Maryam Amir – The Crowning Venture Women Who have Memorized the Quran. Saadia Mian interview

Maryam Amir
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The speakers emphasize the importance of memorizing the Quran and finding a teacher to practice it, as it is crucial for personal growth and self-esteem. They stress the benefits of learning to interpret the Quran and finding the right words to write in a prayer, setting aside time to prepare for the Quran, and celebrating the 50th Joe birthday. They also encourage others to read and share the Quran.
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Sona Rahel, Rahim, Salamu alaykum. We're still working on getting

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live on Facebook, but Alhamdulillah, we have started on

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Instagram.

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Salamu alaykum, Bismillah. Rahman Rahim, alhamdulillahi Rasulillah.

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Thank you so much for joining. So excited to see you, and very

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excited to Inshallah, start having this conversation, this

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conversation. Dr Sadia, Inshallah,

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we are just working on getting the load. Having trouble loading. Ah,

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okay, Bismillah, so we're

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gonna do some troubleshooting. Bismillah Here we go. Cool.

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Sweet that you were excited. Munira Salam, to all the people

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waving like,

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Dr Sadia, how are you? How are you? I'm gonna doing well, give us

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one second. Friends on this side, we're also going live on Facebook.

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So Doctor Sadia join us on Facebook. Inshallah, okay, let's

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see. I'm very new to this. I don't do that many lies. Yes, we all

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are. It's a process for everyone. Well, me anyway, it's a process

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for me. But in the meantime, we're going to say Allah, have even in

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Muhammad while to those of you who are joining on Facebook, thank you

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for joining us. So excited to have a conversation about the

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Quran this morning inshallah. Allah Muhammad, where are you guys

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coming from? From Facebook and Instagram? Are you all also at 8am

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in California, or are you later on in the day? Oh,

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okay, here we go.

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Um,

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I don't see the request button,

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so join the Facebook Live. Oh, Chicago, the UK, Utah, oh,

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mashallah, Georgia, also the UK, Puerto Rico, that is amazing.

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Oh, mashallah, London. How exciting. Mashallah, so many

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different places. It's such a gift to me, all of you, Indonesia,

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Allahu, Akbar, the Netherlands,

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Toronto, wide awake. Oh, Chinese in the UAE, so cool. Scotland.

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Wow. MashaAllah, wow.

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What a gift to me. All of you. Thank you so much. Barnacle of

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ficom for saying salam and joining.

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Okay, um, I apologize I'm not seeing where I can join the

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Facebook Live from. Okay, so go on to my page. Yeah. And do you see

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me having a, starting a live Yes, okay, click on it. Okay. Yep. I'm

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I have the live up. Can you comment say, salam, yeah, or

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anything, yeah.

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Cameroon, masha Allah, this incredible you from all over the

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world to Barak. Allah,

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look at this like family wallet, because I'm walking to where I can

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too.

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Did you send a comment yet here?

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So, Smilla,

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we are,

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I don't know. I can't add you. Yeah, I'm not sure. It's not

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really, it's not showing me a place to join you.

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Okay, so what we're going to do then inshallah is our dear friends

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on Facebook, walaik, Asmaa, Ketu, I am so sorry. We are having

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technical difficulties, like from Saudi

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Inshallah, we are going to post the conversation we have on

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Instagram, onto Facebook and Inshallah, next time we have this

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interview, we're going to figure out how to make sure that.

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Inshallah, this doesn't happen. I'm so sorry. I know so many

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people were excited to hear about the book, the crowning venture

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interviewing women who've memorized the Quran and the tips

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and tricks of memorizing the Quran. Inshallah, we're going to

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continue this conversation at the Miriam and mirror on Instagram.

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Inshallah, posted over here and Inshallah, we'll have a different

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conversation on Facebook soon. Inshallah, I'm so sorry to leave

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you all, but thank you so much for being a part of this for a very

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short amount of time. Please keep us in your

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da Salam here on Instagram. Sorry about that. Oh, yeah, no, it's

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not, it's all, it's so it's a work in progress, process, okay? Dr

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Sadia, masha Allah is an endocrinologist, and on top of

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that, she's memorized the Quran, and she's actively working. She's

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a board member of Robocop. She studied in Syria. She has her

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ijazza In Tajweed, and she's going to get in his SubhanAllah. That is

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like.

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Super, super exciting for all of us, and especially because you are

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both doing career and memorization of the Quran. So many times we

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hear that, you know, memorization of the Quran is just you go to

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Syria and you stay there forever. Oh May Allah protect and blessed

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people of Syria and help all of the brothers and sisters in our

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Ummah everywhere. So a lot of times we don't hear about how you

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can balance both of these two areas of your life. So Dr Sadia,

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can you tell us your story about how you started the journey, what

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made you want to memorize the Quran and Mashallah? Your book is

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so beautiful. I shared with Dr Sadia that I was gifted her book

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and the Halakha was giving. There's a professor attending who

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was so mashallah, like

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kind that she gave to me this book. I got it right before I took

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a trip to Alhamdulillah, to Jerusalem, to mesh, and to Mecca

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and Medina, and I took it with me through all of these blessed

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places. But I didn't have the chance to read it there. So I came

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back and I started reading it. And subhanAllah, reading your story,

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reading stories of other women who memorize the Quran just uplifted

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me and gave me so much, you know, a re inspiration, like sometimes

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when you memorize, you memorize at some time you you even if you

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finish the memorization, you're going through your review, you go

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through the slumps sometimes. And hearing from people who've done it

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is just super exciting. So, can you tell us what your journey was

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like? Why did you even start memorizing the Quran? How did you

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go to medical school and go to Syria? What was the process like

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for you?

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Okay, so first of all, I'm happy that my book went to those blessed

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lands,

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even though.

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But thank you. You know it just did something to me when you told

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me that

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my journey was very unexpected, I did not start out at all thinking

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that, Oh, I'm going to memorize the Quran in my life. In fact, it

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was. It was not even on my radar. I had I didn't know many women who

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had memorized the Quran. My journey started after I finished

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undergrad, and I had about eight months before I was going to be

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starting medical school, and so I decided to take a trip to Syria,

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which was only supposed to be three weeks, and with the purpose

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of learning Arabic, that was it. Wow, just a three week trip to

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learn Arabic in Syria. Yeah, that's exactly what the plan was.

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I was going with two other sisters. There was a whole long

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backstory to how that even came about, but it was going to be

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three weeks. And once I got there, though, this whole world opened up

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for me that I didn't even know existed. I met so

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I saw all these girls who had all memorized the Quran I saw that it

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was I

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I remember that my teachers and one of the Nancy Tamara, she

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listened to all of us. There was a bunch of us who came from the

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States, from Canada. One day she asked us all to recite some Quran.

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And I had started working at the dweeb a few months before I went

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to Syria. So when she heard me recite, she said, if you can

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extend your trip a little bit, then you might be able to get any

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Jazza in dijde weed. So at that point, I decided to extend my

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trip. I extended it maybe by a month, and then I remember, I

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started working on it. I still needed more time. I kept on

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extending it until I ended up being four and a half months, and

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I spent the entire summer. Once I made that decision, I put Arabic a

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little bit to the side and just focusing on Quran,

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I worked on a fetz. Me. I went through the entire Quran with

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interweed, with a teacher. I went through all these stages of

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testing and then, literally, my day and night. I was devoted to

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working on my Tajweed, reciting to my teacher. Four days before I

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came back from Syria, I went to see the sheik, which Sheik al

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Kurdi Allah and the see him for the purpose of getting tested.

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And, Alhamdulillah, I got tested. I got my jazz up, you know, yeah,

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Alhamdulillah, that was four days before I came back. And it was

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such a whirlwind.

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Came back and, you know, Alhamdulillah, I had my sister

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here who was kind of taking care of my paperwork for medical

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school, found me a place to stay, found me a roommate. She did so

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much for me. God bless her. This is my older sister and I just I

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started medical school. Like four days after that, I was still jet

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lagged. No, it was like I went from this world of being

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completely immersed in Quran to the.

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World of being immersed in medical school, you know, which is from

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anatomy, physiology, just the world of the body. So it was kind

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of in a way, like jumping into an ice cold bath of water or

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something.

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So, Alhamdulillah, what I will say about how did this end up with me

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memorizing is one of the most important things that happened

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that summer was I developed such a strong connection with the Quran

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and a deep love for it because I spent some time with it,

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and it was just anybody who has spent time with the Quran. You

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realize the more you recite, the more time you spend it, spend with

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it, the more time you want to spend with it, and the more you

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want to understand it, the more you just want it to be inside of

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your heart. And that's exactly happened.

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I i fell so in love with the Quran, and I yearned to memorize.

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And I, of course, I still want to go, wanted to go to medical

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school.

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So I still had this dream, though, that I want to be able to memorize

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inshallah. And so in my second year. So my first year of medical

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school was kind of a whirlwind blur. My second year, I started

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memorizing Surah Baqarah. I found a local teacher, Alhamdulillah.

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There was somebody who was actually from Syria, who had her

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age as a memorization and so that year, I spent just memorizing

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Surah Baqarah, even if it was just a page a week. Sometimes,

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sometimes it was less when I had exams. But by the end of the year,

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I had completed my memorization of Surah Baqarah. And during that

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time, then I also, you know, talked with my parents about

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taking a year off from medical school to go back to Syria and,

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you know, subhanAllah with,

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you know, my mom was a little bit nervous, but eventually she was

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like, if you really want this, you know, go ahead, like, I'll support

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you. What a gift, yeah, from the last so I took my step one board

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exam and, like, I didn't even know my result yet, and I was playing

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to Syria again.

