Mirza Yawar Baig – Living Islam #60
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The importance of practicing Islam for personal and professional growth is emphasized, along with the need for good behavior and character. The importance of understanding negative consequences and avoiding false assumptions is emphasized. A 360 degree appraisal is recommended to measure work performance and be specific in asking for feedback. Consciously settling accounts and avoiding cultural threats are also emphasized. The importance of practicing Islam for personal and professional growth is emphasized, along with the need for forgiveness and remediation.
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lorado Rahim al hamdu Lillahi Rabbil alameen wa Salatu was Salam ala shadowfell MBA will mousseline Muhammad Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam just leaving Kaziranga sera from abajo, mighty Bhavan sisters Alhamdulillah we are on the
we are on the lesson of
leaving Islam. And I asked Allah subhanaw taala to be
to give us the
tofik to practice this beautiful Dean
which he which he sent us for
which he sent us with and which he sent for us.
Sisters, it is a very important thing for us to remember this always and not to
not to forget this because Islam is the name of a practice it is the name of Amal it is the name of action, it is not theory
it is not just something to be practice, you know, when we feel like doing it,
it is something which is very, very important. And
also the issue is that with
with the issue of practice if you want to benefit from it, if you want the benefit of Islam to come
and to and to help you then you have to practice it this is true for any kind of practice of anything at all.
Today we begin the section of a clock
in this in our book of local living in Islam and I want to begin with the the best of it which is the love of Muhammad Rasul Allah is Allah seldom which Allah subhanaw taala himself praised and allows Raja reservoir in Allah Allah coloca Nazim in Surah two column and indeed you or Prophet Muhammad Sallallahu Sallam have a or our offer are on a great moral character.
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Luna Carlos Salama. Last Rhonda said that the slaves of the Most Merciful the slaves of man are those who walk on the earth.
Humbly.
Humbly and when the arrogant, addressed them harshly they say, Salam Allah, this is Allah they don't engage with them they don't try to respond in kind. There's no point when somebody's behaving in a low life manner. It makes no sense at all to reduce yourself at lower yourself to the same level next door makes no sense at all right.
So that's very important. Then Allah subhanaw taala Rabo de la de La Cienega mobile Valley the near Santa vigil horiba Walia. Tama masa kini vijai zil Cordoba with Jerry zil. June ob was heavy bill Giambi. What would he say we live over Malaga de Monaco. In Allahu Allah your head woman Kira makanan for hora. Allah does it. Worship Allah subhanho wa Taala and this organiser, Allah said worship Allah subhanho wa Taala and do not associate anyone or anything with Allah subhanaw taala
This is the other important thing to remember is to worship Allah subhanaw taala and to never commit shift
of any kind whatsoever. So Allah said, worship Allah and do not commit you do not associate anyone with ALLAH subhanaw taala
and do good to parents and to
your relatives, to the orphans, to the needy, to the near neighbor, and the neighbor far away. And near neighbor means Muslim near neighbor also means somebody physically near you far away, also could mean somebody who is not Muslim.
So Allah said, do good to all of these people.
The companion by your side, the traveler, and those who you have control over whom your right hand possesses, which would be your employees and so on and so on and so forth. It was also in those days of when slavery was there, it meant slaves, but Islam does not promote and propagate slavery indeed,
Allah does not like those who are self deluding and boastful in the Lucha Libre bouwman karamo talent for hora and Allah subhanaw taala server Baku, de Abadi, Yahoo, let he
tell by his lives to say that which is best.
So Rajaratnam said, if you have something good to say say it otherwise be silence. And this is I think this is a very good form of behavior, very good principle really not a very good principle to apply in our lives and to live by which is, if you have something good to say, say it, otherwise remain silent.
