Mohammad Ali Hazratji – Zahra & Umair Nikah 82215
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Shala we are here for a very special occasion
of our beloved daughter and sister Zahara with Ahmed
and we
pray, hopes that Allah subhanaw taala was less this marriage with
his acceptance and put love and mercy between them
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we praise and
do homage to Allah subhanaw taala as DEVAR as is befitting his
divine glory and majesty.
And
we send peace and blessings on his messenger Rasulullah sallallahu
alayhi wa sallam
And we bear witness that there is no one worthy of worship
and we bear witness that Prophet Muhammad Sallallahu Sallam is his
slave servant and messenger.
Allah subhanaw taala
has
reminded us in these Iots, that the foundation of everything that
is good and worthwhile is Taqwa of Allah subhanaw taala which is
consciousness of Allah subhanaw taala in all times, and this is
also a foundational principle of all marriages, that we should
always be aware that Allah subhanaw taala is watching.
So I first remind you, all of you, and especially our groom and
bride,
that you are answerable to Allah subhanaw taala. And remember that
today and remember that always, that is why we start with the IRS
of Taqwa.
Allah subhanaw. Taala is the one who has created you. He is the one
who has brought you together, didn't know each other. He is the
one who is supposed to love and acceptance and Rama between you
and your hearts. And he is the one who has intended for you to
establish the core of human society which is the family.
So the institution of the marriage is that foundational relationship
on which all society is built.
And Allah subhanaw taala is the one who going forward will put
fulfillment in your marriage, love, peace, compassion, and
serenity, and comfort and hope.
So first, I will remind you of the hook of Allah subhanaw taala his
rights upon you.
And that, as you know, is to worship Allah subhanaw taala as he
deserves to be worshipped, and that is the purpose of your
creation.
And as you all know, besides saying that we believe in Him, we
confirm that by our actions, which is the five Salawat on their times
every day, that giving up the cat, the fasting of Ramadan, and the
performance of hajj.
And we should remember to always be mindful of him, to always
remember him and be conscious of him. If you remember him, he will
remember you in the times of your difficulty.
And you'll be grateful to him at all times, and he will increase
you in His blessings to you.
So first and foremost, you must safeguard and for
protect the rights of Allah subhanaw taala and if you do that
He will protect you with safeguard his deen and you will always find
him when you need him in front of you. If you ask us only from him,
if you seek help seek only his help. And remember as the Prophet
salallahu alayhi salam teaches us that if all of the creation all of
mankind and Jean guys got together and wanted to harm you, they
cannot harm you except that which Allah has permitted. And if they
all wanted to benefit you, they cannot benefit you except that
which Allah subhanaw taala has permitted and allowed and that the
pens of Destiny have been lifted and the scrolls have dried.
Remember that nothing in this Deen of Islam is irrational, even if
you don't understand the wisdom of Allah subhanaw taala behind any of
his commandments, so humble yourself before Allah subhanaw
taala and His Messenger whatever the command, you say we listen and
we
learn together your deen practice, you can help each other to
practice what you learn and compete with each other in the
obedience of others
and help each other in the obedience of Allah subhanaw taala
and his messenger with wisdom with kindness with gentleness and
compassion.
Now the Nuka This wedding is a form of ABA in our brain. It's a
form of IBA it is a sunnah because the prophets of the largest Salam
said and Nico sunnah Nica is my son and whoever turns away from
this lace I mean, he is not from me.
Okay? And in some circumstances and Nica is actually wider.
But we'll take it as this and the Prophet salallahu Alaihe Salam has
called it as half of his deen the completion of the deen
and just remember that your spouse is a Nam is a blessing from Allah
subhanaw taala. So you should show gratitude to him by treating his
blessing with special in a special way. And you show thankfulness to
Allah subhanaw taala as Ali Radi Allahu Anhu said in explaining the
Iraq Bernard benefit, dunya Hassan, he said, Robin had an
affair dunya Huseynov the good of this world is the righteous
spouse, righteous wife, there's nothing better than this. And
there are many Hadith of the Prophet salallahu Alaihe salam to
say that in this dunya everything of this dunya the best of that is
to have a righteous a good virtuous spouse.
Now, Allah subhanaw taala from day one created everything in pairs.
And Allah is unique that he is with entrepreneur, he is by
himself. Everything else is in pairs, including the human beings.
So the first pair, this is how our society started last month, Allah
has made us in need of companionship, we need to live
together, human beings cannot live in isolation, we need each other.
And the need of that society, the first unit of that is the family
and the family is the husband and wife, not the parents and and the
children. Because the foundational relationship is the man and the
woman and all of the relationship whether it's your children,
whether it's the parents come as a branch of that relationship. So
Allah subhanaw taala, created other Melissa and from him Hawa.
