Maryam Lemu – 2019 Northern Youth Summit

Maryam Lemu

We have all been blessed with our own unique gifts and talents. We often compare yourselves to others. We wish and dream about having other people’s gifts. Allah doesn’t make mistakes. You have what it takes. You have to believe that.
Go ahead and make a name for yourself. Develop your skills, develop your talent. Invest in yourself. Take courses online. There are so many resources out there that hardly cost much. Try Udemy courses, Coursera courses. Go to YouTube and watch videos on topics of interest. Watch TED TALKS. Learn skills, read books. I promise you by doing this, you will make yourself an asset and find more meaning to your life and more fulfillment. May Allah grant you the will power and the discipline to be and to do and may He put his blessings in all your efforts. Amin

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The speaker emphasizes the importance of recognizing one's own gifts and talent to achieve success and offers advice on how to build one's own capacity and value. They stress the need to focus on one's passion and not settling for greed. The speaker advises individuals to create a "back-to-school" and not be afraid of their own success. They also emphasize the importance of investing in themselves and finding one's passion. The upcoming event will inspire people to make themselves an asset and invest in themselves.

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			Billahi min ash shaytani r rajim Bismillahi Rahmani Raheem Assalamualaikum warahmatullahi
wabarakatuh.
		
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			I know it's getting a bit scanty in the hall. Since it's time for lunch and time for press. I was
initially told to speak for over 30 minutes, but I'm going to squeeze an elephant into a bottle and
rush through my presentation.
		
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			I stand on existing protocols. I'd like you to think about all those who you admire, people who
stand out, who are using the gifts that Allah has blessed them with. And they are talent, people who
inspire you, what makes them special, what makes them different, what makes them stand out, they
stand out because they are not like everybody else. They are not ordinary, even if what they are
doing is very small. As long as you admire them for what they do, then that's enough to make them
special. So ask yourself, what are people admiring in you? What do you have to offer? That is
different, because academic excellence can only take you so far. Some of us feel once we get a class
		
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			or second class upper, we have made it. But a class will only get you so far the world we live in
today requires us to give more than what we studied in school. So what makes you different from
others, all those who you admire have something special extra to offer. And that is what helps them
go far. And that's what makes us admire them. So what makes you special? What do you have to offer,
however small? What is holding you back? Now those you admire didn't become that way by accident. It
took deliberate choices. And they chose to act. Sometimes we look at other people's styles, other
people's gifts, what people are doing their talent. And we wish we had the same. How many of you
		
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			look at others. And you're like, boy, I wish I had that. Just raise your hands. If there are people
you admire, and you wish you had their gifts and talents. Now I grew up in a home where I was
surrounded by role models, folks who are super talented, were being unique and useful and standing
out was the norm. But then there was me Marian lemo. I felt very ordinary. Let me use my brother as
an example. I call him Superman. Because my brother when it came to academics, he was taught. By the
time he sat for his wacky exam, he turns out to be the fifth best in the country. Then he's into
Islam knowledge about Islam, and he's become a very powerful, knowledgeable scholar. He's great at
		
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			teaching and lecturing. Like my mother, he would read about five books, four books at the same time.
He's good at Fine Arts, creativity, good at fishing and the outdoors and survival skills. He learned
to be a tailor when he was still a very young teenager, he learned sign language. And then he got a
black belt in karate and eventually reached that one and represented a bu in the new guy games. He's
into archery and shooting. In other words, I consider him to be somebody who knows a little about
everything, and I call him a walking encyclopedia. Now I felt very ordinary. I didn't know what my
gifts were, I didn't have any strong ambitions of wanting to be or do anything, until I listened to
		
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			a lecture and I'll tell you which one that was.
		
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			Now many of us don't know that we've been blessed with multiple gifts, and our gifts are different.
They are unique, and we all have talents. Our job is to Stop daydreaming, comparing, fantasizing and
unwrap every single gift that Allah has blessed us with, and use it for something greater than us.
Use it for ourself, and to benefit others. We can sit around and read biographies of success
stories, we can fantasize and dream about our wishes. But what they are going to be is just wishes
dreams, and they don't eventually come to life. The thing you longed for the things you wish you
could do are not going to happen on their own. You must take charge and make things happen. You
		
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			can't expect things to happen for you without working for it, for your dreams to come to life
without acknowledging that those dreams start from you from within you from our thoughts and our
actions. You have to focus on building yourself from the inside out.
		
