Mirza Yawar Baig – Prepare for success

Mirza Yawar Baig
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The speaker discusses the negative impact of young people's education systems on society and how they have caused drop in growth. They stress the importance of learning and taking responsibility for one's own lives, rather than trying to convince them to do something. The speaker gives a checklist for parents to measure success and encourages them to focus on their own success rather than their generation. They also emphasize the need to practice setting goals and metrics to monitor success and to focus on their own success.

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			بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم.
		
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			الحمد لله رب العالمين.
		
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			والصلاة والسلام على شرف الأنبياء والمرسلين.
		
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			محمد رسول الله صلى الله عليه وعلى آله
		
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			وسلم تسليماً كثيراً كثيراً.
		
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			Our brothers and sisters, we have heard many
		
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			people talk about the fact that Rasulullah صلى
		
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			الله عليه وسلم used to encourage the youth,
		
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			and he gave a lot of very serious
		
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			responsibilities to young people.
		
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			For example, we have the case of Usama
		
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			bin Zaid رضي الله عنه who was given
		
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			command of the army, of a battalion which
		
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			was going for a Ghazwah, and in that
		
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			army were some very senior Sahaba.
		
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			We have the example of Musa ibn Umair
		
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			رضي الله عنه who Rasulullah صلى الله عليه
		
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			وسلم sent from Mecca to Medina as his
		
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			representative.
		
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			And many of the great Sahaba, many of
		
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			the great Ansari Sahaba of Medina accepted Islam
		
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			at the hands of Musa ibn Umair رضي
		
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			الله عنه, including Sa'ad bin Mu'adh
		
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			رضي الله عنه, and Husayn bin Hudayr رضي
		
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			الله عنه, and others.
		
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			Mu'adh bin Jawal رضي الله عنه, another
		
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			great Sahabi, who Rasulullah صلى الله عليه وسلم
		
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			sent as his governor and Qadi to Yemen.
		
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			And we have the famous Hadith where Rasulullah
		
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			صلى الله عليه وسلم was holding the bridle
		
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			of his horse, and Mu'adh bin Jawal
		
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			was mounted on the horse, and the Prophet
		
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			صلى الله عليه وسلم led the horse out
		
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			of Medina, and he gave him advice.
		
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			It's a long Hadith, I won't mention it
		
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			here, but he gave him advice, he asked
		
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			him questions about how he will judge, the
		
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			basis of judgment from which we have our
		
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			basis of our Sharia, which is the Kitab
		
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			of Allah, the Sunnah of his Nabi صلى
		
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			الله عليه وسلم, Ijma and Qiyas.
		
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			And there are others.
		
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			But remember one thing, Rasulullah صلى الله عليه
		
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			وسلم gave these enormous responsibilities to these young
		
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			people, not because they were young.
		
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			So understand that.
		
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			We get sidetracked, we say, oh, youth, youth.
		
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			Youth has nothing to do with it.
		
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			It is the effort that those particular youth
		
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			put into learning the Deen, and they came
		
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			up to the standard of the Nabi صلى
		
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			الله عليه وسلم, so he chose them.
		
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			He didn't just randomly pick anybody.
		
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			He didn't say, okay, all 15-year-olds
		
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			come and stand here.
		
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			No, he picked one person.
		
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			That person happened to be 15.
		
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			That person happened to be 17.
		
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			That person happened to be 20.
		
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			That is immaterial.
		
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			So don't get your priorities upside down.
		
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			He didn't pick any 20-year-old.
		
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			He didn't pick any 17-year-old.
		
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			He picked Musab ibn Umair رضي الله عنه
		
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			because he was Musab ibn Umair, not because
		
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			he was 17.
		
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			So what does it tell us?
		
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			It tells us that unfortunately in our society,
		
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			all that our education system has done, it
		
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			has postponed childhood.
		
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			It has postponed childhood.
		
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			It has postponed maturity.
		
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			So we have 20-year-olds and 23
		
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			-year-olds and 25-year-olds and 26
		
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			-year-olds who are still staying at home,
		
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			and their mother makes parathas for them, and
		
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			they eat that paratha, and the father pays
		
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			all the bills, and they think they are
		
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			cat's whiskers.
		
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			Seriously, they have not seen one single day
		
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			of hardship in their life.
		
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			They have not sweated anywhere.
		
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			If you put them in one place and
		
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			there is no air conditioning, they will have
		
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			a fit.
		
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			They freak out.
		
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			This is what our education system has done.
		
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			Created adults who think they are children.
		
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			This we have to break out of because
		
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			the laws of Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala's
		
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			world don't change because we have a Sikh
		
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			society which has an education system which does
		
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			not educate.
		
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			What are Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala's laws?
		
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			Allah's laws are those who make the effort,
		
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			who learn, who take hardship, will win.
		
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			No matter which year, whether it is the
		
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			7th century, whether it is the 15th century,
		
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			whether it is the 20th century, whether it
		
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			is the 50th century, or any century, this
		
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			is the law of Allah subhanahu wa ta
		
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			'ala, the one who makes the effort.
		
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			Not your name, not your nasab, not your
		
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			hasab, not your wealth, not your father's name,
		
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			not how much money you have.
		
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			How much effort do you put into whatever
		
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			it is that you are doing?
		
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			And therefore, I advise myself and you, I
		
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			am very happy to see a lot of
		
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			young people in the masjid.
		
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			Alhamdulillah, spend time in the masjid.
		
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			Not just spend time as in sit around
		
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			in the masjid, do something.
		
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			Learn.
		
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			Take responsibility.
		
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			I have a checklist.
		