Narrated Abu huraira Allahu Allah Hadees which is preserved in Mohammed rasulillah salam said, I have only been sent to perfect, righteous behavior, Leo, Leo, Leo tema, Sally how
to complete and make the best of sallyann righteous behavior. In other hobbies insane ohare Alvarado said a man said kasasa salam advised me also Allah sola sola Sallam said do not become angry and furious. The man asked the same thing again and again and also solemn in each case, he said do not become angry and furious. See the a flock of the brothers that are so evil in this. First of all, he is giving the man advice which
relates to him personally, because this is not he's not say, Now, don't be angry and furious, of course, applies to everybody. This is not to say that, you know that it was meant only for that person, but it was meant specifically for that person because I wish I knew people that well and so closely. Second thing is here is a buyer who's asking him the same thing again and again. But he does not lose patience, he does not get irritated. He just repeats the same thing again and again three, four times as many times as required. Maybe Saracen did that. So it shows also for us the level of patience and sobor that he had sallallahu alayhi wasallam. Then, in another Hadith
he narrates he said the Rosaura Sallam said to me, have Taqwa of Allah wherever you are, and follow an evil deed with a good one to wipe it out and treat people with good behavior and jammy activity. This is in Java to me. So he's giving him advice. Three things have Taqwa of Allah subhanaw taala wherever you are, if you do something, if you make a mistake, immediately follow it up with a good deed. So, if you make a mistake of salah and make us too far and or give some charity, do something which is a good deed, so that the mistake is inshallah wiped out. And always treat people in a good fashion. Treat people with good believers
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have ancestors
and other hobbies in German TV again abora. Delano. He reported that a saucer Sallam said, the believers will show the most perfect faith are those who have the best behavior in the best of you are those who are best to their wives. So here is a talking about not just best behavior, but best behavior to the wives meeting. And two important things here. One is people who are in your control. So the wives are people who are in your control. Usually, I don't mean this week in a in a bad way. But meaning that you know the amount of authority is less than yours. You are the master of the house, you are the wage earner, the breadwinner, and so on so forth. And I'm saying specifically be
good to them. Do not treat them badly, because this is a sign of your own good behaviors handler. This is the advice for us then.
And as been Malik Arellano. He says I served
him for 10 years. And he never even said to me, he didn't he didn't even express irritation to me and he never blamed me
by saying Why did you not do this or why did you do this? either. He never criticized you. And this is in say Buhari.
In another place, de la who said that no surah Sallam said there is nothing heavier than good character. Putting the scale of a believer on the Day of Resurrection. The best thing on the Day of Resurrection is good character and marriage arise out of the law one woman by his good character a believer will attain the degree of one who prays during the night and fast during the day.
So, on the one hand you have the Tsar head, who is constantly engaged in prayer and fasting and so on. So, what, on the other hand, you have somebody who is obviously fulfilling the Vajrayana please understand this does not mean that as long as you have good behavior today, we have so many misconceptions that you have to keep on making these
these
remarks
which are so that people don't, don't don't think disclaimers which are like disclaimers, so that people don't think you know, something otherwise.
No matter what we talk about good behavior is not cancelling out the fights if somebody who is not praying for example, right, and he says no, but you know, o'clock is the main thing that is completely misguided and mistaken, please understand that all of these, they are the the assumption, the the platform on which this runs the assumption, the understanding is that the Muslim is one who the three conditions must apply one is the person must be on toe he must not be committing an issue can be that. The second one is that this person must not be indulging and eating and earning any harm. And the third thing is that this person must be somebody who fulfills their form. So as far as
the Salah is concerned, and fasting is concerned, and, and hygiene Zakat, and so on this person is somebody who fulfills all that, then we come to the issue of character. And so here's somebody who does all this, this is common to everybody. But in that case, if you have somebody who does all of this, but has a foul mouth,
who is you know, somebody who's constantly engaged in FIBA and backbiting
gets angry and curses people, or otherwise troubles, people tries to harm somebody. So you've got one person like, although that person is also earning halaal, and it's, you know, also doing the right, but the o'clock is matters and so on, are very bad. On the other hand, you were somebody who was the opposite of that. The person was the opposite. The person whose manners are good, will score high above the other person. We don't know whether whether the other person will even have any good deeds left. Because if he's been bad by backbiting, slandering, and so on, then even the good stuff he's doing is going to get whittled away
frittered away to the people who he has been having, and ambitious and unsterilized beautiful, and loves beauty
and he loves noble
and he despises lowly character and this isn't.
So he or Jeremy. Now,
there are many hobbies concerning a class. So, it is something that
is important for us to focus on, and to ensure that we always have a class which are worthy of aimlessly. Night is very, very important for us to do that. Now, Buddha Delano, he reported that our solar system said Do you know who is poor lighting? This is a beautiful Hadees I mentioned it many times but this is good for us too.
