Mohamed Magid – Guarding Yourself Against Arrogance Beyond the Basics #06
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Our class today is about the,
the 2 important concept.
And if you think that you are too
far,
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me. I don't see any microphone here
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or not be able to,
raise my voice
more than I
do now.
Okay.
Today, we are discussing 2 important concept.
We'll call them 2 negative behaviors.
The behavior of being arrogant
called in Arabic
or
ajab. Have too much pride
that is not would would does not is
not company with humbleness.
Too much proud.
But
a person can be proud,
but proud with no humbleness
is a negative behavior.
For in this continuation
of the,
our series
of negative behavior,
we would like to address
tonight or this evening inshallah.
This 2,
habits
or behavior.
How do you know if a person is
arrogant?
What do you see in that person?
When you say so and so is arrogant,
what do you mean by that? What make
us say such a thing?
What make
us say
or believe
this person
is arrogant?
From your experience in life, you have not
Have you met any person in your life
who's arrogant?
Or do you think he's arrogant or she
is arrogant?
Never? Yes. I do.
You have?
What kind of criteria do you use? What
makes you think that person is arrogant?
A person think he's better than anybody.
A person think that they're better than everybody.
Everybody or everyone else. What else? Yeah. Actually,
dad What kind of behavior that a person
have to exhibit or show
that indicates
that this person is arrogant?
Yes. Does he care for other people?
He does not care about other people.
He's self centered or she's self centered.
What else?
Too much of something.
What'd you say?
Too much of education
or something. A person have too much education
is arrogant?
Could be.
I saw it.
Not could be. I want to say, what
make you think a person have higher education
or too much education.
There's not too much education by the way.
A person have a lot of education
that that person
become arrogant. Not necessarily, you can be the
most knowledgeable person and still humble. Maybe close
minded or intolerant
and they're they're,
you know, it's their way, no way, and
Yes.
Very much into their opinion. My opinion is
derived all the times. My way or the
highway?
My way or the highway, you hear that
expression?
That the person think too much of themselves,
they think nothing of others.
What else?
Good. Now we have started the class by
feeling from you or understanding
what you think of kibar is.
Now the word kibar in Arabic,
it came from the roots of this
kabbarah.
Okay? Or to enlarge
or to come to make something greater than
it is.
And also, kibra in Arabic means
perfection,
absolute perfection
and completion of things.
Now, if you take this
definition
of arrogance
and examine
it in the light of Islam,
then we come to understand that
the only time
we think about perfection,
when we think of what?
Of God, Allah.
The only time we think of perfection
is when we think of Allah.
And that's why
one of the name of Allah is
means it means the one who's have all
the perfection.
He's above his creation.
He cannot be one of his creation because
his creation are imperfect.
In order for him to be God, he
cannot be like like the creature.
There's a difference between the creator and the
creature.
Therefore, him, he has the perfection
or the perfection. Therefore, one aspect of this
meaning,
of this word
in Arabic,
it meant
perfection. That's why
the word
you cannot
say the word
in Arabic
translate word arrogant
because it's negative,
concept,
when you talk about god. When you lose
lose the word
you
have to say the one who most perfect.
God the most perfect.
Now
what the relation between the,
Allah name, the most perfect,
and kibara, which is the negative behavior.
The person who is arrogant,
he was
she,
they think they are perfect.
They think that they have it all,
and that's why put them become,
in that category of being arrogant,
because they want to assume
god attribute
by being perfect.
K?
Therefore, this one of the aspect of it.
The other concept of it was called in
Islamic terminology,
is that
the the characteristic
of the person who commit or
arrogance
is the person
that does not accept anything is right or
truth.
He he tell them this this is the
way it is. They say, no. No. No.
Rejecting the truth,
You know?
Demying
what is correct, what is right,
And also belittling people.
The 2 characteristic
of an arrogant person.
And
mean,
to reject, not to accept the truth
and to belittle people.
Those 2, when they get together in someone,
that person is called
arrogant
with a kab bill.
Okay?
Imam Ghazali rahaimullah said,
kibr or arrogant.
Being arrogant is
to think too much of yourself
more than who you are,
you
enlarge
you think of yourself greater than
than who you are.
And when a person think that they're above
all other people
and they act upon it,
They don't only think it, but they act
also upon it.
That's why racism
is arrogance
because a person,
he or she feels by being black, by
being white, by being,
you know, oriental or what other color,
whatever color a person might have, they think
because of their race
they're better than other people.
That is
the definition of arrogance
and that's why racism is a product
of being arrogant.
Any racist person is arrogant person.
What
a a racist person cannot
or a sexist person who think that woman
love and so forth, belittle in women, for
example,
it's more likely
men
There's some woman belittle men too, you know.
But most of the time,
it is the male and female thing.
When a person think law of someone because
of their gender
or because of their race,
that person
is
arrogant.
The other
thing Imam Ghazali
said
is
being arrogant is to believe
that you are special
because of who you are, by race
or by gender
or because of the position, the power you
have,
or the money,
and you think other people,
they don't,
been, elevated to your position.
When you look at them, if I have
more money than the others, I look to
the poor people and said, you know, I
cannot sit and eat with them. And that's
why there's so much people
people are really into status status.
He said, who's been invited to your your
party?
There is so and so and so and
so. I didn't know any one of those
people. I said, what do you mean by
you don't know anyone?
Because people, sometime,
they want to go to someone in their
status,
you know. And that's why sometimes,
I find people
we define people by class:
upper
class, middle class, and lower class. Why is
that?
Does Allah define people by class?
There's there's higher class in Allah's side and
middle class and a lower class?
What kind of category is this?
It's money, economy,
climate status.
Allah does not recognize, God does not recognize
money because he has it all.
Therefore, he
looked to people based on who they are
and their belief and their convictions,
moral conduct, and behavior.
But no color, no race, no bank account,
no physical attributes.
Beautiful, handsome,
it does not recognize that.
Therefore,
sometime
we feed
the system of being arrogant
by walking to a neighborhood, and I think
that I'm a upper middle class.
That itself that means there are other people
other than me that are lower class.
That by definition
it is,
you know, defining arrogance in in a systematic
way.
Therefore,
it is better
not to have to think of ourselves as
upper or lower or
middle.
Always think of us of ourselves
as a human being, as an ordinary person.
If it happened that you live in a
neighborhood, define that, that
being defined today as upper middle class,
you define your neighborhood by its name.
I live in Reston. I live in Herndon.
I I live in this Maclean, but in
upper middle class and lower middle class. We
should not go into that.
Another scholar says, arrogance
is the misunderstanding
of who you are.
Misconception.
It's general.
Says arrogant is a person misunderstand
who they are.
And placing it, placing self
above other people.
Misunderstanding
of oneself
and placing it above other people.
That define arrogance.
Why
they say that misunderstanding of oneself?
Because as a person claim perfection,
that person, he or she, did not didn't
know themselves.
And even in English literature,
there's a William Shakespeare says,
is it William Shakespeare, I think? So know
thy yourself. Get to know yourself.
You know?
And above that, of course, Allah said long
time before that, said Allah says in Quran
in in in
in a verse.
Allah says,
and your own self, don't you reflect in
your own self and see it.
See who you are.
What the effect of arrogance
in our human life, what it does to
us? What do you think arrogant does to
us when we become arrogant?
What the negative effect of arrogance in our
life? What it is? Do you know?
What what will happen when we become arrogant?
Yes? You don't like them on their heart.
