Mikaeel Smith – To Know Him Is To Love Him Life Of The Prophet Muhammad
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The importance of the Prophet's message to build a successful business is emphasized, as it is the loss of people and family members, the loss of parents and the loss of a father and mother. The church's importance to shaping people's lives is emphasized, including finding support and a stable base, witnessing the Prophet's teachings, finding fulfillment in life, and fulfilling one's dream. The importance of seous spiritual verses and understanding of Allah's is emphasized, as it is crucial for everyone to fulfill their dream and fulfill their dreams with a sense of satisfaction.
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Before we start let's make our intention.
Why are we here?
What are we going to be doing for
the rest of this evening?
What are we going to be doing for
the rest of tomorrow morning and afternoon?
Our intention here is to learn more about
the life of our Habib Muhammad Sallallahu Alaihi
Wasallam.
That is the intention.
I was with a scholar and one thing
before I start.
I highly recommend the brothers to take notes.
The brothers to take notes.
The reason I encourage all of us to
take notes is because Al ilmu sayyid wal
kitabatu qayduhu.
Imam Shafi said that ilm is like hunted
prey.
It's like hunted prey.
Knowledge, ilm, is like hunted prey and the
way you capture it is by writing it
down.
A lot of us we feel like we'll
hear something and I'm just gonna remember it
and my life will change.
I'll just change.
Caterpillar to butterfly.
I'll be a new person.
The fact of it is after this these
next four hours of studies and learning there
will be moments where you have this these
thoughts.
Write those down.
Write those things that you hear.
Write those things that you think while we're
talking.
Right?
And come back to those notes.
Review those notes.
Look at them again.
It's extremely important to capture these moments.
So with that, why are we here?
What's the intention before we get started?
The intention is to know our Habib sallallahu
alayhi wa sallam better.
The intention here is to know this our
Habib sallallahu alayhi wa sallam in a deeper
more personal way.
When I say better I want to be
more clear what I mean by that.
The objective for us is that he's not
the Prophet.
He's your Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam.
Like your Prophet is different than the Prophet.
The Prophet means he's the Prophet for the
Muslims.
Your Prophet means there's a special connection.
There's a special like connection that you have
with him, right?
And that that comes over time, but it
also comes with just studying his life.
Sitting in these durus, learning about him, studying
him, going deeper and deeper and deeper into
his life, right?
So that's our intention.
We want to really really focus on that
love and muhabba and here's the thing a
lot of y'all studied seerah since you
were in like like, you know, Sunday school.
Eight years old, you know sister Amina was
teaching you, right?
In Sunday school she went through the seerah
and you connected with it, mashallah.
So you'll listen with the intention of like,
oh, I know that story.
Oh, I know that story.
Oh, I know that story.
It's not about what stories you know.
It's about how they relate to you differently
in this phase of your life.
See, see, okay, when you read about the
Prophet's relationship with Fatima, for example, Fatima was
his last daughter, right?
His last daughter Fatima.
She's the youngest.
When you read about that relationship and you
read how close they were, it's one thing.
But when you have a daughter, how many
brothers here have daughters?
Right?
Now when you read that story as a
father, when you read that story as a
mother, it hits different.
So I always say this, seerah doesn't change,
but your life changes.
And as your life changes, your connection and
appreciation for different aspects of the seerah is
what changes.
And that's why scholars say this is important,
write this down.
Scholars say you should do a khatm.
You know how people do khatm of the
Quran in Ramadan?
They say every year you should do khatm
of seerah.
Like you read the whole seerah, I don't
care which book, Yasir Qadhi, he has a
new book out, Revelation is there, there's tons
of books, right?
And maybe we can have a session where
we just brainstorm different seerah books that are
out there.
Not the point which one, the point is
that every year of your life, you go
back through the seerah.
Why?
Because it doesn't change, but you change.
That's the key.
It doesn't change, but you change.
Sometimes we change in a positive way.
Sometimes life circumstances change.
Sometimes we've gotten worse in our iman.
And now when I come back, I can
feel the difference.
Like, wow, that story used to hit me.
It's not hitting me anymore.
What happened to my relationship?
So again, we change for the better.
We spiritually come to another place.
Number two, our life circumstances change.
So now that same story hits me so
different.
And number three, sometimes spiritually, I'm not where
I was before.
So the story doesn't hit me the same,
but I'm able to test myself and where
I'm at spiritually by how I connected to
that story.
So, I mean, seerah is a bahr, it's
an ocean.
I have the privilege and the great blessing
from Allah, and I don't take it for
granted, of teaching seerah at Qalam.
And it takes, we go through it nine
months.
We're studying from all the books of seerah,
just connecting, and we spend nine months and
five days a week, you know, 40 minute
classes every single day going through seerah.
We're going to be going over the seerah
for the next, what, 12 hours or so,
right?
And so obviously all of the minute, smaller
details, we won't be able to touch all
of those.
But of the bigger pictures, we'll be able
to zoom in on those, connect to those,
appreciate the significance of those in the Prophet's
life.
So let's go through this.
Why do we study seerah?
Ready?
Number one, the number one reason why, and
this isn't in order of necessary importance.
This is just the order I put, it's
arbitrary.
Number one reason is you cannot understand the
book of Allah without understanding the context upon
which, and within which it was revealed.
You can't understand Iqra.
You can't understand ma wada'aka rabbuka wa
ma qala.
Allah Subh'anaHu Wa Ta-A'la has
not forsaken you, nor is he angry with
you.
You can't understand that truly and appreciate it
until you connect it to the context of
what it was revealed for.
So the number one reason, number one reason
that we study seerah is that without studying
seerah, the Quran doesn't have that meaning that
Allah Subh'anaHu Wa Ta-A'la wanted
us to gain from it.
So by nature, I remember one time, and
I shared this with some of the shabab
in Dallas, I remember one time I read
this verse, I was memorizing Quran, and this
was like, I had just become Muslim, you
know, I'm surrounded by all these little kids
rocking back and forth in a hips class,
you know what I mean, y'all seen
them before, you know, rocking, and I'm like
this big dude sitting amongst them, 20 years
old, you know, the old dude that doesn't
fit in, masha'Allah.
And, and I read this verse from the
end of surah shura, Allah Subh'anaHu Wa
Ta-A'la says, And like, thus, we
have sent down this ruh, the ruh here
means the Quran, because Quran is that soul
food, I heard Munir talking about their soul
food outside.
You know about soul food.
Y'all know about soul food in Cali.
I'm just trolling.
Y'all gonna have to get used to
me.
One thing I say is people have forgotten
how to laugh and smile while we learn.
People come into durs, you know, why not?
Alhamdulillah, we are witnessing Allah's blessing, Allah chose
us to spend the next, like evening, a
Friday, what's it Friday, a Friday night.
Studying the life of his Habib Sallallahu Alaihi
Wasallam.
Be happy.
Alhamdulillah.
Alhamdulillah.
And just smile.
The smile has such a psychological impact, just
the physiological smile has such a psychological impact
to your receptivity.
I go on tangents, but sometimes I say
tangents are good.
Okay.
You know, we have a run club in
Dallas.
And I was talking about this, this week
about smiling.
There's a study that shows, do we have
any runners in the room?
Runners?
Okay.
One, he raised it light too.
He raised it light.
I noticed the immigrant community don't run.
I started a run club.
I started running in the run club.
My wife was like, why?
What, who runs?
Like who runs, right?
So there's a study that shows you actually
run better if you smile while you run.
So what if we apply that to how
we learn?
What if we apply that to gatherings where
we're trying to learn?
So lighten up, smile, enjoy the moments while
we're going through these things.
Enjoy it.
It's okay to laugh.
It's okay to, SubhanAllah, they say the Rasul,
he used to sit with the Sahaba and
they used to crack jokes about Jahiliyya.
Everyone has a Jahiliyya, by the way.
I don't care if you were born Aisha
or Ahmed or Muhammad.
Everybody has a Jahiliyya.
And the Sahaba used to sit together and
they would talk about Jahiliyya.
Man, remember we used to wild out.
Like man, we used to.
And the Prophet ﷺ would sit there and
they say he would just smile.
And we would be cracking up and he
would just sit there and smile.
So it's okay to smile while we learn.
I was saying, I ran to my teacher
because this verse says, we sent down this
ruh, this soul to you.
And it refers to revelation.
And Allah says, you did not know what
the book was, nor did you know what
faith was.
When I read this verse, I'm like, wow,
that's me.
I didn't know what the Qur'an was.
I didn't know what Iman was.
I ran to my teacher.
And I asked, I said, Shaykh, when I
read this verse, I feel like Allah's talking
to me.
Is it okay if I feel like it's
for me specifically?
And I'm expecting him to be like, mashallah,
yes.
He's like, no, no, bruh.
It ain't about you.
He said, no, Allah is speaking to his
Habib Muhammad ﷺ.
So then I asked him, I said, how
do I connect to that?
He said, no, you have to connect to
his life.
You have to understand first it was revealed
on him.
You have to understand the context in which
it was revealed on him, what was happening
in his life.
And as we study his life starting today,
we're going to see so many things that
you're going to look back and be like,
man, I was going through that.
I was going through that.
I was going through that.
And once you connect to his life, then
you're able to embody the meaning of those
verses.
So number one reason why we study the
seerah, the life of the Habib ﷺ is
to have a deeper, deeper appreciation for an
understanding of the book of Allah ﷻ.
Number two, second reason, to develop true
belief in him as a prophet, in him
as a prophet.
There's two things I say, you're playing yourself
short if you haven't done it.
If you're above the age of 17 and
you haven't, number one, read the entire Qur
'an in your mother tongue, you're playing yourself
short.
And number two, age of 17, you haven't
heard the entire life of the Habib ﷺ.
Two things by the age of 17.
And I say 17 because 16 you wilding
out 15.
I was going to even say 18, but
I'll put at 17.
Whole Qur'an.
How many people in this room have done
khatm of the Qur'an in Arabic?
A number of times.
Don't raise your hands.
How many of us have done khatm in
a language we understand?
Yo, if you get a letter from someone
you love, right Ayman?
If you get a letter from somebody you
love, you read that letter.
Habibi knows, what's your name?
What's your name?
Ali.
I'm gonna be picking on you today yo.
Because he felt that.
He's like, yeah, stuff for a love.
If you get a letter from someone you
love, you read that letter back, forth, front.
You flip it over.
Is it coded?
Are they trying to tell me something else?
What about this message from Allah?
What about this message from Allah?
Allah loves you.
And I want you to whisper to yourself.
I want you to say that.
I'm not, this is not rhetorical.
Within yourself, close your eyes and say Allah
loves me.
Allah loves me.
How many of us have been taught Allah
is angry with us?
And we're walking around every day waiting for
the azaab, waiting for the azaab.
Yeah, my boss gonna fire me any moment
now.
I'm a bad Muslim.
I'm a bad person.
Allah loves me.
Say Allah loves me.
He wrote, he sent you this revelation as
a guidance for you.
And here you are at the age of
25, 24, 35, 40.
But you've never read this letter, this, you
get the context, letter that has been written
for you to show his love to you
in a language that you understand.
And number two, and number two, number two,
what we're doing now, going over the entire
life of the Prophet ﷺ.
Not just for factual data, but to grow
to love him more.
So number two reason we study the seerah
is to affirm tahqiq al-risalatihi, tahqiq al
-risalat al-nabi ﷺ, to truly, truly believe
in the, in the, in the risalah.
Like when I say ashhadu anna muhammadan abduhu
wa rasuluh, oh, I'm saying that from my
heart.
Not because my daddy said it, not because
my mom said it, not because the community,
because I saw his life and I saw
the, I saw the signs of nubuwwah.
Number, number three, number three, a deep study
of the seerah, an in-depth study of
the seerah will do this.
Number three, remove doubts that surround the seerah.
Doubts, we have haters, y'all.
We have haters.
If you live on social media, then you
got all types of doubts floating in your
head about the seerah.
Until you study it, until you study it
from people who love the rasul, from people
who love the rasul, you won't be able
to remove those doubts.
You won't be able to remove them.
Number four, and I said these are not
in order of importance, to solidify love of
him in your heart.
Love, love, love, love is powerful.
And a lot of us have a very
cerebral relationship with our nabi ﷺ.
It has to be love.
Love conquers everything.
Love is powerful.
Love is what pushes sahaba to stand in
front of arrows coming at him.
When your motor reflexes tell you to flee,
love is what puts you in front of
your child to save their life.
Love of the rasul ﷺ, that right there
is the next thing that we strive for.
And I want to tell you something about
love.
Love is a cure for the lover and
the one being loved.
When I show love to Qasim, my son,
he's eight.
That's curing sicknesses in my heart.
That's curing me, but it's also curing him.
He's going to grow up, inshallah, inshallah.
He's going to grow up feeling loved, feeling
appreciated, feeling my baba was always there for
me.
Hubb, hubb for the prophet ﷺ.
And as the shuyukh said, how can you
love that which you don't know?
How can you love that which you don't
know?
Or do they not know their prophet, therefore
they're rejecting?
So what number was that?
Ali, I'm going to keep calling you out.
Number four, right?
Number four reason.
Number five, the scholars say that the ummah
in the latter days will only be saved
by what saved them in the first days.
The salah of the ummah today will be
gained or the well-being of our ummah
today, healing of our ummah collectively happens by
the same means that happened in the first
generation.
So the sahaba say, listen to this, we
used to study the maghazi, the way y
'all teach surahs to your children.
Let me explain what that means.
The sahaba, the tabi'een, they used to
say, our parents, they used to teach us
the siya, the life of the prophet, the
way you teach the small surahs to your
children.
You sit there and al-qariya, al-qariya,
al-qariya, al-qariya.
Like we do that.
That's how they used to teach sirah.
Not in the formal way, but the idea
was it was something that was going on
in the house.
That's why scholars say, and this is advice
to the mothers and the older brothers in
the room and the older sisters in the
room, please establish this.
And they go, oh, you went to surah
course, that's why you're saying it.
It's okay.
Establish this.
Establish a regular reading in the family of
a book of surah.
At first thing, I'm like, oh, mom, this
is corny.
My daughter, Maria, she's at the age, she's
10, so everything is not cool enough.
How did we get here?
Anyways, I used to be the coolest guy,
now I'm lame.
You know what I mean, Ali?
You got kids?
Are you married?
Oh, mashallah, Ali's not married, y'all.
And he's reading letters.
No, mashallah.
No, so Ali, Ali, write this down.
