Mirza Yawar Baig – Rules of success
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The speakers discuss the laws of physics and how it applies to human success, including the importance of making an effort to influence others and showing one's behavior to help others. They stress the benefits of investing in one's life and life after a long period of time, including the benefits of education and respect for elders. The speakers emphasize the importance of learning and pursuing education to build confidence and expect success in life.
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In the name of Allah, the Most Gracious,
the Most Merciful.
All praise is due to Allah, Lord of
the worlds.
And peace and blessings be upon the messengers
and messengers.
Muhammad, the Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings
be upon him and his family and companions.
Peace and blessings be upon you.
My brothers and sisters, Allah created the universe
and He made the laws that govern, that
run the universe.
We call them the laws of physics, call
them natural laws, whether it is gravity, whether
it is aerodynamics, whether it is thermodynamics, and
whatever it might be, all of these are
natural laws, physical laws of physics, which Allah
created to run the universe.
The world operates according to these laws.
Similarly, Allah created laws for human success.
And these laws that Allah created for human
success are also the creation of Allah.
And they are also as unchangeable, unimitable as
the laws of physics.
And they affect whoever is in the purview
of that law equally.
It doesn't matter whether you are Muslim, non
-Muslim, whether you believe in Allah or don't
believe in Allah, it makes no difference.
These laws will operate on you just like
they operate on anybody else.
If you jump out of a plane at
20,000 feet in a skydiving session, if
you don't pull your parachute at the right
point, you will die.
There is no other thing that will happen.
You can say, I'm Hafiz Qur'an, I'm
Mufti Azam, I have memorized all the Siyasitta,
all the books of Hadith, seven books of
Hadith, I'm the Imam of the Haram, you
can be anybody.
If you don't pull the ripcord of the
parachute, you are a dead man.
As simple as that.
The law of Allah does not change because
you know the Qur'an.
The same principle applies to the laws of
success in life.
The benefit is that when those laws of
success in life are applied, are worked on
by a Muslim and he adds on to
that with the Ibadah of Allah, with Zikr,
with Shukr, then they give him Barakah.
But without operating within the law, if he
only does Ibadah and Zikr and Shukr, nothing
will happen.
That's the reason why Sayyidina Khattab came into
the Masjid one day at a time and
it was not time for any Salah and
there were some young men sitting there and
he said, who are you?
Why are you here at this time?
They said, we are the people who make
Tawakkur.
Allah, Sayyidina Umar, whacked them with a Dura
and said, get out.
Go and work.
He said, Dinar and Dirham don't fall from
the sky like rain.
And he said, the bird leaves the nest
and goes out in search of food and
comes back with a full belly.
Allah feeds the bird but not in the
nest.
You have to get out.
You have to go and do some work.
So the first and foremost law of human
success is that we must make an effort.
We have to stop talking and start walking.
Right?
You have to make effort.
Second law of human success is that to
influence, you must be involved.
To influence, you must be involved.
You cannot influence from the outside.
If you want to win the game, right,
where should you be?
On the field.
You should be playing the game.
Then you can decide, can I win the
game?
How can I win the game?
If you are standing outside in the stands,
you can want anything, that doesn't matter.
You don't change the outcome of the game
because you are not a player.
The players decide whether the game is won
or lost.
It is by their effort.
It's not by the screaming of the spectators.
So if you want to win the game,
you must be involved in it.
So if you want to influence, you must
be involved.
The more involved you are, the more influence
you will have.
The less involved you are, the less influence
you will have.
So get involved.
Volunteer.
Show what you can do.
Contribute.
And then people will listen to you.
When you say something, people will listen because
you are there.
They are seeing you as a helper.
They are seeing you as somebody who was
with them in good and bad times.
So then they will listen to you.
Second point.
Third point is in order to influence, you
must be able to speak in the language
which makes sense to the people.
And by language I don't mean Arabic or
English.
I mean how you present your case.
And for that I have a formula.
My formula is WIIFM.
WIIFM.
What's in it for me?
What is in it for me?
If I want you to do something for
me, I must show you how it will
help you.
Straightforward way is of course to say, well,
do this for me, I will pay you
$10,000.
Okay.
But not everything can be done that way.
Not everyone has a price.
Right.
You can't go to somebody and say, do
this because I will pay you.
Okay, I don't need your money.
Show how doing, going by your recommendation, show
how doing what you are advising them to
do will help them.
What's in it for me?