They will not People
resent
people who are arrogant. Even they say, oh,
we like you. In their heart, they say,
oh, you are arrogant.
Yeah. You will not be able to win
the true love of people.
Always is artificial.
What else?
Arrogance,
a very destructive
form of behavior
that make a person who's good become bad.
Why I say that? A person will start
learning Islam,
become knowledgeable in Islam, and over a
sudden, he feel that he is he knows
it all. He knows all Islam.
The good deeds become bad deeds.
A person
worship Allah, stand up at night and pray
tahajjud, but next they says, you know, what
what do you know of Islam? What do
you know? I pray all night.
You know?
That is kind of showing off as part
of being arrogant. A person become too much
of themselves.
And also, when a person is arrogant,
does not accept he or she,
the opinion of others,
and does not listen to what is right.
Always reject a good advice.
Arrogant person, because of the ego.
He said, person, don't drive in this street.
You might have an accident because I just
came from there, the snow or something. He
said, who's this guy?
You know, telling me what to do, you
know.
I have more knowledge. I wanna listen to
this guy. Let me go by myself.
Or someone give you advice,
very valuable advice, says,
brother or sister, the way you're praying,
I think it's not the best way. I
think you need to do this and that.
You know what they say? Okay, okay, okay.
In their heart, a person is saying, who
this person to tell me how to pray?
I'm not gonna accept it. The ego make
a person reject what is right.
They're not listening to people because from whom
the advice came,
not because of the substance
of the advice,
but simply because it come from a person
they belittle, they look down to. And
that's why
the have you heard of the,
story
of the, the boy
that or the child,
you know,
telling the king
that you're naked. You don't have cloth. Have
you have a story of the the child
telling the king what the story is about,
sister? You remember the story?
What did you say? I said the kid
keeps telling the emperor that you don't have
any clothes, but the emperor doesn't believe him.
Yes. The emperor because the emperor said, I
want to wear a clothes
that no one wear.
And this man come and, I He said,
the only intelligent people will be able to
see this cloth.
You know? I'm gonna give you a nice
cloth and actually give him nothing.
And the emperor believe it until a boy
said what?
You're not wearing any clothes. You're not wearing
any clothes.
You know,
the
the arrogant person
will no one would dare to tell him
that you're wrong
because of how he or she will react.
People afraid,
worried. They say, the minute I'm gonna give
this advice, they're gonna scream and shout. The
minute I'm gonna give this advice, I'm gonna
lose their friendship. The minute I'm gonna advise,
they're gonna be tense. The minute I give
this advice, they say,
that that person is not gonna accept it.
They would leave them alone.
And that's why the arrogant person always
make a very big mistakes
because they're not listening to the people.
Also, when we're arrogant,
we fail to see our shortcoming
and no one will fail to see the
shortcoming will improve in any way.
Always that person
will be in the either go less, go
down, or be in the same status.
If I don't know how to pray well,
and every time somebody telling me
how to pray correctly, I reject it
because I think that I know too much.
I come from Sudan,
My father was a sheikh, blah blah blah,
and therefore, I'm not gonna accept anyone to
tell me. I will continue praying wrongly until
I die.
Am I correct?
If
I,
for example, abide in the spelling,
and I said I'm not gonna sit before
any teacher
to teach me anything
because I will not be I will not
accept it to be a student
of somebody.
I have always
to have people to listen to me but
I'm not gonna I will never get improved.
If a person
have a problem
in any skill buildings,
it's it's, you know, human skills
and do not accept people advice, that people
will start continue making mistakes.
And you see many people
reject
other people opinion because they're arrogant.
And that's why they said,
2 memes, Arabic language. 2 memes, they will
never learn.
So, Karimakhala,
2 memes.
A person who feels shy of asking
and a person who is arrogant, they will
never learn.
Person has to break the burial, say, I'm
not gonna feel shame anymore to ask questions.
What a person said, I will not become
arrogant, I have to humble myself
and ask people
of what how to do this.
I remember one time,
years ago,
a gentleman told me that he made so
many mistake
in filing his taxes,
so he insists to file it himself
and he doesn't want to ask his son.
And he said His son every time said,
let me help you.
He said, no. No. No. You cannot help
me.
Finally, he said, why am I saying that?
He's my own son.
Let us sit, you know, and set pin
these penalties left and right. The minute he
listen to his son,
he he got improved. He got to learn
it.
Or he said, I could have asked somebody
else, even if I was afraid to ask
my son. But sometimes,
we think that we know, we want to
make mistake and mistake and mistake. It's okay
to learn by experience,
but it's bad to keep repeating the same
mistakes
while we learn we
have sources or resources
where we can go and ask and seek
help from.
Arrogance
prevents a person
from
entering Jannah,
going to paradise. Prophet Muhammad, peace be upon
him, said,
He said a person have a little
arrogance in their heart, they will not see
paradise.
Why people become arrogant?
Why do you think?
What caused arrogance?
Why do you think people become arrogant?
No one knows?
Four reasons.
Make a person, the Imam Ghazali
said, make a person arrogant.
1st,
Al Ajab.
It's Arabic word.
Ajab means to look to yourself and say,
wow, I have so much knowledge. Wow, I
have so much money.
Wow, I have so much muscles.
You start with that first,
then
you build on that, then you say, whoever
does not fit me
or fit like me,
they're bad,
or make a fun of someone who physically
look different than me. You follow? I feel
this arrogant.
Okay?
Or
a person have money, they start belittling anyone
who doesn't have the same money. They're not
socialized with with people who don't have money
like them.
Or a person, you think that has this
degree, have PhD or this and that, he
would not talk or they have discussion.
If there's a table of PhD people sitting,
he will sit or she sits.
If there's a people
who have, you know,
handled the education, he will not sit with
them because he's intellectually cannot relate. You heard
that con things? Intellectually cannot relate to people.
What is this nonsense?
Prophet Muhammad, peace be upon him,
he used to relate
to
the children,
to the elderly,
to the
dignitary
dignitaries of and others. He elect everyone
in their level. He engage in dialogue with
people of the book. He never
said,
I will not talk to this person. You
know, they said the little girl will come
and hold
hand
and pull by his hand like this, and
he will walk with her until she show
him something. I want to show you something.
You wanna say, I'm prophet of Allah. Who
this girl is? You know, he is always
humble.
Therefore, it is that the person must think
too much of themselves. The other thing is
that
hatred
make a person arrogant.
How is that?
When a person hate somebody,
they will not take any advice from them,
then they become with a cabrene on that
person.
For example,
you dislike somebody
because of you saw him on the train
and he did not give you proper salam
or anything.
You go sick,
you go to the hospital.
The minute that you sit on that
place to be checked, the person you find
out the person is a doctor.
No. No. You cannot touch me.
Why? I don't want I don't
want I don't want him to examine me.
I don't like that.
Then he said, What's wrong with you? I
I'm all fine.
A person becomes arrogant because they think that,
okay, I hate them, I'm not gonna listen
to them, I have to show them I
am not in need of them.
Or sometimes we hear someone who don't listen
to their advice. Do you know there's so
many people
do not listen
or adhere to the message even of Islam
because simply they have hatred in their heart.
Although they know it's the truth, but they
don't like to to listen to Muslim
because for some reason, there's a hatred there,
and the hatred become wall
between you and the other people. When you
hate the people because of their color, you
you will not be able to listen to
them.
And that's why there's a joke.
A black man said
that don't hate me of my color.
Get to know me and you have enough
reason to hate me.