For us to continuously remind ourselves again and again.
Salim said Do you know who are the who is poor who's or who's destitute rarely is poor as in, you know, having less money, but somebody who has got nothing, total nothing. So this and we understand this from the answer of the Sahaba. So they said Jaroslaw, the destitute among us is the one who has neither their home with him nor any wealth. I mean, he has no money is worth nothing. This person is the one who's poor, that said before of my oma would be he who would come on the Day of Resurrection of the Day of Judgment with prayers and fires and Zakat, but would find himself bankrupt on that day, as he would have exhausted his funds or virtual since he abused people, and he brought calumny
against others, meaning he he,
he character assassinated them, he backed with them and so on and unlawfully consumed the wealth of others, when he shed the blood of others, and you beat others and his virtues would be credited to the account of the ones who suffer at his hand. And if his good deeds fall short, to clear the account, then his sins will be entered in his account, and he would be thrown into the fire. So here is the person who come to good deeds, but his good deeds are given away to those who harmed and their sins are loaded onto this person, because he has run out of good deeds we got he still has debtors, that he must
way, then he has no currency. So what happens? He takes over there, he will lead and this person will be thrown into the Hellfire and imagine the irony of it he'll be thrown into Hellfire on the based on the evil deeds of those he harmed in this life. how tragic is that? That's very important for us to stay out of such
a situation. And this is in Sahih, Muslim
Jabara de la who narrated that also Lazarus, Adam said, Indeed the most beloved among you, to me, and the near and the nearest to sit with me on the Day of Judgment is the best view in character. And indeed, the most disliked among you to me, and the one sitting further away from me on the day of judgment of the
Tata Roan, and moto Sandy Horne, and moto phi motor failure board. And they said, Yes,
we know about the
role and the motor sub the motor shut the whole, what are the motor for a cone? And he said, these are the arrogant people. Now
it's very important for us to,
you know, think about these characters and what Sarah Sarah mentioned, so that we don't fall into that trap.
We were talking about the
sort of photo and what I said the whole thoroughness are people who talk too much, right, people talk too much. And
that's what dislike that garrulous people continuously. They have to keep talking, making some noise and Mutasa horn are people who are too shady, it's very strict and hardcore kind of people met all the
fear of the future does fear sharpshooters and most have a core
motivation or are the arrogant people may Allah save us from these
from these
habits.
There are so many things in terms of the hedis in terms of Aflac, we asked a lot to give us two good o'clock. The key thing to understand in this is I can I can keep on you know, donating to you have these have to have these, but that's not the point. The point is, that is to take these, whatever we are hearing, and then to ask ourselves and say that in my life, what do I see?
So here, for example, I will just go back from,
from whatever I've told you, the heydays of Java TV, which has just started for you Java rodano, inherited that from said, the best of you, who will be most beloved to me, on the day of judgment, and will sit nearest to me is the one of you best in character. And indeed, the most disliked among you, to me, and the one sitting further away from me, are people who are constantly chattering people who are very hard and harsh, and people who are arrogant. Now
thing to do is to look at ourselves in the mirror. Remember, all of these things, never ever go into the business of looking at others to say, well, hirasawa Sallam said, you know, he, he didn't like talking to people. So instantly, I will think about somebody so but you know, this this guy, or this person, this lady or this man, they are constantly chattering? That's what these are these are you like that? Are you a person who is garrulous? Who just talks without any sense? Now, if you do that, you might find that, you know, the problem with this is that most people do not like to accept that they have faults, right. So we are, as I said, we see the smallest thing in somebody else's
character, but
even the biggest thing in our character is invisible to us. So we see the speck in somebody's eye, but we can have a whole log inside our eye and we don't see it. So this is one other thing that we'll do. So it's important for us to,
to, to guard against this. As don't look at us look at ourselves and say, am I like this? Am I
Somebody who is harsh. Now the the best way of understanding that or learning that is to ask others ask for feedback.
