Mirza Yawar Baig – Two kinds of pain
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Solar Valley. Alhamdulillah, it
was a lot of shadow film, beer, even more Salin Muhammad Abu
Asmaa. He was
a Steven casran caso my brothers
and sisters, if
someone asked me,
What is the
greatest legacy
that
I can give
to my
children,
I would say
it is discipline,
a sense of discipline,
that would be the greatest legacy that I could give
to
myself. The reason I say that is because
everything good in life
comes from having a sense of discipline.
As somebody said, and I quote this all the time. It's not one of my
quotes, but so a beautiful quote from someone. I don't know who it
is. Otherwise I would have obviously referenced that person,
and that is, we must all suffer from one of two kinds of pain.
We must all suffer from one of two kinds of pain,
the pain of discipline or the pain of regret,
the pain of discipline, or the pain of privilege.
The thing about the pain of discipline is that it is
temporary.
It is short term.
It is temporary, and it converts into pleasure
very quickly
when you start enjoying
doing it, doing that thing,
the pain of regret
is that that pain
is permanent.
If you get yourself into that situation
where you have to regret,
if you have to say these the most
terrible words in any language, which is If only,
if you are in a situation where you have to say, If only, it means
that the opportunity
to gain, the opportunity to benefit,
has gone up,
and you are left only with regret.
Now, why would you do that to yourself?
And the answer is that nobody does that to themselves knowingly.
It just happens. It happens because they ignore
discipline, because they live a life without discipline,
they eat whatever they like, without thinking of the
consequences of that eating and
it damages their health.
They just give in to laziness and lethargy and swath
and they sit
on the couch and they
watch this game and that game and this show and that show on TV or
on their phones,
and
their legs lose strength, their body loses strength. And
then I next thing you know, they are looking at a wheelchair.
You will not be surprised perhaps to know
that
90% or more of Geriatric problems,
that is old age problems are
lifestyle related. They are not diseases,
they are not infections. They are lifestyle related.
If you live a clean lifestyle,
no substance abuse, no smoking, no drinking alcohol. Alcohol kills
brain cells. How intelligent is that
to drink something knowing that it is killing your brain cells.
So
if you don't do that, if you don't
smoke, smoking is the mother of all evils. Smoking and doesn't
matter what you smoke, whether it's shisha or beauty or cigarette
or cigars or, you know,
I always tell people I said, cancer is free. You don't have to
buy it. So why do you.
By it.
And cancer is only one of the things, one of the many, many,
many charming things that you can get by smoking,
please.
So if you don't do these things, those substance abuse,
regular exercise,
eating sensibly, eat whatever you like, but eat sensibly,
right?
If you just do these simple things,
you will find that your life quality
will remain beautiful
till the end of your days. Inshallah,
the pain of discipline or the pain of regret, everyone must feel one
of these two pains.
The reason I'm saying this to you is because this is a choice.
It's up to us. It's our six in the morning, and
I'm out walking. I was it easy to get up at six in the morning?
Well, I didn't get up at six in the morning. I got up much earlier
than that. But the point is that once you get yourself used to
that,
then you find that it's so beautiful,
it is not a soul in sight. All I can hear is birdsong. I song.
And I was, I wouldn't even be talking if I didn't have to record
this fuzzy reminder. But where is on my neck? So I do it
that think about it. I mean, this is the, you know, this is
available to everybody. Six in the morning happens for everyone. Four
in the morning happens for everyone.
My brother says this,
make this into your daily routine.
Now, what's that
wake up in the morning
for tahajjud,
so that is, you're waking up
an hour before this time for Fajr starts
and pray at the hajit. And after that, read one juice of Quran,
and then pray savatar, Fajr, by Java,
let your day begin like this.
And once you finish saddha Fajr, then go for a walk.
Walk 10,000 steps. That is five miles,
right, come back home.
And then, depending on what the time is and what your rest of the
day schedule looks like,
you know,
either
get a rap, if you like, if you really feeling so sleepy, sleep
for an hour or so, usually
you will find that you won't feel sleepy at that time.
And
then, you know, have your breakfast and so on. Now, as far
as
sleep is concerned, first of all, you don't need as much as you
think. Nobody needs eight hours of sleep. Please forget about all
these sleep doctors who tell you, tell you these stories. This is,
you know, I don't know why they say that, because this is, as far
as I'm constantly not true.
You do not need eight hours sleep.
Eight hours is 1/3 of your life. Think about this, 24 hours in a
day, eight is 1/3 of that, which means that if you're sleeping
eight hours per day, 1/3 33% of your life is
gone.
So you can increase your lifespan, not by the entire 33% because you
need some sleep, but by considerable amount of
that, just by sleeping less.
Because I don't know anybody who achieves anything by sleeping
so sleepless.
So if you want to wake up at four o'clock in the morning, if you
want to wake up an hour before south to further, you have to
sleep early.
So sleep after Sadat Isha, when you finish your sadhale Isha,
maybe, depending on which country you live in and so on here in
America now, salatia is at around bus died
by the time you finish it, come back home from the mercies. It may
be 10 or so.
