Mirza Yawar Baig – HM Khatira #08 Akhlaaq
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The importance of character and manners in life is emphasized, as physical behavior is not the only important factor. The speaker also advises parents to not bring children to the facility and to let children stand next to them. The importance of praying for others and not bringing children to the church is also emphasized. The speaker emphasizes the importance of learning to hold one's hand and not to ever be interrupted by others, as it is crucial for success in life.
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My brothers and sisters,
we know the famous hadith where he said
I have been sent for
the perfection of good character.
I've been sent for the
perfection of good character, to perfect good character,
to perfect manners.
If you ask me to
condense
what is the meaning of good character, good
matters
in one word,
that word is consideration.
Consideration
for each other. Right?
Consideration
requires
that you learn to do that which is
not natural.
Think about this.
Consideration requires
that you learn to do
that which is not natural
for the benefit of others.
To give you a very basic example,
you have a child. The child is born,
is growing up,
is,
still nursing and so on and so forth.
What is the first thing that the parents
teach the child? They teach the child what
we call potty training.
Yes?
Potty training.
Now tell me
to defecate or urinate,
when you are feeling like defecating and urinating,
is it natural or not natural?
Natural. Every cow does it. Every dog does
it.
So why do you insist that your child
must learn
to hold it
until he reaches the place which is designated
for that purpose.
Right?
Polititating is what? Polititating is not to say
never defecate. Never urinate. No. Of course, you
have to do it. It's a natural.
Do it in the right place. Yes?
So doing something in the right place means
that you have to hold in your natural
urges.
I feel like doing something, but this is
not the right place for that.
The same thing when it is done in
the right place is beautiful. It is
relieving.
It is the essence of good good character
and good manners. The very same thing done
in the wrong place.
The thing has not changed. The location has
changed.
So for example,
when we are praying,
if somebody's phone rings,
how do you feel?
Fantastic.
That ringtone I don't have.
So I'm going to ask this, but once
he finishes,
brother, what what ringtone, can you send me
the ringtone, please?
And then I will give you an instruction.
Everybody, please,
for this last, you know, don't take me
seriously, but last 4.
Turn your phones on to full volume
and each one time it
so that every 3 minutes,
the phone will sound
the latest ringtone and download all the beautiful
ringtones.
And while the harp is reciting, maybe it's
a test of his hips also. While he's
reciting,
every 3 minutes, a ringtone goes
off. Nice.
Why are you shaking it?
Why is it not nice?
A phone has a ringtone. Yes.
So what's wrong with the 4 has a
ringtone?
Right place.
There is a place for the ringtone. Yes.
So what is the place for
a child which is behaving like a
demented Simeon?
A demented Simeon is,
for Madmonkey.
Tell me.
You got a whole bunch of kids screaming
their guts out,
and you've got presumably their parents. I I
actually, I don't know. Maybe I was.
Do you rent out this space for anyone
to come and leave their kids here to
scream and go home? We have nothing. None
of those kids belong to any of us
here.
Is that is that is that true?
So how do you as a parent
you know your kid is screaming out there
and you as a parent are peacefully praying.
You don't care that everybody else's salah is
ruined,
But then if somebody's phone rings, you got
a
problem. Does it make sense?
Now
he will give me.
You are so, you know, difficult.
Rasool alaihi Salam
used to have you know, the Hadis used
to He came
and once he came, he was almost falling
down. Remember, he came down. He picked up
the child.
Another time, he did not get up from
the sujood,
and they found that he was riding the
the grandson was riding on his grandfather. You
know, blessed grandfather, blessed grandson,
So cause us to be in their company
one day.
Let me ask you something.
Go to that. Re research that hadith some
more.
Does it say anywhere that Hassan was screaming
and running all over?
Little child happened to how many times this
happened? Oh, another one. Check-in the books of
Hadith. Please check and see how many times
did this happen.
One
time.
He escaped probably said that Fatima,
you know,
control,
And he came into the into the masses.
Grandfather is there. He went to the grandfather.
Was he screaming? Do you disturb anybody, sir?
Believe me, if you are a little kid
comes in when I am praying and rides
on my shoulder, I will consider that to
be to be an honor.
I got no problem. Today, I was in
the afternoon. I'd like to ride on for
a little while.
And there were some kids here who were
playing. Then, you know, one of the brothers
said, I'm sorry, sir. They they I said,
nobody disturbed
Me? You can put me under a train.
I'll sleep.
Makes no difference to me.
No. No. No. No. I have no problem.
I am talking only about when people are
praying.
See, the thing I've said I'll tell you
something.
Should you bring children to the masjid? Yes
or no? Yes. Yes. Why?
To test them.
If you bring children to the masjid and
when salah is going on, if those kids
are running havoc there and you say nothing
to them, what are you really teaching them?
Salah is not important.
Aqlaq is not important.
Being considerate of other people is not important.
Feel free to disturb and ruins everybody's salah.
This is what what I know I won't
say that to them in so many words,
but children listen with their eyes, not with
their ears.
They don't care what you say until they
see what you do.
So when they are doing all this and
you keep silent, the message they are getting
is it's fine. Salah is not important.