Feedback is the is the mirror of the character, right? Like we look in the mirror to see our physical appearance and see well, you know, my, my, my hair combed, am I looking? Okay? Do I need to do I need to do something about my appearance, the the mirror of the character, the mirror of behavior, the middle of our speech and our action, this is
feedback. So ask people to tell you what they think of you. And speak, you can become very specific and say, Do you think I am a very talkative person? Do you think I am a very harsh person? Do you think I'm a very mature Buddha did very, you know, hardcore kind of person? Do you think I'm arrogant. Now, sometimes, if you ask people, people may not feel free to tell you like it is directly some people will tell you what's other people might feel hesitant as well. So the thing to do therefore is, is to ask them anonymously. Just tell them, you know, you please tell me you don't write your name. And writing
it don't send an email and so on, which is traceable, is 100. And thank you to
you can go and do this also professionally, but you know, it's up to you what you want to do, I do this every
three to four years or five years, I do a I there's a friend of mine who has a company who does this as a business, which is called a 360 degree appraisal, that 360 degrees, which is completed out 360 degrees appraisal. So what they do is that they This is done in in most global corporations, and I've done this in GE and so on also an Asian Paints, we actually design the whole t 60.
The entire exercise the instruments and everything else. Now, what I do is, so what they do is they have this instrument, they have this meaning instrument meaning questionnaire,
which has a whole set of questions, quite a quite an extensive questionnaire,
which, where they have tried to cover every aspect of you as an individual.
And then what they do is they made it they asked you for a list of names. And they asked you to give the names of all the different kinds of people you are associated with. So it would be your customers, your if you are working in an organization, your superiors,
if you're if you're if you are an independent person, then it could be your customers, your advice, your suppliers, for example, if you're buying things,
then it could be your family, it could be your friends. So whoever is in contact with you, right, your clients, if you are in business, whoever is in contact with you in whichever role people who are, you know, older than you younger than you.
If you are a teacher, then you maybe your students, not maybe definitely your students,
your teachers, you know, whoever, so across 360 degrees, so they this questionnaire is sent to all of these people, those people answer the questionnaire. And the question is about you, how do you see so and so they answer the questionnaire, and then they send and these answers are not sent to you these answers are sent to that company, which is doing this work, they consolidate all of them.
They don't put anybody's name in it. And then they say for example, if the question was, what do you think about the time management of this person? Do you think this person manages their time? Well, for example, if that's a question, then all the different answers so it just went to maybe 35 people
35 answers about time management's, they will they will put it in one place, then they say well, how's this person with regard to communication? Right, what kind of a communicators person and then you will get all that. So, all of those answers are tabulated. You get the actual words of the person who said not who said what, but the words.
So you get the you get the actual taste of the data. Plus what they do is they compare this data across
a database, which compares you with people like you, meaning if you are a manager than other managers, at your levels, you are a middle manager, you're a senior manager. If you are a class a consultant or something, then they compare it with other consultants. You know if you're a teacher then with other teachers so they they look at this
Data comparatively to other people like you. So you get two kinds of qualitative feedback. One is the actual data itself, which is what do people think of me? And secondly, they look at the competitive data of saying, How do I stand visibly, with respect to, obviously, in comparison to other people like me, in my line of work in my in my,
in what I do, so it is a very 360 degree appraisal, I would strongly recommend that for all of you, and so please do that. If you can, it would be a wonderful learning experience for you to do a 360 degree appraisal, now you can't do it yourself, you need somebody to help you do that, as I told you, there is this company
of this belongs with a friend of mine.
Anywhere in interested send me an email, I will send you the contact, you can contact him directly. So therefore, if we look at these bodies, and we look at a class of you look at the philosophers or Sarah, or you look at what he promoted and what he prohibited, then do it in a way where we compare ourselves
and look at ourselves and say, How do I stand up in this in this aspect?
Similarly, the Hadith of the destitute people, people who will go to Allah subhanaw, taala, with a lot of good deeds, but there are a lot of people in their lives who they have wronged in one way or the other. So if you look at this now what what must we do is, first of all, think about who did you cause any trouble for and then immediately go and apologize to that person. Seek that person's forgiveness, because our souls are upset, Allah will not forgive the one. They will not forgive somebody until the person they're wronged. forgives them first. Everyone, sisters, we only have time until we until we die. And we don't know when we are going to die. Right? We do not know. We are
living in COVID times. Just I got a report to say that in Blackburn in the UK, in the Muslim community in 51, in 50 days, 58 people died. So you more than more than one person is dying per day. Right in America as I speak to you today.
