Mohamad Baajour – Red Lines
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Dear respected brothers and sisters, I ask Allah
who gathered us in this masjid together.
Al Shaba
al
Muirab
bin Shaba,
he said that
alaihi wasalam said
that Allah Azzawajal
has prohibited
for you
being
undutiful
to your mothers,
killing your daughters alive
and
withholding
your dues
while demanding your rights.
And Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala
dislikes for you
enjoying gossip,
asking too many questions
and wasting
your wealth.
And the hadith is Mutafaqun Ali agreed upon
in Bukhari and in Muslim.
SubhanAllah.
Few words from Rasulullah salallahu alayhi wa sallam
that encompass so many things.
And keep in mind, Yaqwah, and before we
take them 1 by 1, keep in mind
in the word har rama'alaikum.
That is bluntly, whatever comes after that word,
after that verb is haram 100%.
1st,
okoqilummahat.
Unfortunately, there is
not a real good word that can explain
the word aak or okoq,
but the closest is
undutiful,
disrespect,
dishonor,
disobedience to the mothers.
Here,
that does not mean
that oqulalaba
is allowed.
That does not mean that being undutiful to
the fathers is permitted.
Here Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala or Rasulullah sallallahu
alaihi wasallam singled out the mothers because of
their status with Allah
Rasulullah sallallahu alaihi wa sallam the hadith that
we all know who is the most deserving
of my company, You Rasulullah.
Abiq.
The mother is vulnerable
and
the children, unfortunately, they find it easier
to disobey the mother and disrespect the mother
because of her emotions and her feelings.
But that does not mean that we are
allowed to disrespect and dishonor
the fathers.
My brothers and sisters,
how's your relationship with your mother?
She carried you in her womb.
She carried you in her arms.
She carried you on her shoulders,
and she will always carry you in her
heart.
She smiled when she was informed
that she is pregnant with you.
And she smiled when you kicked her
for the first time when you were in
her tummy.
And she smiled when you were
delivered healthy.
And she smiled
every time she sees you sleep peacefully.
She starved
so you can be full.
She had sleepless nights
so you can rest.
How was your relationship with your mother?
Allah Azzawajal
told us
and accompanied the respect of the parents with
his
Allahu Akbar.
Allah
made Of
Uf, two letters, Uf Haram.
He made Uf Haram.
Mama, can you get me something while you're
playing a video game?
You roll your eyes. That is what Ulf
is.
Mama, can you get me something from the
supermarket? I just left the supermarket.
Why don't you remember before? That is off.
That is off.
How about
slamming the door in her face? How about
raising
your voice in front of her in her
presence?
How about saying bad words to your mother?
Allahi, brother came to me
He said my son curses his mother.
You You Allah.
How is your relationship with your mother?
Wallahi.
Wallahi.
She's still alive. When you leave here, go
back home. Go kiss her feet.
Go kiss her feet
and make sure
she's pleased with you. Don't let the night
go by and your mother's not happy with
you. Wallahi.
One du'a from her.
One day she raises her hands
and make dua against you, I will
I will be trembling all my life.
You cannot,
we cannot afford a dua against us from
our mother.
It is haram.
One time,
a sheikh was called
to get a fitra.
And the man started the question by saying,
yes, Sheikh,
my mother lives with us.
And the sheikh said, repeat the question.
Said, you sheikh, my mother lives with us.
He said repeat the question.
I
said, Yes Sheikh, with all due respect I
did not even start the question yet. He
said because the question is wrong from the
beginning
you should say we live
with my mother.
Even if she passed away,
Many of our mothers have passed away. May
Allah have mercy on them.
That does not mean that
the respect and the honor stops.
Donate on her behalf.
Build a masjid on her behalf. Dig a
well on her behalf. Sponsor an orphan on
her behalf.
Sponsor a widow on her behalf, build a
hospital on her behalf,
anything. Rasool Allah he gave us a beautiful
gift when he said that all that get
to the mother or to the father.
How is your relationship with your mother?
Even if they sometimes
they say things that bother you. Be patient.
Be patient.
They were so patient with you.
A sister, a doctor,
female doctor in London,
she said,
a man walked into my clinic
and he was in the waiting room and
he had a woman with him that she
was jumping up and down. And she constantly
tries to take off her hijab
and she keeps beating him and spitting in
his face. And then when they came inside,
I gave her
something to eat. She chewed it chewed it
and spit on his son on her on
her son's face. So the woman said, who's
this?
And the man is always smiling.
He said, this is my mother.
He said, how long she's been like this?
He said, since I was born.
My father married her and when he found
out,
he divorced her
and she was pregnant with me. And since
that day, he's in his thirties
taking care of his mother
and she's in that state. She said,
does she know you?
He said,
no. But Allah knows who she is to
me.
How is your relationship with your mother?
Most of us, unfortunately,
when they're gone,
they wake up.
And at the same time,
I want to speak to my sister, the
mother.
Unfortunately, there are some mothers who abuse
this status
and they commit.
My sister,
my beloved sister, the mother, Allah gave you
this honor. Respect it.
Respect it. Rasoolallah salallahu alaihi wasallam told us
that Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala delays the punishment
of things till the day of judgment.
But there are 2 things.
He punishes in the dunya before he punishes
in the
akhira and that is number 1, vum albari.
So do not commit vorm against your daughter-in-law.
And second is.
2nd,
Wa'Dil Banat,
Allah made it haram to bury
the daughters
alive and that was a custom in
the
Jahiliyyah.
Every
time someone was blessed with a baby girl,
they take her and they bury her alive
and this is haram.
