Maryam Amir – Shaytan- Parents – Man on TikTok

Maryam Amir
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The speaker discusses the potential risk factors that could lead to violence, including factors like Shaytan's "whisps" and the "risk factors" that could lead to violence. They also mention the "entitlement culture" that could lead to healing, including the "entitlement" of sharia protection for families.

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			In discussing how this could have possibly happened,
		
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			I have seen so many people try to
		
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			explain that Shaytan is very powerful in his
		
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			whispers.
		
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			I appreciate that we are looking at this
		
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			from a spiritual lens of the need for
		
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			purification, safeguarding our hearts, protecting ourselves from Shaytan.
		
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			And what I think that those who are
		
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			referencing Shaytan are actually trying to answer is
		
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			the idea of what are risk factors that
		
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			could lead to this level of perpetration.
		
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			Over in the core of Islamic law, a
		
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			person cannot come and say Shaytan's whispers were
		
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			just too strong.
		
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			What we can do is look at risk
		
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			factors for how perpetrators are potentially created.
		
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			There are so many, but just to mention
		
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			four, empirical research shows that children who were
		
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			sexually abused from the ages of 3 to
		
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			7 and older, children whose parents used physical
		
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			discipline as the primary form of discipline within
		
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			the home, children who were exposed to hyper
		
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			-sexualized content from an early age, who had
		
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			difficult attachments with their parents when combined with
		
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			other factors could lead towards a path of
		
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			becoming a perpetrator.
		
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			That does not mean at all that childhood
		
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			survivors of sexual abuse are going to become
		
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			predators.
		
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			What it means is that there is a
		
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			common thread in predators that they have childhood
		
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			abuse.
		
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			So if we as a community know this,
		
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			and we also know that we are not
		
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			immune from the statistics of 1 in 20
		
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			boys and 1 in 6 girls are survivors
		
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			of childhood sexual abuse, then put in measures
		
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			as a community that address those specific risk
		
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			factors.
		
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			That could include that Masajid require a couple
		
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			go through parenting courses as well as premarital
		
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			counseling before they marry that couple, include workshops,
		
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			khutbas, actively addressing in conferences to help heal
		
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			communities, parents, children who are navigating cycles of
		
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			abuse.
		
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			This type of abuse is not just one
		
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			person who has to carry the trauma of
		
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			it for a lifetime, it could possibly lead
		
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			to generational violence.
		
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			Again, those are not the only factors, but
		
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			they are some that we can actually work
		
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			to address.
		
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			I also spoke to a trauma therapist and
		
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			a caseworker who specializes in child sexual abuse
		
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			cases, and they both mentioned that the idea
		
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			of entitlement is one that allows this type
		
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			of abuse to continue.
		
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			So a few years ago, there was an
		
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			account on TikTok.
		
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			He was a man who would speak about
		
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			Islamic reminders.
		
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			It came to light that he had been
		
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			incarcerated previously.
		
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			He was incarcerated for over five years because
		
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			of forcing and harming a child into a
		
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			sexual act.
		
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			He was actually a registered * offender.
		
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			He was working in one masjid to the
		
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			next, and he would work with children.
		
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			The masjid would find him in really weird
		
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			situations with a child, fire him, then he
		
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			would go to another city and get hired
		
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			by another masjid and work with children again,
		
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			get fired again.
		
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			And the masjid just didn't have a system
		
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			of reference checks or background checks, so they
		
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			didn't know his history.
		
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			When this came to light on TikTok, a
		
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			number of accounts that had over a million
		
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			followers or close to it had lives with
		
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			him.
		
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			They had him swear in the name of
		
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			Allah that he is innocent, which he did.
		
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			And then they affirmed his innocence because how
		
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			could he have sworn in Allah's name otherwise?
		
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			That is the culture of perpetuation.
		
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			A worker told me of a boy in
		
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			an Islamic boarding school being raped by his
		
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			classmate.
		
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			While the school leadership and the religious leadership
		
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			and the authorities did the basic that they
		
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			needed to, in the community discussion, there was
		
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			not full accountability for these boys.
		
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			And there was not a path of healing
		
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			for this child who felt like he had
		
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			nowhere to go until he met this particular
		
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			caseworker.
		
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			What's going to happen to these young men's
		
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			futures if we tell everyone?
		
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			What's going to happen to the families of
		
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			these young men if people find out?
		
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			That is part of an entitlement culture that
		
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			we can change right now, inshallah.
		
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			There's a reason why in the maqasid of
		
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			sharia, protection of families is cornerstone.