Mirza Yawar Baig – Focus

Mirza Yawar Baig
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The importance of focus and light at the beginning of one's life is crucial to reinforcing one's feelings and knowing one's own actions. monitoring one's internal and external conversations to determine whether they are about oneself or the outside world is crucial to achieving success. Change conversations and goals to achieve success in life, setting timelines, and reading a book a month are also key pillars.

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			My brothers and sisters,
		
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			the question I want to ask you and
		
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			ask you to ask yourself and ask myself
		
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			is what is your focus?
		
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			What is the focus of your life? What
		
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			is your focus?
		
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			And the reason I asked this and the
		
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			reason why focus is important
		
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			is because
		
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			take light for example. Right?
		
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			This light
		
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			at best illuminates,
		
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			but take the same light. The nature of
		
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			the light has not changed. It's the same
		
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			thing.
		
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			Focus it and it becomes laser
		
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			and laser can cut through steel.
		
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			This light can cut through steel, same thing.
		
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			But focus
		
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			it cuts through steel.
		
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			Sunlight,
		
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			you go out in the sun at best
		
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			you feel hot.
		
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			But take a magnifying glass, we used to
		
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			do this and it's also for camping and
		
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			so on. It's a good trick to know.
		
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			Take a magnifying glass or even a a
		
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			mirror
		
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			and focus the sunlight onto some
		
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			dry leaves and something it'll catch fire.
		
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			Same sunlight,
		
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			but it through the magnifying glass, through the
		
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			because of the mirror,
		
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			it gets focused
		
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			and therefore it is
		
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			ignites.
		
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			Ignites a fire.
		
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			The Morse code, which is
		
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			dots and dashes
		
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			with which telegrams and so on used to
		
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			be sent before now, of course, we have
		
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			electronic means.
		
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			But one of those
		
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			was by a thing called the heliograph.
		
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			The heliograph basically was a mirror,
		
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			which could be tilted back and forth.
		
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			So
		
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			with this heliograph, they would send
		
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			complex messages.
		
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			They would have the heliograph on top of
		
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			a hill. They would send these messages just
		
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			by focusing sunlight. It would be flashes of
		
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			sunlight,
		
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			and this
		
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			was visible for as long as 30 miles
		
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			away.
		
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			Alright. So you can send a message
		
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			across line of sight up to 30 miles
		
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			away.
		
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			Focus.
		
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			Now the same thing applies as far
		
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			as Islam is concerned.
		
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			In Salah,
		
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			Allah what is the quality of Salah that
		
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			Allah
		
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			mentioned?
		
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			When he in Surat al Mu'minoon, Allah said
		
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			the Mu'minoon are those people who
		
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			who
		
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			which is focused.
		
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			What
		
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			is focus?
		
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			You're focusing on Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala. You're
		
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			focusing on the fact that I am standing
		
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			before Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala
		
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			Rasool Rasool Rasoolam said when the slave makes
		
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			Sajdah,
		
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			he is not making Sajdah on this farsh
		
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			on this earth, he's making Sajdah
		
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			before the arsh of Ar
		
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			Rahman, before the throne of Allah Subhanahu Wa
		
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			Ta'ala.
		
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			Focus. I'm standing before Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala
		
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			in one beautiful hadith, Rasool Allah says
		
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			when a slave is standing
		
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			before Allah in salah
		
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			and his attention wanders,
		
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			Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala asks him
		
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			what is in your life? What is this
		
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			thing which is distracting you which is better
		
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			than me?
		
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			Because if it is not better than me,
		
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			why is it getting why are you getting
		
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			distracted? So what is distracting you, which is
		
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			better than me, which is more beautiful than
		
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			I am?
		
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			And this question is asked
		
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			when the slaves
		
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			attention wanders one time, two times, three times
		
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			after Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala leaves it.
		
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			So focus,
		
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			what is the focus? The thing to do
		
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			is to check this for ourselves
		
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			and monitor 2 things. 1 is monitor our
		
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			internal conversation.
		