And from them everyone else, every relationship first they were
husband and wife, then there were parents, then they were father in
law and mother in law, then they were grandfathers that is the
first relationship. And for all of us who live long enough, that is
the last relationship. Why is that? Because when your children
grow up and move away who is left in the house? No one hasn't been
in the old why that's the last and how strong is this relationship
that this is the main relationship that continues in Jannah Allah
subhanaw taala says if you and your spouse are righteous, even in
Jannah you will be together. So this is the importance of this
relationship.
So we must remember that this
just this subset when Yardi are your Krishna Hara, yeah, me or
Viola.
Know Allah subhanaw taala has is the source of all happiness and
all happiness, all peace also can tranquility contentment that Allah
has put in this dunya is through the integrity of this
relationship. If this relationship does not work, no matter what you
have, you will not be happy.
And you cannot live in isolation. So you look in the western world
Old. When you have all material wealth and old technology, there
is a lot of unhappiness. And that's why the suicide rates are
so high, especially if you look in Europe and if you ask them, What
is the reason, loneliness, because that relationship doesn't exist
between the husband and wife. The divorce rates are so high, the
lack of trust and all of that is a means that they cannot find peace
and tranquility. And that's why Allah subhanaw taala says, will
mean it and Haleakala coming, full circle massage and meta schooner,
Ilya, that it is from his eye Earth, this is a sign from Allah
subhanaw taala that he has created for you from within you from you
your spouse's and then he says so that you may live in tranquility
sukoon if you don't have sukoon, you don't have any. There cannot
be any happiness, what Jollibee in a coma, and he has put between you
love what Rama and mercy in Nephi Dalek and Ayatollah Khomeini at
the factory and this is for people who can reflect that this is a
sign of Allah has run through this you recognize Allah subhanaw taala
This is his one of his.
And therefore Allah subhanaw taala has defined this relationship in
hundreds of Iots in the
if you look for Salah, how to do Salah there are a few Iots all of
hygiene and a few Hyatts in one place in the circuit two three is
here and there. There are hundreds of IRS that deal with this
relationship of the fundamental foundation of family. They're
scattered in Surah, Baqarah and Nyssa is full of them ullmark Ada
so that the frame Surah no terracotta it's all over there are
hundreds of iPads to tell us the importance of this almost it is as
important as Salah.
So we must remember that.
And Allah smart Allah has beautifully described this
relationship as to what it should be when he says when none of us
should look over and don't leave us alone, that your wives is
telling the men are like your garments like your clothes.
And then he doesn't stop there, he said and you are their clothes.
And there are long explanations of justice I have what is this
relationship Allah subhanaw taala has given of clones, because one
it tells you that between you and your garment, there is no distance
we should be close to each other. Number two, what did the clothes
do they make you look more beautiful than each one should
make the spouse look more beautiful. Number two, they are
recognized by that you are recognized by applause number
three, they give you comfort, they give you protection, and they're
molded with you whichever way you turn your clothes moving that and
there are many many others that tell us that this is the relation
even I will tell you, your clothes smell of you. That's how you know
you can pick up something this smells like my wife this smells
like my daughter. This is how close this relationship is. This
is how Allah subhanaw taala has described. The capsule summary of
this whole relationship is two things in order. Mutombo tarball a
chance to look that you your words should be sweet and gentle, and
your treatment should be the best for each other.
The prophets of Allah Augustine themselves meaning of which is the
most complete amount of of yours is the ones who has the best of
luck and he said the best of you is the one who is best to his
spouse to his wife and a husband and he says I am the best to my
wife.
And then in his fair, he took this so important that on his on the
hospital whether he SallAllahu sallam said especially adding this
he said your wives treat them well. They are like your prisoners
they have been given in your control because that's the kind of
society it was, treat them well.
And on the other hand to tell the wives what is the right turn and
the rank of the husband. He said if in my something to the effect
if in my Sharia
such that was permitted to anyone it would be the size of the of the
wife to the husband is also to tell what is the root but what is
the rank of the husband?
Now after all of this, what does he do? Now for us the examples all
the prophets we have examples of the wives but nobody's details as
we have a possible
okay.
He's married to Aisha Viola on she was a young girl. She says other
young girls used to come and play
Doors with me and Rasulullah sallallahu Sallam used to come.
And they used to run away. Because they were scared. And he used to
go and gather find them and say, Come and play with him come and
play with.
He used to help. She didn't know how to cook, he used to help teach
her how to cook, till she learn, okay. And he would help with all
of his wives and household chores, if something needed to be cleaned,
he would some mess need to be picked up, he would pick it up, he
would mend his own clothes. So he was not demanding from his wives
that this is your job, telling us how to be gentle encouragement.
And he gave us an example. He said that the wives woman was made out
of the curved rib of the man. And if you said, if you try and
straighten it, it will break. What does it mean?
