Mirza Yawar Baig – Forgive each other
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My brother and sister, the other day I
mentioned my
the excellent advice
that was given by
my aunt to her 3 children.
And she said to them 3 things.
She said, always
be grateful to Allah. Make shukkur.
Second thing she said to them was,
always seek Allah's forgiveness. Make a staghwar on
Tawba.
And third thing she said is and that's
the very important thing, which is
forgive each other.
She said forgive each other.
Now out of these three things,
sugar, istakwah
and forgiving each other.
Forgiving each other is the most difficult.
That is the toughest.
Because
in forgiving each other,
the thing that comes in the way
is our own ego.
How can I ask for forgiveness?
And I will have a 100
reasons,
justifications
for my action.
I said this because he said that and
because she said this and because he said
that and that happens.
Lots of
To leave that aside and say I'm sorry,
I apologize.
Very tough.
Very, very difficult. But this is the
secret.
This is to
every kind of relationship.
Every relationship.
Our relationship with Allah what is this?
Apology apologizing to Allah to ask to say,
I'm sorry.
Our relationship with our
siblings, brothers and sisters,
The thing that keeps them together is the
willingness to seek forgiveness and to forgive them.
So 2 parts of forgiveness. 1 is I
ask forgiveness. The other one
is I don't have to ask because I
I'm the one against whom
the operation was done, but I will forgive,
forgiving each other.
In a marriage,
the single thing that keeps a marriage together,
a single thing that keeps a marriage going
and healthy
is not love.
People say,
no, love between them. No. It's not love.
It is forgiveness.
Love is good to have, but even where
over time that love may diminish for whatever
reason,
If there is forgiveness, the marriage will remain
intact.
So forgiveness is critical. That's the big, big,
big lesson, if not the biggest lesson we
learned from the life
of.
And I want to give you the one
or two examples to illustrate from this.
The
13 years in Mecca,
Rasulullah was
oppressed, and he was
threatened, and he was harmed. And he was,
you know,
mentally and
other
ways he was,
oppressed.
When he went to,
We have the famous incident of Taif.
Said
after the battle of
she asked him, she said, in the battle
of got injured and all that, right?
Asked him, he said, yes, which was your
most difficult day in your life?
And he said my day in
so think about that here is
a man
who,
even from a worldly
perspective,
aspect if you look at it,
He was from the aristocracy of Quresh. He
was from the number one family of Quresh,
the caretakers of the Haram
of the Kaaba right
and so on and so on
And he was the grandson of Abdul Mutali,
who was the chief of the chiefs.
And he is treated with such terrible,
in such terrible ways by the people of
Taif.
He's abused. He's,
they get their urge in them people to
throw stones at him and to, you know,
injure him physically
by his bleeding him, him and
For what?
Just because he invited them to
he did not have anybody
despite that.
He said that was the most difficult day
because it was
physical injury. It was mental injury, mental anguish.
You
imagine
in publicly being
humiliated and insulted for no reason.
He did not do anything to deserve that,
but they did it.
Yet
When
Allah gave the power in his hands,
when he made Dua, the way he was
salam came and another angel came with him
and the angel said you Rasool Allah I
am the angel of the mountains
and Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala ordered me
to put myself at your command
so tell me what to do I will
do
it Rasool Rasoolam said what can you do
He said, I can join these 2 mountains
together.
There will be no
Every single thing in the city of will
be finished.
You will tell me I will do it.
Rasulullah
said no.
He said no. He said it is my
hope from my
that from these people,
Allah will raise those who will say.
Forgiveness.
And the second incident of forgiveness,
his his whole life is full of this.
It's not just what.
The whole instead of
if you take
all the but just one more I want
to say to to finish the
is what happened in the battle of
Ahaz. In the battle of Ahaz again, Rasulullah
was attacked. He was injured previously
injured
he was injured to such an extent that
he fell down
he almost lost consciousness
Links of his chain
mail went into his cheek. His cheek was
cut. His tongue was cut. 2 of his
teeth were
broken.
And the helmet was
sort of embedded into his,
into his blessed head.
He probably had a
hairline fracture of the skull. We don't know
if you look at, you know, things after
that.
