Maryam Amir – The duaa of the righteous in Masjid alAqsa

Maryam Amir
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The transcript discusses the importance of the Prophet's law in the century of the Quran and how it will be addressed. It touches on the importance of women in the century and how it will be addressed, as well as the importance of men in the century and how it will be addressed. The segment emphasizes the need for action and taking action to change one's feelings, healing, and not losing loved ones. The importance of healing is also emphasized, as well as the need for everyone to work on their health and seek healing. The speakers encourage people to visit their parents' websites and use them as a means of healing.
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Over there is where Mariam alaihi salam had her Mishra. It is the

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place where Maria Malay has Salam would go and have special worship.

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Now before we talk about who Maria Malay has Salam was, let's think

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about who the mother of Maryam Alaihe Salam was the mother of

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Miriam alaihi salam when she was pregnant with her baby, and she

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made a special dua. You may have heard this dua before. You may

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have read it in the Quran before, maybe you made it if you were

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pregnant at some time, this dua came from a place of incredible

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pain for the mother of Maria, and the reason is because she had been

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making dua to have a baby. She wanted to become pregnant, and she

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wasn't able to become pregnant. And then she sees a bird. This one

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is mentioned in tafsir Ibn Kathir. She sees a little bird feeding its

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babies, and as she sees that bird feeding its babies, she starts

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making dua, Oh Allah, bless her. With the baby. She wants to have a

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baby, even though she's been making this dua already. This is

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one narration as other narrations to talk about a different,

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slightly different story. But the point is, she sees this bird she

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makes to offer a baby. She is now pregnant for anyone who has ever

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wanted a child and who has been struggling with infertility, the

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joy of pregnancy is so beautiful. And then with this joy, you can

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imagine that she is going to have a baby with her husband, and

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they're going to be first time parents, and they're so excited.

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And then her husband passes away. So Imran.

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Imran passes away. So now, instead of looking forward to being a

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mother with her husband, she is scared because she is going to

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become a single mother, and she doesn't know how she's going to

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navigate that. And there are different tempos here that talk

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about her emotions in this time, tashira Radi Ibn Ashur, different

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tempestir talk about her feelings and the way that she felt. And

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what they say is that she went to the that we have in the Quran,

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where she says, rubbing. In

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me, oh, Allah, I dedicate what is in my womb to you. You are the

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hearing and you are the knowing. A semi

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Why would Allah? Why would she use these two names of Allah when

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she's making dua? I want you to put a hold on her story for a

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second, and let's go to a different story of the Qur'an.

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This is a companion of the Prophet. Peace be upon him. And

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she had a situation with her husband, so her husband basically

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got in an argument with her, and then he said to her, You are like

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the back of my mother, which, in the time of pre Islamic Arabia,

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was considered a divorce statement. Later on, different

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narrations say that he went out with his friends. A different

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narration says, like an hour later. Another one says the next

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day, he came to her and tried to be intimate with her, and he said

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she said she physically pushed him off because she said that

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basically he had divorced her, and she doesn't know if it's even okay

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to do so. She said she went to the Prophet sallallahu that he would

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send them. She goes to the Prophet sallallahu that he would send

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them. And when she talks to him, she explains to the Prophet he's

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kind of what happened. And do you know what she says about her

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husband? She says that he is the most beloved person to me. She

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does not want a divorce. She wants to stay with her husband. And the

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Prophet sallallahu, alayhi wasallam hasn't had any divorce

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laws revealed yet. So when he when Bihar is happening, which this,

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this version of divorce, there's nothing else that has replaced it

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from the Quran yet. So the Prophet SAW just basically says that it's,

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it's, you know, the divorce happened, because that's the way

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that had already taken place. So then what does Paula do? She turns

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towards the idla, and she starts making dua, and she says, she says

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that, oh, Allah, I complain to you. I ask you, I beg of you. I am

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asking you. And she's talking to Allah about how she's feeling, and

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she's begging him to clarify for her. And as she's sitting with the

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Prophet salallahu alayhi wa sallam, this is when the ayah was

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revealed. Tell me the ayah,

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what is the end of that verse in the law? So

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this surah

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says in the

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law. In he is the one who hears all hearing, and he is the all

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seeing. In the other ayah, where the mother of Mary,

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she says he is the one who what semi or the All Hearing and the

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All Knowing when someone is in a situation that hold that

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experience in a marriage, for example, or any type of

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relationship, there's two sides to a story. No one is actually going

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to know the truth, because no one else was there, except for the

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people that were there, and both of them saw it in a different way.