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I think the key lesson from that whole

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is that

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the journey of memorizing the Quran. It's a journey of love.

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And I remember in one of the interviews that I did, my friend

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who memorized said, You will not be able to memorize the Quran if

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you don't love it. So do whatever it takes, love it. And for some

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people, that might be just, I didn't know a lot of Arabic, you

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know, I just started learning Arabic when I went back to

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memorize. I took Arabic classes simultaneously from the LA, but I

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fell in love with the recitation, the sounds, what it what it did to

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my heart.

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And but for some people, they fall in love with the grammar. Some,

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another person might fall in love with the the seed.

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For some it's all of them. I would say, for me, I all of it is, is

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now that is, you know, something that I really want to focus on.

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But it's not, you know, only something you can intellectualize.

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And that's why a lot of times people can't really,

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you know, imagine that this is something that they would do,

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you know, because it's not something you can just think

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about, and then, okay, I'm going to do it. You You have to love the

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Quran. And so my advice for people is, start out, you know, find a

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teacher. Work on the DJed because the dweed is what is far dying for

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us. It's a duty upon each one of us to be able to recite the Quran

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properly, if we have the means to learn right? And so that's

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starting point. Don't even, you don't even have to start thinking

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that, Oh, I'm going to memorize the whole Quran and oh my god. And

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also realizing that, although it would be beautiful if everybody in

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the world could memorize the Quran, but it's not a journey that

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everybody will do completely. Maybe some people will memorize a

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portion, and that's still great. Alhamdulillah, you are. You are

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half of that of what you have memorized. And you know, some

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people will go all the way to memorizing the entire thing, but

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the most important thing is to, number one, make sure that we work

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on Earth and tweets so that we can recite it properly. And number two

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is, have some kind of relationship with the Quran, whatever that

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means. Have some portion of the Quran that you recite daily,

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whether it's one ayah, whether it's one page, certain suwad Have

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some kind of relationship. It could be delving into the Tafseer.

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I still, no matter what else you do, I still do believe that some

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portion.

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Daily recitation is important.

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But then there's other things that you can do with or you can study

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the grammar study that the seed, I have some relationship with it,

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where you spend a part of your day, even if it's 10 minutes an

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hour, however much it is with the Quran, and when you miss it, you

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you feel like you're missing something. Yes, definitely,

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subhanAllah, definitely. When you feel like you miss it, you feel

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like you miss it when so a few questions for you. When you say

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loving the Quran. Obviously, we're Muslims. We you know we want to

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love the Quran. We love the Quran, but sometimes, like the love that

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you feel for the Quran is different from other times. Like,

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there might be times where you're like in nakka, and you're

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listening to the recitation, and your email is so high, like, Oh, I

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love the Quran so much. And you come back in the middle of medical

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school, you're busy with your family, there's so many other

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responsibilities, and you might remember that feeling you've had

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at one point, but you don't necessarily feel all the love in

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that same strength. How would you tell someone who is just busy and

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just maybe they're even taking a class with a teacher every week

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and they're doing Tajweed, they maybe feel like there is some sort

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of stagnation in their relationship with loving the

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Quran. They know they love it, but the the all encompassing. You know

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you're falling in love all over again. Feeling is sometimes not

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there. What kind of what kind of suggestions would you give someone

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like

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that? So that's a good question. With feelings. Ultimately, we we

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have to be careful, even though I said how it's so important to

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love? Love the Quran. Feel change. Feelings come and go. They're not

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always consistent, and that's natural. There are times even the

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Sahaba, you know, they said, we feel differently when we're with

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you, Ya Rasulullah, then when we're not,

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of course, he said, that's normal, you know. And the same thing goes

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with the Quran. So to think that this is a fairy tale journey, and

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oh my god, once I fell in love with it, and everything was just

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nice and smooth, definitely there. That's not the case. There are ups

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and downs, but in general, I would say, in life and also in our Quran

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journey that we

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practice not being people who live according to our feelings only.

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That's so powerful. Allahu, Akbar, yeah, so there are days where I I

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will be honest, um, there are days I feel like doing review. There

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are days I don't feel like it, but then I ask myself what my values

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are, and that's there for us to have clear values and have a clear

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vision in everything we do, in life, in general, and in any

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endeavor that we undertake like, what are my values? And my values

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are that I I'm, it's my duty to review.

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You know, once we once I've memorized whether I want to say

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duty or I don't feel like that word because it seems very forced.

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But, that's an important one. Yeah, it's a commitment. I should

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say it's a commitment. I'm committed to the Quran. I'm

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committed to review.

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One way to

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sort of stick to a commitment, especially when you're struggling,

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what really helps is maybe not measure by, like, how much in a

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day. So not like, Okay, I have to do this many pages a day, but this

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is how much time in the morning I'm committed to spending with the

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Quran every day. And one person that actually I'm reciting to

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right now suggested make make it. You know, with your busy life,

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pick a something that you can stick with consistently. And you

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know that person said 20 minutes

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a day, and you know, considering everything else that we do in the

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morning time, you know, there's other like, Aida and everything,

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so 20 minutes, yeah, I mean, it doesn't sound like a lot, but when

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you do it consistently,

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and you realize that you don't want to pick a number that you

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can't stick with, right? So that's, that's what I would say

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there that, you know, don't become a person of feelings only, like,

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who's weighed what you feel like doing that day, what you don't

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feel like doing? You know, there are days, probably, you know,

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people who have children, there are days you don't feel like

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changing your baby's diaper, but you are committed to your child.

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You've made a commitment to this child by having this child, that

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what you're going to take care of this child, you're not going to

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neglect, neglect this child and leave them in a dirty diaper.

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And one of my friends actually that I interviewed, and I think

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it's in the book also, she she likened it to having children, you

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know.

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There, as, once you've memorized, sometimes there is this feeling of

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this heavy responsibility. You know, it does feel like it's

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sometimes it just feels like, Oh, my God. What did I do? But, you

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know, people who have children feel like that too. Sometimes

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like, God, what did I do? You know?

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But, you know, now, I mean, you've had these children, and there's

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good days and there's bad days, you know, and but you're committed

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to them, and the same thing goes with the Quran. So I thought that

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was a really beautiful metaphor.

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And

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trying to think, I think that's essentially what I would say, even

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when it comes to feelings, my teachers used to say, be careful

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that you don't become addicted to the feelings of ibadah. Only you

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know that's a gift that Allah gives us. So we pray our five

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daily prayers, whether we feel them or not because we're

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committed to them. It's our responsibility, and sometimes

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Allah, especially in the beginning of our path, it's a gift he gives

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us that we experience immense, deep feelings of love,

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and we feel things in our hearts, but sometimes those feelings

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aren't there, but we still do, still pray, you know, and we wait,

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okay, you know, I'm I might be gifted those feelings again

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someday. I might not, you know, but, but it is a commitment upon

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Allah that was so powerful. I mean, if you're doing it because

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of the feeling, are you really doing it because of the feeling,

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or are you doing it because this is something that you know speaks

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to your core, that you're doing this for the sake of Allah's

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pantal, and I think that's one of the issues with worship in

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general. I hear this question all the time, I no longer feel sola

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when I pray. I don't really feel it. I don't really feel hijab. I

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don't really feel it when I'm fasting and Ramadan. And that's

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really the question, do we do it because of the feeling, or do we

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do it because this is part of our like you mentioned, our our

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compass internally, that we that we need grounding for that. That

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example with children was really interesting. I mean, you're

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definitely, you know, you make a commitment to this job. You're not

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going to leave them. And that's so similar to, you know, this

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commitment you make with the Quran that you maintain, that we have a

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few questions from people before we keep going. The first one is,

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what do you do right now with your own review schedule? Because

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you're, you know, mashallah, you work as a doctor. So what is your

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schedule like?

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Great question. It's questions that I get. So I, like I said,

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definitely my life has is always, I don't like the word busy, but it

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is, for lack of a better word, let's just say it's a very full

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schedule. You know, I have, I work full time as an endocrinologist. I

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just recently completed the bots teacher certification. So I've

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been

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taking, I've been taking classes for years,

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and those take time as well. And then it's also very important in

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this journey to remember that, you know, obviously I have a full

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schedule, but also part of that schedule needs to include giving

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time to loved ones and connecting with people and doing things that

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are that are joyful to the heart. You know, we can't forget that

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part either,

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you know. And so

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that's that's why the advice that was given to me by the person that

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I'm reciting to right now, where, even if it's a small amount, make

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it consistent,

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I try to stick to those at least 20 minutes. Sometimes it's more,

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sometimes on the weekends, it might be more. Am I somebody who I

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will tell you right now? Disclaimer, I am not where I would

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like to be with my review?

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No, I think that just speaks to your commitment. Because anyone

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who's working with Quran, we're never where we want to be. I

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shouldn't laugh about that. That's not a joke. That's yeah, it's

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just, it's such a process, yeah. I mean, you know, at the same time,

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at the same time, one thing that we tend to do, and I don't know if

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we do it more as women,

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we are like professional self flagellators,

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you know, for lack of a better weight, but we're really hard on

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ourselves, and while we should definitely have commitment and

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rigor In our lives and be people you know who are organized and

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committed, but sometimes, when we beat ourselves too much, it's

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almost paralyzing. So

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where I would like to be at all with my review, but I also, and

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this is something that I remind.

