Mirza Yawar Baig – My Gift for You

Mirza Yawar Baig
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The speakers share two stories about their motto, which is not to allow control to prevent behavior from happening. They discuss the loss of family and money due to merchant fault, as well as a woman losing her family and money due to a black pearl. The speakers warn against letting people control what is in one's control and offer teaching stories. They also provide a warning to people in control to not let anything prevent them from doing what is in their control.

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			My friends,
		
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			today we live in a world where sometimes
		
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			we feel
		
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			overwhelmed
		
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			by global events, by local events, by politics,
		
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			by all kinds of forces
		
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			which seem to be far too strong for
		
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			us to fight against.
		
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			We want peace. We want harmony. We want
		
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			mutual compassion.
		
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			We want
		
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			people to live together
		
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			focusing on
		
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			the really important things,
		
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			which is
		
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			our own
		
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			physical,
		
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			mental,
		
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			spiritual
		
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			well-being.
		
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			But the world seems to be going in
		
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			a completely opposite direction
		
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			and many times we feel
		
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			as if we have lost control.
		
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			We feel we we feel we never had
		
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			any control
		
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			and we don't know what to do.
		
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			So I want to share with you my
		
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			motto in life and tell you 2 stories.
		
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			Those of you who have been listening to
		
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			me over the years
		
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			have heard both these stories.
		
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			But it's a good thing for some things
		
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			to be repeated
		
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			and for us to be reminded
		
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			and for us to remind ourselves.
		
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			First my motto.
		
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			My motto in life is
		
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			I will not allow
		
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			what is not in my control
		
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			to prevent me from doing
		
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			what is in my control.
		
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			I will not allow
		
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			what is not in my control
		
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			to prevent me from doing what is in
		
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			my control.
		
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			So story 1,
		
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			it's a teaching teaching story and the story
		
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			is that
		
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			there was a little fishing village
		
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			and the people of this village used to
		
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			dive
		
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			for pearls.
		
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			Now in this village was
		
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			a young woman
		
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			who lived with her mother,
		
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			and they had no one else in the
		
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			world.
		
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			This young woman used to die for pearls,
		
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			and her mother
		
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			was very old and she was blind.
		
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			So every day after she came up with
		
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			her proper drive, the young woman would bring
		
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			the pearls home
		
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			and she would sort them out.
		
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			And what she considered to be the best
		
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			of the girls, 1 or 2 of those,
		
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			she would keep them in a bag
		
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			separate from the others
		
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			and keep that bag safely in a place
		
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			which her mother knew. She told her mother
		
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			to tear the bag.
		
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			The other pearls,
		
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			every month there was a pearl dealer who
		
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			would come to the village
		
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			and all the pearl divers
		
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			would
		
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			give their pearls to the dealer who would
		
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			pay them for it. And this is how
		
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			they live their lives.
		
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			Now one day this young woman
		
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			went
		
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			for her dive
		
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			and she got attacked by a shark
		
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			and she was killed.
		
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			When they came and told the mother,
		
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			the mother was absolutely devastated
		
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			because
		
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			not only had she lost her daughter who
		
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			she loved very much,
		
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			but she'd also lost
		
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			the only means of livelihood.
		
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			But those who live
		
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			have to live.
		
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			So
		
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			after a few days,
		
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			it so happened that it was a time
		
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			for the,
		
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			visit of the pearl,
		
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			merchant, the pearl trader.
		
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			So the mother remembered
		
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			that her daughter used to keep
		
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			pearls in a particular bag in a particular
		
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			place. So she took that bag and she
		
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			went to the dealer.
		
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			And
		
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			the dealer knew the story because, you know,
		
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			these things spread in the village very fast.
		
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			And she gave the bag to the dealer.
		
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			The dealer laid out the purse, poured out
		
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			the purse in the bag, laid them out
		
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			to assess their value
		
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			and,
		
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			he noticed that there was among those pearls
		
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			a black pearl.
		
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			Now I'm sure you must have heard the
		
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			value of black pearl is many times that
		
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			of
		
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			a regular pearl.
		
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			So this dealer
		
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			gave the old woman
		
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			full value
		
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			for all the pearls,
		
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			including the black pearl.
		
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			You're overwet and left.
		
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			The dealer had an assistant, the young man,
		
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			and the young man said to the dealer,
		
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			he said tell me
		
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			why did you do this?
		
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			The dealer says what?
		
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			He says why did you give the old
		
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			woman full value for all the pearls including
		
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			the black pearl which was several times the
		
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			value of the regular pearls
		
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			because
		
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			the assistant said
		
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			that
		
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			I'm not saying you should have robbed her.
		
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			I'm saying that
		
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			you could have given her
		
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			the value of a regular good pearl
		
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			in exchange for the black pearl. You do
		
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			not need to give her the actual value
		
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			of the black pearl,
		
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			which is several times the value of the
		
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			normal pearl.
		