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			If what you want in life
		
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			is to be productive to live a meaningful life to be useful, then you need to learn to invest in
yourself. Many of us are ready to spend money on clothes, phones, and things that we will use to
show off that we have made it. But when it comes to investing in our education, skills acquisition,
we would prefer something free or something cheap. But develop yourself develop your gifts and
develop your talent and maximize your fullest potential. your owner's manual said you can perfectly
the way you were meant to be the way Allah created you, the family you came from is exactly the way
it was meant to be. Allah doesn't make any mistakes. So your economic background if you're rich or
		
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			poor, your skin color, the family background, your gender, no excuses. We have seen people who are
missing limbs who don't have legs, yet are able to still make a success out of their lives. And it
doesn't matter what your ethnic background is, either. So regardless of what part of the country you
come from, you have choices to make. Don't give anybody permission to dim your life. Don't give
anybody permission to stick labels on you that you are just about key. Excellence is a universal
language. So be excellent. Wherever you go, when you give beyond expectation 110% and you don't
settle for 100% 100%, you stand out. And it's a universal language wherever you go. Quality is a
		
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			universal language. everybody appreciates good quality. So give good quality. professionalism is a
universal language. So be professional.
		
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			And that includes sticking to time appreciating people's time how priceless it is. And it's not cool
to be late. values and principles are universal. Good is good and bad is bad. So do good. And be
good, be different and be unique. Don't look for shortcuts in life, get admission into schools, get
jobs and get into political positions based on merit, not based on connections, cheating, or buying
people's votes. Create a signature and create a style that is different that is unique look around
you and see what needs need to be fulfilled and do something different from ordinary why because we
have enough ordinary people out there. So don't settle for business as usual. Now many of us do
		
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			things out of greed for money, greed for people in and power, greed for influence, but you be
different. Do things because you are passionate about it. inshallah, the money will come rolling in.
Let your call to fame not be the titles before and after your name. You are doctor this professor
that said King Kazakh aza let your call to fame not be writing on your family's name. I'm the son of
so and so are the grandchild of so and so. Or the cousin brother of so and so. Let your call to fame
not be riding on your husband's name. I am Mrs. so and so. Let it not be based on the posts that you
put on Instagram of yourself of what you eat of where you have been.
		
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			Made sure what you do is adding value. make a name for yourself. You are good enough as you are.
Like I said, Allah doesn't make mistakes. So go ahead and start and like he said start today. So
what's stopping you what's slowing you down? down? Sometimes we are our own problem. Our negative
thoughts we overthink. We doubt ourselves we doubt that we have what it takes to make it.
		
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			Write down the things that you are passionate about. Think about them deeply and do your homework,
then pray hard and go for it. Today is a good day to start. When you have an image in your mind of
what you want to do it gives you a target. Don't forget you are representing more than just you the
actions of a few have affected as all over the world. You are representing an area where you are
representing me. You are representing the brothers and sisters that are sitting next to you.
		
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			You can be the inspiration. If you ask all those who have come up on this stage and have spoken
those who we admire and look up to all of them.
		
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			I will tell you that what helped them succeed is that they overcame their fears and stop making
excuses, that they had the courage to just go for it, that they worked hard. They had a love for
others, they were focused and they had a passion. And they brought their passions to life, that they
desire to give people more than what is expected 110%. And then they have faith and trust in Allah,
patience. And then they develop some key critical skills that they need to succeed. There's a story
which I share a lot of an elephant and a row, a man went to the zoo, and he saw several elephants
caged. Then he saw the biggest of all the elephants was standing there openly with just a small
		
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			string holding him. So he asked the zookeeper, I don't understand the small ones are caged, and the
big one is there with a tiny rope holding him. He said that when that elephant was a baby, he was
brought to the zoo, and they tied that rope on his legs. And he pushed, he pulled, he got injured,
his feet were even bleeding. And as he kept growing up, he kept testing until he reached the stage
where he believed that that rope cannot be broken, it only causes pain.
		