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People in my classes, or anytime I have workshops, that

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as long as you are, you know, connecting with the Quran on a

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daily basis, and you are trying, sincerely, you are putting in 100%

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effort. That's what we are responsible for. We responsible

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for the results, yes, effort and so be honest with yourself, are

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you putting in 100% effort?

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Do is my effort always 100% maybe sometimes it's 80, maybe sometimes

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it's 70, sometimes maybe it's lost. Maybe sometimes it is 100%

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as long as we're doing that, then what is our view of Allah? Do we

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think that, Allah, if I miss, you know, a day that I'm going to walk

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outside and he's going to strike me down with lightning, you know?

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No, I mean, Allah, if you're a person who is sincerely trying and

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you're struggling because of all, you know, the other

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responsibilities you have in life and that you care, that's

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important thing. Here are you trying? I see Allah, he is. He's

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merciful, you know. And sometimes we just have this view that

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if I, if I am not perfect, if I don't, you know, do this much

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every single day, you know, Allah is going to be displeased with me.

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But instead of, okay, I'm, I'm doing something every day. I'm

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trying, you know, right? And so

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I think just that balance and realizing it's a life,

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right? It's a lifelong journey, yeah, it's a lifelong journey. I

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and that's why even my students, I, instead of, you know, having

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them track like, how much they've done, which, that's fine, it's

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good to track amounts too, but I have them time themselves. Like,

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how much time did you work today on? Like, either whether it's

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they're working on their did we or they're working on memorization.

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Look at how many minutes did you spend. Try to make that

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consistent, because that also shows you a mirror. Like,

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sometimes we think we're doing more than we're doing,

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and we're really not, like, you know, consistent with our time. Or

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sometimes we get pleasantly surprised, like, Oh, I really am

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spending a lot of time with this and tracking.

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Yeah, yeah, so and in fact, heads up for everybody here,

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extra, extra here, all about it

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soon in Shaw Allah, there is going to be a companion crowning,

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venture crowning, venture planner that it has all of that in there,

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charts to track, Quranic recitation, memorization, time

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spent with Quran other, Aida, all of that that's very and

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and it just shows, you know, sometimes, like when you don't

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track you, like, days go by, Weeks go by months, years, and we don't

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really realize, like, how much we're doing or not doing, right?

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So

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Pamela, one of the issues that people tell me about, they're

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like, I want to start memorizing the Quran, but I'm already in my

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30s or my 40s or my 50s, and, you know, I think span a lot. If you

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are going to continue to say, I wish, but I'm too old, I wish, but

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I'm too old, you're going to become 60, 7080, and wish, but if

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you're too old, but instead, if you start now, and even if it

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takes you 15 years, you can say, I spent 15 years memorizing the

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Quran. I spent 15 years on this journey. And when it's consistent

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and small, it's possible with all the other like responsibilities

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that you have

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when you started your experience with memorization and learning the

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Quran and wanting to continue. You didn't just do it for yourself.

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You decided that you wanted this to be something that is accessible

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to other women, and you wrote a book about it. What caused you to

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even think about writing this book, and what was the journey for

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you like in the process of writing a book about memorizing and

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reviewing the Quran.

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So considering that I, like many women, have severe case of

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imposter syndrome, I would have said, volunteered to write this

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book. It's just even though I remember shortly after my journey,

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thinking, Gosh, it'd be really cool to have a book like this that

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has, you know, tips and

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stories. Or at least time I thought it'd be cool to share my

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story, but I never would have put myself out there at all. And the

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way it came about is I

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went to a women's conference with

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and another friend of ours, friend of mine, and the three of us, we

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were on our way back from Sweden, sitting in the plane, and I'm not

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sure why, but.

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Of course, you know, when our teachers say something, it's spot

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on. And she said, you know, why don't you write a book about

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memorizing, put it on so

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and I remember, actually, years ago, another teacher of mine had

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suggested that I write my story. But again, I at that time, I

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didn't for some reason, I'm not sure why. And so I was sitting

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there on the plane, I pulled out my phone, and I wrote out an

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outline of what I thought every chapter should be about, and then

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I wrote an intro sitting there, like before we even, I mean,

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right, probably within the hour. And

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I think that the fact that I just started right away, without even

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having a chance to think about it or overthink it about yourself,

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yes, oh, it's like, okay, well, I started this book now, yeah. And

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it was really helpful, actually, to break it down by chapters, like

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the topics that I thought were important

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at that point, I don't remember. I'll have to look back at the

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initial outline. I don't know if I had included other women's

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stories, but I wrote my story out, you know. And I mean, that was a

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difficult process, because I didn't journal or anything while I

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was there, and I thought, How am I going to remember anything? How's

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it going to feel like, you know, it's, it's like, it's happening

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right there. But I just started writing Amazing how things came

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back to me. And I am, I tend to be on the introverted side, and I'm a

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very private person. So, you know, writing this book, I

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I had so many moments where I just thought, oh my gosh, I cannot This

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is too personal. Yes, yeah. It also because my teachers, they

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always taught us that your most personal, private moments with Ola

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Spada, don't share them with the world like keep them for yourself,

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yeah. And

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so I

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really struggled with writing, my personal feelings.

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Many times I just want to stop and, you know, my editor the GMs

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field, you know, and she was like, just keep on writing. Just don't

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worry, we're going to edit it. Don't think about it. Just keep

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going. Keep on writing, you know, if anything sounds like it's, you

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know, too personal, we can just, we'll take it out. We'll change

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it, you know, so it doesn't sound like, you know, she was

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just like, don't worry about it. So I just kept on writing. And

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then after I finished my story, I thought, okay,

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I, you know, for me, and I see there's a question here about how

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important it was for you to go to the bubble of Syria to seal the

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deal, I'm committing to the Quran. You know, I realized that I had

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that opportunity, and not everybody's going to have that

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opportunity. And I didn't want people to read my story and say,

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Okay, I can't relate to this, because I can't go to Syria, or I

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have, you know, four kids now. I can't, I don't have the time, or,

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you know, whatever reasons there might be. So I wanted to find

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women who were from all different backgrounds, had all different

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kinds of experiences, some who never left the US. Some who

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there's a there's a convert, and her story, you know. So coming

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back to the age issue, she,

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well, she she was a for her story. She was a convert. Didn't even

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know how to read the letters. Didn't know the letters. She just

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started listening to jazamna. And just by listening, She memorized

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the whole 30th Jos. She talks about how she loved the Quran so

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much. I found one Khadi, one lady who was 60 years old when she

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started and mashallah she she was, did it? She didn't, you know, this

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was after she had children, so maybe she went through mommy

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brain. I found another person who was almost 40, had four kids, and

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she was an administrator for a whole school district, and she

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was, you know, taking time off from her job or something. I think

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she had lost her job, and she joined a class with young children

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like she and she writes about how there was, like, six and eight

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year olds running circles around her and making fun of her.

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You know, I wanted to share all these stories so that everybody,

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anybody who reads that book, they might be able to relate with, with

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one, one of the stories there.

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Yeah, so, you know, there's like, I wanted to find somebody who was

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older when she did it. It's so true. One of my teachers, my first

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teacher. In fact, she said how, like in her community, she had a

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student who kept on putting it off, kept on putting she put it

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off for 10 years, saying, I can't do it. But then she started, and

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then she was like, you know, she noticed that somehow she's able to

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do it. And she realized, if I had started 10 years earlier, I would

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have been done by now, you know, or I would have been on my side.

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An order view or so, you know, it's like with anything we can

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talk ourselves out of doing anything good.

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You just have to, like, throw yourself in there, say Bismillah.

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Stop thinking, you know, and just stop thinking it just your

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intention. Intention, Ya Allah, you know, I want a relationship

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with the Quran. I want to be able to be able to recite it. You can

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even intend if you want to memorize it. And just say, Okay,

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I'm going to start and then trust Ella panosada And stop thinking,

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Yeah, you know, just move forward, take a step and let the pathway,

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you know, just become clear as you go. It might not even become

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clear. I don't know if you remember Indiana Jones and the

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Last Crusade where he's crossing, you know, he there's empty space,

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and he has to cross over,

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you know, it's, there's like a riddle. And so he just closes his

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eyes and puts his foot forward, and he should have fallen into,

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you know, a pit. But then, right then, like the path starts. So

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with each step, the next step comes that

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it's an old movie,

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so definitely heard of that. I just haven't seen it.

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Yeah, I mean, it's a nice visual, and, you know, and I don't know if

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we do this more as women, where we overthink things,

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you know, I keep on saying that as women, we do certain things. Of

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course, not everybody is the same, but you know, sometimes women do,

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I would say people overthink things. Sure, sometimes

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absolutely, yeah, stop thinking and just, you know, do, yes.