So the, they picked him up, and they
carried him up up into the side of
the mountain
in a in a depression. So he was
protected.
His
injury was so severe that people thought that
he had died.
So, when he gained consciousness and so on,
the around him, they said, yeah, this is
enough. This is the limit.
Make dua against these people.
They said, what kind of people are these?
They attack their own.
They want to kill their own.
For what?
For saying for advising them or how to
go to Jannah, This is what they are
doing. Make dua against
them. Now put yourself in that place. Rasulullah
stand up. He raised his hands.
And I can imagine, you know, the probably
the whole the whole world is silent
and watching.
And for a to make dua against these
people is if you see the
history of
the, of the, this is the common thing.
For to make dua against their people was
what almost all
the did.
After many, many, I mean, it's not that
they did it in the 1st day. I
mean, did they took 950 years before he
made the but at the end of the
day,
for an to make dua for Allah
to punish
the rebellious people, the criminals of the of
his among his people is not nothing new.
It is not something unique.
So when
raised his hands,
imagine the whole world is watching. What is
he going to say?
What did he say?
He said, O Allah, forgive my people
because they do not know what they do.
He said they do not know what they
do.
He's asking forgiveness for those people who
injured him, who tried to kill him.
Now fast forward from there to when
Allah gave him absolute power, 10,000 soldiers,
absolute power. The the the
norm of the time is any conquering,
general or conquering monarch
used to
enslave the men
and women and children,
kill some of them, the men,
the leaders
and and slave the rest of the population.
Could have done all of that without any
blame to him because this was the custom.
And Allah gave him the absolute power.
What did he do?
He stood on the door of the Kaaba.
He asked them, he told his people, he
said, what do you
expect from me?
They said,
I'm
the
he
said, you are, you are our honored brother,
the son of our honored brother. Yeah. Same
person they they abused and they tried to
kill for 13 years. Now honored brother.
He didn't turn around and say, you are
a bunch of liars, you know?
What happened to those? I was the same
person. My father was the same person. My
grandfather was the same person. When I was
living here in Mecca, he didn't say any
of that. He said he's Abu.
Go.
He said, you are freed.
Go you are freed
and not only that
he did not demand compensation for what he
or any of the Sahaba, the had lost.
They all lost their their possessions, their land,
their houses, and their wealth, everything else. He
did not ask compensation.
He did not say he he did not
even say give I you you took $10.
Give me back 10.
No. Let alone saying, here's a fine. No.
You just what you took, give it back.
No.
He didn't ask for anything. And the Sahaba
also didn't ask for anything.
Now think about that.
This happened.
What was the result of that?
It was not easy. It was it it
would have been the most incredibly difficult thing
that you can imagine. I mean, nobody can
say that this was easy.
But the result of that was that in
one stroke, Rasulullah
completely canceled out
all possibilities
of rebellion against him.
But how can any anybody rebel? If somebody
says that anything against him, their own people
will say, you are walking today because he
gave you life.
You would have been dead. You would have
been sitting in prison.
Now you are talking against him.
Nobody will open his mouth because he said
we have this
from him. How can we even repay?
One stroke.
And And I want to end with that.
That's what I want to remind myself. I
knew that that when when it seems to
be difficult to seek forgiveness, remember this.
When you
push down your own ego and say sorry
I will ask forgiveness because
I was wrong
or I was not wrong. The other person
wronged me. Now the other person is asking
me to forgive. I will forgive.
Even though I have a right to retaliate,
I will not retaliate. I will forgive.
Even without asking, I will forgive. When you
do that, believe me, you
wipe out the possibility
of all conflict.
You heal wounds.
You join together hearts.
And families remain together.
I remind myself when you
always
forgive.
Seek forgiveness if you do wrong
and forgive others
when something is done to you
because that is the way of
keeping hearts together.
And relationships
are much more important than ego, much more
important than money, much more important than anything
else.
If the hearts are together, this is the
number one thing. But this is please Allah
and the pleasure of Allah is the ultimate
benefit that we have. We ask Allah to
keep our hearts together,
to fill them with love for one another,
to fill them with forgive. We seek Allah's
forgiveness for ourselves,
and we ask Allah's mother to forgive us
as we forgive others.