Mirza Yawar Baig – What’s a Life Goal #03

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The importance of consistency and trust in life is emphasized, along with the need for leaders to be clear in their minds and not fall victim totraoffs. The speaker emphasizes the importance of staying in a long enough life to live long enough for success and avoid giving up. The speakers stress the need for people to stick in commitments and not give up, as it is crucial for success and personal success.
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So, clear goals, metrics, structure and assessing your
achievement at the end of the day.
This is the absolute secret of success.
So, do that.
Now, two very important points.
One is the importance of consistency.
In life, the people who achieve the most
are not the people who are the fastest,
they are not the people who are the
most intelligent, they are not the people who
are the most talented, they are the people
who are the most consistent.
Because consistency is the base of trust.
Consistency produces trust.
And trust is the base of leadership.
If you want to be a leader, you
want to be trusted.
Because nobody will follow someone they distrust.
And how can you be trusted?
By being consistent.
By your word being your law.
By developing a reputation.
You do not develop a reputation by talking
about it, you develop a reputation by showing
it, by demonstrating it.
By developing, you become trusted.
By developing a reputation of being somebody who
always delivers on their promise.
So, if I say to you that I
will do something and it does not happen,
then it means that I am dead.
And then you can make dua for me.
Because if I told you that I would
do something and if I was not able
to do it, either not able to do
it at all or not able to deliver
in time, then I would get back to
you.
I will never leave you in a lurch.
I will never be in a situation where
you are sitting there wondering, I said this
to him, is he doing it?
Is he not doing it?
What is going on?
This will never happen if you give me
a job.
This is how I have lived all my
life.
Alhamdulillah.
And this is the reason why I have
found great satisfaction and great success.
And I have made wonderful friends because of
this.
Becoming trustworthy, becoming somebody that people can rely
on.
People follow those who they can rely on.
So being able to rely on you is
the number one thing in the context of
being a bigger leader.
So become reliable.
How do you become reliable?
By being consistent in your delivery.
Consistency is the secret.
The other thing connected with this is, don't
overdo it, but always under-promise, over-deliver.
Everyone likes to be delighted.
They like to have nice surprises, not nasty
shocks.
So what's a nice surprise and a nasty
shock?
Under-promise, over-delivery is a nice surprise.
Over-promise, under-delivery or no delivery is
a nasty shock.
Nobody likes nasty shocks.
You don't like it, others don't like it
either.
So don't give people nasty shocks.
Under-promise, over-deliver.
There is this tendency because of hubris or
because of just over-enthusiasm, over-confidence or
whatever, of promising people the Earth and the
Moon combined.
And obviously you can't do it.
And then when you don't do it and
somebody calls you out on that, then you
have this whole litany of excuses.
Oh, but you see this happened, that happened
and so on and you should be reasonable.
How can anyone do this?
If somebody cannot do this, how come that
person promised to do it?
The person who promised to do it is
responsible for doing it.
So if you promise to do something, then
it's your job to ensure that you do
it.
And that's the reason why be very careful
what you promise.
But once you promise, you are bound by
your word.
And if you promise and you're not bound
by your word, then you are an untrustworthy
character.
Quite obviously, you are not somebody who is
fit to lead.
People will not trust you and they will
not follow you.
So becoming trustworthy and reliable is very, very
critically important.
And for that, consistency is the core.
Final thing, because this is a very common
thing that I am seeing and have been
seeing in the last few years.
And that is people's readiness to give up.
The ease with which they give up.
I mentioned this earlier as well.
Somebody in a college degree, which takes maybe
four years or something in between, you get
bored and you leave.
And you say, I didn't like it.
The point is that, why do you believe
that this decision to leave is any better
than was your decision to do it in
the first place?
Because that was also your subjective decision.
This is also your subjective decision.
So always see things to a conclusion.
See things through to the end.
This is very, very important.
And this all ties down with being reliable,
ties down with consistency, ties down with delivering
on promises.
All of these are the same things.
So make sure that you stick in there
and you do not give up.
Giving up is cowardice.
It shows that you are a coward.
So don't give up.
Stick in there.
And understand that in life, that life is
really a marathon.
It's not a sprint.
So in life, the people who win are
the people who simply stay in the race
long enough.
You win not because you were the fastest.
You may not have been the fastest.
There were people ahead of you, but those
people stopped and those people gave up.
And you didn't give up.
And when you get to the prize, lo
and behold, you are the only one there.
So sticking to what you promised to do,
staying in there, not getting sidetracked and not
giving up.
This is very, very important.
Today we live in a world which Ed
Batista calls the tyranny of feelings.
It's a wonderful quote, which he says that
we give this super legitimacy to our feelings.
I mentioned this earlier also in the earlier
podcast, but it's worth repeating.
We give this super legitimacy to our feelings.
That something is good for no reason other
than I think it is good.
There's no other reason.
It's good because I say so.
It's good because I think so.
Now, this is complete nonsense.
And it's a form of arrogance where you
think that your feelings are so, you know,
critically important.
Ed Batista says that we give legitimacy to
our feelings and we feel that whatever we
want should happen.
And if somebody goes against that, then it
is their job to change themselves and bring
themselves in line with our feelings.
So this is complete nonsense.
This is a it is, as I said,
it's total arrogance.
And it is something that if you are
in this place, then I would suggest get
out of that place.
It's not a nice place to be.
Some level of humility is very important because
you might think you are the most important
person in the world.
But believe me, you are not.
You are not.
I am not.
The world is full of wonderful people.
All of them have rights and privileges, just
like you and I have.
And to imagine that theirs are in any
way inferior to ours is a sign of
pure arrogance and nothing else.
And definitely not something that I that I
think one should have.
So be very clear in your mind.
Don't fall into the tyranny of feelings.
This tyranny of feelings is really the foundation.
It's at the base of practically every social
evil that we see in the world today.
You name it and dig down and it
comes out of the tyranny of feelings.
People make some very stupid statements.
For example, I'm sure you must have heard
the statement where people say, you're talking about
somebody, they say, Oh, you know, as long
as they're happy, it's okay.
As long as they're happy, it's okay.
That's all that matters.
That's the most stupid statement that anyone can
ever make.
Because there are many people who are very
happy doing some extremely toxic things.
The drug addict is very happy when he
gets his shot.
The alcoholic is very happy when he's in
his bottle.
The fact that he has destroyed his family
doesn't matter to him.
The fact that because he was driving drunk,
he crashed into somebody else's car and that
person is maimed for life doesn't matter to
him.
Nothing matters to him except that he is
happy.
And if you are going to tell me
that this is good and this is okay,
this is correct, then I must tell you
that, I'm sorry, I completely and totally disagree.
It is not good.
It can never be good.
And that's the kind of thinking which is
at the bottom of everything, all the evil
in the world.
What I'm showing you here is something called
the king bird.
He doesn't look like much but he's called
the king bird and he's breeding himself and
then he flew away.
So tyranny of feelings, let's stay away from
that.
It is the worst possible thing that we
can do to ourselves is to follow into
the tyranny of feelings.
Let me end this with showing you a
view of this sundial which is here.
And the king bird seems to want to
be in the picture also.
That's nice.
So this is the sundial which is here.
It's made of a wheel of some kind,
a gear wheel I think it is.
It says 5678L and there's a 1.
I don't claim to understand what it means
but anyway, there it is for you.
Finally, this is a view of the lake
in Forest Park in Springfield.
And this is one of the places where
I come for my walk in the morning.
And final picture, I hope a nice one,
of the sun bird at rest is there
for you.
There it is.