Is this what you want to teach them?
So if you bring your children, most welcome
bring your children, keep them next to you,
Teach them how to pray. Teach them how
to be silent. Teach them what to do.
If you think the child is too small
for that, don't bring them.
Don't bring them.
If you think you can't control them, don't
bring them.
But if you bring them, let the child
stand next to you in the salah. Once
salah is over, no problem. Go and play
and make noise and so on.
If a child of this age is not
going to make noise, who I will I
make noise? No.
Let him okay. No problem. As much as
he wants. But in the time at the
time of salah
next to you.
You know, Imam Malik Rahatul Ali,
he says,
my and she's going to masjid and Abu
al Sharif
where he is learning from
He says my mother used to dress me
up in the morning to go for salah.
And
this
is.
Mother would dress him up. She would tie
a turban on his head, and this is
Malik. He's 5 years old.
She would take him
to the Masjid because she can't leave a
5 year old to try to go by
by himself. She would take him to the
masjid, leave him there. After,
she would go home.
Imam Malik would stay in the he's imam
then. Now he's a 5 year old kid
with a tower on his head. He's sitting
there. He's studying. He's learning. He's doing all
that all the way until Saath ul Dor.
Then the mother comes there Sarathudor. She praysor
and she takes you home to have some
food.
5 year old kid.
He said never in my life did I
ever go to the budget without a towel
on my head.
Why? Why? Why? What is the need for
a 5 year old child to wear a
towel on his head? This is the other
this is the akhlaq.
This is the the the the izzah for
the malaam,
izzah for the elm, izzah for the for
for the for the for
the for the place of the of the
elm, which is the masjid.
Right?
Did Muhammad Ali also play? Of course, he
played. He was a kid. He was working.
He wanna play. Why not? But did he
play the masjid? No.
He is sent by his mother. He's around
6 years old.
Now Imam Malik had a,
system where he would give dars of hadith
from Assur to Maghrib, which is a long
time.
Outside in in the in the courtyard of
the Majid the Majid Nawwish Sharif. Because Imam
Malik was the Imam Abu Dhabi the Majid
Nawwish.
And then after, he would give darshan insight.
So he's sitting there
in his, and he sees a little kid
who comes and sits right in front of
him.
And his little kid is with his finger,
he is doodling in the sand. It's all
sand floor. There's no carpet and so on.
So this kid is, you know, scribbling
in the sand.
Now if Malik notices this, he does not
like it, but he keeps quiet.
Whole dust finished, maybe hour and a half,
maybe 2 hours.
Then they pray Maghrib.
And after Maghrib,
as they are settling down, this kid comes.
He says salaam. He says,
I have come from so and so
to study under you, so please accept me
as your student.
Said sorry. I don't like you. I will
not accept.
So this kid starts crying. He said he
said, why why what did I do? He
said, you are not serious.
Imagine, 6 year old kid, he's telling you
you're not serious.
He said, sir, please, what did I do?
He said, I saw in that hole that's
you are playing in the sand.
This 6 year old kid session, I was
not playing in the sand. I was memorizing.
I was memorizing your
And this 6 year old kid, Alhamdulillah,
starts at 2 hours, the entire
this kid repeats.
Amazing
memory.
That I have to cover 1 page of
the book when I'm reading. Otherwise, it imprints
on my mind.
Can I give a memory like this? Right?
So he repeated the entire thus, he heard
it only one time.
Imam Malik hugged him. He kissed him. He
accepted him as his as his, student, and
Imam Shafir Abduladeh was a student of.
I'm telling you about little kids who went
to the Masjid to study and how they
studied. This is our standard. This is our
bid.
These are our.
Right? Our
our our nasal does not come from from
blood. It comes from ill,
from knowledge. These are our ancestors. Alhamdulillah.
My brothers and sisters, I seriously seriously
I tell you I love this budget.
I love all of you. May Allah bless
you.
So what I'm saying to you is for
your
benefit.
For the benefit of your children.
Please bring them to the masjid, but train
them how to be in the masjid.
It's not a matter of saying, you know,
they have a lot of energy. Most welcome,
please. Let them have the energy when they
come outside of the play. Even inside the
Masjid, they'll pray when there is no time
for salah. When the time for salah starts,
when the alarm is called, those children must
be inside
sitting next to you and learning how to
behave in the masjid.
And if you have some kids who can't
control or not like that, do not bring
them to the masjid, please.
Because remember, if you are doing something or
your children are doing something which is disturbing
the salah of other people, that sin is
on your head. Because of you, it is
happening. Their salah is getting ruined. People come
here to be with Allah
to connect to Allah
If my child is doing something just like
my phone,
if my phone is ringing, it's my responsibility.
Break your salah, turn the phone off, and
rejoin the salah and make up the salah.
But do not let your phone, ring to
disturb other people.
Right?
So, please, let us be serious with this.
It's all about.
So let us not have
children behaving like that.
Really, please.
For listening to me. May Allah
enable us to correct ourselves and to learn
the best
and to be people who are actually supposed
to be role models for the world, Insha'Allah.