But unfortunately,
there's some form of wad
that's taking place right now,
burying the spirituality
of our daughters.
When the girl begs her father to wear
the hijab and he says, no, this is
what Bilbanat.
When the wife
begs her father, begs her husband
to wear the hijab and he says no,
it's embarrassing.
That is what.
When the father does not care
how his woman leave the house
half naked.
He does not care. I know some fathers
are suffering when they see their daughters but
there are men who do not care.
Sorry. There are male who do not care
how their daughters leave the house. This is
what Dil banat.
When a father deprives his daughter from marriage
because she has to wait for her 3
other sisters to get married first,
that is what Bilbanat.
Islam have honored women.
Rasoolullah salallahu alaihi wasallam he said if you
raise 2 or 3 daughters or more
on deen and on manners
Jahannam will be kharam for you.
And then when she is married and she
is righteous
Rasool Allah said the best thing in dunya,
the best thing
is a righteous wife. And then when she
have kids
the Jannah becomes under her feet. This is
how much we honor
our woman.
3rd thing that
Rasulullah
said that Allah said it's haram.
Menanwahat.
This is very very important.
Holding your dues
and demanding your rights.
The employer with his employee,
It is haram
to demand your rights
without giving your dues. Similarly,
the employee with the employer.
The father with the children,
he demands his rights and he does not
give his dues.
And the children also, they're supposed to give
their dues.
They're supposed to give their rights to the
parents.
And the husband and the wife.
You see the husband or the wife asking
for her rights,
but she does not give her dues.
This is haram my sister.
My brother, you ask for your rights and
you do not give your dues. This is
haram.
Sisters,
they flip,
they go crazy
when you say the statement,
obey your husband.
My sister,
my beloved sister, the one who said that
is the one that you follow
in every move in your life. The one
that you dream and you make dua that
Allah will gather you with.
Rasulullah
salallahu
alayhi wasalam is the one who said,
When the woman pray her 5 daily prayers,
fast the month of Ramadan,
protect her chastity
and obeys
her husband.
When the husband is fulfilling
his dues,
he's taking care of everything.
You are supposed to give him his rights
and obey him. Yes. Obey him as long
as he does not ask you to disobey
Allah Azzawajal.
This is your Habib. This is your Rasool
who said that.
Why we pick and choose? Why did you
pick salat and you loved it? Why did
you pick fasting and you you loved it
and you practiced it? And when it came
to the obedience of the husband, no it's
not me.
You choose
3 out of the 4.
And that is in every
aspect of our life. Anytime
you have rights upon someone,
you're supposed to give your rights,
to give your dues and accept
your your
rights.
And Allah
dislikes.
The closest translation is he said, she said,
constant gossip
engaged
in in backbiting,
in
slander,
in vain talk.
Allah does not like that at all.
And under that
comes
forwarding
whatever you got on your social media
without checking any authenticity,
without verifying, you Allah, forward.
This is under.
How many times we forwarded things
and then we found out that they are
fake
fabricated.
Rasulullah, sallallahu alaihi wasallam
said, whomsoever
say something about me
on purpose,
and I did not say it, let him
guarantee
his place in the hellfire.
The solution for that, Ya'quan,
3 word hadith Rasulullah
salallahu alaihi wa sallam said, man somata
naja.
Whomsoever is quiet,
he's saved.
He's saved. She's saved.
You're
you're safe.
Think, Yajuan. Think before you speak. If the
word is good, there's khair in it, Bismillah.
If not, seize,
stop.
And Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala
do not like kethratis su'al,
Excessive questions.
This could mean few things.
1st, it could mean
a person that constantly asks others for financial
help
from one person to another. He finished this
guy, he goes to this guy. I need
this. I need constantly asking
and sometimes without dire need.
Another form
of a lot of questions
is
when someone that we call in our daily
language nosy.
So how much is your house?
Is it yours or your father's partner with
it?
How is your neighbor?
What does he do?
How many kids does he have?
How much do you make?
Constant questions that has no
benefit
interfering in other people's business
or
it could be
the useless questions.
What was the dog
of the people of the cave? Was it
male or female?
What kind of wood
did Nuh alaihis salam use to build his
ship?
What was the end of Suleyman?
All these questions, it has no benefit whatsoever.
And the last one, Ida'atilmal,
wasting
money. Allah does not like
us to waste money. 1 of the scholars
when he was asked to define
Ida'atilmal,
he said
Wasting money is when Allah bless you with
halal income and you spend it
on matters that are not pleasing to Allah
Azza Wajal.
You spend it on on
on cigarettes.
You spend it on smokes. You spend it
on haram matters. You spend it on things
that has no benefit whatsoever.
Or it could be extravagance.
Idahatilman
is extravagance in doing things.
The brother was just telling me that his
cousin's
wedding cost $700,000.
700
$1,000 for a wedding for one night?
Her wedding
dress was $75,000.
This is Ida'atil Mal.
The man,
every penny, rasulullah sallallahu alaihi wasallam.
You will not,
me and you, we will not move
on the day of judgment
until we answer
about every single penny.
Where did we earn it from
and where did we spend it? Allahu Akbar.
My brothers and sisters,
remember
Allah
made it haram,
the disobedience of the mothers.
I beg
Allah to make us from the people who
listen and apply.
I beg Allah to
forgive all our sins.
Please move from
the hallway and the 2 rooms in the
back,
and fill up the main hole.
Can I squeeze somebody in front of you
here? Yeah.
Close the gaps. Look down. Make sure that
he is on the line.
He is on the line.
Sisters, please do the same.
Some will
be
solve.