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Subhanallah,

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yeah, one of the things that I really appreciated about me Quran

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Sheik Subhan Allah, anytime he does,

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every year, he does like a banquet for anyone who's memorized the

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Quran and any amount of Quran that they memorize, if it's one, just

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if it's six, you know, whatever would be amount, it's to celebrate

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it. And every time he has this celebration, he makes sure that he

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includes his students from all different backgrounds. And you can

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actually watch in my highlights, one of the one of the banquets

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that I went to and see this. It's so beautiful to see because he has

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students who are, you know, one of his students was, you know,

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subhanAllah, really struggling to walk. I don't know if she was like

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in her 80s or 90s, but Subhanallah, there she was having

00:37:25 --> 00:37:28

had memorized the Quran with him as his very first student. She had

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been a custodian in the masjid, and she kept going and memorizing

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with him. And then we have, you know, women whose children are

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young couples, who memorize together, those who are disabled

00:37:41 --> 00:37:44

or have different varied abilities. There was a boy who's

00:37:44 --> 00:37:47

blind who was memorizing with him, Mashallah. And then, you know,

00:37:47 --> 00:37:50

converts. There's people who have all different backgrounds, all

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different ages, all different life circumstances. And he has all of

00:37:54 --> 00:37:58

these different people recite in front of everyone. And it's so

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beautiful because he never says something like he never explicitly

00:38:02 --> 00:38:04

says, Oh, the Quran is for everyone. Look at all these

00:38:04 --> 00:38:08

different people, but just that Subhanallah like he ensures that

00:38:08 --> 00:38:12

people from all backgrounds, you know, whether it's your every just

00:38:12 --> 00:38:17

absolutely everything is included in visually seeing that people are

00:38:17 --> 00:38:19

memorizing the Quran, regardless of their age or their background

00:38:19 --> 00:38:22

or whatever it is. And that's relatable to you when you can do

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it too. And one of the things that I was talking to someone who was

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saying that, I think she was in her 40s or 50s when she started

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the memorization. Maybe in her 40s, she started memorizing, and

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it's been, like, 10 years, and she hasn't finished yet. And she was

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telling me that, oh, I, you know, I don't even know if I'm ever

00:38:41 --> 00:38:45

going to finish before my time is done. And subhanAllah, the

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beautiful thing about Allah is that he writes your intentions as

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you intend them. So even if you pass before you complete your

00:38:54 --> 00:38:56

memorization, Allah will still write you as someone who has

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memorized the Quran, because that was your intention, and that was

00:38:59 --> 00:39:04

your your your effort, that that you were trying to get there and

00:39:04 --> 00:39:07

Subhanallah, maybe you're supposed to complete it with the angels

00:39:07 --> 00:39:10

SubhanAllah. But it's such a gift that Allah panchala gives us.

00:39:10 --> 00:39:14

These are his words, I mean. And can you imagine that you're

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literally saying the words of Allah with your own tongue, in

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your own with your Subhan Allah? It's just too powerful. Allah,

00:39:23 --> 00:39:26

Allahu, Akbar, seriously, I wanted to ask you, when you're writing

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the crowning venture, and you were meeting all these different women

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who were memorizing, was there also any type of like, story of

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change, you know, the Quran changes us, of course, memorizing

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it, reviewing it, it's all critical for that process and that

00:39:40 --> 00:39:43

relationship. If that's what you're working for, like you

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mentioned earlier, your relationship can be reading

00:39:45 --> 00:39:48

tafsir, reading an ayah. It doesn't necessarily have to be

00:39:48 --> 00:39:51

memorizing and review, but for those who are working in

00:39:51 --> 00:39:55

memorization and review, obviously the action is the most important.

00:39:55 --> 00:39:58

You implementing the Quran is much more important than you know.

00:39:58 --> 00:39:59

Memorizing and.

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And being rude to this person, and angry and just constantly, you

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know, hurting people and all of those things. And I mean angry

00:40:07 --> 00:40:09

like towards other people, not necessarily like you can't be

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angry. I just mean like having this demeanor. And I remember,

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actually one time when I was so blessed, Alhamdulillah, to go to

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Mecca. One of the leaders in our group was just very harsh.

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Everything was just so harsh. And there was a sister with us who

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had, who had just started learning about Islam, and she wanted to ask

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how to do the Telia, and she's asking, Can we see the Telia out

00:40:30 --> 00:40:33

loud together? Can we say the Telia? And the sister who's

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supposed to be like, you know, teaching, she was like, if you

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didn't know it before you came, then you should have learned it.

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And that was it. And that was shocked that this is someone who's

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supposed to be somebody who is teaching, and she's telling

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someone who's just coming into, you know, this beautiful space

00:40:48 --> 00:40:50

that if you should have, if you wanted to come, you should have

00:40:50 --> 00:40:53

learned before you came. Like that's not, you know, that's not

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the character of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa send them. So

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we see people who have knowledge, but not necessarily an

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understanding of how to implement that knowledge. Did you find in

00:41:02 --> 00:41:06

your interviews and your process of you know, your own process? How

00:41:06 --> 00:41:09

did you see that actually change a woman and their stories or change

00:41:09 --> 00:41:10

yourself and your story?

00:41:12 --> 00:41:15

Yeah, so one of the themes that I

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found throughout most of the interviews is that women did not

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want people to know that they had memorized the Quran. They did not

00:41:25 --> 00:41:30

want the label of happy law. They for many of them, it was different

00:41:30 --> 00:41:33

reasons. For some it was because, again, the whole, I don't feel

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like I am where I should be in my memorizing, right?

00:41:38 --> 00:41:41

For some, it was like, okay, then people, you know, they're

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intimidated by me. They expect me to be perfect.

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You know, one sister said to how, after she had memorized and she

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made a joke and laughed or something, and one of her friends

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said, Oh my God, you know, I'm so, like, relieved that you still

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laugh.

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So, I mean, I think definitely, you know, there was the sentiments

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that put on.

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You know, people will say it changed me. And then I some will

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say that it made me more patient, it made me

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more like made me feel closer to El Espada, I don't, made me closer

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to El smile. I should say, one girl put it like, I feel like

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Ella's got my back, you know,

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but at the same time realizing that it's a big responsibility,

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because that's it sort of like. Now there's this

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feeling that this person can never do wrong, or that they're

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they should be absolutely perfect, but we know that there's nobody

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who's absolutely who is a perfect human being, other than the

00:42:46 --> 00:42:52

prophets, the closest perfection. And so I think just,

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you know, people did talk about a lot of those kind of sentiments,

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like, I just don't want people to know because of this. And so while

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I do think that definitely people of knowledge and people of the

00:43:05 --> 00:43:11

Quran should have the best of character and should be role

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models and examples, but at the same time realizing that no human

00:43:14 --> 00:43:17

being should ever be put on a pedestal like that, because nobody

00:43:17 --> 00:43:22

is perfect, and the story that you're telling that's, I mean,

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horrendous. It's horrific. And that's an extreme, though, I can't

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even, even a person who's not a scholar, just a person who's who's

00:43:30 --> 00:43:32

human and recognizes humanity,

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wouldn't, wouldn't say something like that, in my opinion, yeah,

00:43:37 --> 00:43:39

subhanAllah and even Washington,

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yeah, that's just kind of common sense to me. You don't have to be,

00:43:44 --> 00:43:50

you know, to treat somebody like that ever you know, that's not the

00:43:50 --> 00:43:54

spirit of the journey, and it's not the spirit, it's not the

00:43:54 --> 00:43:58

spirit of how the Prophet saw the top people, right? Sub Allah, he

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was SubhanAllah. SubhanAllah. I know that we have so many more

00:44:02 --> 00:44:05

questions, but we're also getting questions from people, and I want

00:44:05 --> 00:44:11

to give time for both. So can you end by telling us any advice that

00:44:11 --> 00:44:15

you'd like to share with us? And then also, how can people learn

00:44:15 --> 00:44:19

about what you do? Get in contact with you, take your classes, and

00:44:19 --> 00:44:22

then, Inshallah, after that, we'll go ahead and open it up for

00:44:22 --> 00:44:25

general Q and A, Inshallah, sure. Okay,

00:44:26 --> 00:44:32

so general advice, you know, from the book, I would say the first

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most important piece of advice in general, is intention. So always

00:44:39 --> 00:44:44

just start out with a very clear intention. And that's where I

00:44:44 --> 00:44:47

always start with people in my classes and my workshops, is be

00:44:47 --> 00:44:51

very clear about what your intention is. And then on top of

00:44:51 --> 00:44:55

that, I have people write down their intention. So if your

00:44:55 --> 00:44:58

intention, yeah, and you know, when you write when we write

00:44:58 --> 00:44:59

things down, it's a little.

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So be clear. Like, as your intention. If your intention is to

00:45:03 --> 00:45:06

memorize the Quran, like, write it down, and then write down your

00:45:06 --> 00:45:11

why. Like, why? Why do you want to do this? You know, because a lot

00:45:11 --> 00:45:14

of times people start the journey for for different reasons,

00:45:14 --> 00:45:17

because, even if it's because you fell in love with the Quran. But

00:45:17 --> 00:45:18

ultimately,

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you know, we ask ourselves, what is our why? And as we go, you keep

00:45:23 --> 00:45:27

on asking yourself your why, and tell what is our why for anything

00:45:27 --> 00:45:32

in this, in our lives, it's it all comes down to, down to Allah,

00:45:32 --> 00:45:36

Allah. And so being very clear with that, the second thing, once

00:45:36 --> 00:45:40

you have your intention clear, is to find a teacher, and nowadays

00:45:40 --> 00:45:44

with the Internet. So if you can't find a local teacher, which is

00:45:45 --> 00:45:50

obviously the, probably the better way to find somebody in person, if

00:45:50 --> 00:45:53

you can't, I mean, the world has shrunk. You know, the whole

00:45:54 --> 00:45:58

shrunk, and now you can get find a teacher the country of your

00:45:58 --> 00:46:01

choice, and you can, you know, meet with them, online

00:46:03 --> 00:46:06

teacher, and then just be consistent. Usually, you know, I

00:46:06 --> 00:46:09

recommend starting out with the Jubilee before going into

00:46:09 --> 00:46:13

memorization and perfect working. Even I recommend doing a whole

00:46:13 --> 00:46:17

khizmi in de Jui, the whole recitation with a certified

00:46:17 --> 00:46:17

teacher.