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When you have a conversation with someone, sometimes you remember

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things very differently. But Allah is telling.

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Her that he is a Mia, the one who hears and what will see what?

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Because when you see, when you when you feel seen, when someone

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witnesses what you are going through, when they validate the

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fact that they now a person, not Allah, when a person validates the

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fact that they believe you, that they see you, that they order

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space for you, it makes a difference emotionally. So PhD in

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women in the Quran,

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she said there are 26 different women mentioned in the Quran, and

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every single one of them is addressed in a different way with

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the emotional needs that she has. The almost found out that

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specifically recognizes the different emotional needs of women

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in different stories of women in the Quran. So how that will be

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localized? She is talking about her elephant. Was talking

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addressing her emotional need of being seen. He hears her, Samir,

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he heard and he saw, versus

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Maria Marla's mother. He is the one who what Samir. He hears her

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and what, because he

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knows the very next verse goes to when she's finished, she gives

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birth, so please give the rest of the story. She's lost her husband.

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She's calling us

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dedicated

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voices.

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I She assumed it's

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going to be a boy, because here only men were allowed. There were

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no women in fatal Moses. So she had so

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efficient giving her child the dedication to Allah. Allah's gonna

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make that child a boy. With

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her baby,

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she

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wouldn't have the fear of losing her child's mother had had a boy,

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she wouldn't have the fear of what with her baby. Intentionally, each

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person

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has a different role in a time period where sometimes they don't

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understand why they can set up she gives birth, and when she gives

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birth, she says over in me, did you hear me saying in me? What in

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me? Semi Toha, Maria, what in me? What in me? What in me? Why?

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Because scholars of tips here say that she says in me and in me and

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in me over and over. Because she is in shock. She doesn't know how

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to do

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what she's saying in me is and and I, and I, and I, she is stuttering

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over her words, and initially she did not like the fact that she had

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a girl. Initially she was unhappy with the fact that she had a girl,

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not because girls are not amazing and the last penalties bless her,

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with a beautiful, big girl, but because she don't know what she's

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gonna do. How's she gonna have her baby going to be so milking

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her you guys. Thank you my throat, thanks you

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okay. This is okay. All of you can hear me. No, okay, so she's saying

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this over and over and over and over again. Now, when we talked

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about how that will the Allah, when Allah revealed the verse

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about her, this surah,

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over and over mentions what in every single verse, many ideas.

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What is mentioned in every single verse

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is Allah.

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Allah, Allah name is mentioned in every single verses. The only

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surah in the entire Quran where Allah's name is mentioned in every

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single ayah. So the surah in which he acknowledges someone going

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through emotional pain and trying to navigate what that's going to

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look like for their future is the one where Allah subhanahu mentions

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his name over and over. Why? Because when you say someone's

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name like this over and over. It's a sign of your love for them, how

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much they mean to you and how great their name is. When the

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mother of merimanah has calling out, she's calling out to Allah.

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She's saying the same word over and over, acknowledging the Allah

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sees her and that he answers her, and then she makes dua for her

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daughter. Why? To show that she's happy with the plan of Allah. She

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loves her child. This is why she makes dua. We're going to wrap up

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so fast in chalk, because I know all of your souls. I'm going to

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speed through the story. When marijuana his Salaam is raised

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here. Zakiria salam was the person who was chosen to watch after her.

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She was also his niece, and all of his life he's making dua.

