Maryam Amir – Pushing people away from Islam

When I got really into Islam, I spent a solid few years really

thinking, I have now found the truth. I want everyone to know the

truth, and I will be as harsh as possible if they're not following

the truth. I didn't bring anyone back to Islam. I've pushed the few

people, the people who I was one of the few people who was Muslim

in their lives. I pushed them far away from Islam. The repercussions

of that is something that took over a decade to continue to work

on and rebuild. The trust that was lost. Took so much time to

rebuild. And so when we think about our role as people carrying

this message, as and as people who are trying our best to follow it,

remember it was the character of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa

salam, his compassion and his passion which allowed people to

see the beauty of Islam. Of course, logically as well, it

makes sense, but also, also, how does someone believe in that when

the only interactions they've had with it is one of punishment and

trauma and pain and shame and guilt,

when that is all that someone has been taught to feel as a believer,

how much longer before they simply say, I don't want this anymore.

And that's that's the message that I've received from so many we

don't have the power to change someone's heart. We are not

responsible for anyone's happiness. We are not responsible

for anyone's choices, but we certainly have the power to decide

how we are going to interact with them in their lives, helping

people realize that

we will be there inshallah when they're ready to ask that we will

be there inshallah when they're ready to process my social media,

whether it's on Tiktok or on Instagram, when I've shared a

video and I've had someone comment and say something like they left

Isla,

the the responses, who cares you? Ex Muslim? Stop being obsessed

with Islam. Islam doesn't need you anyway. And every single time I've

responded, and I've and I've said, if you're ever open to processing

how you feel, please know that you can send me a message, and there

has not been a single time where I haven't received a message, that

person has always sent me a message.

And I think that's so important, because it means that even people

who have left are asking or processing, but it's about how we

are going to be as callers to Allah and the Prophet, sallAllahu.

Alayhi wasallam was the most excellent example of someone who

was there to listen, someone who was there to mentor. We pray for

ourselves foremost, first and foremost, the most frequent or the

Prophet saw me was young. It's called the Aladdin, oh Turner of

hearts. Keep my heart Firm.