Mohamad Baajour – Tips & Virtues Of Lowering The Gaze
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The shaytan is a source of suffering and suffering for everyone, including individuals who see it. It is important to avoid places like the beach and a church-like structure, avoid places like the church, and focus on protecting one's gaze. It is important to avoid places where Assyrian culture prefers avoiding women, and to not be caught with a damsque. It is important to lower one's gaze in the face of Islam, and to approach others with caution about protecting one's well-being.AI: Transcript ©
My dear
beloved respected brothers and sisters,
I ask Allah azza wa jal to bless
me and you
with Ikhlas, with sincerity in everything that we
say and everything that we do.
Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala in the Quran told
us that the shaytan is our enemy,
fataqiduhu
adua.
So treat him as 1.
Shaitan
is your enemy
so treat him as your enemy.
Allah
warned us
that the Shaitan does not come to you
and me and tell us to jump
and do major sins right away. No. No.
No.
Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala told us 4 times
in the Quran,
Do not follow
the footsteps
of the shaytan.
The shaytan does not come and tell you,
jump on that woman and commit adultery. No,
no, no.
A text. I said, no, no. First a
smile, then a text, then a
hand
handshake, then
a message with a smiley face, and then
meeting at
a coffee shop. And then things will develop.
What happen You Allah if we follow the
footsteps of the
Because when we follow
the footsteps of the shaitaan,
he commands
us to fall into
indecency
and
all kinds of evil.
All kinds of evil.
One of the main organs that the shaitan
focus on
in order to ruin our life, to destroy
our marriage, to corrupt our acts of worship
is
or
are the eyes.
That's why Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala
ordered,
commanded
Tell You Muhammad sallallahu alaihi wa sallam, tell
the believing
men, in this ayah there's a command, there's
a reward,
and there is a warning.
The command is, all believing men lower your
gaze.
And the reward, this is much purer for
you.
And the warning,
Allah is aware of everything that you do.
Some people say, Sheikh, this is not for
me.
No, this is not for me.
Let me
recite the ayah again.
Do you consider yourself a believing person? Then
become all ears. He did not say
As a believer I become all ears. And
this is a command from Allah Azzawajal when
he says,
all who you believe tell the believing men,
tell the believing women I become all ears
and I say I listen and I obey.
This is a command to the believers.
Jabr ibn Abdullah radiAllahu anhumaha he said, I
asked Rasulullah Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam
about the accidental
look.
He said alayhi salatu wa salam,
he commanded me to turn my gaze away
Just like he told Ali radiAllahu an, You
Ali,
do not follow
a glance with another glance.
The first is forgiven
but the second
is not.
The first is forgiven. I'm walking in the
supermarket
and all of a sudden a lithe
shaitan
half naked right in front of me. That
first look
is forgiven, but if I look again, if
I stare,
then
the record start
recording
evil deeds.
Do not follow a glance with another. The
first is forgiven
but not
the second. I'm watching a lecture on on
YouTube, and I'm I'm I'm listening to something
that will
uplift my spirituality, and then all of a
sudden on the side there are pictures that
are so tempting to click on.
No, not me.
I saw them for the first time
forgiven.
The second if I click,
here's the problem.
When the husband releases his vision and starts
wondering and staring at other women, the first
thing that happens is he starts comparing
his wife to the woman that he is
viewing.
And that
create a resentment
to the wife
create a resentment to the wife and that
develops to problems and the problems lead to
divorce.
All of that
started with one
look.
One of the main reasons
for the delay of marriage for our young
brothers and sisters is because they are obsessed
with social media. And they look at the
social media, and they see this deceptive beauty.
And they think,
I'm waiting for the wife that looks like
this and I'm waiting for the husband that
looks like this. They do not know that
this is all fake and that's why they
delay their marriage waiting for that
non
existent person.
Lower
your gaze.
Some of the means that will help me
and you to lower our gaze, my brothers
and sisters.
First and foremost,
Allahi, the the one the first one is
sufficient by itself.
Allah is watching.
Allah is watching me.
There are so many things we will not
do if my father, if my mother, if
my wife, if my husband are watching.
None of them could be there but Allah
is watching.
Every Friday
we recite,
Allah is watching over you.
SubhanAllah, he told the brother who was addicted
to *.
I told him put in the background of
your whatever machine you watch on. Put on
the background the ayah that says, Alamyyaalam
bi annallaha
yara. Don't you know that Allah is watching
you? Who what kind of person who has
on his background Allah is watching me and
he will dare click and watch Haram.
Don't you know that Allah is watching?
Some of the young brothers and sisters are
sitting alone.
Parents are traveling
and they start watching something haram, there's nobody
in the house, the curtains are closed, the
lights are off.