00:46:18 --> 00:46:23

And that will just open up so many doors once you are reciting

00:46:23 --> 00:46:28

proper. Spent so much time with the Quran. It after that, it's

00:46:28 --> 00:46:33

like, naturally, one feels like, Okay, I want to memorize now. I

00:46:33 --> 00:46:36

want to have this in my heart. I want to be able to recite,

00:46:37 --> 00:46:40

yeah, it's just it, just step by step process. But

00:46:42 --> 00:46:46

sometimes that the memorization, it just once you've done step one

00:46:46 --> 00:46:51

and two three, it just naturally flows into it so it doesn't seem

00:46:51 --> 00:46:56

like turtle. I'm so sorry I didn't realize I was cutting off. Okay.

00:47:00 --> 00:47:00

Are

00:47:02 --> 00:47:07

you done? Yeah, oh my gosh, I'm so sorry. That was so awkward. I

00:47:07 --> 00:47:10

think there was like a lag, and I didn't realize you were still

00:47:10 --> 00:47:13

speaking. I wanted to tell you that it's so interesting that you

00:47:13 --> 00:47:15

said to complete, like, for example, do one whole reading of

00:47:15 --> 00:47:19

the Quran just, you know, working on tejuit. Because for me, when I

00:47:19 --> 00:47:23

first started, I went to and she was like, Do you want to memorize

00:47:23 --> 00:47:26

it or memorize it correctly? And I was like, just memorize it. That's

00:47:26 --> 00:47:29

all I want to do. And she's like, what's the point of that? And I

00:47:29 --> 00:47:33

was like, okay, correctly. So we started with titchweed, and she

00:47:33 --> 00:47:37

had me do the first, she had me do, like, you know, first it was

00:47:37 --> 00:47:40

like, the car done doing, you know, all of these, you know, just

00:47:40 --> 00:47:40

the book.

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And then after that, it was doing a couple of just, just, you know,

00:47:45 --> 00:47:50

recitation. And once I did two just recitation, she started me in

00:47:50 --> 00:47:53

memorization. So just Amma was actually the last just I

00:47:53 --> 00:47:56

memorized. Because, like you mentioned,

00:47:57 --> 00:48:00

once she had me just reciting, then she took me to social

00:48:00 --> 00:48:03

bokhaara. So I started with social bokhaara for the reciting. Baklava

00:48:03 --> 00:48:05

for the memorization. But my tajita Social Baqarah was not

00:48:05 --> 00:48:10

good. I mean, it was very, very basic. But by the time I got

00:48:10 --> 00:48:12

further and further into the Quran, of course, the more you

00:48:12 --> 00:48:15

memorize and the more you're being corrected, the more your Tajweed

00:48:15 --> 00:48:18

is going to improve. And so her method and I was only looking for

00:48:18 --> 00:48:21

very short time before I moved on to other teachers, but they

00:48:21 --> 00:48:25

consistently had me continue to memorize, and that when I go back

00:48:25 --> 00:48:28

to the to the ones I've already memorized for review, then my

00:48:28 --> 00:48:32

church we go already at that point, have corrected so that I

00:48:32 --> 00:48:35

would recite the previous ones correctly. Definitely, when I

00:48:35 --> 00:48:38

memorized, you know, jazama As a kid, I didn't finish it even as a

00:48:38 --> 00:48:42

kid, but the suras that I did, it took me time to rework those ones,

00:48:42 --> 00:48:46

but by then, I had already starting at baklava. I already had

00:48:46 --> 00:48:50

some Kaji. So when I went back, it was like I re corrected whatever

00:48:50 --> 00:48:53

mistakes I made. So I just wanted to share that, because it was such

00:48:53 --> 00:48:56

a different, different approach. It was like two completely

00:48:56 --> 00:48:57

opposite

00:48:58 --> 00:49:01

ideas on the spectrum. But one of the things that I loved about what

00:49:01 --> 00:49:04

you said is that you are going to naturally progress into wanting to

00:49:04 --> 00:49:08

memorize if you're already working on just the Taji and wanting to

00:49:08 --> 00:49:11

get to the next step. What do you do with the Quran? Just like any

00:49:11 --> 00:49:13

relationship, where do you naturally want to go with this

00:49:13 --> 00:49:16

relationship? Do you want to get to know you know this person more?

00:49:16 --> 00:49:18

What are you going to do you can spend more time with them. How are

00:49:18 --> 00:49:20

you going to spend more time with them? Is it just going to be over

00:49:20 --> 00:49:22

the phone? Are you going to spend time with them in person? And very

00:49:22 --> 00:49:25

similar? Very similarly, with the Quran, like, what are you going to

00:49:25 --> 00:49:28

do to maintain and continue and amplify relationship with the

00:49:28 --> 00:49:31

Quran? That's such an important point. Thank you. And I think

00:49:33 --> 00:49:38

that brings the point a really important issue, is that realizing

00:49:38 --> 00:49:44

that there's no one right way to do it. And, you know, even though,

00:49:44 --> 00:49:48

especially for a lot of us who went, you know, to Syria at that

00:49:48 --> 00:49:51

time, we went through and did a whole khasna In Tajweed, because

00:49:51 --> 00:49:53

we were getting Ijaz is in Tajweed to come back

00:49:55 --> 00:49:59

at that time, there wasn't a lot. There wasn't an overabundance of

00:49:59 --> 00:49:59

people who were.

00:50:00 --> 00:50:02

Applied to teach the dweeb, and they felt it

00:50:03 --> 00:50:07

sort of, there was an urgency to like, a

00:50:08 --> 00:50:09

responsibility.

00:50:10 --> 00:50:13

And I, I still believe that there's, there's a lot of benefit

00:50:13 --> 00:50:17

to that, but again, like there's no there's not only one right way

00:50:17 --> 00:50:20

to do things. And for some people, they do it the way you your

00:50:20 --> 00:50:24

teacher recommended, and that's totally fine, as long as you don't

00:50:24 --> 00:50:28

memorize things so incorrectly that it's hard to change it. You

00:50:28 --> 00:50:33

know the reason why my teachers focus on, okay, do a whole kismet,

00:50:33 --> 00:50:37

and at least you, you have done a whole kismet, and right? You might

00:50:38 --> 00:50:43

1015, 20 years in memorization, but you've done that. That one

00:50:43 --> 00:50:46

fits myth. But you know your weight, that's some people do it

00:50:46 --> 00:50:50

like that, and it totally works too. So, and the same thing goes

00:50:50 --> 00:50:55

with memorization and review. There's so many different ways

00:50:55 --> 00:51:00

that people recommend. Some will say, okay, as as you go through

00:51:00 --> 00:51:04

review at the same time. Some of my teachers recommend just go

00:51:04 --> 00:51:06

through the whole thing and then start. When you finish, you just

00:51:06 --> 00:51:10

start again. You go through again, and then go through again, and

00:51:10 --> 00:51:13

then, and then you might, you know, then, like, start connecting

00:51:13 --> 00:51:18

for the purpose of the Jazz at laid, you know, five at a time. So

00:51:18 --> 00:51:21

there's so many different ways. There's different methods, like,

00:51:21 --> 00:51:25

down to, okay, every page that you memorize, recite it 50 times

00:51:25 --> 00:51:28

before you move on to the next one. Right? There's some, there's

00:51:28 --> 00:51:31

all of those. I mean, there's nothing that's set in stone. These

00:51:31 --> 00:51:35

are just recommendations from from people who have tried different

00:51:35 --> 00:51:39

things that have worked for them, right? Right? So it's nice to be

00:51:39 --> 00:51:44

to have all those options. But there's, there's no one, like, you

00:51:44 --> 00:51:47

know, correct way. So is that okay for sharing that?

00:51:48 --> 00:51:51

And I know you asked, like, Well, how did the name the crowning

00:51:51 --> 00:51:53

venture come up? And I think, asked that, and somebody else

00:51:53 --> 00:51:56

asked that as well. How did you think of that name that's so

00:51:56 --> 00:51:57

powerful, mashallah,

00:51:58 --> 00:52:03

so, you know, when it comes to, you know, there's the Hadith about

00:52:03 --> 00:52:06

how, when you memorize the Quran like you, you will crown your

00:52:06 --> 00:52:12

parents in the akhira. That was one, one reason, because that

00:52:12 --> 00:52:15

visual of this crown you know, that you're earning for your

00:52:15 --> 00:52:21

parents. The other thing was, when I was in Syria, anytime somebody

00:52:22 --> 00:52:25

like, you know, got their ijazah, either a you know, and memorizing,

00:52:25 --> 00:52:31

or in tijuea, they would throw a huge party to celebrate. And both

00:52:32 --> 00:52:35

the girls are the women, they were put in, like white robes and with

00:52:35 --> 00:52:39

a crown. And so just that too,

00:52:40 --> 00:52:44

it's they, they made it a point to really celebrate this

00:52:44 --> 00:52:47

accomplishment. Because sometimes we celebrate so many other

00:52:47 --> 00:52:52

everything else, right? We sell the max. You know, when it comes

00:52:52 --> 00:52:57

to, like, graduations, weddings, baby showers, Britain showers,

00:52:57 --> 00:53:01

like we will go all out. But when it comes to the Quran, some, you

00:53:01 --> 00:53:05

know, sometimes people even say, Well, why are you having a party?