You know, don't judge me by my color.
Okay? Don't look at me and say, this
is a person I'm not gonna talk to
them. If they give me advice, how how
the black man gonna give, you know, get
to know things.
This is arrogance
and many people
do not
accept
even teaching of Islam from someone who they
look to them racially down.
The imam has to be from this categories.
Therefore, sometimes you go with a group of
Arabs,
if the imam has half the Quran, but
he's from India, the Arab want to lead
the salah.
Why is that?
Why is that? Therefore,
arrogance
in people heart.
Therefore, it is the the,
hating people because of who they are.
You know? That is
not acceptable.
Envy is.
And envy is somebody
who really and you see that all the
time, by the way. Someone has knowledge, has
experience,
has skills.
And a person become envious, said, how comes
he has that or she has that?
Then as you said to them, why don't
you ask consult so and so in this
matter? No. He doesn't know anything.
Yeah, he has really years of experience in
this matter. No, he doesn't know anything.
He's envious.
He knows the person has other knowledge, but
they they are arrogant, that's why they don't
seek that from them.
And they become happy if that person lose
their license
or that something happened to them, they become
very happy. They say, I told you, you
know, something wrong with them. You know, I've
been smelling it. That's envious.
And that's why a person become arrogant
because of envious.
Or show off, riyat, that's the fourth reason.
Showing off.
Person become arrogant because you want to show
off, and I'll give you an example of
that. It happens in husband and wife,
and brothers and sisters, and some to a
colleague. You sit in the meeting
in a company.
Your boss sitting, you sit next to him
or to her,
and then you say something.
And he or she, they think that they
should have said this, not you.
They have to look good all the time.
Therefore,
they might argue with you against you not
because
it is what you said is wrong,
but because it make them look bad.
They're showing off,
and a person sometimes
become arrogant
because he want to look good in the
eyes of people. I have to always maintain
a best picture.
I cannot afford
to maintain less picture. Therefore, I have to
always say who I am,
you know, remember who I am. And and
that's why sometimes,
some people
have PhDs, for example, or some days the
doctor. And you call them by by their
name. They said, Muhammad or Hassan.
They take it one day, 2nd day, the
3rd they said, listen, You know that I'm
a doctor?
Yes. I know you're a doctor. Why don't
you call me doctor?
I like it.
We're not in the hospital. We are in
the Masjid. Therefore, I'll call you brother so
and so.
Why I have to call you doctor? Why
I have to call you this wine?
And I have seen that, and I and
I remember one time, I was
doing umrah, and I did not realize that
the person I'm calling is not a doc
is a doctor. I've been calling brother so
and so,
And then the person said, listen,
you Do do I know you? I said,
brother, we just got to know Alan Hajj.
He said, we're calling by first name. Do
you know I'm a doctor?
I said, brother, it doesn't make any difference
now. You know, I really liked you then,
and maybe now this is gonna affect me
too. I
It does not it does not But you
see, in Islam also,
you should give people the proper
level.
Doesn't that means, you know, somebody a doctor,
don't call them a doctor. I'm not saying
that. But I'm saying the person who insist
on it is the arrogant person.
You get my point?
It come from you, it's fine. But if
I said, if you don't call me sheikh,
if you don't call me ma'am, if you
don't call me a doctor,
I will not accept it, that arrogance.
Therefore, you have to differentiate between the two
thing. Because some people, if you don't put
the title before the names, they get offended.
But we come to this dunya with no
title.
Is that true?
What's our title when we came?
Baby,
you know,
the baby just come in. You know, they
asked me when I had my 3rd daughter,
and my wife and I were debating the
name,
you know, until she was born. I said,
they said, what the name? I said, let's
think about it. Call her the baby for
the time being. You know, it is important
that to to have that in mind. What
will happen when we die? Have you seen
anyone say, the doctor in the casket.
The doctor gonna be buried now.
Have you heard that? We're gonna bury the
doctor now, we're washing the doctor.
No. They said the the genaza, they said
the body
the body have came. The body have been
received. The body have been buried.
No titles.
But because of our arrogance in this, we
insist
in calling ourselves big things.
K? Therefore, we have to be careful. When
we insist on it, it's a sign of
arrogance.
Okay.
And sometimes,
a person will show off,
will argue with somebody.
It's called
To argue, don't accept the truth. Somebody tell
you this is black
book, you say, no, it's red. It's black.
It's red because you don't like to accept
them.
Then because in front of people, you don't
like to look like you have lost the
argument.
When you are
with that person alone, they said, you know,
you're right.
It is black. Why was arguing with you?
They tell, can you go outside
and tell people that you believe he's black?
No, brother. I have You don't have to
do that.
You seen You have seen that? I don't
have to do that.
Between you and I, I was wrong,
but
in front of everyone said I'm right.
A part of being humble is that when
you're on that gathering, you humble yourself.
Like,
made a statement
why he giving a speech,
a lady stood in the back of the
message and said, yeah, Omar, that is wrong.
He didn't say, Sit down. I'm the leader
of the believers
and your cigarette service or the intelligence center,
please take her to the room coaching her,
interrupting the leader during the speech.
He said,
a lady is correct. This lady is correct.
I'm wrong. Omar is wrong.
In front of everybody.
He did not say privately, you know, you're
correct, but you do not have corrected me
in front of the people. I would have
liked it if you wrote me a letter
or an email. Send me an email between
you and I.
That's arrogance.
K? Therefore, people have to humble themselves.
Brother.
Therefore, it is important
to have us to think in that,
in that terms.
Now there's different level of kibr.
Ibn Qudam
said the highest level of kibr, arrogance,
when a person
can claim
the characteristic and the attribute of God,
when a person think they're god,
Allah.
And that happened
for Raun,
the pharaoh of Musa. Moses, Musa alayhi salaam,
said,
He did not say I'm a prophet
or a messenger.
He said, I am your highest lord,
god.
I'm god himself.
You see this river Nile?
I am doing medic running. If it was
me, we will stop.
And that's why he used to make the
rules. He said to them, every time he
want water to rise in the river said,
give me the most beautiful girl, lady. I
want you to throw her on the river
so the river can give us more water.
The river has nothing to do with the,
with the girl.
And that's why during Umar Khattabib Allahanahu time,
the river, the Nile does not have enough
water. There was drought.
People come to Omar
They said, yeah, Omar, people
before
Islam, they used to throw a girl, bride.
A bride have had to wear nice clothes
and used to throw this bride into the
river, and the river might bring water. The
water marries.
Therefore, what do you think of this?
Abu al Khattabirib Allahu Anhu wrote a letter
to the river, to the Nile,
And he said to the Nile, if you
used to run
because
of the girl being thrown at you, we
don't need your water.
If you
run because of the commands of Allah,
run again and bring us water.
Have the water, you know.
He said, take my letter my letter and
throw it in the Nile.
I I read it to the Nile
to break all of the things. And then,
alhamdulillah, the water
Allah gave them water than never before.
He want to break this kind of customs
that no one should claim they have control
of Allah,
resources and Allah,
risk
and and and,
sustenance.
And also, a Namrud.
Another example of this arrogance
is namrud. You know, namrud is the king
during Ibrahim alaihis salam time.
Ibrahim
alaihis salam,
peace be upon him, he stood before the
king,
called named Namrut.
And Namrut,
he used to believe that he's god,
and he was very upset that Ibrahim alaihi
salaam telling people believe in Allah.
He said, bring me this man here. Let
me ask him questions about this god.