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			Now, what tied the elephant to the rope was not the rope. It was his belief that he couldn't break
that rope. What is holding many of us back that is keeping us on the ground, is because we have
these ropes that are holding us back inside of us. You were born for a reason, not just to exist and
be a waste of space. You have a purpose. And Allah has said our lives to be here today to hear
inspirational stories of people just like you and me who have made it with small, small actions.
This is our time, this is your time. So who are you? Many have come and gone. Some we remember and
some, as far as we are concerned, never even existed. So what will your story be? All the success
		
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			stories that we celebrate, and the people we've seen today have exactly the same 24 hours in a day
as you and me What separates ordinary from extra ordinary is what you do within the 24 hours.
accomplishments don't come by accident. So be hungry to learn, be hungry to grow. If you're anything
like I was, and you didn't know what your strengths were, you didn't know what your gifts were.
There is something deep inside of you that's waiting to be discovered that's waiting to be
unwrapped. Under achievers can be turned into superstars if they have a passion and a purpose. One
day I attended a program just like this, where I heard somebody inspire me and tell me that I have
		
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			it already. And I shouldn't wait for someone to give me permission to be and to do. It inspired me I
started to jot down all the things I wished I could do. I locked in on my target and decided to make
myself an asset. I decided to develop skills beyond reading and writing. I started to learn public
speaking, sales and marketing, leadership and team building coaching and mentoring interior decor
because I've always loved it, architecture and construction. I've been married for almost 28 years
and I decided to do more research on marriages, what makes it work and what makes it fail. And then
I love catering. So I took a course where I learned over 200 French and Italian dishes. My education
		
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			came from a background.
		
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			My education came from a background of online courses, Open Universities, correspondence courses,
the best school in the world, YouTube where I saw others who were doing the things I was passionate
about. I listened to TED Talks, I've turned my phone into a classroom with audiobooks where somebody
just reads motivational books to inspire me. I go on Google and I research any topic I love, and I
learn from it. But guess what? I know go school. The highest education I have is my high school
certificate. I did not go to university.
		
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			But I am humbled today to find myself on the same panel as former presidents and world leaders. PhD
holders are my students today. I tell you my story not because I want to brag, but I tell you
because I believe if I can do it will lie every
		
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			single person can do it in this room.
		
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			Now, don't get me wrong, I'm not saying make you know, go school, please go go very far because our
stories can never be the same. Some of you have gone to school, but you're not doing what you love.
Some of you have gone to school, but what you are doing is not what you studied. The most important
thing is to do build your capacity. The thing is going to school is so important because if that's
the profession you want to lead, it's really important. Nobody here wants a surgeon to do brain
surgery on them. If they've not gone find their education. Nobody wants a pilot who didn't finish
pilot school to fly a plane with them in it. So please go far. But make sure that what you do is
		
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			something that brings you fulfillment that you're passionate about. So give yourself permission to
do that. The best advice I can leave you with today is make yourself an asset. learn a bit about
everything because that way you will stumble across the thing that you love that you are good at.
Invest in yourself. No money is too small. Be the driver of your life. Don't be mu Follow, follow.
		
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			And remember, that you being an ra, ra ra is no accident. Allah doesn't make mistakes. Each day you
have an opportunity to write your story. Fill in the pages of the beautiful story of you. Let those
who come after you be inspired by what you stood for the standard you set and the life that you
lead. So awaken the spirit inside of you look good, look smart, be intelligent, smell good on
yourself and work it
		
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			were our heroes.
		
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			It was what the question that was asked at the beginning where our heroes today? Where are the Queen
arminas the bellows and the shareholders MapInfo do Where are our heroes. While I have met so many
of them today? I shall keep by organizing this unbelievable event that will inspire so many I pray
Allah that they serve as a witness for her hajia Satya, Dottie who is into interior decor she can
stand on any international platform with what she does. Creativity and inspiring people with
beautiful things I met Amina Amina Abdur Rahman, who started the initiative to inspire women to see
success stories of women that have come out of the North, a worldly man with a freak by Avaya, who's
		
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			producing a bias but with an African flavor, modest dressing, as well. garba my daughter who came on
stage and gave us a female rapper, I love that so much with social issues that are affecting you and
me as her message, not vulgarity, not anything denigrating women, but things that are relevant to
our lives. Marianne Booker Oh, may I be like you when I grow up? I love your poetry. You're such a
beautiful person. sabich as she is a precious precious gem inshallah we will be meeting her later,
she sends me her spoken word poetry, absolutely beautiful and inspirational. And if you see her on
stage, she's so tiny, but very gifted. She's using her gifts. That's a young man who sings on social
		
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			issues. He stands up against domestic violence and women's rights. Use the gift that Allah has
blessed you with because Allah doesn't make mistakes. What will history say about you? What are you
doing right now today to make sure that you are a light and a beacon of hope for those children that
you plan to have or that you are raising? Think big, but start small, think global, but start local.
Let the input everything that has been shared with you produce the right output. I asked you whose
permission are you waiting for? Assalamu alaikum