Mirza Yawar Baig – Wants and Needs

Mirza Yawar Baig
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The importance of differentiation between needs and wants in American families is discussed, with Daruri being essential for survival and causing harm. The speaker advises reducing the number of things people want to buy to reduce their desire to one specific type of food. differentiation between needs and wants leads to happiness, and listeners are encouraged to practice gratitude and differentiate between needs and wants in life.

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			Assalamu alaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh.
		
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			This is Leo, my brother's cat.
		
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			He's a Russian Blue and not the friendliest
		
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			of cats but he is, seems to like
		
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			me for reasons unknown.
		
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			And what I want to say here today
		
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			is the importance of differentiating between needs and
		
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			wants.
		
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			And this is something that starts very early
		
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			in life, in the way we raise children.
		
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			The difference between needs and wants.
		
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			Anytime the child says, Mommy, Daddy, I really,
		
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			really, really need this.
		
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			It's very common in American families.
		
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			I really, really, really need it.
		
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			Three times, really.
		
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			I really, really, really need it.
		
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			It's to help them differentiate between is it
		
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			something you really need or is it a
		
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			want, a desire.
		
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			Nothing wrong with wants, except that if you
		
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			do not differentiate between needs and wants, you
		
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			end up with increasing your cost of living.
		
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			And by cost of living, I don't just
		
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			mean the amount in terms of dollars or
		
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			cents or rupees or whatever.
		
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			I mean the price you pay for that
		
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			life quality.
		
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			So if I need an iPhone 16, then
		
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			I'm adding that into my cost of living.
		
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			Because when you're saying need or want, it
		
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			relates to happiness.
		
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			What is it that makes you happy?
		
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			So the more the needs you have to
		
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			make you happy, two things happen.
		
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			One is your chances of being unhappy go
		
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			up.
		
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			Because what makes you happy is more and
		
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			more and more.
		
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			And if I can't get that, then I'm
		
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			going to be unhappy.
		
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			So my chances of being happy go down
		
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			and my chances of being unhappy go up.
		
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			The second issue of the difference between needs
		
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			and wants is, of course, the actual dollar
		
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			value.
		
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			What does it cost?
		
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			And once again, the more the needs, the
		
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			more it's going to cost.
		
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			I therefore want us to, I remind myself
		
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			of you, let us recalibrate our lives.
		
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			I say, what is it that I truly
		
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			need?
		
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			Now a need, a good way of understanding
		
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			that is to use the Islamic and Arabic
		
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			and Urdu concept of Zaroorah.
		
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			What is Zaroorah?
		
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			What is something, a Zaroorah or Daruri is
		
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			something that is essential for survival.
		
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			Where if you don't have that, then it
		
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			is dangerous to life.
		
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			It is going to cause Darar, which is
		
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			harm.
		
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			So Daruri is something which prevents harm.
		
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			So what is Daruri in terms of food,
		
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			say for example, what is Daruri?
		
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			Daruri is the Hadith of the Prophet, he
		
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			said, eat enough to keep your back straight.
		
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			And if you must eat more, then eat
		
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			up to one third of the capacity of
		
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			your belly.
		
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			One third food, one third water, one third
		
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			empty air.
		
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			And he said, the Hadith doesn't begin there,
		
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			the Hadith begins with, he said, the worst
		
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			utensil, the worst vessel to fill is the
		
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			belly.
		
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			So it begins with that.
		
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			And then he says, well eat only enough,
		
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			a few morsels, a few morsels, not handfuls,
		
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			morsels, to keep the back straight.
		
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			So we can do our work, we can
		
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			worship Allah Subh'anaHu Wa Ta-A'la,
		
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			we can go about our daily business and
		
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			keep it free from, and never fill the
		
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			whole belly.
		
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			Now if you look at this, the whole
		
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			issue of saying, I want a triple chocolate
		
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			sundae, is it a need or a want?
		
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			To say, I want, I need this, I
		
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			need that kind of food, I need a
		
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			Hyderabadi Biryani, I need Bihari Kebab, I need
		
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			this and that, all our desires, they are
		
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			desires.
		
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			Now, remember, I'm not saying that it is
		
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			haram to have a desire, no, if you
		
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			want to eat a particular kind of food,
		
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			alhamdulillah, but don't say it is a need.
		
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			It's not about semantics, it's about the psychological
		
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			effect of calling something a need.
		
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			If you call the thing a need, then
		
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			it becomes a need.
		
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			It generates unhappiness because, as I told you,
		
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			a need is something which, if you don't
		
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			have, it causes you harm.
		
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			I need to breathe properly, if I don't
		
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			have that air, I will die.
		
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			I need a certain amount of food, if
		
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			I don't have even that amount of food,
		
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			which is, frankly speaking, one meal in 24
		
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			hours, is a need.
		
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			So, one meal in 24 hours, if I
		
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			don't have, then I'm likely to, you know,
		
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			have low sugar and I'm likely to experience
		
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			the harmful effects of that.
		
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			So, that's a need.
		
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			But anything more than that is a want,
		
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			it's a desire.
		
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			Again, it's not haram, but if I convert
		
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			it into a need, then it has the
		
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			potential to create unhappiness.
		
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			So, always watch for that.
		
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			What do I convert into my need?
		
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			Go further and see, make a list of
		
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			all the things that we have in our
		
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			lives and ask yourself, is this a need
		
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			or is this a want?
		
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			Ideally, reduce the number of wants.
		
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			I'm not saying necessarily that if you have
		
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			something, give it away or sell it or
		
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			something.
		