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Out we are assuming making dua to have a baby. Why do we assume

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that? Because at the end of when, when he saw the end of his life in

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his 90s, he is making this job like with such humility, he enters

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upon Maryam. He sees that she has fruit. He thinks maybe his wife

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and him can have a baby out of season, like the fruit is out of

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season here. Imagine here, here, Allah SWT here that they got

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fruit. Then he goes and he makes for a baby. And that is when Allah

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says, hunale, Allah answered him right there, that he sorry. He

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made right there. And then the angel, the verse says, angels. But

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Angel, Jabil, Allah, His Salam is so great that sometimes for

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something great, you use the call so different scholars say Angel,

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Jibreel Islam, or the group of angels. However, the point

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Zakaria Salam is making dua for so many years. When you make dua and

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you've been making dua for years and years and years, and you

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wonder, is this actually something I should keep making dua for. Is

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this something that's actually good for me? Maybe Allah doesn't

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want to give it to me. When I used to make dua, this is what I would

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do. I make a specific dua, and I say, oh, Allah, please bless me

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with Please give it to me. Please give it to me this particular

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thing. And I'd say it out loud in my heart, I would say, I know

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Allah is not going to give this to me because he wants to test me

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with the opposite of what I want. I would make the DAR Allah, Oh

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Allah, give and in my heart, I would say I know he's not going to

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answer, because he knows how Ali I want it. And that moment of

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recognition that Allah is I am as my servant thinks I am, he says I

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am as my servant thinks I am. So when we're praying to Him, and we

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are in our hearts thinking, but he's not even gonna respond. He's

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not even gonna answer me. Why would he? Subhanahu taala, of

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course, he still can. He's so generous that he would, you know,

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Ibn Al qawilah, he mentioned something very powerful, that

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you're a sign, a sign that you have more hope in your deeds than

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in the Mercy of Allah. Is that when you make a mistake, when you

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commit a sin, or when you don't do as much good as you should be

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doing, you think that Allah's Mercy is closed for you, because

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you are not thinking about Allah's mercy. You're thinking you're not

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deserving of Allah's mercy because your deeds are not enough, and so

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you assume he's not going to answer you that is hope in your

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own deeds. Allah's Mercy is so much more vast. So when we talk

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about the Mercy of Allah that

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He answers your DUA, think about zakiri. Are they his Salaam? How

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many decades did he make dua for? And yet Allah answered him in the

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best time for him and the right time for him to be the cousin of

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Jesus, His Son. Yeah, he had to be the cousin of Jesus when and they

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weren't. They were. They supported one another as they walked in this

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land, and they called people to Allah. When we look at Maria

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Marla, when Angel Jibreel came to her and gave her the glad tidings,

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he said, Do

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you know the aha balaki? It means to give you the glad tidings. Aha

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balaki, glad tidings. Was her response, like Allahu Akbar, yay.

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Was she like Alhamdulillah, chosen? She like the best news

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ever. I can't wait to be a mom. No, she was so tear scared. First

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of all, her entire worship, her fasting, and her TOA and her like

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salah, and all of those things which she did here. In fact,

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there's a different different narrations on when she came in and

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she saw Jibreel and they hissed up. Do you guys want to end? Is

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there freezing? Do you want me to just do a sentence?

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Okay, okay, I'll talk faster. So when

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was there in his what was doing? There's different narrations. When

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was that? Okay? The point is that she came back and she sees and she

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sees a beautiful man. He's known he was, he's described as a very

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beautiful man. And she said, the beautiful man in her room, and she

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is a dadaya. Look. All that worship and work led to her

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immediately saying, if you have fear of Allah, then go back. Then

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what? Who does she call upon? Remind him of a Rahman? Why? Why

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not? Allah is the most merciful, whatever your intentions were,

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this is a moment that you can repent. This is a moment that you

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can come back to Allah. Don't do whatever you're thinking about,

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make repentance to Allah. So she calls Andrew jabriel back to

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Allah, and then says that he got so scared, he was so like shocked

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by her response that he

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said, help me. I forgot for a second.

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You know what? No matter I'm just here. I'm just a messenger. I'm

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just a messenger. So the Angela then gives her the glad tidings.

