Maryam Lemu – THE PERFECT MARRIAGE

Maryam Lemu
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The speaker discusses how marriage is a relationship, and how one should be treated with caution and intentionality. He explains that marriage is about how one wants to be treated, rather than how one wants to be treated. He emphasizes that all aspects of marriage are about how one wants to be treated, rather than how one wants to be treated.

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			There's no such thing as a perfect marriage.
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			Many of us look at others, look at
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			how they relate with each other, and admire,
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			and wish, and crave that our marriage were
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			exactly the same as the couples we follow
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			on social media, we see on TV, reality
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			TV stars, whoever it is. It could even
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			be our loved ones whose marriages we just
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			say, oh, I wish mine were just like
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			theirs. It's perfect.
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			Now the truth is, the grass may look
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			greener on the other side, but you do
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			not know the behind the scenes that's going
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			on. You do not know the image that
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			they present to the world. There was a
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			couple that my husband and I counseled. And
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			what was interesting was why the wife didn't
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			want to get divorced, even though she was
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			broken,
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			even though there was physical abuse, even though
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			there was trauma. Her kids were growing up
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			seeing her miserable,
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			crying often on her prayer mat, was because
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			her siblings were all divorced and back home.
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			She had 6 siblings
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			and all of them were back home divorced.
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			And everybody saw her marriage as the perfect
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			marriage. Now you can imagine what she has
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			been going through. However, it is important that
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			we are careful
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			judging. And when I say judging, I mean
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			admiring
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			other people's relationship
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			and comparing it to ours and ending up
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			feeling discontent about what our relationship is like
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			because it's not as perfect as the other
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			person's. Now it does not matter how he
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			treats his spouse or how she treats hers.
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			It's about how you want to be treated.
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			Whether he brings her flowers and she does
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			this or that for him, it doesn't matter.
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			It's about the 2 of you. It's about
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			being intentional
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			in feeding each other's love language each and
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			every day, consciously,
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			deliberately.
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			And make sure this doesn't happen by accident.
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			So remember,
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			all that glitters is not always gold.