Maryam Amir – When You Think You’re Not Good Enough for Allah

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The speaker discusses the feeling of overwhelmed by their guilt over their statement about Islam, and how they believe in Allah and the believers' actions. They suggest that individuals should be in the best shape possible to achieve their spiritual goals, and that finding one's true values to be able to achieve their goals is crucial for success. The speaker also emphasizes the importance of finding one's true values to be able to achieve their goals.

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			I was in a store once when there
were a group of teens just
		
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			standing talking, hanging out
together one of the aisles, and as
		
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			I passed by, one of them called
out and said, Assalamu alaikum. I
		
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			turned to him, I was like, Wa
Alaikum, assalam. And he said, I'm
		
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			Muslim, but I'm a bad Muslim. And
I was so taken aback by his
		
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			statement, and I said, Why would
you say you're a bad Muslim? And
		
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			he said that his parents told him
that he's a bad Muslim because he
		
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			doesn't listen to them, because he
doesn't pray all the time. And I
		
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			just thought, SubhanAllah. There
are so many reasons why that broke
		
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			my heart, but the one focus I want
to reflect on is the fact that
		
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			this young man is standing with a
bunch of his friends who are not
		
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			Muslim in a time where people
actively have stereotypes about
		
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			Islam, and he chose to call out
and give salaam to me. He chose to
		
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			recognize his Islam very publicly
by acknowledging mine. And
		
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			the fact that in his heart he
wanted to do that is an incredible
		
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			sign of his Iman, we spoke for
some time about why he's not a bad
		
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			Muslim
		
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			and Subhan Allah, by the end of
that conversation, he was like,
		
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			for real, I'm not for real. And I
thought that there are so many of
		
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			us who sometimes feel like we're
not good enough for Allah.
		
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			We feel overwhelmed with our
guilt, we feel like we're not
		
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			doing all the things we want to do
for his worship. We are angry with
		
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			ourselves. We think about a sin we
committed a few months ago, a few
		
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			years ago, and we can't move past
it.
		
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			There are so many reasons why we
feel, especially in Ramadan, a
		
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			sense of self loathing, that we're
not where we want to be
		
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			spiritually, that we can't put our
hearts in our dua that we haven't
		
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			wept out of sweetness any man for
years, if ever.
		
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			And we think about how far we wait
we are away from Allah.
		
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			But do you know what Allah tells
us in the Quran? He says,
		
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			Al Lali and I Asha man holla, who
you said before Nabi Hamdi Robb,
		
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			be him. You said, Be Ho. Nabi
Hamdi Robb, be him. Why you mean
		
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			una Bihi waya steal
		
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			Rahman, now there
		
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			are
		
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			these
		
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			group of angels that Allah
subhanahu wa has appointed to
		
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			surround the ausha of Allah. They
are constantly, constantly
		
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			praising him, and they believe in
Him. And imasha harawi, he makes a
		
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			very interesting point, that if
you are watching me right now on
		
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			this video, you see me. You don't
have to say, I believe I see
		
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			Miriam. You simply say, I'm
watching Miriam. Why would the
		
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			angels say they believe? Why would
Allah say about the angels that
		
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			they believe in Him when they're
right there around his Subhan, wa
		
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			taala,
		
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			Imam Shahra, we mentioned this
because it means that they don't
		
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			know their animal Abe. They
believe in what they are not able
		
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			to see, because
		
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			is only what Allah allows angels
to know. That's just a side point,
		
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			but they are constantly making
power for the believers menu they
		
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			are constantly making for asking
for forgiveness for the ladeena
		
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			amenu their angels, who Allah has
commanded to do absolutely nothing
		
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			but praise him, and with his
praise, ask for the Forgiveness of
		
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			the believers. Now that sounds so
incredibly merciful and loving,
		
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			but that's because when you hear
believers, you might be thinking,
		
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			yeah, believers. You know people
who read Quran all the time, who
		
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			are praying all the time,
		
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			Lil la Dina, amen, oh, why didn't
Allah Pana wa Taala say lil Lil
		
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			mutminin? Why didn't he say little
meaning, because little lady na
		
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			Amanu are the people who believed
in Allah with their hearts. In
		
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			their hearts, they have a firm
belief in Allah, but
		
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			they struggle with always
		
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			manifesting the action of that
belief.
		
