Maryam Amir – Should you keep making dua for it or stop

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A woman tells a story about her friend who was married and eventually married a man. She describes how she was praying and praying with her friend and eventually finding a better match. She advises the woman to continue praying and keep hoping for blessings in life.

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			I actually have the funniest story to answer
		
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			this question.
		
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			So my friend was trying to get married
		
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			and this brother was introduced to her and
		
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			she like was really excited about marrying this
		
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			guy.
		
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			So she's making istikhara and she's telling me
		
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			like she like is looking for a sign
		
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			from Allah that this is like the right
		
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			one for her.
		
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			And she's driving and then as she's driving
		
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			there is a car in front of her
		
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			and on the license plate of that car
		
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			is his name.
		
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			And his name was not like or like
		
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			a very common Muslim name.
		
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			It was a very clearly Muslim name but
		
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			it's one that not a lot of people
		
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			have.
		
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			So she was like Allah sent me a
		
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			sign this brother's name on the license plate
		
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			on the car in front of me.
		
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			Fast forward, she does not marry this brother
		
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			and being patient in the face of saying
		
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			goodbye to that was very difficult for her.
		
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			She had difficulty accepting that what she had
		
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			wanted was actually maybe not the best for
		
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			her even though she thought she saw a
		
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			clear sign from Allah.
		
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			And so instead what she did is continue
		
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			to be patient and continue to pray and
		
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			alhamdulillah Allah blessed her.
		
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			And I have many friends who've had similar
		
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			stories where they had like this dream where
		
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			they were like marrying this guy and they
		
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			were sure he was the one.
		
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			And it ended up that they were not
		
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			the best match and Allah blessed each of
		
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			them with someone different and some of them
		
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			are still single.
		
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			And sometimes Allah chooses something that we don't
		
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			understand for our life and that's really sometimes
		
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			the answer that we won't know exactly until
		
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			we are going through the process and until
		
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			maybe a different door opens or something is
		
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			clear.
		
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			So what we can do is continue to
		
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			do the acts of worship, continue to have
		
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			hope, continue to have certainty in the dua
		
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			and say a clause.
		
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			Make the clause oh Allah if this is
		
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			best for me make the dua and ask
		
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			oh Allah if it's not bless me with
		
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			something better.
		
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			You know so keep doing the work, keep
		
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			having hope, keep praying and when Allah opens
		
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			the way for you inshallah you'll know until
		
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			then keep praying.