totally innocent mistake from you guys.
And that's why it's parenting. And that's why he's mentoring in general, because every one has people have their inborn nature, for sure. It is like its nature and nurture. People have their inborn nature, but the way they see the world seeing them will nurture the way they become, right. And so if he says, You guys can't be trusted, and they're going to grow up, or they're going to fit the mold, they're gonna say, okay, like I said, we can't be trusted. That's right. We can't be trusted. We are treacherous folk. And, you know, do you see this sometimes in certain sectors of society as well that people become the way society looks at them? You say, You're a no, I'm a
nobody. I'll start feeling like I'm a nobody. I also act like I'm a nobody. If someone were to say, you know, this person is a thief. And no matter how hard he tries, he can't shake off that perception of people that I'm a thief, then you know, what, if I'm a thief, either way, you might as well start stealing because either way, I'm getting the bad rap for, even though I'm gonna have I'm paying for the consequences for something I'm not doing so I might as well do it. So him covering up that he perceives them as
not trustworthy, treacherous, they weren't treacherous, but he did not want to feed that further by saying, you cannot be trusted.
And so in the end, they said, Listen, if the wolf eats him, we must be really losers like who gets eaten at a picnic and who gets eaten at a picnic surrounded by one else but when we're a strong group, strong bunch of, of 10 men.
And so he was stuck. Either he's Salem, cornered by them guilted by them?
Because he didn't have a response and sometimes you not having a response.
is, you know, what's the word?
It's always intended by Allah azza wa jal, but to bring about something something had to happen. Yeah. Jacoba SLM had to lose use of for the story to continue for the other wisdoms to actualize and so his inability to protect his son here, he is just you trust us or not. So he had to at the end of the day, let them go with use of or say I don't trust you with USF and further rile them up against the use of it was a lose lose, right. But it had to happen. And so he buckled to the pressure and hoped for the best.
And use of La Sam went off with them.
Under the promise that they will be protected, like if we're 10 men, we would be losers to let our youngest brother get eaten by a wolf. And maybe that's a final lesson that's equally important that people are not the principles they announced as we all know this, but we constantly need to be reminded about this. You know, they say we will be losers if we did away with our brother let our brother get hurt. But just because they're saying we recognize we would be losers, doesn't mean they're actually willing to live up to that.
They are willing not just to let him be eaten by a wolf. They are wolves in sheep's clothing they are about to betray their brother. And so many times people say a word of truth, which is a principle declare it but they intend by it or they intend to use it for evil means just like
you know, I live in Avatar that brought the Allah one when the holiday to the rebels arose in his time. They would stand up after prayer and cause commotion in the masjid.
And keep saying any hook mortadella any hook more than that Allah, that rulership is only for Allah rulership is only for Allah, meaning you You are wrong. You've associated partners with God by you know, you know, basically admitting manmade laws and, of course, baseless accusation, but that was the accusation and they're saying you've this is only for God to to make laws, not you.
And so I leave now with all of his risk.
wants to them
was always Kelly meant to have been a reader we have outlet that is a word of truth
by which evil or falsehood was sought. A sought like you're saying a true word, but you're using it for false means for false ends.
And so that same thing here just because someone is announcing a certain principle that principle may be true, it doesn't mean that you're using it in a way that
I have to concede to, I have to concede to but the the Command of Allah has to come to pass and we have to move on now to the next scene of the story. Does that go off later on Don't forget your Friday night DUA and especially the locals that are with us from Allentown please remember the Jamar donations to help the masjid running full steam BarakAllahu li Walakum Salaam Alaykum Warahmatullahi Wabarakatuh panic Aloha make sure to Allah Allah Allah and stuff we're going to be like Santa Monica