Ibrahim alaihi salam stood before
him. He said, who is your lord?
He said, my lord is Allah. He said,
what your lord does? Tell me
what one of the things that your god
does I cannot do.
Said, my lord,
bring life, give life, and take life.
Said me,
I can do the same. He brought 2
people
from the prison.
He said to his
man,
work for him, he said, kill 1 of
them.
To the prison guard, he said, kill one
of
them. He killed one of them. He said,
set the other person free. He said, you
see? I do it. I kill one of
them, I give them one life.
Ibrahim alaihis salaam who could have continued that
argument, and by the way wisdom in dawah.
You do not call in people with Islam.
You do not
if a person,
make up things to sustain the argument, look
for something bigger to convince him with it
because it seemed like a person have mura,
which is argument
with a way that does not make any
sense. Ibrahim could say
it, bring that person whom you killed back
to life.
That could be a challenge.
But he said, okay, you believe that? Okay.
My lord,
bring the sun, have the sunrise
in the east
and set in the west. Do the opposite.
Exchange them. Tomorrow morning, with the sun, by
your will, to rise in the west and
to set in the east.
The man becomes speechless.
He cannot bring the sun and say, come
here. Next morning, I would like you to
come to the
This person,
he's he's arrogant.
He blame claim claim that he has Allah
God characteristic.
And unfortunately,
I'm gonna tell you something, in our present
time, some people have claimed that they have
Allah characteristic.
I remember
a Muslim ruler,
supposed to be Muslim, quote unquote.
I don't know a list,
shook his hand,
and he told him in Arabic,
Said you are so great so great like
Allah, our God.
And the man did not say anything.
I heard it was my own ear,
and I saw it was my own eyes
in the CNN.
During this last war,
a man from Iraq saying, Saddam for us
like God,
like
Allah.
I heard it and I saw it. No
one told me.
No one can claim what you're talking about.
What god do you talk about?
Now that person
does not give Allah the estimate he deserve.
Allah says in Quran,
They don't give Allah the estimate he deserve.
They're believing Allah.
Did not give Allah the he deserved and
whole earth
will be folded
by him.
Allah
will fall this earth.
Heaven, the universe.
Subhanahu wa ta'ala, my shirkun. I'm gonna stop
here. I think they're gonna call for Maghrib
and Insha'Allah will come after the Maghrib,
to discuss more the category of kibar
or kibr
and the ajib and this how we can
cure ourselves
from associated disease or to avoid associated disease.
I think they're gonna call for Maghreb now.
If you have not made,
it's time for you to make because there's
no enough time between and
Adan,
to continue the,
the class.
I said the the greatest
form of arrogance
or kibr.
When a person, he or she she give
themselves the attributes of Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala,
they think they're god himself.
And we give example of Ra'aun and Namrud,
those 2 kings
who really claim
we can call it godship,
you know, inventing inventing words in English,
Our lordship.
And you know what happened to them? You
know how died?
Pharaoh. How pharaoh died?
Was drowned. Water.
He was not killed with big army.
It's water. What's a water?
It's a weak creature
that is split.
How a water can overwhelm
a person who is really ahead of a
big state?
How can a water kill a person?
He could not
fight water
and he drowned.
You know how Namrud died?
Namrud died by an insect.
As today
what is SARS?
What's SARS?
What's SARS?
Viruses.
It's a virus.
SARS is not a machine gun.
SARS is something we will not see it
with the naked eye.
All human being
that started working wearing gloves
and we're wearing masks
for something that's so small,
if it was even become visible, we'll step
on it without noticing it. It will become
visible, become an ant.
It will become the size of an ant,
it will step on it,
but can destroy, can kill a human being.
The
other
form of arrogance, rejecting the message of the
messengers.
You say, I believe in God, but I
cannot believe you are a messenger.
And that's what happened to people of Mecca.
They rejected prophet Muhammad sallallahu alaihi wa sallam
out of arrogance.
They said this Quran is so beautiful, so
nice, but if it was revealed to a
man other than him, he's an orphan,
doesn't have money.
He doesn't have that status that we're looking
for.
He should have been revealed to a leader
in
Mecca or another man in Taif.
So we wish this Quran was revealed to
1 of the 2,
one of the men of the 2 villages
or towns.
And they used to say
about the prophet Muhammad, I had a lady,
Usila. Is this a man of the prophet?
I had a lady, yes, is this the
one who claimed he's a prophet belittling
him?
This become
arrogant.
And when been they have been called that
to listen to the prophet, they turn their
back, Mustaqbirin.
They turn their back, and they will not
sit and listen to him,
to prophet Muhammad
The
third
is to become arrogant
on people
who believe in anyone you see.
Anyone
we see is is so small in our
eyes. We are so big.
And this the
also kind of,
arrogance that Quran Kareem spoke about.
They say,
oh,
do you want to believe what as we
want to us to believe on you?
And the little one, the wicked person, the
weak people have followed you.
And they come to rasulullah alaihi wa sallam,
they said, oh, Muhammad,
kick those people.
The people who
Those people who look down to them,
don't have them around you and we believe.
We cannot come and sit next to Bilal.
It's not gonna work.
What the Quran said?
That
Quran came and warned prophet Muhammad,
said, be patient
with those who remember Allah day and night,
and do not turn your eye away from
them.
And do not listen
to someone who's arrogant, who asking you, you
said, get them out, then we'll become Muslims.
No.
If you want to accept Islam, there's Islam
for all. There's no
higher Islam or lower Islam.
You know? Islam first class, Islam second class.
Islam for especially custom made for some people,
you know, and some people want you to
do that. They said, brother, we live in
a different situation.
You know? My job is different. My this
is different. Therefore, I wanted to customize
custom made Islam just for me. You know,
make it permissible that I pay once a
week, maybe just come to Friday because I'm
so busy. I cannot pray 5 times a
day.
There's no such Islam like that.
Islam for the higher, Islam for the lower,
Islam for the rich, Islam for the poor.
It's one Islam
for all.
Therefore, you cannot
you should not be able to bribe an
imam to give you a fatwa.
You know, to tell him that I want
you to custom that. Because if you do
so, when it's time before Allah subhanahu wa
ta'ala, it's not gonna help the money you
pay.
K.
Therefore, the,
people, they rejected the message of Islam in
principle
of
racism
that they say,
we will not accept it
because
in time of shay, because weak people become
Muslim. We cannot accept that kind of Islam.
We do not accept it
time because of Bilal and the others who
accepted Islam.
Therefore, Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala
will not accept
from anyone
who want to enter Islam and we want
to have other people not to believe in
it because he or she, they believe it's
racism, it's Arab things,
or it is African things, it is Pakistani
things, Islam is not.
Transcend all human
colors
and human ethnic
groups.
Also, an example of being arrogant
or looking down to,
to people
is that the
the king of Persia
was told that prophet Muhammad Messenger,
I mean, the man who been sent by
prophet Muhammad
is at the door, want to see him.
He said, why don't give him some money?
There's Muhammad and his group, maybe they need
there's poor people, those bad ones. They have
don't have enough clothing. Give them some money,
get them out of our face. Not gonna
see this
man. They say this man is insist to
see.
Said, then if you want to see me,
I want to impress him by money. I
want a big Persian carpet, that much. When
he walk on it, he feel like as
if we flying on the sky,
you know,
walking on silk.
And I went the chair that have all
gold on it and give me the best
clothes so this badul, when he see me
say, wow, forget about Muhammad, I'm your man.
That was his in mind.