10 1050
go to sleep, right? 1030 go to sleep. If you sleep at 1030
Believe me, will have absolutely no problem whatsoever waking up at
4am
none whatsoever, because from 1030 to 4am you would have got your
five and a half six hours of sleep,
right? So
do that
sleep early, depending on.
Which country you are in, you know, adjust it accordingly.
Sleep early
part of discipline.
Then, before you sleep,
keep a notebook.
In this notebook
on the left side, open it on the left side will be your
goals for the day. So write down three goals now you're doing this
before you go sleep, three goals that you need to accomplish for
the following day,
tomorrow morning. What are the three things that I need to do in
order of priority. And the order of priority will be according to
your life goal, which you should have written,
I should have written, you know, if you haven't written now, do
that the first thing, because without a goal, you cannot
prioritize. Without priority, your time will just go. It's a waste.
So
three goals for the next day in order of priority, and on the
right side is your assessment of what you actually accomplished.
So depending on the previous day's goals, this is what I
accomplished, 12345, so whatever your accomplishments were for the
day, you are going to write those down.
This is what I achieved for the day, right?
So please do this now, once you do that, then do your scarf for the
right
read Suratul sajdah and read
Suratul mulk, because this is the hadith of rasa salah, hadith of
our mother, Aisha Siddiq, who said that Rasul never
slept until he read these two surahs, Suratul sajdah and Suratul
mukh. So do that?
Read these two surahs, and
in other Hadith, there is a Salah said the one who reads Suratul
bakiya before going to sleep, Allah will never allow him to face
poverty and starvation. So do that research as well. And the
the benefit of reading all of these is the Nabhi salaam said,
Whoever reads 80 ayat of the Quran before he goes to bed, he or she
will be written among the carnitine among the obedient
slaves of Allah, Subhanahu taala, and that's a wonderful place to
have your name In that list. So when you read surah Al wa sajda
and Surat murq.
These are, you know, renewal, much more than the 80 ayat that you
need. So alhamdulillah, now you've got your ayat and
you've got your
your name has been written in the carnival, and then you do the
Afghan of
the night. There is this wonderful book called history, Muslim,
Muslim thing, which has all the Afghan of the night of the day.
So I tell kurzi the
class and the motor thing, so to furnace of the NAS, and then does
the Fatima, and so on and so on. So all of this, finish all that,
go to sleep, and you will find that you will sleep beautifully.
You will have beautiful dreams, and you will wake up relaxed and
fresh
in time for the Hajj. Make the knee at wake up in time for the
Hajj, and will wake up inshaAllah and haldullah. Your day begins.
Remember when you wake up, the first thing you do is again the
Ascar you make, you say, Shaul Allah, you know, make this into a
habit. May Allah reward the sheik who told me this I was a little
kid,
and in Hyderabad,
I had gone with my dear friend and mentor, now
to the house of the sheik.
And he said a wonderful thing. He didn't say to me, just in that
that gathering, he said, but I it stuck in my mind.
He said, make this into your habit, that when your eyes open
from sleep, the first thing you say is Shabad, lahi, Rahila, wa
shadra, Abu Hamma da rasulallah,
he said, because when you are in your grave and you are lying
there, and the angels come monkey, and they wake you up and they say,
sit up. And you say, Allah, that's the first thing out of your mouth,
because this is what you have conditioned yourself to do. This
kind of positive, good conditioning is eminently,
eminently desirable. So do that.
Let's do that after that,
you know, when you get out of bed, the first thing you do is to make
your bed.
Please, understand all those people who want to go out there
and change the world, start with making your bed. If you cannot
make your bed, believe me, you are not going to change the world,
because you can't even change your bedroom. You cannot even change
your bed. And you want to change the world,
you know, give me a break. Start happening. So if you really are
serious about doing something useful in your life, start with
making your bed.
And then you ought to get out of bed and do your whatever you need
to do.
Remember,
starts discipline starts with that discipline. The sign of discipline
is number one that you make your bed when you
awake number two,
to ensure that your surroundings are clean,
your car is clean.
May Allah have mercy on people,
good people. Masha, Allah, I love them. But if one of them says, I
will pick you up to take your sentence, bliss,
you know, I
don't know what to say. I mean, I don't want to say, don't pick me
up, and I don't want to travel with you. But really, because
the person's car looks like a garbage bin with wheels,
you know. I mean, how
pleasant Do you think it is to travel in a garbage bin with
wheels half eaten food,
children's toys,
plastic bags, plastic bottles, all kinds of
old socks and shoes with their
full aromatic self,
you know, unwashed. I mean, clearly, think about that. I mean,
this is you want to begin your day. Forget about picking me up.
You know you're going to get up. You get out in the in the first
time you were getting out of the house, you're sitting in a car,
which is like a garbage
bin. How nasty is that for yourself?
Forget about others.
Don't do that. It's a mark of your
honor that your car should be cleaned. Your home should be
cleaned. Your surroundings should be cleaned. Teach this to your
children, taking care of the commons, taking care of your
surroundings. This is part of a clock. This is part of a clock.