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Her response is to be in shock. How? How is this physically

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possible? No man has ever touched her. And then Jibreel, his Salam,

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of course, tells her whatever Allah SWT can do. Now what I want

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to focus on here is the fact that Allah uses the word the aha

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balaki, that this is a gift, because to her, in that moment,

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Allah could have described any other response. He could have

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described her. Maybe later on, she said, Alhamdulillah. Maybe later

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on, she was like, what?

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I'm so excited. Maybe she had positive experience, moments or

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statements that she did say, none of those are recorded in the

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Quran. None of them are recorded

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in

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the Quran. Allah recorded her emotional shock and pain and fear

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when Allah sent an angel to tell her he's being given, she's being

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given a gift in your life when you're making Dora in your life in

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general, there are going to be times if something does not seem

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like a gift. There was a dua I was making for eight years. I was

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making this dua in sajda, in Omaha, in Ramadan, when it was

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raining, when I was sick, when I was traveling, same door over and

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over, open this door, open this door, open this door. The exact

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opposite kept happening. And this was different from the other door.

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I just was over and over, the exact opposite. Why? Why I'm

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trying to understand the wisdom, except it I believe, but like I'm

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trying to understand the wisdom. Eight years later, I remember I

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was in my room, and I got the news, and the news that I was

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looking for was the answer to the door I had been making for eight

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years. And then it hit me, and I remember, I just dove into sajda

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because the greatness of yes being answered. But I suddenly realized

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all those closed doors pushed me to be answered in the way that I

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specifically needed, in a way that I could not have dreamed of

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asking. I couldn't have made dua for the way that Allah SWT made it

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happen for me? Had I even thought to make dua for this week? We

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didn't exist it? He closed all these doors for me to push me into

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a specific way of answering this dua in the best way and in the

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best time, in the way that I needed it most for my life. So

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when we're thinking about Allah giving us gifts that sometimes

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don't seem like a gift, sometimes a hardship that you're going

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through does not seem like a loss does not seem like a gift, and it

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doesn't mean that it's a gift that you're like, you know, like great

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news sometimes, but it means that there's wisdom in it that

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sometimes we may not be able to understand. When Maria malaysalam

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was giving birth, immediately it jumps to her giving birth. What

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does she say? Is she like, I'm gonna meet my baby? No, she's

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saying, I wish I died before this. Now, scholars mention different

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reasons why, one of them being because physically, when a woman

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has birth, especially unmedicated, extremely painful, she's on her

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own. She's doing this as a young woman. But also because she was

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the pillar. She was the image of righteousness. And if the pillar

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and the image of righteousness could get pregnant by the view of

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other people, then what does that mean for all she represents of

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piety. And so she was so scared of what people are going to say about

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that as well, when she says, Yeah, late, any mid to lahat ancia, that

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she says that she wish she had died before this and something

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forgotten. Allah subhana wa Taala commands her to do something. He

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commands her to shake the date palm tree. Now you might have

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heard that the reason for that is because we have to do our part

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right. We have to make dua and do our take action. We also do our

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part, which is 100% true, but she is literally giving birth. She is

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very much doing her part right in that moment. Something fascinating

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to think about is that psychologists today, cognitive

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behavioral therapists today, say you cannot change your feelings.

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You want to feel better. Don't think about changing your

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feelings. Focus on an action. Do an action. The action will impact

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your thoughts. The thoughts will impact your feelings.