The almost daily death rate in America is 4000 people.
It's a completely insane situation mellows rantala protect, and May Allah subhanaw taala.
Take away this, this ailment and disease and help those who are ill. It's a very, very serious in a completely insensitive nation where people are literally dying like me. 4000 people a day is like a person every few seconds. Right now Alhamdulillah Allah has kept me healthy, Allah has kept you healthy. If you're, and I'm saying that if you're watching this thing, obviously you are not you are not in a ICU on a ventilator. So you must be healthy. thank thank Allah subhanho wa Taala. But remember, there is no guarantee, right? Just like anybody else, I can get sick, you can get sick, may Allah protect you and protect me. But I'm saying that this can happen to any of us. And then
what happens? So before we get there, let us make sure that we have settled all our accounts, let's not go with a debt hanging over our heads. Because on the Day of Judgment, that debt is going to prove to be extremely, extremely expensive. That debt is going to really destroy us because we cannot repay debts on the day of judgment on the Day of Judgment, the only currency is our good deeds. And if you lose that we are finished, we've got nothing. So make sure that you
make amends. If you took something from somebody which you should not have taken, return it immediately, you cannot afford to take that into your grave, because it will follow you. And if it is something if it's a case where you took something from somebody, and justifiably, but by the time you got some guidance, and you've got some good sense that person has died, then make sure that that thing is given to their heirs, whoever that person is,
has been given to their heirs. You know about Abu hanifa Talalay, the famous story about him that
he had a piece of some fabric and he gave it to his assistant of a house and he said to him so and so wants to wants to buy this thing, sell it to him at this at this price, but make sure that you tell him the faults in this fabric and he showed me that these are the faults in this fabric. So show him these faults and give it to him at this price which was
discounted price. So when he finished the deal, he came back. He asked him to do that as Yes. He said, What did you do? He said, I sold it. I sold it to him at this price, you know, did you explain the the the, to him the
the force?
He said, Oh, I forgot it. He said for what? He said, Do you know where the man is? Can you find them? And he said, No, I can't find them. I don't know where where he's gone. So I will identify moms.
Today, he took the money and he gave it away in charity. He said I don't want this money, because it has not been earned in it in the correct manner. Now, this is the level to which Alhamdulillah wa salatu salam used to be careful with regard to what was due and what was not the famous
Allah says Silvana, Dharamsala, the famous scholar of India, one of the greatest of our scholars,
he used to carry two pens in his pocket, those days, you know, euro euro with an ink pen, he had to he carry two pens, one pen he would use for his official work, and the other pen was for him to use for his personal blog, if you had to write anything. So, even to that extent, they made sure that they kept their dealings completely and totally aboveboard. So that there is no sign of anything.
Anything happening which could be could be wrong. So even the ink he did not use, says Ravi Rasul Allah, he never he did not even use the ink from his office. To write something of a personal nature, he bought separate ink and a different pen, which he used to use. Another one, which is very well known about again, Mr. Alec, is that Imam, Abu hanifa larae, he would not even sit under the tree of somebody who's earning was doubtful, especially interest based earnings. If that person He not only would he not go to his house, he will not eat food that he invited, he will not do if the van and a tree in his house, he would not even sit under the shade of that tree.
Right? To that extent, these people were careful. And the results of it also, Mashallah, there's a famous story from, from Turkey from the autobahn
of money period, or one period, where this person says that there was this guy who was Armenian guy who was Christian, who became Muslim. So they asked us, why did you become Muslim? What happened? How did you come to Islam? The man said that I had a neighbor,
who was a Muslim. And his neighbor had sir had some cows, and so on and so forth. And he said, one day, this neighbor came
in the night to our house with a whole big bowl of milk. So we said, What is this? He said, This is for you. This belongs to you. belongs to me, how does it belong to bed, I don't have any cows, you know, he said, I saw that one of my cows was grazing in your land today. He said, I, by the time I got there, the car had been there for a couple of hours. So the biker was grazing in your land. So I, of course, took the car back. And he said that I milk the cow. And this is the milk of this cow. It belongs to you, because this bill came from what the cow ate from your land. And he said not only this, until I am sure that the cow has completely processed all the grass that he ate today and has
given Look, I will be bringing milk to your house until that is over. And he said he even though he said we told him Look, this is not necessary. There's no problem. You're COVID some grass, what does it matter? I said no. He's no I have to do what I have to do. So he said that he brought milk to us for many days. Until he said I am now sure that that grass which my cow it from your lab has been is no longer in its body. Another very good rule story, which was on the internet also was this. I think it was a Dutch couple. Again, in Turkey era May Allah bless these people.