It means that Allah subhanaw taala has created the women in a
different way, and the man in a different a man thinks logically,
this is how it should be used as his brains and all. A woman
generally thinks emotionally,
emotion. So each has to be respectful of the other, that the
man say, well, this doesn't make sense, he should be sensitive,
that my wife thinks differently, she thinks with emotion and other
things. So we should remember that.
And Allah subhanaw taala has stressed the duties and
responsibilities of the spouse. One thing to remember that with
every duty and responsibility, if there is a violation, there will
be an effect of that on the relationship, even if we don't
know how, because each one of that is divinely inspired and
obligated. If Allah says this is your right, and this is your duty,
you follow it otherwise it will have an effect on your
relationship.
Now Allah subhanaw taala has made one of the main obligation of the
husband is to provide for the wife to take care of her needs to give
her a place to live to provide for her food for her clothes in a
decent living according to the standards that she has. Now,
today, the teaching is that the women should have their own work,
they should be independent.
But if she wants she may work, but what is the beauty and wisdom of
this, that when the husband takes care of the wife, the wife
appreciates it and it brings that I looked at attachment that my
wife, my husband is sacrificing to do this, it brings you closer as
opposed to what I have, I can do my own thing you do your own. This
is what we teach when we tell people to independent.
And the wife, the main thing is, she should be obedient to her
husband. Of course, if the husband is asking her to do something
wrong, that is different. But listening to what the husband says
after you get married takes precedence over what your mother
and father say.
Okay, that is the rank of the husband. And she should guard her
chastity and her household and beautify herself for her husband
and not invite or entertain anybody in her home that the
husband would not be happy with.
Allah subhanaw taala messenger has given a very easy formula for a
woman to enter gender.
He says a woman who guards her chastity protects herself, who
prays five times a day and fulfills the right of her husband
can enter Jannah through any of its fight or any of it, it gets
easy for them. Five salons represents the Akufo of Allah
subhanaw taala and those two things, and this is what it should
be. So remember, to treat each other with kindness and love and
gentleness and protect the sanctity of your family and your
home and be good examples for each.
If you focus on your obligations, your duties and not focus on your
rights, you will do very well.
If you focus on your responsibility, what I need to do,
as opposed to what my husband or wife should do for me, then you
will be
just remember that so this is a fundamental formula of happiness.
Allah subhanaw taala has mentioned this for addressing the husbands
the men and he says
why should we not build ma roofing for incorrect to Hoonah certainly
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and live with your with your wives in the best manner. Because if you
see something that you dislike in because nobody's perfect, you're
not going to get
100% score on any spouse nobody will Allah has not made it like
that. Okay 100% Perfection is an unrealistic goal even to pass any
examine the dunya you're not expected in India, Pakistan 33%
Your pass, okay?
Even on the Day of Judgment 100% is not required. Allah subhanaw
taala says
the whoever scale is heavier
51% Pass. So don't expect 100% perfection because you will be
disappointed. So Allah subhanaw taala says if you see a fault,
don't let that one fault make you forget and wipe out all of our
virtues. Because if Allah has put one fault, maybe Allah will put a
lot of faith in her for you. You don't know. So keep that in mind.
And just remember that the our journey of of married life is a
road in like, it's like road 391 full of potholes and it's bumpy.
Your life is not going to be smooth. It's going to be bumpy.
This is the tests that come and there will always be
fights and disagreements. And why does this happen? It's from the
best
Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi salam goes and visits Fatima out of the
hola Ana and finds in distress Fatima where is it?
Oh, he's not here. He didn't spend the night yeah, what happened? We
had a fight.
Where is the reason someone find where Elisa is sleeping in the
masjid.
So rasool Allah Allah Allah Allah Islam, the father of the bride
himself, no pride, I am Rasul Allah. He goes, he finds
Illuminati Alana sleeping is government it come down dusk was
on himself. He pokes him like this with this foot, say yeah, about
Torah. This is the title, how he got his poor father of dusk
because it was just and this was a loving title for stand up.
And then he doesn't ask him anything. So come with me. He
doesn't say did you have a fight with Fatima?
When he goes to her home?
Then he doesn't ask, what is your complaint? What is your this is
how we go between people. And that makes things worse. Guess what he
does? After a while he lies down. And he says Ollie, you can lie
down next to me on his rights. And it's a Fatima you can lie down on
my left side. When he takes the hand of it and puts it on his
belly like this. He takes the fat handle Fatima puts it on top, puts
his hand on top and said Ali say that I have forget forgiven and we
have made peace Fatima. So at least there's a Fatima who said
the same thing. That's it philosophy comes out. He's looking
very happy people in the monastery You look so happy said I just made
peace between
means this will happen now forget about that go to his own
household. What are the disagreements? What did he say?
Yes, there were. You said your Ayesha
I know when you are unhappy with me.