Impress him, bring best Hollywood picture, bring everything,
Brainwash this guy. When he walk in and
he says,
you know, I want to stay here. I'm
not gonna go in back.
Rabi Amal
Amir, he entered
the palace,
and he has
his spear with him.
When he walk in his spear making holes,
he doesn't even see the carpet.
The man bigger than that. His heart is
full of something different.
He couldn't see the gold. He didn't see
it. He saw a man that is very
humble, a human being, as Imam Ali said
to the man who was working arrogant.
And Imam Ali said,
said to the man, don't walk like this.
Allah would not like this kind of walk.
The man said, don't you know who I
am? He said, I know who you are.
Said, who I am? The man expect that,
mama Ali said, you are in the Wall
Street. I saw in the front page of,
you know, Washington Post. I saw in CNN.
You are the big man, rich and famous.
Muhammad Ali said, I know you. You are
the one who beginning was a spleen and
an egg.
That how you started.
Remember the beginning.
Very important.
Spring and an egg.
And then your end
will be stinking body.
When you die, you'll be stinking. No one
will like want to keep you. 1
no one will like to keep the body
of their husband or their wife or their
children, said, I want them to be there.
Because 2 days, 3 days, they will not
understand the smell.
So that's how you're in.
And while you are alive,
you have to you have a need to
go to the bathroom
like anyone else.
A very ample picture
is called we call it in psychology,
reality
check. You have somebody sit down, want to
counsel them, want to make sure they don't
have any mathematical problems, said, what time is
it?
What month is this? To make sure they're
sound.
He give them reality check.
The man he get up from his deep
sleep
of arrogance.
When Amir, he entered the palace,
walking with spirit,
and the king of Persia said,
what bring you to us?
What you're up to?
Said Allah sent us with this religion,
look to this.
He said, Allah send out this religion to
free humanity
from worshiping one another
to worshiping God alone.
He demolished
the concept of
me. He said, we are not into business
of worshiping human being. No more how much
great, how much big chair you have, how
much big palace you have, how much big
statues
you have all over the place, all over
the city.
You know, tell him here's bigger status. Tell
him here we I have nothing.
He said,
and from the neurons of this,
from the limitation of this life
to the abundance of life to come.
Islam, and from the oppression of other ways
of life
to the just way of Islam.
That was the message. The man does not
see anything,
because in his heart, he does not
dare to feed any ego of someone, and
this one we're gonna come to that. Because
one of the problem that people are arrogant,
because somebody feed their ego. Said, oh, you
are the most
this and that.
I don't believe this person tried to correct
you. He doesn't know who you are.
And he says, oh, yeah. He doesn't know
who I am. You know?
That's what it is.
And many people around that, you know, would
call them intellectual things. They said, you know,
you made a very good, nice presentation. You
see that person was in the back of
the room was trying to correct you? Who
is she? Who is she? Don't know anything.
Yeah. That's true. I don't know who can
arrogant,
feeding the ego of someone. Therefore, one of
the I'm gonna tell you one of the
solution, what to do with that, Sharma.
The other,
categories,
that's the levels
of arrogance. Categories of arrogance.
Ibn Khudama says
he said arrogance begins
with the feeling
inside the person's self. A
person feel in their heart they're better than
others, in their heart.
It begins with that.
Then manifest manifest itself in action. How is
that? A person
might
pretend that they're humble.
The the wash, the, you know, the clean,
the thing. But they say in their heart,
see, me, I have doctor, I have PhD,
but I'm cleaning the masjid
in their heart. So the people who's when
they see the doctor like me, they say,
wow, the doctor cleaning the masjid.
That self dealing is arrogance.
You see? Satan deceive us. I say, I'm
gonna be I'm the rich man in the
town, but you know what? I'm gonna really
have some chat with some poor people around
the corner. I'm gonna go to the ghetto
so that I look very good. I look
like, you know, this rich man, he's really
can relate to average person. I'm gonna have
some picture of Russian compositing like 2 poor
people or something like that, so that it
goes that arrogance
is a pure hamptleness, but
inside
is what?
It's arrogance,
and that's very dangerous.
Ibnu Kalama is one of the wise
scholars.
It has this
book that talks about this rakaic, discipline oneself.
He's the best psychologist I have ever read
the book, he and Imam Ghazali.
But he said that. And he said,
this kind of person, he describe it,
In his heart have the tree, the roots
of ergotism,
but you don't see the branch of it.
The the tree is there, but it's not
visible.
You know? You know, they have the the
tree that inside
you have the,
the some of the plants. The roots go
there. You just see the the fruit sometime
in the top, you don't see the whole
tree, the the the plants that go on
the surface of the Earth.
He said this person have that roots of
ergotons.
The tree is there, but people don't see
the branch of it. K?
The second
characteristic
of arrogant person
is the person
who thinks or she thinks
that they always have to have a special
treatment,
have to be treated special.
You have to talk to them in different
language
in their heart. If you talk to me
like that, you don't know. Yet when you
stand up before me, you have to have
your hand down.
You know, you have to have your head
down.
You have to do this and that.
Meaning that person
telling that person,
you cannot treat me in a such way
except
have me to to accept it.
You have to differentiate between the sibling here
and arrogance.
You can tell your children, don't talk while
your hand like this.
Because also the hadith of Rasool said, do
not talk and put your hand in the
waist because that's sign of arrogance.
And unfortunately, I've been seen lately, and this
politically may be not correct, but I'm gonna
say it, you know, for the sake of
Allah. I've seen the person who, been asked
to rule Iraq these days, he's always putting
his hand in his waist
like this.
Always talking to people like this.
This is self like ego thing.
You know? A person
by behavior, you can say a person is
arrogant. Their chest is out and they're doing
this. What is that?
That's why said do not do that.
Cannot talk to people like that, because
certain authority,
you know, it it handled.
But a person, for example,
remember I said that the person said, why
don't you call me doctor?
Why don't you call me this and that?
Because that person, he want always to have
a special favor and treatment. For example, a
person come to them salah,
and it happened in this d city, Washington
DC, in one of the conference.
People were sitting in the first line of
salah.
A group came, said, stand up, stand up,
stand up, stand up, go back.
Why? Because sheikh and so and so and
so is coming. They kick out of the
first line of salah, and the the shay
who came late to salah, they sat in
the front.
And that's why,
Imam Ali did not accept did not accept
it from a man
Who Imam Ali was given Khutba and most
of the people were not Arabs,
sitting in in in front row. This man
come,
you know,
between the lines, and and and Imam Ali
was given the Khuba until sat
like this.
I'm looking at him. Imam Ali look at
him, says, what is this? He said, I
just I was
discussing all the plot that he mentioned to
me down and says,
remind me of this story. He said, oh,
Imam, non Arabs have just been taken over
this mosque.
Talk to Imam Ali.
And Imam Ali said, don't ever do that.
Remember what the prophet said? You sit in
the Whenever you find a place, you do
not say, I'm the sheikh, I have to
sit in the front.
This is not is not
good. If a person come late, see whatever,
sit wherever, they find a place, not insisting.
A press there's no that's why in Islam
is prohibited to reserve to reserve a place.
You cannot put a sign in the message
that said, reserved.
So for you come late,
you in the beginning of the Jummah, and
he comes and walk in front of people
and sit. No. You sit where you find
a place.
The third
signs
is a person by their tongue
brag
and keep talking of how much will they
have, how much, you know, power they have,
how much fluence they have. That's a sign
of arrogance
when a person talk too much about it.