It's not a matter of deceiving anybody.
We're not deceiving anyone.
It is the truth, but not everyone sees
the truth the way you want them to
see it.
So show it to them.
They say, this is how it will help
us.
You're seeing a classic example today, for example,
of what is happening in Gaza and Philistine,
where everybody's talking about how bad the situation
is in Philistine.
And people are saying, stop the wall.
Alhamdulillah, very good.
But is the wall stopping?
No.
It's not stopping.
I'll tell you why it's not stopping.
Because we are not able to show the
people who are, I won't say fighting the
wall.
There's no fight.
This is just massacre.
The people who are massacring, we are not
able to show them how stopping that will
help them.
We're just saying stop it because it will
help us.
They don't care.
If they cared about you, they wouldn't do
it in the first place.
No?
You think they care about you?
No.
Are children dying?
Of course.
Let them die.
How can you show what's in it for
them?
This is an extreme example because we are
seeing it today.
But take a very simple, normal example.
Supposing you have a business and you've got
your employees who are working.
And you tell the employee, you must come
on time.
The shop opens, the factory opens, the business
opens at 9 a.m. You should be
here at 9 a.m. Show him why.
What's the benefit?
We tell people, get involved in the masjid.
Why?
What's the benefit?
You might say, well, no, this is kind
of dumb because you mean to tell me
I need to explain to you why you
should come to the masjid?
You don't understand the benefit?
No, you don't understand the benefit.
This is the reality.
If we understood the benefit, you would be
here.
So we have to go outside our comfort
zone and show people what's in it for
them.
Communication is the key to success.
Communicating in an inspiring way.
The way you can get people inspired to
stand up and do something.
Rasulullah s.a.w. is a beautiful example
of that.
He was able to inspire people to dedicate
their entire lives, literally.
To give their life for the sake of
his dawah, dawah to Islam.
He didn't pay anybody anything.
Nobody did that for a salary.
No one did that for a bonus.
No.
He sent Musa bin Ubaidah al-Anwar to
Madinah to preach Islam.
Did he get a salary?
Did he get a bonus?
He did it his whole life.
He finally got Shahada in the Battle of
Uhud.
All the people, all the Sahaba who died
before Fatah Makkah, they died before they could
see the Fatah of Islam.
Before the success of Islam.
But nobody gave up his work.
No one said, I'm tired.
So Rasulullah s.a.w. was able to
inspire them in such a way that they
continued to work despite all the difficulties.
So communication.
Inspiring communication.
Getting people to understand the value for themselves
in what you want them to do.
And the fourth principle of success is think
about the benefit for others.
Allah s.w.t. created a cyclical process.
If I benefit you, I get benefited automatically.
But if I say, what can I get
out of it?
Then you will fail.
Say, what can I contribute to it?
What can I do to help others and
serve others?
And you will find that things will come
back to you.
Always.
Things will always come back to you.
If you serve, you will get the return.
So we ask Allah s.w.t. to
help us to practice what we hear and
what we speak.
And to benefit us from that.
We are seeing in the world today the
results of contribution over a long period of
time.
The people who, today we say, oh they
are underworld, they have this power, they have
that power.
You forget the fact that of what they
did for the last 100 years.
From the First World War, 1947 onwards.
1938 onwards.
That is paying off now.
Now you are seeing the results.
Hundreds of millions of dollars worth of investment.
Not small investments, but hundreds of millions.
So when you are sitting on a pile
where you have invested hundreds of millions, then
you get to call the shots.
Whether anyone else likes it or not, that
is reality.
Now you don't want to invest that money,
but you want to call the shots.
Go fly a kite.
There is no magic.
There is no magic.
There is investment and return.
Invest per return.
You invest, you get a return.
For three, four generations you invest your children
into making them attorneys, into making them legal
experts, into putting them into academia, they become
professors, shaping their minds.
You get the payoff.
For generation after generation you pamper your kids.
Doesn't matter if they don't work.
Because you have money, you feed them, they
get the best gadgets.
And then what happens?
They fall by the wayside.
They get an odd job here, odd job
there.
They open their eyes and say it is
because daddy paid for it.
The other guy is riding a bicycle.
Believe me, they are not equal.
They are not equal.
I always tell all my students, from the
minute you are 18 years old, I say
18 because that's when I started.
From the time you are 18 years old,
if you are taking money from your father,
you are a beggar.
And what he is giving you is charity.
