Mirza Yawar Baig – Whats the meaning of friendship
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The speakers discuss the issue of Jesus's friend and partner's lack of respect for the gods and the Rasool Sallall frustration. They suggest ways to deal with this, including forgiveness, respecting rules of Islam, and not giving too many pieces of clothing. The speakers also emphasize the importance of protecting one's hearts and ask for guidance on what to do to achieve a good ending.
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My brothers and sisters, I want to, publicly
acknowledge and thank my friend here.
Anil who sent me some wonderful,
very thought provoking things.
May Allah bless him.
Today he sent me something which said my
life became private
once I realized
it's not your enemies you you got to
worry
about. My life became private once I realized
it's not your enemies
you got to worry about.
Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala
told us
that on the day of judgment
people who were
the closest
friends of each other in this life.
Is the closest
of friendships.
The Arabic language has many words for friends
and Khalil is the closest.
Alakhila is the plural of Khalil and Allah
Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala said these people
will become enemies to one another on the
day of judgement
except those who have taqwa in their hearts,
except those who
fear Allah's
anger who
look for Allah's
approval in all that they say and do.
Now,
therefore, who is a friend? Let me tell
you 2 stories because stories are a good
way of understanding things.
1 is a true story
from
the 2nd world war.
The story is that there was a battle
which was a
very very hard fought battle
and heavy fire,
and this particular company
of troops
took heavy casualties
many of their
number were killed
and the captain and just a few of
them managed to find some shelter.
And when they got there, one of them,
he said to the he went to the
captain. He said, my friend is not here
with us.
So I will go and get and find
out what happened. If he's dead, I want
to bring his body.
So the captain said, you're crazy. He says,
you are going to go out there. Your
friend is dead.
You want to risk your life and kill
yourself for a dead body? Are you mad?
He said no, I can't give him.
I have to bind him. The
captain says, I do not
give you permission. He said, I don't care.
You can court martial. You can shoot me,
but I'm going there
to see
what happened to our friend and he went.
Imagine bullets flying all over
and his man is crawling on his belly
like a snake,
keeping under the fire.
And eventually he reached his friend.
He thought he was dead. His friend opened
his eyes. He looked at him. He said
something to him and he died.
No. He died.
So this man then
picked up his body and he brought him
back to the foxhole.
So the captain said to him,
you brought your friend back. He's dead.
You almost got killed in the process. Was
it worth it?
He said yes.
The captain said how?
He said because when I reached him he
was alive.
He opened his eyes, he looked at me,
he smiled
and he said I knew you would come.
And he died.
2nd story,
also true story.
About the haditha,
he is the Amir, he is the evil
womanine, he is the Khalifa
and he said
to the people,
I remind you
to have the taqah of Allah.
Because Allah said, oh, you believe,
obey Allah
and obey the Rasool Sallallahu Alaihi Salam and
obey those who are in authority
among you.
So Salman Al Farsi
was sitting right in front.
He put up his hand and he said,
we will obey Allah,
we will obey the Rasool
but we will not obey you.
This is Jumah, masjid Anawee Sharif. He
is the Amir.
He is the Khalifa. He is standing on
the member of the Rasool.
And Salman al Farsi,
who is one of those who Rasool
said he is from the he is from
my
he said he's from the Al U Baitz.
A man of that stature is not any
ordinary savvy. I mean, every ordinary savvy is
not ordinary savvy, but
And he said we will obey you.
We will obey Allah
and we will obey the Nabi, but
we will not obey you.
Stopped And he said to him very politely,
very nicely. He said to him my brother,
why?
Why do you say this?
Said because
you are not fair, you are unjust.
What have I done? What injustice have I
done?
Said,
you gave
as hani ma as booty from the from
some battle which they had fought,
he
said, you send each,
and he's talking about this.
He
said you send each of us
one
piece of cloth enough to make,
you know,
a shirt or whatever they were making.
And he said but I see that you
are using 2 pieces so you took 2
for yourself
and you sent
only 1 to each of us.
Sayedir Omar did not respond. He didn't say
anything.
His son, Abdullah ibn Omar stood up
and he
said, what my uncle Salman said is correct.
My father gave each of us 1 piece
of cloth
and he also took 1,
but my father is a big man that
one piece is not enough for him so
I gave my piece to him
and that is how he has 2 pieces
of cloth.