Future, when you're looking through those applications, you
know, those rishtas, just ask, are you, are
you okay with us reading surah?
Nightly reading, 10 minutes.
10 minutes, we read one thing and we
all, we just read it quick.
Just read it, regular.
You know what?
You may start it and the people in
the family, they just walk past you like,
oh, you're doing that again.
Before you know it, they're gonna start sitting
down.
Read it out loud and start reading it.
So the way we cure the illnesses of
the heart are the, of the later times
are by using the methods that they used
in the early times.
And one of those methods was a constant
reading of the life of the Rasul, alayhi
salatu wasalam.
Sayyid, how many you got, Ali?
Sayyid, I think these are enough for us,
inshallah ta'ala, to begin, inshallah.
So let's get right into it, inshallah.
I mean, may Allah allow us to gain
insight this evening.
May Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala allow this
moment to renew and rejuvenate our iman.
May Allah allow this to be a moment
of closeness with him.
I'll share one hadith and then I'll start.
One day the Prophet, alayhi salam, was sitting
with the sahaba and he said, I wish
I could see my brothers.
Some of y'all know this hadith, it's
my favorite.
I wish I could see my brothers.
The sahaba were sitting there and they're like,
we're here, ya Rasulullah.
And the Rasul, sayyid, said, no, no, you're
my sahaba.
I wish I could see my brothers.
They said, who are your brothers?
He said, there'll be people that come after
me that haven't seen me, but they would
give anything to see me.
They believe in me, they haven't seen me,
they would give anything to see me, give
anything.
Those are my brothers and my sisters.
That's us, inshallah.
Before I go forward, some of us, shaitan
is saying to you, you're not pious, why
are you pretending?
Why are you sitting in this gathering?
This man's talking about love, look at all
these pious people, you feel like a fake.
I feel like a fake sitting here too,
but you know what?
It's not about me.
It's about Allah.
The prophet, sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, said, my
intercession is for the people of major sins
of my own.
Major sins.
The ones that feel like they shouldn't be
here.
The ones that their boy just brought them
in like, yo bro, just pull up.
Just pull up.
And you're like, man, y'all too pious
for me over there.
The fact that Allah brought you in this
gathering means Allah loves you, not because I'm
here.
If I wasn't here, anybody, someone else would.
But Allah chose us to sit here in
this moment and study his Habib and get
closer to him.
Just say Alhamdulillah.
Just say Alhamdulillah.
Alhamdulillah.
So let's get right into it, inshallah, because
it is a short it is a short
session, meaning short in that we don't have
months to go over the content.
So it is somewhat short.
So I'm going to start.
We just did some of the reasons why
it's important to study Sira.
The next thing I'm going to go into
is the birth of the Rasul alayhi salatu
wassalam.
And let me pull open my notes inshallah.
Oh, we got, oh, I want to look
at this real quick.
Let's take a look at this.
You have this in your email, by the
way.
If this is too hard to see and
you signed up for the course, you should
have this PowerPoint in your email.
So the way this is broken down is
very beautiful.
It helps you really break down the Sira.
On the inner circle, you'll see the year.
The entire mission of the Prophet, as we
know, is only 23 years.
Now, what I want you to understand is
in the course of 23 years, the transformation
that he caused in the hearts of people
is phenomenal.
Just to think a reformation of that caliber
happened in only 23 years is mind-blowing.
The first 12 and a half years are
in blue.
Those are what we call the Meccan phase,
the Meccan phase, because the Prophet, was in
Mecca in those days.
Now, the Meccan phase is drastically different than
the Medina phase.
How so?
Let's have a little dialogue.
Okay.
I thrive on dialogue.
I'm like one of those black preachers from
the South.
There you go.
There you go.
I need like something.
There you go.
Thank you.
How is Mecca different than Medina?
Just brief.
Oh, but when I ask for questions, don't
give a lecture, please.
I'm saying with all due respect, I know
we all have great thoughts, but just to
respect other people's time.
Yeah, I love that what she said.
And I want you to write that down.
Mecca was building the foundation of faith.
Medina was building up.
You know, you build a house, you got
to dig down first.
And the better the foundation, the bigger the
edifice on top of it can be.
And I'll share a hadith with you that's
in Bukhari.
Aisha radiallahu ta'ala she says, and if
I go a little fast, just bear with
me because of time.
If we had weeks together, inshallah Munir will
put it together.
We'll do some stuff.
If we had more time together, I would
take my time more, but I want to
cover more.
This hadith in Bukhari is profound.
Aisha says in Bukhari, she says that the
first thing to be revealed upon us were
the small surahs that talked about heaven, *,
and the akhirah.
She says, until faith was strong in the
hearts of people.
And then the halal and the haram came
down.
She says, these are her words, not mine.
If the first thing to come down was
halal and haram, her word, she says, if
the first thing to be revealed was la
tashribul khamr, the people would have said we'll
never give up alcohol.
She says, if the first thing to be
revealed was don't commit zina, the people would
have never committed zina, never stopped.
She says, but it came after the foundation
was established.
Another reason, Ali, put this in your notes.
Another reason we, this is my guy.
Another reason we study seerah is to learn
the proper method of dawah.
Listen, if somebody takes shahada tomorrow, and you
pull them to the side and start teaching
them makharij, bro, you have missed the point.
Like, I just took shahada.
I believe in one Allah and I want
to believe more.
And you're like, let me give you a
linguistics lesson.
Really?
No.
The beginning years, the beginning years were not
about halal and haram.
Now I want you to take a moment
and think, how does that bit of knowledge
impact you as a parent or an older
brother or older sibling?
Non-rhetorical question.
How does that bit of knowledge, does anyone
get any insight?
Like, ah, okay.
How many of us, when we started teaching
our children, we just started with do's and
don'ts.
Any love of the prophet?
No.
Any love of akhira?
No.
Any, any thought of qiyama?
Do you know Sidi Ahmed Zarouk, he says,
I was a little kid, imfez, and I
was going to the makatib, like the teachers
for Quran.
And at lunchtime, we used to go home
for lunch.
And he says, my grandmother, he said, my
grandmother taught me imam.
He says, I would come home and I
would say to grandma, grandma, can I have
food, lunch?
And she would say, ma'indi qaam, ta
'al nad'u Allah.
She would say, I don't have food, let's
go make dua for it.
He says, I'm six, seven years old.
So we would go pray two rakah, and
she would make dua with me.
And then she would, after we made dua,
she would say, nufatishul bait, let's go look
around the house.
But she already hid the food somewhere.
And the little boy, seven years old, he
just made dua, he would run around, it's
in a different place every time, he would
run, oh, and she would say, he would
go to eat, and she would say, la,
we have to show gratitude first.
Haakadha, Aisha radiallahu anha is telling us the
Meccan phase here tells us, can you see
my mouse too?
Okay, the Meccan phase here is all about
hardship, grinding, iman.
How many prayers are there in the most
of the Meccan phase?
Up until year 11, when does the five
prayers come?
For those who know, let's teach those who
don't.
11, right here in 11th year, isra and
miraj, right?
So prior to that, how many prayers a
day?
Two, two.
Morning and evening, that's it.
No jamaat, don't got to go to the
masjid, you can't go to the masjid, there's
war out there.
Though you walk out the house, it's like
UK right now.
May Allah make it easy, may Allah make
it easy.
I wasn't meant to really be a joke,
but yeah, because may Allah make it easy.
Maybe that was a really bad joke, actually.
No, so look, in the 11th year, in
the 11th year, the five prayers come.
How close is the 11th year to the
Medini phase?
It's right there.
So that means there's no zakat, there's no
hajj, there's two prayers a day, what are
we doing?
We're building iman.
We're building iman.
And the surahs are all the small surahs.
I do air quotes because scholars don't like
when you call them small.
Because zilzal is like heavy.
Qari'ah is heavy.
Like these small surahs, if you read them,
you're like, that's deep.
But they were building iman first, right?
So Sidi Ahmed Zaruk is saying that my
grandmother was teaching me iman from the age
of six.
And here we are at the age of
seven.
When's the last time you talked to your
sibling?
And I'm saying sibling because our older siblings
have so much influence on who we are.
And unfortunately, older brothers just troll younger brothers.
That's all they do.
Older sisters are a little better.
You know what I mean?
But older brothers, older sisters, I had older
sisters, let me change that, hold on.
No, because you can teach a child iman.
You can teach them when they're impressionable, when
they look up to you, when you're like
Superman to them, and you're like, let's make
dua.
Let's make dua.
SubhanAllah.
So what I'm trying to highlight here is,
Ali, I was saying there was another reason
we study seerah.
Did you get what it was?
To learn the proper method of giving dawah
and growing someone, tarbiya.
When we say tarbiya, that means how to
raise someone up as a good Muslim.
And you don't got to be perfect to
help raise someone to be good.
I'm gonna say that again.
We always working on ourself until the day
we breathe our last breath.
If you wait till you become good to
help other people become good, you'll never be
good enough.
You'll never be good enough.
But everyone in this room has something they
could teach another person.
You know why converts go so high in
their faith?
Because everyone around them, they see them as
a teacher.
They'll walk up to the young dude who's
like 12 years old and be like, can
you teach me tahiyyatu lillah wa salawat?
Little dude's like, yes, come here.
The dude says he's fixing his tajweed and
stuff.
So what I'm trying to explain to us
is when we learn, we look at seerah,
we get the proper method of raising someone
up.
If a family member of yours becomes Muslim,
or your neighbor becomes Muslim, and somebody comes
over, and they're like, you know, there's like
12 raka'ah for Dhor, right?
Habibi, there's four for this new Muslim.
When they get to the sunnah and the
nawafid, we get that, we got it.
But right now there's four for them.
Build them up.
So what I was trying to highlight here
is we get a proper method of how
to give dawah and how faith should be
grown in a person and built up.
Does that make sense?
Allah give us tawfiq, mashaAllah.
Okay, so I want to start off.
Let's go to this next.
So again, if we look at this, this
map starts from if you this this thing
on your screen starts from nabuwah.
When prophecy began, our whole dars today will
end at number one.
So Mufti Abdul Wahab, who comes tomorrow, I
won't be here tomorrow.
Mufti Abdul Wahab is going to start from
there and go towards the end.
I'm going leading up to nabuwah inshaAllah ta
'ala.
Oh, okay.
So the first thing we're going to cover
is the birth of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi
wasallam and the childhood of the...
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Sorry, guys.
I'm sorry.
I'm so sorry.
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Yeah, there we go.
Sorry about that.
Okay, so we're going to start with the
birth of the Rasul sallallahu alayhi wasallam and
the childhood of the Rasul sallallahu alayhi wasallam.
Oh, I went too far.
Okay, we're good.
Don't worry.
I got y'all.
So we begin the life of the Rasul
sallallahu alayhi wasallam with...
We'll begin at this point, which is Amina,
pregnant with the Rasul sallallahu alayhi wasallam.
Amina, the mother of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi
wasallam, while she was still pregnant with the
Rasul sallallahu alayhi wasallam, his father passed away.
His father had went on a journey and
he passed on his way back from the
journey.
He got sick and he passed away.
And so Amina has to think about raising
this child on her own.
I particularly connect to that because my mother
was a single mother raising me, right?
And so when I look at Amina, I
see my mother.
I see that same struggle of a single
mother trying to raise a child.
There are many narrations that talk about signs
that Amina saw.
Some of the signs, she says that I
didn't even know I was pregnant until I
noticed that my menstrual cycle didn't continue.
And she says that I didn't feel the
burden of pregnancy with this child.
And now you may say, okay, what's the
connection there?
He's rahmatu lil alameen, a mercy for humanity.
So the scholars say that Allah didn't even
allow him to give taklif or hardship to
his own mother.
Do you get it?
Right?
He was a mercy for everyone.
The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam was born in
the valley of Banu Hashim in Mecca.
Banu Hashim, their tribe, lived in this cul
-de-sac of a valley.
That becomes the same valley that they're boycotted
in later.
He was born in a house, the house
they said was, Dar ibn Yusuf was the
name of the house.
And most of the narrations say that he
was born on the 12th of Rabi al
-Awwal.
There's difference of opinion on a lot of
things.
I'll stick with the most authentic or the
most agreed upon opinions with everything.
He was born in the year of the
elephant.
Now this is big.
The reason this is big is because, I
won't go into the incident of Abraha and
the fiat, but the reason why this is
important is because it was a moment that
marked history.
And prior to that, they did not keep
good records of what year you were born.
And so the scholars say the significance of
him being born in that year is that
it's a year everyone remembered.
So everyone looks back and it's like, what
year was he born?
Everyone's like, oh, for many of us, it's
like September 11th, right?
Everyone remembers what happened September 11th.
It's just etched in our head, right?
And so, so he was born in the
year of the elephant.
There are different narrations about the birth of
the prophets of the light of settlement, the
miraculous nature of it.
His mother narrates that when she gave birth
to him, she didn't feel any pain whatsoever.
She also narrates that she saw light come
out of her womb and she saw clarity
to the palaces of Syria.
She says, this is what she saw giving
birth to him.
And some narrations even narrate that when he
was born, that he came out clean.
She says that one of the other women
that was helping give birth to him, she
says that I was in the room and
all I remember was light in that room
that day.
She says, I remember just seeing immense light
in the room.
When the prophet was born, his grandfather was
extremely elated, extremely elated that this grandson, because
Abdullah was his favorite son, he had a
special affinity with him.
So many of us, when you lose someone,
there's never a replacement, right?
But we understand how younger children can sometimes
take a place in the heart after losing
someone.
It seems as if this child without a
name yet, that his grandfather, Abdul Muttalib, he
saw this child as my Abdullah, who's gone
now.
This is him.
This is through him.
The narration says when he was born, they
brought him, they covered the baby up and
they brought him to his grandfather.
And when they brought him to him, he
held him, he kissed him and he hugged
him.
And he gave the order, he said that
I want this child to always be remembered
and I want him to always be praised.
So I want you to name him Muhammad,
right?
And that name had never been used before.
It was a name that was very different.
They had never heard that name.
And they asked him, it was the day,
the seventh day of his, after his birth,
they did his circumcision, which was the Arabs
had done that at that time.
And they slaughtered a goat and they had
a feast.
The Arabs never used this name and they
were caught off guard.
So they asked Abdul Muttalib, why did you
use strange names for him?
And he said, I want him to be
loved by God and praised by people on
earth.
So I gave him the name Muhammad.
There are other narrations that say that Abdul
Muttalib saw a dream in which he was
told to give him this name.