How do you know that? So when you are unhappy with me, you always
swear by Rob of Abraham by the Lord of Abraham. And when you are
happy with me, you say by the love of Muhammad, so I know you're
happy with.
So these things will happen one time Rasulullah sallallahu sallam
was upset with all of his wife for one month, he stayed alone. Yet he
did not go and scream and yell and fight. Okay.
This is there will be those things and we have to understand that. We
cannot use harsh words. The most important thing the biggest advice
that you can take from all of today is be very careful of the
tongue.
Just remember that hadith of Monrovia Radi Allahu allah
sallallahu Sallam held on, he said, You want to know what is
behind everything you're holding, and everything is your tongue,
what you say because the words that you say, when you're angry
when you're upset, then that injury never goes.
So be very careful, especially when you're upset in any of the
words you say. And be gentle with those words.
And the solution for that Allah subhanaw taala tells the Prophet
salallahu Alaihe, Salam.
Prophet sallallahu alayhi salam could take a lot of difficulties
from people, you know, a lot of hardship and harshness, and Allah
subhanaw taala. Even when he was stoned, you said you know he used
to worry you said
well, now Allah Anika de PUE saga saga
Beymer taco and ALLAH SubhanA and says, and we know that what
constricts your heart and his wisdom
Most expanded of hearts that what hurts you the most is what they
say the words.
And then Allah smart Allah gives the formula if you get hurt like
that, what does he say, for Sofia hum that have become a communist
surgeon in that go and Dhikr of Allah subhanaw taala and do his
his Ibadah and worship, that if something like that should happen,
bear it if somebody's saying wrong, we indicative Allah
subhanaw taala. And if you yourself, have said something
wrong, ask Allah Subhana Allah and ask your spouse for forgiveness.
And like I said, show gratitude and thankfulness to your spouses,
for little acts of kindness like we thank everybody outside when
somebody brings you a glass of water, thank you, but when our
wives and bring them we don't say anything. So respond to them.
Because this winds the hardship and spend time with each other.
It's very, very important, especially in a country like this,
that you spend time with each other. So that and pay attention
to each other because our wives always complain that you don't pay
attention to that you may learn you may know what the person likes
what they dislike.
And then we try and do the things that please our spouse and stay
away from what we don't. And we conduct our affair with Shura,
there is no dictatorship we should, we should do matura and
consult each other, and share with each other.
And
remember the station of your parents help each other and honor
each other's parents like your own. And don't make it a means of
differences that my father and my mother said this and your father
and your mother said that did this should never enter it into our
marriages.
And when last one Allah blesses you with children, find them good
names, pick good names for them, teach them the Book of Allah
subhanaw taala be good examples for them and lead by example.
And remember, to bring only that which is halal into your homes
from your earnings and from your provision and feed and eat only of
that which is halal. And remember, whatever Allah Samantha has
written for you will always come to you your risk is written and
you don't have to go out of your way
to achieve it, whether it's halal, halal or haram. And the
wealthiest, richest one is the one who is content with what Allah
subhanaw taala has written for them and be generous and help all
good causes. Choose your friends and companions carefully. Because
wherever you spend time with that's who you are identified with
and you become like that. And always work together to the fat to
the rope of Allah subhanaw taala to his book, the Quran and the
Sunnah of Rasulullah sallallahu Sallam and you will never go
astray. And our deen is wonderful moderation. So just be easy, don't
be too harsh. And whenever anything was permissible ALLAH
messenger sallallahu alayhi salam always chose the easier of the
two. So do that. So we ask Allah subhanaw taala to fill your life
with joy and grant you guidance throughout and make you steadfast
and
give you good health and peace and true happiness and prosperity in
grant us pleasure. May you always live together in tranquility and
love and respect and regard for each other? May he bring forth
some new generations of righteous children that enrich this world
with the goodness inshallah now we will conduct the Nica as you know
the Nikka is two parts there is an offering
and there is an acceptance.
So,
our bride today has appointed as her representative as her Joaquin,
her father, brother sister thought
who will make the offer to Ahmed
and
the matter has been agreed upon and we have our two witnesses
here.
So
inshallah
we'll make the offer that you essentially said that I have to
start Chaudhry acting as they were killed as my as the representative
of my daughters or children offer my daughter in Nikka to you aware
in accordance with the book of Allah subhanaw taala and following
the Sunnah of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi salam with the
man agreed upon between us.
hold each other's hands
for my daughter's daughter, Toby
Yuka
according to the book
So now someone
will
agree to
accept
you can say hi I say hi Where are you gonna accept your daughter is
in Nica
according to
the book of Allah
the Sunnah.
Last one Atala bless the two of them
last one until I joined them all goodness and may Allah subhanaw
taala bless your spouse for you and make you the best and
happiness. Well it's for you each other and for your families and
make this means a fair for the Muslim community
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