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			What is it that I'm saying to myself?
		
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			Be conscious of that. What are the thoughts
		
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			in my mind?
		
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			Because our thoughts
		
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			define
		
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			our emotions. They define our actions. They define
		
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			our speech.
		
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			As we think so, we act. As we
		
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			think so, we speak.
		
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			So monitoring thoughts. What are my thoughts? This
		
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			is extremely important. So monitor that. What is
		
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			my internal conversation?
		
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			And monitor it to see whether my internal
		
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			conversation
		
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			is about myself
		
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			or is it about the outside world.
		
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			What are people thinking of me? How do
		
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			I compare to this or that? We have
		
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			got today, we live in a world where
		
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			the external environment
		
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			floods us completely.
		
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			Right? You have got opinions,
		
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			opinion setters. You have got opinion makers. You
		
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			have got icons for this and that. There
		
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			are fashion icons and there are body shape
		
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			icons and there are god knows. Right?
		
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			All kinds of icons. So I am not
		
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			even myself. I'm trying to be like this
		
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			one. I'm trying to be like that one
		
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			and you will never be like this one
		
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			or that one because that's a different human
		
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			being. Allah made them differently, made you differently.
		
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			But the whole life, the focus is outside,
		
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			external focus. And that also means that we
		
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			are constantly seeking,
		
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			reinforcement
		
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			and we are constantly sitting, seeking praise
		
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			from the outside world to feel good.
		
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			So my self esteem does not depend on
		
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			what I think of myself. It does not
		
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			depend on whether my whether I am comfortable
		
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			with my own conscience, it depends on what
		
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			people are saying about me.
		
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			So even if one person says one negative
		
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			thing
		
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			that will sit in your mind and will
		
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			work the * out of you and will
		
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			you lose sleep over it and whatnot
		
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			constantly, even though there may be a 100
		
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			people who are saying positive things about you,
		
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			but one person says something negative, this one
		
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			goes on and round and round. This is
		
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			human nature. It is it is human nature
		
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			for better or worse to remember negative more
		
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			than positive.
		
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			In, customer service,
		
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			there are studies done
		
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			on how many customers complain about bad service
		
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			and how many customers
		
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			take their trouble
		
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			to praise good service.
		
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			Almost nobody praises good service. They take it
		
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			for granted. Yeah. Good service. Yeah. I'm so
		
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			sorry. I paid for it.
		
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			But anything bad, anything, any service failure,
		
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			instantly people will complain. People will tell others
		
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			about it and so on and so on.
		
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			And this travels all around the world.
		
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			And that's why to, to correct customer service
		
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			failures is actually considered to be more important
		
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			and more powerful than giving just good service
		
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			by itself.
		
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			Because when the customer is displeased and then
		
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			you
		
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			do something to please him,
		
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			that he will remember.
		
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			But if you got good service to begin
		
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			with, he takes it for granted.
		
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			All external reinforcement
		
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			of
		
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			ourselves. This is
		
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			so monitor that conversation. Is it my conversation?
		
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			Is it about the external or is it
		
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			about myself?
		
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			Now what the reason is important is because
		
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			at the end of the day, the only
		
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			thing that will help you is what you
		
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			do with yourself.
		
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			Nothing else.
		
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			Whether it's in education, whether it's in health,
		
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			whether it's
		
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			in happiness, whether it's, you know, marriage,
		
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			you name it. The only thing that can
		
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			help you and will help you is that
		
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			which you do for yourself.
		
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			Not anybody. Not anyone else. Anyone else can
		
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			do whatever they want. What will help me
		
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			is what I eat, not what he eats.
		
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			If I don't do my salah,
		
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			he can do salah all night. It won't
		
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			help me. It says salah.
		
