Maryam Lemu – THE PERFECT MARRIAGE

There's no such thing as a perfect marriage.

Many of us look at others, look at

how they relate with each other, and admire,

and wish, and crave that our marriage were

exactly the same as the couples we follow

on social media, we see on TV, reality

TV stars, whoever it is. It could even

be our loved ones whose marriages we just

say, oh, I wish mine were just like

theirs. It's perfect.

Now the truth is, the grass may look

greener on the other side, but you do

not know the behind the scenes that's going

on. You do not know the image that

they present to the world. There was a

couple that my husband and I counseled. And

what was interesting was why the wife didn't

want to get divorced, even though she was

broken,

even though there was physical abuse, even though

there was trauma. Her kids were growing up

seeing her miserable,

crying often on her prayer mat, was because

her siblings were all divorced and back home.

She had 6 siblings

and all of them were back home divorced.

And everybody saw her marriage as the perfect

marriage. Now you can imagine what she has

been going through. However, it is important that

we are careful

judging. And when I say judging, I mean

admiring

other people's relationship

and comparing it to ours and ending up

feeling discontent about what our relationship is like

because it's not as perfect as the other

person's. Now it does not matter how he

treats his spouse or how she treats hers.

It's about how you want to be treated.

Whether he brings her flowers and she does

this or that for him, it doesn't matter.

It's about the 2 of you. It's about

being intentional

in feeding each other's love language each and

every day, consciously,

deliberately.

And make sure this doesn't happen by accident.

So remember,

all that glitters is not always gold.