00:53:05 --> 00:53:06

You know, right,

00:53:08 --> 00:53:14

right? Yeah. And so when we were, you know, it was my editor and

00:53:14 --> 00:53:17

Nancy tower and I, we were brainstorming and coming up with

00:53:17 --> 00:53:21

it so many different kinds of titles, like, don't give up, or

00:53:21 --> 00:53:22

like,

00:53:24 --> 00:53:28

landed. And I think just in going through that, I think it might

00:53:28 --> 00:53:30

have been Nancy Tamara who said, Oh, how about you know that

00:53:30 --> 00:53:32

something to do with the crown. And then it was just, oh, the

00:53:32 --> 00:53:37

crowning venture, and it's stuck. Beautiful mats, really beautiful.

00:53:37 --> 00:53:40

And how can people get in contact with you? Take classes with you

00:53:40 --> 00:53:42

learn about workshops you do.

00:53:43 --> 00:53:49

So I teach through robots, a Quran memorization class, and that's

00:53:50 --> 00:53:51

[email protected]

00:53:53 --> 00:53:55

that's r, I D, a a [email protected]

00:53:56 --> 00:54:04

and there's actually a full Quran program, starting from like the

00:54:05 --> 00:54:10

Urania all the way up to the memorization class there. There's

00:54:10 --> 00:54:13

the dweed. Oh, thank you, Nadia, she added it. I actually said it

00:54:13 --> 00:54:16

wrong. Oh, thank you. I heard that. And I was like, Is this an

00:54:17 --> 00:54:21

email? Oh, got it, yes. Thank you. I put the email. Yeah. So that's

00:54:21 --> 00:54:27

the website. Um, also I will be teaching a workshop on Quranic

00:54:27 --> 00:54:32

memorization, September 13. And the registration link is in my

00:54:32 --> 00:54:37

bio, in my Instagram, which is sabia Mia, MD, and other ways to

00:54:37 --> 00:54:40

contact. I can also be contacted through my website, through

00:54:40 --> 00:54:41

Instagram,

00:54:43 --> 00:54:48

and I'm also on Facebook. I have a author page. So yeah, those are

00:54:48 --> 00:54:51

some of the ways that you can contact me. But yes, I will be

00:54:51 --> 00:54:55

doing the most upcoming thing right now is a workshop, and then

00:54:55 --> 00:54:58

after that, actually my memorization class will start.

00:54:58 --> 00:54:58

Yeah.

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Inshallah, just a we have a few, very few more minutes, three

00:55:04 --> 00:55:07

minutes that we want to get through, a few questions that

00:55:07 --> 00:55:09

we've been beautifully asked, Should our intention when

00:55:09 --> 00:55:12

memorizing any of Quran be to memorize the whole thing

00:55:12 --> 00:55:15

eventually? Is this the ultimate goal? Always?

00:55:16 --> 00:55:20

Okay, that's a good question. So I did mention that a little bit how

00:55:21 --> 00:55:25

some people, well, memorize the whole thing. And for some people,

00:55:25 --> 00:55:29

um, it might not end up being the whole thing. I we can always go in

00:55:29 --> 00:55:33

with that intention, as long as that intention is not going to

00:55:33 --> 00:55:40

paralyze us or or keep us from so you know yourself and know what

00:55:40 --> 00:55:44

your like mode of operation is, how do you work best? So for you,

00:55:44 --> 00:55:48

if, if that's how you work best, like, okay, that's my goal, and

00:55:48 --> 00:55:50

it's, that's what's going to keep you going great.

00:55:51 --> 00:55:56

But also, like, if you're more like, Okay, I'm just going to, I

00:55:56 --> 00:56:00

want to memorize five. It's up. You know, that's fine. Set that as

00:56:00 --> 00:56:03

your goal. I mean, once you complete that, you might add on

00:56:03 --> 00:56:09

another five. So whatever works for you. Yes, if a person

00:56:09 --> 00:56:11

memorized the Quran, does that mean they should also know how to

00:56:11 --> 00:56:13

write down the verses.

00:56:14 --> 00:56:15

That's okay. So

00:56:17 --> 00:56:18

I mean writing

00:56:21 --> 00:56:23

one thing, one of the biggest pieces of advice that I got when I

00:56:23 --> 00:56:27

started my memorization journey was to write down every page

00:56:27 --> 00:56:31

without looking before I move on to the next one. Wow. And could I

00:56:31 --> 00:56:36

do that now? Probably not, you know, not in like, the details of

00:56:36 --> 00:56:42

like, you know, every single like, you know, harekats or every single

00:56:42 --> 00:56:44

haraka Every single symbol,

00:56:45 --> 00:56:48

yeah. I mean, of course, that's a beautiful goal, to be able to

00:56:48 --> 00:56:52

write it out, but yeah, a requirement when you memorize. I

00:56:52 --> 00:56:55

mean, because, you know, it's the difference between like an oral

00:56:55 --> 00:56:58

tradition and a written tradition. And hamdada that we have, the

00:56:58 --> 00:57:01

written must have. But if you remember, remember back Quran was

00:57:01 --> 00:57:06

an oral tradition to begin with. So yeah, it's okay, you know, if

00:57:06 --> 00:57:09

you have, if you have memorized but can't write it. And also, an

00:57:09 --> 00:57:12

important note for those of us who are not out of like when I was

00:57:12 --> 00:57:15

studying Arabic and I was studying Quran at the same time, I was just

00:57:15 --> 00:57:18

learning how to write Arabic, and I would try to write out the

00:57:18 --> 00:57:22

verses. And if you don't know how to write Arabic already, when

00:57:22 --> 00:57:26

you're listening and reciting, you not know. You don't necessarily

00:57:26 --> 00:57:29

know how to spell those words or how to you know, it's just, it's a

00:57:29 --> 00:57:33

very it's, it's a different portion of the language. So I

00:57:33 --> 00:57:38

think writing really helps you embed the the information, like it

00:57:38 --> 00:57:41

helps you know the verses even more strongly. But then you also

00:57:41 --> 00:57:44

need to know how to write Arabic correctly. So it's, it's a very

00:57:44 --> 00:57:47

it's a, definitely an undertaking. We have another question, Should

00:57:47 --> 00:57:51

we memorize first or learn tips here first? Feel like I'm stalling

00:57:51 --> 00:57:52

because I don't know the meaning.

00:57:54 --> 00:57:56

I don't think that one should

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put off memorization until you have learned all of the seed,

00:58:01 --> 00:58:03

because the seed is the old lifelong journey, you know, to

00:58:03 --> 00:58:08

really study the Quran in detail. And they both supplement each

00:58:08 --> 00:58:13

other, if you have the option to do both, and you're going along,

00:58:13 --> 00:58:18

you know, Alhamdulillah. But I've learned, I've noticed that now,

00:58:18 --> 00:58:21

when I'm I'm in a subsid class, sort of

00:58:22 --> 00:58:26

that because I'm memorized, even though I, like I said, I'm not

00:58:26 --> 00:58:30

where I wish I could be with my memorization and my review, but I

00:58:30 --> 00:58:34

feel like it's helping me so much in the seed and vice versa, that

00:58:34 --> 00:58:39

the seed is helping me in my review. They go and so when the

00:58:39 --> 00:58:41

teacher talks about ayats, and she's just like, oh, remember

00:58:41 --> 00:58:44

this? Surah says this, and it's like, I know that. Aya, at least,

00:58:44 --> 00:58:48

you know I know, like I buddy who has not,

00:58:50 --> 00:58:53

it's not there's that familiarity is not there. And that's another

00:58:53 --> 00:58:58

important point, is that, yeah, my goal, I wish that I could stand up

00:58:58 --> 00:59:01

and recite the entire Quran in my prayer like lead that a week and

00:59:01 --> 00:59:05

every day do it just and that, Oh, that would be my dream.

00:59:06 --> 00:59:10

But did I benefit from having even, even after the first

00:59:10 --> 00:59:14

memorization, there is something that, something different that

00:59:14 --> 00:59:17

happens with your relationship with the Quran. I remember one of

00:59:17 --> 00:59:22

teachers saying that you can until you memorize you, you cannot get

00:59:22 --> 00:59:26

to I think she said the third, the third dimension. She said, you

00:59:26 --> 00:59:28

know, until you memorize your you're in the first and second

00:59:28 --> 00:59:32

dimension of understanding, Horizon you've decided and Aya, so

00:59:32 --> 00:59:36

many times, so many times over and over again. It you there's

00:59:36 --> 00:59:39

something special. You go into another dimension with it and

00:59:41 --> 00:59:45

make it a point for people to realize that as as Muslims, it

00:59:45 --> 00:59:48

let's say somebody came up to somebody who is not but there, and

00:59:48 --> 00:59:50

believe me, there are, there are people who are not Muslim out

00:59:50 --> 00:59:54

there who have studied the Quran more than we have. Their Arabic is

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better. They may have even memorized the whole thing. And yet

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their goal is what is to you?