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			If you want to see whether you are
		
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			capable of responsibility, whether you are fit to
		
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			be considered an adult or not, I have
		
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			a checklist.
		
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			Let me tell you.
		
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			And this is an American checklist.
		
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			How many of you do the laundry in
		
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			your house?
		
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			Everybody's laundry.
		
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			How many of you wash dishes?
		
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			How many of you clean your house?
		
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			How many of you take out the garbage?
		
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			How many of you wash your father's cars?
		
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			Alhamdulillah, you are a winner.
		
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			But there's one kid.
		
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			How many of you sit and eat parathas?
		
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			He's still a winner.
		
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			Alhamdulillah, he deserves the paratha.
		
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			Nothing wrong, alhamdulillah, if your mother is cooking,
		
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			she's cooking for you.
		
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			But after you eat that, how many of
		
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			you go and thank your mother and say,
		
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			Subhanallah, because you are here, I'm getting this.
		
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			You do that?
		
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			You go and tell her that?
		
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			Because of you, I even grew up to
		
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			this stage.
		
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			Because of you, I have this beautiful life
		
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			in this house.
		
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			Jazakumullahu khairan, my mother.
		
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			Do you say that?
		
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			You are 15, 20, 20 years have passed,
		
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			15 years have passed, and you have not
		
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			said one word.
		
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			And your mother, if she had not literally
		
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			dedicated her life to you, I'm not exaggerating,
		
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			you would be dead.
		
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			You would be dead.
		
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			Because no newborn child can survive on its
		
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			own.
		
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			Simple as that, right?
		
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			It will perish.
		
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			Do we go and thank our mothers?
		
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			So very important.
		
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			Alhamdulillah, good.
		
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			You are on the right path.
		
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			You are coming out.
		
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			You are doing the work of, starting out
		
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			in the work of Deen.
		
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			Monitor yourself and say, before this period, what
		
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			did I know?
		
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			After this period, what do I know?
		
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			I'm spending 10 days, 15 days, 20 days,
		
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			whatever it is, you are coming out in
		
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			Jama'at.
		
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			What do you know more than what you
		
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			began with?
		
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			It's not magic, right?
		
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			You can measure it.
		
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			So what do you know more?
		
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			Do you know one surah more?
		
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			Do you know to recite better?
		
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			Which usoor have you learnt?
		
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			Which ahadith have you learnt?
		
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			Which have you implemented in your life?
		
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			What have you learnt?
		
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			And if you have positive answers for all
		
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			of this, Alhamdulillah, great job.
		
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			Fantastic.
		
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			But if you don't have those positive answers,
		
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			that I spent all this time, and then
		
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			somebody says, lead your salah, and my surah
		
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			Fatiha itself is wrong, then what is the
		
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			point of all this time that you spent?
		
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			So let us monitor ourselves.
		
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			All of us.
		
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			I mean, I'm not talking, I'm talking to
		
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			these young people, Mashallah, Alhamdulillah, Jazakallah, Khair for
		
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			coming.
		
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			You are most welcome.
		
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			Who have come from different places, New Jersey,
		
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			New York, and so on, but this applies
		
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			to all of us.
		
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			It applies to me, me, and you, and
		
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			all of us.
		
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			Monitor ourselves and say, what have I learnt
		
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			as I'm going through life?
		
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			Three more days to go before the earth
		
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			completes one circle around the sun.
		
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			How does that help me?
		
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			How does it change my life?
		
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			And that's what I advise you and myself
		
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			to do.
		
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			Learn skills.
		
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			Learn how to communicate.
		
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			Learn how to deal with conflicts.
		
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			You will have conflicts.
		
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			You will have conflicts.
		
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			There is no person on the face of
		
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			the earth, if you are living in society,
		
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			you will have conflicts.
		
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			How do you deal with those conflicts?
		
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			That's why your success will depend on the
		
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			way you deal with the conflict.
		
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			How do you set goals?
		
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			How do you set metrics to monitor those
		
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			goals?
		
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			How do you keep yourself motivated?
		
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			One of the biggest issues, especially if Allah
		
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			gives you success early in life, is plateauing.
		
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			There is some hunger.
		
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			There is some drive.
		
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			But once it comes to a point, okay,
		
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			I've got a nice house.
		
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			I've got a car.
		
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			Now what?
		
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			Boom.
		
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			How do you keep yourself motivated?
		
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			So please think about all this.
		
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			I don't want to take too much of
		
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			your time.
		
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			Think about this.
		
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			Make tawbah, make istighfar, because Allah subhanahu wa
		
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			ta'ala opens the doors of your rizq
		
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			for those who make istighfar and tawbah.
		
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			Use the time to bring in good habits.
		
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			One of which is praying tahajjud.
		
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			Alhamdulillah, you are in itikaf in the masjid,
		
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			tahajjud becomes easy, but make that into your
		
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			habit lifelong.
		
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			When you go back home also, make sure
		
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			that you are getting up half an hour,
		
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			45 minutes before the time for Salatul Fajr
		
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			begins, pray tahajjud, read some Quran, and then
		
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			go to the masjid for Salatul Fajr.
		
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			Make this into your routine every single day.
		
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			So your day begins with the worship of
		
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			Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala.
		
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			Then Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala will make
		
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			the day full of khair and barakah for
		
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			us.
		
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			We ask Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala to
		
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			help us to get close to Him.
		
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			We ask Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala to
		
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			enable us to do those actions which lead
		
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			to His Rida.
		
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			We ask Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala to
		
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			be pleased with us and to protect us
		
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			from everything that does not please Him.