Maryam Lemu – Marriage Gems – Be truly honest with each other during courtship

			Obviously, by the time we actually got married, things were not as we anticipated. The courtship was
absolutely beautiful. It was very romantic. I remember you'd be sending me. audio cassettes have
beautiful songs that expressed exactly how you felt about days, the days of analog, we had no
digital,
		

			digital, the courtship, Marian was introduced to me by my younger sister.
		

			And she sent me Miriam's photograph and said, here's the young lady that we think you might be
interested in. And it took me a while to make the decision to commit to then say, I needed to work
on myself because I was 26 years old. At the time, Marian was during Yeah, beginning when were
introduced, you were 14, I believe. 15. So, and we caught it for three or four years. She was
introduced him in 1987. married man, I didn't see till 1990 those for three or four years, a lot of
correspondence like she said, a lot of cassettes, music, expressing my love and so forth, long
letters. But one of the first things I told Marian was, if you've heard the name,
		

			and you hear it's prominent, the person that has the money is different from me. So I made it clear
to Marian that I am a struggling student. I was in graduate school at the time. I didn't see myself
as anybody's son who had money. And I actually told Marian, if her interest is in somebody that has
money, I am given her the opportunity to end the relationship and go to that person. as young as she
was at the time. She made it clear to me that she was not interested in that I wasn't she was
interested in me. So the first thing is is honesty. You know, being truthful being Frank no
pretentiousness, no fake lifestyle, nothing like that.