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Commands her to do an action, and that action of shaking the date

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palm tree does something else. In Psychology Today, when someone is

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having anxious, cyclical thoughts, they tell him to do something to

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break the cycle. So Allah tells her to an action. She focuses on

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something else, and we don't know, of course, Allah doesn't reveal in

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the Quran what happened in her thought process, but the Quran

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stops talking about her thought process because for a couple of

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verses, that's the only focus. So now the focus is, take this

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action. Take a moment to rest and to recover, and once you rest and

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recover, do what go out with your baby. Why does she go out with her

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baby? Why didn't Allah reveal zakiria alayhi salam to go out

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with the baby? Why was it Angel Jibreel and his Salam order to go

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out with the baby? Why her every single one of us is going to go

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through this period that many miles Salam went through, we're

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gonna go through a time in our life, or maybe we're going through

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it right now, or maybe we've already gone through something so

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painful. And in that time process, we are going to question and we

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are going to wonder, and we are going to try our best to see the

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wisdom of what Allah panchada has decreed for us, and in that

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process, something that we often do as just natural human beings,

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is we step away, which we need to do. We need to sometimes just step

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away and focus internally. That's so critical. But at the same time,

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when we're going through hardship, we sometimes feel unworthy. We

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sometimes feel like maybe this is a test because I committed a sin.

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Maybe this is something that's happening because Allah is

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displeased with me. Maybe the reason that this is not opening,

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this door is not opening, is because Allah is not answering my

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daughter. But why doesn't he want to answer my daughter? Is it

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because I was not sincere enough? My first pregnancy, I lost my

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baby, and I remember all of the thoughts that I was having was was

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it because I was not sincere enough in my prayer? Was it

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because I wasn't making.

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More more intentional dua. Was it because I had done something

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without realizing it? Did I not pray enough? Sunnah? Everything I

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thought about was about my worship, and it took some time for

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me to realize, why am I basing this on my worship? Instead of

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realizing that Allah has a plan that I cannot see, why don't I put

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my trust in him, instead of thinking that he's so angry with

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me that he would punish me by causing me to lose my first baby

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when I when I framed it in the mother of Maryam alaihi salam, you

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know the one verse that got me through it with the mother of

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Maryam alaihis Salam? Excuse me, ha Musa alaihi salam. When she

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loses her Musa alaihi salam, and he leaves, right? He is promised

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to go back to her. He has promised to go back to her and in paradise

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inshallah. All those, all those who've lost someone Inshallah,

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they will be brought back in paradise. But the point I'm trying

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to share is, for me, it became all about what I'm doing wrong,

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instead of focusing on how can I use this moment to reconnect with

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Allah in a way that is through the lens of intimate loss. When I made

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that personal shift and I realized that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi

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wasallamus, every single one of his children in his lifetime,

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except faulty radiAllahu anha, and in his lifetime, on his deathbed,

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he told her salawats That she is going to die. He was not spared

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the pain and the grief of losing his last child in his life,

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sallAllahu, alaihi wasallam, radiAllahu anha, that loss is one

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that you can't feel unless you lose and may Allah protect all of

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your loved ones. May Allah protect every single person that you love

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and that I love, and may Allah protect all of us and give us long

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lines of health and energy and worship for his sake. But if you

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have lost someone, you know how hard it is, and you never get over

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that. You never stop missing them. It's just that the pain is not as

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shock as a knife stabbing you in the heart. And when you go through

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that process and realize that the Prophet salallahu alayhi wa sallam

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himself went through it over and over and over and over again, it

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allows you to get to know Allah in a depth that you may never have

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experienced had Alhamdulillah, everything been so easy at all

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times. Why was the Prophet, sallAllahu, that he was some so

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relatable to every single one of us? Why? Because he went through

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the type of hardship that every single different type of person

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experiences in their lives. Every time the Prophet saw them, wept

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for his mother, sobbed for his mother for decades after her

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death, decades he would sit and weep at her grave to the point

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that it's like a boiling kettle. The sound of a boiling kettle,

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that amount of sobbing from the Prophet, sallAllahu, sallam, that

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type of sobbing, you only know that healing when you've gone

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through that healing. So when we go through that, and we remember

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that the Prophet saws himself went through that, when we make dua,

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it's not about Oh ALLAH. Was it because I wasn't sincere enough

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when I was praying, or I didn't do enough good deeds? It's Oh ALLAH.