Bheek.
Begari hai, bheek lena hai.
Aur kuch nahi.
If you take one dollar from your father,
you are a beggar.
Earn it.
Earn your own money.
I never took from the time I was
18 years old, nothing.
Earn your own money.
You will learn.
That's when you get, that's how you get
confidence.
Earn your own money.
Get jobs, earn money, whatever you want.
Never go back to your father for anything.
Here you are in your 20s, sometimes even
30s, wearing branded clothes.
Who paid for it?
Daddy.
Driving a fancy car, who paid for it?
Daddy.
Credit card in the pocket, who pays the
bill?
Daddy.
Who puts gas in the car?
Daddy.
Who pays the phone bill?
Daddy.
Top of the line phone, paid by whom?
Daddy.
La, how long I could tell you.
And then you think somehow magically you are
going to be sitting as the president of
this university, on the board of that university,
in Congress, in Parliament.
Dream on, boy.
Dream on.
This is what we are seeing.
This is what we are seeing today in
this world.
Whether you like it or not, this is
what we are seeing.
People who put their life and soul into
it.
I can tell you, they have written case
studies, people who were billionaires, they made their
children cycle to school.
The guy could have bought the whole school.
No?
You would get onto a regular bus, you
would go to the school.
You get on a bike, you go to
the school.
Daddy, you are driving a, you know, whatever,
Bugatti, yeah.
I paid for the Bugatti.
When will I drive a Bugatti when you
pay for the Bugatti?
My father told me this.
Not a Bugatti.
My father taught me to drive a car.
He got one of his drivers from his
factory.
He taught me to drive a car.
My father had a Fiat.
So I got a license.
And that's 1977.
Before Avadi was born.
1975 or 77.
My first license.
So I was very happy.
Then one day I wanted to go somewhere.
So I went to my dad.
I said, can I borrow the car?
He said, whose car?
I said, your car.
He said, how?
Why would you want to borrow my car?
He said, I have to go to a
friend's place.
He said, no.
Get on a bus and go.
So I said, but you taught me to
drive.
He said, yes.
That's a skill.
You should know how to drive.
So I said, when will I drive a
car?
He said, when you buy your car.
Literally.
He said, you will drive a car when
you buy your car.
Period.
May Allah bless you.
Parents were tough.
Parents were tough.
I fell off a horse.
It's a long story.
I fell off a horse, dislocated my shoulder,
came out.
There was another friend of mine.
The horse ran away.
There was a friend of mine.
So I told him, hold my hand.
Hit me hard here and jerk.
The shoulder came back into the socket.
Right?
So the horse ran away.
Now this shoulder is paining like this on
fire.
Fire or no fire, you cannot leave your
horse to run away.
You have to get your horse.
So my friend and I, we go.
Round up the horse.
Catch the horse.
I get back on the horse.
Take it back to the stable.
And then I get home.
Now when I get home, my shoulder is
like a football.
It's huge.
So my mom is sitting there.
So I go over to my mother.
I tell her, this is what happened.
I am like, I would have been about
15.
I said, this is what has happened.
My mother, when she sees the whole thing,
she recites one line of poetry.
May Allah bless my parents.
They were both tough.
My mother says, Girte hain shahis awaari maidaan
hain jung mein.
Wo tipul kya girega jo khudno ke bal
chale.
My mother says, only the knights fall in
battle.
What will a child, how will a child
fall who is crawling?
So this is finished?
She said, go to the hospital, get it
bandaged.
That's it.
She didn't say, oh my son, oh my
God, what happened, nothing.
She said, go to the hospital, get it
bandaged.
I said, alhamdulillah.
I had parents like this.
No, no, no, no, pandering and, oh, my
poor child.
No, no, poor child.
You are a man, behave like a man,
period.
So I remind myself and you, Allah's laws
don't change.
Allah's laws are the same.
You want to succeed in this world?
Learn, respect your elders, take advice, stop acting
like a *, do some hard work, and
you will succeed.
You don't want to do that?
You want to sit around?
You want to get your parents to pay
for you?
You want to disrespect elders?
You don't want to learn from people?
No problem.
No problem, brother.
It's your life.
But if you think you will succeed, not
only, I told you, you don't want to
die, pull the ripcord of the parachute, otherwise
you are a dead man.
Same principles apply to life.
We ask Allah to help us to learn
and understand and to live lives which are
successful and to live lives where we leave
behind a legacy of success.