And while they're watching the Haram,
they hear a move.
They start shaking and trembling and they turn
everything off.
That panicking
from the move,
from hearing the move
is worse than the sin itself
because
you are fearing
someone
more than
Allah.
They fear
mankind
but they do not fear Allah and Allah
with his knowledge, he is with them. So
first remember
my brothers and sisters that Allah
is watching. 2nd,
Remember
that Allah assigned
honorable
angels to write everything that we are doing.
Every look
is recorded.
Every look,
I'm making an honorable
angel to write it down.
An angel that never ever disobey Allah.
I'm forcing him to write it down.
Allah told us in Surah Al Isra,
hearing,
vision,
all of that, all of it,
we will be questioned
about.
3rd, remember
that when me and you lower our gaze,
we are actually
performing an act of worship because Allah told
us in the ayah I recited,
tell the believing men, tell the believing women
to lower their gaze. So I'm actually performing
Ibadah,
wallahi.
You want to taste Listen carefully. You want
to taste the sweetness of iman,
the sweetness of faith.
One of the best ways
is when you
are
in a place that
there's a haram
and nobody knows you.
You are,
vacationing.
Nobody knows you.
You are in a different state. No one
knows you.
And you saw something haram
and you lowered your gaze because Allah is
watching, not because her husband is with her,
not because my wife is with me, not
because
what do they gonna say about me? You
lowered it because Allah ordered you.
Then and only then you will taste something
called sweetness of iman. Because I did it
for me. I would love to stare. No.
No. No. I did it because Allah ordered
me.
4th,
vision is one of the greatest blessing that
Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala bestowed upon us.
And one of the ways to thank him
for this vision
is to use this blessing
for his service and not to watch or
see anything Haram.
Allah, if I ask you right now,
go ahead and close your eyes for 15
seconds.
Allah, you will not last. You will open
them before because you cannot take it anymore.
Imagine that you were blind.
You cannot see your wife, you cannot see
your mother, you cannot see your husband, you
cannot see your children, you cannot drive, you
cannot study, you cannot do anything anymore.
You Allah, you Allah, please give me my
vision back and I promise you I will
not watch Haram anymore.
Why don't you give while he's giving?
Why don't you give
while he's giving? Why do we wait for
Allah to take something away from us for
us to show
obedience?
5th,
ask Allah
If you are
tested with this Musiba,
this calamity,
beg Allah.
You Allah help me lower my case. You
Allah been tested with this and I I'm
really suffering You Allah and you know what's
in my heart. You Allah, I beg you
help me. If you are sincere,
Allah promised
promised
Whomsoever strive to do anything, I will help
him as long as he or she are
sincere.
One of the greatest scholar he said,
He said,
being patient to lower your gaze
is much easier than being
patient about the damage that,
letting your go your gaze flow causes.
Being patient to lower your gaze
is much easier than after that and you
followed that look with another look and maybe
the girl got pregnant and all the SubhanAllah.
How are you going to be patient on
this?
Number 6,
avoid yakhi places where haram is prevalent. Don't
tell me I want to go to the
beach and lower my gaze.
It's impossible.
Avoid the places where haram is prevalent.
This is
the act of anyone
who is really sincere because we are living
in a culture
that their slogan is, if you got it,
flaunt it.
And sometimes if you don't get it, flaunt
it. Just
the higher the temperatures
are,
the lower the clothes
come from the bottom and from the top.
So try to avoid
places where Haram is prevalent.
And for my single brothers and sisters,
Rasoolullah salallahu alaihi wasallam
gave an advice to you if you are
being tested with this.
Get married.
Get married.
Manastata
al Be'ah, whomsoever can afford it
physically and financially,
Bismillah, my
beloved brothers and sisters, the parents,
stop making it so hard for your children
to get married.
Your son can afford to open a house
and manage Bismillah
Bismillah.
No. I want to do a wait for
my sister to finish her her her medical
degree.
She's 35 now and nobody wants to marry
her anymore
because he was waiting.
And if you can't, rasulullah sallallahu alaihi wa
sallam said, if you cannot afford it, what
should we do you Rasulullah?
Fast.
These are prescription not from me,
from the man who does not speak from
his desire. That means Allah told them, tell
the single men if they cannot control
their gaze too fast.
Fast Yaqi.
Remember
that those body parts, those eyes will testify
on the day of judgment.
You're hiding and nobody is watching? And Allah
subhanahu wa ta'ala said,
The day of judgment?
Nobody knows. I was alone when I was
watching this and I looking at this and
I staring at that.
On that day that I that I was
staring with, it will testify to you Allah.
He used to watch Haram with me.
And you would say to your body parts,
why did you
Why are you doing this? I'm trying to
protect you from the hellfire.