Nonetheless, he was given this name that was
very different at the time.
The Prophet ﷺ, after a few days, it
came time for him to be nursed and
suckled.
As many of us know this story, the
custom of the Arabs were that they would
send the child out into the desert with
a tribe for the child to be out
of the city and the hustle and bustle
of the city and the germs of the
city so the child could grow up in
the desert, free from all of the influences.
They also did it because the tribes around,
they spoke clear Arabic, good Arabic, not mixed
in with the metropolitan life, so the child
would grow up.
And it's a beautiful story.
I think it's worth reading in detail.
Typically, the tribes from the outskirts, they would
come to Mecca in order to take a
child because they understood they would get some
payment for taking care of a child.
And so, Banu Sa'd was the tribe that
was blessed with the Rasul ﷺ.
They come, and the narration is told best
by Halima herself.
So I'll read what she says about this
moment.
She says, we all went to Mecca in
order to find a child.
She said, I went with my husband, and
we had one baby already.
Obviously, in order to be a wet nurse,
you have to have a child already.
So she says, I have a child, but
she says it was hard days.
We were in the tough time of our
life, the grinding period, the one-bedroom apartment
days, the hard days.
But we said, you know, I'll go there,
and I'll get a child, and we'll make
some money, and we'll get some, it'll help
us.
She says, I came on a mule that
was really weak, and we had a camel
that we would try to get milk from,
but it didn't even give a drop of
milk.
She says that on the nights we were
going, my child would try to drink milk
from me, but he would not get any
milk.
So my child would often cry itself to
sleep.
And she used to say, we were hopeful
though.
We had hope in Allah.
We had hope that things would get better.
She said, finally we reached Mecca, and she
says that every single woman in my group
was presented Muhammad ﷺ.
But no one accepted him.
I want to pause here.
Have you ever felt that people don't recognize
your worth or value?
Have you ever felt underappreciated?
That people just overlook you, they don't realize
your potential?
Everyone in this room has had those moments.
I've had those moments.
Right now, I connect to him ﷺ.
Everyone looked over him.
What is this child?
They would look at him, then they would
see the grandfather and the mother, and then
they would say, wait, where's the father?
They would say, the father's passed away.
They would keep it moving.
How many of us in this room have
been overlooked before?
By people close to us, they couldn't see
our value.
Your Habib ﷺ was overlooked time after time
after time.
Every person walked past, walked past.
People not valuing you doesn't speak to the
value you actually have within you.
You can't see.
See, if you take a hafidh of Qur
'an, who memorized the book of Allah, and
take this person in front of a group
of people that don't value the Qur'an
at all, will they see any value in
this hafidh of Qur'an?
No.
That same person will walk in this room
and we will make, split the rows for
that person.
Please lead us in prayer.
Why?
Because we see value.
Our eyes see that value.
We have to stop letting people and their
inability to see what their value in us,
stop letting this make us feel less.
Them walking past Rasul ﷺ did not, it
was only their inability to see who he
was and the potential.
She says that everyone was presented him and
they would all say, he's a yateem, he's
an orphan.
What could the family do?
They probably won't be able to give us
a lot of money.
Every woman finally by the end of the
day, every woman in my group had a
baby.
They all got these new babies that they're
going to take back.
And I went back to my husband and
I said, I don't have a child, which
tells me something too.
In that moment, she felt like she was
missing out, but Allah was saving something better
for her.
Think about your life now.
She felt like everyone's got something and I
don't.
When the big plan, we're here 1400 years
later, like yo, hold up, just hold up.
Just hold up.
You wait till you see what Allah has
for you.
How many of us in this room, we're
looking around, my man got married already.
My man got a gig already.
She already got a rishta, she already got
a thing.
And we're like, and I'm just like, how
do you know this ain't your Halima moment?
How do you know this isn't your Halima
moment?
Can you just wait a little bit?
Can you just wait?
So she says, I went back to my
husband and I was like, I can't go
back empty handed.
She says, I said to my husband, She
goes, I'm just going to go get the
orphan.
I'm going to go get the orphan.
And she says, he said, supportive husband.
I got your back, Habibti, whatever you choose.
He was supportive husband.
He was like, I got you, whatever you
want to do.
And then he says, maybe Allah will put
in for us.
Listen, your words matter.
Your words matter.
Sometimes parents say stuff about their children in
a moment and I'm cringing like, please stop.
Words matter.
Speak positive things.
A lot of times you're frustrated with your
son and you say things like, you know,
yeah, you're not going to become anything.
Stop.
Speak good.
There's a Hadith that says many times calamities
come based on the words we say, based
on the words we say.
And here your son is grinding, grinding, grinding.
Well, you kept throwing badduas at the man
when he was growing up.
Speak positive.
So he says, perhaps Allah will place barakah
in him for us.
She says, I went, I took him.
Well, she goes, the only reason why I
took him was I didn't want to have
nothing, which means sometimes your intention to may
not be the highest.
Her intention wasn't, oh, I'm going to take
this kid.
It will be a blessing.
Her intention is, I don't want to look
bad.
I'm just going to take this kid.
Despite that intention, Allah's like, I'm going to
give you something through this.
I'm going to give you something through this.
She says, I took him and she says,
the moment I placed him in my lap
and he came close to my chest to
suffer, she said, I felt milk in my
chest and he began to drink.
And she's, she's thinking what's going on.
And then he drank until he was satiated.
And then I picked up his brother now,
meaning her original child.
And she brought him to the other side
of her chest and she suckled him.
The scholars say that the prophet would only
suckle from one side because he never wanted
to do, because Allah never wanted him to
do injustice to someone else and not do
injustice to this little baby.
So as a baby, his inclination was to
one side.
He would never rush me from the other
side because that's someone else's haq.
She says, he drank till he was full.
His brother drank.
They both went to sleep.
She says, we didn't sleep before that.
My husband got up and he went over
to the camel that we used to get
milk from.
And he's milking and milk's coming out.
She goes, he filled up a bowl and
we drank.
We drank milk until we were full.
She says, we had the best night that
night.
Best night.
She says, when I came, the mule I
was on was the slowest one.
And my whole crew was like, can you
speed up?
You know, when you drive in that hooptie,
what do y'all call them these days?
I don't know.
That beat up car.
The one that you always say the dua
before you start.
Yeah, we got those cars now.
Y'all forget the duas.
You just press the button.
Y'all don't need to be pressing buttons
no more.
Just get in.
But back in the day you had the
drink.
You always read the dua.
Every dua too.
You probably read Fatiha too on that car.
And then you started it.
She said, that's how my ride was before
I went.
She said, as we went back, this mule
is in front of everyone.
And everyone's like, yeah, Halima, did you switch
mules?
She goes, no, it's the same one.
They say something's up.
Halima describes the next two years as filled
with barakah.
Blessing after blessing after blessing.
Our sheep would go out.
They would come back full.
The neighbors sheep, the neighbors would tell the
shepherds, please graze wherever Halima's grazing.
Barakah.
So what's the lesson for me and you?
You're listening.
Okay, what's the lesson?
The scholars, they say, when you bring the
sunnah in your life, you will see a
barakah.
You will see a barakah.
It may not at first look like it.
You'll see a barakah.
What is barakah?
A lot of us think barakah means more.
It means more with less.
Man, the way I saw my mother stretch
$5, y'all.
Barakah.
Barakah.
We were driving past a billboard yesterday and
it was a billboard for a sandwich for
$5.
And my wife, she's young.
She's got an old soul, right?
She said $5.
She said, you know how many sandwiches I
can make with $5?
I leaned over.
I was like PBJ, right?
Peanut butter and jelly.
She's like, nah, I can make turkey.
I can make a bunch of turkey sandwiches
with $5.
Barakah is not that you get a better
job.
Barakah is with the salary you have, you
will see more in it.
That's it.
Thank you, Habib.
That's my ace right there.
It's going to be a beautiful night.
Allah.
So she says we continue to see this
barakah.
We continue to see these blessings.
She kept him for two years.
When the two years were over, he aged,
he grew faster.
She says that he, when he was two,
he looked like he was three and a
half-ish.
He grew faster.
And he would play with the children.
And as I said, she says that he
would only drink from one side of her
chest, not the other side.
And the scholars say that that's because justice
was ingrained upon his soul, ingrained upon his
soul.
So it came time to return him.
Oh, I'm sorry.
When Abdul Muttalib found out who took him,
or when he was, he asked her, her
name, she said Halima.
He said, what tribe are you from?
She said Banu Sa'd.
And he said, Bakh, Bakh.
You're like, they said, wah, wah.
Right?
He said, oof, oof.
He said, Sa'd wa Hilm.
What does this mean?
Let me break it down.
Words have an impact.
The name of the tribe was Sa'd.
Sa'd means felicity, goodness.
And Halima comes from Hilm, forbearance.
So he heard her name, Halima, and he
saw good.
He heard the tribe's name, and he saw
good.
I say this because later in the prophecy,
I said, we see the same thing.
I won't digress too much for the sake
of time.
There was a moment where he was being
attacked by a group during hijrah.
And the man attacking him with an entourage
of 70 people, his name was Bureidah.
So there's 70 people in front of the
prophet trying to capture him.
The prophet looks at the leader of the
gang.
He says, what's your name?
The man says, Bureidah.
Now Bureidah is from Barad, which means cold
in Arabic.
But Bureidah means like a little chill.
His name was little chill.
Anyways.
So the prophet, when he said Bureidah, he
looked at Abu Bakr, and he said, Baradallahu
amrana, our situation has cooled down.
But that's brilliant.
He takes any small sign of goodness as
a good omen.
So many of us, we are waiting for
Allah's punishment.
He would meet somebody.
What's your name?
Abdul Fattah.
Alhamdulillah, Allah is about to make openings for
me.
Alhamdulillah.
He would look for goodness.
Then he asked him, he said, what tribe
are you from?
And he said, Banu Salma.
He goes, Salamna.
He looked at Abu Bakr.
He goes, Salamna.
We made it.
We made it.
And if you're Abu Bakr, and there's 70
people in front of you, and you just
take the name, it's kind of like, but
this was the sunnah.
He looked for every opportunity.
So Abdul Muttalib, when he heard the name,
he said, Sa'dun wa Hilmun, forbearance and goodness.
Oh, this is the proper place for our
boy to be raised.
When Muhammad Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam, when he was
two years old, and he was weaned, it
was time to bring him back.
Halima was seeing a lot of barakah.
So she comes back to Amin, and she
goes, ah, I don't think he's ready for
city life yet.
The same people that overlook you one day,
when you glow up, when you glow up,
they'll want more time with you.
They'll want more time.
That's the sunnah.
The more you get involved in the sunnah
of the Prophet, small sunnahs, sit down when
you drink, you know, small sunnahs, the more
you love.
So she goes, he has to stay.
He has to stay with us.
He has to stay with us.
He told me four, four minutes.
Right after Maghrib, we come back to continue
this journey.
She goes, I'm worried about it.
Halima goes, I'm worried about him.
He's not ready for city life.
He'll get sick.
And Aminah, now it is a different time.
So for many of us, there's a really
disconnect here, because how could you be away
from your child for that time?
Right?
But this was the orf or the norm
of their time.
So they were used to this.
Very common.
So Aminah goes, you know, it looks like
you want him to just stay with you.
She goes, yeah, you know, we want him
to stay.
It's better for him.
So Aminah gives permission.
Okay, let him stay with you.
It'll be better for his Arabic.
It'll be better for raising him up.
Take care of him.
So he goes back until in the fourth
year, in the fourth year, one day, and
we'll end after this.
One day, the Prophet was playing in his,
in the backyard, you could say, with his
brothers.
He's about four years old.
And the Prophet, Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam, is six.
I'm sorry.
Thank you.
He's six years old.
The Prophet, Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam, himself, he's a
child.
So when he explains it, he says, I
was playing in the backyard.
And all of a sudden, I saw two
people in full white, full white.
And they came up to me.
And the narration is beautiful.
The narration says that they came over to
him.
And these two angels, as we know them
now, they come over and they look at
each other and they say, Ahuwa Huwa.
Is he him?
Is he him?
And the other angel goes, Huwa Huwa.
He's him.
Yeah, y'all laughing.
Those laughing, they use that slang these days.
He's him.
This is what the Hadith says.
Ahuwa Huwa.
Is he him?
The angel goes, Huwa Huwa.
And the angel goes, Young boy, be calm.
You don't know what Allah has in store
for you.
And they lay him down and they perform
the first open heart surgery on this boy.
They split open his chest.
The Prophet says they brought something that looked
like ice and water.
And they cooled my chest and they washed
my heart.
The scholars, they said, they were washing his
heart from some of the lower inclinations of
humans.
They were cleaning him, getting him ready to
be ready what's going to come later.
So it's not going to happen once.
It's going to happen multiple times.
His brother runs off and he runs to
his father, his mother, and he says, Muhammad's
dead.
That's what he says.
He says, someone killed Muhammad.
Now for Halima, this boy is my aman.
So she runs and when she comes back,
she sees the Prophet, six year old boy,
standing up, face is flushed.
She says, what happened?
What happened?
And he says, I don't know.
They laid me down and they were looking
for something inside of me.
And he's six.
He's explaining it as a six year old
boy.
And they did something and then they covered
it back up and they said some words
to me.
I don't understand what they were trying to
say to me.
Halima, she goes to her husband.
She tells him, he says, we going back
to Mecca.
Runs back to Amina.
It's ready for him to come back to
y'all.
You know, when you was a kid and
you broke something, you just put it back
just enough so that the next person could
touch it and be like, ooh, what'd you
do?
I know we all did the same thing.
So Halima, Amina notices, whoa, just five months
ago, you, you know, two years ago, you
wanted this boy so much.
Why are you just trying to give him
to me?
And she goes, no, no, no.
She tries to play it off for a
few minutes.
And Amina's like, tell me the truth.
She's like, I'm worried for him.
And Amina goes, okay, he can stay with
me, but I'll tell you, there's nothing to
worry about this boy.
I've seen things from him when I gave
birth to him.
I know something special is going to happen
with this boy.
And so this is how the Prophet ﷺ
returned back to his mother.
We'll pick up from here after Maghrib, inshallah,
inshallah.
Allahumma salli ala Sayyidina Muhammad wa ala alihi
wa sahbihi wa sallam.
Assalamu alaikum.
So, um, just to catch up, if we
look at the slides, we can't, we went
over some of this material.
Bismillah.
Testing.
This one's on too.
Okay.
