Mirza Yawar Baig – Forgive but learn the lesson
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The importance of forgiveness in Islam is discussed, with the creation of "imm administrative Islam" and the loss of boundaries being the main reasons. The "imm administrative Islam" concept involves forgiveness as a means to remove bad behavior, and is discussed in detail. The speaker emphasizes the importance of forgiveness and reminds listeners to clean their hearts. The actions of Islam's leaders, including apologizing for mistakes and denying accusations of slanders, are also highlighted, along with the importance of forgiveness and avoiding garbage. The speaker encourages leaders to be pleased with their actions and to be grateful for their leaders.
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My brothers and sisters
may Allah bless
our Sheikh Abdullah yesterday's
was on the importance of forgiveness
So let me
build on that.
Among the
greatest
mawjizat, and I call this a mawjizat, I
call this a miracle
of Rasulullah Sallallahu
Alaihi Salam's
was the creation of the,
the Muslim.
I call this a because
looking at it
from my perspective as a sociologist and a
behavioral scientist,
this is probably
the most
incredibly
difficult thing to do,
because what it did was
in a traditionally
tribalistic
society,
which was bonded on the basis of tribe,
on the basis of family blood ties.
If you are from the Banu Zakif,
you are not.
No matter what you did, you could not
become. You are.
And if you are,
you could not
become something else, another tribe. This was from
birth. This is who you were.
Even
to this day, we have and I'll come
to that. Even to this day, we are
in India, Pakistan.
So
he took
he took this traditional
boundaries and bindings,
and he
destroyed them, and he created a new bond,
which was
Islam.
So the was
the creation
of a brotherhood of faith.
What makes me your brother?
We are not from the same race. We
are not from the same
my
He is my brother,
just like my own blood brother is my
brother even more
because of Islam. Because of.
Now
we know history.
And very sadly and tragically,
this did not last very long.
It almost 30, 40 years after that, after
the mister Islam,
it disintegrated.
The very existence
of the Banu Umayyad and the Banu Abbas.
The Abbasis and the Umayyad Dynasties is evidence
that it went back to the days of
the Jahiliya,
went back to tribalism.
But that's a different issue. The point is
that
just because an experiment
for an experiment
to be called successful, it has to succeed
only once.
Then it's successful.
And after that, somebody goes and destroys it.
It is no reflection on the original.
So if today, if you ask me, can
it be done? I'd say yes. Absolutely. Without
doubt.
What is the evidence? See what Muhammad
did.
Now what was it that was the glue?
What was it that was the adhesive?
The binding force.
That binding force was forgiveness.
The willingness to forgive each other.
Because without forgiveness,
why do
divorces happen?
Why do marriages happen in the first place?
Marriages happen because 2 people like each other,
right?
Whether it's an arranged marriage or a love
marriage or whatever. At the end of the
day, these 2 people like each other, but
otherwise, they like each other. So So why
does the divorce happen? Because they stop liking
each other.
Why do they stop liking each other? Because
see what he did, see what she did.
Now is it lies? Is when when a
husband and wife are complaining and saying, see
what my wife is doing, see what are
they lying? They're not lying. It's true.
When people come to me with this, I
tell them it is true.
That is why you need to forgive.
I mean, if he did nothing, what is
there to forgive?
If he did nothing, what is there to
forgive?
We are saying forgive because there is a
mistake.
When we ask Allah
What are we saying? Yeah, I did nothing.
I'm innocent. But anyway, just forgive me for
a second. You know,
just like that for fun. No.
All the children of Adam they make mistakes.
The best of them are the ones who
seek forgiveness.
Forgiveness is the addition.
Now I'll give you 2
absolutely fabulous examples of forgiveness from the of
and
I want to draw your attention to a
couple of very specific things.
The incident themselves you are all familiar with.
1st big incident,
the many before that. The first big incident
is
Fatamaka. Right?
Fatamaka,
where Rasool, a sallam,
forgave
everyone.
He asked them, what shall I do with
you? They said, you are
our
honored brother, the son of our honored brother
Akil Karim.
So he said
he said go. You are
freed. That is why those people, they were
called the they were called the freed slaves
of Muhammad
because he had the right to enslave them.