01:00:00 --> 01:00:05

You know, they're enemies of some so came up to you and made up an

01:00:05 --> 01:00:09

ayah. Would you know, as would you, as a Muslim know, if that's

01:00:09 --> 01:00:13

in the Quran, or that's not, or this person is making, let me tell

01:00:13 --> 01:00:13

you,

01:00:14 --> 01:00:17

you know, as much as i Yes, definitely. I wish that I was way

01:00:17 --> 01:00:22

farther ahead in my review. But you have this sense that, okay,

01:00:22 --> 01:00:25

I'm familiar with the Quran, and, nope, that that's not in the

01:00:25 --> 01:00:30

Quran. Yeah. So there's a lot, yes, you can never really go wrong

01:00:30 --> 01:00:34

by doing a memorizing, you know, by going through and memorizing,

01:00:34 --> 01:00:36

if you just, you do it one time, and then you struggle the rest of

01:00:36 --> 01:00:38

your life to review. There's,

01:00:39 --> 01:00:43

there's so much benefit in it, and it's going to help you with Arabic

01:00:43 --> 01:00:44

too. Yes, you know,

01:00:46 --> 01:00:49

for example, you you can make connections with the Quran, and

01:00:49 --> 01:00:52

then vice versa. It's beautiful, yeshan Allah, definitely. Even,

01:00:52 --> 01:00:55

you know, when it comes to being a woman, for example, there's so

01:00:55 --> 01:00:58

many times where someone says, Well, in the Quran, it says, woman

01:00:58 --> 01:01:00

can't do this. And it's like, but it doesn't say that in the Quran,

01:01:01 --> 01:01:04

actually. So it's so important to just have that knowledge for your

01:01:04 --> 01:01:08

own self, and grounding and being able to you know when people come

01:01:08 --> 01:01:11

to you with things that make you doubt your religion, it's, it's

01:01:11 --> 01:01:14

very helpful to know No, that's where are you even getting that

01:01:14 --> 01:01:16

from? And subhanAllah,

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it's so,

01:01:19 --> 01:01:24

oh, oh, subhanAllah, I see Sherman al Shami is here Mashallah.

01:01:25 --> 01:01:26

We studied in Egypt together.

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Yes, they tested us in Asmaa with written and oral Oh, man

01:01:31 --> 01:01:36

SubhanAllah. It was, it's written at such different level. For also

01:01:36 --> 01:01:38

for tips here, I also didn't know what I was reciting until I

01:01:38 --> 01:01:41

learned Arabic. And I think it was really helpful for me to just have

01:01:41 --> 01:01:43

a translation. It's not necessarily it's not necessarily

01:01:43 --> 01:01:45

like I would go to tips here sometimes to really know more

01:01:45 --> 01:01:48

about the verse, But just having a translation with you is really

01:01:48 --> 01:01:51

helpful to just know what you're memorizing and help you remember

01:01:51 --> 01:01:54

the ayat. Okay, so let's take maybe like two more questions,

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because we're already past the time. Thank you so much for being

01:01:57 --> 01:02:01

with us. This has been so inspiring. Mashallah, okay, so we

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have, do we celebrate our daughters who haven't got the

01:02:04 --> 01:02:08

ijaza but have memorized it and need advice on how to motivate

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them to retain it?

01:02:10 --> 01:02:16

Um, definitely, it's a huge accomplishment. The ijaza is it's

01:02:16 --> 01:02:21

a certificate, and the the ijaza is important when it comes to like

01:02:21 --> 01:02:25

teaching, it's not our goal that, oh, I want to get this, you know,

01:02:25 --> 01:02:28

certificate. Our goal is to memorize the Quran and to know it

01:02:28 --> 01:02:32

well. And the ultimate goal is to be able to recite it in our salah.

01:02:32 --> 01:02:35

You know, if we think about it, why do we remember? We want to be

01:02:35 --> 01:02:40

able to recite it in our prayer. And so somebody who has memorized

01:02:40 --> 01:02:42

the Quran, even if she has not gotten you jazz that she might

01:02:42 --> 01:02:46

never have the opportunity to get new Jazza. But definitely sense,

01:02:46 --> 01:02:49

yes, definitely celebrate her. And

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you know it's so important for not only for her, because it's going

01:02:56 --> 01:02:59

to affect her relationship with the Quran, and,

01:03:00 --> 01:03:04

you know, with your with your parents, and just her idea of,

01:03:04 --> 01:03:09

like, what, what are we all, man or woman, we are, ultimately, in

01:03:09 --> 01:03:15

this dunya. We are servants to Allah, first and for foremost. And

01:03:15 --> 01:03:19

you know, to really celebrate that, because she's gonna have

01:03:19 --> 01:03:22

tons of other things that are celebrated in her life. But, you

01:03:22 --> 01:03:25

know, to really show her that, look, this is, this is who you

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are,

01:03:27 --> 01:03:31

you know, you are a servant of Allah. And then for other people

01:03:31 --> 01:03:32

to see that,

01:03:33 --> 01:03:38

you know, look, this is a great that's how I realized that, oh,

01:03:38 --> 01:03:40

women can do this, girls can do this. Is these parties, you know,

01:03:40 --> 01:03:44

I said, Oh my Yes. Girls lined up like, yes,

01:03:45 --> 01:03:46

that, you know,

01:03:47 --> 01:03:52

and it's, um, so that's really important, um, so definitely, even

01:03:52 --> 01:03:56

even smaller parties along the way celebrate, you know, if your child

01:03:56 --> 01:04:00

completed, you know, the 30th Joe's, if they did 510, like the

01:04:00 --> 01:04:02

landmarks, you know, celebrate,

01:04:03 --> 01:04:08

yes, but days we celebrate a child graduating from kindergarten, oh,

01:04:08 --> 01:04:12

and then third grade. And then, you know, I'm like, how many, and

01:04:12 --> 01:04:16

every everybody really does, right? But, yeah, I mean, it's, it

01:04:16 --> 01:04:19

can be challenging. It's, it's something, you know, that is

01:04:19 --> 01:04:23

definitely something to celebrate. And if you have time for a story,

01:04:26 --> 01:04:31

there was actually in my second book, which is going to be assist

01:04:31 --> 01:04:33

part two of crowning venture, which is

01:04:34 --> 01:04:39

women and teachers helping children memorize so sort of the

01:04:39 --> 01:04:42

point of view of children. And, you know, people even ask the

01:04:42 --> 01:04:46

question, should my child memorize so address a lot of that those

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questions, and they're one of the interviews that I did. You know

01:04:49 --> 01:04:52

this lady, she told me how there was a Quran program at her

01:04:52 --> 01:04:55

daughter's school, and her daughter was in this program. She

01:04:55 --> 01:04:58

was the only girl, and then there was, like, I think, three boys,

01:04:58 --> 01:04:59

and she had.

01:05:00 --> 01:05:03

Been memorizing since she was very young. She finished before the

01:05:03 --> 01:05:04

boys finished. And,

01:05:05 --> 01:05:09

you know, at the end of the year assembly, they called the boys up

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and they celebrated them. And she was saying that with her mom. She

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said, you know, Mama, why? Why didn't they call me up there and

01:05:18 --> 01:05:19

not

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to be recognized, but she had, you know, she had completed her

01:05:24 --> 01:05:28

memorization, right? So this mom, you know, she's not somebody to

01:05:28 --> 01:05:32

take anything lightly. She went up to the administrator and said, Why

01:05:32 --> 01:05:35

isn't my daughter here too? She did it too. And administrator,

01:05:35 --> 01:05:39

well, girls don't, they don't leave that away. So we're not

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going to celebrate them. They don't. And,

01:05:45 --> 01:05:48

yeah, even after she went up there and said that to them, they still

01:05:48 --> 01:05:50

didn't call her up there. And you know,

01:05:52 --> 01:05:58

for these boys, and you know, then she was like, why am I not getting

01:05:58 --> 01:06:02

that same blah? So, I mean, it's really important to and it just,

01:06:02 --> 01:06:06

you can celebrate. It doesn't have to be there. Just have some kind

01:06:06 --> 01:06:09

of a party, whether you know, like, I say, Hey, have a nice

01:06:09 --> 01:06:13

party of women, you know, women and girls and really celebrate

01:06:14 --> 01:06:16

these accomplishments.

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But it's important for women and girls to see that this is

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something that is important for us, too. And you know, another

01:06:28 --> 01:06:30

person that I interviewed, she said, you know, her, her two boys

01:06:30 --> 01:06:34

had memorized, and when it came to her daughter, she was just

01:06:34 --> 01:06:38

exhausted. It wasn't even like, you know, I don't want to do this

01:06:38 --> 01:06:42

for my because she was driving her sons around. And it takes a lot,

01:06:42 --> 01:06:45

you know, and that's a lot of that I'm going to address in the book,

01:06:45 --> 01:06:50

how a lot of it is something that the mothers end up doing, time

01:06:50 --> 01:06:50

wise, you

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know, to the masjid and here and there. And she was just exhausted

01:06:57 --> 01:06:59

by the time it came to her daughter, who was her youngest

01:06:59 --> 01:07:02

child. But she said, how can i On the day of judgment,

01:07:04 --> 01:07:07

answer in and tell, you know, have my daughter like,

01:07:08 --> 01:07:12

say, you know, why didn't you give me this opportunity? You know?