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			And he said she didn't even know it
		
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			was there because if she knew if she
		
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			had known that there was a black pearl,
		
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			she would have mentioned that. She would have
		
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			said, look, here are the pearls and there
		
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			is a black pearl in there. She didn't
		
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			know that. She didn't know that and she's
		
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			blind.
		
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			The dealer looked at the man
		
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			and at his assistant.
		
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			He said, you know, you're right, she is
		
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			blind
		
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			but I'm not.
		
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			She is blind but I'm not.
		
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			So why must you and I continue
		
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			to work
		
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			when the whole world seems to be blind
		
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			to the injustices that are happening
		
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			because
		
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			the world may be blind
		
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			but we are not.
		
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			And so I ask myself
		
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			if not me,
		
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			then who?
		
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			My second story
		
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			is a true story
		
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			narrated by
		
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			Lauren Eiseley, the poet and the writer.
		
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			And Lauren Eiseley says
		
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			that he was
		
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			in
		
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			a beach resort
		
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			and every morning used to go for a
		
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			walk on the beach.
		
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			And one night there was a tremendous storm
		
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			and the next morning when Rodney came out
		
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			of his his
		
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			his villa to go for a walk on
		
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			the beach, he saw the beach was littered
		
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			with debris from the sea
		
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			thrown up by the storm of the previous
		
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			night.
		
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			He said as he walked along
		
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			he saw in the distance
		
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			somebody who seemed to be doing some kind
		
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			of a dance you know
		
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			bending down
		
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			and touching this the sand and standing up
		
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			and making a throwing sort of motion. As
		
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			he came close, he found that it was
		
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			actually a little boy
		
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			who was bending down and picking up things
		
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			from the sand and throwing them into the
		
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			sea.
		
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			As brother as he got closer and he
		
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			saw that this little boy was picking up
		
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			starfish
		
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			which had been thrown out on the
		
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			on the beach in the night,
		
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			and he was throwing the starfish into the
		
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			sea.
		
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			Not as he looked around and said when
		
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			he saw there were literally thousands of starfish
		
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			on that whole beach,
		
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			so he said to the boy, he said
		
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			tell me
		
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			why are you doing this?
		
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			Yeah the boy had a starfish in his
		
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			hand. He said because
		
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			these cannot move
		
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			on the sand
		
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			and if I don't throw it into the
		
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			sea
		
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			it will die. When the sun comes out,
		
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			sun gets hot, it will die.
		
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			So I'm throwing it into the sea.
		
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			Lord Nizdi laughed
		
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			and he said just look at this beach.
		
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			He said can you even count the number
		
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			of starfish which are on this beach? The
		
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			boy said no.
		
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			God like this said look
		
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			How many beaches? How many thousands of square
		
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			miles of beach
		
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			are there in the world?
		
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			The voice said, I don't know.
		
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			He said,
		
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			all those beaches at some point in in
		
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			the year, many times in the year, they
		
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			experience storms in those areas, and
		
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			those beaches are littered with 1,000 upon 1,000,
		
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			maybe millions of starfish.
		
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			Have you any idea how much that is?
		
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			The boy says, no.
		
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			So a lot of scientists say what difference
		
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			will it make?
		
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			You are one little kid
		
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			here.
		
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			What difference does it
		
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			make? Why are you doing this?
		
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			The little kid
		
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			looked at the starfish in his hand. He
		
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			looked at Lord Nizli, he threw the starfish
		
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			into the sea and he said it made
		
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			a difference to that one.
		
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			It made a difference to that one.
		
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			One. A lot of my business I walked
		
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			away.
		
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			He said I walked for a while
		
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			and then I turned around
		
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			and I came back to the boat
		
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			and he said that boy and I
		
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			threw starfish
		
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			into the sea
		
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			for a long time.
		
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			That's why I say
		
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			I would not allow what is not in
		
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			my control
		
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			to prevent me from doing
		
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			what is in my control.
		
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			It is not in my control to stop
		
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			the storms.
		
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			It is not in my control to throw
		
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			every starfish that is wished
		
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			back into the ocean,
		
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			but it is in my control
		
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			to pick up that 1 starfish which I
		
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			can pick up and throw that 1 starfish
		
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			into the sea
		
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			and know with complete and total certainty
		
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			that I made a difference to that starfish
		
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			which is the difference between life and death.
		
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			And there is nothing more powerful than the
		
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			difference between life and
		
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			encouragement to you,
		
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			I applaud
		
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			and
		
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			I stand with and I support
		
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			all those people in the world
		
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			who are who stand for good,
		
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			who stand against oppression,
		
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			who want
		
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			humanity
		
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			to live like human beings,
		
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			who want to alleviate
		
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			suffering
		
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			who want to help those in need
		
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			and want
		
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			to stop the oppression
		
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			of those workers.
		
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			I remind myself anew,
		
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			do not allow
		
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			what is not in your control
		
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			to prevent you from doing
		
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			what is in your control.
		
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			Thank
		
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			you.