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			Even if he says, yalla, I'm praying my
		
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			my my my brother, my friend,
		
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			please give the salah to him. No. It
		
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			doesn't go. You can make dua,
		
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			but the salah
		
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			is yours. If Yaharbayh is not praying,
		
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			then Yaharbayh is in trouble. Not you. Not
		
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			you.
		
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			You can't say no. I'm I'm doing extra
		
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			salah for him. Please give it to you.
		
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			He doesn't pray but give it. No. No.
		
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			No. Doesn't.
		
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			Yourself. What is your focus on yourself?
		
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			And once you figure that out and remove
		
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			all these external chat,
		
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			focus on yourself, then say, what do I
		
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			need to do
		
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			moving forward? What are my goals?
		
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			What must I learn? What must I achieve?
		
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			What are
		
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			the markers that I set for myself?
		
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			Right?
		
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			Have friends who will remind you of that.
		
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			I have a couple of friends who I
		
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			really value, and the reason I value for
		
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			the value of them is because
		
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			one of them the almost the first thing
		
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			he says after salami, he says, what book
		
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			are you reading now?
		
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			Nothing. He would ask me how are you
		
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			how is your health? What book are you
		
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			reading now?
		
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			I really value that because, you know, that
		
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			keeps me on my
		
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			so question.
		
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			What book are you reading now?
		
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			How many books did you read in the
		
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			last 12 months?
		
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			What were those books?
		
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			What was your takeaway? What did you learn?
		
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			By reading those books, what changed in your
		
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			life?
		
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			Even if you are reading for entertainment, no
		
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			problem. I'm not saying that you have to
		
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			read only
		
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			and read whatever you like but always ask
		
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			the question, what do I take away from
		
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			this? What do I learn from this?
		
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			There's one of my favorite authors. He is
		
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			a,
		
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			historical fiction writer,
		
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			and he writes about the,
		
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			the Roman Empire.
		
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			And these are military histories,
		
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			but they're fiction.
		
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			But they're very true to fact, true to
		
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			actual fact. At the end of the book,
		
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			he always writes a note about wherever he
		
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			took some liberties with the actual dates and
		
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			names and so on.
		
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			And I read, if I'm not mistaken, a
		
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			set of 32 books.
		
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			It's the all those books are written around
		
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			the lives of 2 soldiers,
		
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			but those soldiers are different places and different
		
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			wars and different zones and different things.
		
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			Now what did I get from that? I
		
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			got an enormous understanding about the current geopolitical
		
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			power situation in the world.
		
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			From stories, fictional stories, historical fiction, written about
		
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			an empire which
		
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			is 2000 years old.
		
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			Because the structures,
		
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			the things that drive that empire have not
		
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			changed.
		
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			They are in operation today.
		
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			But you won't know that. You won't understand
		
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			that unless you read those things.
		
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			Right? That's the reason why history is important.
		
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			History is important not because of what happened.
		
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			It's so that you can understand
		
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			what is happening today. And hopefully,
		
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			if there is something to do about that,
		
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			then you can understand that gives you some
		
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			kind of a
		
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			pathway forward.
		
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			So focus
		
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			number 1,
		
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			change the conversation.
		
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			Focus the conversation yourself and what can I
		
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			change, and then set goals for yourself?
		
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			So these are my goals. These are the
		
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			objectives which I'm trying to achieve. This is
		
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			what I must do and put timelines on
		
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			them by when.
		
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			So I'm gonna read 1 book a month,
		
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			minimum. This is something that everybody must do.
		
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			A one book per month, you must read.
		
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			And by 1 month book, I mean, especially
		
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			the students. I'm not talking about your course
		
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			course material. I'm talking about other than course
		
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			material,
		
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			one book per month. This is the minimum
		
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			that you must read. Every educated
		
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			person who's been to school must read at
		
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			least one book per month if you read
		
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			more good for you.
		
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			Right?
		
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			We
		
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			ask to help us to focus on that
		
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			which is beneficial for us in this
		
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			and to do what is pleasing to him
		
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			and to save us from what does not
		
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			please him.