Um, so mashallah, we went over the miracles
at the birth of the Rasul ﷺ.
We went over, you know, Abu Lahab and
how happy he was and how he knew
how special he was.
And then we went over the aspects of
Halima Sa'diyah.
And we talked about the importance of not
attaching your value to other people's perception of
you.
Sometimes people can't understand something's value because they're
not looking at it the right way.
Similarly, with us in our lives, sometimes people
don't realize our value.
And I think there's another side of that
coin as well, which is sometimes we don't
see the value because we're not looking from
the right perspective.
Even our own sons, our own daughters, our
own family members, we don't value them as
we should value them.
And then we moved on to, there were
some other people who were wet nurses of
the Prophet ﷺ.
We won't go into all of those, inshallah
ta'ala.
And then we talked about this, that there
were four times throughout the life of the
Rasul ﷺ in which there was shaq al
-sadr, or the washing of the Prophet ﷺ's
heart.
And they say that the wisdom of each
of these brothers and sisters was to prepare
him for what was on, in the next,
what was coming, and to get him ready.
And so this happened four times.
The final time, right before the Isra and
Mi'raj, or the night journey, to prepare
him for that.
The third time, right before revelation.
And then the second time, during childhood as
well.
Okay, so before we go forward, here on
our slide is the, when the Prophet ﷺ
gets married to Khadijah Before that, I want
to talk about something else, however.
One of the beautiful things about Islam, and
about our connection with the Rasul ﷺ, is
that we have so much detail of his
life.
If you take the life of Isa, the
entire deen of Christianity, the whole thing is
based on his birth, and six or seven
months after he came back from Egypt, until
he was resurrected, or what their side of
the story is, right?
What's amazing is, when you look at the
amount of detail that we have on his
entire life ﷺ, from the moment he was
born, the details, the childhood of the Prophet
ﷺ, the years before prophethood, if you compare
it collectively, the entire Bible only covers two
years, and history only covers two years of
the life of Isa ﷺ, when we have
years and years and years of the Rasul
ﷺ sunnah.
I say that because, there's this, back in
the day there used to be this bracelet
that people used to wear, what would Jesus
do?
You don't know what he would do.
You ain't got enough information to know what
he would, you can guess.
But for real, if you ask someone, what
would Muhammad ﷺ do?
At the loss of a son?
What would Muhammad ﷺ do at a difficult
moment?
What would he do in battle?
What would he do upon having a child?
What would he do upon waking up?
What would he do when he go to
sleep?
Do you want me to keep going?
So when you ask the question, what would
he do?
The seerah has answers for that.
Where other traditions, despite how confident they may
be in their profession of faith, they have
so little compared to what we have in
his life ﷺ.
I like that sweatshirt bro.
Ali I might pick on somebody else now
bro.
So I want to talk about the years
that led up to the marriage with Khadijah
ﷺ.
We have to understand when we go back
at that first, I'm going to go back
a few slides.
I want to go all the way back
to that first slide.
This one right here.
This one right here.
If we looked at this slide right here,
this was really profound because what we said
was this entire blue phase was preparation for
the ibadah, for the actions, as the sister
said, building community.
All of those aspects came later.
And everything in this blue phase was preparing,
building that foundation of faith so that when
the order for don't drink khamer came, it
was flowing in the streets.
Faith was built.
But what's interesting is what we're covering was
everything that Allah put the Prophet ﷺ through
in order to prepare him for revelation.
So what do we have?
The first thing, the loss of his mother.
The Rasul ﷺ, he was being nurtured by
his mother until he reached the age of
seven.
His mother took him to Yathrib, Medina, in
order to see her in-laws, her family.
They went there and the Prophet, he remembers
it very clear.
He says, I learned how to swim in
the wells of Medina.
So he remembers when he was a kid
that his summer trip to Medina, that's where
I learned how to swim.
So he remembers, he's old enough to remember
this.
And he's there for some time and he's
with Banu Najjar, that's his family, which now
makes so much sense when he comes back
to Medina and he says, let the camel
go and the camel lands in Banu Najjar.
He was supposed to be there anyway because
that was his family, those were his people.
But if he had chosen them, then everyone
else in Medina would have felt some kind
of way.
You know, I'm talking to Ali, brother's in
the back salty right now.
They're like, yo, what's up with Ali?
Why is Ali getting all the attention?
Right, because I don't have the emotional intelligence
of the Prophet ﷺ.
There's a good book on EQ of the
Prophet ﷺ by the way.
Shameless plug, okay.
No one got it, it's okay.
All right.
No, the Rasul ﷺ when he arrived in
Medina, he said, let the camel go.
It's going on, it's ordered to go where
it will go.
Why did he say that?
One of the beautiful wisdoms is Medina was
filled with so much beef that if he
had chose one over the other, it would
have caused more beef.
So he said, let it go.
And where did it end?
It ended up right where he had visited
when he was a child at seven years
old, when his mother brought him.
So Rasulullah ﷺ, he goes to visit with
his mother, family trip with mom, road trip
to Medina.
And Umm Ayman was with them.
Who's Umm Ayman?
A black woman.
Yes.
Who he used to call, my mother, after
my mother.
Umm Ayman at this time was maybe 14
-ish.
She lives the entire life of the Prophet
ﷺ and she lives after him too.
And he calls her my mother.
And why did I say a black woman?
Because when you think of the woman he
called mom, many of us don't get a
picture of that.
Right?
That's beautiful.
The amount of colorism in our communities, yes,
that's deep and that's heavy and it carries
profound meaning.
May I go on this tangent for a
minute?
We should respect Africa, man.
Because it was the first place that welcomed
Islam.
It was the first place.
Now, I love my Desi and Arab brothers
and sisters.
Teeqay, sab kush teeq, teeqay.
But Islam was in Africa a long time
before and flourishing.
I say that because it's important to recognize,
recognize, like our tradition and the places that
were honored with Islam in the early days.
Don't sleep on that.
So Umm Ayman was there.
She was like a servant.
She, you know, used to take care of
Amina, do little chores for her, stuff like
that.
But this was a woman he used to
call mom.
Because he was only seven.
She was like older sister, you could say.
And they were on their way back.
And they stayed about a month there.
And the Prophet later, he tells us so
many things.
He says that when he got to Medina
later, he said, Oh, I stayed at this
house with my mother.
He goes, I learned how to swim in
the well of Bani Najaf.
That's where I learned how to swim.
It was a summer trip.
I went with my mom.
I learned how to swim.
Do you, hold on, let me pause.
If you compare this to what Christians have
on the life of Isa, it's nothing.
We have so much.
Now it's sunnah, take a summer trip, teach
a kid how to swim.
Follow a sunnah right there.
What would Jesus do?
I don't know.
But I know what Muhammad did.
Or is it that we just don't know
who he is?
Therefore, we act this way.
He says, I learned how to swim.
And then he says, when I was a
kid, I noticed something weird.
The Yahud of Medina, they used to come
in small groups, and they would look at
me.
They would look at me.
Because the Yahud had already had in their
prophecy, a prophet is coming.
And so when different signs about Muhammad Sallallahu
Alaihi Wasallam is spreading, when word is spreading,
this and that, they're keeping an eye out
that he's supposed to come now.
Who is he?
So Aminah Aminah was about 20 years old,
and they were on their way back.
And she passed away on the way back.
She passed away on the way back.
I want you to understand that the prophet
remembers this.
He's seven years old.
I'm thinking about my son who's eight right
now.
He just turned eight.
He was seven, right?
Low key.
That's the only reason I know how old
he is, but it's okay.
I'm thinking about my son, and if you
have a seven-year-old brother or sister,
and you think about the loss of the
only other parent you have, that's heavy.
He would remember that and he would cry.
He would cry.
It hurt.
Listen, they say that the prophet Sallallahu Alaihi
Wasallam, he lost everyone that he loved.
Are y'all ready for this?
You got to be ready for what I'm
about to say, because Allah wanted only the
love of Allah in his heart.
Listen to me about something.
Everyone in this dunya, Aminah, you've heard me
say this.
Everyone in this dunya, they either leave you
or you leave them.
You can't get attached to dunya.
You love people.
See, some of us hear that and we
build a wall to people.
I can't.
I'm not going to get attached to nobody
now because I don't want to get hurt.
So I'm just going to act hard around
my dad.
Do you love him?
Yeah, he all right.
No, love, love, love people fully, but know
truly that the love will only go on
into the akhirah.
Mufti Abdullah, one of the brothers, he told
me a story about when his brother died.
Their brother passed away about a year and
a half ago, young, 22, three.
Mahir, how old was he?
You may know.
Very young.
And he said that there was this one
brother from the community.
He's kind of from the streets, convert.
And when they were at the janazah, that
young man, he said, yeah, I ain't ready.
He said, Jenna just got personal.
He was at the janazah.
He said, Jenna just got personal.
Like I got people there.
I'm trying to, I got, I got people
there.
I got to get there now.
This isn't some, some distant that Jenna just
got personal.
Rasulullah Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam, he lost everyone.
He lost, he buried every child except Fatima.
Musiba after Musiba after Musiba after Musiba.
The heart, and I heard, I haven't lost
anyone close.
I haven't.
But I heard Abdullah say this last week
because he lost his brother.
He said, when our brother died, our father
asked us, do you feel something empty now?
And we all said, yes.
His father said, fill that with the love
of Allah.
That's it.
Because nothing else can fill that.
No person can come.
No person can come and fill that.
Now, just fill it with Allah.
That's all you can fill it with.
So the idea, the idea is not to
stop loving people.
My man with the nice hoodie.
Not to stop love.
What's your name?
Ahmed, Ali, Ahmed.
Okay.
Don't stop loving people.
That's what we do when we think about
people leaving.
You know what?
I don't want to feel pain, so I'm
going to put up a wall.
The sunnah is love people.
Give them your all.
But I'm going to lose them.
Sheikh, they're going to pass away.
I know it's going to hurt too.
It's going to hurt.
It's going to tear you apart.
And when the Rasul Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam was
standing next to Hamza, he wept like a
baby.
He cried, man.
He cried and he cried and he cried
because it hurt.
But Jannah just got personal.
Jannah just got personal now.
I'm trying to meet people over there.
Rasul Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam now, father he never
met.
Mother passed away seven years old.
Think about your little brother.
Think about your little sister.
It hurt.
Ummi Ayman now picks him up and takes
him back because they're halfway.
That's why he said, that was my mom.
That was my mom.
She brings him back.
And one of the things that I write
about in my second book is we all
need secure bases.
So attachment theory tells us that every human
being looks for a secure base.
And here's the deal.
Just because he lost them doesn't mean there
aren't other people that can fill that gap
and be there for you though.
It doesn't fill their space, but they could
be there for you.
So Abdul Muttalib, he brought him close.
He said, this is my boy.
He sat him on his special cushion.
He gave him his preference.
He ate with him.
He ate at his plate.
He gave him close treatment.
He brought him close.
The Imam read in the Salah, did we
not find you as an orphan with no
one?
And what does Allah say?
But we brought you in.
Allah brings you in and takes care of
you through people.
See, we don't understand.
Everyone's like, we think this journey to Allah
is alone.
Allah uses people to help you on the
journey.
He says, did he not find you as
an orphan and bring you in?
But who brought him in, in like in
the tangible material world?
His grandfather.
But Allah is saying, I brought you in.
It's because we do God's work on earth.
Do you feel me?
We do Allah's work on earth.
We're the ones, we're Khalifa.
That's what we're supposed to do.
It's beautiful.
So he lost her at the age of
seven.
Calamity.
Calamity.
And what calamities do is they disconnect you
from the dunya.
It makes you realize how transitory the dunya
is.
After a death, everybody's more spiritual, yo.
Look at Ghazda, all of us, we just
like became deeply spiritual, like overnight.
Brothers like Fajr, Isha, Tahajjud.
Because death, it's like, what is this dunya?
So Allah Subh'anaHu Wa Ta-A'la
takes people away.
And specifically with the Anbiya, he took people
away.
There's two reasons.
So that the heart can only connect to
Allah.
And so that we could have a role
model to follow when we lose people.
How many people have buried five of their
children?
I have a close friend that eight months
ago buried his child.
He couldn't, he couldn't explain.
I'll tell you the story.
12 years ago, he went to Morocco and
adopted a boy.
He already had three children.
He brought Ilyas home.
They named him Ilyas Al-Islam.
We don't know his last name, so he's
Al-Islam.
The boy was, mashaAllah, He was a good
wrestler.
He loved qira'ah.
Beautiful kid.
That was his dad.
He didn't know anything but this family.
Beautiful.
I have videos of his qira'ah.
It's amazing.
Eight months ago, it was an evening night,
probably like Sunday night.
He says, Baba, I have a headache.
Ilyas always was tough.
He could take anything.
So when he said that, they took him
to the hospital.
I kid you, 40 hours later, we prayed
janazah.
The next day, his father, Shaykh Tamim, he
was sitting in the masjid, giving a dars
to the community.
And he said, Wallahi, I am happy with
Allah.
But it hurts.
That's it.
That's what he said.
And he repeated it until he started weeping.
Weeping, weeping, weeping.
But he said, Allah gave me this child
to raise and to be in jannah waiting
for me.
I don't know what life he would have
lived.
So the Prophet, peace be upon him, he
lost his mother.
But other people can come and give you
support.
And you could be that support for someone
that just lost somebody.
Like, you gotta be there for your man.
He looks like your girlfriend because y'all
got the same haircut as your brother, see?
But that's a common haircut.
You could be there for him.
A lot of us have parents that were
deadbeat dads, man.
He's never around.
Older brother could be there for you.
Older sister, a sister from the masjid.
Abdul Muttalib brings him in.
And yes, he doesn't know his father.
Yes, he lost his mother.
But now somebody else brought him in.
He's like, I got you.
We could do that for people.
We can do that for people.
So he used to lay down a special
blanket for him in the shade of the
Kaaba.
And he would make sure that no one
sat on it except the Prophet, peace be
upon him.
And the Prophet, peace be upon him, he
grew up in the care of his grandfather.
And when he reached the age of eight
years old, his grandfather passes away.
Grandfather passes away.
If you were to write a story of
a prophet, someone that's loved by Allah, how
would your script go?
If you were to write a story before
hearing this, of someone that's Habibullah, how would
it start?
What would year two be?
Five year?
Year six be?
Year seven be?
Different, right?
This one closer?
Can't hear me?
No?
So you want me to use two or
you want me to switch?
Okay.
So the question is, I want you to
think he's eight years old now and he's
forced to face another loss.