He did not do that. He let he
let them go.
1st big incident.
2nd big incident
was
the,
the slander
on
our mother.
She was slandered.
She was innocent,
And that went on for a long period.
She suffered a great deal.
Her father suffered a great deal. Her mother
suffered a great deal. Her husband Muhammad
suffered a great deal.
And then of course Allah revealed Quran 10,
11,
Allah
cleared her name. So this is her position.
Anyone who denies that, anyone who says that
was guilty
has left Islam because they have denied Quran.
Now the do you know the incidents?
But there are 2 things I want you
to think about
in these incidents.
The first thing to think about is
in the incident
of
Fatimaqah,
when we say Rasool
forgave everybody, what are we saying? What did
he actually forgive?
He forgave physical violence.
He forgave murder.
Right?
His mother and father both were murdered
by Abu Jahal. Abu Jahal was dead. He
died in Badar. But his
was there. His his children were there.
So he forgave murder.
He forgave
the property that was stolen from the road
from the Muslims.
Because whatever they had in Makkah people do
it. Their wealth, their money, their land, their
houses, everything was occupied, taken, gone.
He forgave all that.
Key thing to ask yourself, and I ask
myself the same question is,
sure, you forget all that, but it would
be just and fair
and correct to say, okay. I forgive you.
I will not punish you, but
you took $10 from me. Bring back $10.
You stole something from me. Give it back.
No. I mean, that is fair. No. I
mean, I'm not punishing you for this. You
should be punished, actually, but not punishing you.
But
return the property that you took.
He did not ask for
this. You might say, okay,
he will not ask.
What about?
What about all the who lost property?
What about
and everyone whoever lost
their property in Mecca. Not 1 single person
claimed compensation
or even claimed the return of that property.
Not even compensation. You took $10 and give
back $10. No.
Nobody asked anything.
Right? Reflect on this. 3rd thing, even more
important.
Is there any record in the Sira? And
I'm Sheikh is here. Other people are here
who read this. Is there any record in
the Sira to say that any of the
people who committed these things, including Abu Sufyan,
for example, he became Muslim.
Is there any record in the seerah to
say that they came to know and said,
yeah, Rasulullah.
And I asked if I'm
very sorry. I apologize to you. Please forgive
me. Did they do that?
Did anybody do that?
Yet he forgive.
Nobody has for forgiveness.
Yes. There is the
of Rasool, he said, if you have wronged
somebody,
go and seek forgiveness until that person forgives
you. Allah will not forgive you. If you
die in that state, then Allah will give
your good deeds to that person and so
on. This is this is a Sahihadees. We
don't deny this. We should do that. If
I do something wrong, go apologize. But I'm
saying in this particular case,
not 1 of those people apologize to Ravi
Salam
or to any of the Sahaba
who they had wronged, who were there physically
they were there. You were there. I was
there. You wronged me. I wronged you. I
never said no. I never said sorry. Forgiven.
I'm gone.
Reveal Quran to say that Allah
said, don't you want Allah to forgive you?
So forgive them. And
he used to donate money to the man
who slandered his daughter.
He has stopped that. So Allah revealed Quran.
He said, I will give him more.
Right? All this happened. But including
the people who were involved in this slander,
they were also punished.
Hassan,
for example,
He was also part of this thing.
But the point I'm making is this whole
thing happened. Matter over. Forgiven.
Did anyone come
to say the Aisha
or
or
any of those people, I apologize. I'm very
sorry. I did this. I made a mistake.
Please forgive me.
Did anybody do that? Is there any record?
Yet they forgive.
Yet they forgive. They did not say, okay,
Allah's
revealed Quran. I am innocent. I
am innocent. Allah Allah has, revealed Quran. Now
you come and ask me forgiveness. Why should
I forgive?
Allah did not say they are innocent. Allah
said punish them.
80 lashes.
Does the Quran say they are innocent? No.
Allah said you are responsible. You should be
punished. Allah said general statement.
It would be better for all of you
if you had not believed this slander. Why
did you not believe something good instead of
believing something bad? All of this came. Allah
did not say they understand. They are guilty.
They will be punished and they were punished.
Nobody apologized.
She did not insist that they should apologize.