They sit in every place.
You know?
I just made $3,000,000
in the stock market. I just made this
money. I just did this. I did that.
I did that. And so
person brag about themselves all the time.
All a person compare themselves, said, you know,
I know the whole Quran and so and
so know half only half of it.
Why you have to compare yourself somebody somebody
else? When a person says, I made 5,000,000,
why this company lost money? Last week.
Every time you want to make yourself look
good,
that's dangerous.
But Ole Ma said,
presenting facts
different from being arrogant.
How is that? And that's why it's a
thin line.
You can say, our school,
the school I'm graduate I graduate from, all
people want to college.
That's a fact.
But if you said, oh, my school all
the school went to college, but you're a
school, no one went to college. That's arrogance.
Get my point? Therefore, we have to differentiate
between the 2.
And that happened between people of wealth,
people of power, people brag about things, or
people of physical look, Someone will think that
they're the most beautiful and the most handsome
person.
He said, how come SubhanAllah,
you know, I asked so and so to
marry me, She said no and she said
yes to him. I don't believe that. What
she sees in him?
People say that. What she sees in him?
Because person think they're the most handsome person
or the most intellectual person or the person
who have the more money.
Or the same thing for the sisters.
And she said, oh, you know,
him,
it is you know, or her, bemang her?
Why? What you see on her?
Why me?
That's arrogance.
You know, you think that you're better than
others, therefore, you deserve more rights.
And the other thing is that people of
power
abusing their power, oppressing others,
because you believe that they're not human being.
And that's why some people have very quick
in making decisions
in some people life or certain people life.
Someone who can make a decision to execute
someone, or make a decision to to deprive
one, to humiliate someone, because simply they believe
that person does not deserve any respect.
That's arrogance.
When a person I mean, you have a
person, for example,
tell you, this so and so is waiting
for you. I said, oh, no. Okay. Forget
about that.
But they said, oh, but so and so
waiting for you. Oh, yeah.
That's arrogance. That means I can, you know,
help this person or be with this person,
but I you know, that person does not
deserve it. Sometimes, even if that person come
for their rights,
and that's why in Islam, it's prohibited
being a judge
to
differentiate between anyone who stand before you. I'll
give you a beautiful example from the history
of Islam,
of humbleness.
Imam Ali,
who was a ruler of Muslims,
he has a dispute with a person who's
not Muslim,
over a shield.
They stood before a Qari, a judge.
Imam Ali said, this is mine. Remember that
story?
And the other man said, it's mine.
Judge asked,
Muhammad Ali, do you have witnesses? He said,
yes. My 2 sons. He said, you know
better than that. Your son cannot be a
witness.
Telling the party, the judge, telling
the mamali,
who's the ruler at the time,
or the leader of the Muslim. It's better
than the ruler. Rule is negative things. Leaders
of the Muslim.
The judge says then the the shield is
prone to the to the other person.
They're about to leave,
the judge says, come back, Imam Ali. Yourself
will be held in the contempt of the
court. Call it contempt of the court.
He said, why? He said, because you frown.
You don't like the way that I told
you to stand next to him.
Probably that the reason. He said, no, I
was frowning because you made a mistake in
your procedures.
He said, what is it? He said, you
called me by my nickname,
by by nice name. He said, Yahbar Hassan,
oh, the father of Hassan. In Arab culture,
you call somebody by their son name or
the children name, that means as if you
are her friend.
And you call the man by his first
name.
You call someone mister,
and call someone, hey,
stand there.
That way it is. Okay?
He said, and that's not fair.
You should have called me by my first
name and him by first name.
That call humbleness.
You know? That is how
he don't want the the judge or anyone
to miss misuse their power.
Therefore, it is important,
and by the way, domestic violence
happened
because
of control and arrogance,
because the other person feel the other person
have no rights.
The other person is not a a full
human being,
and that's why it take place.
Too much ego.
Now
how can we
treat arrogance?
How a person make sure that to avoid
arrogance?
There's a you have in your note here,
I stated a list
of things.
The first
way that to resolve arrogance
or
to ourself
from this arrogance. And, by the way, I
want just to tell you something. There's something
different between. You know, being pride of this
pride, being proud, and being arrogance.
Is that sometimes you become so proud of
yourself, but you keep it to yourself. You
think that you're good and this and that,
but you do not go and tell people
I'm better than you. I'm gonna do this.
It start as a feeling. That's why the
beginning of it is.
And the
a person have to
notice the symptoms,
the signs. You know? When you get the
when you're gonna have a flu, what do
you have? Have fever, sometimes cough, and so
you can measure arrogance.
You can smell it. You say,
am I really bordering there? What am I
doing?
You woke up in the morning and said,
listen.
Today, I'm just gonna
not accept anything so and so gonna tell
me because I don't believe that person knows
anything.
You wake up you made a position that
you're not gonna accept anything because you know
it all.
Therefore, he sat in the meeting
you
know Quran says, some people don't listen to
Quran because their ear are closed.
They don't like to listen They because they
know that it's they don't they're not gonna
accept it. Before you sit in the meeting,
people talk, blah blah blah blah blah. And
all of that time, you are saying what?
Whatever they're saying is nonsense.
Wait until I talk.
Don't people do that? Even husband and wife
sometimes, you know,
whatever she's gonna say or what you're gonna
say just I'm gonna listen, but really wait
until I'm gonna That Why your people are
talking to you, thinking about what you're gonna
say to them?
And that's arrogance.
You're not a good listener because you think
that, why should I listen to you? Alright.
Let me prepare my argument.
And that's why people said, why are you
saying this?
Or sometimes you say what other people said.
You see some people repeating each other, said,
I think so also that but this is
the same thing that Bharat said. No. It's
a little bit different. It's not different.
Why don't you humble yourself and agree with
them? Period.
But sometime we reject things and so forth
because of that feeling we have. Therefore, we
need to notice it. Immediately when the fever
go, you know, is not 99 yet,
you know, more than there, or it's 99,
you say, you know what? I'm having a
fever. I'm gonna watch it. See how much
you're gonna rise. I'm gonna really have the
thyroid next to me,
the fear of of arrogance.
Therefore, it starts with that kind of feeling.
K?
Now the second level
is that to know who we are.
The failure
of
knowing who we are make us arrogant.
That's why they say,
blessing
upon a person they who knows, who she
knows, who they are.
You know, Abu Bakr very
arrogant. There's another story.
And he saw him, like, walking like this.
He said,
shaitan have brothers.
Said, the servant of the Rahman, the most
merciful, they're the one who walk in humility
on earth,
not arrogant. See, sometimes people walk like their
hands far from their
have you seen that?
Don't you see that? And some people say
walk like brothers.
You know, you have to show off.
You know, the young people, You you have
to put your, you know, your clothes down,
drag it to the floor.
You have to make sure that you stand
up and you look the person like this
with the end of your eye,
you know, as if they are fly there.
Said the servant
you're laughing because you see that.
He said the servant of Rahman, the people
who walked in humility.
You know?
Something very interesting about the life.
You know,
when he talks to the person,
they say he was so shy
of showing any kind of arrogance as if
talking about the the the lady
the the lady,
you know,
as if a young lady,
when he comes to talk. Why is that?
But when he speaks, speak with what? With
authority.
But when you see him, he's very humble.
Ham very humble himself.
And that's why one time was sitting with
his companions, salallahu alaihi wa sallam,
a man walked in and said, are you
Muhammad? Which which one of you is Muhammad?