This Dutch couple, they were driving they were on their own. They had hired a car. And they were driving around in Turkey. And they had gone to Anatolia, which is the Turkish heartland from where the osmani khilafah
the founder of man and his
and his ancestors, they came from that area. So they were in this in this in this place. Very beautiful area and so on. So but no they were not near any big city or anything like that. They were in some small
near a small village, this had that
it suddenly there was no night fell. And they were looking for
accommodation or something is that we found nothing. Again in Turkey the issue of language, so they had difficulty with the languages. So finally, it was dark it was, you know, the no streetlights, nothing. This is finally in one village we came to this house.
So we knocked on the door.
And this person opened the house and this is somehow we made them understand that we need shelter for the night was a very cold, very bitterly cold night. So these people, they invited them inside the police come. So scared, this couple came, they said we they asked us to sit with that. They brought food for us. He said we've already hungry, so we ate the food and so on and so forth. And then these people in the same room. He said they spread, you know, bedding for us, and they put blankets and so on and so on. They said you please sleep. And he said that they there was another door so they opened the door and they left. So he said we thought okay, they've gone to their
bedroom, we are sleeping here. He said in the morning.
I got up early, the man said I got up early. And just out of curiosity rose. I said, Okay, I'm in this house, what kind of house is it and so on.
So he said let me so he said, I opened the door. I came out of the house. And I went around he said I saw this is a very small house. And I said as I went around, he said I saw these people, the owners of the house, he and his wife and his children. They were sleeping under a tree outside the house in the back. Right? They had some whatever blankets covered up, and he says is very, very, very cold. And he said they had spent the night under that tree. Because we had come and we were their guests.
I mean, they could have also slept in the same room. They didn't know that. They then he said I realized that when they opened the door and went out. He said they were not going into another bedroom. They were going out of the house that was the back door of the house. He said I didn't realize it was pitch dark. And we really didn't know what was going on. So and we were so tired and we are had this food and we were already sort of half comatose. So we didn't. We didn't say anything. We didn't think of anything. They weren't believed. He said in the morning how I said I was absolutely flabbergasted isn't what kind of people are these? What kind of classes is what kind
of matters or this word is Muslim? And he said that is when my wife and I became Muslim. Imagine that this is just one night, just one night. One action. They said they asked his people this what is this behavior. And this man said to him, the house owner, he and his family they said to him this is what our Prophet taught us.
This is what our supervisors have taught us.
Honor your guests. It's an honor against but you are in this cold in this very cold bad weather. You are sleeping under the sky open sky not even attend nothing, no cover or you had your sleep under a tree. I mean, because honoring the guest. What is the limit? He said there's no limit. There's no limit, visibly analogous. Your guest should be comfortable. Social handle, Allah center I sent you to us we don't know who you are, that we don't know you or you just turned up in the middle of the night. Allah sent you to us. So as far as we are concerned, you are our guest. Allah sent you so we will honor you because you are a blessing for us.
We are a blessing for you. We because of us, you spend the whole night in the cold under the tree and you say we are a blessing. It is you are a blessing.
You are a blessing for us.
Because Allah sent you
and what did Allah do for them? Allah subhanaw taala gave them
Mashallah very slim, give them Islam.
How did it happen? Because of the because of the treatment they got at the hands of these Muslims.
ask Allah subhanaw taala to make us people like this. Who will practice Islam.
Not just talk about Islam, practice Islam, because that is what wins hearts. This is what opens the doors
of the
of the diet and it opens the doors of the hearts of people. It removes prejudice, it removes hatred, it removes all kinds of stereotyping. And people learn and see the actual beauty and the taste the actual sweetness of the way of Islam and the way of Muhammad Rasulullah sallallahu ala ask Allah Subhana Allah be pleased with you and never to displease pasanda
on the balcony while he was abused, maybe I have to go