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I trust you, and in my journey to you, I'm going to try to do

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better. I'm going to try to read, work on my heart. I'm going to try

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to draw closer to you, but also I'm not going to lose hope in you,

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because when I make it about my deeds instead of His mercy, when I

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make it about myself instead of who he is, I then limit the

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vastness of who Allah is. When he answered zakiri alaihi salam in

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his 90s, when he made Mariam alaihi salam pregnant

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miraculously, and then what chose her to go out to her people. Why?

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Because, when you are going through that hardship, sometimes

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all you want to do is lock yourself in a room, but what you

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need to do sometimes is, yes, do that, do that, do that, and go

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through therapy and seek support and have self care time, all of

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that, but also it is still your responsibility to go out and call

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people to Allah. And what that might look like is simply being

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kind to family. What that might look like is going to work and

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showing up when you don't want to, or coming to mesh Al Aqsa to find

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healing and to come back to him and forgiveness. But the point is

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that Miriam alaihi salam did not have to go out. He could Allah.

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Could have chosen someone else instead of her, but he chose her

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to go out and go out with her baby and stand in front of the people,

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despite all of the conversation she had just been having about how

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she feels about the whole circumstance, her emotional state,

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she was still chosen. Every single one of us is here for a reason. We

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are in Mishal, the place that all of these companions came to and

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they established a place of learning and scholarship. And that

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loss for our civilization as an ummah, that loss as we see, has

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crippled us in every single way. But, you know, there's a Mujaddid

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that comes every 100 years, and the women and the men that are

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here right now, we are the generation before the Mujaddid is

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supposed to come. We don't know what we are going to witness in

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our lifetime. May Allah increase our lifespan and bless us with

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many years of health to witness it and to work for it. But we are the

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real we are part of setting up a society in which that person will,

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Inshallah, be ready to stand up with the message and the people

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that support them to it when we look.

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Like we mentioned earlier, at the people who came and changed the

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change the way that people interacted with one another, and

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Allah, it was through their knowledge of who he is. We come to

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know him through our hardships, and we come to have hope in Him

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through our dua. So when you're going to him, remember what

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zakiria alaihi salam did. He went immediately and made dua. And what

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did he do? He made dua like this. We're gonna end with making dua

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together Inshallah, because I want you to feel how he made dua. So

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we're gonna Facebook like this. Okay, so how did, how did he make

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dua?

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It's an etiquette to Facebook, good luck. It's an etiquette to

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put your hands out.

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And we are going to call upon Allah like we need him

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desperately. Ya Allah, Ya Rak thank you for honoring us to be

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here in Masjid Al Aqsa Allah. Thank you, Ya Allah, for choosing

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us to come to Masjid Al Aqsa Allah. Oh,

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Allah,

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Allah, we have all come here, every single one of us, witnessing

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that this place is a place that you have chosen, witnessing ya,

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Allah, that this place is a place that you have made holy. Oh Allah,

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as you honored your prophets with being here, as you chose your

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angels to be in this place. Oh Allah, honor us with coming back

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over and over again. Allah, forgive us in this moment and

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bless every single person that we love. Oh Allah, every single one

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of us has needs of our hearts. Allah, Ummah, this is amongst the

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last days of Ramadan, and we can feel that there is a

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moisture in the air, and if it's going to rain, or if it's raining,

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it's another time that you answered. So Oh Allah, we come to

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you with every single need of our hearts. And Allah, Ummah, if you

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do not answer us, who is going to answer us? Allah, Ibn Allah, don't

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turn us away. Allah, don't turn us away. If you turn us away, who's

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going to answer us? If you turn us away, who is going to answer us?

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Allah, answer us. Allah, answer us. Allah, you told us in your

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book, and your word is the truth.

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You told us, Ya Allah, make dua to me, and I will respond. So we are

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here, ya Rabin and making dua to you, and you promise to respond.

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Every single one of us have needs of our hearts that only you know

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answer the needs of our hearts. You are. You are the one here, and

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you know our futures answer us. Because without you, there's

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nowhere we can go. If you turn us away, there is nowhere we can go.