We are. We belong to a religion. We follow, a religion which begins
with the hara,
which begins with the Hara rasalan is to teach in detail how to wash
after you urinate, how to wash after you defecate, how to do
also, after you have a intimate relation with your spouse,
you started, this is what the business learns to teach
in detail these things
now.
So when don't that go
without cleanliness, without clean clothes, without vodu or also as
the case might be, and without a clean place to pray, Our Salah is
not valid.
So discipline, cleanliness, discipline.
We are. We
belong to religion where the
fundamental principle the rook is Salah, and this Allah is cannot
all muminina kita, Abu Asmaa
subhanu Tah has made this far on the believers at specific times.
So I mean today we have actually really
causes me so much of grief and anger that not only have Muslims,
not only are Muslims indisciplined, not only are we and
I.
Ah, that not only do we have no respect for time, either our own
time or the time other people, but we actually take pride in it. We
joke about it. You say, Oh, this is Muslim time. This is Arab time.
I mean, what is this? It is so horrible. You are doing something
which is wrong, and you take pride in it. You joke about
disgusting. It is absolutely disgusting.
People should be able to set their set their watches and clocks
looking at you
today, they can't,
because we are so indisciplined,
so completely lost in this, we need to change, and that change
begins with yourself.
My change begins with myself.
If I were recording this sitting in my house
or lying in my bed, this would be worthless, but I am recording this
on my walk,
so please
do that. Make sure that you bring about disability in your life, my
brothers and sisters, I want to close with
something sharing with you something which my father taught
me.
Has a blessed memory.
He used to have a practice. Alhamdulillah,
we are from Hyderabad, and at least in the days when I was
growing up,
even servants and servants so you didn't need to actually do
anything yourself. You could actually just sit. And many people
did. They would just sit on top of, you know, and if you are
Hyderabad, you know what I talk of this,
especially the, you know women, and
they sit in the arm chairs, and you would have servants running
around doing stuff for you. Pani Rao, Dawa la voila. Chapala,
chapal, pinao Judaic, imagine this is if you use you. You want a
servant to remove your shoe for you. You want a servant to bring
your shoe for you, and so forth. Now,
my father didn't done none of this. Not only did he not do done
any of this, but he
had a practice every Sunday
after breakfast
himself, as well as all of us
would sit. He would call all of us, and we would sit with our
shoes lined up in front of us. Each of us had a had two pairs of
leather shoes, a black pair and a brown pair. And we had, in those
days, we didn't have all these fancy sneakers. We just wore
canvas shoes, and these canvas shoes were either brown or most of
the time they were not brown, they were white, which means that these
shoes had to be
whitened. And we did that with you, put a kind of lime paste on
them,
and the dried became shiny white. So we would sit with all these
shoes, and then we would polish them. And I remember me. I can
polish shoes. You can see your face in that shoes. I can polish
them so beautifully because I learnt. My father taught me. My
father was a was a medical he
was a medical doctor and a surgeon, both physicians answered,
and he's teaching his children to polish shoes. Can you imagine? So
we used to polish our shoes. So we would, he would sit there, we
would sit there, and then we would polish the shoes
black.
We had two brushes, a Polish application brush and a shining
brush,
and then there was a piece of cloth. So you put on your black
polish with a black polish application brush, and then you
shown the
black shoe with the black shining brush. You You know,
I don't know how to describe it in Word, but to see it
go to Bombay and you see on the railway station, these boys
polishing shoes. I did that. I didn't do it for a living, but I
did that for my own
shoes to so polish them, and brown Polish application brush and brown
shining brush for the brown shoes, and then the white
canvas shoes. We put the lime on it, and then we put the shoes
away. Now, after you polish, you shine, shine.
The shoe with the brush. Then you took a piece of cloth, and you
folded it lengthwise,
and you held the shoe between your knees, and you ran that cloth back
and forth over the shoe until you got a shine. Literally, I mean,
you know
you could see this. You couldn't see your face in the shoe,
obviously, but it was like that. It was shined until it couldn't
shine anymore,
and then we'd put the shoes away
before we went to school. Every day,
my father would inspect our and my mother did the same thing. They
would inspect our clothes. They would inspect our shoes.
And everything had to be clear. Everything had to be we didn't
need to wash our clothes and iron our clothes. This was done for us,
but you needed to make sure that you wore those clothes properly.
And then the shoes were shining and you were cleared them, and
then you went to school.
So that was a
dog who was greeting me in the morning. So we did this. The
reason I'm saying this all, saying this to all of you, is because I
hope to take away something from this, and you train your children
like this,
teach them the value of labor.
As I told you, we didn't shine our shoes because there was no one to
do that. We shown we shined our shoes because that was the right
thing to
do. My father would never allow
the servants to do that for us. Never
your shoes you shined. Someone didn't do that for
you. But this is the kind of discipline, and I'm really I hope
that you know,
some of you at least, will inculcate these things in your
children, because, like I am now thanking my father by spreading
that message.
I don't know, maybe 60 years after this was done,
Inshallah, you will do the same,
and your children will become
the self for you
ask Allah to help us to do that which is pleasing to Him, and to
save us from that which does not please Him. O Salallahu, Annabel,
Karima Ali, he was aware. Salado Karbala.