01:07:12 --> 01:07:17

Then when you see, we're gonna see in the after that people are gonna

01:07:17 --> 01:07:21

ascend according to how much they of the Quran they've learned, and

01:07:21 --> 01:07:26

that there's no mention that it's only you know the manner, it's

01:07:26 --> 01:07:33

only from. It's both, right? So, really, just supporting daughters

01:07:33 --> 01:07:37

if they want to, want to do this journey alone. Stan, and this is

01:07:37 --> 01:07:40

one of the reasons why right now, like, there's so much focus on

01:07:40 --> 01:07:43

hijab, like the conversation on, you know, a lot of women are

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struggling with hijab, and I understand. I'm doing something

01:07:45 --> 01:07:48

called the hijab series, if anyone wants to, like focus on hijab

01:07:48 --> 01:07:52

specifically. But why I wanted to mention this right now is because

01:07:52 --> 01:07:55

we put such an emphasis on modesty, which is so important in

01:07:55 --> 01:07:58

our religion, but then we don't give our women, our daughters, the

01:07:58 --> 01:08:02

tools to love or to see, or to, you know, to even see themselves

01:08:02 --> 01:08:07

in spaces where this is part of their like, they're celebrated for

01:08:07 --> 01:08:11

memorizing the Quran. You know, like, how much more, what more

01:08:11 --> 01:08:15

pious of an act Do you want your daughter to do than memorize the

01:08:15 --> 01:08:18

Quran? But from babyhood, we'll be talking about she should wear

01:08:18 --> 01:08:20

hijab, but we're not giving that same emphasis to she should

01:08:20 --> 01:08:23

memorize the Quran. And unfortunately, when we give that

01:08:23 --> 01:08:27

dichotomy constantly for women, then we're not giving, you know,

01:08:27 --> 01:08:30

this all encompassing, you know, holistic view of how to be a

01:08:30 --> 01:08:34

believer. We just focus on one act which is important in an

01:08:34 --> 01:08:38

obligation, instead of looking at as an entire, holistic believer.

01:08:38 --> 01:08:41

How can we make, you know, our daughters. How can we help our

01:08:41 --> 01:08:44

daughters love Allah, and part of that is loving his book and

01:08:44 --> 01:08:49

celebrating her love for that book and SubhanAllah. I wish that I

01:08:49 --> 01:08:52

could say that that's a shocking story, but I have heard that exact

01:08:52 --> 01:08:56

same scenario from women who have told me about their own

01:08:56 --> 01:08:59

experiences as children and memorizing the Quran, and how the

01:08:59 --> 01:09:01

older they got and the more that they got excited about the Quran,

01:09:01 --> 01:09:04

the more they were told this is really only for men. And I know

01:09:04 --> 01:09:07

that sounds silly. You know, for us, sometimes we're like, come on,

01:09:07 --> 01:09:10

people don't really do that anymore. But no, that's very real.

01:09:10 --> 01:09:12

That's in the United States, that's happening in our

01:09:12 --> 01:09:16

communities. And until we are willing to change that, doctor,

01:09:16 --> 01:09:19

Sadie, you're doing something so important, you're changing Rubble

01:09:19 --> 01:09:22

is doing something so important, it's changing an entire

01:09:22 --> 01:09:27

generation's access to the Quran and access to women's scholarship.

01:09:27 --> 01:09:30

And Inshallah, when we're able to make that not

01:09:31 --> 01:09:35

Oh, it's such a rarity to find you know this, this Masha Allah, this

01:09:35 --> 01:09:38

one sister who's memorized the Quran. When we can have 2030,

01:09:38 --> 01:09:42

4050, women in a community who memorize the Quran all throughout

01:09:42 --> 01:09:45

our communities, Inshallah, we will start seeing a shift in the

01:09:45 --> 01:09:49

way that we have our you know, these conversations about women

01:09:49 --> 01:09:52

and women in Islam, because it's our culture. You know, this

01:09:52 --> 01:09:55

literacy is part of our culture, and that's the thing. It's not

01:09:55 --> 01:09:58

just about the memorization. It's the way it's going to impact your

01:09:58 --> 01:09:59

actions. It's the way it's going to impact.

01:10:00 --> 01:10:03

Impact the way that you look at access to these actions. It's all

01:10:03 --> 01:10:06

united Subhanallah, and it's it's so critical for us to be

01:10:06 --> 01:10:08

comprehensive as communities, people who who build community,

01:10:09 --> 01:10:11

but just hand off your side. Is there anything you want to end

01:10:11 --> 01:10:14

with? I'm so sorry that we took 12 extra minutes from from your time,

01:10:14 --> 01:10:17

but I've benefited so much from listening to you. I feel like all

01:10:17 --> 01:10:20

I want to do right now just go start memory or reviewing right

01:10:20 --> 01:10:23

away. Re reviewing, remembrance. Yeah, right away. Inshallah, what

01:10:23 --> 01:10:27

do you have as tips for all of us? Or, sorry, not tips. Any advice.

01:10:27 --> 01:10:29

Is the last advice before we end? I already asked you for advice. Is

01:10:29 --> 01:10:32

there anything else you want to say? Well, I just wanted to add.

01:10:32 --> 01:10:36

You know how one thing you had mentioned was when you memorized,

01:10:36 --> 01:10:38

even though you didn't know Arabic at the time, but you looked at the

01:10:38 --> 01:10:42

translation, I did the same thing. I always had a translation that I

01:10:42 --> 01:10:46

would look at a page, read through the translation, and that helps my

01:10:46 --> 01:10:51

Arabic too, yes, to add that part too. Don't ever let anything stop

01:10:51 --> 01:10:55

you from embarking on this journey and saying, Okay, before I

01:10:55 --> 01:10:58

memorize, I have to I would say the only thing is learn to tweet.

01:10:58 --> 01:11:01

That's the only thing once you learn to read, if you could, you

01:11:01 --> 01:11:04

know, especially if you can do that fitzwith, then go full force

01:11:04 --> 01:11:06

ahead. Whether you don't know Arabic, yeah, whether you don't

01:11:06 --> 01:11:11

know the seed, Allah has told us that, you know, he has made the

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Quran easy for us, right? Yeah, it's, and there's something

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beautiful about it, that it has, it is easy, easy to memorize. You

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know that the rhythm, whatever, it's the miracle of the Quran,

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yes, blessing. I could not memorize probably even one page in

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English. I would struggle, you know, even language, but the

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Quran, that's the miracle of it, that you don't have to even

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understand it, and you can memorize it,

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and you'll see the beauty and the barakah fall into your life from

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doing that Inshallah, and then, so my advice would just be,

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you know, let go of fear.

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Stop overthinking. No, don't overthink things. Just make an

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intention, and then make, you know, dua, and pray that you know

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for Allah, Swat, just open the doors for you and guide you. And

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then just, you know, make a commitment every day to set aside

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a certain amount of time to the Quran and and just let things go

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from there and do. Don't let yourself get paralyzed by by

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overthinking or fear or feelings of inadequacy. You know, none of

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us are adequate. Let me just tell you that. You know, yes, the

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blessing from Allah, none of us. I mean, who really is,

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you know, so don't so don't beat yourself up. Just make that

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intention. And Inshallah, you know, I wish I could hear from all

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of you to hear about all the amazing doors that are going to

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open for you, that that open up for you, you know, maybe a year

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from now, we can have, you know,

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another Id live, and have you all come back and tell us about your

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progress. Because,

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you know, I know, Inshallah, when you make the intention, you know

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you have a pure intention, doors are going to open. So open all the

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doors. Quran,

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because what you're doing is amazing. Your project of the four

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mothers, you know, it's beautiful. Thank you for saying that a

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servant to your to your community services. What you're doing for

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women and girls is amazing. So male sponsor to continue, it's

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been a beautiful I'm so I'm so grateful for all the women who are

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participating and who are listening and encouraging it, and

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and the men, as well as panel of so many scholars who have, who are

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men who have reached out with this, with that, you know,

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critical support and encouragement of just women act the same Quran.

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So watercolofiki, for your time, for encouraging and inspiring and

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motivating all of us to go back to the Quran. Inshallah, we will all

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purchase the crowning venture, the crowning venture, and Inshallah,

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we will all read it and implement it and share it with everyone and

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create this whole new generation of women and men who love the

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Quran and can't wait to read it and live it and implement it.

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Inshallah, we will continue our conversations off line, but please

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follow Dr Sadia. I don't know. Can I like type at the same time that

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says this and that? Okay, so I'm going to tag her right now see

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that you can follow her. Inshallah, oh, maybe actually,

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never mind. You type, you type and say, send out or something. Oh,

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okay, let me see you don't even know what I just said. Okay, okay.

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You can, alright, follow there. Okay. So until you can follow her,

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send her your questions. Bottle colo, fici, Dr Sadi. And to all of

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you who joined from all over the world, it has been an honor to

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share the space with you. I cannot believe that you're from so many

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different places. Tabatical, may Allah bless you and every single

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person that you love, wherever you are, and bless our Ummah,

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Subhanahu wa take care. Now let's

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awkwardly hang out here till I figure out how to get.

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Office Subhanallah.

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