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			No, if you do that, that's good for
		
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			you.
		
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			But even if you don't do that, it's
		
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			okay.
		
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			But take it out of that list of
		
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			wants, list of needs.
		
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			It's not a need, it's a want.
		
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			Transportation is a need.
		
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			A particular brand of car is a want.
		
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			Food is a need.
		
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			Particular kinds of food so many times a
		
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			day are all wants, they are not needs.
		
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			Shelter, a house, is a need.
		
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			But necessarily to own the house, even at
		
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			the cost of the anger of Allah by
		
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			taking an interest-based loan, this is a
		
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			want, it's not a need.
		
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			And in this case, it is also a
		
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			haram want.
		
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			So think about that.
		
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			What are needs and what are wants?
		
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			And separate the two and begin that, as
		
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			far as children are concerned, begin that right
		
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			in the nursery, right in the beginning from
		
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			where they start and say, differentiate between needs
		
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			and wants.
		
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			The happiest people in the world are the
		
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			people with the least wants.
		
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			They may have those things, then what happens
		
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			is if you get those wants without wanting
		
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			them, then it generates shukr with Allah, it
		
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			generates gratitude.
		
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			Alhamdulillah, this is not a need, but Allah
		
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			has given it to me as a gift.
		
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			I don't need to drive this kind of
		
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			car, but Alhamdulillah, Allah gave it to me.
		
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			I don't need this, I don't need that,
		
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			I don't need this food, I don't need
		
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			this shelter, I don't need these clothes, I
		
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			don't need these gadgets.
		
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			But Alhamdulillah, Allah gave it to me and
		
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			therefore I am very grateful to Allah SWT.
		
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			If you don't do that, if you convert
		
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			those wants into needs and you say, I
		
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			need an iPhone 16.
		
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			So when you have the iPhone 16, it
		
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			has only satisfied a need, therefore there's no
		
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			gratitude.
		
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			Yeah, I need it, I got it.
		
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			I need air, I can breathe.
		
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			I need water, I have water.
		
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			There's no gratitude.
		
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			So, first of all, it was never a
		
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			need in the first place, it was a
		
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			want.
		
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			And Allah SWT gave it to you.
		
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			So recognize it as a want, as something
		
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			that you need to be grateful to Allah
		
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			SWT for and as something you can do
		
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			without.
		
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			So tomorrow if I don't have it, no
		
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			problem, Alhamdulillah, it was never a need in
		
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			the first place.
		
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			The loss does not create sadness, it does
		
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			not create disappointment, it does not create any
		
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			problems.
		
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			I don't even see it as a loss.
		
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			Yeah, I had it, Alhamdulillah, I enjoyed it.
		
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			When I don't have it, Alhamdulillah, I did
		
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			not need it in the first place.
		
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			So I remind myself with you, very important
		
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			thing in life, differentiate between wants and needs.
		
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			Final point, Salah, is it a want or
		
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			a need?
		
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			Worship of Allah, is it a want or
		
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			a need?
		
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			Learning about Islam, learning my Aqeedah, what exactly
		
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			do I believe, is it a want or
		
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			a need?
		
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			Jannah, is it a want or a need?
		
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			To have a peaceful sleep in the cover
		
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			and be free from the Azab of the
		
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			cover, from the punishment of the grave, is
		
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			it a want or a need?
		
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			Think about that.
		
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			And spend time and focus and energy on
		
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			those things, because those are true needs.
		
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			Those are not wants, those are true needs.
		
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			Those are Daruri.
		
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			Hidayah fil hayati dunya wa maghfira ba'dal mawt.
		
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			To have guidance in the life of this
		
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			world and to get the forgiveness of Allah
		
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			SWT after we die, throughout our lives and
		
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			when we die and after we die.
		
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			These are needs, these are desperate needs.
		
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			These are things which we simply cannot do
		
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			without.
		
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			Alhamdulillah, Allah SWT gave us guidance.
		
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			We are either born Muslims or we came
		
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			to Islam, but to stay there, the steadfastness,
		
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			ihdinas siratal mustaqeem.
		
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			We ask Allah to grant us guidance towards
		
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			the straight path, towards the path of righteousness,
		
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			to the path of steadfastness.
		
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			So ask Allah SWT to help us to
		
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			differentiate between needs and wants and to focus
		
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			on those needs, real needs, and to be
		
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			grateful to Allah SWT for giving us those
		
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			needs.
		
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			And all the wants which Allah SWT has
		
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			given us is a gift, Alhamdulillah.
		
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			But that's not something we are going to
		
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			focus on, that's not something we are going
		
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			to run behind.
		
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			That is not something that we are going
		
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			to allow to come in the way of
		
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			appreciating and thanking Allah SWT.
		
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			And if you don't have any of those
		
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			wants, you say, Alhamdulillah, I don't have that
		
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			thing which I wanted, because first of all
		
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			it was not a need, and therefore if
		
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			I didn't have it, I'm now going to
		
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			be questioned by Allah about it?
		
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			Alhamdulillah.
		
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			We ask Allah to keep us always, always,
		
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			always among the shakireen, among those who are
		
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			grateful, because they are the people who will
		
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			be called and asked to enter Jannah.
		
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			We ask Allah to be among them, Inshallah.
		
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			Always be grateful to Allah SWT.
		
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			No matter what.
		
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			And always look at people who have less.
		
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			There's no shortage of that in the world.
		
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			We ask Allah SWT to help us to
		
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			do that.