Mirza Yawar Baig – Nathan’s wedding
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The speaker discusses the importance of respect and love in marriage, and advises young people to keep a notebook and record every day to avoid unnecessary embarrassment. They also suggest avoiding anger and fulfilling personal duties to achieve a happy marriage.
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Between the 2 of them.
The Ayat of Suratul rule which I decided
Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala called the wedding,
Varahma
and mercy.
In nafiradikala
ayatye nikohmi yatha fakkaros,
verily in this are science
Allah
has given us
beautiful spouses.
For some of us, we have been married
for a long time,
is to have peace and harmony with each
other.
Sukoon, if you look at the at the
Arabic
diaphragm symbols
on the letters
which help you to pronounce. And we said
the harakah meaning the movement of the letter.
You have fatha or zabat,
Injala. Sukoon and peace is with each other.
Love for each other.
These thoughts, the heart, the eyes, the hands,
the feet, do not move away from each
other to anybody else.
It talks as sukur means fidelity, sukur means
faithfulness
in thought,
in ideas,
in what you see, in who you interact
with faithfulness
to your spouse.
Sukur also means harmony.
It means that the home
should be a place
of harmony.
It's not
a boxing ring.
The home is not a place where you
try out every day a boxing match or
a judo match to see who wins. Today,
I win. Today is my day. Tomorrow is
your day. No. This is not the purpose
of marriage.
The third thing is the home is like
the harbor.
The ship is on the high seas. It
is
experiencing
storms. It's experiencing all kind of stress. But
if there is a storm in the harbor,
we have problems. So the harbor must be
a place which is free from storms. So
my advice to you is
never sleep with an argument.
Never argue in the bedroom.
And conversation is not this food is not
this food is not this food is not
that's not conversation. Conversation is talking, sharing thoughts,
and ideas, sharing
hopes and aspirations,
fears and apprehensions.
This is conversation.
And that must happen between the 2.
2nd word Allah used is love.
Love for each other. Love comes out of
respect.
Love is not only physical attraction. Physical attraction
is not long lasting. Right? We hope it
lasts forever. It tells you. You know I
you know that. I know that. You will
know that. The point is that
what stays
is what comes out of respect.
Respect for each other. Respect for each other's
work. Respect for each other as human beings.
And that comes out of what comes out
of your mouth. If what comes out of
your mouth is cursing,
is profanity,
is screaming, is yelling, and so on, there's
no respect. It goes away. Speak to each
other with respect.
Speak to each other with love.
Don't speak to each other in anger.
Right? I advise a lot of young people,
keep a notebook.
A nice big,
you know, fullscap or or a 4 size
notebook that you have to register the right
thing. Keep it in a place in your
house, which is accessible to both of them.
Right? And then what you must do is,
in that register,
write down everyday
something you like about the other person.
Everyday.
This morning you smile.
I have sinned.
I am wrong. Forgive me. Why? Because you
are merciful.
Be merciful to each other.
Right?
Will you do something wrong that your wife
is, going to be upset about? Yes. You
will.
Will she do something wrong? Like, right now,
she's looking at the phone, and she should
listen to this lecture. She will?
Lecture. She will.
Right? And this is all recorded. It's going
on the Internet, so I'm
But doesn't matter. It's okay. Right? So the
point is,
doesn't matter if somebody
is doing something
to get offended or not is a micronome.
Don't get offended. If something is offensive,
then it's a matter of,
Finally, I want to end with 1 line
I use by the word. I tell them,
people come to me and they say,
what are my rights
as a wife?
What are my rights as a husband? I
tell them,
forget your rights.
Fulfill your duties. Mhmm.
Because if you fulfill your duties,
the rights of the other will automatically get
fulfilled.
Number 1. Number 2, when you stand upon
Allah, you will be questioned about your duties,
not about your rights. Allah will not say
what were your rights. Allah will say, did
you fulfill
her duties?
And Allah will ask you, did you fulfill
his duties?
His rights are getting fulfilled. You have a
happy wife.
So I wish you all a beautiful marriage.
I wish you a beautiful life. I wish
you
beautiful children,
lots of them, and I wish you a
wonderful,
future going forward.