So Salman Abbasid said,
then we will obey Allah
and we will obey the Rasool and
we will obey you
and Sayedina Marath al Anhu continued and finished
the Khudr.
Now think about this, what do we learn
from this
beautiful
story of the seerra?
We learn from the story,
1,
that
if
you find and it's quite likely that Salman
Pasi Adel Aro didn't simply say that spontaneously.
He said that because of maybe he was
hearing some rumors happening in the in the
town.
So when you hear something like that, what
do you do? You do your best to
clear the name of your friend.
You don't sit and listen to the rumors.
You don't
participate in that because this is Haram. This
is.
So what how did he do that?
He did that in the best way because
was
a man who was who had great
given him a amazing personality. People were afraid
to talk to him.
So
because he was close enough and senior enough
and this didn't affect him,
he asked him a public question to give
him the opportunity to publicly
respond and clear his name.
Right? If he had not done that,
then people would have believed and these rumors
would have become worse.
So
asked him a direct question
where he is able to clear his name.
And Saiedra Muhammad also understood. This is my
friend asking me a question. He is not
criticizing me. He is not,
you know, attacking me. He is asking a
question to give me an opportunity to say
something. He said it, the matter is cleared.
Today,
the biggest problem that we have as Muslims
is our internal fighting
because as they say
a great civilization
or a great city or a great fort
can never be conquered from the outside.
It's always conquered from the inside.
It's when the internal
conflicts happen and increase,
the walls fall.
Not because of outside forces
and that is true of the Muslim woman.
If you see around the world today,
it's not the outside forces
And if you also see other people and
Alhamdulillah in my work and my travels around
the world, I've seen many people, many cultures,
many religions, many countries.
Believe me, internal
difference of opinion is nothing unique to the
Muslims. Everybody has
it. Everyone has it.
And it's a natural thing, if there are,
you know,
so many people living together, watching together, you
will have different opinions. So what?
The issue is what do you do with
that difference of opinion?
That is the issue, the issue is not
having the difference of itself. The issue is
what do you do with that
difference
of
opinion?
What should you do?
2 things.
1, talk face to face.
Don't talk behind somebody's back. It is haram
in Islam. It is haram prohibited by the
Quran.
It is prohibited by the.
Talk face to face. You have a problem
with somebody, go talk to him.
Don't tell somebody else.
Talk to that person.
You tell somebody else what is that somebody
else going to do.
You can't force the other one to do
anything. You go talk to that person.
Tell her what the issue is.
And second thing is
forgive each other.
Forgive each other. Somebody made a mistake. Go
look in the mirror.
Go look in the mirror.
What do you think? You are perfect? You
came from Jannah?
I came from Jannah?
Even the one who came from Jannah made
a mistake. That's why he came from Jannah.
Go look in the mirror.
Forgive each other.
We forgive each other because we need each
other's forgiveness.
Otherwise,
internal difference of opinion
are like cancer.
You can't see it.
Until suddenly one day,
there's some pain and they go and scan
and they say, oh, this is stage 4.
Everything is gone.
That's what it's like.
Don't destroy
yourself.
Don't destroy
each other
and don't allow anyone else to destroy you.
There are people who have all kinds of
motives and they will say things for their
own reasons. Don't fall into that trap.
If somebody says something to you about your
brother,
shut his mouth immediately, instantly. Say, please hold
on a second. I don't want to listen
to this. Come with me. I will take
you to him. Talk to him.
Or you sit here. I will call him.
Talk to
him. That's it.
And if he says, no, I can't do
that, then he says, goodbye.
Go talk to the wall.
I'm not interested.
If you do that,
hearts will be together.
We will live together as brothers.
If you don't do
that,
we will
disintegrate.
We ask Allah to
keep our hearts together.
This is what Rasool rahu alaihi wa sallam
did. He built an ummah. He did not
build an Ummah with people who agreed with
each other. He built an Ummah with people
who disagreed with each other. He built an
Ummah with people who were enemies of each
other.
Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala is witness. Allah subhanahu
wa ta'ala said, you are enemies to one
another. And Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala joined your
hearts together. It's not I'm not saying that
Allah himself said this. They were enemies to
one another. Allah joined their hearts together.
We ask Allah to join our hearts together.
We ask Allah
to protect us from all those who try
to divide us. We ask Allah
to give us the sense to follow the
sunnah of Rasool
and do what he told us to do
and lead us on a path which leads
to the to the pleasure of Allah and
to a good ending for us when we
leave this world.