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Please be pleased with us because of the people that you love, Allah

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you see our weakness. Allahumma in front of you, we are nothing to

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answer us. Answer us. Answer

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us. He

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made talking about his state, his physical state, that he had become

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old, and he's become weak and he felt frail. Talk to Allah about

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your physical state, that if he does not answer you, who is going

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to answer you? If he doesn't accept you, where are you going to

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go? Talk to him with desperation and Allah SWT Promises, promises

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that He will respond. It may be exactly what you're asking for. It

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may be in the Hereafter, it may be better than what you're asking

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for, or he may avert something from you that is going to be a

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means of harm. But the point is, he will always answer. So the

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Prophet saw them, when the Companions realized this, they

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said that they want to make more da, and he told them, make even

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more da, because Allah SWT will always answer you. He promises

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that he listened. And when you make to add to him, he loves to

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hear your voice. So call to him and know that he loves when you

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call SubhanAllah.

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Thank you for waiting through the super cold a day that you have to

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leave we're going to end unless you have one question,

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yes, a lot of the issues that you talk to about

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are issues that we face today in terms of loss of life, losing a

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child, depression and anxiety, a bit of an open ended question. But

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could you choose another kind of issue that we face today and a

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solution to it, just like mentioned about anxiety,

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depression, using a child and coping mechanisms? Can you choose

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another issue that, especially the face today and how we can, like,

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have a solution can you give me an example of one?

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I don't know, maybe

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higher divorce or anything like that. You know, something that we

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face divorce? Yeah, something, something along those lines of

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higher divorces now that we see that we didn't, maybe see poor an

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issue like that. It's very open ended. I have to say, okay, so

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you're but let me make sure I understand the question, so, like,

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why is that happening? Or what is the solution? The solution to it?

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Okay, so that's like, such a broad point. Thank you. I appreciate you

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mentioning it. I keep it broad because everyone is going through

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something different, but when it comes to something like a higher

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divorce rate, I mean, something like that would definitely need

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the help of a psychologist and therapists and researchers. We.

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I will say is that when I hear people talking about this, I feel

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like there's this, there's this call that people say, like, oh,

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there's, you know, there's so much happening. There's higher divorce

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because people are not as connected to Allah or something

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like that. And I just think really, when we look at the time

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of the companions, they would get divorced and remarried and

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divorced and remarried, or widowed and remarried and widowed and

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remarried. It's very different from the way that we see it in

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culture today. And so in something like this, I think even changing

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the way we talk about it, if people are getting divorced at

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higher rates, it's not necessarily because they are not trying.

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Perhaps it's because in the beginning they were never meant.

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They were never compatible in the first place, and maybe their

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families pushed them to get married. Or maybe, maybe they

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never asked all those premarital questions that they should have

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asked, like there are strategic things our community can do to

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support premarital counseling or helping people get to know one

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another without saying you can only talk three times, then you

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have to get married, or, in fact, you're gonna see each other on

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your wedding day. Actually, no people have seen each other on

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their wedding they get married. So like, those are contributing

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factors to divorce. Many people used to still stay married, even

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if they hated each other, like that was just part of the culture.

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But now I think things are changing. So that's a great

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question. I don't know if I'm the best person to answer it. I'll

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just say those are some like the thoughts I have when I hear people

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like talk about it. I'm sorry that I didn't help with that. Super

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open ended. Yeah, that was your phone number. Does

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anyone have another question or one make a point about this point?

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May

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Allah bless you all it was such an honor to be in Aksa with you. May

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Allah tell the Reach for return us over and over again together over

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and over again. And may Allah bless bless shazaid and alburu and

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all of you who've been working in doing so much. It was such a gift

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to be with you in the last 10 night time to do that. Abu Dhabi,

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please forgive me for my shortcomings, and if you have any,

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I would love to stay connected with you guys. You can message me

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anytime on Instagram at the Miriam Amir. Don't message me on Tiktok,

00:31:40 --> 00:31:43

because I don't get messages, but I would love to message with you.

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So please stay in touch. I would love to stay connected. Inshallah,

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barnacla, if you come, thank you so much, the more they go. Thanks.

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