Now with that said, what temperament would you
think this child develops as he grows?
But let me share this.
Sahaba say we never talked to him except
he was smiling at us.
And this is why I say, if anyone
had any reason to be salty, he did.
But despite that, he showed nothing but love
to people.
We're walking around with a lot better salty,
angry.
Bro, what's wrong?
Oh, something happening, whatever.
Mother?
Grandfather now?
At the age of eight, he loses his
grandfather, Abdul Muttalib.
And we can reflect on the loss there.
I told you the reason behind that.
The Prophet ﷺ is then brought in by
Abu Talib.
Abu Talib, we're going to get more of
his story, of course.
Abu Talib brings him in and cares for
him.
But there's one problem.
Abu Talib has a lot of children.
So there's not that one-on-one like
granddad was taking care of me.
It's not that one-on-one like mama
was taking care of me.
I'm one of 10 now.
I'm another mouth.
Yeah, they're looking after me.
But and there was another problem.
He wasn't wealthy.
He wasn't wealthy.
So from a young age, Rasulullah ﷺ, he
started to work for himself.
One of the first jobs that he did
now, I want to pause here and I
want us to understand the context here.
In order to prepare him for the job
that's about to be given to him, there's
training that has to happen before.
Everything I'm going to discuss right now, I
want you to look at it as training
for this message that's about to come.
What's one of the first things that he
does?
He's young, 12 years old, non-rhetorical.
One of the first things he does, he's
a shepherd.
A shepherd.
One day Rasulullah ﷺ, he was he was
talking to the Sahaba.
It's in Bukhari.
He says, مَا بَعَثَ اللَّهُ نَبِيًّا إِلَّا رَعَى
الْغَنَمِ No prophet was sent except that they
were a shepherd of sheep.
You know one thing's crazy?
If you look in the Christian tradition, they
always talk about Jesus as a shepherd.
We haven't really understood our Prophet ﷺ was
a shepherd too.
You'll see many depictions.
Him with the curved staff and the sheep
around.
You feel me?
Rasulullah ﷺ, he says, no prophet was sent
except that he was a shepherd.
And the Sahaba, they said, وَأَنْتَ يَا رَسُولَ
اللَّهِ He said, نعم كُنتُ أَرْعَاهَا عَلَى قِرَاتِكْ
لِأَهْلِ مَكَّةِ He said, I used to graze
sheep for pennies for the people of Mecca.
He's 12 years old, but he has an
understanding that I want to be a burden
on society.
And this is a message for the Shabbat.
How many of us is just, I ain't
gonna say it, freeloading at home, bro?
Bro, you like 16.
You don't got a job yet?
Really?
Now, I blame the parents too.
Because so many parents, they get to a
state and they're like, I work so you
don't got to work, bro.
What made you work?
So would you want to raise a Shahzada?
You want to raise a prince?
So that when wifey says, can you help?
He goes, uh, a lot of wives are
struggling with husbands because mother-in-laws didn't
raise men.
Yeah, that needed.
Stop pampering your son, man, please.
You are not doing the world a favor
by pampering your son or daughter.
You are not doing the world a favor.
I'm sorry.
And now Ahmed ain't listening to me.
You are not doing the world a favor.
I'm sorry.
If you keep doing your son's laundry, that
boy is going to grow up and never
be able to do laundry or do any
chore in his life.
The prophets I sent him was 12 years
old and he's, and I'm going to sound
old.
I don't care no more.
I sound old.
I had a paper route at 12, yo.
Paper route, house to house, throwing papers like
you saw in the old movies.
Paper route.
We found ways.
We found summer jobs.
We found, we worked cause so that you
understand the value of contributing back.
But now our sons and our daughters, we
just protect them.
Just study.
That's it.
Just study.
I guarantee if you stand on your feet
for seven hours at minimum wage, you'll realize
what $15 is.
You'll realize that $15 you, you're like, yo,
that's $15, man.
I worked for that.
So the first step, but here's a question.
This is not a rhetorical.
I want feedback from this.
Why did every prophet have to part of
the training camp of prophethood be a shepherd?
What do you learn as a shepherd to
keep the herd together?
Number one, those sheep, they go every direction.
They go every direction.
One goes this way, one goes that way.
But with love and muhabba, you got to
keep them together.
What else?
Patience.
You trying to guide this sheep to pastures
and he going off on his own and
you got to run off and bring them
back, run off and bring them back, run
off and bring them back.
Patience.
What else?
Reflection.
Oh, beautiful.
I never heard that one.
Just being out in the creation hours.
What are you doing?
Watching the sheep graze and the creation of
Allah is in front of you.
That's beautiful.
You know what else you get?
Yeah.
I was about to say that.
Understanding of different people's nature.
All those sheep are not the same.
So your community as a prophet is not
going to be all the same.
There was something to be taught in this.
And so if we learn anything from this,
because for us right now, it's like, well,
what do I get from this?
What I get from this is the importance
of work and what it inculcates in you
as a person.
And the way you can destroy someone's capacity
to reach their peak is to pamper them.
You are not doing someone a favor by
pampering.
I'm sorry.
Eight years old, do the laundry.
10, maybe.
12, yo, you know how to work a
washing machine.
Is that too young?
Too young?
That's what I'm saying, man.
I'm watching kids go get water.
And your son, you tell him to get
in the car, go get groceries.
How do I do that?
I stuck for a lot.
I'm sorry.
But what I'm learning from this early time
is that the Prophet ﷺ was being prepared
for a job to do.
So he had to be forced to do
these things that built within him the qualities
that's going to be later on needed.
This is beautiful.
And the reason I'm spending time on this
is because there's a lot of young people
who want to work and their parents keep
saying, no, you can't work.
It's like, I want to earn.
I want to go to, I want a
job.
So Rasul ﷺ, he was a shepherd.
And we need to bring that in that
we need to own that.
That our Prophet was a shepherd.
We need to own that.
We need to value that.
The Prophet ﷺ, he was also a businessman.
He traveled with Abu Talib one time, with
Abu Talib to do business.
And I spoke about this before.
You know, you know, who know people the
best?
Salesmen.
Salesmen understand.
You walk in the room to buy a
car, they already size you up.
Because they see so many people that they
start to understand people.
I ask you, what's the Prophet's ﷺ mission
going to be?
To take this message to different people, to
understand people, to understand what, how to make
someone receptive, able to receive the mission, how
to build rapport with people.
So I'll give you an example.
There's a man by the name of Rukana.
Yes, right?
Rukana is a wrestler.
The Prophet ﷺ is walking down the street,
Rukana tries to turn the other direction.
Because he knows this is later in life.
He knows this man is going to talk
to me about religion.
But the Prophet has been a salesman before.
He's been in business before.
That means he's had to deal with a
lot of people.
By the way, one of the things our
Shabab struggled the most with is social interaction.
Do you know how many people I dealt
with at bus and tables as a kid?
Different temperaments, different types of people.
So he walks up, Rukana is trying to
go the other way.
Rasulullah ﷺ say, Rukana.
And he's like, I don't want to, I
don't want to talk.
He's like, no, I don't want to talk,
I want to wrestle you.
Now, salesman will tell you, just get a
yes.
Just get the first yes.
Every yes after that first one is...
Y'all in discord groups for this stuff,
man.
Y'all be signing up.
Y'all in discord groups for this stuff,
y'all.
This is sunnah, man.
SubhanAllah.
Dude's selling you how to sell stuff.
They just sold you...
How to be a millionaire.
Yeah, he made a millionaire because of people
like you, bro.
The Prophet ﷺ says, Rukana, I don't want
to, I don't want to talk to you.
Let's wrestle.
Rukana's like, yeah, all right, let's wrestle.
Got the first yes.
Got the first yes.
He's like, if I beat you, will you
take shahada?
He's like, yeah, of course.
You're a rookie.
Like, I'm a black belt.
You're literally a noob.
It will literally take a miracle for you
to beat me.
Prophet slams him three times in a row.
But he was a businessman.
And with that, subhanAllah, the first business trip
was to Syria, which subhanAllah is amazing because
the message isn't just for Meccan people.
He's supposed to give this message to an
international community.
So by traveling to Syria, he's now interacting
with people of different natures.
He's learning people of different styles.
Interacting with people, buying and selling.
One of his business partners, in the years
later, after Fatemehka, one of his business partners
came up to him.
This is a beautiful story.
I'm going to share this one.
It's beautiful.
One of his business partner comes up to
him.
And he says, do you remember me?
And the Prophet said, yeah, I remember you.
We did business together.
We did business together.
And then he says, this is the narration.
It was after Tabuk, Hunayn, after Fatemehka.
And his name is Sa'ib bin Abi
Sa'ib.
He comes up and he says, do you
remember me?
And the Rasul sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, he
says, he goes, now you are a good
business partner.
We did business together.
You're a good business partner.
And he said about the Prophet, he's like,
you were good too.
You never argued with me.
Like we're in business together.
You never argued with me.
Oh, split this, this much, split this.
He's like, you never argued with me.
My point being is, number one, he was
forced to be a shepherd, to deal with
different people, patients.
Subhanallah.
And then he was, he was brought into
business so that you understand people, right?
You understand people.
And now what happens next is Harb al
-Fijar.
There's a war in Mecca.
Harb al-Fijar was a war that broke
out.
And the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was
only 15 years old.
He was too young to fight in the
battle.
But he said, I was the one in
charge of picking up arrows.
They would shoot arrows at each other.
So when the other side's arrows fall, someone
has to pick them up and give them
so we can shoot them back.
He's like, that was my job.
But that's preparing him for life to come.
We know how many battles are going to
come.
Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala is making him
go through all these steps.
And then at the end of that battle,
at the end of that battle, he, I
think I got locked out.
At the end of that battle, there was
a Hilf al-Fudud where everyone came together
and they were like, we can't fight like
this.
This has to stop.
And so everybody came together to be a
part.
So what happened, this is really heavy, actually.
So the Meccans, the Quraysh used to think
they were better than a lot of people.
And so there was a man who came
to Mecca to do business and somebody stiffed
him, a Meccan stiffed him.
You know how to stiff someone?
He didn't pay him his money.
And so when he asked him for his
money, he's just like, I don't know you,
bro.
Who are you?
Right?
Some of y'all know what that's like,
right?
Astaghfirullah Ali.
Ali, bro.
It's only certain transactions where that goes down,
bro.
Astaghfirullah.
I have Jahiliyyah.
You ain't supposed to have Jahiliyyah.
So he goes around all of Mecca.
Who's going to help me?
And everyone, because this person who didn't pay
him was influential, everyone was like, we can't
do anything.
Finally, he goes on the top of the
mountain and he screams down and he says
these beautiful lines of poetry about honor and
what they're supposed to represent.
And finally, one person comes and he stands
up and he brings everyone together and he's
like, we have to agree that we won't
let any one person be oppressed in our
community ever.
And everyone came together and the Prophet ﷺ
said, I was there that day.
I was there.
And then he said, if that happened again,
Islam, I'd do it again.
Meaning in the days of Jahiliyyah to come
together, different people to come together to uphold
justice, regardless of religion or anything.
He says, if I was called to that
same hilf, that same treaty again, I'd do
it again.
But he was forced by Allah to see
that.
And then the next thing, the next powerful
moment.
See, before the message comes, everyone has to
testify to his trustworthiness and his uprightness.
Now I want to share something else before
I go to this main moment.
Let me go forward.
Let's see.
Oh, the next thing is the marriage.
We're not getting to the marriage yet.
The marriage is beautiful.
There's a lot of lessons, but we're not
there yet.
We got to get up to that.
So listen, Allah ﷻ is going to send
this prophet.
And this prophet is a proof to the
people.
But before he sends this person, he wants
them to testify about what they know about
them.
So y'all know the story.
The Kaaba needed to be repaired.
Everybody was shook.
We can't break down the house of Allah.
Finally, one person is like, man, we have
good intentions.
They had fear, like if anyone breaks the
Kaaba, that person's gonna, something's gonna happen to
him.
So nobody wanted to break the Kaaba at
first.
So one person goes over, he's like, we're
doing this for Allah.
He breaks it down one rock, and he
tries to tell everyone join in.
They're like, no, just one night.
We want to see if you wake up
in the morning.
Like if you wake up in the morning,
we will get back to it.
He wakes up in the morning fine.
And so they start digging.
They start tearing down the Kaaba and they're
rebuilding it.
And you know the story, but let's talk
about the significance.
They're building, they're building all the clans, very
tribal mentality, like prestige and honor is everything.
And finally, they finished building it.
And as we know, they ran out of
money that was halal, which even goes to
show the mentality of having halal income.
When you're doing something righteous, subhanAllah.
So they had to shorten it, as we
all know, which now everyone gets to go
in the Kaaba if you could get there.
So anyways, they get to the black stone
and a war almost breaks out because everyone
wants that honor of placing the black stone.
What I'm trying to tell you is everyone
knows this story, but we don't understand how
it plays into the bigger picture, the minds
of the people.
So what happens is they're almost at the
verge of fighting, literal bloodshed, when finally someone
with a cool head, they go, let's just,
let's just, we can't have this happen.
Look, let the next person that walks into
the masjid, let's let that person decide.
And in the moment there were calm people,
they said, that's a great idea, let's just
do it.
Because where we're at now is just civil
war amongst ourselves.
And lo and behold, by the qadr of
Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala, a young Muhammad
walks through that door, salallahu alayhi wasalam.
And here's what's so important, they immediately all
respond, al-ameen, al-ameen, al-ameen, the
trustworthy, the trustworthy, the trustworthy.
Yo, Shabath, I know you're young, but you
could build a name for you right now.
A lot of us look, yo, I'm young,
I could wallah, I could do whatever.
You could build a name for yourself right
now.
He walks in and everyone's like, al-ameen,
radheena, radheena.
We're happy with him, we're happy with him.
Now, you have to understand that's etched in
stone, that's in everyone's mind.
Every time they come to that black stone,
the solution was al-ameen, al-sadiq, al
-ameen, the truthful.
I want to share something at this moment.
The books of history tell us that the
Prophet ﷺ was protected when he was young
from certain fitnas.
He says, first of all, I didn't have
a lot of inclinations towards evil.
He's like, there was one time there was
a party, a walima, a party, and I
had the sheep, right?
And there was another shepherd, and I said,
yo, can you watch my sheep?
I want to go see what they're doing
because he heard the music, it was lit.
And the Prophet was curious, like, you know,
I've never seen, what's going on?