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			The people who believe are the
people who believe in Him, who
		
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			believe in the hereafter, who know
that He is Allah. But
		
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			sometimes they struggle with the
obedience. They struggle with this
		
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			submission. Those are the people
who Allah has commanded angels to
		
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			constantly ask for your
forgiveness,
		
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			and the verses continue on, and
they continue to make dua for the
		
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			believers in so many incredibly
healing, beautiful ways,
		
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			but these are the people who
struggle. So imagine if you are
		
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			someone and you're struggling with
BM and you're struggling with
		
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			reading extra Quran and you're
struggling with the extra, then
		
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			imagine what Allah, Spano, Mata
Allah has in store for you.
		
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			We don't know who is the most
beloved to Allah.
		
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			A person could be in the masjid
all day and all night in
		
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			seclusion, praying to Him, and we
say, subhanAllah, look at how
		
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			righteous this person is.
		
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			But is that person more beloved
than a father who is taking care
		
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			of an adult son who needs physical
support?
		
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			Is the person who is cleaning the
masjid and all of their work is
		
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			just cleaning the masjid to
support their family. Is that
		
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			person more beloved than a person
who is
		
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			a doctor, who is helping people
get over the coronavirus
		
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			is the person who is a mother who
is barely able to pray without two
		
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			kids on her back and another one
screaming her name
		
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			is the lack of Her ability to
fully focus in her salah, more
		
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			beloved than the person who is
praying in a cubicle, pre
		
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			coronavirus at work,
		
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			trying to fit in Salah between
this meeting and that meeting so
		
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			that they can provide for their
elderly parents. Every single one
		
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			of these people are beloved to
Allah in such a different way, in
		
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			such a chosen way, every single
one of them with Allah has secrets
		
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			that only he knows. There is no
way we can know who is more
		
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			righteous, who is closer to Him,
who he has chosen, who he loves
		
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			more. So what we can do instead is
just try to be in the best of our
		
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			ability the people that he loves.
		
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			Your personal circumstances may
force you to have to choose
		
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			between what type of worship
you're going to be able to do.
		
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			That doesn't mean that your
inability to do so much like
		
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			someone else isn't as beloved to
him, perhaps in the reward that
		
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			that person is receiving for all
that extra worship they're able to
		
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			do because they choose to use the
time that Allah has given them to
		
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			fill the time the Allah subhanho
wa Taala has chosen for them to
		
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			have. Perhaps they are using that
for his sake, and he is so pleased
		
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			with that.
		
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			Perhaps that amount of worship is
similar to the smaller amount that
		
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			you can do, because you simply
don't have the time to be able to
		
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			focus like that because of your
care of others or your care of
		
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			your own self.
		
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			Ramadan is a time of blessings. It
is a time of forgiveness, and it
		
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			is a time of the doors of Allah's
Mercy being open. His mercy is
		
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			always open to the one who goes
back to him, as evidenced by the
		
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			fact that he always has angels
whom he orders to pray for us.
		
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			So if you know that your Lord is
the Most Merciful, if you know
		
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			that your Lord is the Most
forgiving, if you know that your
		
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			Lord is the Most Loving, take this
time to be a little more merciful
		
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			to yourself.
		
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			Pick your reality, see what goals
you can actually choose are going
		
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			to be realistic for you and the
rest of this month, and know that,
		
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			Inshallah, that because you're
trying your literal best with all
		
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			of the responsibilities that you
have, whatever small amount you
		
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			do, and whatever increased amount
that you're doing is beloved to
		
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			him, because that is the best you
can do. And he sees that if he
		
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			loves the ladeena amanu so much,
then imagine how much he loves al
		
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			mumin, how much he loves al
muhaneen, those who believe.
		
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			In Him who struggle, who try, who
are trying their best every single
		
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			second despite the reality of
their circumstances. How much must
		
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			he love you? Subhan wa taala.