Think about this. This is the,
the bigness of the heart,
which helps you to look at your brother
and your sister as a brother and sister.
And if they make a mistake, you say,
no problem with my brother.
He made a mistake. No problem with my
brother.
That is why a man came to. He
said,
I my servant, my slave makes a mistake,
and he goes on making mistakes, and I
punish him. What shall I do? He said,
forgive him.
He said, how many times should I forgive
him? He said, 70 times.
And then he said, in 1 day.
70 times every day.
70 times every day.
I remind myself, and you, my brothers and
sisters,
all of these stories are easy to tell.
The key is to clean our hearts.
Don't die with nasty memories.
Really, if you do not forgive somebody, you
know what you're doing?
You are carrying garbage in your heart.
To close, I'll I'll tell you the my
illustration of this. Say, suppose that you are
you are riding on the on the road,
a nice summer day. You have your Harley.
And you're, you know, you're riding on the
Harley wing.
And unfortunately for you, you get stuck behind
a garbage truck.
So now from this garbage truck, a piece
of garbage flies off and hits you on
the shoulder.
It's nasty. It stinks.
What will you do?
You will
flick it off.
And the first first,
you know, place you can pull over, you
pull over, you take something, and you wash
your you wash your or clean your jacket.
We put something. Right?
But how about
instead of that, you rub it in nicely
so it gets into your jacket.
And then every once in a while, you
bend down and smell it.
And you go to smell it.
What did you say?
You say, oh, insane. You're crazy. Why are
you doing that?
The guy with the garbage truck, he's gone.
He doesn't even know that he that a
piece of garbage from his truck hit you.
You are choosing to keep the garbage and
to keep smelling the garbage and to
keep pay who is it causing pain to
yourself?
Why?
This is what happens when we bear grudges.
This is what happens when we refuse to
forgive people.
It's a piece of garbage. There are some
people in this world. Forgive us. They are
walking to or they have garbage trucks on
2 legs.
Right? Their their their their purpose in life
is to create garbage. So they will create
garbage. They have got bad mouths, so they
will go on talking some nonsense somewhere.
So stay away from them. Obviously, you don't
go and, you know, live behind a garbage
truck, But at the same time, if you
get stuck with that, don't live with it.
It's your choice. Flick it off. Wash it
off. Get out of the way.
Why do you wanna live with that? Oh,
no. No. But he said of course, he
said so. Forget it, man. Is it nice?
No. Why do you want to live with
that nasty memory? Why do you wanna take
the nasty memory to your grave? For what?
Forget it.
Wash it off. Forget it. Learn the lesson.
Lesson is stay away from garbage trucks.
Right? Stay away from garbage truck. Don't go
near somebody who's a garbage creator. But at
the same time, don't carry that stuff with
you.
It's like carrying a red coal. You know,
red hot of a and they did barbecue
on top of, Mount Washington.
And by themselves, they didn't invite me.
Anyway, so but suppose you take 1 of
those coals, you hold the coals in your
hand.
Who does it burn?
So why do you want to hold it?
So please let
us bring back at least to the our
extent. I'm not talking about the whole world.
You know, everybody, every Muslim talk, oh, you
know, we should have unity in the world.
Okay. Very nice. I agree with you.
Are you willing to sit with his brother
and have tea with him?
No. No.
You know how he how he does salah?
He raises his hands.
You cannot pray
somebody, and you want to say, I want
unity for the whole of my from where
is it going to come? Walmart?
Please let us forgive each other.
Let us
bring back the true bond between a Muslim
and another Muslim, and that is.
If somebody did something to you, forget it.
Remember the lesson, but forget forget that
bad thing which happened. You
are my brother.
Told me 70 times a day, you got
another 69.
Right? So go ahead, do some more. Because
you did only 1 time. Right? You would
have you got another 69 for today. Then
tomorrow you got another 70.
We ask Allah
who to help us to live the seerah
of because this is the most beautiful thing
that Allah has given us. We ask Allah
to fill our hearts with love and affection
and and and gratitude
and and and
loyalty towards
our
our
master,
our leader, our imam, Muhammad
We
ask Allah
to be pleased with us and enable us
to live a life which is pleasing to
him.