So he asked another shepherd, yo, can you
watch my sheep for a little bit?
It was no problem, 10 sheep, 20, 30,
so I'm good.
He says, I start to go, and he
said, I just felt tired.
I sat down, he says, I woke up,
the sun woke me up the next morning.
I was like, man, I missed it.
He said, the next day, because Arabs have
these long weddings, you know, mashaAllah.
The next day, it was still popping.
He says, yo, can you watch my sheep?
I didn't get to go, I just want
to see what they're doing.
I started on my way there.
Look, some of us have been blessed with
a childhood where Allah protected us from fitna.
That's a blessing from Allah.
You don't got to see the darkness to
know what light is, y'all.
Take some of our word for it who
saw the darkness straight up.
There are some of us who came from
Jahiliyyah that will tell you, there's nothing in
the club, bro.
It's darkness.
There's nothing in that lifestyle.
It's darkness.
MashaAllah, I just want to see it.
I'm like, Allah protected you, bro.
Allah protected you.
Stay pure.
Protect that purity.
Protect that purity that Allah gave you.
That's valuable.
Never lose that.
Never lose that.
So, the Prophet ﷺ was protected from certain...
He says, I never got involved.
You know, I look back at my life
growing up and even though I was in
Jahiliyyah, I look back now, Allah protected me
from so many things.
So many things.
And now when I look back, I get
the plan.
I was the dude that always flaked.
Amen.
You know what I'm saying?
Everybody like, yo, we're going to such and
such.
I'll be like, all right, cool.
It's eight o'clock.
In my heart, Allah, I didn't like it.
I didn't like it.
But some of us pretend to like it
because we think there's some fulfillment there.
I'm telling you, there's nothing but empty souls
there.
There's nothing but empty souls there.
Nothing but emptiness.
And the true fulfillment, I kid you not,
and I'm telling you, it may take years
for you to get what I'm about to
say, but the true fulfillment that you'll feel,
the best fulfillment you're going to ever feel,
is those moments of solitude with you and
Allah.
I'm telling you, it may take you 30
years before you get what I'm saying right
now, but you may get what I'm saying
already.
You're going to search everywhere and you're going
to come back to this masjid, do a
sajdah and realize it was here all along.
It was here the whole time.
So Rasul sallallahu alayhi wasallam, he walks in
the masjid and they're like, the reason that's
important is because later when he says that
I'm bringing this message to you, you know
who I am.
They can't say, no, we don't know who
you are.
He goes, history is a document of what
you said about me.
You trust me with everything.
So that moment wasn't just a moment to
happen in seerah, that moment was there as
a mark in history that y'all already
know who I am.
At the age of 23, 24, I walk
in the room and everyone, 23, 24 is
fitna age.
And at that age you said, al-ameen,
al-ameen.
Rasul sallallahu alayhi wasallam comes in like, what's
going on?
They said, we have this issue, we need
you to solve it.
And that clairvoyance, that divine inspiration in the
moment, he says, oh, that's easy, don't worry.
Everyone grabbed the sheet from the corner, one
tribe each corner, put the black stone in
the middle.
Everyone carried it over to the corner.
They all carried it.
And with his own hands, he places that
corner symbolic that I'm going to restore tawhid
to this place.
Symbolic of what's about to go down 20
years from now.
I placed it before, I'm still placing it
40 years, 20 years later.
It's not without meaning, it's so symbolic.
You saw me place it when I was
23, 24.
Why do you have any doubt today?
Sallallahu alayhi wasallam.
So Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wasallam is around the
age of 25.
He's worked, he's had a job, he's shown
his ability.
Let's go forward, bismillah.
Yes.
So he built the name for himself, Al
-Ameen As-Sadiq.
And he had done well in business because
he was upright.
A lot of society tells us you have
to be cut corners for business to thrive
and things like that.
No, Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wasallam taught us something
different.
Khadijah sees him, very wealthy woman, married twice
before with about three children.
She sees him and she asked her servant,
Maysara, to go and accompany him.
She hires him.
Basically, here's the money, you go buy and
sell it, we split the profits.
She tells Maysara, watch him closely.
I've heard things about him, I just want
you to watch.
So two narrations.
One narration says she already had an inclination
towards who he was.
She just needed someone to watch him closely
to make sure.
So I'll share a narration with you, which
is really beautiful.
Some scholars don't like the narration.
I think it's a beautiful narration, actually.
So one narration, it says that, give me
a second.
So one narration says that there was an
Eid, like a festival in Mecca.
And her cousin is already waraqa.
And waraqa has been already like woke to
the scripture prior.
So she's already been hearing this stuff in
her family, prophet, this, that, oneness of Allah.
So there's a narration that one day there
was an Eid, a gathering where all of
the women of Quraish got together for a
festival.
And there was one Jewish man that had
come from Medina.
And when he came from Medina, he came
to this festival full of women there.
And it's really cringe what he's about to
do, I'm telling you already.
So he comes over, and there's a whole
gathering of women, and he yells out, he
says, Oh, women of Quraish, whichever one of
you can become the wife of the prophet,
do it.
And it's really vulgar for their culture.
It's a very chaste culture.
It's a very, and so they all start
like, you know, throwing dirt at him, get
out of here.
What are you talking about?
Like, we don't even know who you are.
But she had been hearing what waraqa was
talking about.
She hears this yahood say something about a
prophet is coming, whoever can marry him.
And then the qualities of the prophet, everyone
knows.
So some say that when she hired him,
she already was asking, I need you to
watch him closely because I already have an
inclination to who this man is going to
become.
Remember when I told you before, when everyone
walked past him as a baby, some people
can't see your potential, but there's some people
that can see your potential.
And they believe in you before you believe
in you.
They believe in you before you believe in
you.
That's Khadijah radiyallahu anha.
So Khadijah sends him to go do business.
They come back and Maysara, the first thing
she does is ask Maysara, what was he
like?
And Maysara is just struck by this man.
The way he carried himself, the way he
did business, the way the prophets from what
they saw, the baraka that they saw.
Some narrations say they saw, he saw signs.
He saw, he saw different signs during this,
this thing that told him this man is
special.
There's something really special.
They say that Khadijah mentioned that it's as
if Maysara became the servant of Muhammad during
this trip because of what he saw in
him salallahu alayhi wasalam.
So she comes back and Nafisa is a
friend.
Friends always hook up the marriages, right?
Right Ali?
So Nafisa, she tells the story.
She says, Khadijah was a sharp woman.
She was intelligent.
That's why they say they think like she
already knew.
She saw the signs in her.
She was honorable and Allah wanted to bless
her too.
She was the center of Quraysh.
The center of a necklace is the most
beautiful part, right?
So that's how the Arabs say something was
the best part.
She was the centerpiece of the Arab.
Highest lineage.
She was extremely wealthy.
Extremely wealthy.
Everyone from the community shot their shot.
They all tried, but she said, no, I'm
good.
I don't want to get married.
Nafisa goes, she sent me as a spy.
That's her word.
She goes, she sent me as like a
little spy when they came back from Syria.
I went up to Muhammad.
I said, why you ain't married yet?
The word that every young person hates to
hear.
Every young person hates to hear.
Oh man.
Something funny happened earlier today too.
I'm not going to say.
It was hilarious.
Say it.
All right.
I was at a community this morning.
Y'all might know where I was at.
So I met a mom and I was
leaving Juma and someone met me, right?
And so the mom goes, my daughter gets
married and the daughter's sitting there like, like
what did she say?
She said it so smooth and quiet that
the daughter didn't really catch it, but I
caught it.
She was like, make sure my daughter gets
married.
I was like, huh?
And the daughter was like, huh?
Right.
Like, what did she just say?
I was like, I don't even know that.
I just kept it moving.
So it's so stressful.
By the way, like, I want to say
this.
A lot of people don't like when you
keep asking them why they're not married.
People are trying to get married.
It's not as easy as it looks.
And every time you, the auntie comes up
and say, you didn't get married yet.
It doesn't make me feel better.
So there's so many young people that get
extremely stressed out that every time you see
them, you keep asking them, why don't you
get married yet?
Why don't you get married yet?
Why don't you get married yet?
Why don't you get married yet?
As if they're not trying to actually get
married.
That's not fair.
Please.
A lot of people struggle with that.
Young men too, man.
It's like, bro, I'm trying, man.
You know?
So sometimes you have to have a bit
of EQ and understand like, people are really
trying out there.
It's not really easy.
And if you just keep reiterating that, that
doesn't make it easier for people.
So keep, that's very important to remember.
So she says, Nafisa goes, why you ain't
married yet?
He says, whatever young man in this room
would say, I don't have what it takes
to get married right now.
I don't have in my hand what I
need to get married.
I don't have the means.
And, SubhanAllah.
You know what's so amazing?
If you fast forward to the third year,
fourth year of hijrah, Ali radiallahu anhu walks
into the house of the Prophet ﷺ.
And he sits down in the front of
the Prophet ﷺ.
And he can't talk.
And the Prophet ﷺ says to him, Alakahaja?
Do you need something?
But he can't talk.
So he says, Alakahaja?
Do you need something?
He can't talk.
He says it a third time.
Then the Prophet ﷺ looks at him.
He goes, you want to propose to my
daughter Fatima, don't you?
He goes, yeah.
You know what's amazing?
Ali is known for courage.
But in this moment, he couldn't talk.
He couldn't talk.
How am I going to, yo, uncle, you
know what I'm here for, bro.
Like you set up the whole thing.
You know why I'm here.
The Prophet ﷺ didn't force him to say
it.
He just, and wallahu alim.
When he was saying, Alakahaja?
Do you need something?
In my mind, I see him smiling.
Wallahu alim.
The books of Sira don't tell us he
was smiling.
But in my mind, he was like, what
you need?
Why are you here, son?
Why are you here?
You want to marry Fatima, don't you?
And he goes, yes.
But then, here's amazing.
You never forget where you came from.
A lot of us, when you become an
uncle, you have a daughter, it's time to
get married, you forget when you were grinding.
You forget that you needed somebody to give
you a chance.
You needed somebody to go, you know what,
you got potential, young man.
You ain't a doctor yet, you ain't got
a house yet, but you got potential.
You got honor, you got class, you got
this, you at the masjid, you did whatever.
So Rasul ﷺ said, Ali says, the Prophet
ﷺ says, what do you have?
Now, the crazy part was, a sister had
come up to Ali and told him to
go propose.
The same way Nafisa is there, she's like,
to Ali, go propose for Fatima.
Ali goes, I'm broke, I don't have money.
She goes, don't worry, he'll take care of
you somehow.
He goes, I can't, I don't have nothing.
Finally, he comes, the Prophet ﷺ goes, well,
what do you have?
I could hear him, he's like, I told
y'all he's going to ask me this.
I told y'all he's going to ask
me this.
He goes, all I have is my horse
and the armor I got from the last
battle.
The Prophet ﷺ goes, hmm, this is amazing.
He didn't go figure it out.
He goes, hmm, okay, hold on.
He goes, the horse you got to keep,
but the armor, why don't you go sell
the armor?
He's helping him.
Can you imagine?
You go to an uncle, you're trying, you're
grinding, you're doing what you can, you're on
your deen, you're praying.
And the uncle's like, what do you got
going?
You're like, huh?
And he actually starts to help you economically
plan.
Well, maybe if you try this, you try
this, you try this.
And then after he sells the stuff, he
goes, okay, that's enough.
You could, let me ask her.
And then the marriage went forward.
But where did he, where was he 35
years prior?
He didn't have anything.
And somebody was at him saying, just go
ask.
Just go ask.
So she says, he says, which means he
was working hard, but he still did, he
was still working hard, but he didn't have
enough to get married.
She says, He's like, what?
She goes, what if that was taken care
of?
Like, what if somebody took care of that
for you?
And you're called to beauty and wealth.
Would you accept?
He goes, for men here.
He goes, who is it?
Rasulullah Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam.
That's what I'm saying.
Like, SubhanAllah, what would Jesus do?
What did Muhammad do?
Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam.
We have so many details on his life,
bit by bit, bit by bit.
Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam.
So he says, He says, how
can I?
He says, like the word is like over
there.
He says, I don't even know how to
say this with adab because he's our But
this is a moment where he's just seeing
the simplicity of himself and the honor and
wealth and the beauty and the status of
this woman.
But she sees the status and what the
potential is within him.
So she sees herself leveling up.
He says, the Arabic is beautiful.
How can I get that?
But how can I get that?
So she says, I'll take care of it.
She goes, I'll take care of it.
You just give me the yes, I'll take
care of it.
This is, this is seerah, brothers and sisters.
I'm reading the Arabic so you know I'm
not adding nothing to it.
Shaykh was adding a lot of masala, you
know.
He was adding a lot of spice to
it.
I'm reading the Arabic so everyone hears the
words as I translate them.
She says, I said, I'll do it.
I got it.
He says, I'll do it.
I went, but she knows I was already
sent by Khadijah.
I went, I told her.
She sent someone to call him.
Okay, let's all meet at this one time.
And she sent for his, her uncle to
come and his uncles to come.
Then the Prophet mentioned it to his uncles.
And they all agreed and they were happy.
So he goes with Abu Talib and Hamza
and they went to Amr bin Asad and
the relative of Khadijah.
And they go and they do the Qatbul
Kitab.
Abu Talib gives a Qutba about how great
his son is.
And then her uncle gives a Qutba how
great he is.
And then the marriage happens.
And you know what's what's beautiful about this
is number one.
Yeah, right here.
It goes against all the stereotypes of our
culture today.
Everyone is looking for a Cinderella story.
Perfect.
Like, do I have to get real?
Can I keep it real, Jimmy?
Like, just keep it real, right?
Like, why is everyone looking for this like
fairytale marriage?
Like this perfect setup.
Khadijah was married twice already with three children.
With three children.
The Prophet ﷺ is going to go into
this relationship with a responsibility of helping raise
these children.
That's the elephant in the room.
That everyone wants the perfect age.
Perfect.
It has to look like Bollywood.
The Hollywood has to look like Bollywood.
The marriage has to be perfect.
But SubhanAllah, this is so beautiful.
So beautiful.
So according to most of the, look there.
So, and not only that, can I share
something that a lot of us aren't ready
for?
To marry a woman of strength and accomplishment.
And not make that speak about any of
your capacity and capability.
Some of us would just be like, no,
she's too accomplished for me.
Bro, this is a unit that works together
now.
It's not you versus her.
Who cares what people say, yes.
Like, what are people going to say?
What are they going to say?
Who cares about people?
Who cares about people?