So allahu alaihi wasalam. I'm gonna tell you
of knowing oneself.
Which one of you is Muhammad?
Said what?
Sitting didn't say anything. Abu Bakr
said,
This is the man
you're talking to is.
The man couldn't believe
it. That is after Fathimaka, opening of Mecca
Islam being demonic.
And when people say
Muhammad then become very famous.
The man starts shaking
from the top to the top.
All of a sudden,
shock come to him.
You know what said?
Believe me, if this was another president or
a king, who will be laughing?
He was scared.
Said,
come
down.
Why is that?
Said don't shake before me.
I'm nothing
but a son of a lady
that used to eat dry bread with water,
not even stew.
That was her food. I'm not a king.
Don't don't do that. Calm down.
Knowing oneself.
Quran?
Allah will give you until you become pleased.
We'll start the side completely,
Then they reminded him,
If he find you an orphan, and he
give you shelter,
You came up for hour.
And he found you a man or or
need
and made you self sufficient.
And he found you a person looking for
guidance, and he set you in a straight
path.
Then what he said?
Therefore,
Don't oppress the orphan.
Don't neglect people who are in need. People
come and ask you.
Don't be harsh to them.
Now you have to remind him of who
he is.
Allah
reminded human being all human being
who they are. A man came through.
He get a dry bone dry bone. Yeah.
Eunice.
He was walking beside the grave. He took
a dry bone of a human being. He
sat
found sitting. He made it like this in
ashes, and he throw it in the lab
of Rasool, said, yeah, Muhammad.
Oh, Muhammad, do you claim that Allah will
bring this this ashes back to life?
How comes? He will not be able to
do that.
Talking to Allah
will not be able.
Does man doesn't the man see human being
that will create him from this
drop of liquid, the sperm and egg,
and then become this man who argue
and deny
Hasim.
He gave us this example and he forget
his beginning, his creation.
Because human being always will forget that.
He said, who bring ashes back to life?
Say the one who created the first time,
he's the one who can bring it back
to life.
He knows
all his creation.
Allah says
in Quran,
Does man think that he will be left
with no guidance, with no accountability?
Wasn't the man begins, human being started.
Human being, mankind, humankind began with this liquid
of, a sperm and an egg.
Then become a cult.
Astra sound, ultrasound
make us
feel amazed.
Who have children in this room?
If you have any picture of ultrasound, keep
them.
So that if your son or your daughter,
my love protect you and protect them,
up in their mouth said, I did and
I said, listen, this that's what you used
to be.
You know?
You need to humble yourself.
Because the minute that a person feel that
they're strong, they they become arrogant.
K?
2.
I said 2 things now. 3rd
is
knowing Allah
Because when we know Allah and you know
the absolute the absolute power, then we humble
ourselves.
When we become overwhelmed
by thinking about his power,
then we humble ourselves.
We don't become arrogant.
When you think Allah's father has all the
power in his hand, the one who can
give life and take life, then we'll become
what? Will become humble. That's why Allah used
to say what? When he used to swear
he used to say what?
Used to swear, he said, I swear by
the one, the soul of Muhammad in his
hand. What a beautiful way.
That we need to relate to Allah
4th,
that we should not
promote arrogance.
People become arrogant. We cannot
feed
the arrogance of people. A person who's arrogant
does say, yeah.
And that's why you know why dictatorship become
dictator?
Because people around them said, you are the
right. Everything says
and he will say the most
unwise
things, and somebody said,
absolutely right.
You are correct.
He call him for destruction and people said,
you are the best. You don't, you know,
you are you can make it.
They have him live in illusion,
and that's why the king of Saba, the
queen of Sabah, see,
the queen of Sheba, they call it, queen
of Sheba,
when Suleiman
sent her letter,
she said to the people, listen. Listen. Listen.
Listen. This
beautiful letter, first of all. This man asked
and asked to submit, what should we say?
The people said,
well, we are powerful people. Only a core.
See the army? The army always think like
that. We're gonna fight.
And that's why the one dictator become an
army man, that's a terrible thing. Said, we
we we're gonna fight.
She said, no, no, no, no, no. The
wise thing to send him a gift first,
then I'll see what will happen.
The second she said what she said? She
said,
She said, the kings, when they come to
any land, they will humiliate the people. They
bring the people on the top to the
law. Therefore, we should not do that.
You know?
She was a wise woman. She did not
listen to the people around her.
Therefore, it is important
that we will not feed the ego of
arrogance. We tell them who they are, give
them a proper advice. And that's why said
that
his blessing upon someone who tell me my
shortcomings mistakes.
Finally, brothers and sisters, and then conclude this
class,
in order for us
to free ourselves from arrogance,
we need
to have someone check on us, remind us.
Someone who's genuine,
someone who's genuine. Be around some people who
are genuine, give you a sincere advice.
Do not pick up some people who says
good things about you. Make sure,
if he give me one advice and told
me that brother Majid, your pronunciation of English
is not that clear,
And I said, I'm not gonna talk to
Eunice anymore. I have to deal with it
to talk
to him.
Then who gonna tell me good things?
Zakaria and Ibrahim
always tell me, oh, you're beautiful. Your speech
is nice. Therefore, I'm gonna listen to those
people. We should avoid that.
The person give us advice
is better than someone praising us always.
That will help us in this life and
life to come.
Finally,
we have to remember
that the life of life to come is
the real life, not this
life.
Do not
we should not have a become fascinated
by power in this life, by wealth in
this life.
Don't become fascinated with power
and wealth and the glory of people
just for a little while,
how long it is.
Who was the now in in America,
they said people have been living longer now,
I just was giving a lecture the other
day to group of retired people,
and I was told that, hamdah, the community
is growing of retirees.
How long
a a person can live maximum in America
so far?
150?
Have you seen anyone live by 150?
No. 100 what? 120.
120.
And that is
the maximum.
Therefore, if you see anyone living in glory,
it's 120.
But it's not all 120.
The last 20 is the eyes does not
see well, the ear cannot hear well, a
person walking very difficult. The last 20,
Just give it that, Yani.
Other 100 say very powerful, very physically fit.
All the 100.
For a short time, and then all of
us will come back to Allah
If I want to remind myself and you
that having those things put things in perspective,
give them what the estimate the actual estimate
of who what they are, make us humble.
Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala gives us humbleness, and
I will allow 3 or 4 questions.
If you,
I think the issue being called or not
yet? 9 3rd.
9 3rd. You have any questions?
Yes.
Different degrees that are permissible. What pride
is there any, like, type of pride from
this?
Okay.
There's a different between arrogance and
dignity.
Every person have should have dignity and honor.
You should not humiliate yourself, but you should
humble yourself.
You get my point?
Is what? You don't accept
someone
to tell you that, yeah, Muslim are bad
and this and that. You have to have
is the office. I'm
a Muslim.
You don't accept injustice done to you. It's
not humbleness.
That's why people different sometimes mix things.
Person
become
humiliate themselves and they think there's humbleness. No?
Or a person become coward,
not standing for I have a courage to
stand for what is right, and they say
no no no, I am humble.
No.
There's a line that's why don't mix those
things.
Okay?
Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala
says, dignity and honor belong to Allah and
his prophet and the believers. But hypocrisy know
not.
Okay? Therefore, we do not,
confuse. I'm so glad you asked that question
because some people
they think that
have and dignity.
It is the,
it it is arrogance. No.
You know?
And it's very important
that a person to stand for what is
right.