And the body parts would say, I'm Taqan
Allah.
Allah made us speak.
Knowing that lowering the gaze will protect us
from the hellfire.
Rasoolallah said 3 eyes will never
touch the hellfire.
And one of them is an eye that
lowered its gaze from what Allah subhanahu wa
ta'ala
has
prohibited.
SubhanAllah,
I heard this from a great scholar. He
said,
when the believer lower his gaze in dystonia,
this pure believer
will get
the one
who did the same in Jannah.
And who's that? The Hoorayin.
Allah, when he was describing the Hoorayin,
one of their characteristics is.
One of the description of the whole is
that they do not look at anybody
except their husbands.
So whomsoever
lowered his gaze in this dunya and he
only looked at his wife,
Allah will grant him the hoorla'in
in the akhira.
Final reward
or final incentive.
Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala Surat Anur, he said,
tell the believing men to lower their gaze.
Tell the believing women to lower their gaze.
And then few
after, he said,
The scholar said, this is the reward.
The person who lower his gaze in this
duniya from haram, Allah will grant him the
best reward in duniya and in akhira, which
is
seeing the face of Allah Azzawajal.
My brothers and sisters,
the sisters are saying I should not have
come today to this khutbah because this khutbah
is not for me. It's all for men.
Well, my dear sister, just go one ayah
after that.
And tell the believing
woman to lower their gaze and protect their
chastity.
So my sister, this applies to you too,
especially with the spread of social media.
So where in the same
aya,
Allah ordered you in the same aya to
wear the proper hijab and cover your chest
area and wear loose clothing
to help
brothers lower their gaze
and for you to be obedient to Allah
Azzawajal.
And he told you in the same ayah.
Sometimes the sister get upset from the speaker
as if those ayah are released by me.
Oh, the sheikh talks about hijab all the
time. You Habibati.
My dear beloved sister, this is an order
from Allah not from me.
From Allah.
The order of the hijab is not an
option.
It's an order from Allah
The proper hijab not the loose, not the
tight hijab that describe everything. The shaitaan fooled
our daughters. The shaitan fooled our sisters. The
shaitan fooled our wives and convinced them that
the piece of cloth on their head is
the hijab.
And everything is detailed.
SubhanAllah.
She's suffering
suffering with the heat and all that and
at the end of the day it's not
a hijab.
Imagine somebody is praying.
He's praying and he skips ruku, he goes
to sujood and he tells you, Alhamdulillah, You
Akhia, at least I'm praying. No, You Habib.
You're not praying. You're missing a rukun.
You're missing a pillar from the salat and
one of the pillars of the hijab is
to be loose.
My beloved sister, I love you for the
sake of Allah. May Allah protect you. I
know it's not easy. It's easy for a
man to speak but wallahi,
if you don't hear this here, where are
you gonna hear it?
You think CNN is gonna tell you to
wear hijab?
We come here to come close to Allah
Azzawajal. May Allah protect all our women. Aamin
You Rabbil Alamin.
And then subhanAllah, the same aya.
Allah ended the ayah.
Or maybe I haven't wore the hijab or
the proper hijab for a long time and
I know I should. You Allah forgive me.
Allah said
at the end of the ayah, Make tawba
to Allah
Because the minute we hear tawba, we think
it's only for the people who are committing
major sins.
Oh, who you believe?
My sister, we
all slip and make mistakes
and
you recognized. Allah made you hear these words.
Allah guided you to the hijab. Repent to
Allah
before
it's too late. And finally, my brothers and
sisters,
when
this is an advice for me, for you,
for your
son and daughter before they go to college.
If they say, baba,
advise me.
Tell them a 3 word hadith.
My son Habibi,
What a profound
three word hadith.
Protect
the rights of Allah.
Allah will protect you.
What does that mean in in in this
scenario, in this topic?
Do not
look at other
people's wives and sisters and mothers.
Allah will protect your woman
from being looked at
from
other
brothers.
Which man
which man on earth
enjoys people to look at his wife or
his sister or his daughter? This is not
a man. This is a male.
You don't want anyone to look at your
women? Do not look look at other people's
women. Very simple straightforward
formula.
My brothers and sisters,
let's all beg Allah azzawajal
to help us lower our gaze.
Let's remember all these incentives
that Rasool Allah and Allah told us.
And all of that is for our
well-being
in the dunya
and in the
Please, brothers, move from the hallway to the
main hall.
And from the back, also 2 rooms.
Come inside,
close the gaps. You can fit somebody here
also.
Heels is on the line.
Sisters do the same. Close the gaps.
Stone. Stone. I tell you.
Ameen
So there'll be 1, 1 minute for Asar
al Dinwala.
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