What I'm focusing on is, are they good
for each other?
Is their deed good?
And he saw someone who was more accomplished
because of the, she put in work.
She was extremely intelligent.
Well accomplished.
But the Prophet ﷺ comes into that relationship
and he assumes awama too.
Awama means leadership.
He jumps into the role of the head
of the household and leads the family.
She lets him lead the family.
So it's such a beautiful, beautiful beautiful.
So upon Allah, another thing, she was his
employer.
She was his employer.
Wealthier employer.
But the Prophet, there was a secret that
Allah had and we're going to talk about
that in a minute.
There was a beauty in that moment.
And I just think all of us should
reflect on this because we all look for
these ideal situations that it has to be
picture perfect.
But what does that mean?
Everyone that the Prophet ﷺ married except Aisha
had been previously married before and some of
them with children.
And the responsibility of taking care of them
and all that fell on his shoulders.
It's beautiful.
Beautiful.
The Prophet ﷺ had many, all of his
children except Ibrahim, all of his children were
from Khadijah.
The Prophet ﷺ, he had Zainab, Ruqayya, Ummi
Kulthum and Fatima.
And then he had Abdullah and Ibrahim was
born from Maria.
So all of his children were from Khadijah.
And before I go forward, Khadijah held an
extremely beautiful part, the connection and I'm speaking
to the fathers, to the husbands and the
wives in the room.
The connection between him and Khadijah was so
dynamic and so powerful.
So beautiful.
The support that they had for one another.
They're raising these children, the house full of
children.
The Prophet ﷺ said, Allah promised Khadijah a
house in Jannah with no noise in it.
With no noise.
Fatima was born the year of Nabuwah.
That means when he was going up to
the mountain, she was pregnant.
Do you understand the support she had to
be there for her husband who's on this
spiritual journey?
With all those other kids in the home
too?
Their relationship was powerful.
There was support, amazing support.
And when she passed away, when she passed
away, it broke him.
They say he didn't leave the home for
two weeks.
He didn't leave the home for two weeks.
He wasn't indifferent.
No, I'll just marry you again.
No, it broke him.
They came to him and they said like,
Ya Rasulullah, it seems like, like this hurt
you big.
And he said, how can I feel empty?
She was, she took care of everything here.
She was there for him.
True love.
And you know what's amazing?
And I'm going to segue into this because
the next topic I have is revelation.
At the age of 40, about a year
before that, 39, so many years into this
marriage, 12, 13 years into the marriage, 14
years into the marriage, the Prophet ﷺ starts
to pull away from society.
He starts to get fed up with the,
with the society, like the shirk, the gambling,
the prostitution, the, the, the, the zulm.
He starts to pull away.
Like, I need time by myself.
Aisha tells us later that when he got
close to Nubuwa, he began to love solitude.
He began to love solitude.
Like he wanted more time alone.
So he would go to Ghar-e-Hira.
Now, if you've taken a trip there from
Mecca, driving in a car, it takes 10
minutes, but walking, it could take, it takes
time.
And then climbing up, you can climb now.
It takes time.
And Khadijah used to pack his food for
that whole time that he would be away.
And he would sit by himself.
One of the things that we, we struggle
with nowadays, because we all are so connected
on social media is we don't get time
to solitude anymore, y'all.
We don't get time alone.
We're constantly checking, constantly, constantly refreshing, refresh, refresh,
refresh over and over again.
You close the phone, you open the phone
and open the same app you just closed.
And you're like, what is wrong with me?
Those are the moments you realize like, something's
wrong with me.
Like, this is, this ain't normal.
End of the day, 11 o'clock at
night, you're still scrolling.
Day is over.
There's nothing new.
Nothing new.
Now, don't get me wrong.
I'm not like a Luddite, like against technology.
But what we have to understand when it's
changing who we are.
He began to love solitude.
And the reason why solitude is important is
because it gives you time to process your
own thoughts.
Let me give an example.
Let me give an example.
You ever been in an elevator with a
stranger, just going up like three flights?
How awkward is that?
Man, that's like the most awkward man, like,
even in Mecca, it's even worse in Mecca.
It's like, like, you're in an elevator, it
can just be three flights, that that time
in the elevator, you're just like, and the
moment the person gets on, you're like, whoa,
man, you know, crazy.
A lot of us feel that awkwardness when
we're by ourselves.
That's why you keep opening the phone.
That's why you keep you got to listen
to a podcast, you got to listen to
something, you can't take a walk for silence,
because you'll be alone by yourself.
And a lot of us feel like we're
in an elevator, we get anxious when we're
by ourselves.
I'm scared of the thoughts that I might
hear when I'm by myself.
So what I'm gonna just stay plugged in
constantly.
The Prophet ﷺ began to love solitude.
A lot of us need more time in
solid, like, I hate to sound like some
boomer man, but like, do you remember when
like, you just had in between moments like
when you were standing in line in a
grocery store?
What did we used to do?
Nothing.
You just were in line.
Or a bank.
Like there's so many times when I sound
so old, bro.
Like, right.
But I remember the age when there were
just moments where you were there with your
own thoughts.
What I wouldn't give to have that back
for a little bit.
What I wouldn't give and that's what inshallah
the masjid should be for you.
Leave your phone in the car.
Just when you come to the masjid, just
leave it in the car.
And for the time you're here, be comfortable
by yourself.
And if you see somebody sitting by themselves,
let them chill for a little bit.
Until they look at you like, oh, it
looks like you bored.
You want to talk?
Like, no, I came here for myself.
Let people be by themselves in the masjid.
Time.
What you mean?
It's your time.
Alright, bismillah.
The Prophet ﷺ began to love solitude.
Let us find that connection with solitude as
ourselves as well.
Time by yourself.
Especially at the end of the day.
Set a time for when you're done with
social media completely.
And from that moment on, just have at
least five minutes where you're able to reflect
on the day and your relationship with Allah.
Just five minutes, that's it.
And watch the power and impact of that.
Rasulullah ﷺ began to pull away from society.
A lot of people when they first make
that change, and when I say convert, I
even mean those who were born as Muslims
but they had an awakening in college or
after college or whatever.
You get tired of society.
You see it for what it is.
So he wanted time alone.
And I want to highlight Khadijah's support of
that too.
Support and she's pregnant, subhanAllah.
That's mind-blowing.
Mind-blowing.
And I guess we could pick up from
here after.
Should we leave this for after?
What's after, Isha?
Q&A only?
I'm going to get into this then.
Okay.
Munir?
The beginning of revelation.
Let's reflect on it.
Let's talk about it.
The Prophet ﷺ is sitting.
He used to start seeing signs.
He started to see six months before.
He used to hear salams, like salamu alaykum,
coming from weird places when no one was
around.
He began to see light.
He began to see different things.
And he would come to Khadijah that, I'm
worried something's happening to me.
What you have to understand is Allah is
preparing him for this amazing event of communication
with the divine.
This source of infinite creation.
You look at the cosmos, like I'm looking
at the screensaver in the back there of
the universe, and the creator of all of
that is about to communicate with the finite.
Mind-blowing.
Mind-blowing.
The creator of time and space communicating to
this finite.
So there were things that were strange.
He's hearing salam.
He's seeing things to prepare him for this
major moment.
And that moment comes.
And Gabriel comes as we know.
And he comes and he hugs him three
times.
And he says Iqra after each time.
And when he hugs him, why did he
hug him?
There's a few opinions.
One opinion was, you know how in movies
they say, like, is this real?
Some say it was like that.
Like, this is real.
This is happening.
You're not dreaming.
And so I want you to feel the
actual that this is real.
Some say it was an indication to three
levels of struggle he would go through in
his life.
Right?
Nonetheless, each time Gabriel hugged him, he said,
I felt like I was going to reach
my furthest extent that it would kill me.
And he would let me go.
And he would say, and I would say,
I can't read.
I can't read.
I can't read.
And on that final squeeze, he let go
of him.
And the beginning of the Quran began.
The first moments of this final revelation that
we listen to in every prayer that people
memorize for the last 1400 years, that's ingrained
on the hearts, the first moment.
And what does it begin with?
Read.
They say that gave birth to literacy.
Do you know they say Gaza has a
99% literacy rate?
Our Ummah, we pioneered education.
That's a separate whole lecture.
Iqra began this phenomena with learning and reading.
The Prophet ﷺ doesn't know what just happened.
It's a communication with the infinite creation of
all.
You know, when the Prophet ﷺ came back
from Isra and Mi'raj, they went to
Abu Bakr and they said, your friend just
said he went to the heavens and came
back in Jerusalem in one night.
Abu Bakr said, guess what?
I believe something even crazier.
They said, what?
He said, I believe God talks to him.
I believe that the infinite, the creator of
the heavens and earth speaks to him the
way he spoke to Moses and Jesus and
Abraham and everyone else.
What's traveling from here to Jerusalem in a
night?
What's that?
That has begun.
Revelation began in this moment.
From this moment, the Sahaba are getting it
hot, hot.
You know, we say it's fire, new track.
They're getting it hot.
Like as it comes down, he runs down
the mountain and he runs back to Khadijah
and he's shaking.
And you know the story, but I need
you to look at it from a different
perspective.
He runs.
They say when animals are scared, they seek
protection in places.
When people are scared, we run to other
people.
He ran to Khadijah.
He didn't run in his office and say,
honey, I'll figure this out.
Give me some time.
He ran to her arms and look what
he said.
I'm scared.
Vulnerability.
Vulnerability with wifey.
I'm worried.
Some of us walk in the house.
I got it figured out.
Don't worry.
I got it.
I'll figure it out, bro.
Relax, bro.
Your manhood is not threatened.
If you don't have everything planned, it's okay
to not know what's going to happen over
the next 10 years.
That's okay.
What makes you a man is that you
trust Allah.
And when your wife sees that you trust
Allah, no matter what, then she'll follow your
lead.
But when you try to say, well, I
got to figure it out, bro.
No, you don't.
Everyone knows, you know, I'm just keeping it
100, man.
Sorry.
My time's running out.
So, so, so he ran to her and
he's like, I'm scared.
I'm scared.
It's subhanAllah.
Have you ever had, has anyone in this
room had a mother that would hype you
up when you felt down and tell you
like, no, you got this.
In this moment, she literally looks at him
and she says, he says, I'm worried for
myself.
I'm worried that I'm going crazy or something's
going to happen to me.
She says, no, strong, strong woman.
Allah will never let you down.
Oh, don't you need that sometimes?
Don't you need a husband that will say
that to you?
Don't you need a mother, a brother, a
friend that'll tell you, you know, you got
this.
You know, my Karima, she's my middle, she's
the middle child.
She's the best hype man in the world,
bro.
She's like, Baba, you got this.
I'm telling you, she hypes up her little
brother.
You could do it.
I'm like, man, get you a hype man
like Karima, man.
And then we try to hype her up.
She's like, I can't do it.
It's really funny.
But, but we need people that are there.
And so Khadijah in that moment, forgive me
for time, Khadijah, when we go to Q
&A, maybe we can still talk about this.
Khadijah, she's there in that moment and she's
like, no, no, Allah won't forsake you.
And then she starts reminding him about who
he is.
You do this good.
You do that good.
You do this good.
You do that good.
And he's like, yeah, yeah, you're right.
You're right.
You're right.
So she holds him.
And here's the amazing part.
He comes and he says, hold me.
Zammiluni, the song, we all know the song,
right?
She says, hold me, hold me.
It's amazing.
The scholars say she didn't immediately say, what
happened?
What happened?
What happened?
She held him.
And then when he calmed down, he said,
she said, tell me what happened.
Hikmah.
There's brothers here for Salah.
It's time for Salah.
We should honor their time inshallah ta'ala.
So we'll stop right now.
Immediately after the prayer, we'll open for Q
&A inshallah.
Tomorrow, Sheikh Abdul Wahab, Mufti Abdul Wahab will
be here with you guys.
He's a G, masha'Allah, man.
He's beautiful, beautiful.
And his ability to connect to the seed
is profound.
So be here for him inshallah.
But we'll do Q&A right after Salah
inshallah.
So we'll open up the Q&A if
there are any questions inshallah ta'ala.
Raise your hand inshallah and I'll bring the
mic to you.
Those that are watching from home, inshallah, if
you type it into the chat box, we'll
be able to ask your question inshallah.
So go ahead and raise your hand.
I'll come to you, bismillah.
Someone break the ice.
The first one is the heart.
Masha'Allah.
Amen.
As-salamu alaykum, Sheikh.
Walaykum as-salam.
How's your heart?
Representing Dallas.
My heart after talking about seerah for three
hours, it feels good.
It's amazing, refreshed.
Alhamdulillah.
It's the best way to spend time, masha
'Allah.
In your current state, what part of the
seerah do you reflect on the most at
this point in life?
At this point in life, what part of
the seerah do I reflect on the most?
I think lately, just having younger children, just
having children in general, I think I've gotten
more appreciation for the Prophet's relationship with his
daughters, right?
How he was with Fatima radiallahu anha, that
closeness.
Lately that's been something that's really been hitting
me more as I watch my children get
older.
As a husband, I've been appreciating more the
relationship, the friendship that existed between the Prophet
sallallahu alayhi wa sallam and his wives.
Like the friendship there was so pure, it
was so genuine, it was so amazing.
So I think these are aspects that lately
have been hitting me more powerful.
Next question, from sister side maybe.
As-salamu alaykum, brother.
Walaykum as-salam.
Thank you for a great session.
I have a question regarding the three daughters
that were there prior to the marriage, Khadija's
three daughters.
Were they Umme Kulthum, Rukaiya and, or were
they, because I've heard and read that.
Yeah, so she had, so from her first
husband, she had Abdullah and a daughter by
the name of Hind.
So that's two.
From her second husband, and this is where
it gets interesting, she had a son named
Hind.
So you have a daughter and a son
with the exact same name, like Noor, right?
And also she had Hala, Hind and Hala.
Yeah.
Thank you.
Thank you for teaching us.
When did our beloved Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa
sallam got his Prophet's sign on his back?
Oh yeah, some say that the seal of
Prophethood came right when the splitting of the
chest happened.
Yes, yes, that's the stronger opinion.
Thank you.
And many Sahaba, Salman Farsi was one of
the Sahaba who, he had converted from Christianity,
so he had learned the signs of the
final Prophet.
And so when he went to find, to
make sure if he was the Prophet sallallahu
alayhi wa sallam, he did three different things.
And one of the things that he did
was he tried to sneak behind him to
look, and the Prophet saw what he was
doing, so he lowered his shirt so that
he could see it clearly.