And that's why
I swear by Allah, Allah give us dignity
and honor in this religion.
If we seek dignity and honor other than
Islam, we become humiliated.
K?
This call
k?
And when that Imam Shaiwa said,
The one that piety and righteousness that does
not give him or her dignity and honor,
they will have no dignity and honor.
K?
Therefore, for example,
a sister being beaten by her husband every
day, abused.
And I said, sister,
that's not acceptable. She said, brother, I have
to be humble. I said, humble of what?
This this this,
is not happiness, this humiliation.
You have dignity and honor to stand for
yourself.
You know? For people have to, be careful.
Don't allow people to step on you,
but don't step on anyone else.
Okay?
What else?
That's true. In dispute,
we will have in dispute
that shaitan come and feed the ego of
someone and said, don't ever go ask for
forgiveness.
Because if you do
that, you'll be humiliating yourself.
Raul Abu Salam resolved this for us. He
said, 3 things I can swear by Allah
on them. One of them he said,
and there is no person
who give forgiveness,
ask him for forgiveness, and forgive others,
without Allah elevate them more and give them
more dignity.
Every time you ask for forgiveness, Allah give
you
And by the way, this would happen that
people will become arrogant.
Allah says in Quran,
People of Ad, they become arrogant on earth.
And they said, who more powerful than us?
We are the superpower.
We are the most powerful people. Powerful people.
Allah
said, don't they see
Allah, the one who created them, is more
powerful than
that.
They used to deny
our signs.
Then Allah destroyed.
Therefore, a person
always think that they're they're powerful. They don't
humble themselves.
They have all the power. They become destroyed.
But look to Raul Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam.
When he entered Mecca,
he entered Mecca and his head was down.
Entered Mecca and was his head was down
like this.
But he was saying the statement of dignity.
Truth have prevailed
and falsehood have vanished
because falsehood is always vanishing.
But his head was down, and then he
said, oh, people of Mecca, these are rasoolallahu
alaihi wa sallam
have cards. Was 50 people of Mecca have
to be, you know, brought for justice?
He did not do that.
He he got he said,
all people of Mecca, what do you think
I'm gonna do to you? They say,
You are a good brothers and the son
of a good
go. You are free people.
He set them free.
Because in the time
of having him prevail,
he cannot go and abreast, say, and now
I'm gonna
step on all of you because I am
here in Makanal. He did not do that.
He said, you are free people. Go.
That is
courage, that power,
and that is not arrogance.
Away from it.
You know? And that's what it is. In
the time of forgiveness,
in the time that you have is your
time, and I see some people
go to court in marriage dispute.
The husband says, I'm gonna humiliate her. I'm
gonna wipe her out. Was on I have
a best lawyer. She said, I have the
best lawyer.
I said, brothers and sisters, what are you
doing?
Destroying one and humble yourself.
Remember that you're gonna stop before the court
of Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala. If not in
this dunya you're gonna walk away with it,
don't think you're gonna walk away with it.
Humble yourself.
Before we need to remind ourselves, forgiveness
bring nothing to us but dignity and honor.
Does not humiliate us.
What other questions you have?
Yes.
Living in specific groups. Because of the length
of the year
or because of the way they dress or
because of what they do, they feel that
I am it and
I will
I
will I will
these are very good comments. The first comment
about Satan.
Satan and
now. I made a last comment about
about the brother
who have, used his wife
and
Okay. Or the sister abuse her husband. Okay?
Of course. But 90% of domestic violence goes
by men, but I know that women abuse
their husband too. But I want to just
to elaborate a little bit. Shaytan,
good point. All good points. Shaitan,
first thing said, I'm best than Adam.
Clay, fire.
Some people do what?
They want to a mistake. Even some scholar
said, no. The clay better than the fire.
This is not the point.
It's the call reverse racism.
Why better the black the the black man
is the original man and the white man
is the devil? Isn't that you hear that
in America?
Yeah. That is the reverse racism. It's not
acceptable.
That's why Allah put him out of his
mercy because he was arrogant.
Okay? Said, you cannot become arrogant in in
in this,
place,
1.
2 is that people become arrogant because of
religion.
I know more Quran than these people, therefore,
I'm gonna look down to them. If a
person does does that,
this whatever they do, Allah will not gonna
accept from them.
That's why they said
I
accept the salah from the person who become
humble
because of it, not become arrogant. My salah
is better that he doesn't pray well. You
know?
My beard is longer
and shorter.
Okay? My hijab is better. The hijab is
which way?
My this and that and their their. My
children know more Quran and children know nothing.
That
no. You have to be
and that's why you know, Imam Ghazali said,
how you how you can fight arrogance in
nema, in bounties?
He said,
become grateful to Allah on the nema he
give. He gave you good children, he said,
Alhamdulillah. Oh, Allah, I thank you for that.
Allah give you money, he said, oh, Allah,
I thank you for my money. Oh, Allah,
become grateful to him,
not grateful to our self.
And this is the problem. We become grateful
to our self. We think that we because
of we, we are chosen people.
That's not acceptable.
Okay?
The other things I want just to,
to mention here
is that
sometimes we have even groups.
Arrogance become
a click or they call it click.
Am I saying the right thing? Click.
Muhammad Majid and his friends,
his colleague, they think that the best people
are the Adams.
Therefore,
any decision at Adams has to be Mohammed
Mahdi, and Yunis, and Ali, and so forth.
5 of us. Anyone else because no. No.
They don't know anything.
We have all the decision.
That's arrogance.
You know?
When a person believe that no one else
better than their group.
You know, people graduate from Harvard,
they say, only half of people can resolve
this issue. You can have a person who
never went to school,
can think better than you.
Never, because
we associate intelligence
with literacy and that big mistake, by the
way.
Intelligence and being wise have nothing to do
with writing, reading, or writing.
Okay?
You
know, you can have a a little person,
very wise person. It is also a problem.
You know, I'm gonna tell you something in
conflict resolution.
They made a study in Africa.
They found that the the the system, they
call them like a thing,
that used to resolve problem
in in the village where a court system
couldn't resolve for years.
They come and demolish British come and demolish
that system, said we're gonna have
a court system.
People start going to court, going day after
day. When the elderly comes, they said, sit
down. What is this about? Forgive him. Forgive
him. Give him the money divided half and
half finished.
No law school, no degree, no Harvard, no
Yale,
no average person sit,
resolve it. Finished.
Therefore, we do not think. We should not
think that way.
Okay? Therefore, there's sometimes arrogance can be a
club.
It's a danger of it. Only we intellectual
people.
Only peal the people can think. Only p
only us.
And that make a person and and they
become a support system of arrogance.
I tell you, you tell me that you're
good. I tell you, you're good.
You are the most knowledgeable people. They are
more this and that. And then when we
start thinking that way, we don't see anyone
except us,
And that's why I learned from brother, I
think, Hamid,
when when Haidu talked about,
our our brainstorming of strategy, one of the
things that people need to do when they
like to think about the strategy of atoms,
you cannot bring all atoms,
aboard to think about the strategy of Adam.
I have to bring someone else from our
side and say, I think you don't do
this right, you don't do because we come
thinking alike. We like what you do.
We don't think beyond that. Therefore, it's important
and arrogant sometimes it can be a group.
And that's why I want people in MSA
and people in all organization,
don't start have a click. And then they
say, only us.
Our program is the best program. Our idea
is the best idea. Everyone else is not.
That's very dangerous too.
Now the call for Asia, and I think
the room getting hotter.