She's going to sign?
She's going to help me.
Oh, amazing.
Mashallah.
Oh, she's going to, okay.
Brothers.
Yeah, go ahead.
I can repeat it if you just.
Okay, I'll bring it just in case, just
so those at home can hear.
Assalamualaikum, Shaykh.
So you mentioned the importance of having the
seerah at home, and making sure that's a
part of our life.
Yes.
So on top of just recommendations on how
to make that happen, but what are some
books that we could take to increase our
love for the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam
more than just our knowledge?
Yeah, recommendations.
Yeah, okay.
So this was something we talked about in
the beginning.
In the beginning of the session, we said
that yearly you should finish the seerah once.
Yearly you should finish it one time.
And I said then we could talk about
books later.
So good catch there.
So first of all, I'm going to highlight
a few podcasts.
Okay, a few podcasts.
So the Qalam podcast, Shaykh Abdul Nasir Janda
has one of the most in-depth seerahs
you could go through.
Hundreds of videos.
I think 200 and something.
Absolutely phenomenal.
So the Qalam podcast, if you go on
podcast or Spotify, it's a Qalam podcast.
You scroll around, look around, you'll see the
seerah podcast.
Highly recommend.
Right now there's a class going on right
now called In His Footsteps, which kind of
is seerah, okay?
I think myself, inshallah.
Some scrub is teaching, I don't know.
Then you have, of course, Yasir Qadhi's Tafseerah
is amazing.
Absolutely phenomenal.
You can't, it's one of the best.
When it comes to books, that's where it
gets a little interesting.
So you have Revelation, which is good.
Decent, right?
It's pretty good.
You have Martin Ling's Muhammad, which was one
of my favorite, but some people don't like
it because it has classical English.
So a lot of people are like, what
am I reading, right?
Some people don't like that.
Sealed Nectar is good, but sometimes people don't
know how to connect to it as much.
But Sealed Nectar is a classic.
Raheekum Maqtoom is amazing.
What else?
So Yasir Qadhi's whole Tafseerah podcast was put
into a book, right?
Which is pretty good, really good, right?
So there's five options right there.
You want my book?
No, those are seerah related.
It's about the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam, but
Seerah to Mustafa is a great book.
Yeah, it's good, but sometimes an American Western
audience can't really appreciate it because of the
style of the author.
So he's like taking shots at Western colonialism
all the time, and you kind of read
it for seerah, but all of a sudden
you're talking about something else.
But it's brilliant, it's brilliant, it's brilliant.
No shade on the authors, just sometimes the
Western audience has trouble connecting to that.
Yeah.
We really, look, listen, I'm going to say
this.
We really need, this is the area I
think more people could work on.
Like we really need more readable like seerah
books.
There's some books that I'm reading with my
children that are seerah books that I couldn't
mention that like paint such a deeper picture,
right?
And it's written novel form.
So like a lot of us are used
to like novel form.
I don't know the names of them.
I just found different kids books and we're
reading them at home.
But the way the author paints the picture
is just like a novel and it's right
in front of you.
And so I don't know a lot of
those off the top of my head, but
a lot of the children's seerah books are
really good, really good.
Fatima, Shaykhah Fatima in UK, I forget her
last name.
She has a book just on Khadijah's life,
written in novel style.
So it's really nice, really nice.
So I gave two podcasts and like three
books.
Yes.
No, I'm not familiar with the prophetic narrative.
I'm gonna check that out.
It's really good.
It's a two volume book.
So there's a book that I use a
lot.
It's just hard to find.
Shaykhah Samira Zayada.
Oh, oh yeah.
That's what I taught from today in Arabic.
I didn't know the English name.
I forgot.
So Shaykhah Samira Zayada, Rahimahullah, from Syria, Damashq.
She wrote a brilliant seerah book and it
was translated by Dr. Tamara Gray and a
few other women.
It was out of print forever.
I got a copy before the last print
went out of stock.
And then whenever I would tell someone about
it, it was out of print.
But I think it's in print now.
The prophetic narrative.
It's brilliant.
That's literally what I taught from today.
So she wrote it in Arabic and then
later people translated it.
Yeah, it's a brilliant, brilliant, brilliant book.
Yes.
I read in one of the slides that
the chest of the Prophet ﷺ was incised
four times.
Did I get to try it or it
is?
Sahih.
Sahih.
Sahih.
Agree upon.
Yeah, yeah.
Those are pretty mutafakalik.
It's not shahad.
It's mutafakalik.
I've read online that you were inspired by
the works of Malcolm X, right?
Yeah.
I just wanted to ask specifically, what in
specific did you read or read his works?
What in specific was it that led you
to be so inspired by him?
Yeah.
So one of the things that led to
me converting, number one, was someone introduced the
Qur'an to me.
And so I just started reading it in
English.
And when I was reading it in English,
I was like, man, I know this book
already.
It felt so familiar, you know, because I
had come from Christianity.
I understood it.
So there was a clear clarity to it.
But the problem was at that time, like
the people around me were heavy in like
the nation of Islam.
You know what that is?
All right, cool.
So I was getting all confused, like, you
know, what's what?
And I remembered that Malcolm X had been
through a similar journey.
So I started reading his book.
But what really spoke to me is like
he was in a jahiliyya that I could
relate.
And the reform and just what it was
just his inspiration, bro.
He's an inspiration.
I call him Awalu Alshaheed Al-Amriqi.
He's the first American shaheed, yo.
There may be others, but, you know, in
modern times, Malcolm X, man, Malcolm X, I'm
still a Muslim.
That's his line.
He came back from thing and he had,
you know, cut off from the nation and
he was giving a press talk and he's
like, I'm still a Muslim, you know, and
that's iconic line.
He's just, he's just a man of men
too, yo.
You see him by the window with the
AK?
No, you've never seen that picture?
It's powerful, yo.
He's just such a powerful individual.
You know what I mean?
And how before the end of his life,
he realized, like, you could see that he
knew he was about to die.
A lot of awliya of Allah are like
that.
They know when the end is coming.
So everything, the way it was set up,
like, he knew the end was coming and
he was at peace with Allah.
I just, subhanAllah, the number of people that
have been inspired by his life.
Sometimes I wonder, you know, they say, to
say if it's from shaitan, but sometimes I
wonder what if he had lived longer?
Like what, what it would have been like,
you know?
But great question, man.
Inshallah, inshallah.
I know a guy that was like 13
years old when it happened, living in Harlem.
And he said, an hour before the shooting,
we noticed so many cops on the street.
He's like, he's like, we knew something's weird.
Like, why are there so many police?
He was like, an hour before the shooting,
I was already on my roof because I
was looking.
He's 13 years old, living in Harlem.
He was like, I was already on my
roof of an apartment complex because there were
so many police.
So he was saying this later.
He's like 50, 60 years old.
In hindsight, he was like, it was a
setup.
They already knew that what they were going
to do.
He was like, I was the kid.
I saw the police cars already there ready.
An hour before he was shot.
It's crazy.
This is in relation to an earlier question.
But you mentioned that Khadija had a few
children before marrying Prophet ﷺ.
So what was the story of those children
during the revelation?
They became Muslim.
Yeah.
Yep.
They became Muslim too.
Definitely.
You know what I noticed about Sira while
we're waiting for the next question?
What I noticed is every time you read
it, your level of memory of it increases.
So like the first time you read it,
names will go past you, right?
Like Abu this, Ibn that.
You like, you know what I mean?
There's one story, the Bikr al-Ma'unah.
Bikr al-Ma'unah was an incident where
70 of the Muslims were sabotaged, like attacked.
In that story, three people share the same
name, Amr, right?
It's very confusing.
But every time, like every time, you're getting
more of the names, more of the names,
who this person is, who that person is.
And then when you start to realize the
family relationships, the dynamic is so different.
So Zainab, for example, is married to Aas,
who's fighting in Badr against the Muslims.
Zainab, the daughter of the Prophet ﷺ, right?
Like so when you get these level, now
you're pulling gems from the Sira, that you're
just like, wow, what was going on there,
you know?
Yes.
Native tongue.
So which translation did you read and which
would you recommend amongst others that Westerners can
relate to?
So back when I was 18, like I
just walked into Barnes and Noble and picked
up whatever little Quran I found.
I really don't know which one it was.
But nowadays, there's so many.
SubhanAllah.
I like the Gracious Quran.
I think Abdul, so that's one.
I think Abdul Haleem's is a thing, like
you can't sleep on Abdul Haleem's Quran.
If I was to give a non-Muslim
Quran though, I'm gonna give them clear.
Clear Quran is clear.
It's so good.
It's so good.
Like they don't need commentaries, this, that.
Just clear Quran is so smooth.
But I highly recommend, like there's so many
Muslims like who haven't read the whole Quran
in their native tongue with fahm, with fahm
and understanding.
So I highly encourage you to make that
part of your spiritual kind of like journey.
Yeah.
And one thing that we do when we
read Quran, a lot of people try to
become like scholars when they read in the
Quran.
Like listen, the verses of rulings, you learn
those from ulema and scholars to teach you
the meaning of it.
But to dabbur and connection, like a lot
of the, what we should be focusing on
are those spiritual verses and that understanding of
Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala that is built
on.
I think a start focusing so cerebro on
rulings and stuff like that.
It's like connect to the deeper meaning and
you know.
The whole beginning of today's talk, we talked
about how this, you know, juz amma was
what built that foundation.
Right?
SubhanAllah.
Just read from tabarak to the end in
English.
Surah mulk to the end in English.
That's it.
Crazy.
I'll have you in a different world.
Yeah.
Literally, literally.
Okay.
So I just wanted to add a book
recommendation for the seerah.
It's called when the moon split.
And it's really nice because at the end
of each chapter, there's like comprehension questions, because
like you said, there's a lot of names
and there's a lot of information and it
just, it's a good fact check.
Yeah.
I saw the first one.
It's a really good book.
Yeah.
I've seen that when the moon split, it's
a good reminder.
You got that one?
Habibi, there was brother.
When the moon split is another.
Rayan, Rayan, my guy.
You got six books.
MashaAllah.
Just read one though.
MashaAllah.
So you want to get through one or
I'll get through one.
A lot of us buy books and things
like that's it.
We did our job.
You know what I mean?
We buy the book.
I bought it, yo.
No, read, read.
Just a request.
Is there a way that we could have
a list of all the books that you
just mentioned?
Send in an email.
Yeah, sure.
Sure.
Is there a Muneer?
Because I'm not going to remember any of
them, but I'd like to.
Is there a way that we could email
her?
We got it.
That's a great one.
May Allah give you the reward for everyone
that sees it.
I mean, she just got the easy reward
there, too.
MashaAllah.
There was one more question.
Yes, one more book recommended.
Let's go.
Who doesn't like Sultan of Hearts?
It's translated from a Turkish.
It's really, actually really easy to read.
It doesn't have the old English.
Sultan of Hearts.
Awesome.
It's a large one, but it's really, really
easy to read and brings a lot of
love for the Prophet.
And more of his character out in the
book.
MashaAllah.
BarakAllahu feek.
BarakAllahu feek.
Any other questions?
All right.
We'll call it.
Okay.
No, sorry.
It's just been a long day.
I had a question.
Do you have any recommendations on how we
can embody and cultivate the Prophetic Sunnah in
our masajid so more people can like be
exposed to the Sunnah and start to love
our Prophet?
Oh, that's such a hard question.
Look, I think the more we talk about
something as a community, the more awareness we
build towards it, right?
So like this program is special because we're
all leaving here like dialed into Sunnah, right?
So like on a periodic level, every two
weeks, every three weeks, like these type of
something seerah related could be so instrumental in
helping that.
See, there's events and then there's programs.
You know what I mean?
Like this is an event, but we need
seerah programs, something that's like regular, right?
Events are good because they like encourage us.
Look at us.
We're hyped, right?
But programming is what like keeps us going.
You know what I mean?
Programming is so seerah related programs, meaning not
one-offs, but regular programs.
And the thing is, yeah, that's it.
Yeah.
And maybe the book club.
I heard you guys got a book club,
right?
So there you go.
Even brothers, brothers start a book club.
I mean, they laugh and see, start a
book club, man.
Yeah.
So Imam Bukhari was accused of drinking a
special liquid to make his memory so good.
Back in his time, the hadith scholars, their
memory was everything.
So they thought there was a potion that
people would drink, right?
You know supplements, Andrew, Huberman got you drinking
all types of supplements.
So anyways, so the supplements, they thought people
were taking supplements to have a good memory.
So someone asked him, he said, just keep
reading.
So he said like the method was just,
I'm not doing anything special.
I just keep reading it.
I just keep reading it.
I just keep reading it.
I just keep reading it.
Now, if you're thinking just like factual data
memory, I think there's a lot of methods
for that.
But like the method I was saying was
have a regular reading of the Quran that
you do on loop.
I'm not saying spend 30 minutes every night.
I'm saying 10 minutes a night before you
go to sleep, you read another page, you
read another page, you read another page.
And when you cut them, you go back
to the beginning and five minutes a night.
And that's your connection with Habib ﷺ.
Before you know it, two years in, you're
like, names are just like that, this connection.
And maybe for variety, you could go through
that list so that you see slight differences.
You get what I'm trying to say?
So you're not reading the same book?
Yeah, that's it.
Come on, folks.
Let me just say thank you to everyone
for coming.
MashaAllah, this was a beautiful night.
Your energy.
Jazakallah khair to the brother, Ahmed Ali.
Ali dipped on me?
Oh, okay.
That's the unmarried Ali.
Wave your hand again, right?
MashaAllah.
Barakallah fi everyone.
Jazakallah khair.
May Allah accept from us.
You know, there's a hadith and I'll end
with this.
There's a hadith when people come together, when
they come together to recite the Qur'an
or talk about khair and talk about the
sunnah, that the angels circle the gathering and
they stack on each other up to the
heavens.
And Allah asked them what they were doing.
What were they doing?
They say they were seeking your Jannah.
And the Prophet ﷺ, Allah says that, have
they seen my Jannah?
And he says, no.
And he says, what would they be like
if they saw it?
And he said, the angels said they would
be more eager to have it and ask
you more.
And the hadith goes forward and back to
end, Allah says, be witness that I have
forgiven everyone in the gathering.
If we just got that, checkmate.
Ameen.
Alhamdulillah.
Not to mention the enjoyment of the knowledge
that we learned and inspiration.
So may Allah accept inshaAllah.
All right.